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 Author Thread: ok boys which do u prefer boobs or butts?
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 128 (view)
 
ok boys which do u prefer boobs or butts?
Posted: 5/28/2009 1:00:09 AM
Booty is generally preferred by lots of men, myself included but generally unless the flaw is huge men will focus on the positives rather than the negatives. I wouldn't waste your time worrying about your boobs since I seriously doubt you've ever put a guy off for lack of physical attractiveness. If you get all neurotic about your chest though you might.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 95 (view)
 
Is it possible to 'tame' a man?
Posted: 5/5/2009 8:18:17 PM
I have yet to meet a woman who'd smarten up purely because I asked her to, I severely doubt any man is going to change because you try and force him to.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Momma's boy's and Whine tits
Posted: 4/19/2009 5:05:48 AM
Because we hide from men like you OP. You scare us, if I didn't already live in Canada, far far away from you, I would have moved here to avoid the inevitable real life wrath you would have brought down on my mom appreciating *ss.

I'm gonna be entirely honest with you, if I'm turned down by a woman, I personally like it. It's that much more time I can invest in better, less stupid activity than listening to her tell me about how she and her friends got an ex-alocholic they know back off the wagon. (True story.) Or how she's so incredibly attached to her pubes she can't possibly date a man who feels pubes aren't all that sexy on a woman. Then never talks to you again. Plus she brought it up in the first place. (True story.)

I've personally come to a point in my life where I life being single. There's more to life than trying to have sex with a woman that's got all the personality of the contents of the trash can currently residing beside my computer desk.

Before anyone comments on that attitude, believe it or not, this serves to function well with women. At least my type of women. Go figure lol.


Oh and I agree with broncbuff on his point that it is very easy for women to tell men to suck it up. But they really don't have to go through the potentially ego destroying bullsh*t 85% of women are lead to believe is the proper way to treat a man... and each other... lol.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Should I expect so few replies?
Posted: 4/19/2009 4:57:09 AM
Can you please change your profile picture? I'm sorry but I seriously thought you were a gay cowboy fireman for a second. I'm not even trying to insult you, that was purely helpful.

Also, I can personally say, throw out there you in your entirety, if you even manage to get 1 girl interested through what amounts to a completely un-buffed and altered you it'll be 100x better than getting 20 dates with women who thought you were a super cool pimpster.

That's life. Women, your job is now to agree with me. GO!
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 76 (view)
 
When His Moustache Comes Between You!
Posted: 4/19/2009 4:53:03 AM
Playoff beards!

Yes ladies, in Canada there is no greater sign that you are a man, THE Man than a finely grown and scruffy as f*ck playoff beard to support your team.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 182 (view)
 
When did Curvy begin to mean Obese?
Posted: 4/19/2009 4:22:09 AM
Can I just step in and say while I think the BMI index is a load of bullsh*t that takes 0 actual body density and/or muscle into account, height and weight can't accurately predict anything about health or appearance, fat people are fat.

Look, I think I'm fat. I go to the gym, I lose weight, I eat... ok I eat badly but I try and eat better than basically consumable murder every day.

I agree that "curvy" is used to pretty up fat chicks far too often. If you can find a guy that likes you like that, then don't lose weight, unless you're a serious health risk. If you can't, don't blame the system, the system doesn't force guys to find fat chicks un-attractive. It's like why some guys love asians and others don't, some guys want a chesty woman and some guys want a fine lookin ass. It's why some people eat chick and some people eat beef. We're all different, but if you're not on the menu stop blaming everyone else and get motivated to improve yourself.

