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icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

Barely Married with Kids and Wife may be Cheating Posted: 11/9/2009 9:42:40 PM
I think you're friend is being played for a fool by his cheating wife!!! No sex for three years!!! I am female and I can bet the bottom dollar she has not gone without for three years!! That flirting I am sure is far more then mere texts. Tell you're friend to kick her ass to the curb and change the locks and find a good divorce lawyer but not before gathering all the evidence he can that she is not taking her marriage vows seriously. I detest cheaters...there is never a reason to cheat and hurt someone who loves you!!!

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 66 (view)

I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags? Posted: 10/22/2009 10:37:11 PM
Why are men so scared of woman who are independent? I am one of those independent woman, and yes in the past the word, " I don't need a man" have passed my lips. I do not need a man, I have a decent paying job, have raised my kids to adults, will have a pension, pay my own bills ect. I have a lot of friends and like to do my own thing. That in NO way does not mean that I did not hope to meet someone to share my world with yet remain independent. And yes, Men do exist that value a woman who is independent, who can take care of herself and him if need be. One who will not break down and cry if she breaks a nail. I did meet such a man and we have been together for five month's. As much as I did not need him, he did not need me. But together "WE" enjoy each others company on every level. There is no mistrust, jealousy or any of the other negative emotions that will erode and eat away at a relationship. I have his back and he has mine. He knows that I will go out of my way to do something for him because I choose to, not because it is required of me. He knows when I spend time making him a nice meal it is because I choose to. He knows I choose to be with him and I know he chooses to be with me. In that fact alone it is a very comforting and secure feeling, to know you can be yourself and be loved for who you are. Even the idiosyncrises.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

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Who would have thunk it could happen. Posted: 10/22/2009 10:01:18 PM
I am amazed in awe, blown away! I had been on pof for a while had talked to a few men but had not really met one that sparked my interest as much as I had sparked theirs. Finally I got an email from "M" I read his profile and laughed so hard I cried. We began communicating. Not a barrage of emails just the odd one here and there. He was quick witted with a sprinkle of sarcasm thrown in for good measure. I too can be sarcastic and quick witted. After much cajoling I agreed to meet him at the local Timmie's. I ended up being late because I had received a telephone call just as I was about to leave that put me behind. When I arrived at Tim's I walked in scanning the room as I only had a pic to go on. When I looked to my right, there he was with the biggest smile on his face. It literally lite up my world. I preceded to the counter to place my order trying to act all cool and collective. I did not want this virtual stranger to know the full depth of the impact that smile had on me. After getting my order I joined him and we began a six hour oddesy of conversation. We walked down to the ocean and talked and not once in our conversation was there the awkward silence of someone you have just met. At the end of our six hour date he gave me a nice hug and left. I was under the impression that for some reason I was not to his liking. We had the odd email after that here and there as we both had a lot going on in our life's. Then five month's later I get an email from him, my heart literally skipped a beat when I said it in my in box. We have been together ever since. For the first time in my life I am with my mirror image. We are so much alike we finish each other's sentences and thoughts. It is the most comfortable loving relationship I have ever known. Each and every day we make each other smile and laugh. He understands that it is the little things in life that mean the most. I always appreciate all that he does for me. Even if it is as simple as opening my car door, or making me a tea. I always thank him for the effort and consideration. He has said we are "soul mates" and my mind has argued that it is not possible, but my heart has told me other wise. We never know in life how long we have or how long love will last, all I can do is take it one day at a time and enjoy the moments big and small. I really do hope it will be for the rest of my life. Good luck to you all who are still searching for that someone special who makes you feel as if you have finally come home after a long journey. Never settle. "M" is not perfect by any means nor am I, but he is the perfect man for me.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

We've seen the don'ts - How about top 5 date do's for men Posted: 8/17/2009 7:18:01 AM
Just be yourself so that I can judge from who you are if we are compatible enough for a follow up date. Pretty simple really.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

A story I thought I'd share Posted: 7/17/2009 4:17:02 PM
Wow Op, I am stunned at your response to this woman's stupidity!! I agree her omitting the fact she has a child was wrong, To bring her child to meet you was incomprehensible. But the fact that you would say that to a small innocent child who has no control over the stupidity of his MOTHER is deplorable!!! I really hope your not proud of your actions!!

