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Tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 421 (view)

Liking asian girls Posted: 4/11/2008 7:56:21 AM
I've only dated 2 Asian women but over the years I've known several. I've studied different Asian cultures for the past 3 years and find it to be intriguing, to say the least. I love Asian women. They are the most beautiful, romantic, sexy, loving women in the world to me. I just love Asian culture. If I were 10 years younger, I would move to Thailand and not give it a second thought.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

would you ever give your partner to a stranger for sex while you sit and watch? Posted: 4/6/2008 11:13:11 AM
No way. That's sick and disgusting. I can't imagine anyone wanting to do this.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

Snoring!! Posted: 2/22/2008 6:54:22 AM
I used to snore like hell, would always wake up tired and had high blood pressure. I had a sleep study done and come to find out I have a severe case of sleep apnea. My oxygen level would drop down into the low 80's (I smoked for 30 years). When they woke me up after the sleep study at the hospital, I felt like I was 30 year younger and full of energy! I got a CPAP and oxygen condenser that gives me 2LPM. I now wake up feeling refreshed, my BP has gone back to normal and I've lost weight. I love my CPAP!

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Married or Divorcees Help!!!!! Posted: 2/8/2008 11:29:39 AM
That's what it's all about: Making eachother happy. If we put our spouse before ourselves, we would all have a happy marriage. Unfortunately, most people are too selfish and only think of themselves. IF I were not able to perform, I would do anything - and I mean anything - to keep my wife happy. That's a major reason why so many marriages are falling apart - people are so selfish and only think of themselves and to hell with what your husband or wife wants or needs. Things just haven't been right since they put a man on the moon, I'll tell you what! "Always be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 62 (view)

What is it with the Mormon thing Posted: 2/7/2008 12:41:03 PM
Well, I don't know much about the Mormon religion, other than the general basic beliefs. I never met a real, life Mormon until I went into the Army. The first one was a 2LT, whom I had absolutely no respect. I disliked him and had nothing but contempt for him. Me and my 1SG were pretty good friends and we both were members of the Masonic lodge. When push came to shove, he defended his 2LT Mormon buddy and took sides with him - to a certain extent. Then there is a female Doctor in Birmingham, AL who is of the Mormon faith. I have nothing but love, respect and admiration for her. She is an gifted Angel, to say the least. I've played the piano in several different Protestant churches to include the "Holy roller" type churches. The Holy roller/Pentecostal type churches had no problems getting in someones face, to pressure them to go to the alter to be saved. The Mormons have always be above and beyond reproach. They have always conducted themselves in a very respectful manner, as far as I could see. Incidentally, the Holy Roller Preacher at one of the churches where I played piano and trombone left his wife of 40 years to live with a 22 year old girl who attended his church. To top it off, the were distant kin. Talk about integrity...........! Ole Jimbo Swaggart ain't got nuttin on them.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

