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circe 1

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Msg: 109 (view)

The myth of a woman's so called sexual peak. Posted: 6/6/2009 11:29:19 AM
When one meets the right partner, throw any ideas about age or peaks out the window. When the chemistry is sizzling and the communication and trust is there, sex is all you think about. When it's not there, of course there is no interest. Why complicate the subject?

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 6/6/2009 11:22:45 AM
When is someone here actually going to research the facts before offering their opinion? Not every policewoman works shifts (I don't) and police work is not one of the most dangerous jobs in the world. One is more likely to die being a farmer or truck driver than a cop. And every one of my fellow female officers is crazy about men, not women. Try to avoid the compulsion to reduce us to cultural stereotypes...it's totally unfair and ignorant.

circe 1

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The myth of a woman's so called sexual peak. Posted: 6/5/2009 3:10:43 PM
Well all I can tell you is that I have been having incredible sex with a 37 year old (soon to be 38) for almost three years. He wants kids, or so he thinks. I want a permanent relationship. I can't give him kids. Despite this, the chemistry is there with no end in sight. It goes on. And I often tire him out! Throw age out the window! We drive each other wild! He is bored with younger women...how does that fit within your 'box'?

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 6/5/2009 2:42:38 PM
So you would date a cop. And you just 'met and fell in love with a lovely civilian from this site'. So...why are you still on this site? Hmmm? So you are are willing to 'stand' by your lover through unseen storms"? But not willing to get off this site. Thanks for my daily laugh....hilarious

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Would you marry a porn star? Posted: 12/24/2008 9:51:26 AM
Never.....because you would be marrying somebody devoid of self-esteem who considers themselves a piece of meat. Who wants to be with someone with such HUGE issues???

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 10/3/2008 4:09:24 PM
brad.pitt....silence is an answer. Having stated in my profile that I will not respond unless interested, no one can now accuse me of being rude or insensitive. I will no longer subject myself to rude e mails from men angry at being rejected. Don't like it? TOUGH.

circe 1

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 10/2/2008 1:37:33 PM
brad.pitt....you have obviously not had someone here respond to your 'No thanks' with a rude comment. As a proper lady with manners, it was my practice to respond to e mails from men with a polite 'No thank you'. Imagine my surprise when I was then greeted with rude and offensive responses. Trust me, it happened several times. Some people do not take rejection well. So I stopped responding. I am neither rude nor insensitive...far from it. I will not, however, stand for nasty e mails from wierdos here. The moral of the story is...never assume and try to understand why some women here do not write back. I have now included my stance on this subject in my profile, leaving no room for any misunderstanding. If a man has a problem with that, so be it! As I said, I have my reasons.

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 10/1/2008 6:17:22 PM
pursueme...yes you are probably are wasting your time here. To me it is almost strictly entertainment value now! Good luck trying to find a guy here that isn't a nutcase, drug addict, criminal, commitment phobe, complete fraud or baby. I'd settle for just one I am attracted to physically! Sorry...just the facts ma'am.

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 10/1/2008 6:04:39 PM
No I will not respond. Poor grammar and spelling are indicative of a person's level of education, and I will not date someone who hasn't attained a high level.

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/21/2008 8:23:02 AM
ozark ike......not without dinner first!!!! No need for the clamps! Got my Taser! Woo hoo!!!!!

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/21/2008 7:22:41 AM
ozark ike....all my dates do that...but I insist they be stark naked. And if they refuse to comply, the cuffs are coming out of the pouch!!!!

circe 1

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Being with 1 partner for life Posted: 9/20/2008 3:57:41 PM
Actually, OP, it is completely 'normal' to want a monogamous lifetime relationship with one person. It is not normal to date and have sex with a lot of people. There are many reasons why people act like alley cats - they have commitment issues, lack integrity or maturity, have been sexually abused or badly hurt in a relationship or simply have no moral standards. They are easy to spot...they cannot bear intimacy, they have multiple partners, they are always 'partying', etc. Obviously, avoid them like the plague. You get what you aspire towards...so don't settle for less! Good luck in your search!