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 134 (view)

Questions about circumcision: Is it too late for a 12 year old to be circumcised? Posted: 6/7/2009 6:04:56 PM
It is not too late to have your son circumcised but be aware that it will take longer to heal now then if it was done at birth. I have seen men in their forties and beyond coming in for circumcisions at work!!! I had my son done before we ever left the hospital and was given grief for my choice one I have never regretted.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

is it right to pursue real chemistry or is it plain stalking? Posted: 5/15/2009 3:54:48 PM
Beershark, hit it right on the money!!!! She has clearly stated how she feels about it. Frank needs to tie up his loose ends then he is free to see if the chemistry is there. If she has moved on then it was not meant to be. Very simple.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 117 (view)

what is your opinion men and women? Posted: 4/29/2009 11:00:29 AM
I find it quite unsettling when I build up the courage to send someone an email and I hear nothing back. I have even put into my profile even if I am not your cup of tea, take the thirty seconds out of your life to let me know that. I always answer my mail even if it is to gently say, I have looked at your profile and I would not be interested in further discussion. Men complain but so many of them don't answer!!! If you never open the front cover of the book, you will never realize the joy of the story inside it.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

A question for the ladies Posted: 4/25/2009 10:35:42 AM
I cannot presume to know what is going through your wife's head. I can only speak from personal experience. When I was marrried to a man who did not care about my person or sexual satisfaction in any way I had no desire for intimacy with him. Years later I met and fell in love with a man who I could not get enough of. Just a simple glance my way and I was instantly wet and wanting to make love to him. After a long period of time together he began to complain that my desire for intimacy with him had not diminished. So, I conclude that MEN are never satisfied!!!! You complain if you get sex, you complain if you don't. There is no pleasing you. Perhaps instead of looking at this problem in the light that you do, you should perhaps take some time to re-evaluate your thoughts and attitudes towards your wife. Just a thought.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 308 (view)

why dont most men keep it trimmed ?? Posted: 4/16/2009 10:56:06 PM
I always keep myself shaved or like a fuzzy peach for me it is a cleanliness issue. I just feel it is cleaner. It's a pain to always do it, but I find worth it in the end. I personally prefer my man to be either neatly trimmed or shaved. Sorry guys but if you want this gal to suck on your lolly pop then I don't want my lolly pop to be fuzzy.....

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 156 (view)

When a woman is squirting...exactly what is squirting out and from where? Posted: 4/13/2009 10:09:26 AM
For years I thought squirting was an urban legend. I was with a man in my thirties who stimulated the right spot and viola a squirter was born. Yes, Woman do Squirt. NO it is not Urine!!! and it is the most intense incredible experience I have ever had. I have gotten to the point where I can bring it on myself. Then again I had never had an orgasm in all the years I was with my ex husband. I thought there was something fundamentally wrong with me, so much so I even went to the Doctor about it. I was delighted to discover after we split up and I was with someone else that the problem did not lie with me, but with him and his total lack of regard for my pleasure. So, for all you men if you want the best rock and roll sex of your life, learn how to please the woman you're with. Trust me on this you will never regret it.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

The biggest double standard Posted: 4/12/2009 9:11:37 PM
I personally don't see this as the biggest double standard at all. Like a few previous posters, I don't have an issue with it, as long as the gentleman I am with is not blatantly drooling or oogling the woman. I can appreciate the beauty of a woman or man. I find the biggest double standard is that of when a man sleeps around he is the big man, whoo hoo good for you buddy. All his friends pat him on the back for it. Yet when a woman does the same she is a Ho, Slut, ect. Is this not the biggest double standard out there?????? I think so!!!!!!! Why is it men are allowed to experience sex on so many levels yet we are to remain demure and pure waiting for them to grace us with their presence...

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 184 (view)

Have You Ever Been Mentally or Physically Abused by a Partner Posted: 4/12/2009 2:26:12 PM
Yes, and thankfully he was the only one. And I learned from that horrible mistake. I can see the signs much clearer and quicker now. I have been single for as long as I have now in part due to the abuse I suffered from the person who was supposed to love, cherish and protect me. I am very cautious about who I allow into my life.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

cheating??? males perspective.. Posted: 4/12/2009 2:21:15 PM
After reading all the posts pertaining to this op and her query I will say the following. From personal experience in my life I have learned valuable lessons they are: Once a cheater always a cheater. when someone gets really angry when asked a question they are hiding something. It is wrong always to breech trust. If he won't talk to you that says it all. If there is no trust there is no love..you cannot have one without the other. MOVE ON AND LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 1578 (view)