Married or Divorcees Help!!!!! Posted: 2/7/2008 7:24:53 AM
Have you noticed that we have so many people here who consider themselves to be the moral authority. Well, maybe that's overstating it a bit. They have a set of standards that they supposedly live by (I wonder how many are living in glass houses?) and it's easy to sit in judgment of someone when you are not in their predicament. Welcome to the club. Tomorrow will be our 9th anniversary. We've not had sex in about 7 years. Well, we've not made love in several years. Back several years ago, she gave in to me a few times and just laid there, thinking of the price of rice in China. I would have gotten more affection from a blow up doll. My wife, just as yours, just does not care for sex. I guess that there are some people who just does not care about sex and the older they get the more they avoid it. Grant it, my wife will soon be 54, and she went through the change back about 15 years ago. She refuses to take hormones, seek counseling or to talk about it. It's either I accept it or we divorce. As most of you know, the process of separating and divorcing is emotional hell. So, do we choose to have a somewhat content life, with little or no sex or do we leave, in search of greener pastures? I'm going to be like a mountain stream and take the path of least resistance because I don't want the stress. Been there, done that and all the women had one thing in common: They backed a Uhual up to our house and took everything. Thus leaving me to start all over and under the pretext of supporting my children, in reality, I kept them in supply of cigarettes and beer. Thank God, all my children are grown. Last night, I was **ing at my wife about getting sloppy drunk on her off days. Then when I brought up sex, she says "Oh, here we go again, about that". I tried to explain to her how I miss the touch of a woman, affection and passion. It was like talking to a stone wall. Then she started **ing about life here in America. I told her if it is so miserable for her to live here on the beaches of Florida, she should pack her stuff because Delta is ready when she is and she can go back to Europe. My point in saying all this is that, in my opinion and based on my experience, she will not change. Period. Will she at least compromise and give you some manual sexual relief? Mine don't know how and doesn't want to learn. She thinks that it's perverted. Good luck. Be thankful that you are getting it at least once a month. Think how it will be when she decides that your sex life is over, as mine has done. I've learned to just live with it.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 753 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 2/4/2008 7:29:01 AM
Ross, after reading your history, I think it would behoove you if you were to take a trip to Thailand. You are not ugly. Hell farr, I've seen some down right ugly men with beautiful women. Your problem is not only that you that you have a social anxiety disorder, you lack confidence and have an inferiority complex. Some of these problems can be solved with medication, and the others with counseling. For immediate relief, go to the Doctor, get some Xanax then if possible, take a trip to Thailand. You have to be careful, because a beautiful Thai woman will steal your heart. You will find liars and cheats but you can also find beautiful, decent, hard working, loyal women who will love you and take care of you. If it were possible, I would be on the net plane to Thailand. Google stickman's Bangkok site and have a look. You may want to avoid the big cities and go to Udon. Don't believe me? Do a search here on pof for women in Thailand. Good luck and get yourself to the Doctor to get some help ASAP.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

Guys who dont like boobs,,,, Posted: 1/17/2008 8:52:40 AM
I like titties and I also like a nice little ass. But that don't milk the cow. I would rather have a woman with a tight muschi anyday than a woman with big ole titties.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 165 (view)

Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith?? Posted: 1/17/2008 7:00:59 AM
Why is he neglecting you? Whatever the reason, welcome to the life of living in a sexless marriage. Ask yourself: Can you accept a life without sex or intimacy? (If he can't get it up, there are otherways he can satisfy you) Would your life be better off if you were to leave him? Can you handle a friends with benefits situation? For all practical purposes, that's about your only options.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 88 (view)

Public Affection.. Hrm? Opinions on it? Posted: 1/10/2008 8:22:32 AM
Just be thankful that you at least had private affection.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 538 (view)

I've typed everything in that you suggested Posted: 1/10/2008 6:41:27 AM
However, I still cannot see any photos 205.188.146.145 172.163.109.190 I've even restored to an earlier point but nothing has helped. Thanks for you help.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 535 (view)

PICS: Images not showing up issues here...[Read the OP] Posted: 1/7/2008 9:01:43 AM
Until recently, I've had no problems with pictures. However, now I see nothing except an empty box - no red X or anything. I followed the instructions several times, deleted my cookies and even used system restore and I still can't see any pictures. I can upload my picture but it doesn't show up. I can click the box where my picture should be and it will take me to another page that shows my picture. I'm at a loss as to what to do. As far as I know, I've violated no rules.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 70 (view)

sex Posted: 1/5/2008 9:27:19 AM
when you first met why did you both decide to get together No, it was love. I don't know what happened, really. Why does she stay? She's got it made and she knows it. Besides, she is from another country and we both know how difficult it is to start all over with nothing. Would she leave if I stopped doing what all I do for her? I'm not sure, but I doubt it. She said that she would leave me if I found another woman. That way, she would be the victim (again). Every so often, I try to have a heart to heart talk with her but it's difficult to talk to someone who ignores you and stares at the wall. Everybody has their cross to bear. I guess this is one of mine. I'm not feeling sorry for myself or seeking pity.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 68 (view)