circe 1

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He wants to text only, avoids phone calls. Posted: 9/19/2008 4:02:54 PM
CMonster....as usual, an intelligent response. The e mailing and phoning and texting nonsense is sooo juvenile. OP, let me tell you what happened to me approximately a year ago. A man contacted me online and swept me off my feet. But whenever I would mention meeting he had an excuse. But I found him captivating and every morning I would receive a seductive text message. He rarely phoned and the texting between us went on for weeks. I finally got tired of it. I gave him an ultimatum. I ignored his texts and they eventually dwindled away. About four months later he texted me, telling me he was a fool to drive me away and found that the grass was, in fact, not greener. He asked if we could meet for coffee. I decided to give him a second chance. But I was a lot wiser. I realized that the texting was the big rush for him, and gave him the attention and power he craved. So I once again gave him my number and told him I would see him on a mutually agreed upon date, and that there would be no more texting. And I told him I expected to see him within a week. Well guess what? He never contacted me again. I had cut off his means of thrill-seeking. I was no longer willing to play his game. I figure I saved hours more of wasted time. So now, I am ruthless with this dating process. I am a busy woman. I will not allow any man to waste my time. When I receive an e mail from a man and I like what I see I respond immediately. I keep the e mails to a minimum. I indicate that I would love to meet. If he doesn't respond right away with a date and time, I move on right away. If a man is truly an adult and wants to meet you, he WILL react immediately. Ladies, trust me, it's the only way to do it. And then there are the ones who e mail you endlessly and then suddenly disappear. Then weeks later reappear and apologize with some bogus reason for disappearing. But they only deserve one chance as far as I'm concerned. I refuse to see them. Anyway, it works for me. Set your limitations and stick to them. Your time is precious. Don't allow the losers here to waste it.

circe 1

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He wants to text only, avoids phone calls. Posted: 9/18/2008 5:36:18 PM
I did NOT say that a man should ask for a date during the first phone call, so you might want to retract that statement and read more carefully. But now that we're on the subject, why wouldn't he? He has already established that he is interested through e mails here. What is ****ing left to do??? And every body is busy! Both the man and the woman will check to see when they are free and pick a convenient date that suits both of them. Is that so difficult? If a guy asked me to see him on Friday at 8:15 and I was free, I would say hell yes! When and where? Who is saying that you wouldn't discuss a mutually agreeable time? Oh and what was that comment about me starting to act equal??? Huh? When did I ever say I wasn't? You are being awfully presumptuous in assuming I would not ask for the date. Sure I would! When did I say I wouldn't? Tradition in my world usually suggests the gentleman takes the lead in asking. It's call courting a lady and is a tradition among well-mannered people. Why would a gentleman wait for a lady to ask? Honestly, the longer I stay on this site the more I am convinced that only the rare few actually get OUT THERE and MEET! What is holding all of you back? Life is short! Tick tock! Less talk, more action!!!!

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

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He wants to text only, avoids phone calls. Posted: 9/18/2008 4:53:17 PM
windsor saints...yes! HEAVEN FORBID you should actually set a date to MEET!!!! Ewww that ugly word! Let me tell you mister. If you are not ready to make a date and time to meet after a few e mails and phone calls then there is something terribly wrong with you. And you better believe I want a man I have already decided to meet to get to the point immediately and name the time and place. That tells me he is interested. That tells me he is confident. That tells me he is not another internet wierdo. That tells me he is not going to waste time and risk losing my attention. The reason you MEET is so you can TALK to a real person (not a phone receiver) and gauge the level of PHYSICAL ATTRACTION! You can't do that over the phone! Why on earth would you want to dick around on the phone forever when you could be having a glass of wine together in a bar and assessing each other in the flesh? What a concept! It's called a DATE. This is a DATING site. So when a man does not waste time and wants to meet asap I know that this is a serious guy. That is my test. And if he keeps putting it off and relying on emails and phone calls to communicate, I run. Because I know that he is NEVER going to meet. So moving on quickly saves me a ton of time. And for your information, why I am single is because I haven't said yes yet. As if it is any of your business. In the future, try to pretend you're a gentleman and not get personal. Google 'good manners' if need be. Perhaps you can get some tips.