so, why are you still single? Posted: 4/8/2009 11:21:53 AM
I hate this stupid redundant question. Who made it that if your single there is something fundamentally wrong with you. I am single by choice. I have been single for so long now, that I am not even sure I know how to be in a relationship. I get told all the time from friends, family, co-workers that they don't understand why I am single. My response is always the same. I CHOOSE to be. I have learned from past failures and mistakes made when I was young and thought I knew it all. I won't settle. I am confident in my abilities in this world. I can provide for myself. I don't have to answer to anyone. I don't have to ask permission for anything. I don't get told how to spend MY money I earn. I get the bed to myself. I never wake up cold b/c someone has stolen all the covers only to throw them on the floor on their side of the bed. Everything is in it's place and I always know where to find it when I need it. I could go on, but I am sure you get the gist of it. Every once in a while I get a pang, and it takes a bit to figure out what is making me feel so disjointed and unsatisfied with life, but it passes quickly. Perhaps one day I will meet someone who I click with and we are headed down the same path and choose to walk that path together. Then again perhaps not.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 24 (view)

Victoria - frosty city? Posted: 4/8/2009 10:07:42 AM
I am a very nice person, and go out of my way all the time to help people I don't even know, Some days it's as simple as paying for a coffee for the person behind me in a line up at Tim's. To feeding the meters that have expired where I work so people won't get tickets. Most of my deeds go unnoticed which suits me fine. As I don't do it for accalaids! And again as someone who has grown up here, I can say that it is those moving from bigger cities where everyone keeps to themselves that make it a colder place then it was years ago. I do not think I am an elitist b/c I was born and raised here. I count myself as lucky to have grown up in such a beautiful place. Perhaps, it is your attitudes that create the feeling of coldness.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Victoria - frosty city? Posted: 4/8/2009 1:30:07 AM
{ Ha ha ha... it's exactly that mindset that turned me off... too many Islanders think the only thing wrong with Vancouver Island is that people who aren't originally from there cause all the problems. There's a definite "You're not a REAL Islander so you aren't important to me" attitude emitting from a large number of people on Vancouver Island. I saw it – and felt it – all the time. Beautiful part of Canada... I never hesitate going back to visit the friends I made there. But I can't see myself ever living there again. } That is really pretentious of you to even begin to assume that is what I meant with my comment. What was meant by it, is I have found in life's experience that those that are cold or stand offish to say the least are typically not native to the island. They are usually from larger cities where everyone keeps to themselves. Only in large cities will people close their ears and eyes to something horrible happening to another human being and stick their freaking head in the sand and pretend not to notice b/c they don't want to get involved. Perhaps your experience was such as you yourself did not extend yourself out to those around you. In Alberta I found 92% of the population stuck up. In ONT I found people very closed off to even their neighbours. Sad society we are becoming.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Victoria - frosty city? Posted: 4/7/2009 5:32:21 PM
Being born and raised on the Island and having lived in both AB an ONT, I can say that the Island is certainly more friendly then either AB or ONT. I was so homesick both times I moved away. I think if you meet someone unfriendly here it is because they are not from here. I know growing up we never worried about anything. We went everywhere on our own and never had to worry about anything. I found it really easy to meet new people and friends. I found in ONT even in a job interview people would not look me in the eye when speaking to me. I was astonished by this. As I was raised that it is proper when speaking to someone to look them in the eye as a sign of respect and so they know you are paying attention to them.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 136 (view)

Beautiful People Only can apply...WTF.... Posted: 4/7/2009 12:38:04 AM
Most accurate quote I have ever heard, "No one is beautiful until you fall in love with them." Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And one must always remember outside beauty fades, it is what's inside that counts.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

Would you drive an electric car or truck? Posted: 4/6/2009 11:33:16 PM
If I could afford an EV I would certainly have one over what I have now. It's a no brainer.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 52 (view)

So who is quitting smoking now that the new tax has taken effect? Posted: 4/5/2009 7:03:00 PM
[ How is a tax on something harmful to your health illogical? Making them cheap enough for children to afford would be illogical. If you want to wreck your health, fine, but before you succumb to heart disease, emphysema, or lung cancer, it looks like you're going to contribute to health care for someone else's kids. What's illogical about using part of the gain from your self-destructive habit to benefit others? You won't be much help after you're dead, right? ] this would make sense if they revenue gained by these taxes actually went towards health care or some other common good. But they do not.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