I only associate fat girls with lazy responsibility dodgers more than anything. "It's not my fault I'm fat!" I'm a big guy, it's all my fault. I accept it. You should too.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 110 (view)
 
Do you try Anal with a Woman or do you ask first?
Posted: 4/6/2009 2:23:35 AM
I can't tell if I'm potentially threatened or turned on by the above statement.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Do you try Anal with a Woman or do you ask first?
Posted: 4/6/2009 1:13:33 AM
From a negotiation standpoint, you gotta lead off tryin to get your d*ck in her ass with little or no reciprocation first. Only if/when she says "well ok, but I wanna strap-on your ass back" do you consider it.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Why is it so rare?
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:27:12 PM
I'm gonna be honest, unless you can see how big the guy's wallet is or how willing he is to bend over backwards for her and put up with her sh*t I wouldn't go judging it purely on appearances.

She might be a 10 in looks and he might be a 3, but she might go no farther than looks where-as he has other crap she'll provide. I'd say women are just as superficial as men, it's just that they don't always look for pure physical beauty first.


*edit* Oh and I almost forgot, I went to the UK to visit family a few years ago. It's all slender fit men dating horribly overweight and just outright hideous women. Just so you know.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 117 (view)
 
My Friend, Girlfriend was borne with a Mr. Winkler!
Posted: 4/4/2009 1:55:04 AM
Hypothetically, if she's hot, tell him to adopt. If he couldn't tell the difference after 5 years who cares!?

I mean if she has a beard and a full on*****now* then yes, I can see his predicament. Otherwise who cares. They could even ask a friend to carry his children potentially.

I also find it awesome that people are calling shenanigans on this thread. I support these shenanigans even though I don't feel like going back and reading about it.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 317 (view)
 
Is it ok for your GF to hang out with Ex boyfriends?
Posted: 4/4/2009 1:52:00 AM
There's a fantasy world where men come in and sweep women off their feet. Treat them like they are the most important person in the world to them.

The only trouble is, women feel there is no need to reciprocate. It's like it's a 1 way street.

You spend your whole life hoping for a situation where you are taking and giving back nothing, you're gonna spend your whole life alone or in seriously broken relationships. That's cool though, a lot of people do and the world hasn't fallen apart because of it.

I think I'm just asking for more than living a broken half life... romantically anyway.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 689 (view)
 
Prenuptial Agreements and Maximum Child Support payment!
Posted: 3/28/2009 9:04:59 PM
In Canada Pre-nups are only valid if both parties agree to it at the time of divorce. If she gets money hungry it ends up going to arbitration a lot of the time anyway I'm told.

So basically not worth the money it's printed on. He'd better make sure she's a hella classy woman and either won't want a divorce or wont' want to take him to the cleaners.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 507 (view)
 
Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 3/23/2009 11:45:20 PM

There's a difference between hiding something and refusing to answer something. Those are two separate things. I think it's a little sad that you seem to view people as shady who aren't completely open books and don't tell you everything you want to know whenever you want to know it. Perhaps that speaks more about your character?

Prying? Nosey? Possibly insecure? I don't know you, so I obviously can't say. But these are all things that come to mind.

Either way, inability to respect someone's requests would be a huge red flag for me to not date someone. If they can't respect my choice not to tell them about my past, there's good reason to believe they won't respect other things further on as well.



For context it's probably best that I mention I'm an open book myself. I'm looking for reciprocity, nothing more.

Anyway, i just find that when I'm dating someone (especially if it's getting serious) that if she wants to pick and choose what I can and can't know, it's a big red flag for me. I had... a few bad experiences on top of the fact I'm not a very close lipped type person.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
new cow vs. old cow
Posted: 3/23/2009 12:38:52 PM
I can't remember which movie that was, but I remember that intro. Women aren't cows. Men aren't bulls.

When I go out for dinner, I have certain places I like going and certain meals I love ordering. Generally speaking, when I find something I like I stick to it because once isn't enough to satisfy my taste for it.

Women aren't food, but it relates to how I date. I dated a girl for 4 years and I wanted to sex her up as bad the last day she talked to me as I did the first time I met her. If not even more-so. That may not be the most romantic comment, but the point is unless sex is bad, men probably won't be back. If it's good, it's unlikely he'd pass it up a second time.