sex Posted: 1/5/2008 8:53:50 AM
I wonder what you think would happen if you stopped doing all the things for her that you do, would she just walk away? Well, the other night, I made me a little snack and brought it upstairs to the den. She assumed that it was for her and said that I should have made me something, too. She didn't say that she wanted anything. She is so used to me reading her mind, knowing what she wants, how she wants it and when she wants it. I told her that it was for me and that she can go fix herself something to eat. She didn't like my answer, at all. She had been drinking about all day. Me, being me, I told her to go ahead and eat it and I would fix me some more (of whatever it was). She told me to go to hell and pouted and sulked like a child for a few hours then, without saying a word, she got up and staggered to bed. I made her promise that she wouldn't drink anything this weekend. We will see. Many people just don't understand why I don't just walk off or send her away. I have very good reasons why I don't but it would be inappropriate for me to post such personal things here, for anyone and everyone to read. "Always be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle." Criss

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 63 (view)

sex Posted: 1/4/2008 7:43:55 AM
Thanks for you input and advice, Rune. You are always so nice, helpful and nonjudgmental. Unfortunately, she absolutely refuses to admit that we have a problem, much less go to counseling. When I try talking to her, it's like talking to the wall. She ignores me. Sometimes, if I pressure her into talking, she will just blow up and say that she can leave anytime I want her to. She is happy with the status quo: Me doing all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, driving, taking care of all the details of our life. Fortunately, enjoy it and am quite good at it. She knows that she is loved because I show it. She wants for nothing. I bought two cats for her and I often buy her nice but inexpensive jewelry. She goes to work 5 days per week and drinks her wine all weekend. I hate what alcohol does to a person!!!!! That's one of the reasons I no longer drink. I think that it's just her nature to be unemotional and prudish. It just the way things are and there is nothing that I can do to change it. I'm not whining or feeling sorry for myself. I enjoy being alone, reading, playing the piano and cooking. I am a "multiple offender at the alter of love" and am getting too old to keep starting all over from scratch. Divorce is extremely difficult, especially if you have no family to fall back on. "Always be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

Racial Dating Posted: 1/4/2008 6:30:45 AM
I don't think that you are racist. It's just your preference. I prefer White and Asian women. I love Asian culture and think Asian women are the most beautiful women in the world. I don't care for black culture. I don't care for Latino culture. The M/O of a black man telling a white woman that she wont date him because he is black and she is racist and that she must date/have sex with him to prove that she isn't racist has been used so many times - almost as often as "I'm in jail because I'm black or they don't want to hire a black man". I'm not saying that all black men use this M/O, it's just throughout my years in the Army, I saw black Soldiers use this M/O many times. I'm not saying that it's right or wrong, but I also noticed that most of the white Soldiers would not date a white female Soldier if she dated a black Soldier. The blacks would say "Once you go black, etc" The whites would say "If you go black, you can't come back". Again, I'm not saying it's right or wrong, it's just what I witnessed. I see where people are attacking you because you are married. Who are they to judge? They don't know your situation.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 55 (view)