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Idea: Bridge from Vancouver to Victoria Posted: 4/5/2009 4:11:00 PM
The idea of either a tunnel or bridges connecting the mainland and Vancouver Island along with the various smaller islands along the way has been talked about since I was a kid(a long time ago). I would be one of the first protesters out there to stop such a thing from happening. I like the fact we're secluded from the mainland. I like the fact we can shut down all forms of transportation on and off the island. I hate that we are held hostage by bc ferries..but there are alternatives to getting on an off the island if your really determined to do so. We have a better more laid back life style on this Island and I would like to see it remain that way.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 10 (view)

What brings out the worst and what brings out the best in you? Posted: 4/3/2009 2:42:10 PM
Wow, what a darn good question. worst: stupid people arrogant people lack of kindness towards others Greed Controlling people disrespectful people Best: Chocolate Sunshine laughter Kindness Love hugs

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 76 (view)

Women & Sex Posted: 4/2/2009 3:53:09 PM
one hundred percent agree with the poster above me

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 280 (view)

What is your weakness when it comes to the opposite sex? Posted: 4/2/2009 2:22:44 PM
It's all in the eyes.... Brown eyes melt me...I get lost in the depth of them. The way he smiles at me...that look that says, "Baby I want you". Kissing me on the back of my neck turns me into a pool of jello... And my head will always spin in the direction of a good smelling man..mmmmmmm But most of all, someone who makes me laugh and enjoys my company. Nothing sexier on the planet then that.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

Sleep Sex - Sexonmia, a defence for sexual misconduct. Posted: 3/29/2009 1:24:15 PM
I don't know of any woman with this disorder or ability...not sure which better describes this phenomena. I was in a relationship with someone who could completely engage in sexual activity while he remained asleep. I got accused of raping him in his sleep all the time, yet it was he who woke me up. I certainly was not going to say no....... He was working 12-16 hour days and I think this may have contributed to this happening. Not sure. But I sure took advantage of the situation..he he he.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

Women & Sex Posted: 3/28/2009 7:41:02 PM
{Woman liking sex is just a myth put out by pornographers.} roflmao.................................... gasp, ok now that I am over my fits of laughter... Of course woman like sex!!!! For more then just pro-creating. Difference is we prefer to make love, that entails feelings for the one your becoming intimate with. Then again nothing wrong with a good bout of sexual release. Sure gets rid of the tension.. lol.. Oh, no I must be a man..hang on let me check..nope I have woman parts not man parts.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 887 (view)

Is oral sex cheating? Posted: 3/26/2009 4:25:25 PM
In my personal opinion, oral sex, manual sex, kissing ect all are cheating if you are in a committed monogamous relationship and your partner has not consented to you doing these activities with another person. I really do try to live by the only code that matters to me, and that is do unto others as you would have others do onto you. Being in a long term relationship that has become stale is no excuse to cheat. Spice it up. Try something new, or somewhere new, or role play or whatever it takes to get the funk back. Do not cheat!!! Oh and I firmly believe once a cheater always a cheater.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 205 (view)

If you had the perfect partner how often would you want sex? Posted: 3/26/2009 1:18:57 AM
The man of my dreams, would want to have it three times a day or more. I love morning sex, it puts me in such an awesome mood for the day ahead. So, much so that I am even willing to wake up earlier then the five am I have to be up by, just to make love. Nooners on a non work day are awesome. Or late afternoons. And last thing before going to sleep at night, then falling asleep all entwined in one another. I cannot think of a better way to end the day. Ah, to dream..............................

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 160 (view)

Morning sex, why is it so great?? Posted: 3/25/2009 2:02:09 PM
Morning sex is the greatest b/c it puts you in a such a great mood for the day ahead!! All those good sex endorphins kicking in, puts a smile on your face, a glow to your skin, a sparkle in your eye and a bounce in your step..

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 91 (view)

kissing on the first date should be a topic of discussion Posted: 3/24/2009 11:43:35 AM
I think too much time is wasted thinking what is right and wrong. As adults should we not be able to just go with the flow and if the mood and desire is there go with it. We are not children!!

