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shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Question about golden showers Posted: 5/31/2009 9:52:58 PM
Yes it is possible. Pretty much every man has experienced a phenomenon called "morning wood" a morning erection. Also like most people we need to pee when we wake up too, sometimes so urgently that there is no time to wait for the erection to subside. At that time it is the easiest for a man to pee while having an erection. It is much harder to do if he does not need to pee badly and is more interested in sex. As erections and pee time arnt really supposed to mix naturally. Though i suppose someone with enough control of both can have better luck an being able to perform on command. so when ya find someone who has the same interests as you do, best time to enjoy that experience is in the morning when he has morning wood. jump his bones before he even has a chance to get up.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Riding the Train in Oregon Posted: 5/31/2009 9:40:47 PM
Taking the train to seattle should be doable and easy. The cascades is a more or less long distance commuter train that is geared for people who have to go to seattle and back to oregon frequently. The cascades is set up so most of the trips to seattle are in the morning and the trips from seattle in the evenings. If ya do a day trip it will be a rushed and stressful trip as amtrak does not own the rails (they have to rent access form union pacific, and they naturally give their own trains priority). That means there is a good chance the train will be delayed in getting there. plus it is a long drive even in a car, and a car is faster. If you leave yourself plenty of time, like staying overnite there then it is very easy and you get lots of time to sightsee. If you try a day trip you might get lucky enough to see one nice thing before ya have to head back to catch the last train back to oregon. I have rode the train fairly often but not ever to seattle though. My trips have been to/from california and to/from eugene. DO bring your own snacks/food/lunch/dinner. Anything you get on the train will be overpriced. Think of 7-11 in prices and quality, but much much less selection from their snack car. The dining car has nice chain restaurant prices (think of black angus, red lobster, outback steakhouse or applebees) maybe slightly cheaper. In which you get denny's/Ihop quality food with slightly more generous portions than you would get at ritzy 5 star place. You would be better off hitting the grocery store for snacks and a fast food or place like denny's for take out before you get on the train. It however is a mostly relaxing ride with lots of scenery and one where you can get up and walk around if your bored. If you take cascades there is plenty of electrical outlets so you can bring along a laptop or a portable dvd player for entertainment for when there isnt anything interesting to look at (like a boring stretch or after dark) IF you want to bring eletronic toys do not take the coast starlight. It only has 2 single plug outlets for the whole car. One upstairs in the very middle on the left hand side, the other downstairs on the right side of the car near the last seat. There is an outlet in each bathroom, but it would be kinda rude to bogart a whole bathroom for sake of an outlet.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Dog barking situation - is there a nice way to handle? Posted: 4/30/2009 4:54:20 PM
There are these electronic devices you can get that are triggered by dog barking. when triggered they emit a very loud noise in the ultrasonic range. A range where dogs hear very well but are difficult for humans to hear. Get the highest power, most sensitive of these devices you can find and point it to where the dogs hang out the most in their yard. point it in that direction with the least amount of obstructions as possible make sure the device is on your property though. When those dogs bark this device with scream at them and make their ears un comfortable on your behalf and create a negative stimuli for them when they bark. It might or might not work with these dogs. but might be worth a shot.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really? Posted: 4/9/2009 10:36:33 AM
Yes. I started out on this site as a single person. While here i got into the forums. Them i got back together with an ex girlfriend from when i was much younger, and thus no longer single. Yet i still want to be able to post on the forums form time to time so i kept my profile. However i have taken steps to discourage interest. Including mentioning in a couple of places that i am taken, that i am not looking for anyone at the moment as well has having my profile hidden so it doesn't show up on searches. I also have it set so it is not shown if i view another profile. My girlfriend also does know about my account here and is able to check on it as she chooses, as i am not hiding anything from her. If it were to come to pass that we were to break up then i would go back to having an open and visible profile after my heard has healed form the breakup. For now i just read and occasionally post on the forums, it is these forums why i am still even here . :)

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Anyone got back with their EX before?? Posted: 6/5/2008 8:38:14 PM
I have. My current Girlfriend in fact. We were first together when we both were 20 years old and both turned 21 while together. we ended up breaking up due to a combination of cheating (she cheated on me) and communication issues. We both however were among each others best loves. now after 14 years we are back together. so far everything is working ok, she even moved from southern california (first time living so far away from her parents for her) to oregon. We both needed to grow up more, and learn more about life and relationships for it to even be feasible. Since then we both been with many other people, many other relationships and are applying the things we learned to our relationship now. So far we are both pretty happy and things are going well. :)

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Does Height Matter In A Fight!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 3/12/2008 11:34:42 AM
well thousands of years of human existence and history will tell you that brains beats brawn every time. In scale both large and small. happened with david and goliath, it happened in WW1, it happened vietnam, and it is happening now in iraq. That means skill, experience, and discipline will win out over size and physical strength. I guess OP never successfully picked a fight with someone who has some martial arts experience. Me i never really ever been in a fight always managed to talk my way out of em, even if i was being an arsehole to begin with. Fighting is barbaric and largely unnecessary in a civilized society.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Congressional Hearings on CEO compensation Posted: 3/12/2008 9:54:15 AM
It isnt any surprise as it is these CEO's and the companies they run who contributed generously to the campaigns for them to get into office. Who is gonna bite the hand that so generously fed them as well as perhaps continue to feed them after their term with nice kickback jobs or as hired lobbyists. Remember it is these CEO's who REALLY run our country as they are the ones who bribe our government officials. For this to change we need to seriously rewrite our whole political system and the way our leaders are chosen as well as what power they have. As for the issue of CEO compensation itself i have a solution to that problem. Eliminate minimum wage, instead replace it with a maximum wage instead that is based on a fixed ratio above what the lowest paid employee makes. That makes it so if the boss/owner/CEO wants to get a raise he needs to give the rest of the employees a raise too. Also mandate it so that if any paycuts or layoffs have to happen the start happening from the top on down. Your average major business can operate without a head and go on for quite a while that way, often times they even run things in ways that the line employees KNOW is a mistake because the people at the top dont really know how the business runs at the operational levels that the line employees work. in business it is the line employees who are the ones who do the real work and are actually where the money comes from. the line employees are the ones creating the wealth that the CEOs and shareholders get to enjoy. Management never does any real work. They get to make bank in pay for sitting on thier arse in boring meetings, boinking their administrative assistants, playing golf and powertripping on everyone else. All while everyone who does the real work and creates the wealth have to work their arse off for long hard hours just for the luxury of barely being able to help thier landlord or banker buy a new benz

