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waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

OVER 40 and SINGLE Posted: 2/16/2008 4:19:14 PM
I am 44 and want a woman who is near my age and just as tired Very funny and so true.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 126 (view)

Just for fun: What was your first car? Posted: 2/12/2008 2:31:46 PM
1965 Mustang. Red interior, silver gray paint. My dad bought it brand new and gave it to me when I turned 16. I wish I still had it.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

OVER 40 and SINGLE Posted: 2/12/2008 2:25:18 PM
Me thinks the OP has abandoned this thread. No response from him. Maybe he was looking for sympathy? If so, boy, did he choose the wrong place!

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

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Dating Women With Adult Kids Living At Home Posted: 2/12/2008 9:24:12 AM
OP, I'm a bit confused. What exactly was the problem with the older kid? Was it you couldn't spend the night there when you wanted? Did the son not like you and expressed that to his mom? What came about that these women went poof?

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

OVER 40 and SINGLE Posted: 2/10/2008 9:22:44 PM
I think its odd that a woman that stayed at home and never had to work would want to now be single with a 4 year old at the age of 35. Wow, you think that's odd? Maybe she wanted to have a LIFE! Why is your age 10 years younger on your profile?

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Over 50 with younger kids? Posted: 1/31/2008 9:54:43 AM
I am 50 and have an 11 yr old and an 18 yr old. Some men don't mind and some men do. You're probably go through a phase where you're meeting those kind of men at the moment. In all honesty, when my children are grown and gone, I'm not going to want to deal with raising any more either. I did my time ha and wouldn't want that type of responsibility any more. I will want my freedom. I've had the opposite problem, I went through a phase where I met younger men who wanted to have their own kids. They were nice, but why get involved if you want different things in life? The last thing I want to do was start over. Could it be that there is 1 particular man who you'd like to get to know, but he's not interested because you still have kids at home? Just wondering. Hang in there, there will be someone for you who will accept you for what you're about and who you are.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Is this weird old fashioned or okay? Posted: 1/31/2008 9:16:09 AM
This may seem old fashioned but it's also practical. When people meet your significant other they also start building a relationship. It's hard on them when someone turns out to be less significant than you had hoped. The people that love you just want you to be happy. Geez, spence, that is so true from my experiences. I was dating this one guy, and everybody in my family LOVED him. Well, things didn't work out and I got hurt. And of course everybody knew what happened. You'd thought he did something to THEM. But because they loved me, he did kinda do something to them. I don't introduce my "dates" to my family any more unless I think something more will come from it. I wouldn't go so far as to say that I'd have to be engaged though. But I realized that I have to be sensitive to my family's feelings as well. And since the OP's family is very sensitive about it, you need to respect their feelings as well. As long as they don't "tell" me who I can date.......

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

Speed Dating for Seniors Posted: 1/27/2008 9:05:17 AM
Three words that do not go together; Speed, Time & Senior. I guess I'm just old fashioned. I'd rather meet someone in person. This whole internet thing is weird to me. I've had some fun, but as far as meeting "the one", I doubt that's going to happen on here. emails you have prepared in advance then just cut and paste as if you are mailing out resumes to prospective employers. That's what it felt like (all 2 dates that I've been on).

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

Speed Dating for Seniors Posted: 1/26/2008 5:52:19 PM
Isn't POF like speed dating? You click on a profile, look at the picture(s), and/or read the profile and within a few minutes or less make the decision to either contact the person or move on. Wouldn't seeing the person and talking to them for 3 minutes let you make a more informed decision than their profile on POF? I've never done speed dating, but if you think about it, you could put what, 20 people in a room at one time instead of 20 visits to Starbucks. Get it all done in one fell swoop. That way, you actually get to meet them in person and not end up e-mailing for weeks at a time only to find out there was no chemistry.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 44 (view)

Time To Date? How do we get it???? Posted: 1/25/2008 9:15:42 PM
Is Kitkat still on this thread? It was posted back in o6. Anyway, I'm a single parent too. It all has to do with balance. Too much of anything throws everything off kilter. Letting your kids consume all your time isn't good and being by yourself all the time isn't good. There has to be balance. But I agree with a previous poster, if you find someone that you click with, you'll find the time to figure out just how much you want to be together.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 964 (view)

Calling all 40-60Something Males? Posted: 1/22/2008 11:56:50 PM
I want a Cindy O and broward Forum! I could read you guys all day!!

