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zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Why are most men looking for Friends with Benefits? Posted: 10/3/2007 2:31:12 PM
^^^ It def can't be single gender. But it's really a question of morality. How emotionally in touch is any given person. WHat do they find to be the most important thing in life. What values do they hold? It also comes to how you define a relationship. If you call them a friend and you hang out with them etc.. I think it's just an excuse to skirt the responsibilities of a relationship. THink about that one... Me for example. I find sex to be a very emotional and spiritual act as well as physical. So anytime I do the deed, I start to become even more onvolved with a person thatn I was before. So FWB is out for me. I just find sex to be a little bit more important than that. But I suppose if someone sees sex as just a "good time" and can do it no strings attached (though I honestly think more often than not, someone DOES become attached) then they are emotionally shallow and have some issues they need to resolve before they can be in a serious relationship. ANd dating a girl that's still friends with a former FWB? Can't do it. It's just... weird...

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Does my screen name make you think I am talking about money? Posted: 10/3/2007 2:14:43 PM
You shouldn't worry too much about it. Cause if a guy that YOU would be interested in, really wants to know you, he would have read your profile through and realized what exactly you mean. In essence, your profile name is just another filte, albeit a small one, but a filter none the less. So good luck and happy hunt--- errr,

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Why are most men looking for Friends with Benefits? Posted: 10/3/2007 12:01:25 PM
Do you women really find all these men looking for FWB? And to think I thought I was normal in wanting an LTR. I can understand that maybe once, two friends who barely talk of opposite sex maybe hitting the sack once. But ongoing? It really isn't that different from a relationship. Actually, it seems to be the perfect example for a bad one.... Life is too short to do everything. So, I want to find that one person I can do everything with :P

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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date a girl who doesn't believe Dinosaurs existed? Posted: 10/3/2007 8:00:44 AM
Wow, so she feels that way about dinosaurs. Or someone thinks the moon landing was a hoax. Are you going to judge an entire person, based on one idea as ill informed as it might be? I mean, if they (other than that) are fun to be with, look good, etc? Now, if the dinosaur thing was just a prelude to bashing on the head about religion in general, then yeah, she needs to find someone more in tune with her beliefs. But seriously, grow up people.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Difference between pc chating and outside Posted: 10/3/2007 7:39:05 AM
The most important thing about online dating, is it shouldn't be taken seriously. I don't. I focus more on outside, but should I meet someone online, what's the harm? Meet somewhere public of course ;) And in regards to quality sarcasm... DOn't read too much into it. I was just saying, sometimes poorly thought out sarcasm doesn't come out right. Sarcasm police? Hardly. But if someone doesn't get it, what are ya gonna do?

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Difference between pc chating and outside Posted: 10/2/2007 9:24:55 PM
Oh I know sarcasm. When it's actually quality. There is sarcasm, then there's wtf is he talking about?

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Why do stunning women go for geeks Posted: 10/2/2007 9:20:11 PM
Haha, I wish. Suzuki sv 650. THough I'm gonna mod it some. Duals head lights, rear cowl, and straighten the bars. A street fighter... But so I don't lose topic :P Yeah, I was working earlier, and saw this guy who was a bit hefty with this rather gorgeous girl. And it might be alow self esteem thing for me, but I've had a fe w that I thought were out of my league. But an air headed bimbo, ugly or attractive, I don't really want to give the time of day. Cause it just gets so boring...

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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A new type of dating site... Posted: 10/2/2007 9:02:01 PM
^^^ greeneyes Wow, I think that pretty much says it all. Best part? They pay 10 bucks a month for that...

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money Posted: 10/2/2007 8:43:41 PM
It should not be a matter of how much he has but how responsible he is with what he DOES have. If a guy is flat broke, he is that way for a reason. a) blows his money on the most inane things b) a financial crisis maybe arose. Me? I work retail right now, but you know what? I plan on being responsible and stable in my job for now, which means, I will get raises and promotions. Sure I might JUST BE a manager a few years from now, but they actually make a good bit of money. But that's a long time from really. Going to attend college soon, to keep my options open.

