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plswan1961

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why do guys try to be friends with their exes? Posted: 10/9/2007 10:14:41 AM
Because we guys are very caring and sensitive souls, who value friendship and care deeply for all people. Even ex's. And so if we can inject a little happiness into someones life through friendship we feel obliged to do it. Or am i just insane??

plswan1961

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Ex Posted: 4/2/2007 5:49:59 AM
Give her my email address

plswan1961

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Leaving all you know behind..... Posted: 4/2/2007 5:49:18 AM
Done that twice so far...America and Germany...great time had by all and so yes i would do it again any time..sooner the better.

plswan1961

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Are people these days 'too picky'... Posted: 4/2/2007 5:46:31 AM
In a word,Yes!...you see all these profiles saying i just want someone who dont lie. Or i am just looking for a man/woman who is not gonna cheat...and that looks and other things dont matter. But then yo9u get chatting to them and find they have a whole long list of must be's or must not be's.

plswan1961

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Fears..Is this a silly one?? Posted: 4/2/2007 5:28:22 AM
Ha Ha...i think the farting and the snoring were among the most interesting bits of sleeping with my ex!

plswan1961

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Men & There Abusive Women Posted: 4/2/2007 5:14:26 AM
Been there a couple of times...always better to walk away with your hands firmly in your pockets!

plswan1961

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Guys, if you met the right woman would you consider marriage? Posted: 4/2/2007 5:11:53 AM
Well i done it with the wrong women twice now so im sure with the right one it would be great...i'd go for it again...im just a glutton for punishment

plswan1961

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not sure about something, need advice Posted: 4/2/2007 5:07:31 AM
because its you first...just immagine her as the lead singer of a band and treat accordingly...dont forget the latex overcoat though!

plswan1961

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What does this mean!? Posted: 3/26/2007 1:54:42 AM
After all the moaning and ****ing we see on these threads every day about how guys are players. How they lie and cheat. How they promise to call then dont. Here you have a guy being perfectly honest and up front about himself, and you dont listen! Christ, what do some of you girls want! Please note i used the word SOME.

plswan1961

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Why are there so many crazy women in this world? Posted: 3/25/2007 6:23:54 AM
Simple...they are not crazy women...what you experiened is quite normal behaviour,get used to it, you gonna find a lot more of it!

plswan1961

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Where are the men with integrity? Posted: 3/25/2007 6:03:11 AM
They do it for the same reason that the women do it...because they know they can...they know that there are people out there that will give them what they want even after they have been found out to lie and cheat.....too many people are willing to be someones door mat....and as long as you are, there will always be someone there to wipe their feet on you.

plswan1961

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Smiles, what do you benefit from making someone else happy? Posted: 3/25/2007 5:40:33 AM
Making someone else a little happier has a knock on effect. You make someone smile and they feel good and so they make the next person smile. You make 5 people smile today, there maybe 50 happier people in a few hours. Try it! If you read this, try saying hi or hope you have a nice day, to someone you never talked to before....brighten someones day!

plswan1961

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men/relationships/what 2 do?any bright ideas.......... Posted: 3/25/2007 5:33:40 AM
People wonder why there are so many players out there....could it be that so many people let them get away with it instead of telling them to shape up or take a walk?? Whats to think about?...Ditch the guy and move...or be a door mat for him...simple choice!

plswan1961

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broken hearted Posted: 3/14/2007 3:30:10 PM
Sounds like your guardian angel left...so i send you mine...

plswan1961

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Mentioning the ex: avoid it or be open about it? Posted: 2/28/2007 6:11:44 AM
Doomed if you do...doomed if you dont. I recently had a woman friend staying with me. She spent most of the first day asking about my past couple of relationships in America and Germany...Then later she tells me i will never get a good woman if im always talking about my ex's She then said that when she asked all those questions, i should have politely declined to answer anything to do with an ex girlfriend. If this actually makes any sense, someone please let me know.

plswan1961

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Friends and relationships Posted: 2/28/2007 3:54:54 AM
I think you are finally listening to the best advice in the world....your own. You never give up listening to advice.After all, we never stop learning. But just because you listen does not mean you have to act on it. You listen to all the advice, then you think it through yourself and come to your own decision based on all the facts. The advice of friends is usually based on very limited facts. They dont see the full picture and it is most often just their raw emotions talking. You are always your own best friend....and worst enemy!

plswan1961

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Hugs & Kisses Posted: 2/28/2007 3:39:07 AM
How many people have their partner leave in the morning and then later get a knock at the door from a police officer telling them their partner wont ever be coming home. Thats when you think that the routine kiss should have been the most important routine in the relationship. How many times have you listened to someone talking about losing their husband or wife, and heard them say " i never got to tell her i loved her ". Or " i never said good bye ". The chances of it happening are very very slim. But why take a chance with someone so important?....for the sake on 3 seconds every day to kiss and say " i love you "....is that really too much trouble? Dont let the one you love walk away hurting...you may never get another chance to put it right.

