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kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 238 (view)

When he won't go down on you Posted: 12/21/2008 11:20:14 PM
My first girlfriend had such a powerful scent that is was overwhelming. It didn't smell "bad" but it made my eyes water it was so strong. I just couldn't do it, as hard as I tried. With every girlfriend after that I tried as well, some of them I had no problem with and some of them I just wasn't compatible with the scent and I couldn't do it. I think it really comes down to body chemistry. I have had ex's that say they love the way I smell, they will wear my clothes to bed just so that they can be close to it even when I think I have no smell at all. Women are highly sensitive to sounds and smells. For some men, the only time that body chemistry comes into play is when he is going down on a woman. What some people might think smells/taste amazing can be really gross for other people. My current girlfriend has almost no scent there (or at least it seems like it to me) at all, and I can spend hours down there and enjoy every minute of it. I just consider us very compatible mentally and physically. Also a big turn off for me is having hair down there, but some men find that area waxed/shaved gross. It's all up to the person you are with.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 327 (view)

Re: If you're over 30 and never married, you're too picky. Posted: 12/21/2008 10:59:21 PM
I don't really believe in marriage. I will live with someone I love until the day I die, would help them raise their kids (I don't want any of my own), and do all the things that a married couple would do. To me marriage is just a piece of paper, a contract saying that "You have to love me now." Lucky for me most of the women I hate dated feel the same way, and I meet more and more people every day that don't believe in marriage anymore when they once did. I guess in some ways many people look at marriage as a way of proving you want to spend the rest of your life with a person, but if that person needs that marriage to believe it then it seems like they didn't really believe you in the first place. I can understand getting married for religious reasons if you still follow some sort of religion, but after seeing my parents, and the parents of so many of my friends, and now as an adult my own friends getting divorced it doesn't seem worth the legal hassles that follow. I just got out of a 10 year relationship with my last girlfriend, we talked about getting married, but figured there was no point. Now that we are broken up it was easy to part ways, no lawyers, no fights. I just took my stuff and moved into a new place, and that was the end of it. And the great thing is that we are still friends, hang out all the time, and talk once a day on the phone. I doubt I would have that kind of friendship there after going through a divorce. To each is own though. Some people feel the need to get married, and others can simply just be with another person for a lifetime without that piece of paper and the party.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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Arguments - How should you deal with them? Posted: 12/21/2008 1:25:17 PM
When I argue with a girlfriend, I first let all us get all the anger out (if there is any), then I give her a hug, and say, "Now that we have got that out of our of system, do you want to talk about it?" Normally once all the anger is taken out of the picture its very easy to resolve any disagreement, but as with human nature people do get angry sometimes and to hold that in is unhealthy. So I like it when a person just lets it all out at the point when they get angry, then the problem is almost always an easy fix. I am a firm believer in the "Never go to bed angry" way of life.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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divorced female with kids seeking a nice guy Posted: 12/21/2008 1:20:51 PM
I'm 31, never been married, or have kids. My current girlfriend is 36 and has two daughters (with two different fathers!). I haven't met her kids yet as they live on the other side of my country with their dads, but I do want to meet them, and I think they and I will get along great (seems they think I am cute after seeing my picture and talk about me all the time). I see no problem with women with kids (divorced or not) looking for a "nice guy". They are entitled to be loved the same as any single childless woman is, and just because they have kids or were married once doesn't mean they should limit themselves to a certain sub-set of men. If you don't want to date women with kids, or who have been divorced then that is your choice, and more power to you. To think that these women should be forced to look for love only from a certain group of men though, that's just makes you look stupid.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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rich man poor man and how they treat you Posted: 12/21/2008 12:15:54 PM
Money has never been a factor in who I choose to love. I grew up with very little, most of my friends lived in average families, and all the girls I knew as I grew up lived in those same average families. Most teenagers don't have a lot of money (at least where I grew up) and that was the age that I learned how to fall in love. You didn't need money to go sit on the beach, talk and cuddle. There was no need to have a fancy car, the old beaters we used to drive back then did the job just fine. And going out on a picnic was far more entertaining and romantic than going to some fancy restaurant. When it came to money we all shared it. Sometimes one of us would have a job after school, so we had more money than the other people. We would use that money to take our friends out to the movies, go get some beer, or something else. The only difference having money made was what we were going to do that night, but no matter what we did we always had fun. Now that I am older those same feelings hold true. A woman I love will enjoy those simple pleasures. She won't demand to be taken to some fancy restaurant, or for me to buy her nice clothes all the time. We will share what we have with each other, and enjoy life as much as possible. As long as you have enough money to keep living the lifestyle that you want to live, then why need more? A woman that is obsessed with making money, or me having tons of money is someone that is never going to be able to enjoy the simple pleasures that I enjoy. She will always be more concerned with what she wants, rather than enjoying the life she has. As for whether having money makes you a bad person? That is all in how a person was raised I believe. I did notice a trend with the "spoiled" kids treating their girlfriends like they were objects they owned, rather than human beings, and some of them never grew out of it. On the other hand I know a couple of guys that are quite well off, and their treat their loved ones extremely well. Those relationships aren't obsessed about money though, they just happen to have more than the average people, and even if they lost all their money they would still stick together, because they love each other, not what the other one can give them. Money is just a thing. You can have lots of it, or not, but if it is the deciding factor in who you fall in love with then in my eyes you aren't worth my love.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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GUYS, do you like seeing ur girlfriend masturbating?? Posted: 12/19/2008 6:49:21 AM
Yep, I love to watch. I had one girlfriend that was always in the mood to touch herself, we would be lying on the couch watching a movie and the next thing you know she has her hand down her pants, and touching herself. She said she loved to be next to me while she masturbated. So I would just stroke her hair, and kiss her next while she got off. She would always get the most peaceful look on her face afterward and would snuggle even closer.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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girls, what do you do when you are left hanging? Posted: 12/18/2008 10:05:50 PM
My lady cums first, that is my rule. I have even sacrificed my own orgasm to make sure she gets hers. If for some reason she just can't get off that night I will hold in my arms, massage back and neck, and make her body feel amazing. Even if sex doesn't end with an orgasm, it doesn't mean you can make your lover just feel amazing in some kind of different way.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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Is this an opening? Posted: 12/18/2008 9:20:46 PM
There is only one way to find out, and that's to go for it. What do you have to lose? Better to try and fail than to spend the rest of your life wonder what if. :)