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 677 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/18/2008 2:35:12 AM
friendguy....I think you nailed it! And good luck in getting on the job! Never met a Newfie I didn't like!

circe 1

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Msg: 669 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/17/2008 4:49:49 PM
itsmekenny...did you write this while having some fava beans for dinner? And a nice Chianti?

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/16/2008 5:49:14 PM
ewelluvit...you know, there are plenty of counsellors out there who can get you the help you so urgently need...ewwwwwwwww

circe 1

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He wants to text only, avoids phone calls. Posted: 9/16/2008 2:22:06 PM
Scorpion 66...I have no idea what you are talking about. Needy? Pushy? I would think none of those things. I would be saying, 'Great! see you at the restaurant!' You know people...this is NOT rocket science. You see a gal you like here, you e mail her, you still like her after a few e mails. You agree to meet and exchange numbers. You have a few phone conversations and decide on a time and place. You meet! Voila! What is so difficult about this process? The ones with the relationship issues will NOT follow the above process. They will text forever (how juvenile), or chat on the phone endlessly and avoid setting a date. Again....not rocket science...they are playing games! Move on!

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

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He wants to text only, avoids phone calls. Posted: 9/15/2008 3:52:54 PM
'What's up with that' is a guy who doesn't want to meet you. He's too much of a coward to meet but is getting his jollies getting attention from you to make him feel like a big man. Happens all the time...time to move on. I too had a few text idiots waste my time...and noticed that they can't deal with direct contact. If a man doesn't IMMEDIATELY ask you out on the phone or here with a specific date and time, you are dealing with this particular brand of internet loser. Honey...I just saved you hours of wasted time with this advice...take it

circe 1

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Yeah, that sense of humour thing is nice but..... Posted: 9/15/2008 11:49:42 AM
A sense of humour in a man is EVERYTHING to me! That is the only kind of guy who will attract and keep me!

circe 1

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Msg: 651 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/14/2008 2:49:32 PM
Message 655...:modhammer: That creature's comments are truly scary and out of line...and I want something done about it

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/13/2008 10:46:32 AM
caesar00002...okay, so you had an expired val tag. Yet she did not give you a ticket, so, frankly, she gave you a break. If she was rude to you, there is a complaints process. There is never any excuse to be rude to a member of the public. If you feel strongly, complain! Baddoff....you are spot on! And if I was closer I'd be all over you! Unfortunately, your combination of good looks and brains may not get you very far on this site....there are far too many wierdos and nutcases (just like the real world) here! But then again....you never know! Hang in there!

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/12/2008 10:30:33 AM
caesarooo2....I think there is a lot more to your story than meets the eye. Are you telling us that you were pulled over for nothing? Sorry, there must have been some kind of violation which gave her the grounds to detain you....obviously though, you checked out. She was a witch? Why do you say that? Did you pull over immediately? As for the nightstick being 'gay'....hmmm....you might enlighten yourself by googling 'pegging'. There is nothing gay about it.

circe 1

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Msg: 49 (view)

Time to Say Quits Posted: 9/11/2008 4:41:11 PM
I hear you gonesailinbabe. And I agree with everything you have said. My lover is a gift and he treats me like the goddess I am. And let me tell you...he'd better or I am HISTORY. He may 'come around', he may not. I am prepared for both scenarios. In the meantime, I enjoy the best lover I have ever had. The main thing is...stick to your goals (mine include the cats) and if someone comes along that shares that dream..bonus. If not, I will be quite content with the cats and the potbellied pigs! And the turkeys and goats....OP decide what you want. If this guy does not fit into your life plan...move on. I never contact my young lover, pressure him or make demands. And it appears to work...he is always the one to initiate meetings. And never seems to date others...are you reading me? Live your life first...if he hasn't figured out that you are the best woman he has ever met....never make him a priority. I view it this way...I am a great woman...and wait for no man. I am a prize...now woo me or don't. But if you don't, oh well...don't be surprised when I look elsewhere.

