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dfishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

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Should Life mean life? Posted: 7/25/2009 3:54:25 PM
life does mean life in that you are only allowed out after parole and if dangerous and never allowed out and the above poster is correct, you are still being prusued all your life and checked by the police carefully "on licence" you are not ever "let off" at eh end but are given "another chance"......The situation in realtion to murder is something i understand but again there is a problem. The basic argument is that if you take a life you should pay for it and NEVEr have another chance since you took away someone else's! For a strat you might not have been in "right mind" at the time? Should you pay all your life for that? and second how do you know they dont get another life as reincarnation? Should someone pay ALL THIER LIFE if the eprson they killed reincarnates as another and so gets a "second chance" after all? Obviously we dont know if life exists after death or not but equally we dont know for sure it doesnt! Should we condemn a person for theri WOHLE life when there is a possiblity that the eprson they killed is now enjoying an ew life as someone else and may have even a better life then they had before? Things we should think about!

dfishwick

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UK Dictatorship Posted: 7/25/2009 3:45:22 PM
depends how you define a dictatorship? To the extent we didnt elect the Pm yes we are but whenever yo get a general election you never know for sure that a PM will govern all term. There is no constiutional obligation for an elction but i agree there should be and i know cameron wants to change that which is good. But even aside from that we have no democracy anyway since we dont have PR and only the liberals are advocating that really.

dfishwick

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Why are so many British people so opposed to the EU ? Posted: 7/25/2009 3:36:33 PM
because uk people are "little islanders" and i think its time we stopped being!!!!! Though i agree the EU is inefficiently run and tells countires what to do all the time and is divisive (better to have an EU that covers ALL of Europe inc russia too).

dfishwick

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Learner drivers on Motorways. Posted: 7/25/2009 3:04:08 PM
oh sorted it hadnt! Thought not but i know they were considering it!

dfishwick

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Learner drivers on Motorways. Posted: 7/25/2009 3:00:08 PM
i didnt know that rule had changed. Providing it was when they were ready (ie not thier first lesson lol!) then i suppose they would be ok esp if the motorway was quiet. It isnt difficult being on it provding you kep to the rules (and i meant the HIGHWAY code rules, not the rules that most people tend to use!). In fact they are safer than dual carridgeways and there is little differecne. The trouble is getting on them at slip roads but most on to motorways are long unlike those onto dual carridgeways that are often very short! I agree its all the other drivers in their FLASH fast cars etc that cause the problems by tailgating you or whatever in the inside lane. Remeber if you there to overtake a slower vehicle(s) you have just as much right to be there as them though obviuosly you mustn't cut in and if there is someone who clearly is very impatient then you should move back in but only once you are passed the vehicles, and it is safe to remeber you also have to get somewhere and the inside lane is an OVERTAKING lane, not THE FAST LANE (i quiate the highway code on that!) also the middle lane is NOT for hogging, itsd also an overtaking lane. Keep to those rules and you should be ok. Obviously an ADI will teach them all of the highway code, the snag is no one else cares about the rules so makes life as hard and unsafe for them as possible!

dfishwick

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Dating Sites..what a con some are!!! Posted: 7/25/2009 2:43:16 PM
I think they are. For a start some charge and this is a rip off, messaging should be free. I wouldnt bother paying and many of these sites are conns since they make profiles up themselves and they "view" unsubscribed users who then sign up so they can see who is viewing them, only to find that oddly now no one wants to see their profile! But even so i dont think these sites work. I read that while a huge number of girls leave this sort because they've found someone (i think it was 80% or something!) no statsitc was provided for men but there was published somewhere a roumour it was an embarrasing 1%!!!!!!! oh and i forgot if you are a serious memeber your chance is doubled oh er 2%!!!!!! wow! Small wonder all the men feel hard done by! so i suppose it only works if you are female but not if you are male though of course it could be a lie but i suspect its true: if it were high it would be published! Of course its the case that no site can agruntee sucesess of any kind and that life is hard so it is the same for dating sites but thats the snag: it seems HARDER than real life! I know for a fact that if i asked out as many girls in the street as i mailed on here id get a few dates (presumbably) and if not, id at least get some friends! Yet after sending out around 100 mails ive not got ANYTHING even though i usually make it clear that im interessted in friendship too! This isnt normal at all! If a girl (or man) doesn't want to get to know you sexually they will very often let you get to know them as a friend instead but thats not what happends on these sites: you just get no answer or worse blocked! The function "women who fancy you" is a joke! I have no one listed! Is it honestly telling me that out of well over hundreds of housands of women on here not a single one likes me!.......even my statistical probabilty calculation rebulks at that one since i know that even though my odds are terrible, it is better than that! If not, i would never have been liked by a sinlge person and that isnt true i have been and ive certanly not known a hundred thousand girls in my life! Sorry, i know it works for some but i think it only works for those who have a great pic, or can right a cool description or whatever but that for the "average" person, it is a no hoper! sorry

dfishwick

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Your childhood dreams and what has become of them Posted: 7/25/2009 2:17:42 PM
1. To have a car and drive: Can drive, but have no car. 2. Action on climate change: Very little done. 3. Have a house: On my salary????? 4. Have loads of gfs and rships by age 20: Never happened 5. Get married and have kids by age 30: Never had ONE date?????