sex Posted: 12/31/2007 12:19:51 PM
I'm in a hell of a mess, I guess. My "wife" is very pretty, has a nice personality - unless she has to do something that she doesn't want to do or if things aren't perfect for her, then she very rude and embarassing. We get along ok but have nothing in common except I like to cook and she likes to eat. I treat her really good. We've not had sex in about 5 years and only a few times a year in the previous 3 years. Sex is not everything - if you love eachother. However, there should be some kind of intimacy and a show of love. That is what's starting to get to me: The complete lack of any kind of intimacy. Why do we stay together? It's not unlike many other marriages, really. It's a marriage of convenience, pure and simple. Ain't got nothing any better, so why should either one of us leave and jump out of the frying pan and into the fire. Besides, I'm 51 years old now and sex isn't as important to me now as it was 20 years ago, so I suspect that it will be even less important to me 20 years from now, should I live so long. Just last night I told her that I was unhappy with our marriage not only because of the years of no sex but also because of the lack of any kind of intimacy at all. She just said: So what. We can get a divorce, if you want. Then I go to bed, she follows me and she wraps herself up in HER blanket, aims her ass at me and passes gas. Damn! So, yes, there are people who have given up sex in a marriage but it can be for many, many reasons, not just because you are treated well. Am I making any sense? I've had about 3 cups of coffee this afternoon, in hopes of being able to stay up to midnight tonight. I think I will take this opportunity to shut up before I sound even more stupider.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Wow.. just wow... westboro does it again. Posted: 12/30/2007 11:43:25 AM
Excuse me, but did he not say in referring to the OT verse of an eye for an eye, you should turn the other cheek when someone slaps you? Now, I know I'm not phrasing it in the exact terms and am using my Southern version but you get the point. And what about all of this about marrying your brother's wife when he dies? Let's not get into polygamy and how many wives the men had back then.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Wow.. just wow... westboro does it again. Posted: 12/30/2007 9:31:54 AM
Well, when are you going to obey the Bible and start killing homosexuals, Bubba? As I recall, the Bible also says "Thou shall not kill AND Ye, who is without sin, cast the first stone. What part of Thou shall not kill so you fail to understand? I pity Fred Phelps and his group of fanatical zombies should they ever come near Panama City Beach to protest at a Soldiers Funeral because this old Soldier will impose the rod on their ass. For it is said: Spare the rod and spoil the child. I will do as Jesus did when he ran off the peddlers, peddling their goods on the Sabbath and will drive them away with my rod and whip.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 93 (view)

Accents A Plus+ Posted: 12/22/2007 9:19:25 AM
Hey Yall, I grew up in Alabama and now live on the "Redneck Riviera" (Panama City Beach, Florida) and have a typical Southern drawl. I love an Irish accent, although I have to listen very closely to understand what they are saying - same as with the British and Scottish. For me, Scottish is the most difficult to understand.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 83 (view)

Do you believe in ghosts? Posted: 12/9/2007 9:01:16 AM
The fact of the matter is that no one knows for sure exactly what happens after we die. Everyone has a different opinion. And that's all it is: An opinion. My Mother and I were very close. When I was a child, I would sometimes cry at just the thought of her dying. When I was about 10 years old, I talked to her about death and dying and made her promise that she would, if there were anyway possible, let me know that she was ok and would communicate with me after her death. We again had this conversation several years before she died. After she died, I would sit out in the backyard, alone at night and would beg her to communicate with me. I felt nothing at all. I grieved terribly for months and months. Then one night I had a vivid dream that she was sitting on the foot of my bed talking to me. I woke up very emotional. The over powering grieving eased up after that. I sometimes feel like she is with me. This is my dirty little secret that I have never told to a soul: I have/had a half sister who I've never met. I found her and got in contact with her a few years ago and told her about myself. She was overjoyed to have a brother we exchanged pictures and she really wanted to meet me. We lived only 100 miles apart. Her husband, I believe, put a stop to us developing a relationship or even meeting. I think he thought that I was wanting money. He seemed to be a very suspicious/skeptical type person. Like I say, at first she believed me and was happy to have a brother. Then she doubted me and wanted DNA prof. I agreed to a DNA test but before we could have the test, cancer got her. Our relationship mostly consisted of arguing about paternity via email. In fact, she started to really resent the hell out of me. I ended all contact because she only had about 4 months to live and I didn't want to cause her or her family anymore stress. Oddly enough I sometimes strongly feel her presents. I will talk to her and say things like "Now you know the truth", etc. Sometimes I feel like Fred Sanford talking to Elisabeth. In all seriousness, however, it is very emotional. I just as well be talking to the wall. I guess it's only my imagination. Who knows? I've had other experiences of feeling like I was being watched but this could be only my imagination. I don't know. The strongest feeling that I've ever had was when I visited Gettysburg. It was overwhelming.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

do you feel like me about needing an affair Posted: 11/19/2007 5:54:01 AM
Sure I do. Your wife not willing or wanting to have sex or satisfy in any way will drive a man to the arms of another woman. If I didn't love my wife, I would go to Thailand in a heartbeat. I love Asian women and the Thai women love Western men. Google stickman's Bangkok site and read all about life in Thailand.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 380 (view)