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

Traffic fines to be added to ICBC insurance Posted: 3/24/2009 11:27:48 AM
[just drive safer, and don't be such an idiot in your car!!! ICBC should do more to keep people from being stupid drivers!! When you renew your license every couple of years, you should have to pay for another road test. Insurance rates will most like ly go down with the added revenue. But still........ STOP BEING A JERK IN YOUR CAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!] As a driver with the highest freaking discount I can get with no tickets, no accidents ect why in the hell should I have to pay for another road test every five years????? I already pay enough to drive thank you very freaking much. Get a grip!!! I am sick to death of the constant ways these corrupt government agencies and government officials find ways to push me further and further below the poverty line. I work, I don't drink, I pay my taxes(high as they are) I raised two kids who are productive members of society and every freaking day I am hit deeper and deeper in my pocket book, all the while these jerks in power give themselves more money.... WTF??? this has to stop. It has been well over thirty years since I have had a point on my liscense or a speeding ticket.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Housing is a right, or is it? Posted: 3/24/2009 11:13:26 AM
It saddens me deeply and to my very core, that we as a wealthy first nations to very little to ensure the safety and well being of all our citizens. A good majority of the homeless people we see are homeless b/c of the governments infinite brilliance to close down mental institutions where many of these people belong. Yes, drugs and alcohol also play a huge part in the homeless population. Where is our compassion for our fellow man???? Are we becoming desensitized like our American ***holes to the south???? We pay more in taxes both at the federal and provincial level then anywhere else in the world!!!! And what are we getting for all those tax dollars we spend??? Yes, I believe there should be rent control. It sickens me to see our elderly who have made the sacrifices for us to have the life's we have put out of their homes b/c they cannot pay the property taxes due to the ever increasing value of their homes. It angers me to know end that these are the same citizens who fought in wars to give us the peace and freedom that we take for granted every day in being Canadian. It is our job as a person to take care of those who cannot take care of themselves. If your religious or not, it is just the right thing to do. Karma will come back to bite us all. One day it could be YOU who is homeless for whatever befalls you. Perhaps you sustain and injury that means you cannot work, you exhaust all your savings, your cut off of Medical EI, there is no where else to turn to and you find yourself homeless. Show some freaking compassion instead of sitting in judgment. I work in Health Care and I can tell you that when the Mercury drops as it has this winter we see a huge rise in homeless people coming into emergency from weather exposure. Do you have any idea how much this taxes the health care system??? And when those beds have to be used for these people Surgeries are canceled for those that have been waiting ages, b/c we have no Bed to put them into and no staff to care for them. So, the few dollars spent in housing, and helping the homeless to better themselves and give them their dignity is a drop in the bucket compared to the horrendous costs otherwise. Remember to, these people are brothers, sister, fathers, mothers, friends of people. My two cents worth, take it for what you will, but my heart will never be so cold as to close myself to the plight of others.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 146 (view)

Welfare recipients with money to burn! Posted: 2/7/2009 9:50:18 AM
Chevy girl 78. What you fail to realize is subsidised housing is only made up of a small percentage of subsidies. The rest of the Units are rented out at Market Value. Hence why you see people with nice cars. I know this is true as I lived in a complex like that as a single working parent of two kids. I did not qualify for a subsidy, apparently I made too much money but was still under the poverty line according to the government statistics of the time. You cannot stand in judgment when you do not have all the facts!!! Yes there are abusers of a system and there always will be. Plain and simple if you know someone is abusing the system report it. IT IS YOUR DUTY TO DO SO. I have worked since I was 14 years old and only been on Welfare briefly during my divorce. And I have worked up to three jobs at a time to raise my two kids. Don't judge another until you have walked in their shoes. I cannot convey the humiliation I felt in having to go to Welfare for that check that did not even come close to covering the bare necessities of life. And the way they treated me made me want to crawl in a hole and die. I don't wish it upon anyone.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 145 (view)

Welfare recipients with money to burn! Posted: 2/7/2009 9:37:46 AM
"He may not be,,,but I WILL. There has to be a time when certain types of people MUST be accountable for their actions. There are certain people out there that have proven time and time again that they obviously CAN'T make the correct choices on their own. Do YOU expect ME to keep feeding these people a monthly cheque and have them NOT be accountable?????" Wow, your talking about "OUR" Politicians right!!!! Because I see my hard earned tax dollars paying their high priced salaries and certainly dn't see them making the correct/honorable choices. Nor do I see them held accountable.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 370 (view)