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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New GI Bill will kill the military? Posted: 3/12/2008 9:38:34 AM
The army recruiting gang members has serious national security issues which are the biggest reasons to be worried. While there are sophisticated and well led gangs most gangs do not have the training and organization to be a significant threat. While there is some amount of teamwork involved in gang operations due to gangs being a social organization. They dont have the disciplined teamwork that a soldier is expected to learn and use. Also while the gangs are well armed often with military quality weapons obtained on the black market. your average gang banger cant shoot worth $hit as they never bother to actually go to the range and practice as well as use disciplined fire control. With all the gang members going to the military and receiving valuable organizational, firearms, ordinance and demolitions training the gangs now have the ability to have military tactics once they get out of the military and start training their homies. Expect to see more gang attacks and crimes pulled off with the precision, teamwork and planning of a special forces operation. I wouldnt worry as much about the hells angels as they were mostly founded and consisted of WW2 and vietnam vets especially in their heyday. i dunno how they are now. It is the crips , bloods and asian gangs that we will have to worry about having organized military training

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Putting out on the first date. Posted: 3/10/2008 10:50:25 PM
there probably wont be sex on the first date especially with the manner you described. When it comes to sex i dont make the first moves unless i am VERY sure that it is wanted and welcomed. I can be pretty dense at times when it comes to the body language and other hints of interest at level too. So only way there would be any sex, especially on a first date would be if she was the initiator and very obvious in what she wanted. Yes i would call again or write or some kinda communication or something that let her know it was all good and to see how far things can go. Not only that but sex on the first date would increase the chances of continued and future interest not less. Something like that to me is a very unexpected surprise as my usual assumption is that it will come later if it comes at all.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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What made you decide that Christianity should be ignored? Posted: 3/10/2008 2:01:38 AM
very simple.. for one logic. the bible for the most part makes very little sense with contradictions everywhere. contradictions to what life, observations and experiences with my senses that god supposedly gave to me. Then there is the issue that Christianity discourages free thinking and individuality. Something to be said about a religeon that compares people to sheep and lambs and encourages people to take up the qualities of those animals. Then there is the other contradictions that come from both the bible and the people who follow that path. on one hand it is said that god is perfect, with no flaws and with infinite capabilities. Then they turn around and give god very human qualties and flaws. flaws like jealousy, jealousy is a very human emotion and flaw. yet "god" is said to be VERY jealous. wants you to ONLY worship him and no other, not even consider the idea that there might be other paths. Then god is also on a power trip too added to his jealousy in that you have to do Everything HIS way or no way at all. Then god is also very bloodthirsty, vindictive and cruel especially if you trigger his jealousy wanting to condemn someone to an eternity of unending torture, especially someone that is supposedly your child and creation just because they might disagree with some rules here there. Then there is the tons of Christians that seem to never get enough of trying to tell me that their way is the only way and any way BUT their way is wrong. Then there is the millenniums of people doing cruel and inhumane acts n god's honour. Then you have a path that in one aspect tells you that you have the same potential and capabilities as god by saying we are god's children and were made in his image. Then turn around and discarding that fact by steadfastly discouraging people from discovering and using their potential as infant gods (which is what we humans are collectively is an infant god). then you have the millions of Christians or at least people who claim to be not doing their upmost to emulate the way Christ lived, and treated others, and instead support or engage in acts that would make christ discusted to be associated with them. If every christian did everything in their power to live the way christ lived we would not have the problems in our society that we do now. Problems like war, poverty, homelessness, and other crap that we have to deal with on a day to day basis. Lastly Christianity is obsolete, it is a path, a movement and an underground counter culture that is millions of years obsolete. It had it's time, place and purpose all of wich is no longer the case in our modern times. It was path meant for a people who were significantly more barbaric than humanity is now. Then there is the strict patriarchal attitude that Christianity supports and encourages. This even in spite that we know that the creative forces in the universe tend to be female. and we know this due to using our gifts that god gave us to help us understand a universe that was created of which we are a part of. In fact i think that Christianity and the abrahamic paths in general are among the biggest contributors to human suffering and is instead retarding our evolution as beings and keeping us at a sickeningly barbaric level of existence. Christianity does have some decent and important tidbits of wisdom that everyone should use and embrace. you just have to pretty much always read between the lines to find it. These are the reasons why i have an evolving spiritual path that is founded on the ideals of wicca. I worship a goddess who doesnt ever claim to be perfect, omnipotent and omnipresent. A goddess who has human flaws. A goddess who so loves her children that she would never think of giving additional suffering after life is over. Who lets us live in the suffering that we create or allow for ourselves instead. YEs 100 percent of the suffering that humans go through daily can be elimiated or at least nearly so. WE humans have the power to end all the suffering, including natural disasters (we have the technology to make infrastucture that is nearly disaster proof). As all human suffering is perpetrated or made worse by other humans. We also have the power and capability as humans to ensure we wont suffer in the future either, even in th face of an extinction rated astroid on a collision with earth. The people i share my path with also dont believe that our path is the one and only true way. A path that encourages people to think for themselves instead of following the herd with the rest of the sheep. A path that has the ability to evolve and improve as time pases, and humans evolve to higher social, technological, spiritual and moral capabilities. A path that encourages one to grow in knowledge and wisdom instead of discouraging both A path that gives everyone an equal footing both man and woman at any level. Where women can be priestesses and spiritual leaders instead of encouraged to be subservient to a man, barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen. A path that encourages us to take care of our world, and its resources instead of viewing the world as one vast set of resources to be exploited and an open sewer to dump our garbage. These are the reasons why i am not and never will be christian