dfishwick

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Russian Women? Posted: 1/30/2009 3:34:09 AM
ive been scammed and you can tell them straight away. hey say you are wonderful without going into any detail at all!!!!! But seriously not all are scammers and some are geniune, the scammers give them all a bad name. I should know since i have known people from there....

dfishwick

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Do men realy think that blonds are more attractive? Posted: 1/30/2009 3:29:42 AM
ill be honest yes...but obviously its whats on the inside that matters most so i wouldnt turn a girl down having a different hair colour. But not everyone is the same, some prefer black haired girls for example.

dfishwick

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Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 1/30/2009 3:26:20 AM
Kahahuloa60, its easy to find just type it in to any search window and you will find it, though now i will get done for talking about (advertisisng?) a rival site so i will now not talk about it lol........ by the way it was only on one day i got 20 mails, most of the time it was about mail every 3 days or so but the best part was, my rate of reply from girls was a staggering 100%!!! ????? On here it seems to be 1%??? Bizzare??????

dfishwick

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Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 1/26/2009 4:00:00 PM
dont know for sure as it seems to reflect everyday life. I understand what you mean though. Ive sent out probably far more than that over a two year period, and a few have replied but only wanted friendship which i could have got anywhere! I know for a fact this site wotn work and the paid sites are no better. I tried match.com: no luck at all. But i have SOME advice, one site that DID work for me, despite the profile being almost identical! This was a russian site MyPoppet where i managed to get 20 replies in one day! Also i got 3 girls after me, all pretty and lovely too. The only snag was it was very expensive and they all live in russia! Ive had no luck anywhere else at all so will proably delete my profile soon enough to avoid embarrasment!

dfishwick

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why does NOT dating make you a LOOSER? Posted: 1/26/2009 3:45:05 PM
it doesnt at all........If someone thinks it does then it shows there ignorance! I know many people think im a loser for the same thing but that is up to them! I personally dont call being sinlge for years at a time (and surviving) being a loser, quite the reverse! It really means THEy are the losers because they need someone every week, month or whatever just to appear like a "winner" when in reality they are the loser!

dfishwick

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Are men more attracted to women that play hard to get? Posted: 1/26/2009 3:40:08 PM
personally no i have found it is the other way round usually. If someone wants you they do, if not they dont. No amount of how much you are ignoring them, how "interessted" you are in them should make any difference. If it does then find yourself someone that is not like that.

dfishwick

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What Women Want? Posted: 7/1/2008 3:53:29 AM
Im not a women so cant speak for them but my advice is: 1. Dont put anything too negative in your profile (this makes them think you still have serious emotional issues to deal with) 2. Dont lie (yet you'll be suprised how many do!) 3. Try to make it sound as interessting as possible. 4. Think about what makes you unique and try to empthasise it. 5. The length isnt important: its the content. You dont need to put in all your details just a summary really. 6. Make sure you include what you're looking for (if you know lol?) I dont agree with all of it really as alot of it comes down to how you advertise your self, as opposed to who you really are and this creates a somewhat deceptive response rate. Ive not found anyone yet and many females say my profile is rubbish (well thats up to them obviously), but well, compared to my old profile which was very negative, it has had a much better viewing rate and response rate so it clearly has had an effect.

dfishwick

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Are adult bullies as bad as school bullies? Posted: 7/1/2008 3:45:26 AM
i dont know. child bullying often includes violence which is less common in adult bullying. I have been bullyed as adult and child and i can definatly say as child was far worse. As child, you are weaker, you cant escape (school is compulsary), no-one helps (cos they're too scared or just dont care!), you dont know what to do. do you ignore it? fight back? dob them in? as an adult you can think clearer. Obviously adults should know better as they are supposed to be more mature, but i think most children (esp those in secondary schools) know better so they cant really use that "exscuse". The best thing to do is first try not to let it get to you, sually they do it to get a "response". If that fails you only have the option of informing someone. Your boss (OP) will hardly turn "violent" so you needn't fear it, she could try to sack you so its best to get witnesses. Otherwise just try to get a different job, or wait it out til eventually she goes...i dont know.

dfishwick

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Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed? Posted: 7/1/2008 3:19:48 AM
sorry not mothers...others cant spell lol!

dfishwick

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Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed? Posted: 7/1/2008 3:19:20 AM
Met up and been disappointed...a faliure???? Not in my book nor in many mother's lol! just "meeting up" would be a sucsess for me! And of course there are coutless more on here with who getting a simple reply would be "a sucsess"...