kinda-tired

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How to help a morbidly obese ex? Posted: 12/18/2008 9:08:45 PM
You can always get her family and friends together and do an intervention. When people get very overweight most of the time they just give up the thought of ever being a healthy weight again. I used to weigh 245 pounds, was still gaining weight, and when I was up to that point I had just given up, and my health was declining and I was horribly depressed. My girlfriend at the time got my mom, sister and a few of my friends together and sat me down and told me they would do everything they could to help me get healthy again, giving me all the support I needed. Now I am a 175 pounds and healthy. All it took was for the people in my life to let me know they wanted me around for a long time. She will need support from the people in her life, they need to go for walks with her every day, help her learn healthy eating habits, and most importantly will need constant reminders that not only is she doing this for herself, but so that her kids will be able to keep their mom around a long time.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking Posted: 12/18/2008 5:06:51 PM
southern storm, you are coming off as pretty insecure about this whole toy thing. I can get my girlfriend off in many different ways just using my own body, but that doesn't mean you can't explore new options and new ways to please your lover. It's not like most women need a vibrator to get off, and just because you use one during your sexual fun time no way means that the man is some how unable to please his lover. Not only that but toys can be used for the man and the woman, not just the woman. Variety is the spice of life, and that is especially true when it comes to making love. :)

kinda-tired

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If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do? Posted: 12/18/2008 4:56:52 PM
I don't want to see him get hurt, the whole point in making sure that he isn't a bomb waiting to go off is to make sure no one gets hurt. If he was just sitting in his room watching scripted rape scenes on his computer then so be it, everyone had their kinks. It's the fact that he is going around saying, "I'd rape her" or "Women want to be raped". Those are considered warning signs that something might not be right with him. There would be no harm in him sitting down with a therapist and finding out if he has a potential problem, or at the very least letting the cops know that he has been making offhand remarks about raping women. Normal people don't go around saying they would like to commit a serious violent sexual crime just to look cool.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 12/18/2008 3:07:56 PM
I have never met a woman that didn't at least preform bjs even if they weren't their favorite thing. You don't have to finish off that way, it can just be part of foreplay, a way to mix things up. I have been with a few woman that just can't stand the taste of cum so I always tell them when I am about to and let them decide what to do. Would I ever leave a person because they didn't want to do that? Probably not, but at the same time I wouldn't expect her to make demands of me for things that I didn't want to do either. Double standards never work out in the end.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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How to make a guy cum from a b/j Posted: 12/18/2008 2:58:25 PM
One of the most important things to remember is that it's the friction and the motion that get gets the most effect. The warmth and wetness just adds to sensation, but for a lot of guys it's very hard for them to get off when the woman just uses her mouth. You need to get your hands in there too. What works for most of the girls I have talked to about it is (my preferred way as well) to grip the shaft with your hand like you would for a handjob, and then put your mouth over what is not covered by your hand. Then start moving your head and and your hand in a rhythmic motion. Always keep your grip firm, but not too hard. And make sure you keep asking him what he likes, faster, slower, and before you know it you will have a nice surprise in your mouth. ;) Some guys get off really easily from it, and some take some time to relax. It helps to reassure them that you want them to cum in your mouth, as many guys feel like it's unwanted and it holds them back from getting to that point. Thats all the advice I can give you.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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Flavored cunnilingus Posted: 12/18/2008 2:46:25 PM
Mint just doesn't seem to work for me. Sweet flavors work the best, just seems to psychologically match the event perfectly.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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Need advice with threesomes Posted: 12/18/2008 2:40:17 PM