plswan1961

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Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 2/28/2007 3:24:32 AM
I think you must be looking in all the wrong places my friend...i see countless adds by women in their late 30's and 40's seeking males 18-25 and 20-30. Hope it's just sex your looking for though cos when an older woman is looking for a boy, it's not usually for a life long relationship....or am i wrong?

plswan1961

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Dating a woman who has been abused in the past Posted: 2/20/2007 2:46:15 AM
After a few months reading these threads on here, i thought ALL women had been abused in the past.

plswan1961

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How far have peopled traveled to meet a date Posted: 2/20/2007 2:41:43 AM
Uk To Colorado...not sure of the exact distance...about 4,500 miles....disaster?..yes and no...date lasted 3 years,then came the disaster.

plswan1961

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how do u Trust when U been hurt Posted: 2/20/2007 2:28:10 AM
Its a guy...everyone knows we guys are very sensitive....

plswan1961

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Domestic Violence and trust? Posted: 2/20/2007 2:19:56 AM
Over the years i have had two partners that were violent. First one started with the odd slap across the face and got progresively worse until she came at me with a meat fork...that was time to leave. Second was an ex coke addict and an alcoholic at the time so i guess that was partly my fault for going there in the first place. As far as not trusting....well, trust is earned and so i think with the right person we will all be able to trust again some day....

plswan1961

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If you had a second chance at a lost love, would you go for it? Posted: 2/18/2007 6:46:48 AM
No i dont think so...but some days i wish i could fast forward to the next one..only some days.

plswan1961

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Lies, cheat and empty promises ... Posted: 2/18/2007 5:54:32 AM
Thepolicyoftruth...You seem to be a pretty smart and grounded lady..i think if you follow your own line of thinking you will be just fine...i wish you well.

plswan1961

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Councelling in a relationship? Posted: 2/18/2007 3:43:45 AM
Looks to me like compulsory councelling would be a good idea....how many people these days really know how to behave towards their partner in a way that will keep a relationship happy and strong? And before you answer that, just look at how many complaining threads there are in these forums and on other sites too. Look at all the things in peoples profiles about no more players or head games or cheaters. In my humble opinion, it is a great sign that people who recognise there is a problem, will then go in search of a solution instead of just calling it a day and looking for the next partner with a problem.

plswan1961

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Lies, cheat and empty promises ... Posted: 2/17/2007 1:59:13 PM
I wonder if my ex was his sister....i have to be honest with you here.If you ditch the guy now i would say im sorry for what happened to you and you learned a lesson and dealt with it. But if you do the website thing with him, or even give him talking time, or text. Then i would have to say you deserve what he does next. May sound harsh i know. But in this day and age we all see this happening every day around us. So we know what can happen.We have no excuses. First time you cheat me its your fault.Second time you cheat me its mine!

plswan1961

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What do I do now? Posted: 2/17/2007 7:19:42 AM
MB58SC....you ever cheated on someone?....i ask because every cheater i ever known had the same attitude as you on the subject...they always blamed their cheating on their partner.

plswan1961

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What do I do now? Posted: 2/17/2007 7:16:51 AM
You really should not even have to think about this...once is one too many times...dont be a doormat.No One deserves that...well, maybe people who have done it to others should taste their own medicine....dump the guy...get someone better, there are lots out there.

plswan1961

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Grumpy people Posted: 2/17/2007 7:11:30 AM
Im good honey...you miss me?

plswan1961

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Grumpy people Posted: 2/17/2007 7:05:57 AM
I like simple people...simple people have pink toe nails...i like pink toe nails...now im grumpy.

plswan1961

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I broke his heart - feel soooooooo guilty Posted: 2/17/2007 4:23:30 AM
Why would you want to call him?... You admit to breaking his heart, and now you are thinking of dangling in front of him the one thing he wants and cant have. I hear this so much with a lot of women.They seem to get so much pleasure from rubbing salt into the wound. If im wrong here please feel free to tell me what other reasons there could be. And thank god only a small percentage of women go in for this sort of mental torture.

plswan1961

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Please help....I feel like SH&T Posted: 2/16/2007 3:33:00 PM
LuLu...this guy's own feelings are far more important to him than yours are...i would not even give him a goodbye...sounds like a momy's boy....you at least deserve someone who will apreciate your support and your feelings.

plswan1961

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Have you ever dated an English guy/gal? Posted: 2/15/2007 7:07:51 PM
Dated English and a few american women...now if i could just find one thats half of each, that would be a perfect date.