dfishwick

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Sex with robots... WTF?!? Posted: 7/1/2008 3:16:04 AM
I think they make the robot look like a proper human (and make it quite realistic) then i think it will catch on. But i dont think the present robots are appealing, nor the "sex dolls". In the future it will probably be different and also cheap so many lonely single people who cant find love will feel very tempted to try one. However if they make them TOO realistic it will be awfully confusing, is the girl you meet a human or robot? Might not be able to tell the difference lol! so could end up loving them without even being aware of it lol!

dfishwick

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Ohh,never done that! Posted: 7/1/2008 3:09:00 AM
Shouldnt matter at all. One should not be judged on how much/little sex they've ever done, nor how many partners (if any) they've had......that is just unfair.

dfishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

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Geographic and age limits Posted: 6/22/2008 10:14:55 AM
one thing id like to add, in a way this site is much better than most since restrictions are VOLUNTARY. On match.com for example, you HAVE to put restricitons in relation to age and location and this creates, in my opinion, severe difficulties since most put they would only meet someone within a few years of their age, AND within aprox 10 miles of where they live. If you live in a large city thats fine but if you live in a tiny village where no other member of that village is likely to be on the same site, it really seems pointless at all!!! youd have to wait a very long time for a response lol! Obviously in a number of cases these restricitons would be preferances as opposed to absolutes yet the trouble was, it was almost impossible to tell which? eg if someone put "within 20 miles", what if you lived say 21 miles away? eg if someone put "20-25" what if you were say 26 or 27? I suppose thats where restrictions can be severly confusing lol!

dfishwick

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Geographic and age limits Posted: 6/22/2008 10:09:25 AM
I agree with the op about most of this which is why anyone who looks at my profile will find....no restrictions. Nethertheless, i dont think that age really harms a rship (yet theres alot of people who automatically "ruel out" people outside say several years of their age largely because they think the age defines the person....not true lol!) although i think geography can since obviously if you are to far away to meet, how can you really have something with them? Obviously this will vary depending on ability to travel. In my case, ive got no car so would have to go by train or bus yet i decided not to include a geographical boundary because it opens one's options alot more and if i did get to know someone with which there was deep mutual attraction, i would probably manage to find a way of meeting them anyway. I suppose the only "absolute" restrictions i would put (if im looking for a partner) would presumably be that they must be female (im not homosexual), and that they must not be married......yet im also looking for friends too so this would rule out others (including males) with who i could be just friends with, so i left these restrictions off.

dfishwick

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Religious POV on paedophiles Posted: 6/16/2008 8:14:22 AM
Its a tricky one. The bible does state that rape is wrong. In terms of paedophillia it is recognised that the bible only allows sex between a man and women. Most (wrongly) assume this means that under 18s or whatever cant have sex but thats because of the confusing definition of the word "adult" and "child". In todays society there is an age (usually 16) where a child becomes an adult. The bible makes NO word on when "adulthood" begins. In biblican times i presume that they used the beginings of adolescesense (which usually starts around 14) for when someone becomes an "adult" and can thus, marry and have sex. (this is also used in a number of islamic countries to this day). One poster made reference to commands such as incest and "abnormal" sexual interests which were immoral. Obviously incest (sex with ones own child) would be easily identified as wrong. "abnormal" interests presumably would include paedophillia but of course in biblical times (and in medieval times too) a paedophile was one who was attracted to pre-pubeserants and so should NOT be confused with what we use to describe paedophiles today. The full answer i suppose is i dont know since the bible never says what is actually meant by an "adult" or "child". Is it the natural definition (ie onset of adolesense?), a hypothetical age (eg 18) or somewhere "inbetween"? i have no idea but thats the only answer i can fathem!

dfishwick

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Religion is the True EVIL in the world Posted: 6/16/2008 7:56:12 AM
Relgion is not a source of evil, it is people's interpretation of the teachers of that paticular faith which often severly cloud/alter what the original teacher(s) meant. Incidently atheism is a more problem religion than the "main" religions since it professes not faith, but absense of faith not just in god but (ultimatly) everything else. Take morality for example. In religion murder is wrong because god says so and those that disrespect this "law" will face consequences eg judgement, karma etc. for atheists murder cant be seen as "immoral" because atheism suggests god doesnt exist so who is anyone to call murder immoral? Therefore there is no reason why we shouldnt just kill people for the sake of it. Atheists also dont beleive in consequence (well not totally true, some are atheist but beleive in life after death) so there is no karma or judgement for one's actions after death. Obviously there is the law, but everyone knows that unlike judgement in religion, it is possible to evade capture from the police and thus escape judgement. Therefore this quickly becomes a reciepe for disaster.........The atheists who say that moral behaviour is still embraced as it is human in nature makes no sense: where in biology does morality occur? Biology at its root, professes the reverse of morality (natural selection) and with no god, a "pure" atheist would only have this to fall back on!