This is just a bad idea all around. The way it looks to me is she wants to explore her sexuality by being with a woman, but wants to use you there as a buffer so she doesn't feel gay. Your only roll there is to comfort her during the process. It's selfish and very inconsiderate of your feelings. I would tell her that if she wants to have sex with another woman, she can go find out and find one herself, and while she is out there looking, you will be looking for a new girlfriend.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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Cuddling - can it just be friendly? Posted: 12/18/2008 2:28:04 PM
I've cuddled with lots of my female friends while watching movies on the couch and such. Nothing ever sexual came out of it, just two friends bonding and sharing some affection. I have even snuggled with friends in bed and fall asleep with them in my arms, and nothing has ever happened sexually. I think it only works once you are past that "Could I date this person" phase that you go through when you meet a new woman/man. Once the friendship has been set in stone sort of speak, then it can be a really wonderful feeling to just be close to someone you care about without all the sexual tension.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

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In hindsight,what was the VERY first sign that the relationship wasnt going to work? Posted: 12/18/2008 1:52:19 PM
The only time something really jumped out at me I was when my ex (we were together for three weeks) told me that she really wanted to go to bed with me, but I would have to ask her parents permission to make love to her. That relationship ended about two minutes after hearing those words.

kinda-tired

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How long is too long to wait before having sex while dating... Posted: 12/18/2008 11:14:34 AM
Once the passion is there nature will take its course. There are no set rules, it could be on the first date because there was some kind powerful energy between you right away, or it could takes months of dating before you feel like you are ready to share yourself with a person in that way. Every person is different, and every relationship is different. The only rule, never expect something to happen at a certain time. :)

kinda-tired

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Difference Between Whats Right and Whats Expected Posted: 12/18/2008 11:09:38 AM
Relationships are all about balance. You help each other out in places where you need support. You were working all day, so while she was at home she could have been working around the house. As long as if the roles were reversed you would do the same thing. I have known some guys that couldn't work for various reasons and the women were the bread winners, but yet the guys still wouldn't help out around the house because that was woman's work.

kinda-tired

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will the love of my life ever be with me? Posted: 12/18/2008 10:57:08 AM
It's time to move on. Maybe some day down the road things will change, but waiting for a family to fall apart so you can have the man of your dreams seems pretty....well evil. If you really care about him, let him live his life in a state of happiness, and try to focus on making yours happy as well.....without him. :)

kinda-tired

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would you ever give your partner to a stranger for sex while you sit and watch? Posted: 12/18/2008 10:44:46 AM
No chance in hell. Seeing another guy screwing the woman I love would hurt like hell.

kinda-tired

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men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking Posted: 12/18/2008 10:41:24 AM
I never have any problem in that area because the first thing I tell my women in bed is to guide me where they want me, tell me exactly what they want done and where. Communication is the best tool you have when it comes to making love, you know how to get yourself off better than anyone else on the planet, so it's your job to teach your lover how to do it exactly how you like it. Once you are together long enough everything just becomes instinct, you can tell just by the sounds she makes and the way she moves her body, but those first few times words can mean the difference between ok sex and mind blowing sex. That's also the reason I love toys in the bedroom, she can pleasure herself while I focus on other parts of her body. One of the favorite things my ex loved was her using the vibrator on herself while I sat behind her and massaged her back and neck while talking dirty to her. That's pretty hard to do without a toy. :)

kinda-tired

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If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do? Posted: 12/18/2008 10:32:07 AM
Don't do anything stupid Brad. If something bad does happen just call the cops and let them handle it. The last thing you want to do is end up in jail trying to get your shots in. Once the guy is in prison he will get all the attention he can handle. Rapists are pretty low on the food chain.