If a man isn't around for a repeat performance, it's either terrible sex or quite possibly personality traits that don't interest him. I've known tons of annoying women I'd have sex with, but wouldn't want to ever date. I don't know you, I don't know what kind of person you are or type of men you attract/are attracted to, but keep in mind that 1 nighters don't lead to relationships for a multitude of reasons.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 498 (view)
 
Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 3/23/2009 11:50:31 AM
You'd think ignorance is the same as history un-writing itself. At the very worst, a horrible inflated number is going to cause me a week's distress. Hiding things or an outright refusal to answer is going to speak more to your character and probably nag at me for far longer.

You ever have someone lie to you, say they're at work but really they were watching sports with their buddy? Watching sports is harmless enough, but the fact he lied to you or felt "you didn't need to know" is harmful.

Do what you want in your relationships, but don't get antsy when people lie to you or hide things they don't think you need or deserve to know about. After all, they're really breaking new territory here.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 803 (view)
 
Your Pet or YourRelationship?
Posted: 3/20/2009 9:18:41 PM
I'm allergic to dogs. I'd probably just avoid wearing contacts around them, take plenty of allergy medicine and try and deal with it.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 364 (view)
 
Do men feel anything when they have sex or are they emotionless?
Posted: 3/20/2009 7:46:10 PM
I loved a woman, I sexed her up and never thought twice about feelings during sex. Maybe before, mostly after but at no point was I particularly sure as to why putting my "p in some v" (lol) needed emotions to be involved. The only time love came into it was when I was keeping my hands off of *other* women.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 238 (view)
 
New law makes it legal to sue homewreckers.
Posted: 3/20/2009 7:42:44 PM
For all of you suggesting you "Sue the spouse" as far as men are concerned that is the entire concept of divorce. There is zero chance of most men making it out of their marriage with a full wallet.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 195 (view)
 
Scarlet letter to identify an HIV or AIDS carrier?
Posted: 3/5/2009 3:04:34 AM
So what? Having a disease isn't a crime.


Having a disease in and of itself isn't a crime, passing that disease along to other people because you're unwilling or unable to tell them about it for whatever reason is in a lot of places.

Tell you what, if you slept with a woman and she serves your cheerios for breakfast that she neglects to mention are poisoned I doubt you'd be saying "Keeping poisoned cheerios in your cupboard isn't a crime."

Of course it's not a crime, until you start giving it to people.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 478 (view)
 
Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 3/5/2009 2:56:06 AM
Really, if you're not ashamed of your actions (which most people are saying they aren't) who cares if someone knows about your sexual history?

If someone asks I'd tell them, for all you know they might want to date someone with 20+ partners or maybe they want a virgin, whatever the case if it's worth while they will deal with the truth. If it isn't, they won't and you'll at least never have to worry about it coming out and ending further in.

Bunch of weak secretive crazies in this place.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 467 (view)
 
Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 3/4/2009 12:40:40 AM
If you're trying to say that getting drunk is akin to breathing then you sir might need some AA meetings...

His analogy was sound. I wouldn't date a pornstar expecting her to be mine and mine alone.

I wouldn't date a bar star thinkin she's only had sex with a few hundred guys and i'll be the last one.

If I dated one, I probably wouldn't think about it at all, but I would probably be none to surprised if the worst happened. By worst, I do mean listening to your inappropriate analogy of how inappropriate m_church's analogy was.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 192 (view)
 
Scarlet letter to identify an HIV or AIDS carrier?
Posted: 3/4/2009 12:28:18 AM

What I'm trying to say is branding people simply because they have a disease would make us no better than the Nazis.

The OP was saying we should brand everyone who has AIDS or HIV. Not just those who are infecting people without their knowlege.


Aids is potentially lethal to sexual partners, being Jewish is not.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
How would you take this?
Posted: 3/3/2009 2:24:49 AM
I dunno why you wouldn't just tell her how the lovelife is.

To be honest, I've been set up before. As much as my neurotic non-confidence in myself likes to feel like I'm the one being done a favour, occasionally you're gonna meet the girl and she won't be all she's cracked up to be.