dfishwick

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If it's true that matter can neither be created nor destroyed... Posted: 6/12/2008 9:25:45 AM
Im afraid youve phrased he qustion abit wrong: its energy that cant be created or destroyed, matter can be (well actually its CONVERTED to energy: the energy itself is not destroyed). If conciousness is made of energy then presumably it would be eternal: its if its made of matter (which is not likely) it would be in for trouble. Actually energy is itself a form of matter: photons. Energy is effectivly matter without mass whereas "traditional" matter is less energy, yet with more mass.

dfishwick

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What the bleep do we know!? Posted: 6/12/2008 9:17:43 AM
I dont see why peple have dismissed this out of hand really. A connection between quantum mechanics and conciousness has been severly considered by most researchers of this field. Others beleive quantum mechanics collapses due to decoherance. he snag with this theory is that the light experiement (where alot of natural "decoherance" would occur) does NOT caue the wave function collapse.....only observing it seems to which strongly suggests conciousness is the trigger. What the theory is doing is simply developing this to suggest that conciousness preceedes matter (rather than the reverse). Thier argument is in fact quite logical: If conciouness collapses the wave function, then how could all the stars, planets, galaxies, animals, us etc have formed without this porcess as without conciousness, no collapse could have occured and no reality could have formed therefore conciousness preccedes reality (rather than conciousness witnessing reality). This is how the researchers based their conclusions. If decoherance causes the collapse, then why would light ever be observed as travelling as a wave (rather then simply seen as a photon)? wouldnt the surrounding particles cause this collapse anyway? course they would: thats why researchers such as einstein concluded that conciousness seemed to be the trigger (and why he was so disturbed by it too!)

dfishwick

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Astral Projection, and Out of Body Experiences Posted: 6/10/2008 2:57:53 PM
yeh ive had two main ones plus one when i was 9 which i only just remember. The two i recall fully occured when i was 24, and one just last year. In the first, i left my body and floated through the ceiling into the attic. Yet the peculiar bit was i had no recollection of ever being there so i was thinking to myself that my brain must be "imagining" it yet when i finally did see the attic, it was exactly as it looked in the experience which stunned me! The recent one occured when i was lying in bed and became paralysed then found myself leave my body and stand up. I could se a white cord linking me to my body which was white and shone with its own light. My spirit was transparent yet visible as well (bit like a window reflection) yet then i woke up back in my body. I have had others too. Once i woke up and found myself viewing my ass! i was frightened as if my head had become injured yet i knew i wasnt dreaming. I fell back asleep and upon waking i found myself facing the right way round. In a similar occurance, i woke up to find my eyes pressed right agains the wall: very curious as i would not fall asleep in this position (i could easily bang my head). I then closed my eyes for a few seconds and when i opened them i found myself back in my normal position again! my spriti had projected itself towards the wall and in the other experience it had actually come out, then turned backwards (rather like eyes in the back of my head!).

dfishwick

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girls tell me im cute and funny but wont date me! Posted: 6/9/2008 12:36:15 PM
hey i guess your in my club! yet think of the positives: you get called cute: i get called ugly lol! If a girl is like that here not worth it at all they are just using you as a post to cry on when he dumps them only to go back searching for another "bad boy". I dont know why everyone says it gets easier as you get older? Im 28 and i find precisely the same problem lol it seems to me that the only girls that ARENT like that are about 35-40 ish and ive never felt attraction to anyone of that age. Also, the age you are seems to have nothing to do with it either i bet if you were my age and asked them out theyd give you exactly the same reply (they do to me too if i ask out a 22 year old). The only advice i can give is: whatever you do, dont become tempted into being "bad" to get a girl because aside from probably getting you nowhere, you obviously shouldnt change just for a girl. Your a nice man becasue you believe that is how you should behave dont let anyone change that. In the end, girls will respect that and will work in your favour. To sum up: It is interessting that girls dont want a "doormat" but which would be the BIGGER doormat? A. The man who is nice and helps others OR B. The "bad" boy that is being bad to attract the girl and who has fundamentaly altered his beliefs and behaviour not by choice, but because he wants the girl and is prepeared to become a totally different person to who he really is and wants to be? Obviously the REAL doormat is B so providing you think along those lines (that your doing A) girls will pick up on this and if they dont, then their a bit thick lol!

dfishwick

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If you knew you were going to die Posted: 6/9/2008 12:12:12 PM
i think it depends on a number of factors including whether you believe in life after death. If you do, you will most likely believe in karma or judgement so you will want to make it up to those that you have hurt. If not, i suppose you will want to spend your time with your family, lovers, friends (assuming you have any: many people have none of these which most take for granted) If you belive in life after death, you will not be so keen to make the most of your life since you will think that there is a new adventure to await you: yet you will want to be near others who will miss you and vice versa. If you dont believe, you will most likely want to blot it out of your mind and just have as much fun as possible to enjoy your latst moments.