zerombie

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Why do stunning women go for geeks Posted: 10/2/2007 8:40:09 PM
^^^ 20 years later I mean anybody... I've said before, I'm no Brad Pitt , but damn if I'm not one helluva a guy to be with. Right now and twenty years from And since looks always fade (less you're George Cloonie it seems, damn him) what's really gonna count is the personality. Heh, Rednecks with dynamite... When I hear people nowadays regarding looks, I'm always wondering what exactly they find attractive? The commercial ad guy (or girl?) That famous athlete? I'm more down to earth than that I feel, so what attractive for me is not a bar that was set by the media.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Dating Intimidation… Posted: 10/2/2007 8:33:39 PM
On that first date, as soon as you see her... You lock eyes... Straighten your stand... Walk over there with confidence... And when you know you have her attention you say.............. Wow, you got DOUPED... Seriously, whatever happens happens :P

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Why do stunning women go for geeks Posted: 10/2/2007 8:02:26 PM
^^^ I don't discount what you say (and not just cause I've been described as a geek/dork at times (hopefully in a good way). But you prove where personaliy really counts. 20 years later, right?

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Ordering food Posted: 10/2/2007 7:45:09 PM
A lady order my food for me? Taking charge like that? Kinda hot actually. I mean, like it was said before, if she ain't showing red flags elsewhere, I would not mind a bit.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Profile Review please.... Posted: 10/2/2007 7:37:59 PM
Awww... If I were a girl... Haha jk. Well written. THough if you are avoiding the player type I would leave out the bit about owning your own place. They might see that and nothing else. Maybe just say you are very stable, or something of the sorts, ya know? Other than that pretty good. What kind of fish is that?

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Why do stunning women go for geeks Posted: 10/2/2007 7:26:42 PM
Does this mean I can finally admit I'm kinda geeky? :P Hey, seriously, I think it's awesome. Gives me a spark of hope anytime I see a "geek" with a seriously attractive woman. Let's me know that the jocks don't always win

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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A new type of dating site... Posted: 10/2/2007 7:23:53 PM
Hmmm... Too bad it isn't free. I'd have to get a pic of one of my friends that looks good, then star turning down those "hotties" left and right. Malicious.... I say let 'em do what they want. I for one find that to be so faaking shallow. Two, if some force in Hell convinced me to actually do that, I don't think I could handle the blows the me self-esteem. Imagine how many people will find out they aren't really that hot? Oh, the possibilities...

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Dating Intimidation… Posted: 10/2/2007 12:02:01 PM
^^^^^^ Yeah, if someone "out of my league" still continued with the date? Ride til you run out of quarters (And nice bike dub)

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Weight and Sex Posted: 10/2/2007 11:02:23 AM
"always try think i'm the sexiest person in this whole wide world it's not true, but who would think that if i don't?"\ chantelle I beeeeeeg to differ ;)

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Can't be friends Posted: 10/2/2007 10:48:45 AM
Maybe some guys have a enough friends? I have plenty of female friends myself. Why have one more tom remind me I'm still single? Maybe he said ya'll could be friends so it wouldn't dissuade you from meeting him. At any rate, he has not been bugging you to "try it again", "maybe it will work" so be happy with that. And I'll be honest, if I go on a date and felt something serious but she didn't... A friendship would be akward for me. However, if neither of us felt that chemistry but still enjoyed each others company, then what the hell. Hang out occasionally.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Would you sleep with him? Posted: 10/2/2007 10:33:05 AM
It depends. Do you want to sleep with him because of the memories, or because of hope for a future of you two? Risking based on the later is just that; a risk. He doesn't sound like he knows what he once. But if you want to lose your virginity to him for what he has done, then go for it. Just don't expect much in the future based on his attitudes. Also, is he a virgin too? THis would make a big difference. And here's something I have learned from a few female friends. They gave it up because they thought the guy would be there forever. And they now have regrets. Best of luck to you however it turns out.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Dating Intimidation… Posted: 10/2/2007 9:40:41 AM
Here is my exp with my ex fiancee; We met online through a mutual friend (who I knew well in the military). We talked for a long time, shared pics etc. She was great. So, I decided when I take some leave again, I'd bounce over to her state. When she was waiting for me in her truck, I was floored. Her pics didn't do her justice and I just felt she was wayyyy outta my league. But I went through anyways. Why? Cause I believed in myself. She knew ME and not some pic anyways. Well, we got engaged several months later, though we had some problems later on. Coincedentally I wasn't re-enlisting, so it was the good byes from her. Lookin for a sugar daddy I suppose. Happens a lot in the military... ANYWAYS, yeah, maybe I'm just confident, but hey, if I snag some one out of my league for a date, I'm gonna enjoy myself