You're agonizing way too much over this, to be honest she's into your or she's not, but if she is she'll probably struggle to let you know twice as hard if you don't realise it.

More to the point, she's just talkin, maybe you should try just answerin.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 22 (view)
 
I like to watch her face when I'm going so deep it hurts
Posted: 3/3/2009 2:14:10 AM
What's missing from this thread is someone here to say something like:

"I like to watch her face when I'm going balls deep and she looks at me dissapointed because I'm hung like a cashew."
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 187 (view)
 
Scarlet letter to identify an HIV or AIDS carrier?
Posted: 3/3/2009 2:03:27 AM

Hmmm branding people? Can you say 3rd reich?


Not really.

Unless you're trying to say Non-Aryan people having kids is the same thing as passing around aids.

I really hope that's not what you're saying though.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Wants to cheat. Do you?
Posted: 3/1/2009 11:42:49 PM
Look, I turned down a girl once that was dating a guy I didn't know but sounded kind of like a douche bag from waht I heard.

So I'm pretty likely to tell her to shove off if the guy was someone I knew. I'd be more concerned about whether or not I tell thei S/O or not.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 308 (view)
 
Is it ok for your GF to hang out with Ex boyfriends?
Posted: 2/26/2009 6:45:10 PM

Sorry, but friends always come first


And they say romance is dead...

Look, do what you want. I'm not tryin to date you afterall, but please... do yourself a favour and at least keep that comment from slipping out next time you're on a date.


For a lot of men, after a relationship sours, the only thing left is sexual attraction. Hell, I can't stand my ex girlfriend but to say I'm not still attracted to her would be a stretch.

Be friends with your ex, or not, I don't really care. I just want you to understand that if you had a fight with your boyfriend, you ran to your friend to talk about it... your ex, well that looks bad already. What's worse is, if in a moment of weakness maybe that sparks a bit of sexual attraction again for you, well... he's not going to turn you down even *if* he's enough of a decent guy to not be pressing for another round in the first place.

Just don't be so sure you're the "mature" partner when basically your stance on the issue is "I will maintain close friendships with my old sexual partners inspite of the way that makes my current partner feel." If nothing else that sounds at least as petty as complaining about it. At least.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 275 (view)
 
When is taking a drunk girl home from a bar and having sex considered rape?
Posted: 2/23/2009 11:56:31 PM

just a hint:

your 'opinion' of what 'should be', and even a consensus of "POF opinion" will not account for a fart in a hurricane in a court of law.

so if you want to fukk a drunk girl and she decides to have you charged with rape, go ahead and whine that the law 'should be' different.

see ya in 10 to 20, then?

the law is the law..not always 'right', 'fair', or 'logical'..


If you're telling me this because you think I don't know, you're mistaken. I don't think justice is always just. I'm not on here claiming that I can have sex with all the drunk girls I want (and I won't anyway) and nothing can happen to me. I'm in arguing that the morality of the law and the bias of the law is unfair.

The fact is they say justice is blind, but sometimes (yes, in the case of Karla Homolka or more recently in BC Kelly Ellard if you followed that) Lady Justice is busy checking out the rack and gets a bit leniant.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 256 (view)
 
When is taking a drunk girl home from a bar and having sex considered rape?
Posted: 2/22/2009 1:19:06 AM
Here in Canada you gotta pass a breathalyser, not walk a straight line. Besides, I know people that can barely walk a straight line sober.

Besides, I think I can complain against a crap law with biased representation and an ambiguous modifier.

I told you what is considered drunk, anything from .08 blood alcohol and up impairs you from driving and there-fore, from "consenting".

I also told you, if you're smashed and run up major credit card debt, possibley on the internet where nobody can tell your sobriety, they aren't going to sit there and say *after you've taken advantage of the sevices* "well, the thing is, I was drunk so give me my money back."