dfishwick

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Why do younger men love older women, but rarely date them? Posted: 6/9/2008 11:52:30 AM
I find it tends to be a problem more the other way round. Most men dont date older women because they aren't attracted to them. Those that are usually do as men tend to just go for whoever they like (well, unless the women is VERY old obviously!). I find that most women though will only date men within several years of their age which is strange since alot of women in their twenties are attracted to men in their 30s sometimes extremely so, yet as soon as the guy says their age they go NO WAY even if the guy doesnt look, nor act, nor feel old (ie they could lie yet the girl would never find out!). Then number of times in my life ive heard a female say "I really like you (or him or whatever) but no i wont go out with him because he's say 10 years older then me: im 20, he's 30" or maybe its just me?

dfishwick

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Its all about looks Posted: 4/29/2008 2:09:59 PM
Some of it is. The only way you can get round that is to have a pic on your profile and post it WITH EACH FIRST LETTER so that the girl knows what you look like straight away. Luckily because ive followed this ive never had a girl stop contact due to my looks its usually because they find out im interessted in more than friendship and they dont want to go futher than that, although rather than saying so and allowing me to just be friends with me: they cut off contact and delete all future mail! I dont understand why if they're just after fship, why they cant just say so and ill have another friend - rather than suddenly shutting me out!

dfishwick

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I Still CRY at Night ALONE!! Posted: 4/29/2008 1:58:38 PM
Its ironic because ie been in that situation almost constantly, since i was about 13. Except that i became too upset to cry and its very difficult for me to cry now not because the pain is less, but because ive been so battered my whole life that i can hardly feel anything any more, unitl a while ago, i lost ALL ability t feel emotion and my heart went cold yet i cared not. Only seeing anew girl and believing she liked me opened me up again (slowly) yet if her love were to turn out false, id just freeze again, and become a cold, robot for the rest of my life. To the original poster, beware because if your hurt continues, you too may lose the ability to feel anything and it doesnt really make it any better because your also unable to feel pleasure (with your child growing up for example). Your very lucky to have this as i ONLY have "assumptions" that the girl actually likes me and is not playing games (all the girls ive loved have to some extent) and a few bizzare evnts that occured when i was a child which are connected to this girl.

dfishwick

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Would A Guy Who Doesnt Do Clubbing/Etc Put You Off? Posted: 4/28/2008 2:57:03 PM
Well to the first person who started this......youve beat me to the question ive wanted to ask. I dont like clubbing at all, its too loud, i hate alcahol, i hate the pressure, i hate the crowds, i cant dance and unfotunatly, im not into music at all, its as boring to me as clothes are to alot of men. Yet i do like bowling, games, pool, snooker, walking, cinema etc yet no girl seems to want to do those, its always "going out clubbing" or else they just think im boring and a turn off (which isnt true, im not boring actually). Ive tried to find girls who arent into clubbing yet i find hardly any which id be interessted in (about one a month on average!) and thus i dont get anywhere because the laws of probability alone say that none of these will be interessted (and they're not!). so it seems that because i hate clubbing im doomed to eternal singlehood. Alot of people do say that it doesnt matter, yet when push comes to shove, the girls that are attracted to me always turn me down due to my lack of interest in clubbing, being unable to dance and not drinking.....so i cant thelp but thinking that girls are like that.

dfishwick

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i'm not into night clubs, bars and dancing places - dealbreaker ? Posted: 4/28/2008 2:38:44 PM
Im in the same situation (as the original poster), i think. I hate clubbing, drinking and music about as much as alot of people hate working (for me, work is preferable!). This makes it very difficult for me because almost all girls i meet, that i have the slightest feeling for, are all keen club goers yet if i go along (as i occasionally do for my friends) i quickly get sick (alchol makes me feel ill), bored, deaf (i hate noise and the music is noisy), uncomfortable (because everyone else is having a good time and im not) and also incapable (i cant dance, music just goes in one ear and out the other). Yet, if i say i dont like things like that, everyone says im boring which simply isnt true. Given a chance to open up i can make any girl laugh, yet it admittadly gets me nowhere. I dont want to change who i am because i like who i am......even though none of the girls seem to.......i cant seem to find girls who are into the things im into largely because the girls on here are almost all into the same things, or theres no attraction to them, or there are no clubs or groups to join because im either too busy, or the interests i have are rather solo things which groups dont form around.

dfishwick

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Msg: 71 (view)

Do women like being ignored? Posted: 4/28/2008 3:08:38 AM
I agree that it doesnt work at all. I read somewhere in a book that it supposidly creates mystery and causes girls to chase after you (same as not phoning them anymore) yet of course, it had NO EFFECT AT ALL.......In case your wondering where i got this silly advice (which i never believed in, i only did it to test the thoery scientifically) it was the same book which the other poster on page 1 had read. I know because it also said the same thing! Well, ive tried it for you and it its a no goer. I suppose it can be effective if a girl is already interessted and may prolong the attraction slightyl, but it wont cause the girl to start liking you. Besides, i dont think anyone wants someone to like them for their "approach", but for who they "are". Just for the record the book was written by a Mr Simon Heong who claims to have got loads of girls liking him by following 28 specific methods. Well i can definatly say that hes seriously inaccurate with most (but admittadly not all: some of the sensible ones such as being more confident do work) of these methods. And to be honest even if they did work, i really dont see how knowing the girl of your dreams is with you simply because you played games is gonna make you happy, any less then it would if you knew she was just with you for your money, but obviously thats for him.....

