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I don't do separated...
Posted: 11/3/2007 10:14:35 AM | wow, the next time the catholic church needs a few saints all they need to do is nominate a few of the people posting in this thread !
To start, everyone has the right to set their own standards. Period, end of story. Whether, it's marital status, religion, profession, etc. That's the beauty of free will and self determination.
What has irked me about this thread are people making assumptions and judgements on circumstances for which they absolutely no understanding. Being a separated guy I know all too well the balancing act that gets played out as you try to disengage lives. I'd love to have the paperwork all wrapped up but I'm not going to do it at the expense of making sure my kids are adjusting to the change in their lives and that the soon to be former spouse can manage the day to day things that I took care of. Beyond the "values" judgement some of you are quick to frame the discussion with, there are sound financial and legal reasons for lengthy separation processess. I'd much rather work through the details of disengaging without lawyers & judges imposing their will on a solution, and without their fees tacked onto the end result too.
The bottom line is set the standards that you want in finding a partner that complements your life but don't sit in judgement over what you deem to be "unfinished business" in another person's life. | | | |
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