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Can finally post... Posted: 10/2/2007 9:29:48 AM
Haha, it was actually more of ajoke really. But I have thought about it and I guess I should lose it :P Thanks again.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Can finally post... Posted: 10/2/2007 9:24:46 AM
^^^ Thank you very much. THings like that always make for a better day I think.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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it's time for a profile review Posted: 10/2/2007 9:17:06 AM
Wow, even at 48, I want to check you out now. Seriously good profile. I liked it much. What's geocaching anyways?

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Ladies please review me! Posted: 10/2/2007 9:03:13 AM
^^^ OP, isn't it sad how people come onto these sites based on friendship, just to bash random people? I know you asked for the ladies, but why not have opinions from the full spectrum? I thought your profile looked pretty good. To the point

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Can finally post... Posted: 10/2/2007 8:58:35 AM
Yeah I noticed a lot of views... But few responses. WHy come to the profile review area if you ain't gonna help a guy out? Def not asking if you thin k I look good. Just seeing if my profile is a good read, ya know? Preciate folks.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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threesomes: do they ruin relationships? Posted: 10/2/2007 8:38:35 AM
I think IF anyone were to follow though with it, it would have to be with a complete stranger from another STATE. And I think both parties have to talk about WHY they need a threesome. Personally, I'm not into the whole idea, but 15-20 years from now... Who knows, right?

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Weight and Sex Posted: 10/2/2007 7:27:25 AM
Personally, unless a woman has been wearing a snow suit the whole time I've known here, I already have an idea what she looks like. And if things go that far, obviously such trivial things as love handles isn't gonna bother me. I see someone I find atractive in clothes, chances are they still look good out of clothes ;) Now GUYS are the ones that have to worry. -body hair -pecs turn out to be funny shaped man boobs -woman was only looking for a 12 incher :P -etc Not only that but I don't think guys wear clothes like women do in the first place

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Can finally post... Posted: 10/2/2007 7:18:58 AM
Hah, that vwgole bit about "just being honest" makes me wonder. But point taken. New pics going up I guess :P

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Can finally post... Posted: 10/2/2007 6:04:51 AM
Okay, Jeffrey Dahmerish... And I guess you meant that as constructive critism, but it would help to how you came to that conclusion. Cause, I have no idea what you're talking about.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Difference between pc chating and outside Posted: 10/1/2007 9:04:15 PM
Can't speak English in Australia? And are you sayin cause I'm from the US, I'd abuse the government's social welfare system?

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Difference between pc chating and outside Posted: 10/1/2007 8:47:09 PM
Honeslty? I hopped on to the Australian forums in the hope to swoon some girl over with simple text, so she would be into me enough to help me immigrate over there :P Yeah, the forums are fun though. I don't expect anything from it, nor care for people's opinions. I think the internet really shows humanity's uglier side at times. I was serious, though, kidnap me and take me to your country

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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I am in desperate need of a review Posted: 10/1/2007 8:20:44 PM
I think it looks great. Though a bit long winded. Only problem with that is, well, there is a lot to read online already you know? SHort and to the point is great. Have a lot of interests listed, which is great. I should probably fix that on mine in fact. But yeah, if I knew you'd be interested, I'd definitley chat you up a bit ;)

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Can finally post... Posted: 10/1/2007 8:15:59 PM
Forgot to add, I wouldn't min d alittle ego stroking, so if there is anything good to be said , I would love to hear it :P

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Can finally post... Posted: 10/1/2007 7:44:39 PM
I'm more curious really, how everything looks. Constructive critism is always nice. Versus flaming of course. And this is just me filling in the two hundred character reequirement.

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Penis Pride Posted: 10/1/2007 7:19:30 PM
^^^^^ LMAO Maybe I should start lying and say it's really small. Not only would it weed out the shallow air heads but the girl would be very pleasantly surprised

zerombie

Joined: 9/24/2007

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Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive? Posted: 10/1/2007 5:14:08 PM
^^^^^^ Frikking sweet! Hair color isn't anything. Now show me a girl with short hair between the middle of the neck and shoulder? Gets me everytime.

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