DFishwick

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Msg: 112 (view)

Unattractive people asking for pics Posted: 4/22/2008 12:49:21 AM
I dont mind if people ask for pics, i think its only fair regardless of how "attractive" the girl is, you want to tell if there is a physical attraction, and who you are talking to if you decide to get into contactig each oher. The only thing though that DOES annoy me is if a girl puts up "Must have a pic to contact this user" or "no pic- no reply" when they themselves have no photo and some have even said that they refuse to let you have theres! I dont think thats fair play at all! Logically, i dont ever contact this group of people.

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 91 (view)

What is The purpose of our existance? Posted: 4/8/2008 2:48:56 PM
Sorry stonestongue i didnt actually meant it like that obviuosly we all "live the moment" as we can only be aware of one time (the present). When i referred to "live the moment" i was actually referring to the idea that life is just for living. Obviously life is for living hence why we are conciuos but thats different to being alive for just one lifetime for no apparent reason at all other then to have temporary concious awarness. This is the "living the moment" that i was referring to. Where i said you couldnt have this, and great moral behaviour and love is because there would be no reason to love anyone or behave morally because there would be no consequences. We all have "animal instincts" which cause us to do evil things but luckily most of us control them and become caring becasue we are trained (often by relgion) to behave as such and religion always believes in an after life and a life purpose which is usually caracterised as spritual growth, and becoming one with god and this contradicts our natural instincts which push us to behave selfishly. Our lives are a battle ground between these two forces. But, if you take out faith, the after life and god your left with no reason to behave goodly and so you revert to your natural insticts which point you against harmony and towards simply survival of your genes (simple bioloigy lesson) so thats actually what i meant....... sorry if i was confusing you.

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 819 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 4/8/2008 2:35:16 PM
Oh sorry regarding your other point i dont believe that if you think positivly you'll simply get someone and i never desribed myslef as "worthless" and i dont beleive im worthless for a single minute!! If that was so everyone would have someone because would anyone seriously join a site if they thought there was "no chance" of finding a partner? would you bother to upload a photo or write a desription as best as you could (ok im not going to pretend for a minute that my profile and/or photo could have been better...they could have been!) if you thought there was "no chance" i know i wouldnt!!!! so this argument seems flawed. Im not saying its impossible, just unlikely whaich are two different things and it would be bizzare to simply attract loads of girls simply by me saying that "I will definalty find someone" it just wouldnt work like that. I agree with you that confidence attracts girls and used to work wonders for me a number of years ago yet unfortunaly i wasnt interessted in ANY of the potential partners at all......so it seemed pointless to use confidence to attract girls unfortunalty...The ones i WAS interessted in were unaffected by my confidence attempts (hence why i dont try the same procedure now which if i tryed abit i probably could)

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 818 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 4/8/2008 2:25:35 PM
Indehills, i only used those terms because: 1. These actually aren't my terms, they are actually how everyone that knows me describes me, im actually terrible at describing myself because im not an artist person at all and im useless when it comes to describing anything (except absolute things such as interests etc) in the same way that (i'll admit) am a useless dancer! 2. I find that if i just say that im "fun" then the first thing that girls ask (naturally!) is how fun? It conjures up an image of someone thats clubbing every weekend, getting drunk etc because (unfortunatly) most girls ive met think that fun spells those things and that everything else is NOT FUN ie boring. I dont share this interpretation at all and (i suspect), neither do you. Yet when i am fun its extremely suprising (ok spontanoues!) yet the trouble is i do then become very immature depending on what the term really means (which to be honest i dont know!) as i believe others do at times and i have used it because theres such a contrast between that and my normal every day personality that everyone describes it as if id suddenly become twenty years younger for a few minutes and that this extreme contrast (well everyone else has always described it as such!) could take a girl aback and they may attempt to say that id "mislead" them or something which is the last thing i want to do. so yes i probably could have desribed it better yet i dont know the best way to do it without creating a "false profile".