I'm not being nasty with you, I'm being sarcastic because it helps me feel like a big man on the internet. I'm not using ambiguity, you're saying "We're talking about drunk people." well laaa dee daaa, the word isn't an industry standard. "Drunk" is like "Insanity" it's used to define a state of existence, but there's varying degrees. Continuing to argue with you when I know the result already is insane, it doesn't mean I'm going to be institutionalised. Just like because you can walk a straight line doesn't mean you're sober.

Besides, how are you going to tell if a person was drunk *after* 24 hours? Unless he had court signed documents to attest to her sobriety after the fact, it's all about he said/she said.

Grey area in criminal justice is deadly. You should know that.

Today's Society relies way too much on diminished responsibility. It's everyone else's fault but our own because lets face it, we're all infallible.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 276 (view)
 
Is it ok for your GF to hang out with Ex boyfriends?
Posted: 2/21/2009 6:39:30 PM

soul man,
seems like you have had some issues, and i think girls/guys night is very important ESPECIALLY for people in long term relationships, if you spend 24/7 with that person, live with them, talk with them everyday, you need your time away, your friend time, if your s/o comes for that, it dosnt end up being YOUR time away,
my friends have always been there for me, and just because i end up in a long term relationship dosnt mean i wont be goin out by myself like ive always have and going to party with them.
thats one of my BIGGEST pet peeves is as soon as someone gets into a long term relationship , their friends take the back seat, and i never see my friends JUST them, its always with their bf/gf, and its not the same. you have to keep in mind, friends have always been there for you, that new man in your life might not be,


I don't think the fact you're spending time with your friend's is the issue, it's more about who it is specifically and the activity involved. But if your boyfriend was hanging out with someone who wants naked time with him, even if he told her no often, you'd be angry with him. The fact is, keeping someone around that's a potential "mistake" in the making isn't advertising your quality.

I had an ex-girlfriend who's friends tried to get her to cheat on me. Imagine you're in that position and instead of a hockey game, your boyfriend who's friends want to see him share his****around are now in a bar and half drunk.

Also, more specifically, if you're gonna put your friends first and boyfriend last it's not really gonna surprise me if he doesn't stick around forever. I'm willing to bet you don't put the same level of scrutiny on the honor and value of your friends that you put on your boyfriends anyway.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 49 (view)
 
32 years later: Asking to much to ask for pics?
Posted: 2/21/2009 12:04:13 AM
Just be glad she's someone elses wife. It's no surprise her husband "would never understand" since I don't undertand any of that either.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 102 (view)
 
who recovers faster after a breakup men or women?
Posted: 2/21/2009 12:02:15 AM
My ex-girlfriend was over our relationship so fast she started dating someone while we were still seeing each other. I however took probably about 3 years to get over it.

Heh, actually, not that I think about it I dunno if she got over it that fast. She still tries to talk to me like we should be friends or some bullsh*t, why I have no clue, even if she's strokin her ego with it it clearly means she's got somethin about it in her head.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Herpes
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:41:48 PM
Well I'm gonna be honest with you, fatal or no, social stigma or no, I would really like to be herpes free. STD free for that matter. I really don't live all that hard, it'd make me feel a little like that was pointless if I picked up some herpes off the minimal partners I do have.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Jealous of Couples?
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:33:29 PM
I've been known to wince a bit when I see a happy couple doin some romantic-ish stuff.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 252 (view)
 
When is taking a drunk girl home from a bar and having sex considered rape?
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:26:06 PM
I'm gonna say 1 thing to that. We're not talking about women who probably have blood alcohol poisoning. I'm talking drunk as in, not slurring still standing, maybe a little hyper but nothing you couldn't confuse with a sugar high or a genuinely perky girl.

I'm willing to bet that the farthest anyone went to commenting on girls who are passed out/borderline passed out getting f*cked is when I said I have no sympathy for them, but yes, it's rape.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 250 (view)
 
When is taking a drunk girl home from a bar and having sex considered rape?
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:12:10 PM
I think there's a big difference between the fantasy world you live in and reality.