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Do body odors attract others? Posted: 3/9/2008 11:24:02 PM
Depends on the person i guess.. But im ny case.. oh goddess yes! I much prefer the natural scents of the women im into. I especially like it if she has gone without a bath for a couple of days or more. for example i can tell when my ummm... cuddle friend is turned on and arroused just by her smell. drives me crazy makes me wish she was a lot more than a cuddle friend. she is a lot more fun to cuddle too when she hasnt had a shower in a day or so just from her smells alone.. I actually prefer the ladies i like to not wear perfume and even relax some on the bathing so i can enjoy the natural smells more. also most of my g/f's in the past love my smells and would always want me to leave a dirty shirt behind if i was gonna be away for a while. so from my personal experiences both in the form of my opinion and that of the people i have dated in the past that yes natural smells are and can be an attractant or turn on.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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prison romances Posted: 3/9/2008 10:26:46 PM
i dont think i can do it in the scenario the OP described. I cant get attached to someone who how is for all intents and purposes is gonna die in jail. I can imagine that i would be open to dating someone who was currently in prison if theyre due to be released relatively soon (like in less than 2 years or so of the sentence left) Though the best not give me any $hit for having a FWB until she gets out. Gotta have someone to hold and give affection to in the meantime yaknow. so in a way both yes and no. yes for the short termers but hell no for lifers i want someone i can actually hold instead of just write letters to and talk to through a sheet of plexiglass. conversely if i were to end up in prison i would totally cut off all contact with love ones and anyone on the outside and would likely not accept letters from the outside.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Topics of Conversation that End a Date Rather Quickly Posted: 2/26/2008 2:30:22 PM
well in one fasion i dont think any topic is taboo for me on a date. I would be willing to talk about or listen to anything they would have to say. so no topic is taboo, as any topic can help me understand if that person and i would get along or be happy. While i wont talk abut my past relationships unless it is asked about i definltely wnna hear about my date's past ones. Though there are things that can be said that would not result in a second date. Those would be things that indicate to me that i would not be happy with that person in the long run or that they wont be happy with me in the long run. A lot of the topics suggested here are ones that has the potential to make me more interest instead of a turn off. Though i would have to say that extreme right political views, or if they fanatically believe in a religion that considers me and my religion as devil worship. also someone who wants to convert me to their faith though religion and spirituality are enjoyable topics if the other person is open minded. Even topics like menstrual cycles, childbirth, medical issues in excruciating detail would not put me off, in fact topics like that would make me more interested. I guess my main goal is to get to know the person better to see how compatible and in what ways we are.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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single mom with wiccan beliefs Posted: 2/25/2008 6:24:20 PM
When your girls are ready and with children being the incredibly imaginative and curious creatures that they are. They will ask YOU all kinds of questions about things like god, spirituality, death, life, and the meaning of it all, yes they even will ask about magick and if it is real or not. It would be fairly safe to say though that you wont have to worry about such questions until they have spent some time in school at the very least. Basically.. when the time is right you will know and know what to do for starters though, you can do everything in your power as a mom to encourage their imagination.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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My friend is cheating on her bf Posted: 2/25/2008 2:02:49 PM
First if this person is YOUR friend then you need to stay out of it. you hold no allegiance to her b/f. Telling him would be interfering with her relationship and is something that can kill that friendship. I know if you as my friend told stuff to my g/f truthful or not and i got grief from it/it got back to me in any ways you would not be my friend much longer. If on the other hand you are closer friends with her b/f than with her and don't care if she stays your friend or not then tell him, he'd be appreciative to at least be made aware. Just make sure you know for a fact that she indeed DID cheat before you go accusing her of it to him of it after all nobody likes a meddling liar. If you are in doubt about anything then its better to stay out of it as it really is not your business. In general it really is not your business. though allegiances with your friend(s) are what would be the deciding factor on interference.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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why don't more guys give massages? Posted: 2/25/2008 1:48:03 PM
OP: pity your in canada and i'm in the usa and without a passport we would get along well lol. I'm and affectionate person by nature, especially around people i like and am close with. One of the ways i like to show affection or let someone know i like them and care is by massages. Unfortunately i suffer from the same problem that you do. I end up giving them FAR more than i receive them. Like you i wish that wasn't so as i love to get them too. For me massages are not a sex thing either they are an affection thing. I think many people men and women both dont give them often is because they ARE work to the one giving them. Even giving a 5-10 minute backrub gets my hands tired pretty quickly. that and it can be kinda boring. Then there is the knowledge factor, most people don't know how to. Being able to give them though doesn't take much to do to learn to give decent/okay ones. Just get some massages and try to duplicate what feels good on you and listen to the person your giving them. some people like em hard some like em soft ya have to be able to listen to the feedback receiver gives you. just like with sex. moans means your doing it right and OwOwOwOW! means your doing too hard or wrong for that person and a softer approach might be needed. For any of y'all who like to get massages and you find someone who likes to give them, ya gotta give some back if you want to keep getting them. Kinda along the same lines of "scratch my back and i'll scratch yours".