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

Whats the best way to approach women in pubs/clubs? Posted: 1/15/2008 9:51:23 PM
We go to the bar to hunt. This is where we designated the meeting spot. When women show up, they talk to themselves! You're not playing by the rules ladies. Hmmm, ok, men may go to the bar to hunt, but that doesn't mean that's what all us girls do. Yeah, sure, if I end up meeting a nice guy that's great! But a lot of women like hanging with their women friends. Ever notice how women will dance together? I think women have a different communication and bonding with each other then men have with their men friends. I bet most men don't know this. Most women dress to impress other women (not all) and not just for men. Interesting huh? Any other women agree with that? I didn't know there were rules for going out to a bar or club. Care to fill me in?

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 58 (view)

How many women would get married again Posted: 1/15/2008 9:22:14 PM
Back in the "stone age" there was a reason for getting married. Women were considered "property" and so were children. As a matter of fact, women usually had to come with a dowery. In order to protect that property "they" invented marriage. I don't see a need for it anymore. Lots of people have children and arn't married. Women don't need to be married to buy a house anymore, plus we are more independent and can take care of ourselves. Well, most of us are. I think it's romantic to get married. But I wouldn't do it the legal way. I'd do a spiritual ceremony. I mean, isn't that what it's supposed to be about anyway? Breaking up is hard to do, whether you've got a piece of paper or not.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Which would you consider a nicer compliment? Posted: 1/15/2008 4:03:34 PM
less turned off by beautiful since it can be associated with more than physical attributes (being a beautiful person inside and out) I agree with that. I'd rather be called sexy then hot. I think "Hot" is over used especially by the young guys. And forget about Hottie.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 61 (view)

Do you really think that it's that important for me to smile Posted: 1/14/2008 4:34:20 PM
I've relented and put a picture of me smiling. What do you think? I like it. It softens you up a little. It's an addition to the manly man pics. I had to laugh though, your neice looks like a "prop". A cute prop, but a prop. Can't win huh? Kidding.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

What does this mean when you say....?? Posted: 1/14/2008 4:28:24 PM
I've never heard of that before either. At least not in this era. I would consider it a compliment.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Whats the best way to approach women in pubs/clubs? Posted: 1/14/2008 4:01:12 PM
I have a lot more respect for a man that approaches me with a 'hello, how are you?' or makes small talk about whats on tv then introduces himself. I will almost never respond to someone that says 'hey baby can i get your digits' or something equally as lame I have to agree. If I could give one piece of advise to men who do try and meet someone at a bar, pub or club? Don't try and hit on a girl who's with a group of girls. That poor **stard doesn't have a chance in hell of getting anywhere. Wait until she splits off from the group for a moment. Say hello, introduce yourself and give her some kind of a compliment. If she is in a group, after she returns to her seat, buy a round for the group (if you can afford it). If she's not in a group- see above.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 55 (view)

Do you really think that it's that important for me to smile Posted: 1/14/2008 3:37:45 PM
Personally, I don't care if the person smiles in the pic or not Sometimes people don't like their smile for some reason. If I see a picture of a handsome man and he's not smiling then I look at his eyes (sometimes eyes can do a lot of smiling). Usually the pic is too small to really see if the eyes sparkle or smile or laugh. And since that's the case with these POF pics, you'd probably be better "served" with at least one pic where you're smiling. Just my opinion.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 1:39:24 PM
Sorry, I know it sounds confusing. OK, so it seems to me (because of my personal experiences) that men seem to tell more lies about little things then women do. I wanted a man's opinion as to whether he thought that was true. And that I thought men lied more then women. Maybe if I had written it that way in the first place I'd be in a safer place. ha But after reading some of these posts, I've learned that some men yes will tell little lies to "impress" but their experience is that women will tell Huge lies to get something. Which I thought was interesting. There was also a post from a woman who had read an article somewhere on that very thing. So this turned into "types" of lying. I am very aware that both genders lie. And we all do it for different reasons. I guess I just had a bad streak of lying men. If I had my choice I'd choose the little lies over the big ones any day. Anyway, I'm sorry if I offended any men out there. I really do like men. Well, most of them. I think I've learned a lot by posting this thread. I'll be going out of town this weekend, so I won't be able to respond or defend myself (ha). But thanks to all that posted.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 10:54:43 AM
No, you're right. I personnally thought that men lie more then women. But I was also asking the question because I want to be wrong about that. Can we shake and be friends now?