Sarcasm red flag or not? Posted: 2/7/2009 9:32:19 AM
Good lord peeps, this is becoming an age of the ridiculous. You cannot be politically correct and please all the people all the time. And quite frankly everyone has their own perception. Honestly Sarcasm is humour plain and simple. Sometimes I can't help but be sarcastic when people give me so much ammunition to do it with. I am known by my friends and family for my quick wit. And they also know me as a person with a heart of gold. As far as I can see some are just hypersensitive. going back to my corner now.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 74 (view)

How a black male can approach white women... help Posted: 9/8/2008 7:05:39 PM
Sneak up on them in the dark... then smile :) My grandmother's second husband was black. And he was the only grandfather I knew growing up. My family is so multicultural, so no that was not a racist comment it was just a ha ha funny comment. Honestly colour, race, religion ect, should have no boundries on the heart and love. Approach her the way you would approach any woman. With honesty.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 203 (view)

would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money Posted: 9/5/2008 7:49:33 PM
Hell Yah. I would rather be poor and happy then miserable and rich.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 221 (view)

when is a man in love? Posted: 9/1/2008 12:19:03 PM
From personal experience I can say the following: When he looks deeply into your eyes whenever he speaks to you. When his hand always reaches for yours even when your just sitting on the couch watching a movie. When he always steers you to the inner part of the sidewalk, and he walks on the outside of it nearest the road. When he weed whacks a huge heart in the lawn with our initials and says don't worry honey it is only lawn it grows back. When he leaves "I love you" written across your windshield in soap for when you come out in the morning. When he puts you ahead of his own wants, desires and needs. When he wakes up in the morning and looks at you and tells you our beautiful even when you look like medusa. When he is content to just hold you close all night and not want sexual gratification. When he calls you just to say, " I love you and miss you" When even in an argument he never degrades you and always says I love you. When he will listen to you vent on your day, week, month and know that you don't want him to fix it, you just need him to listen. When he sees something he knows you will like and buys it for no other reason then he wants to see you smile. When he arranges a babysitter and plans a romantic dinner and night away from the kids and all the adult responsibilities that make up our life's. When he leaves you notes of his affection for you all over for you to find. When he just holds you close, kisses you softly and says, I am so glad I found you. And when you have had this, and lost it due to unforseen circumstances, the hole it leaves never gets filled.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 187 (view)

Why would anyone want to date you? Posted: 7/26/2008 10:13:07 AM
They wouldn't I cannot cook, I don't knit or sew or clean the house. I am a workaholic who has no time for anyone else but me. I hate children, dogs, cats, fish and any other annoying animal on the planet. I have no sense of humour, no special talents, and hate reality tv!!!! Gosh, golly gee, even I would not date me...going to corner to now....

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

His fiancee called me Posted: 7/8/2008 4:45:02 PM
[All those that rip on me for telling people to move very slow in the internet dating world can now get a lesson. This is why you take a ton of time to get to know someone. Time after time I see so many women jumping into bed with someone from the net and then wondering if they should date. Its amazing. Anyway, I hope this is a lesson big time. Good luck and I'm glad you found out.] Funny, I take things slow want to get to know someone and a few emails and I never hear from them again. Quite frankly no skin off my nose. I am sick of being pushed into meeting someone who states, I am not into endless chatter online. I would not do endless but I certainly feel more then a few emails are necessary to get a feel for someone.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 387 (view)

I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 7/5/2008 2:14:48 PM
asyndeymale. How can you and others ASSUME that someone uses drugs b/c they are open minded enough to read the post and see it for what it is. You do know what ASSUME means don't you!!! So many self rightous individuals..that live in glass houses. Glad I am not one of them.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 375 (view)

I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 7/1/2008 12:48:33 PM
[bornagainslim...........so as a parent yourself, you're supporting and condoning a parent who breaks the law, puts herself at risk of being arrested, who wastes money on drugs that she could be using for something like her daughter's college education, who puts herself at risk of having her child taken away from her..a parent who puts herself at risk of being under the influence such that should an emergency present itself with her child, she might not be with it enough to react or she might be too afraid to call an ambulance because she's afraid of being busted? As a parent you're fine with all this] Hmmm kinda hypocritical statement here, since your profile wutznot2love states you smoke occasionaly. Should you yourself not be putting that money into your kids education fund, or your grandkids. That's the pot calling the kettle black as far as I am concerned.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 205 (view)