For started your example of "Leaving your money on the bar and having it stolen" doesn't even compare.

Something more comparable would be getting drunk and charging your next vacation on your credit card even though you really didn't have the money in the budget for it. It's a really stupid thing to do, but you made the choice drunk or not.

Nobody is stealing your f*cking vagina, you'd have to be passed out. To be quite honest, if you're prone to passing out in bars I'm more likely to tell the world about the moron I saw rather than risk aids by touching you.

I'm sorry, this is 2009, you drink yourself into a stupour and you should be responsible for what happens.

You can have your parade, your song and dance, but the argument you're basically making sounds a lot more like "Women should be allowed to do whatever they want and not be held accountable for their actions, we're equal to men but only in the ways that benefit us."

It's been explained to you multiple times that if both parties are drunk, the man will be accountable for rape. If only the woman is drunk, but barely, the case can be made he's a rapist. If the man is drunk, well lets be honest the only reason a man is going to accuse a woman of sexual assault is if she gave him an STD. I mean you go through the statistics yourself of how many active rape cases against women their are.

Since this law basically only calls into question the ability for women to handle their liquor, rather than turn all man into potential rapists, why not just ban women from drinking? Think about it, you'll never have to worry about men taking advantage of you because you sipped on a drink. I mean isn't pro-active prevention the best solution? Or would you rather risk future rapes?

For clarification, I don't think women should be stripped of the rights they share with men. I think they should accept the same responsibilities, if *anyone* feels they are allowed to put everyone else on the hook for their own actions they need a wake up call.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 273 (view)
 
Is it ok for your GF to hang out with Ex boyfriends?
Posted: 2/19/2009 11:01:35 PM
Before anyone gives you hell over that last post soulman, I agree with you and think it's pretty bad that this stuff needs explaining to anyone.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 248 (view)
 
When is taking a drunk girl home from a bar and having sex considered rape?
Posted: 2/19/2009 10:06:09 PM
Is it really impossible to believe that people hate seeing injustice? Hell, it could happen to a friend of mine or my kids some day. It could happen to me too if the woman doesn't actually show any signs of drinking. Plus if she waits a day to report it, you ever think it's her word agaisnt mine that she says she was too drunk to consent and by the time she's tested for blood alcohol level it might not be so "accurate."

Look I'm not saying stuff like this is likely, or the norm. It's possible though. The fact is I know you think men prey on women, period, end of story, that's how it goes and there's no other way about it.

There are some really horrible women out there though and they classify sex offenders all the same, 1 man was so drunk he pulled out his penis in the middle of the street and took a piss. He wasn't too drunk to consent to getting labeled with being a sex offender. However you're asking that any tipsy woman should be able to cry rape because she is clearly a victim?
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 246 (view)
 
When is taking a drunk girl home from a bar and having sex considered rape?
Posted: 2/19/2009 9:53:53 PM
Are you really going to tell me that you think grown adult women need a babysitter so they can get as thrashed as they want (or not in some cases and just claim they couldn't consent) and be literally not held responsible for any of their actions?

I mean the problem isn't that men are taking advantage of women, it's that under the same circumstances with the roles reversed women can't legally take advantage of a man. Somehow he's *always* in control. Seems a little sexist if you ask me.

Oh and I personally have never touched a drunk girl, infact if you look earlier I mentioned that I find heavy drinking highly unattractive. My concern is that women are calling rape on decent men who honestly thought they had her consent. Don't honestly tell me you want someone to hold your hand if you're going to have a few drinks.

If that's the case, maybe you should go back to the kids table.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Emotionally Distant Girlfriend
Posted: 2/19/2009 3:32:35 AM
This is gonna do some serious emotional damage to you in the long run. This is covered in the definition of an emotionally abusive relationship. Sorta... since it doesn't really sound like much of a relationship anymore.

Do yourself a favour, ultimatums won't help, just serious consider getting out of that place while you can. If you can be sure of nothing else, it's that when life gets hard for her, you will lose any kind of priority status. This behavior is probably a core trait, you can't teach her to be a caring and sensitive individual.