circe 1

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Time to Say Quits Posted: 9/11/2008 3:19:02 PM
I am in the same position...have been with a man in his thirties for 10 months and we have an incredible attraction that continues and only intensifies with time. It is intense and passionate and wonderful. And we are so compatible on every level. But my age is a deal breaker with him. I believe he loves me very much and is very conflicted about it. I don't think he knows what to do with me...all he knows is that he wants me. I too want long term and have never made any bones about it. I have tried to break it off twice and we keep coming back together due to the all consuming attraction. So I know exactly what you are going through. So...this is what I have done. I could cut him tomorrow. But I decided not to. The bond is too strong. But...I have told him I am going to continue to date and search for a long term partner. And that when I find THE ONE, we will have to say goodbye. And of course he is free to date whomever he wishes. So we have come to an understanding. He can never say I didn't warn him. So we continue....no pressure, just enjoy the moment. I know he cares deeply and is probably in love with me. But I have stood my ground and told him I want long term...period. And I predict that he will not meet the younger version of me and will regret not grabbing me on a permanent basis. His choice. And his loss when it happens. So we enjoy each other until the inevitable happens. And believe it or not, I am okay with the arrangement. Every moment we share is wonderful. I realize not many women would be comfortable with this arrangement, but, believe it or not, I am. I live my life as I see fit...if I see him...bonus...if I don't, I make other plans. Would you be comfortable with an arrangement like this, which is drama free and where the ground rules are set? If not, move on. I am not in pain over my relationship with this guy. If I was, I would end it. It is a decision that both of you should discuss. If he is not willing to commit and it irks you and causes you pain, end it. If you two can continue to have great sex do so...but whatever you do, keep looking for that long term partner. I hope I have helped in some way

circe 1

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Msg: 305 (view)

Rejected after the first date? Posted: 9/11/2008 2:57:10 PM
I still don't understand how not feeling chemistry from the outset is 'shallow'. mel2780...I am almost never attracted to GQ looks, so I do not just look 'at what's on the outside'. I have been attracted to men who most women would not take a second look at. Chemistry has nothing to do with good looks. It is hard to define it but it either there or it isn't....are you suggesting that I ignore my feelings and instincts and have a second date with a man that I am not attracted to? Why would I? From my experience, if it isn't there right away...it never will be. I am as far away from 'shallow' as they come. I trust my instincts and I know when I feel chemistry. What would you have me do? Date a man again just so I might hope that the chemistry magically appears? It seems to me that if I did that, knowing that the sparks aren't there, that I would be doing that man a great disservice, and would be leading him on. It seems to me that the well-mannered woman would be telling him there is no point in continuing, thereby allowing him to find someone else that was interested in him.

circe 1

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Time to Say Quits Posted: 9/11/2008 2:40:54 PM
I am confused...why can't you two be together? What '...different things' were you looking for? Why break if off???? Was it just a sexual fling?

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/11/2008 2:24:43 PM
Dear firegurl.....several of my colleagues took a bus to New York today for the 911 remembrance get together, as they do every year. On behalf of myself and my colleagues, we are sorry for the devastating losses that you and other EMS personnel suffered, and, under our great Prime Minister Steven Harper, we continue to support your country in committing our troops to Afghanistan. Because freedom isn't free. The fire fighters and police officers who responded that day are true heroes. I can assure you..... WE WILL NEVER FORGET AND WE WILL NEVER FORGIVE.

circe 1

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Msg: 294 (view)

Rejected after the first date? Posted: 9/10/2008 5:13:37 PM
Speak for yourself OP. I know almost immediately whether there is chemistry or not. And if I don't feel it the first date...I move on. Someone here calls that shallow...oh really? How about CONFIDENT AND KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS!