he's just a sex partner..is that wrong? Posted: 6/30/2008 11:57:32 PM
Do you people not really read what is written???? Or do you just read what you want to see????? No where did the op say her fb was married. What she did say was that in the past two years she has met two men. One of which she later found out was married. Holy cow so quick to judge yet you cannot even read the truth as it is written before you. Let he/she who has not sinned cast the first stone!!!! What a bunch of hypocrits.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 202 (view)

he's just a sex partner..is that wrong? Posted: 6/30/2008 7:56:02 PM
I cannot believe that people on here are reading things that were never ever posted by the op. Consensual sex between two adults is just that. There is nothing wrong with it, if both adults are accepting of what it is, a natural human need/desire. As natural as breathing. For those of you that say sex is in the biblical sense to be shared by a man and a woman only in matrimony and in love...what the heck are you doing on here??????? Sex is in our DNA to procreate not have the fairy tale life that we were brought up to believe in then fail miserably at. And if this is not true then why are there so many men and woman on dating sites? Point made.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 188 (view)

he's just a sex partner..is that wrong? Posted: 6/30/2008 6:44:20 AM
[Also I don't believe you can separate emotions from sex, maybe one time or two, but after a while something evolved either towards the person or away from the person.] Wow, I have never seen so many virtuous men in my life. And do I believe any one of them has never had sex for the sake of sexual satisfaction with no emotional entanglement what so ever.. NOT A CHANCE!!!! Were in the twenty first century yet the same old BS is still held. Men can have casual sex and woman cannot. WTF????? OP, just keep it to yourself until such time as your in a deep relationship then tell the gentleman if he cannot handle it, then he is not he one for you. I just wanted to barf and all the hypocrisy in the posts... Good girls don't and bad girls do blah blah blah. Sex is a natural human need/desire. And quite frankly if it was not so, they would not sell so many dildo's and vibrators to woman.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 237 (view)

I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 6/18/2008 4:21:58 PM
Illegal.... Once upon a time in America it was Illegal for a black person to be in a white person's resturant/restroom ect. Threw standing up for their rights this was changed. Once upon a time it was Illegal for Black's to vote threw standing up this was changed. It used to be illegal for your consenting wife to give you oral sex and actually is still on the books in some states to this day...hmmmmm Just b/c something is illegal does not mean it is correct!!!!!! The longer it is kept Illegal the larger the profits by illegal syndicates that grow/ship/sell it. Many countries on this planet have made it legal and have a far lower problem with drugs being abused then the USA and Canada. That being said, the question was some moron told her after she said she did not want to meet him that she was a bad mother b/c she chooses a natural herb for whatever reason she chooses this is her reason. Yet you have all stated she is a bad parent. Sounds to me by every thing the op has said she is a very caring/loving MOM!!! And I would like to hear from just one of you who has responded that you have never ever in your life done anything illegal..b/c I call BullShit!!!!!!! Alcohol was illegal for years and years and look at what that caused with illegal rum running ect. Not to mention the criminal element in the illegal trade of alcohol. The same is happening with Marijuana. It's a stupid argument. Is the op a bad mother I think not. Is her child going without food or clothing to support her mother's drug habit...not. Is her mother a leach on society by being a druggie on welfare, no. Dustie, what matters at the end of the day is how you take care of your daughter and I think you teaching her to stand up for what she believes in even if it goes against the grain is very commendable. I hope when she grows her wings and her views do not reflect your own you will remember statues are not built for the status quo.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 163 (view)

