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~vhdc~

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Hes my fallback guy but I want something new. Posted: 11/18/2009 10:12:46 AM
Apparently you are incapable of dealing with people honestly or fairly. However, you would expect them to do so with you? I predict you will come back here inquiring why all the men you meet are irretrievably broken.

~vhdc~

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I am breaking up with BF Today! Had ENOUGH Posted: 11/18/2009 10:03:52 AM
He is who he is and if what he is bothers you....walk away. Never try to change a man unless he is in diapers. If I was in your place I would have lost interest a long time ago. Good luck in your brighter future.

~vhdc~

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Mention of having been hurt/cheated on in profiles Posted: 11/6/2009 10:49:17 AM
Next................................................................................................................

~vhdc~

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Do I have grounds to hate my dad's wife? Posted: 10/6/2009 11:21:17 AM
Jeez, grow up and let your father try and make a life without causing him grief. He is a grown man capable of making choices. With that said you seem bent on keeping him from doing just that. and want him to be happy, which he claims to be is he a liar?

~vhdc~

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How much money does a man need to make to keep you interested in him? Posted: 10/2/2009 11:36:46 AM
Enough that he can pay for his own cab ride home when he asks a really crass question such as this. Talk about antiquated ideals, beliefs and elimination.

~vhdc~

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im soo broken hearted i dnt think i can trust again Posted: 9/28/2009 9:38:06 AM
Broken hearted over a pedophile?

~vhdc~

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Fitness and Smoking! Posted: 9/13/2009 7:52:36 AM
No getting past the smell to say nothing of what it does to your gums, teeth, heart and lungs. Got news for you occasional smokers if you light it and inhale you are a smoker.

~vhdc~

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would you date someone who suffers from depression? Posted: 9/10/2009 2:44:00 PM
No. Unequivocally no. Never again. Waiting for the other shoe to drop (and it will) is no life. I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who will not mind the challenge.

~vhdc~

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could someone interpret this, please Posted: 9/2/2009 10:03:53 AM
Plain and simple a man with integrity does not do this kind of thing. Even simpler a man who loves his partner does not do this kind of thing. Get my drift?

~vhdc~

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Am I a Pig? Posted: 9/2/2009 9:58:34 AM
So, you are getting your meals cooked, clothes washed, home cleaned and a free babysitter without having to step-up and leave the nest. Yeah, you are a pig.

~vhdc~

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When the heart wont heal...... Posted: 8/31/2009 11:57:14 AM
Lot's of good advice in this thread. You've grown comfortable as his fallback girl holding out hope it would change. Time to free yourself up for other possibilities. Good luck OP.

~vhdc~

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What do I do? Posted: 8/27/2009 10:21:05 AM
Sorry, something about your post just does not ring true for me.

~vhdc~

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she says she needs space?? How much is enough? Posted: 8/27/2009 10:18:07 AM
If someone tells me they need their space it tells me they don't want me in it. So, they get it. Permanently.

~vhdc~

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I want to start running first thing in the morning.....should I eat something before running? Posted: 8/14/2009 10:47:16 AM
I fuel about an hour before bed with a dense protein and carbs. I'm up before dawn and out the door often without anything in my stomach without issues. With that said I'm not running to lose fat it's just something I enjoy doing.

~vhdc~

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Why are Men afraid to date a lady with a disibility? Posted: 8/12/2009 10:41:42 AM
OP perhaps it's not the stutter. You state you are a smoker and a few extra pounds which for many would be the deal breaker.

~vhdc~

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Post-pregnancy flub!! Posted: 8/10/2009 9:24:24 AM
First off you have a stunningly beautiful face and I find it hard to believe that someone would be paying much attention to post baby weight. For some women they will always carry some of the flub as you call it. A lot of it depends on 1.) your abdominals pre-baby 2.) how you carried the baby. You are only 3 months out keep working your core. Congratulations mom!

~vhdc~

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Good tips for increasing iron? Posted: 8/10/2009 8:25:04 AM
A lot of this depends on the reason you are malabsorbing iron. Another some tidbit of info that is helpful: When taking iron supplements you would do well to combine with vitamin C.

~vhdc~

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Long story, don't know what to do anymore. Posted: 7/28/2009 5:38:30 PM
But shouldn't love deserve a second chance? Sigh... sounds like she has a solid head on her shoulders ...saw the opportunity and ran with it. Perhaps with the next relationship you will think before you speak. Lesson learned.

~vhdc~

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help...give it to me...have been on this site Posted: 7/27/2009 1:03:49 PM
I may regret this. You are looking for honest answers here and this is just my .02$. This "too hip" persona falls flat and comes off as well, nutty at best. If this is how you communicate it may be the reason there is no real interest. If this Aussie has been on your line for 3.5 years it's time to look for a different catch and for Pete sake use different bait. As far as online dating goes and having no luck? I do believe your profile is one big mess and hard to follow. Tone down what has gone wrong, play up the positive and better pictures are advisable.