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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She drives with her children in a car with no insurance. Posted: 2/15/2008 7:53:28 AM
not much you can do. She risks losing her kids though if they are pulled over. Depending on the jurisdiction and the cops of the area. She can get taken to jail for no license and/or her car towed. If her car only gets towed then she have to try to get her and her kids home somehow, and the cops wont have a problem taking her car in a bad neighborhood. If they take her to jail though and there is no body to get the kids then they go into foster care, at least til they get out. If she is drunk at the time too she may lose her kids for a long time.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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what does it mean when he says feeling is mutual Posted: 1/28/2008 12:38:29 AM
He means just what he said. you said you think your falling in love. and he replied the feeling is mutual. so there you have it. he thinks he is falling in love with you as well. I use that term quite a lot myself for similar situations and and i mean what i say when i do. I also have a way of turning compliments back on the person who gave them to me as well. with a different twist on the old playground comeback for insults "takes one to know one " for certain types of compliments. Remember its more difficult for us men to express feelings and talk like that it's how we are raised in this society.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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MEN and WOMEN as roomates Posted: 1/28/2008 12:23:45 AM
Men and women can be roommates without any hanky panky going on. I have 2 women for roomies and one of them even is a former girlfriend. none of that means there is anything sexual going on it means i live with people i trust and who trust me. No potential or current g/f of mine has to worry that i will cheat on them with anyone let along my roomies. Then again anyone who cant accept that doesnt deserve to have me so i dont worry

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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im confused..need a guys advice Posted: 1/27/2008 5:37:54 PM
Well if the reason he says he broke up with you is because he feels he cant be himself cobined with how he treats you now. then that is likely the reason. somehow somewhere when he was with you he felt he couldnt communicate with you the way he needs or show you sides of himself without fear of drama, conflict or nonacceptance. Perhaps it could be simple as he wanted to play the field some more but felt that doing so would hurt you and that it was part of who he is so he leaf for that reason. perhaps it is the has has a fetish that he really wants but knows you will not go for due to hard limits you have previously discussed with him. It appears though that he still values and cherishes your friendship with him and wants to keep that going, and part of how he does that is by doing favors for you, getting you gifts and still spending time with you. Though the family plan thing does give him the bonus of him being able to see who calls you and who you call and he can keep track of aspects of your life via the bill. I would say move on for now. if he is a true friend he will understand that. if not it will be a test of some of his true jealousy colors. It you like him then perhaps keep a mind open to get back with him in the future someday during a time when you are both single and he has gotten things out of his system.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Would you date a woman who was raped and now pregnant? Posted: 1/27/2008 5:20:07 PM
It sucks you had someone so shallow and immature as to dump you over being raped and knocked up from it. He showed his true colors on that one. Its not like you had much if any control over the matter. nor was it your fault. I am not someone who would do that were my g/f be raped, i would stick by her and help her heal instead. Even if she were to get more than just pregnant from it, like HIV, except that would just mean that we would be married before any unprotected sex happened. Likewise such a situation would not prevent me from dating someone, except i would want to be her friend first and help her heal and would be understanding to the trauma she suffered. I would see it more as a bonding opportunity than a reason to run.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Men who don't make guy friends Posted: 1/26/2008 11:24:34 PM
I wouldnt worry about it too much. if ya go for him ya would get a b/f that would care about you, communicate with you, and less likely to bee an ass hole in general. You wont have someone who will btch about going shopping with you and who could be not only a lover but a best friend. Me im very similar in many ways.. i dont like men or male companionship. I am cordial to the men i meet but have no interest in making friends with them. nearly all my friends are women, though i do have 1 male friend but he happens to be gay, gender identifies as female and is not into straight guys. he is the only guy i consider a friend the rest of the men i know are just acquaintances. I also value all of my female friends way more than any male friends and acquaintances. My reasons for not liking men are due to having very little in common with them. I HATE* sports and athletics. Have no interest in cars or bikes. While i LOVE women i have no interest in talking about them and talking about getting laid all the time. i would rather talk WITH women instead about them. Im not into competition and am more for equality. Then there is the simple fact that men have ruled the world for hundreds of years and have done a pretty crappy job. In essence men are the main reason for the majority of the problems in the world. I think that the world will be a much better place if we let the women run it for a while. I on the other hand dont like to do much tings women like either like shopping, gardening or art. im more of a geek/intellectual/nerd and spend most of my time reading and thinking with occasional gaming. I am also straight too (cant be gay if you hate being around men yaknow) the fact i have had minimal relationship with my dad who was a violent drunk, nor my brother. Also i grew up in group homes and had to deal with, live with or be around other boys who were asses even though i was not bullied too often but got to see a lot of bullying. combined with how men have ruled the world through out history gives me tons of reasons for the way i feel. It seems all the matriarchal societies in the past and currently are run much better with a lot less conflict. then there is the fact that men represent destructive energy while women represent creative energy. after all only women can GIVE life as well as take it. my opinions on this matter even extends to religion. I worship a goddess instead of a god. I wouldnt worry.. just enjoy having someone who will treat a woman the way she deserves to be treated instead who can be a friend AND a lover. someone who as a lover will think it is important that you cum first and more likely to cuddle after instead of rolling over and falling asleep. :)