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/9/2008 6:52:04 PM
lostincali...finally you appear to be coming around. One tip though...they are not called 'ambulance drivers'....refer to them always as PARAMEDICS... and yes there is something about a woman in uniform alright...something good

circe 1

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What does it take for YOU to show up? Posted: 9/9/2008 6:38:54 PM
I have never attended one of these events. There are several reasons for that. Mainly, I notice that the organizers post the people who are attending. I have this sincere dread that if I am posted as attending, all the men who I do not want to meet will see that I am attending and then show up to pursue me after I have already indicated my lack of interest. If you did not advertise who was attending, I might show up. But I will not due to my concern about being cornered by someone I have no interest in. Kapiche?

circe 1

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Msg: 64 (view)

Unavailable Men Posted: 9/4/2008 4:07:39 PM
salsa35....I think you reacted beautifully to his lunch date invitation...he probably had thoughts of you on the menu of course (and of course, didn't ask you for dinner because that would entail more time away from his other activities....lunch means a quickie and early exit). I hope you know now for sure that he is not worth a second thought. Any gentleman would have responded to your return call stating that he understood that you were busy and then suggesting another date. His silence means he has no manners and is not interested in you. You have your answer. And you sent him a clear message that you 'have a life' and are not changing your plans just to be with him for an hour or two! Brava!!!! Say.... Goodbye loser!!!!! Next!!!!

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/3/2008 4:42:25 PM
Damon....now you know how it feels to be stereotyped!!! Personally I would date a trucker in a heartbeat....IF he was a great guy! I would imagine being the girl friend of a trucker would have a lot of benefits actually....you know what they say! Absence makes the heart grow fonder!!!!

circe 1

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Msg: 60 (view)

Unavailable Men Posted: 9/3/2008 4:07:55 PM
Time Rider...I will not respond to your dark, angry diatribe. And specifically because you got personal...'that's probably why you're single'. What my dating life has to do with the thread is beyond me. I know precisely why I am single....because I haven't yet met the right man here. The implication of your comment is that I am somehow having problems attracting and meeting men. Far from the truth. Literally hundreds have and continue to contact me here. And I have been the one saying thanks but no thanks. And I am as far away from a player as one can get. And anyone reading my profile will know that instinctively. So that personal attack was ungentlemanly, provocative and off topic. Renaissance Man....YOU are a gentleman and I will respond. I think you misunderstood what I was trying to say. When I tell you that I make the rules, I am not talking about game playing. What I am saying is that a woman has to live her own life the way SHE wants to. That means not being pressured by men for sex or anything else. She should NOT live her life in order to snag a man. Her life should benefit her first. And if some great guy comes along who fits into her life plan, then great! But too many leap into bed with men, wait by the phone, and arrange their lifestyles around catching and keeping a man (cancelling appointments, messaging them, pressuring them). They often do this out of loneliness or lack of self-esteem. To a lot of men these women come off as needy, and that is not an attractive quality. And, yes, to me leaping into bed with someone after only a few dates is not a good idea. My male friends tell me they often immediately lose interest after a woman does this....for all the common sense reasons. And there are a million posts here about those who have had sex with virtual strangers and regretted it. Like most here, I have made the same mistake and I learned from it. The facts are...the OP slept with this guy quickly and he has disappeared. End of story.

circe 1

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Msg: 611 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 9/1/2008 5:33:45 PM
I need to bust you two up! Is this now a would girls date a male trucker???

circe 1

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Msg: 52 (view)

Unavailable Men Posted: 9/1/2008 9:04:50 AM
PI2U....LOL....as a man naturally you would welcome women who want to leap into the sack with you!!! I respectfully disagree....I don't think I have shoved everyone in the same box. I stated 'most' men and I have come to that opinion through my own experience (oh and yes I have made plenty of mistakes by jumping in too quickly and have learned from them) and through conversations with men. So I am not 'wrong'. I acknowledge that you could potentially wind up with a life partner after having sex right away...but honestly, how many really do? From what I have seen....not many. If you look at the Forums here you will find that jumping into bed too soon almost ALWAYS causes problems for a variety of reasons. People will, inevitably, jump to certain conclusions about people who are too free with their sexuality too soon...right or wrong, that is reality. In my world, the 'class act'....waits. And the other 'class act' will be happy to. I do agree with you that dating 'rules' are rather silly and arbitrary. Set your own rules...who cares what other people do? I still contend that the smart woman will wait before jumping into an intimate relationship with a man she barely knows. And the smart man will view that woman as a cut above the rest and will remain....interested.