kinda-tired

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men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking Posted: 12/18/2008 10:19:07 AM
I'm a man and I love toys in the bedroom. When you get tired and she still wants more bust out that vibrator and keep her going while you regain your strength. They are great for foreplay too, sneak up behind your woman while she is getting ready to go out and run the vibrator up the inside of her leg while kissing her neck. All of a sudden she doesn't care if she is late meeting her friends. The possibilities are endless, and there is nothing to fear from them. Most woman I have known get far more pleasure from toys when their men use them on them rather than doing it themselves. A toy can't whisper how beautiful she is, or how amazing she smells while she is getting off. I am still waiting for some woman to invent the clit GPS system for clueless men when it comes to oral.

kinda-tired

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How to make a guy cum from a b/j Posted: 12/18/2008 10:10:11 AM
One of the best ways of learning how to get a guy off from a bj is to ask him to masturbate for you so you can watch. See how he gets himself off, and then use that technique plus your mouth together, and you got yourself a winning combination.

kinda-tired

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Is oral sex cheating? Posted: 12/18/2008 9:37:11 AM
Simple way to tell if it's cheating. Would you be up front about it having some other woman give you a bj? If the answer is no, then it's cheating. If the answer is yes, and you get hit in the head with a frying pan, then it's still cheating. If the answer is yes, and you girlfriend doesn't care, then she is blowing some other guy anyway so it doesn't matter in the end.

kinda-tired

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What words would you LEAST like to hear after sex? Posted: 12/18/2008 9:32:18 AM
"Oh crap, I don't think I started the camcorder!"

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Do you suffer from feeling out of their league? Posted: 12/18/2008 9:30:35 AM
I used to suffer a lot from this kind of thing, but once I got older no matter how much money someone has, or what kind of education they have gained, their true core of who they are is the part that you fall in love with. That is the part that you sit next to on the couch when you are both old, wrinkly and tired while still being able to look over at the person and think I love this person so much. The money, education, and experience is just stuff on the surface. It's just means to an end, but when it comes to love it doesn't play a huge part. I think fate is the major player in that area. :)

kinda-tired

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If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do? Posted: 12/18/2008 8:44:47 AM
But without talking to him and getting into his head we don't know what aspect of it he is actually turned on by. From the last post about it, it seems that he thinks all women crave to be dominated sexually. Seems to be he is turned on by the power that rape would give him over women. The simple fact his is is "joking" about raping women, has a collection of rape scenes on a DVD for his everyday viewing pleasure, and he seems to think women want to be raped. Even if it's all just a fantasy I really don't think it would hurt him to see a shrink and find out what brought on these fantasies, and to find out if it could lead to more. The fact that he telling people that he thinks it's no big deal to rape women and it should have more people concerned. Any mental health care worker presented with these facts would see a disturbed person that might need help before he finally acts out one of his fantasies. Sexual predators are the most likely to escalate their habits. So while his first "real-life" fantasy might be doing some chick that had too much to drink, it could easily lead to breaking into a woman's house and brutal raping her. I think what has people so concerned with your attitude is that you don't see the possible danger here, because you have rape fantasies. You think because yours are harmless then his could be too, but when it comes to something like this its better side with caution.

kinda-tired

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If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do? Posted: 12/18/2008 8:23:36 AM
As long as he keeps his fantasy where it belongs, in his mind, then it's ok if not creepy. The problem with sexual predators is fantasy it the staging ground most of the time, they get themselves so worked up over the fantasy they feel compelled to act it out. If it was me that was having fantasies about violently raping people, I would have myself at the shrink the very same day. You can't just say it's ok because it's just a fantasy, as that is how most serial rapists start out their journey. People have to take on some accountability for even their fantasies. It doesn't hurt to have yourself checked out to make sure you are not the changing lanes from fantasy to reality. Most "normal" people don't get off on the thought of hurting and raping another human being. Whether it's about power, sex, or fear it doesn't matter. If those thoughts even have the slightest chance of becoming a reality then the person needs to step up and get some therapy just in case.

kinda-tired

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Dating Male Virgins Posted: 12/18/2008 8:06:03 AM
The chances of finding a virgin over the age of 18 these days is pretty rare in general.