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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dog owners Posted: 1/26/2008 1:09:51 PM
Your dog is not a person it's a dog. treat your dog like a dog. rent/buy the dog whisperer (Caesar Milan) DVD's and watch them for advice on how to treat a dog like a dog. OR you can watch the episodes and reruns on TLC. As for the barking when your away there are lots of products that respond to the dog's bark and provide a correction with some form of discomfort. Start with the ultra-sonic anti bark device first, the citronella device if that doesn't work and last resort the anti-bark shock collar of the previous 2 does not work. one of those devices should at very least significantly reduce the barking. If you watch dog whisperer you will learn that actually walking your dog every day will be necessary a part of giving your dog what he/she needs (they need more than just food, water and a bed, they need walks with their human and structure too).

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Man Accused Of Sex Electrocution Of Wife Posted: 1/26/2008 12:57:16 PM
This just goes to show that you should never mix electricity and sex. Unless your lover is a journeyman or greater skilled electrician OR a cardiac physician with a portable defibrillator. You have to know how electricity works and acts OR how to treat electrocution in order to use it for sexual purposes safely. This guy was obviously an amature as household voltage and currant would be far to painful and dangerous. A professional would have used a properly designed device and would have ensured his lover was not grounded in a manner that would allow the current to cross the heart.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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What is your flavor....credit card or cash? Posted: 1/22/2008 9:18:09 PM
I'm a cash person. I dont even use checks strictly cash only. Makes it very easy to manage money if you only have so many pieces of paper for a given amount of time. Makes saving some of those pieces of paper easier too. I also hate the idea of credit even to the point that if you need to have credit to buy something than it's price is not reasonable or fair (like houses and cars) even if you make minimum wage. I also go out of my way to purposly maintain a poor credit score so i dont get offered credit in the first place. It definitely cuts down on the spam in my snailmail box. Though i would like to have a singular worldwide unit of money that is based entirely on a card that is used exclusively by all countries (no independent and separate currencies) Just a money card similar to what you find in some of the sci-fi games and sci-fi movies where you use a card to pay everything and do not need anything special to get one in the same way you dont need anything special to get or use cash.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Quickies as sexual supplements? Posted: 1/22/2008 8:29:15 PM
I would love that. that would be perfectly fine, especially if she didnt think it a chore. In fact the long multi orgasmic sessions are hard on me too so some quickies in between are nice as well. after all some is better than none, and someone you love is better than rosey and her sisters. the long sessions must still be there though, it gets boring otherwise.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Have You or would You consider Dating a Crossdresser Posted: 1/22/2008 7:58:36 PM
Perhaps this should be in "ask a girl" Since it is not it depends. Male crossdress no, sorry not into blokes. Female crossdresser sure! whynot Would me that i wont have to worry about my g/f getting hit on when we go out unless we go to a gay bar. in that case we both would have to fend off suiters. Unfortunately all the female crossdressers i now also happen to be lesbian

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

if you could live anywhere Posted: 1/20/2008 8:13:19 PM
amsterdam Antarctica (pitty, crappy/nonexistant broadband) Prudhoe bay alaska (pitty, crappy/nonexistant broadband) anywhere in northern canada greenland sweden switzerland denmark germany australia or new zealand would be nice, but too damn hot there All of these places are a helluva lot better than the USA (except for alaska, which is just one of the better states in the us) Pitty i dont have the resources to immigrate to any of them

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 110 (view)

how many of you would have sex with someone else when your other half is far away from you? Posted: 1/18/2008 2:40:46 PM
If i was committed to that person and was under the impression they were committed to me as in all exclusive n such. Then no i would not as that would be cheating. If on the other hand that person and i have some other kind of arrangement like an open relationship or something or she has been cheating on me and i have proof then yes. I would have to be 100% sure the person i was with would be ok with that and it woulda been something we would have discussed. I would not put a good love, strong relationship at risk for a piece of ass. Ms rosey and her 5 sisters would be sufficient in my partner's absence.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 169 (view)

Where did you meet your last boyfriend/girlfriend? Posted: 1/16/2008 2:01:56 AM
I met my ex g/f online from a text based telnetable bbs, knew her for a good 3 years online before i finally got to meet her. In fact my last 3 g/f's i met from that very same bbs. 2 of those 3 are best best loves too, one of which i was with for about a year and half.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

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Fired...Reason....You on the Internet Posted: 1/15/2008 8:19:36 PM
I think it is silly and unreasonable. Personally i think if a business wants to take advantage of corporate welfare, grants or tax breaks they should extend the protection of the constitution to their employees and customers. If i had my own business i would have no problem with the online activities of my employees. The only time i would have a problem is if they are engaging in their online activities during times when they should be doing work for me at their workstation computer. If their activity came from their home computer or from the break room pc then it would be ok as far as i am concerned. I would not have a problem even if said employee insulted me online so long as he did not slander or libel me..