~vhdc~

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Walking, Long walks Posted: 7/27/2009 6:56:09 AM
I'm out every morning with my dog by 3:30 rain, or shine. With that said the coldest morning I experienced this last winter was around 45 degrees. It's a little hard to get started but eventually you acclimate. For those of us who do our cardio outside the gym it becomes a way of life. Very little (as-far-as weather) will override the desire. Alone time with your thoughts and dog, does it get any better?

~vhdc~

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Something Worth the Words Posted: 7/25/2009 1:58:06 PM
Nice thought. Who cleans up the swath of destruction these turds leave?

~vhdc~

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 7/24/2009 3:26:16 PM
You're not the only anti-fat person posting in the thread. anti fat? Interesting ASSumption. What about I abhor the treatment obesity generates from the medical community do you base this statement on? You've made my point nicely for me, very much appreciated. How to stop the train wreck? Don't have a clue. Do I empathize with what seems like a herculean task for those afflicted? You bet. Do I (as one poster alluded) make fun of an overweight individual at the gym? Nope.

~vhdc~

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 7/24/2009 12:10:49 PM
"train wrecks" assuming that they're idiots for not eating less and moving more. That only perpetuates an unfair stereotype, and does nothing to help anyone. please, tell me what is not a train wreck about the obesity epidemic? You were spot on in cause and effect but you are focusing on one of many causes. You can beat train wreck as much as you like, I stand by it. Point out in one of my posts where I mention "eat less, move more"? You like to misquote.

~vhdc~

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 7/24/2009 11:01:11 AM
Before I got into the gym and started actually caring for myself... the part of me that was the "train wreck" really had NOTHING to do with my weight. "FAT itself is not a train wreck at all! It is actually a highly powerful protection device. "The "train wreck" was my emotional health. no one is disputing that health, both mental and physical is very closely related "Maslow's theory of hierarchy". Health being the foundation of his his pyramid and building upon a solid foundation of both physical, and mental well being. Fat initself if disproportionate can be the enemy. If this were not true the CDC would be dead wrong in it's studies of obesity adding to the numbers of type II diabetes (and I'm not saying all type II diabetes is weight related so let's not even try to go there) to name just one. There have been studies release by the CDC that women who are profoundly obese are less likely to be tested for certain cancers, less likely to seek certain medical attention in part due to self-esteem issues and partly they are shamed by the doctors. I find the last to be reprehensible on the doctors part.

~vhdc~

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 7/23/2009 3:18:56 PM
Missainva there are countless threads on smoking and kissing an ashtray and people refusing to date recreational drug users. This whole thread has turned into adhominem attacks and what skinny women vs. larger women can't do... with more than enough nasty comments coming from both sides. You people are the some fuddermuckers who probably ridicule some fat people when they start at the gym, Again, Nope. I'm one of those people at the gym who minds her own business and thinks to herself "Kudo's". So, what now? More often than not I see painfully thin runners with no muscle tone and think "Wow, now THAT looks really unhealthy." Either end of the spectrum is up for debate.

~vhdc~

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 7/23/2009 7:14:26 AM
and mind you it was some skinny skanky-ass old ****); just ugly. Tell me what about obesity and the associated health risks are not a train wreck? You seem to have taken the statement as a personal attack. Had you read on you would have seen that I likened the "train wreck" statement to drug abuse, alcohol and smoking all of which are health dangers and this is a health forum. You are 53 years old and you think just like a child yep, 53 healthy, happy and standing by my statement that the obesity epidemic is a TRAIN WRECK. Sadly, ad hominem attacks are what you are relying on. That is why I don't get these forums because who cares if you are a BBW. I don't care if you are a BBW.

~vhdc~

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 7/23/2009 6:26:07 AM
We get it... you hate fat people.... Nope. Tell me what about the obesity epidemic is not a train wreck? I feel the same way about smoking, drug abuse and alcohol addiction.

vhdc

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Big and Beautiful Posted: 7/22/2009 10:26:53 AM
BBW or BBM seems to be the catch phrase for "I'm not going to do anything to stop this train wreck, please love me and see past my size." Size 14 today was size 18, 15 years ago. The smaller the designer makes an overweight person feel the more they buy the clothes. As far as the over 30 crowd being larger than the under 30 crowd...NOPE, I don't think any particular generation owns the market on that one.

vhdc

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I am curious of other people's workout pet peeves Posted: 7/16/2009 3:29:42 PM
Someone who is clueless telling me how to do my workout.

vhdc

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i really need help! Posted: 7/16/2009 3:26:36 PM
Remove yourself from his life END OF STORY. Sharing his intimate details with these women is just wrong and you allowed it.

vhdc

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When His Ex Won't Get Lost Posted: 7/14/2009 11:15:13 AM
Been there. I accepted the fact that the ex was going to be large and in charge so I bowed out.