circe 1

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Msg: 49 (view)

Unavailable Men Posted: 9/1/2008 8:23:53 AM
I don't anything about an arbitrary four month rule....and don't care. I make the rules. I understand that you miss sex and intimacy. But once you have sex too soon, most men will categorize you as either no longer a challenge or as a woman who is just like all the rest...they will not view you as future marriage material. Make a man wait. It makes you so much more interesting in his eyes. If he is worthwhile he WILL wait and he happy to. And he will respect you. YOU make the rules, not him. And if he doesn't play by them, move on and don't waste your time. This guy is a total waste of time...and you know it. Remember that old saying, 'Never make someone a priority who makes you an option'.

circe 1

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Unavailable Men Posted: 8/31/2008 4:51:55 PM
You blew it. You slept with him far time soon. Why would he take you seriously now?

circe 1

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Msg: 47 (view)

what is he really saying? Posted: 8/29/2008 2:44:21 PM
He doesn't need time. What he needs is a swift kick in the ass! What a loser

circe 1

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Msg: 595 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 8/29/2008 10:37:36 AM
Hey damon you must meet policewomen all the time in your profession! NO EXCUSE! Next time you see one parked on the highway doing radar, bring her a coffee! And let the games begin!!!! A weigh station is kinda....unromantic???? Vonstallin...if you like assertive women, look no further! Can't you conveniently lose your wallet and report it missing at the local police station??? Naww forget that one....that's public mischief up here....Register your new bike there? Pick up literature on how to safeproof your home??? Ask for directions? Come on, be creative!!!!!

circe 1

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 8/28/2008 5:08:23 PM
TheDirtyBen....yes they would...based on your profile...but you want women to contact you???? I never contact men. Men are the pursuers. So get your act together and start contacting women!!!! Nothing ventured nothing gained. Women like confidence. Women like courage. Go for it!!!! And vonstallin....no need to give up body parts...hmmm...sorry I prefer the whole package...I give you the same advice!

circe 1

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Deceptive Dates...Want feedback.. Posted: 8/27/2008 1:03:00 PM
toomuch13....I have also had two men pursue me here, and with one we arranged to meet. He stood me up. The second just disappeared. Both re-emerged. The one who stood me up actually asked, 'It's time we hooked up. Where and when?'' I responded, 'Hell when it freezes over'. The second one I just ignored. He recently contacted me again...I ignored him again. What the hell is wrong with these men????? You're spot on...you snooze, you lose

circe 1

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Msg: 34 (view)

Deceptive Dates...Want feedback.. Posted: 8/27/2008 9:59:04 AM
I hear you! I was contacted by a man here a few weeks ago who I thought was perfect for me. We had everything in common and I liked his photos. We e mailed and chatted on the phone. I had high expectations, which I normally do not have. We went to dinner, I was attracted to him and it went really well. We talked for three hours and then he asked me to call him later in the week. Uh, no, I said, 'You call me'. There was literally nothing bad about the date. It was great and I looked fabulous! Two days went by and he didn't call. The third day I noticed that he had closed his account here. Coincidence? I think not. I was completely shocked. I called and left a message on his cell phone that I noticed his account was closed and that, though I found this confusing, I told him I would love to see him again. I haven't heard from him to date. Naturally, I would never see him again now. I haven't a clue why he disappeared! To me it would have been good manners for him to have at least called and given me an explanation for his bizarre actions. So I am actually glad he didn't call back. Who knows why he didn't! Or why people act this way! I will never get my hopes up here again! Anyway, I look at it this way...better to find out that someone is deceptive, attached, or intimidated (my male friends figure this was the problem) from the start before you get really involved. People are sooo strange. One wonders why the hell they are here....wasting our time! Now if a man doesn't contact me within 24 hours of dating....they are HISTORY. I look it at this way...if a guy doesn't think I am the greatest woman alive, he needs his head examined. And who wants a partner like that???!!!