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

clashing tastes in music Posted: 1/15/2008 6:29:17 PM
Music is important somewhat. I have fairly eclectic taste in music but there are some genres, artists and songs i absolutely can not stand. In those situations if compromise can be made then i would be ok with it. like headphones, i own a pair and use them frequently, i make sure i have a device and headphone combination that drown out an emergency vehicle's siren if i am standing next to it if i need it that loud. So i can usually drown out any annoying music before i have to take some drastic action to get away from music i can not stand. If it was a situation where the headphones were not available and a compromise can not be made then i would just leave the area for a while. I am someone who would have someone pull over and let me out to walk in the middle of death valley if they insisted on playing pearl jam or whitney houston or jazz for example. Though there are cases when it could be a things in common issue. For example i do not like music where the vocalist screams incoherently, like with most modern punk and ultra hard core thrash metal. If that was all they were into then they would be going to a lot of concerts by themselves and i would have my headphones on when they are listening to music. I do like old school punk like ramones and MOD though so if they liked some of that then is room to compromise. On the other side of the coin my music tastes tend to be influenced greatest by my significant others. Pretty much all of my music taste now has come from me getting into what a former g/f was into .

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

how helpful are the chemistry and need features? Posted: 1/15/2008 5:53:40 PM
I find them slightly useful. though i find the needs test to be too generic and the least useful. I will read em if it is available on someone i am interested in or are talking with, even kind of disappointed if it is not available. In my case i have found the personality test highly accurate. So accurate that it describes me better than i can describe myself in my own words ( I am INTJ) I am also more interested in the personality test of others than the needs test for that reason. However i do not base things solely on those tests as there is a whole lot more to a person than these simple tests. I would find the results of an MMPI very useful though, if i knew how to give and interpret them that is. I tend to give my own version of a personality test during the process of getting to know the person. Pretty much any question i ask someone no matter how innocent tells me far more about them than the actual answer to that question.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 20 (view)

Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids? Posted: 1/15/2008 4:38:16 AM
I most certainly would, if i was interested in 2 women and one wanted kids and the other did not i would chose the one who did not want kids. While i do like kids, i do not really want any of my own. Eventually i will get myself "fixed" so that none would come form my loins at least. Which would mean ultimately that if a future partner wanted kids she would have to get knocked up by someone else if she wanted them. I have my own personality issues that would prevent me from giving my children the priority and attention they require. Also i see it as an act of cruelty to bring a child in to this world until humanity has learned to be significantly less barbaric than it is now. So a woman who does not want children would be ideal. I would still date a woman who did want children, but i would not be able to be an equal partner in the parental duties. She would have to be willing to accept that she would basically be a single mother that has a reliable babysitter. A babysitter would be all i really would even want to be even if the child was of my own blood. Just someone to watch the kid while she goes to work to pay for the upbringing of that child and while she takes care of the other motherhood duties. I do not even want a dog as they are too much work to take care of and require too much attention. A child would be worse and would take far far longer until they would be out of your hair than a dog would. When i was younger i used to REALLY want kids. That changed when i did some honest introspection of myself and truly got to know who i was. The result of that was i realized that even though i did have a lot to offer a child, my flaws would result in them being neglected too often due to being unable to put my children first and highest priority and that i would chose my hobbies over my children.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

which instant messenger program do people use most? Posted: 1/13/2008 9:12:16 PM
I use yahoo I still use it though the program has gotten more and more sucky with each version. Use to be an awesome messenger but now is rapidly going to crap due to creeping feature syndrome. Way too many features i dont want like VOIP, advertisements at the bottom, automatic updates instead of manual, plus many more. It's no longer just a decent messenger with a logging/archive option and nice high contact restriction settings and block and that most of my contact list moves with me to different computers unlike icq. The ability to easily send files is nice too, often trade mp3's with it here and there, is wonderful way to dedicate songs to my SO if she doesnt have that song yet. I still use to because of the archive, feature and that my contact list moves with me to the computer im using, also because i can selectively show myself as invisible or visible, that was one feature i did appreciate. Now i just hide the advertisement below my startbar or find one of the older versions form the internet. I also block the update portion of the program with zone alarm so it doesnt update itself and automatically give me the crappy new version. I'll use that unless yahoo makes it too much of a hassle. in which case i would probably stop using IM programs all together unless i can find something comparable. I avoid MSN like the plague, because of their bundling with their other crap and i try to avoid MS products like the plague to. That and when i tried to get MSN they wanted me to sign up with their passport thing when it was being heavily promoted, was too much hassle. If it wasnt for the fact that i use my computer for gaming i wouldnt even be using windows

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

A Growing Problem Posted: 1/13/2008 8:14:21 PM
What im curious about is the district that this school is in and the demographics of that area. I wonder especially if it is a low income part of town and/or one that does not have much in the way of productive things for kids to do other than get drunk, get high and have sex. I also wonder what the public transportation is like if there is crappy bus service in that area or bus service that costs too much for them to get to other parts of denver where there are productive free or low cost things to do. IF it is a low income part of town then it IS societies fault that this happens, especially with the welfare to work BS. After all how can someone give sufficient quality time and actually RAISE their child if they have to spend ALL of their time at work just so they can eat, have a place to live and get clothes for themselves and their kids as well as afford to actually GET to work. The USA is notorious for having horribly unreasonable housing cost with housing being the single biggest expense for the average person/family. Housing isnt even calculated in the official data for poverty level or welfare. We use an outdated model that uses the cost of food as the primary data source. This is especially so for a family that has no education since the average labor wage is not even a living wage. If you have to give up nearly all your monthly income so you can help your landlord buy a new Mercedes just so you have have a roof for yet another month. That doesnt leave much left over so you can do anything else let along pay for the exorbitant costs for a better education even if you had the time and energy left to go to school. If your spending 16 hours a day at work who is there to watch, guide and raise your children? yep, only their peers, the television, the older kids that's who. The teachers cant help much with schools paying teachers crappy wages and stuffing as many students in to a class as possible, they dont have the time to give sufficient guidance to the kids. Meanwhile the school spends millions to build the new football stadium instead of books or raises for the teachers. When you look at american society as a whole isnt it any wonder? We value most the people who make the smallest contribution. The people that get the best money are CxO's of major corporations, landlords who's only contribution is the fact they own a piece of land, professional sports athletes, actors, lawyers, and plastic surgeons. While the people who actually do the real work in our country are paid crap. On top of it all we take money away form families with welfare reform just to give it instead to major corporations and the wealthy who have too much money already and do not need any more.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