I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 6/18/2008 6:22:22 AM
Looking, number one, how do you determine there are a lot of pot heads, when several of the posters have clearly stated they do not nor have they every used Marijuana. Second who says she smokes it. I am sorry but there are more ways to ingest Marijuana then smoking it. As for these so called Health Care Professionals who state it leads to mental disorders what a huge load Of BS!!!!! But then I suppose my twenty one years of working in the front line of health care. Emergency/Main Operating Rooms ect says nothing to what I have personally seen. Knowing as many people as i have met in my life that occasionally smoke Marijuana that are lawyers/judges/surgeons/nurses ect and are very intelligent/other wise law abiding people says they are all degenerates according to these people on here. What a load of super hogwash. Can we say we have been brain washed. I am a highly articulate, intelligent caring compassionate person. I have worked for years and worked hard, I continue to have to go back to school and upgrade myself in my ever changing field of work. You make anyone who uses POT sound like they are complete and utter idiots, to justify your beliefs. The research, yes research not propaganda as put out by the US government does not support your statements. Even in the jails the guards will look the other way to POT use but clamp down hard on the illegal creation and use of alcohol. Why b/c Alcohol causes unrest in the populance, fights ect. POT does not. For as long as we are human we will find ways to cope with life. This can be using perscription drugs to sleep/aid in depression ect or alcohol/Pot/being addicted to working/running whatever it is human nature plain and simple. Throughout these posts only one other lady has read this op's entire post and seen exactly what I have seen. She is not a pot head who sits around all day getting stoned. She is a good mother who attends school and puts her child first. But my words are all wasted on those that are firm in their high and almighty attitudes that they are the only right and correct and virtuous people on the planet and anyone else is just dead wrong. Thank god it takes all kinds to make the world go round.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 156 (view)

I was told I am a bad mother because I smoke marijuana. Posted: 6/18/2008 6:02:58 AM
Elaine, where in the world do you work with people who have become psychotic from smoking weed???? Excuse me, I have been in health care for twenty one years and never ever have I seen anyone become psychotic from smoking weed!!!! I think you are confusing weed with other drugs such as cocaine/lsd/crack/crystal meth and the list goes on. Might I also point out all the above are created by man. Weed is a natural growing herb..that's right a herb. Did anyone on here besides me actually read her post????????? Or have you all just fixated on the one word... Did you not read that she has her daughter six times a month. That she is currently enrolled in school in Judicial Law. That she is not on Welfare. That she does not commit criminal acts to support herself or to smoke Marijuana!!!!!! Holy crap, all I see is a bunch of hypocrites. Alcohol was against the law for a very long time, yet it came out of prohibition. And they certainly don't build statues in life for the status quo. Just b/c something is seen as wrong due to bs propaganda does not mean it is so. I cannot get over the way people assume this gal is high around her kid. For crying out loud. Give your head a shake read the post.

icey43

Joined: 9/17/2007

Msg: 137 (view)

Alternative lifestyles Posted: 6/17/2008 10:40:42 PM
Dustie, I repeat do not let the naysayers get you down hun. I work in Health care and have for twenty one years. And no ppl I have never gone to work stoned. But I do have a herniated disc in my neck that leaves me in chronic pain and pot relieves me of the pain without the side effects of all the other legal crap they gave me, that left me feeling like I was in a fog 24/7, could not sleep, and sleep deprivation is much worse then alcohol believe it or not. Unfortunately POT is illegal at this time, and it is not Illegal because it is harmful, it is Illegal b/c the big corps lobbied to have it made illegal to have a monopoly on paper....that's the god's honest truth. cigarettes are much more harmful as is alcohol yet both remain legal!! I personally know Surgeons/ Nurses/Lawyers/Police Officers/Teachers/Bus Drivers ect that smoke MJ and are all smart, otherwise law abiding people. In my case it is not daily or even weekly, it is when my body becomes so run down from lack of sleep that I smoke some to put me to sleep b/c that is what it does and it relieves my pain for a few hours. I don't care what other's think, as the Neurontin the medical profession had me taking was much worse and gave me high blood pressure so they wanted to give me more drugs to combat that. You said you see your daughter six days a month, but most have fixated on things that were never said. I am sure you do not do it around your child. I am sure you don't forgo food ect to have POT. I recently got custody of my Niece b/c her parents are alcoholics who could not put her needs first. And my Gawd this is a legal substance. But when the Ministry for Family and Children called me and asked me if I would take her I said yes. My children who are 22 and 25 graduated with honours and both have good jobs. My daughter is totally anti drug. Works with children, and loves her job. My son was ADHD and the drugs they put my son on were far worse then POT. I could write a book on the side effects and stigma that went along with that. Yet b/c of my parenting and never ever giving up on him, he graduated with Honours and works hard and lives with his girlfriend in a very nice home that they have provided threw hard work. So, don't worry about some neandrathal thinking and do what is right for you. In Canada at least getting caught with a little weed is pretty much become no big deal. There are far worse things out there. And I have never once in all my years ever seen a patient come into emerg or the o.r. who has wrecked their car high on pot, or beat someone up ect. But I have seen this destruction due to Alcohol, the use of legal barbituates and other hard core illegal drugs.

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