kinda-tired

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choosing the right condom Posted: 12/18/2008 8:03:43 AM
No way I would go to bed with a woman who wasn't on some kind of birth control (patch, pill ect ect). Condoms are great, but it only takes one faulty one to break or leak and you got yourself a bun in the oven. Soon as I hit 35 my doctor says he will give me a referral for a vasectomy, since my current girlfriend has to kids, and I don't want any of my own. And the procedure is so much easier than for a woman to get her tubes tied. So I will take set of sore testy for the woman I love. :) Once again though, don't just rely on condoms as a form of birth control, my friend got burned by that once when he was 17, he got to celebrate his new sons birthday three days before his own 18th birthday.

kinda-tired

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Dating Male Virgins Posted: 12/18/2008 7:44:08 AM
I think an experienced woman dating a male virgin would be a really good thing. As long as she was able to communicate with him, she could teach him to be an amazing lover. When I think back to my first time we were both virgins, (16) and all we knew was what we had read, seen, and heard. We were able to talk and laugh with each other through the whole thing and it was an wonderful experience, but there are times I had wished my first time would have been with a more mature and experienced woman. I guess the bright side of my first time was that I learned to talk and listen about what made her feel good, instead of that just stick it in and go as fast as you can teenage carnage. lol I made it a habit from that point on to always ask what really got a girl hot, and really got off on knowing that she was enjoying herself. Which was a far cry from what most of the guys were doing with their girlfriends from what I understand. Seems the teenage guys from where I was from were only interested in busting a nut as fast as they could and thought that if they could get off in 3 minutes then so could she. So once again, you experienced ladies out there that end up with virgin guys, take your time and make them into good lovers. You have a responsibly to your fellow women. :)

kinda-tired

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Have you ever been caught Masturbating? Posted: 12/18/2008 7:27:23 AM
Got caught once by my ex when she came over to visit. I was lying in my bed with my back to the bedroom door. She much have been standing there for about a minute before I noticed her. At first I was really embarrassed, but then she then got into the bed with me and started playing with herself right next to me and said, "It's more fun when you have company" and smiled. That was an amazing night of love making.

kinda-tired

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Should we open our marriage? Posted: 12/18/2008 7:11:02 AM
It can work, but in very rare cases. Your best bet would be a trial separation and just see other people. If you start seeing other people, you might realize that your wife/husband is more important to you than you thought. If you start swinging though, by the time you realize that you only want them, the damage from jealousy would probably already been done and the marriage would be ruined. Just my opinion of course.

kinda-tired

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Have you found useing online relationships successful? Posted: 12/18/2008 6:40:23 AM
My ex's mom met her new husband on eHarmony. My current girlfriend I met on a facebook application called Are You Interested? So yes, I think you can find relationships online. The main problem I think is people have is they seem to set their standards much higher when it comes to meeting people online. Maybe because there isn't that physical chemistry there right from go, or some other factor. I have had people message me with lines like, "Hey, how are you?", where most people would just ignore something like that I will answer them and see what kind of person they are. Some people just take a little time to warm up to people, and it seems that on dating websites that people dismiss a lot of people that don't seem instantly amazing. Which really is a shame, because I have met some really nice people on here, where the conversations started off pretty boring. lol

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Should I stay or should I go? Posted: 12/18/2008 6:23:52 AM
It's time to move on. He is obviously playing with your head, or has some serious issues to deal with. Ten months is enough of your time wasted on someone that should be fighting with all his might to come meet you in person if he cared. I know you probably have feelings for him even though it's just an internet relationship, but seriously, move on and get back out there into the world with people that actually want to meet you, hang out with you, and enjoy your company in person and not over a webcam.

kinda-tired

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Clinical Depression and having a relationship Posted: 12/18/2008 6:02:33 AM
From someone who has suffered from chronic depression for the past 23 years, I can tell by your post that you do not have your problem under control. and it sounds as if you are heading into a small downward spiral. I would talk to your doctor about finding a medication that might work better for you, as it took many different meds before I found one that worked for me. Then you need to keep up the therapy, if you find one therapist isn't helping then try another one until you find one that you connect with, and that's really deep therapy as well, where you find the source and the triggers for your depression. The first thing you need to do is put yourself first. When you are in such a state trying to keep everyone else around you happy while you are barely functioning is just damaging further. Talk to your boyfriend about your problem and help him understand exactly what you are going through and how you are feeling, if he loves you he will support you through this, if not then it might be a time to take a break and just focus on yourself. The most important thing is to always remain positive, tell yourself that you will get better. Depression is a horrible illness to live with, but with medications, therapy and some good old fashion willpower you can make it through it and become a much stronger person than you every thought possible. If you don't have your own life under control then you can't expect to be able to help the people you love. And if those people do love you then will support you in every way they can. If you ever feel like talking about it feel free to message me, I have spent a very long time talking to different people with different kinds of depressions and would be more than willing to share my experience with you if you desire it. I found it was always helpful to talk to other people that had experience with dealing with depression, and have found many insightful things from people I never expected to. Just always keep this in your mind, "I can make it through this, I am a strong person," Say it over and over again in your head, all day long, never stop saying it. After awhile you will find that when something starts to get you really down it will be the first thing to pop into your head and you will find some comfort in that. At first it will seem really stupid, but trust me, even such a small thing can make a world of difference.