plswan1961

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tell me now? Posted: 2/15/2007 5:42:19 PM
Yes it is possible to start over. I know nothing of you or the situation with the guy you are thinking of. But i do know what a huge move it is to go live in the USA. I also know a lot of the risks attached to it. And please believe me that there are many. Im not saying dont do it...what im saying is plan it down to the last detail. And always be prepared for a struggle cos it aint easy... Buy hey, if you do go, i wish you all the luck in the world together....

plswan1961

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i hate being alone Posted: 2/15/2007 5:24:39 PM
I think most of the people on this site have been there...i have on more than one occasion....sure there is someone out there for you...More than one...there are many people out there...go try find one...the word here is try...dont sit back and wait for a true love to come and find you.that could take forever...go get it...if you have to weed through a thousand frogs to find your prince, it will be worth it in the end.

plswan1961

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Abuse Posted: 2/15/2007 5:20:16 PM
It gets worse...get out now...you will find love again.believe me....dont stay loving him until he damages you beyond repair...

plswan1961

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Nigerian Scams Posted: 2/13/2007 10:16:14 AM
Yeah guys get them too....from all over.Russian girls are a common one...but the one i fell for was American. Took me for more than i care to say.

plswan1961

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OK guys,,, what the heck!?!?! Posted: 2/13/2007 9:58:56 AM
Sadly there are a lot of wasters out there..how long does it take to make a call?..if he has time for off line messages, he has time to call....His loss. What was that phone number?....just kidding honest!

plswan1961

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overseas relationships Posted: 2/11/2007 7:04:04 AM
" Muffin Cake "?...thats cute!...hope im someones muffin cake some day.

plswan1961

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overseas relationships Posted: 2/11/2007 6:41:09 AM
I met an american girl online. Moved to the states and got married. Sadly it only lasted 3 years. But i have actually met other couples who have been together a lot longer and who are happy....it can work but it is a big move to make. I would say go for it but always keep listening to your head, not just your heart. There are risks.

plswan1961

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How long should you wait before moving in together? Posted: 1/25/2007 11:16:46 AM
At least 24 hours....Never good to rush into these things.

plswan1961

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Where are the facts and evidence of blowing up flights???? Posted: 8/19/2006 1:05:05 PM
maybe you would sooner have a few thousand bodies strewn all across the country before the police go knocking on doors. Have you ever seen or smelled the result of a bomb? Have you ever seen up close a man in 5000 pieces? What have you seen? what have you ever done? Most people on these forums have forgot more than you even know. There are a thousand ways of gathering evidence that just wont be released because it would not be able to be used again.You dont have the right to see or hear about it.The suspects will be presented with it because they have the right to it.But you never will.Tough shit.Get over it! I hope some day you come close to some kind of attack. and while your squeeling for your mommy and messing your pants, you may think about the time you ****ed about the rights of suspected terrorists. At this very moment in time, they are being given more rights than the rest of us in this country.

plswan1961

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Casual, meaningless sex Posted: 8/18/2006 9:10:32 AM
or you could just hump the preacher

plswan1961

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Why relationships don't survive these days.. Posted: 8/18/2006 7:41:12 AM
Many people these days are just not prepared to invest any effort into making a relationship work. They expect everything to be done for them and handed to them on a plate. I read a profile on a site once and this person had a list of all the things her potential partner had to be.I jest you not, there was a hundred things as trivial as being able to spell correctly and never wearing white socks. I cant see a relationship working out for that person.

plswan1961

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How long must a woman wait to meet his family? Posted: 8/18/2006 6:26:36 AM
Maybe they are in the freezer and he is not quite ready for you to join them yet!

plswan1961

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The problems facing men on Internet dating. Posted: 8/17/2006 7:02:14 PM
Can i have some of what your smokin?

plswan1961

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To Danni Posted: 5/6/2005 7:52:14 AM
To Danni. To love (wherever you may be) On the far horizon, the sun was dying. Bleeding scarlet into a purple sea. White cumulus, like blood soaked gauze Hung silent witnesses to the slaughter of day. These were the last words you gave to me. They are etched upon my crippled heart, Like the epitaph you never wanted. When at last I sleep the sleep of no dreams, Do not mark my place of rest with words or flowers. Let those who seek to disturb me look elsewhere. Friends in death can search their souls to find me. Friend in life will always find me in their hearts. Each night I watch the birth of a million stars And I wonder which one you are. A celestial shepherd travelling the night. Searching out the lost ones to help them find the light. Light you watched each dawn with life in your eyes. Light you bore fresh tears for at the ebbing of another day. You were a guardian of all you came across. A gift from a god who could not always be here. Giving back to those who had lost. Giving direction to those whom would share. More than an angel, you were love for those with space. You shook the bonds of loneliness from my heart. Set free my senses so I could feel and be touched. You felt my pain for me and cried away my tears. Then a pause in time and you were gone. Into the fading light till next we meet. My heart forever beats the rhythm of your name. To love, wherever you may be.

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