From 1 person to another who's been there, get out. You deserve better, you can get better and more importantly it's not your place to try and teach her to be a decent human being for relationships. She'll probably end up resenting you for trying to mess with her priorities.

Until the ghosts of christmas past/present/future bust out and give it to her muppet christmas style she's gonna be cold and hard.

You can always tell her you're willing to resume the relationship when she's ready for it if you're still available. Waiting for her to get her life in order to have a relationship though? Or more to the point for her to put effort into an existing relationship? No. Don't do it.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 270 (view)
 
Is it ok for your GF to hang out with Ex boyfriends?
Posted: 2/19/2009 2:38:07 AM

(unless it was simply a one night stand - and - yes - women sometimes do this too).


Exactly who do you think men are having these 1 night stands with? I mean... assume they aren't having them with each other, it stands to reason that women are at least reasonably close in numbers overall to men as having 1 night stands.


I usually stay friends with my ex...but I usually get banned by their SO which I think is smart of the GF...just less complications...so i think your sentiments are correct...and if she doesn't respect how you feel...then I'd consider getting a different GF...and when you think about it...they are an ex and it didn't work...so people need to move on unless they are still trying to hang onto something...in which case...they probably are not a good person to be in a relationship with then.


I agree with this basically. I saw a few women up there trying to say that after years of a serious relationship, where a person basically became your best friend, that you wouldn't want to just cut them out of your life.

Lemme tell you, from my experience *at least 1 party* has some partially unresolved issues. Long after the mystery of my ex wore off, I still wanted to give her a poke. Would I if I were dating someone? Hopefully not, would I hang out with her though? No.

You're not doing the men in your life any favours keeping ex's around. The ex's on some level most likely think you're still at least a little interested. The boyfriend/girlfriend is probably at least feeling a little like you don't really care about their feelings as long as everything's going ok for you.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 138 (view)
 
He spanked me & choked me...is he a perv?
Posted: 2/18/2009 5:53:12 PM

PS: If you think spitting isn't considered an assault, try spitting on a cop sometime. Just make sure to call me first because I want to be there to see his reaction.


Try spankin a cop some time. Or maybe givin him some love taps, hell get right in his face and choke the officer while you call him/her a filthy slut who just loves your****

I have a feeling that's gonna go down as well as spitting.

I think the point he was trying to make is that 1 degrading act is somehow worse than another degrading act and it was arbitrarily chosen by the masses who can't even agree on what's otherwise acceptable.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 127 (view)
 
He spanked me & choked me...is he a perv?
Posted: 2/18/2009 3:19:42 AM
Man... people call me cynical.

Missionary forever might be more your speed, but some of us like a little flavour.

There are women that are into things you seem disgusted with, there are also a significant number of women who engage in infidelity. So speaking about your assumptions about genders there, you're painting a very bleak and innacurrate picture.

I agree with 1 thing and 1 thing only, I don't think about love when I have sex. None at all, I don't even think about love when I kiss a woman. I think about love when she's there for me when I need her, or if I ever feel compelled to betray her in some way. I keep my penis in my pants for her sake, not my own. What's 1 more, I generally in the past have lusted after the female counterparts as much as I loved them.

If I want to bust a nut all over the face of a woman, are you insisting I hire a prostitute instead of just asking the girl I pretty much expect to do everything else with? Honestly, you're gonna push a lot of men out of the picture, decent men who just want something off your narrow and arbitrary list of acceptable behaviors.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 248 (view)
 
Is it ok for your GF to hang out with Ex boyfriends?
Posted: 2/17/2009 11:03:11 PM
To be quite honest, it's the fact that you're expecting me to wear a smile while staring a man in the face you had a relationship with, who might know more about you than I do, that you would expect me to trust both of you enough to leave you alone with....