Liking asian girls Posted: 11/12/2007 10:17:37 AM
Ejh, go to: www.stickmanbangkok.com and you will find some great stuff about Thailand. I would love to go there.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 67 (view)

funny how time doesnt heal any wounds Posted: 11/11/2007 7:39:55 AM
"I learned that no matter how hard you try to get over that first love of your life, its just not possible" Be thankful that you have had someone in your life that you have loved so deeply. Many people aren't so lucky. I can't even put a name or face to my real "first love". I can only see the women who have backed up a U-Haul and took everything, leaving me with nothing.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

friends with benefits Posted: 11/10/2007 10:58:00 AM
Friends with benefits can be a good thing, sometimes. My wife told me this morning that I should find someone just to keep me sexually satisfied.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

I wish Posted: 11/10/2007 9:53:56 AM
Believe it or not, I've never had one. It would be nice if I did.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

do guys like the smell of a woman's natural vagina? Posted: 11/10/2007 9:03:18 AM
Back years ago, I was at a topless club and a girl was dancing on my table. She was bending over with her butt facing toward me and she either - lost her manners and a little poot slipped out or she went number two without taking a shower and washing with hot soapy water because she smelled like doo doo. I wonder if do homosexual men like the smell of a man's natural butthole?

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

A Relationship Without Sexual Intercourse Posted: 11/10/2007 5:20:19 AM
I am married to someone who does not enjoy sexual intercourse. She is also sexually dysfunctional and thinks that oral sex is dirty and that normal people doesn't do such things. When we used to have sex - on occasion - her idea of foreplay was for me to get on do the dead and get off. I've stayed and have gotten used to a life without sex or affection - after several years of going without, it's really no big deal.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

High sex-drive/Low sex-drive. Can it work in a relationship? Posted: 11/5/2007 10:24:10 AM
That's exactly right. Even if she gives in, you will feel like you are raping her. Sometimes, being married can be a very lonely time.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

High sex-drive/Low sex-drive. Can it work in a relationship? Posted: 11/5/2007 10:22:02 AM
My wife when through the change back in her 40s. She is now 53. She has not only completely lost her desire for sex, she cannot stand to be touched and "touching me" is out of the question. She tells me to deal with it myself and to leave her alone. She refuses to talk to the Doctor or anyone else. She thinks that oral sex is not normal and a handjob is too much work and that people just don't do that kind of stuff. You will be resentful, you will felt humiliated and hurt by her rejections. If you say anything on POF just to vent your frustrations, you will be accused of whining and having a pity party - oh and also you will be accused of being a bad lover because everyone knows that "IF you do it right, she will want it". Will it work? Yeah, if you are willing to accept life without sex. We've not had sex since 2003 or so.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 88 (view)