Advice Needed (Break-up Lines?) Posted: 1/13/2008 6:00:48 PM
talk about getting together and getting serious or "the talk" is not something that you really want to do over the phone. I know i sure dont want to have that intimate of a conversation over the phone, via email or messenger. I would want to have the option of looking into your eyes, holding your hand and being able to use the full bandwidth of face to face to have that kind of talk. Breaking up on the other hand is much easier to do over the lower bandwidth methods like phone or messenger. Also especially concerning past that is something that is better to do in person as you both would need to do A LOT of talking to make sure the past issues are fixed and that things have changed enough to make it work. Also what better way of getting back with someone than to actually do it while going on a date of some sort.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 8 (view)

Would you date Britney Spears? Posted: 1/13/2008 5:43:25 PM
Britney Spears? no. I'd shag her but thats about it. wouldnt want her for a relationship. If i did date her it would be to use her for sex and her social connections, so i can get a chance to talk to an artist i actually have respect for. Jewel, Tori Amos, Amy Lee, Angie Hart or Alanis Morissette on the other hand i would LOVE to have a relationship with.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 78 (view)

On the subject of Hair - Straight or Curls - what turns you on most? Posted: 1/13/2008 2:20:41 AM
For me it is long straight hair the longer the better. Curly hair is ok too especially if is long, but straight is preferred. I dont much find short hair on anyone (male or female) as attractive (if the majority of men wore their hair long it might just be enough to make me bi.) I have seen some short haircuts on women that looked ok though. What would really make me melt though would be really long hair like down pas the middle of the back or to the arse and natural red as in carpet matches drapes red.(though died red would do very well too ). If my g/f has long hair that is long like that she would not have to brush it very often herself as i would brush it for her, just as an excuse to run my fingers through it.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 120 (view)

POTHEAD BOYFRIENDS Posted: 1/11/2008 1:02:35 AM
So he smokes a little bit of pot every day. Not any worse than having a couple of beers or a couple of shots of whiskey every day. From what OP said it sounds like he uses responsibly and doesnt let it control his life. If he was going through an ounce a week then then i can see it being a problem. but a joint or bow or 2 every day is minor recreational use. If you like him maybe give him a go, see if you can get over this little issue. If it really really bothers you then ditch him. It could be lots worse like he could be doing a line of coke or meth or 2 every day or smokes 2 packs a day of cigs. I smoke pot i enjoy the way it makes me feel ant it is not something im gonna give up for anyone, it is the only drug i do with any kinda regularity. i dont even drink or use tobacco. When i spoke i do so responsibly too i have a strict budget when i do buy it and when it is gone i dont get more until the next budget cycle comes around. I spend maybe $50 a month on pot, sometimes even go without for a couple of months because i want that $50 for something else. Really there is nothign wrong with pot, there are a lot worse things someone can be doing. granted it is illegal but it is illegal for the wrong reasons and the it being illegal itself is an unreasonable and unamerican law. fortunately there are tons of people trying to get it overturned so it will be legal sooner or later. best advice i can say is to treat it like you would treat alcohol and base your decision not on the drug itself but base it on how it affects him and his life and how responsibly he uses it. Maybe have a rule that he is not allowed to be high around you or smoke near you. That would be a reasonable request that he should be able to respect if he likes you and wants to be with you. I would be willing to do at lerast that for a girl i liked.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 107 (view)

chicks that approach the guy first... Posted: 1/11/2008 12:15:33 AM
Nothing wrong with it at all. In fact with me due to my shyness its is even preferred. The ones that make the first moves as far as dating and relationships goes has best chance of getting me provided chemistry is right and im attracted enough to her (that is pretty easy my attraction range is pretty wide) As far as in bed goes she has to make the first moves is she ever wants sex from me, at least at first. I'm pretty easy that way if she makes the first moves she gets laid, even if all she wanted was an intimate encounter. Unfortunately i rarely found an IE that way but it has happened. Every girlfriend has had to make the first moves in bed too. Kinda my policy, so she doesnt feel pressured for sex before she is ready. after the first time or 2 i initiate more often. I also think it is sexy too to have the girl initiate. i love being "pounced" and then ravished Even on some place like here if a girl messages me , she is pretty much gonna get a response unless i find something in her profile a total turn off or the wrong and rare red flag goes up from the initial message or profile.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

Why do guys put ask me anything in their profiles? Posted: 1/7/2008 7:49:23 PM
While i do try to put as much information in my profile as i can think of (well if im looking that is) with the goal in mind of trying to get people who wont like me to pas me up and the ones who might to maybe write something. The problem is the concept of "tell me about yourself" is a very difficult question to answer and i cant think of or remember everything as well as i dont know what you want to know. I would put that in because 20 questions or even better 1000 questions is the BEST way to get to know me. it is a damn good way for me to get to know you as well because i would want to know some of the same things about you. Since it is also difficult for me to come up with things to talk about a good run of 1000 questions could result in many many hours of good conversation as i am reminded of interesting things to talk about when different questions are asked.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 25 (view)