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Could there be a religious or biblical argument against forgiveness? Posted: 4/6/2008 8:54:24 AM
"an eye for a eye" is ludicrous! i mean: if someone commits murder he must be killed (well death penatly presumably) if someone steals he must have his assets seised (what if he has nothing?????) if someone rapes, commits child abuse etc he must therefore also be abused and raped (by a man? but what if he likes the man and is homosexual??? what if a women commits crimes like this?) plus this could go on for ever if you think about it! Person is executed for murder but by whom, an executioner. But he has now murdered someone so he too must be exectuted becasue eye for an eye means the victim must pay back the criminal....but the victim is dead so he cant! the same principle would apply with any situation if you think about it. A girl is raped but she cant rape him back really so someone else must do it but then they've raped so they must suffer too.....ad infinite well if we followed this literally there would of course be one logical outcome: WE'D ALL DIE!!!!!

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 83 (view)

What is The purpose of our existance? Posted: 4/6/2008 8:46:27 AM
I probably agree. People who say that the purpose of life is to "live the moment" is rather superficial since it doesn't explain the purpose for existing at all! Scinetists will often say that our purpose is to grow old, and have kids to make more gentic babies but this too misses the point: why are we conciuos of our own existance.....im sure nature could find a better way of doing this without us being conciously aware! And so if we are concious what are we conciuos for? Clearly it suggests a spiritual reason to do with love, merging of conciuosness, god etc...... Also those that "live the moment" could potentially face two shocks: 1. You're moe likely to die because you'll take more risks and, more importantly 2. If there is life after death, and you get judged negativly how will you cope then? You wouldnt do a crime "just too live the moment" on the assumption youd not get caught (well ok some poeple do!) so the same principle applies if your judged after life Whats this got to do with living the moment? because frankly left to our own devices, we'd all be living accoriding to our animal insticints: rape, murder, stealing, fighting, hate etc......... so we would (by default) become criminals who think naively that we'll get away with it cos there'll be no-one after death to judge our actions......so the idea that we can "live the moment" AND be caring is well......plain wrong in my view!

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 815 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 4/6/2008 8:27:51 AM
Thats how i feel, when i was younger i used to supress it because everyone kept telling me "you'll find someone when your older" like people do but no-one has turned up and im now really almost convinced that there are two inevitable fates for me: Death and being single for life. I feel jealous of all the others who grew up just assuming it would happen (in a way i think we all do) and then it does.....except to us who are still single with no sign that it will ever change. I agree that we should "never let a good chance slip away" and i can definatly say that ive kept to that.....yet there HAVEN'T been any way to hold on to the rare chances that ive had...i always hold on like my life depends on it....the other person just says to me "oh its not worth it cos you'll find someone soon" as if????? THEY FIND SOMEONE but i dont...i just stay lonely! i know that its not a life essential to have someone (in the way that is for food, shelter, a job etc) but you still need at the very least happiness even if you dont get a rship with anyone but thats my problem....unless i believe that someone wants me, i just cant be happy and have fun because im still always being rejected by the persons i want to have fun with and its difficult to have fun on ones own. Ive got friends obviously but friends dont "love" you do they???? so its not the same.

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 715 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 1/28/2008 3:33:37 PM
Unfortunatly yes, and its awful when i see people together who just take it for granted that you get older (from being a child), fall in love get married and have kids when to me, even the "dating" stage hasn't come yet and im now 28. I seriously for the last five years or so, have had to come to terms with the fact that its almost inevitable that ill never have anyone (even for a week!) and will never have sex (still a virgin) and will never wake up next to a girl i love (or anyone for that matter!). I just keep thinking what shall i do with myself??????? The last poster said something interessting about wanting to be rich, as a "lesser" alternative to being with someone, but im quite rich but all i can say is that its not "lesser" its "A LOT LESS" happy then being poor and taken!

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 134 (view)

Male Virgins? Do they exist? Posted: 1/26/2008 2:48:49 PM
This is a silly question of course they do (unofrtunalty i know alot of **** girls who think that because im a virgin at 28 there must be something "wrong" with me and that they shouldn't feel "attraction to me" cos they dont want to be seen with someone who's never "done it" before!!!)

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

Sleep. Why have we not evolved out of the need for it? Posted: 1/26/2008 2:40:41 PM
Actually ive read a study which shows that we sleep to repair our cerebal cortex as sleep is the ONLY time that this area can recover (its always active at other times). Without sleep, it gradually falls in to disrepair over a number of months. I have heard of people who never sleep there are really two groups: 1. Those who can live without sleep. somehow this repair process occurs when they are awake they have adapted to NOT sleeping and live fairly normal lives. 2. Those who suffer from a genetic disorder fatal familial insomnia which comes on during adulthood and makes sleep impossible (even drugs are useless!). They hallucinate all the time and their brain starts malfunctioning and after about 6-9 moths, they die miserably...........