Dear Rune3 Posted: 11/4/2007 2:14:58 PM
Your prior post, as well as this one, makes a lot of sense. You have a lot of insight and are not so quick to jump on the male bashing wagon. I spent 10 years in the Army. I am well disciplined and good at organizing and managing our household from A to Z. Not to bad mouth her and especially not to sound as though I am whining, but we are really like best friends and roommates. I take her to work, she gives me a little peck on the cheek, I go back home, clean house, do the laundry, pay bills, etc, etc, etc. I have a nice meal for her in the evenings and a nice lunch packed for the next day at work. I gladly bring her a beer or glass of wine because she works hard all day and deserves to be pampered. We watch TV then go to bed. She brings the coffee into the den in the mornings and tells me to get up. While there is no physical affection (other than the peck on the cheek) there is a mutual benefit for us both. She helps me where I am weak. There is reason that I took an early retirement from the Army. There is a reason that I am no longer able to work as a Police Officer. Right now, I am carrying the heavier load but may be a time in the future where I will have to help me a little more and I know that she would do it. She has proven that she will take care of me to the best of her ability when I am sick. You know, sometimes, we have to be reminded what our priorities are. Sex is nice but true friendship lasts forever. I could go to work at Walmart as a door greeter but I am now better suited to be a househusband. Thank you for taking the time to write an intelligent, well thought out response addressing some of the issues. It's nice to talk to someone who is intelligent, polite and helpful. Thank you.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 85 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/4/2007 12:37:49 PM
You are right, I shouldn't be talking to others about my personal problems or issues. Unfortunately, that's the only thing that you are right about. The things that you have said only shows how closed minded and hateful you are. GET A JOB? If you only knew. Have a nice life.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 83 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/4/2007 12:33:24 PM
1. P-Trish - good advice. Thank you. 2. Arugula - Telling it how it is, is not whining. I don't whine. I sometimes sulk and pout but I don't whine. I've not put my picture up because I'm not advertising or fishing for anyone. So, how I look does not matter one way or the other. Besides, I might be soooo hot, that seeing my picture might drive you insane and you would start stalking me, in hopes of stealing me away. I could give you one of my Elvis smiles and have you under my spell. Just kiddin! I've made my decision: I'm staying. I'm not going to get into a FWB situation. My choice - I stay and I do not and will not whine or moan. There have only been two things in my life that has gotten me into trouble: Beer and sex. I quit drinking years ago and now, when I think of sex, I will just play Precious Memories on the piano. I can still come here to read the forums, like I've always done, can't I? 3. Carolann - Your questions and statements are to complex to answer or address each one in a public forum. I'm not "that" unhappy. Just lonesome, I guess. Is that such a sin? I'm just airing some of my thoughts and things that are troubling me. Actually, we have a very comfortable life and are pretty happy except for the problems that I "whined" about. If she starts getting mean when she drinks, I just go into another room. 4. Jan - No, I am not a butt hole. I'm not going to defend myself from your preconceived assumptions. I will just say that I am very good to her. She has no reason to resent me nor does she resent me. Bottom line is that Mrs. Menopause paid her an early visit and there are cultural differences (making love during the day time or with the lights on was kinda kinky for her). I will continue to take care of her and pamper her because that's what I enjoy doing. Many of the men (Dan) completely understands what it's like feel so empty and to crave a woman's touch and the need to be held and to hold a woman in your arms. Many of the women here love to make all kinds of assumptions and jump on people at any given opportunity. Well, yall keep on keeping on because you do it well and it shows your true character. Arugula and Carolann: Yall calls em as you sees em. But things are not always as they appear. And I DON'T WHINE! Now, if you will excuse me, I'm going to my room and throw a hissy fit. That's about all I've go to say about that. Smile!