The type of work a woman does...do men care? Posted: 1/7/2008 7:30:23 PM
I personally do not care much what kind of job (if any) she has. Since i do not make much money and can barely afford to meed my most basic of needs i dont get enough to support 2 people. Her having some kind of income sufficient to take care of her most basic of needs would be important. Her chosen profession would not matter much to me. There are some professions that would be a hindrance to me getting close enough to her for me to be attatched and would make others more attractive but they wouldnt nessisarily keep her out of the running alltogether. It would be more difficult for me to date someone in law enforcement. Reason is i tend to obey laws that i think are reasonable and more readily disobey laws that i think have no business being on the books. I wouldnt want to be drug to jail by my g/f because she found out i had a warrant for unpaid jaywalking tickets or because she found my stash of pot and my pipe in my jacket. I would have concerns over dating a prostitute because well. most people want to get AWAY from their job when they get home wich means she might not want sex very often since she does it all day at work. There are a couple of other jobs i would have a problem with for political reasons like a corporate exec Yet in all of these cases im willing to make exceptions based on the actual person, some jobs would just make that a little harder and would make it harder for me to trust them. Other than tat i dont really care, doesnt matter if she is on disability or welfare, if she is a drug dealer, a diesel mechanic, airline pilot, firefighter(yum), maid, secretary, waitress or whatever.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 383 (view)

Would you seriously date a woman or a man if they told you that they did not give oral sex Posted: 1/7/2008 6:18:47 PM
I most certainly would. I do not like getting oral sex so a woman who did not like to give it would be preferred over a woman who loved to give it. After all you dont miss what you dont want to begin with. Now if she, like me, did not like oral sex then i might have a problem because i do like to give it from time to time.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 24 (view)

ex-relationship discussions - why taboo? Posted: 1/7/2008 3:00:12 AM
I guess im one of the few that actually wants to know the details of a potential partner's past relationships. i wanna know things like how long ago it was, how they felt about that person and for how long., why it ended, how he treated her, the things she was annoyed or upset most about her exes, who initiate the breakup and lots of other little details. All these things combined with my knowledge of myself helps me to get an idea of what it takes to actually be with that person on a significant level. Helps me learn if my flaws are compatible to her or not and if hers are compatible with me. It is something that i also like to know before going into anything exclusive too. As i dont want to waste that person's time (or mine) if i can learn that we are not compatible. I dont mind telling you about my past relationships as well as my interpretation of the post postmortem of that relationship for the same reasons. Though i will respect if that person doesnt want to know and would tell fairly little unless asked or as part of an information exchange.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 44 (view)

Would you marry a slut? Posted: 1/6/2008 6:33:45 PM
Yes i would, i would marry a convicted cheater too. In fact the 2 women i know at this time who i would most likely marry can be considered sluts by the average person and society in general and are convicted cheaters as well. a person's past sexual experiences and motivations are irrelevant to me. A person's current and futures sexual experiences and motivations are irrelevant so long as im one of them (if i was their husband or b/f) The only problem i would have in marrying or being married to a slut OR a cheater would be if they were getting laid more than i was and i wasnt getting laid enough.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 134 (view)

dating your step sister Posted: 12/26/2007 8:23:46 PM
taking your step-sister out to have a good time on her birthday i dont see as a "date" your just tryign to show her a good time on her beirthday. it wouldnt matter if she was your real sister in that case or even if she was your grandma. As far as getting into a relationship or gettign into the pants of your step sister i personally dont see a problem with it either though other people will likely judge you for it. I have a rather hot step sister who i would have no problem being with if she liked me the same. She is my half sister of my half sister. (my half sister and i share a mother, her half sister and her share a father) I personally wont have a problem unless there was a blood/genetic link. Which means i wont get involved with my half siblings or even a cousin.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 90 (view)

How many of you actually get tested for STD's? If not why? Posted: 12/26/2007 8:03:47 PM
I technically have got tested yet technically not. I donate plasma far more often than i get laid wich amounts to getting an std test for the most important diseases and viruses with every bag of plasma. If i had gotten hiv, hepetitis, hpv or other major viral thing i would be getting a private chat with the clinic's doctor the next time i went in. I also get a yearly exam as part of the donation requirements which is included in the process. As for whats left men are much more likely to show or experience symptoms than a woman is so either i would know about it right away or i would know when i get the exam. In spite of having a crappy diet, poor exercise, occasional drug use and inadequite clothing for the climate i live in i have an excellent immune system and only get sick once per year if im unlucky. I know my body enough to know if something was wrong.

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Is it okay to date an 18 year old? Posted: 12/26/2007 7:30:24 PM
Its no big deal, youir both adults so its all good. Myself i have dated 18 year olds almost exclusively during my mid 20's (from about age 23-28). One of my best loves was 18 when i met her and i was like 26 we stayed together for about a year and a half too. hooked up with another 18 year old not long after i broke up with her. Was even with a couple of girls who had JUST turned 18 too. For me 18 is my minimum age and will be my minimum even if i was age 80 (i just dont expect anyone that young to actually want me when im that ancient, i`d be surprised if an 18 year old would want me even now.)

shylent

Joined: 10/2/2007

Msg: 191 (view)

How important are POF roses? Posted: 12/26/2007 7:12:06 PM
I both do and yet do not take the virtual roses seriously. I only send roses to someone who i think things are going well with and that there is a significantly above average connection. I also see that roses being gone without me getting one as a sign that she is not as interested in me as i thought. I might ask about it or might not it depends on the situation but it would be a yellow flag at the least and a red flag if i get other confusing or detrimental signals. I also rarely even give out point gifts too but im more liberal in who i give those to. For me only very special people get the roses and someone special gets the point gifts.

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