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 10:32:30 AM
Then you must be dense. James P., you are obviously taking this very personnally. I'm not calling you James P. a liar. Why are you calling me names and being sarcastic? How can the line "men lie more then women" not be taken as insulting? Once again, I didn't say that men lie more then women. I was asking DO men lie more then women. Lately "I" have personnally experienced that. I was asking the men out there what their opionons were assuming that they would be "honest" about it. And if you've read any of the posts you'll see that. I'm not going to keep defending myself to you. You gave your opinion and I gave mine. Move on.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 10:09:45 AM
So put it simple.. A lie is not gender related . A liar comes in all sexes, income levels, walks of life.. YOU name it. They are there, so do I believe men lie more than women. Not on your life. I didn't say that ONLY men lie. You didn't read it correctly. Sounds like in your experience you've had more women lie to you then men. I don't think anyone should lie about anything. Plus I'm talking about small things that really shouldn't matter. Also as a foot note I do find this topic, flaming, gender bashing, compared to the other thread that was mentioned.. The other thread didn't generalize, lump a group of people together only to insult them. But hey this is only my opinion. I really am not trying to gender bash or insult anyone. I mentioned the other thread as a reference to "generalizing". But hey, of course you are entitled to your opinion.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

What is stalking as opposed to chasing? Posted: 1/10/2008 9:39:17 AM
From my experience, if a man is interested he'll let you know. (It's taken me a lot of years to get that through my head. ha) I think all of us at some point in time have done some chasing, and you know when it gets uncomfortable it's probably time to stop. Stalking on the other hand is a serious thing. Stalkers know that the person they're after IS NOT INTERESTED, but they follow them anyway. Stalkers are obsessed people who don't have their own life. IMO

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 34 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 9:11:25 AM
Yes. Just read quite an interesting survey/study on that topic and apparently your observation is accurate. Really? Maybe you should send it to the insulted poster. Care to elaborate?

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 9:05:35 AM
No it's not ok, but that thread isn't insulting to me like yours is Sorry, didn't mean to insult you.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 29 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 8:28:31 AM
Thanks yeahdutch. I don't feel like I'm completely insane now. Women are just too damn emotional sometimes. Too bad we can't combine the best of both worlds.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 8:24:06 AM
{I don't know. You're just one more bitter women looking for validation on your generalizations of men born out of your own personal ineptitude. } Wow, that was pretty harsh. Men born out of my own personal ineptitude? I'm not going to be responsible for what other people choose to do. Men or Women. I have a question....There are a lot of Topics on this forum that start out with "Why do Men...." or "Why do Women......" I suppose if I'd said "SOME Men Lie more then Women" it would be ok? It's just that this is obviously a touchy topic. So it's ok to GENERALIZE "Why do men like to post pictures with fish...." (Another thread) Everything is a generalization.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/10/2008 8:12:20 AM
{It's a degree thing. A man will lie in something like: "No, your ass looks fine in that dress". A woman will lie in something like: "Of course he's your child".} That really made me laugh! That's a good one!

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

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Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/9/2008 11:40:05 PM
[Why don't you just come out and say what you've run into?] ha, ok, lots of men who lie? Maybe I should've posted this on the Ask a Gal thread? ha Hmmm, there's an idea.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

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Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/9/2008 11:11:38 PM
{Hmm... but then... I know more women than men... so that makes sense. :p} hahaha that funny, cause I know more men then women!

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

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Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/9/2008 11:07:23 PM
Oh, and I just want to say that I'm not judging ALL men, although that's what it sounded like.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

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Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/9/2008 11:05:24 PM
Well, you have a point. But I also realize that men and women are very different. And both do things for different reasons. Call me crazy, but I think hormones have something to do with how people react and are. I guess I've been around more women who are truthful then men. Don't know why that is. And I work mostly with men.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

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Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/9/2008 10:50:49 PM
I think that if you haven't got anything other than a hunch to go on, you're just man-bashing. Wow, I love men. Don't know what I would do without them. I've found out about the lies. That's why I'm asking. And not just from one or two men. But you're right, it is a character thing.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