Look, I know you want to say you're a saint. None of us are. I'm not asking you to lock yourself in a room outside of the time you spend with me, I'm asking you to pull your head out of you ass for a minute and think what you'd say if I hung out with an ex girlfriend who's seen the buisness end of my****more than once.

Even if you trust me, you know she could get catty and want to break us up just for the sheer ego boost it would provide her. Infact, knowing her as I do, I guarantee if I were to talk to her during a relationship I'd want my girlfriend there.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 219 (view)
 
Anyone miss sex with their ex?
Posted: 2/17/2009 3:36:52 PM

I miss sex with my ex largely because I am not having *any* sex now. Once I find a good partner, I will focus on him, so my fond memories of my ex will have no bearing on any current relationship. I suspect this to be the case for many of the people posting here.


lol at the reply justifying the complaint from the other thread.

Anyway, I make no appologies for wanting another ride on the ex-train, I also don't speak to her and wouldn't want to be left alone in a room with her. Especially if I was dating someone. I don't expect anyone to trust me with someone I used to stick it in.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
Woman and mind games
Posted: 2/17/2009 3:32:45 PM
All I'm saying Clikychickie is that at least you got a good look at his penis.

Women will basically get close, flirt, blue ball you and then leave you without actually having seen or touched much of anything.

Or, more to the point. I knew a girl, I worked with her. She flirted with me every day I saw her, she would just show up if I was on her floor and start flirting. I decided I'd give her my number.

She never called me and she glared at me for months after that. Luckily I didn't see her at work all that often. Explain to me how giving your number to a woman who flirts constantly is a glare worthy offense?

What's sad is, this is 1 in a long string of questionable behavior I have been stuck with by women.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 515 (view)
 
Starting to get turned off with shaved women
Posted: 2/17/2009 3:25:12 PM
is there anybody left under 45 who actually has ANY hair down there at all today?


I knew 1 girl that had plenty, the fact alone I'm of the opinion that it's better hairless prompted her to never call me again. She actually tried to tell me it would look better to me with hair. I laughed a little at that reasoning.

For every 10 "normal" people, there's at least 1 person who's incredible attached to the idea of pubic hairs.
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 82 (view)
 
This ain't my first rodeo!!!
Posted: 2/17/2009 1:49:51 AM

Yanno, hard as this might be for you to believe...some of us do know our a$$ from an onion...guess which one I am.


Uh... the onion?
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Woman and mind games
Posted: 2/17/2009 1:15:01 AM

Sorry but I have to disagree with that. Unfortunately there are both men and women who play games (and tease!). My personal experience with this was, being contacted by someone who was the ultimate game player ( no, I didn't know it at the time), but who seemed "normal". Said he was looking for just one person to date casually etc and said he wasn't a game player nor a player.. but then proceeded to send all sorts of pics of himself (without my asking for them by the way) including several pics of his junk. He said he wanted to meet me but in the next breath talked about this other "hot, young chick" that insisted on meeting him lol... very impressive, no? Needless to say, I passed on meeting him and after protesting a few times that he wasn't playing games, actually admitted that yes, he was playing with me. He threw in a couple of juvenile insults (which I'm sure were supposed to sting but didn't) and then signed out. So there you go, not all the game players are women!


I think what you don't understand is that some of us would be happy getting pictures of some attractive girl naked. That guy earlier was saying that women do it purely as a self esteem boost, where-as men are looking for something.

It might be a relationship, it might be a sexual conquest but whatever he's up to is a means to a very plain and simple end. There aren't many men that flirt with women purely to stroke their ego.

I know I don't, I won't flirt with a woman unless there's something to gain from it a bit more substantial than saying "hey some girl totally smiled at me today."
 explosivesheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 161 (view)
 
Hygiene and intimacy (sexual)
Posted: 2/16/2009 2:35:03 AM

Napoleon sent a note to Josephine while away on a campaign.
The missive said "I'll be home in 3 days. Don't bathe. "


Dude's a freak, you have to be to try and conquer Europe. However for us, less empire loving folk, we prefer our women bathed.

Or at least I do.
 
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