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

I failed big time Posted: 11/3/2007 9:31:13 AM
That's almost Greek to me. I need to keep my redneck self right here in Florida. www.panamacitybeachonline.com I would be willing to bet that y'all would have trouble with my Southern dialect.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 70 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/3/2007 5:45:00 AM
The OP mentioned sex but ....... I bet he is craving some affection. You are exactly right. I miss affection to touch and to be touched. We do love eachother, no one is having an affair. She has gone through menopause and will not see medical help. She is a stereotypical German, in many ways. She is not emotional, with the exception of becoming angry or sometimes when she drinks too much, she can say some pretty cruel things and try to start a fight but she knows when to back off. I will take a lot but she knows not to push me too far. I treat her with the greatest respect and compassion and I actually enjoy making her life as comfortable as possible. There is more to a marriage than sex. She's never been the touchy/feely type. Other than the lack of affection and her sometimes becoming aggressive behavior when she drinks, we have no problems. Everyone needs a sincere, loving hug sometimes. That's all.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 6:04:16 PM
I compromise my needs because that's just the way I am. It's just me. My Mama was the same way. We love eachother as friends. She has the better deal because I enjoy cooking, taking care of the house, taking care of the finances, etc. As far as our bills: All of the money goes into the checking account. I manage it - and manage it well. No, Army disability isn't that good but it sure helps out. She works in retail and that sure doesn't pay well but we live within our means and have a comfortable life. I don't know why people can't understand that I have no family left. If we were to separate, I have a house full of antiques and family heirlooms that I would have to deal with. I'm very sentimental and will not give up things that has been in my family for over 100 years. I gave up a lot to move back to Germany in trying to make her happy. I'm not going to do it again. This is not directed to you, Carolann - To add to my last post: I am not here seeking attention or pity. I talk to people and friends on different boards about life's ups and downs. Just because this is a dating site does not mean that I am a man whore. I spend a lot of time one find a grave dot com and we talk - not seek pity. Man, that really gets to me for someone to halfazz read a something then think that they are so high and mighty and jump all on someone.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 59 (view)

Whisper67520 Posted: 11/2/2007 5:46:18 PM
This is far from a pity party. I do not feel sorry for myself. You've completely misunderstood what I was saying. Friends have told me that she treats me like dirt and I told her what they said. He own daughter even once told her that she was acting like a **** toward me. I did not say: I think I'll just go out and get drunk and find a flop house to crash in. Read what is said before you quote it. What I meant by the flophouse remark is that that's about all I could afford to live on with my retirement. Well, I could do a little better than a flophouse motel. But the point was that I would not fit in a flophouse motel for drunks because I do not drink. I do not like the way alcohol makes me fell. Do you understand now? I've not attacked anyone here and you show your ignorance by completely misquoting me. You poor thing. Maybe you need to take some adult education classes and learn to read and while you are at it, try to be a bit more understanding and have a little compassion for people or things that you don't understand. You are quick to attack me without understanding what you have read and you have made a complete fool out of yourself.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 4:58:52 PM
Yep, and we did it. It lasted three months, she was miserable there and missed the beach. It cost me several thousands of dollars and the heartache by not being with my Mother when she died. We are the best of friends and I honestly do love her and treat her like a queen but I am being used. Goodness, asking for a little affection isn't asking too much. Friends have told me that she treats me like dirt and is so demanding. I guess you get used to it and come to accept it because it's better than being alone and living in a flophouse motel. That might not be so bad I could stay drunk but I don't like the way alcohol makes me feel. OK, here comes the part where the "He-Men" call me a wimp and other insults. I know Arugula is ready to tell me what a piece of shit I am.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 4:40:14 PM
May I ask what your choices would be?