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Do men lie more then women? Posted: 1/9/2008 10:34:56 PM
Lately I've noticed that there seems to be an epidemic regarding men who lie. Now, before all you men get your boxers in a bunch, I realize that women lie too. But it seems that men tend to do it more. I'm not talking about the men who cheat and lie, I'm talking about men who lie about small stuff. What they do in their jobs, how many people they talked to that day, how big their fish was (you thought I was going to say something else huh?). I don't know, just silly stupid things. I guess they could be considered white lies, but usually that's reserved for not hurting someone's feelings. Of course we've all experienced the lies that go on in the profiles. What's that about? We're going to find out soon enough if we meet. Or maybe the people who lie in their profiles don't ever plan on meeting anyway. I think men lie more then women. Ok.....Blast away!

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

obsessive infatuation Posted: 1/7/2008 1:06:49 PM
57 year old male friend who has just broken off with a gal he met on POF and dated for three months. In the past month he has broken things off twice for the following reasons...... There's a couple of things here (to say the least). 1) He's only dated her for 3 mo. which isn't very long. And one of those months he's broken up twice, so he's only dated her really 2 months. Which is definetly obsessive. 2) I don't know how many relationships this man has been in but he either can't be alone or he feels like he's never going to be in one again. 3) Sounds like he likes the drama and I'm wondering if he's a pycho girl magnet. Either or any of these senarios sounds like he's probably codependent. I suggest counseling. Or, hey, he can stay with her until she sucks him dry and drains any dignity left in his soul. Sometimes that's the only way people learn to move on. eh?

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 240 (view)

Single (never married at all) men over 45 Posted: 11/3/2007 3:16:58 PM
No offense to any lawyers out there.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 239 (view)

Single (never married at all) men over 45 Posted: 11/3/2007 3:14:42 PM
This may be a little off topic, but does anyone know the history of marriage? From what I've read, marriage was invented to protect property (women, children and land) and then there's the religious aspects of it, which was what, back in the stone age sometime? I've changed my mind about getting married. I used to think men that had never been married were affraid to commit. Same with women. And I know there're still out there. Frankly I don't blame them. Who wants to have to deal with a legal contract stating that you have to stay together FOREVER or else? This is the 21st century, the old ways don't work anymore. People don't have to get married to have children, buy a house or do anything else any more. Hell, in some states you don't even get a tax break. And if we were to get our act together in this country regarding health care, people probably wouldn't get married for that reason either. When I find my last relationship, I'm going to have a spiritual ceremony. Nothing legal. And if either one of us wants out, then so be it. Better then spending your last dime on a lawyer. Thanks for letting me vent.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 162 (view)

Has your taste in men/women changed? Posted: 11/2/2007 11:26:54 PM
Heck Yeah! When I was younger I'd only go for the "pretty boys", and they had to be over 6'. But that's because I was young, insecure and stupid. Now they have to be brainy with a sense of humor. However, not necessarily in that order.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 669 (view)

Long hair on older women Posted: 11/1/2007 8:02:56 PM
Demi Moore had plastic surgery?? Well, I cut my hair ONCE back in the 80's and you'd have thought I'd had a sex change operation or something! But I keep my hair long because I think I look best that way. I think guys definately like longer hair, they like playing with it. Every boyfriend I've ever had became paranoid when I mentioned I was getting my hair cut. Relax, it's just a trim. I know I look younger then my age, but I don't think age should have anything to do with it. I've been told it's my best asset. So I'm not messing with it. It's like not wearing white shoes past Easter. Who follows that? Oh yeah......I forgot, I do.

waterlilly33

Joined: 9/29/2007

Msg: 184 (view)

Finding Out Your Wonderful BF has a Record and a Dark Side Posted: 10/22/2007 4:07:01 PM
Angel, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Something similar happened to me 2 months ago. One can't describe the pain and hurt that comes from deception of that kind. You'll get through it, but you'll get through it faster if you subscribe to what we call "NO CONTACT". Everytime you talk to him, it will be harder to pull away. No calls and no e-mailing. No Contact. Period. And another thing; It's not your fault. Please don't blame yourself for not seeing "it". Even though you gave him more chances, it's still NOT YOUR FAULT. There's a great web site called Truth About Deception. You can google it. There's lots of other people that have and are going through exactly what you've been through on that site. It also has some great info on people with personality disorders, which is probably something he has. Hang in there, you can do it! Remember--NO CONTACT. WL

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