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 579 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 8/27/2008 7:08:17 AM
degostyle...thanks for posting here. And for speaking as a rational REAL man with common sense. Your comment about people thinking that cops are a-holes is not something I can relate to. Most people treat me with a great deal of respect, and every time I go out in uniform people smile at me or want to chat. The only people who don't are criminals (like the creeps here who pay women for sex) or those who have had a run in with the police...such as getting a traffic ticket. And no policewoman I know would ever date guys like that. Soseki....we are not partnered by sex. My first partner was a woman and we decided to make the most arrests per PRP (Police Reporting Period) and finally did it....the guys never made fun of us again!!!! I do prefer male partners though. It is the ideal partnership actually....some members of the public feel more comfortable talking to men and some feel more comfortable talking to women. I'll never forget the day years ago when an elderly Sikh refused to talk to me and my female partner....he wanted a man instead. Needless to say, his ignorance was not tolerated. I am no longer going to respond to the male nutcases here who post garbage...though it is amusing. One positive thing about their posts is that every woman on this site will read them and their message history, go EWWWWW and block them.

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 564 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 8/25/2008 6:23:33 AM
Robert Peel understood, even then, the importance of a partnership between the police and the community. He said, 'The police are the public, and the public are the police'. Many of you here might think about that before criticizing us....because when you do so, you criticize yourself. We continue to be a reflection of society.

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 562 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 8/25/2008 5:26:07 AM
Lostcauz...you are right as usual...cop stands for constable on patrol and its roots are British. And, as a matter of fact, WPC is the acronym used for a policewoman in Britain. I don't know any cop that doesn't like the word. Where I work we usually refer to each other as 'coppers'. There are other words I have used to describe policemen but I would get gonged by the Moderator if I used them! Ha Ha! I have kept my hair as it is in my profile precisely because our rules state the hair cannot extend beyond the bottom of the uniform shirt collar....I have had everything from a pony tail to a bun to a French braid over the years....all were annoying hair styles, because every time you put your hat on or off the hair would fly out of place! This cut works for me and men tell me they like it! Shrek, I wanted your hair cut but...hell...this is a dating site!

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 556 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 8/24/2008 11:39:23 AM
Lostincali....and every other State in the Union. You really SHOULD have resisted posting...but some people never learn I guess. I am dying to know what MASCULINE QUALITIES you have observed in policewomen! Please enlighten me. Oh I can't wait for your response!!!!!!!!!!!! And I am quite certain Firegurl is also waiting with baited breath!

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 550 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 8/24/2008 8:11:47 AM
DirtyBen...I am sure you would look awful in a dress too....uh...that's a good thing. If you did look good in a dress I would start worrying... Actually the gay community likes the word 'dyke' so I wouldn't worry. From what I have seen most do dress down. I guess there are cops that may be butch...I am not one of them, nor do I know any that are. What's your point?

circe 1

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 546 (view)

would guys date a female cop? Posted: 8/24/2008 6:57:35 AM
The dirty ben.....I am fascinated by your comment about policewomen who 'come across' as dykes. Huh? I would suggest that that comment says very little about us and a whole lot about you. How do they come across as lesbians? Does strength in a woman = masculine to you? And if so, why? I do not mean to offend you at all....just give you something to think about. Most of the policewomen I know are very feminine. When I go out I always wear beautiful girly outfits, high heels, the works! Actually, most of the female cops I know really dress up off duty, because we wear that uniform so often that dressing up is even MORE important to us! Shrek...those car crashes in front of your house are the result of women stalking you! Get that girl friend of yours to stand by on your porch with an uzi!

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