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 127 (view)

Hmm... global warming by co2? Posted: 1/26/2008 2:34:09 PM
I actually agree that co2 is the main (but probably not the only ause of global warming) but where i dispute is how bad the effects will be or whether there will actually be any notable warming this century. On the one hand, global warming may increase sea levels, leading to not only flooding but also extra pressure on the crust triggering a runaway cyle leading to more volcanic eruptions, and yet more co2 in a vicious cycle (it has happened before about 10,000 yrs ago and around 250 my ago!). On the other hand, there may be a huge rise in cloud cover, causing a marked rise in albedo and cooling us down again. Eventually the latter will win out so any warming will be short-lived. Of course two things should be noted: 1. We will definatly NOT end up like venus (some environmentalists are scare mongering!!) 2. Its very likely that the very long term effect will be earth will (after the warming) end up alot colder with a severe ice age due to rain falling on basaltic rock eating up too much co2 and triggering global cooling (yet this wont occur for millenia!)

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

What do women think of shy guys ? Posted: 1/26/2008 3:20:15 AM
Women seem to think that shy guys=no confindence=loser = no way! Often a rather unfair assumption unless you know the person well. Im pretty shy early on but when i come out of my shell am very different the trouble is that im afraid to speak because im afraid that a girl will think my conversations are boring or too weird and freaky so i feel uncomfortable talking and that goes to girls and guys really. Ironically im NOT shy when it comes to initiation of romantic gestures which is quite a paradox really (unless your referring to initating sex which id be dead shy as ive never done it beffore) But no once i find common ground with someone i can talk forever given half a chance! its finding that "common ground" which i struggle to do can take days, weeks even years!

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 58 (view)

Many women say: Can you keep up with me? Posted: 1/26/2008 3:03:37 AM
I know what it means! 1. U have to be able to have sex with her alot 2. U have to be able to drink all the alcahol in the world (despite the long term health effects!) 3. U have to be able to dance all night long Well i cant do ANY of those things and more importantly i dont want to! Im not going to let any girl "bully" me into those things i say that girls like that simply aren't worth it!! Hence i never mail them!

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 94 (view)

Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone? Posted: 12/28/2007 2:53:38 PM
Here! But, girls never want them as their seen as too "boring","dull" or when they're not like that then they must be "weak" or "desperate" simply for telling a girl how he feels or even for paying any attention to her, "ugly" cos he's not tall dark and handsome, "loser" cos he's never had sex or a girlfriend before cos all girls seem to think the same............. Of course the main draw back of all this is that eventually the man gets so fed up he stops being "nice and honest" and simply turns into a "bad boy" or more to my taste i think as i dont believe in making perople's lives a misery "disinterestted male" who sees all females as a waste of time and shouldn't bother to ever be loved or thought of again.... Well, if girls really want nice and honest men then i should have had a hundred girlfriends or been married by now......neither has happened!

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 5 (view)

Speeding .....the tickets wuts the point Posted: 12/20/2007 12:13:24 PM
Speeding is illegal because above certain speeds, the danger to other road users, pedestrians and yourself rises. This varies with place to place (and also with time of day, weather conditions etc ( which is why it only represents the 2maximum permissable speed, alot of the time it is unsafe to drive at these speeds so you should slow down). Well, i know one reason why cars can do 125mph yet the limit is 70mph, because the speed limit varies from country to country and in germany, there isnt a speed limit at all on most autobanhs (but they're planning to bring one in!) so you can drive at those speeds yet its doubtfull thats its safe as many deaths occur on germany's motorways for this reason. In britain i think the reason is two fold: 1. so emergency vehicles can speed as their drivers are expertly trained to handle their vehicles at high speeds 2. Cos if a car can only do 70mph, its also lacking in power at lower speeds so it can only sustain a speed somewhat below this (perhaps only 50mph) which would mean that for long distance travel, you wouldn't be capable of reaching the speed limit and it would drastically effect its performance when overtaking, accelerating and climbing hills (as small-engine cars are often adversly affected in these areas compared to more "luxury" cars).

DFishwick

Joined: 10/3/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

Worse than global warming - polarity Posted: 12/20/2007 12:03:15 PM
Well i know that the magnetic field generation has nothing do with ice caps: for most of earth's history there was no ice at the poles and earth still had magnetic field. Yet it does reverse at times (and may temporarily drop to zero during these periods!). If this happens, earth loses its protected covering and its now obvious that it causes volcanic activity to rise although no-one knows precisely why. It also coincides with mass-extinctions (far better in fact then impact craters!) suggesting severe choas happens to climate during these reversals. If earth lost its magnetic field permanantly (it will eventually cos the core will solidify!) particles will ionise water leading to us losing our atmosphere, losing our water with earth becoming like mars (yet obviously warmer cos we're closer to the sun!). On the other hand, if earth lost its magnetic field through stopping rotating it would cause co2 from volcanoes to build up a runaway greenhouse effect turning earth like venus! (venus is the same size as earth yet its slow rotation leads to an absence of a magnetic field which causes the runaway greenhouse effect we see on the planet).

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