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What to think? Posted: 12/18/2008 5:38:41 AM
The guy is a piece of human trash if it treats someone he "cares" about in that manner when they are injured. You almost get the feeling that he was annoyed his property was damaged.

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Msg: 89 (view)

If Your BF Joked To You About Raping A Woman, What Would You Do? Posted: 12/18/2008 5:32:58 AM
I think one of the main problems these days is that the word rape gets tossed around too freely. If you are into gaming culture you will hear terms "I totally raped that guy!" or "You suck so bad, ur gunna get raped." Or kids at school saying things like, "You're just pissy because your dad rapes you at every night." The word itself is being used far to casually, and it's starting to lose it's power. Personally I believe a word like rape should never be used in a joking or insulting manner because it's a very serious subject, and a horrifying thing for a human being to have to deal with. It sounds like this BF is just another victim of society taking a serious subject and making light of it. I personally don't know if I would dump him right away until I explained to him that rape is something that shouldn't be joked about, as it takes away power from the people who have actually been raped. If at that point he just didn't get it I w0uld toss his butt.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

this is embarrassing! Posted: 12/18/2008 5:17:33 AM
Just go with the flow, and never fight your bodies natural reactions. They are there for a reason. :)

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

First times Posted: 12/17/2008 10:18:04 PM
Was on my 16th birthday, we were both virgins, and she wanted to give me a present I wouldn't forget, and that she did. The great thing was that it wasn't all weird and awkward, we were always good at telling each other how we felt, so when it came to making love we had no trouble telling each other what felt good. Ahh, too be a teenager again.

kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 166 (view)

Casaul Sex with Strangers Posted: 12/17/2008 7:50:47 PM
Seems pointless to me. Sex without emotion just feels hollow, leaving you feel empty inside. First time, and only time I had sex someone I had just met that night (in my teens) was just weird. Sure it was good sex, but once it was over we were both just lying there with nothing to say, and feeling awkward about the whole thing. There was no booze or anything involved, just lust, but once the dust settled we both realized that it was something that shouldn't have happened. Lucky for me we turned out to be really good friends after awhile, and even dated. At that point the sex was amazing because there was an emotional connection. We were sharing something with each other, rather than doing something that is just slightly above masturbation.

Kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 4 (view)

Do I HAVE to use instant messages/msn? Posted: 10/28/2008 4:50:40 PM
Personally I prefer using MSN over sending e-mails back and forth. It`s makes the conversation feel more fluid, and you don`t have to always be wondering if someone is going to get back to you in two minutes, two hours, or just plain never. It all comes down to what you feel comfortable with though. If you don`t like to use instant messaging then you don`t have. Any guy that is willing to give up the chance to meet an amazing woman just because she does not want to IM isn`t worth you time anyway. In my opinion though, you are probably missing out on some really good conversations by not IMing. :) Paul

Kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Watch out for the suits Posted: 10/28/2008 10:57:42 AM
I saw a guy in an all black suit, black trench coat and a black fedora come into my doctors office today. Sat down right next to me and looked me right in the eye. All I could say was, "I know, it was only swamp gas." I don't think he got the joke.

Kinda-tired

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Questions for the Guys.... Posted: 10/17/2008 1:59:05 AM
Personality and a sense of humour come first for me, but in the end I still have to be attracted to the person. I have met some women that are on the heavy side that I still found cute, and at the same time I have met some women with "good" bodies that I don't find myself drawn to at all. When someone is looking for a mate, they want to have the full package. A good personality is important, as well as intelligence, and other things, but you can't expect everyone to want to date you just because you have a good personality. There has to be chemistry, the person has to be attracted to your mind, and your body. Just hang in there and you will find someone likes everything about you. :)

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