tyronechews

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Msg: 41 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 4:25:30 PM
Retired from the Army on disability. I pamper her to death. She's got it made and she knows it. I guess obliged would be the fitting term. I'm 51, she's 53 No children Germany She does not want USA citizenship I don't think she married me just to come to the USA because she's never been really happy here.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 3:47:50 PM
Weak person? Everyone has their weaknesses. Being mean however, isn't one of mine. I do dislike liars. My wife don't care. She said if I want someone else, she will go back to her country. Thank you for your positive, enlightening input. I've always liked to read your post's Arugula. You've always been witty and so funny with a great sense of humor. My parents are dead and I have no children. I have no family left. As far as that goes, most of my friends have move away or have died I really don't think that I deserved what you have said to me but that will teach me not to post my personal feelings so that others can judge me without knowing the facts.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 3:29:55 PM
Good points and I do appreciate everyone's input. Oh, how I really appreciate it. I'm not feeling sorry for myself or whining. I'm just getting opinions. She will not see a Doctor. No way, no how, not under any circumstances. Period. There have been a few women at her place of employment who have came on to me really strong but they were either drunks, smokers or had ugly toes. We do need to feel loved and wanted and I really miss it but will not settle for anything. Why am I staying in this marriage....I guess it's because I have no where else to go.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 3:22:40 PM
Maybe I should have said what small amount of passion that was kinda there has been gone for years. Communicate...Lord knows that I've tried. I've begged her to go to counseling but she flat out refuses. I've talked until I'm blue in the face and tried to pin her down with specific questions that would require a specific answer. She completely ignores me until she gets mad then she will just say that she doesn't want it and to leave her alone.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 3:17:14 PM
We've been married for almost 9 years and she has never had to cook, make a sandwich or make a smoothie. I love to cook and I'm a great cook. Well there is some touching. If I try to touch her, especially when we are in bed, she hits my arm and tucks the covers underneath her to form a wall between us.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 3:13:28 PM
Yes, it does involve the good and the bad. All of the women where she works are so envious of her because of how I treat her, the meals that I make for her (I'm the cook) and how well I keep our house. She's got it good. Hung up on sex........Let's see, the last time we had sex was in about 2004 or so. I stopped about as soon as I started because I could tell that she was not enjoying it and I felt like I was raping her. I don't think that I am hung up on sex. I've probably forgotten how to do it.

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 1 (view)

What would you do - men and women Posted: 11/2/2007 9:37:30 AM
Suppose you are in your 50s, married (9 years) and although your spouse has never been really into sex but it has now gotten to the point where not only are they not interested sex but all passion and affection has come to a screeching halt; they refuse to touch, be touched in anyway and will no discuss it at all with you are the Doctor. In other words, you are married but living as roommates. Many would say get a divorce but why chop off your arm if your hand hurts - especially if you have no where else to go and no one to go to? How many would seek out a FWB situation? How many would leave, only to be alone in a little apartment? How many would just accept things as they are?

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 85 (view)

Ultimate Sex Partner Posted: 10/29/2007 8:30:24 AM
Pretty, sweet, clean Thai or Japanese woman - a woman who really cared for me.

tyronechews

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Msg: 129 (view)

Strange noises during nookie Posted: 10/27/2007 8:58:59 AM
About the only noise I hear is "Shut up, I'm trying to sleep", "Move over and leave me alone" and "Las mich im RUHR!"

tyronechews

Joined: 9/28/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Paris, Barcelona, Frankfurt.. Have you been ??? Posted: 10/27/2007 6:51:49 AM
I lived in the Sachsenhausen section of Frankfurt for two years. In my opinion, the best place to spend your time. Catch the U-bahn to the Romer platz and from there you will see the beautiful Dome church and the Rathaus (which also has a nice restaurant int he basement). I have an old photo from WWII from this area and everything except for the church was completely destroyed. Head toward old Sachsenhausen by walking across the iron bridge, aka Der Eisener Steg or iron bridge (my apartment overlooked this beautiful bridge) to Schaumainkai Strasse. There are museums all up and down this street that runs along the Main River. There are also boats that you can take 1/2 day trips to Aschaffenburg (another wonderful little town that makes the best beer in the world) Have lunch at one of the many apple wine pubs in Sachsenhausen. Try the handkasse mit musick - it's a soft, stinky cheese with diced onions and oil and vinegar. The "music" will come later. Careful with the apple wine. It's homemade and has a kick. For supper, I would go back to an applewein pub and try a Sweinehaxen. Man, you talk about good! Then head on down to the Heinenger brewery. They have a revolving restaurant on top, where you can sit and watch the city of Frankfurt from every angle. There are also many clubs in Sachsenhausen. If you would like more, in depth info, or questions, feel free to write. Criss

tyronechews

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Msg: 57 (view)

Have you ever dated or would you date/marry a perfectionist? Posted: 10/19/2007 10:54:14 AM
Oh, how I wish! For the most part, I've only dated or been married to trashy, lazy slobs.

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