vhdc

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Emotionally Unavailable = Scared Posted: 7/14/2009 11:12:27 AM
Throw your hands up in the air and move on. For some, it's a comfortable place to be . They will eventually become emotionally available for the right person, just accept that the right person is not YOU. A not so subtle message, but nonetheless you are not the * it* girl.

vhdc

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The Wall Posted: 7/6/2009 9:41:30 AM
Oh brother..if you don't want to let anyone in then do the dating world a favor and remove yourself until you have a happy, healthy open heart.

vhdc

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chunky toes Posted: 7/6/2009 9:35:36 AM
OP have you ever looked at a picture of Megan Fox? Stunningly beautiful woman with club thumbs. Not a man on earth that would not crawl through broken class to be in her space.

vhdc

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Why, why, why Posted: 7/6/2009 9:26:13 AM
OP if a man wants you in his life you'd be in it. Why would you want to be in a 3some, this man, his wife and you? Trust me when I tell you that nothing good will come of this.

vhdc

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What now? What next? What do you think? Posted: 7/5/2009 3:47:04 PM
This man is different then any man and I dont know what it is but I have to meet him. train wreck.

vhdc

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Will I ever be totally over the sadness Posted: 7/5/2009 6:14:20 AM
really bad stuff she has done to me. any responsibility on your part? Stop with the victim mentality and wallowing, you just might get that healing you're looking for.

vhdc

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Apidexin Posted: 7/2/2009 1:01:43 PM
^^^ again with this pill Alli? If you do the research it blocks PERHAPS 5% of your fat intake. Why not just reduce your fat intake 5% and save yourself a butt load of money over time. Honestly, how hard can that be?

~vhdc~

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healthy snacks Posted: 7/2/2009 8:50:56 AM
You're the one who takes Alli diet pill to control your calories? If in fact you are the one who posted that some time back I'm wondering why you do not reduce your fat intake by 5% rather take the pill.

~vhdc~

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Effects of Supplements Long-Term ? Any Ideas ? Posted: 6/19/2009 9:43:57 AM
checkmate: ad hominem attacks are not necessary in this forum.

~vhdc~

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Any Cougar stories? Posted: 6/19/2009 9:06:07 AM
Here's a cougar story for you "stupid young BOY thinks older woman would be grateful, shot down in 2 seconds flat." No boys allowed.

~vhdc~

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The Master Cleanse... Posted: 6/18/2009 9:30:17 AM
The body has this amazing ability to cleanse itself. However, if you want to blow some cash I can tell you how to do the same exact thing and it would probably be a lot healthier.

~vhdc~

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Msg: 45 (view)

daughters, fathers, fat and dating Posted: 6/18/2009 9:25:06 AM
Are your daughter's and mother's not fit to date because they are fat too? sorry OP but you will not guilt anyone into acceptance. A man will not consider his mother, daughter or sister a sexual object. People want what they want and most hold the idea that excess weight is an indicator of what lays ahead (which for many is not off the mark). I'm sure for parents, brothers and fathers of those daughters who have weight issues it weighs on them. With that said there comes a point when one must take responsibility for what's happening to them.

~vhdc~

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Msg: 54 (view)

Broke up w/TRUE NARCISSIST - Do I tell his ex what he is? Posted: 6/17/2009 6:26:54 AM
FYI she is his ex for a reason. Do you honestly believe you have some great pearls of wisdom to enlighten this woman? Leave it alone and let go of this grudge you are carrying.

~vhdc~

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Anyone have their date freak out on them? Posted: 6/16/2009 9:04:07 AM
The anger would make me think that you harbor more than just hate for your ex. True resolution is wishing your ex a happy, well adjusted life and meaning it. Frankly, if you came off that angry I would have been done with you.

~vhdc~

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i dont understand at all Posted: 6/14/2009 6:14:34 AM
What is there to understand? You are allowing this behavior. He's actions have told you exactly how he feels about you (which by the way are loud and clear). The real question here would be "How much torture are you willing to put up with?"

~vhdc~

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Healthy Inside to Help the Physical? Posted: 6/12/2009 2:21:26 PM
OP I've found they do not work separately sort of like Maslow's theory of hierarchy. When one fails you will need to start from ground zero and rebuild the foundation to get to the rest of the climb. For me there is no optimal physical health component without the emotional well being and vice versa.

~vhdc~

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Would you be freaked, or cool? Posted: 6/12/2009 12:05:55 PM
Honestly OP if someone was out jogging, stopped dead in his tracks and asked me to meet him later for coffee I would be flabbergasted in a good way. If she says no you can jog off into the day. If yes, go home and shower!

~vhdc~

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you're in a relationship,all of a sudden he disappears,gets back in touch few weeks later, nw what? Posted: 6/12/2009 11:59:20 AM
Sorry OP but a few weeks of dating does not a relationship make. Go out with him again however, keep in mind he disappeared once and is likely to do it again. This does not sound like a man who is all that interested in you.

~vhdc~

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Would you be freaked, or cool? Posted: 6/12/2009 11:56:18 AM
Not as long as you are not carrying rope and duct tape.

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