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mind_reader

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what kind of relationship are you looking for now that you have the opportunity to start a new one? Posted: 3/18/2006 11:04:21 AM
Here is what I think I want: I want this, I want that, a charming man with lots of hair, someone brave who does and dare, a loving man who cares and care. I want this, I want that, a nice, tall blond, eyes blue, who can figure it out and who has many to tell and to do. I want this, I want that, a handsome man, wearing a hat, someone to talk or maybe chat, a man with love for dogs and cat!! Mind reader

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What's with asians and being shy?? Posted: 3/17/2006 12:45:04 AM
Once I approached a European man for a small talk and for several months later, I had men at my door since that first man had absolutely no contacts with an Asian woman prior to that date, therefore, he had established Wrong Ideas about me and was paid through the men he sent to my door!! Of course, he had to pay the money back to them since None of these men were allowed to reach their Goals!!

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IS LOVE STILL OUT THERE? Posted: 3/17/2006 12:28:37 AM
And, Love comes in different forms and shapes, it touches you and me in many different ways. It is not only between a man and a woman. It is also between mothers and childrens, fathers and childrens, grand mothers and fathers and the rest of the relatives. Love is there, of course. Without love the day cannot open it's eyes, the sun won't shine, the seasons won't turn to the other one. Love is actually the Reason for the Life going on. Without it, there would only be a Huge Stop and a deep Silence. No, but, we are looking also for individual Love in our lives, and many of us do look in the Wrong places. Beauty, shimer, mode, competitions, something extra-ordinary. We do hope to have it and sometimes, out of our lucks, we do have it, but mostly we learn to grow Up and make all of the Right choices in order to keep us Loved and Happy.

mind_reader

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Beware of Foreign Women Posted: 2/16/2006 6:09:51 AM
I only know that we could all be foreign to eachother no matter of the distance. There could be people in the same area we are living in who would be much much more alienated toward us than someone living in 3000 miles!! I would say, if you be honest and love me for who I am and not for who you want me to be, then, I can Love you back and remain loyal to you. I am someone who's been living in different cultures throughout the east and west and north and south. I have come to learn about Heart and souls and the real pleasure which can only be provided by true people who enjoy being together and cherish the fine moments. It is absolutely not about the wealth and the shallow mentalities developed through materialisme, it will all vanish one day and what good could they deliver if the owner can not be able to reach someone else's feelings and communicate properly!! I may say, I am not at all impressed with all the modern houses and cars and clothes and vacations being used to brag about, but, I can enjoy when someone else would open their heart and reveal their true souls to me. I am also very Glad I am not one of the materilistic sorts, otherwise, my existance and pleasure could as well depend on many artificial motivations!!

mind_reader

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Finding the right person... Posted: 2/15/2006 12:40:04 PM
Angel, you've said it in the best way possible. that's how I see it too and that's the reason why I am still single after all these years. Could never put up with " poor relationships" eventhough I had to cry and go through the missing times!! But instead, I reached the point to Love and be good for others and remain that way without persuing a Perfect Love specially made for me. It is the Love of all, the Love for life itself!!

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HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY ( Just one Thread Please Add Your Wishes Here) Posted: 2/14/2006 12:37:24 PM
@sambucadawg A very Happy Birthday to You and Best wishes. May you be Not Single Next year at this time!!

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HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY ( Just one Thread Please Add Your Wishes Here) Posted: 2/14/2006 11:35:04 AM
It's already been a nice day, I spent it together with my daughter and our 4 cats. Ate delicious, went out for long walks in the afternoon, watched romantice love songs on a few tv programs and returned to you all. HOW very Nice, it is about your hearts and I can see and feel that you all do have very Lovely, warm Valentine Hearts............

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HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY Posted: 2/14/2006 6:57:33 AM
^^^Made me laugh, thanks. But, I wished for something a little more deep and romantic today.

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HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY ( Just one Thread Please Add Your Wishes Here) Posted: 2/14/2006 2:59:23 AM
O.K. You very nice guys and girls, let's congratulate and be eachother's valentine just as people who know eachother from all around the World and without specific expectations. You are all my Valentines. Happy Valentines day :

mind_reader

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8 Types Of Guys Women Avoid Posted: 2/11/2006 11:02:28 AM
And, does anybody think why are there too many Problematic men out there trying to cheat and gain their own benefits? Where do such guys come from? Who are their parents? Why could their parents not teach them their manners? Could we really categorize people the way we do in such definitions??

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who would be the better parent and why ? Posted: 2/11/2006 9:36:41 AM
A child is usually born with a bundle of characteristics, Genes. They are the ones forming the personalities and the behaviour patterns of each person in the first place. All what parents could do is to teach the positive ways of thinking and doing and warn about the negative. Parents could also teach children about the realities of the life within each living atmosphere. Raise children with dicipline and the best way to divide and use the time while maintaining their health and both mental and physical growth. But, sometimes, a few of the genes running inside the individuals are far more stronger than any parental teachings at all. That's when a child acts in a way not acceptable within a so called "standard" behaviour. In the eyes of the active society, is the parent to blame for such problematic. But, it is only the world of psychology and it's experts to decide about the specific situation and see the reasons behind such behaviours. Sometimes, both parents who are also living together and are trying their best, could not control or raise their own child as it is expected and properly due to such dominant genes. Of course, during family conflicts, a strong parent who can continue motivating children in order for them to remain happy and active toward a better future, and do not enter a world of disappointments, is the ultimate parent!! But, we are all human beings with all too many frustrations and compromises. Our children are as well aware of our weaknesses and emotional ups and downs too. They are a part of us after all and the fact that Nobody is Perfect, should not be forgotten at all times. Then, who is the better parent?? Who is the kinder and more Loving and forgiving Person?? It is when you Forgive, forgive from deep down your Heart and do cry about it, then you don't keep any anger within. You forgive the ones and/or the situations who and which have made you the way you are once and forever and leave them Behind you. Then, you look at yourself once more, you are a new creature who can start anew with Love and Patience!!

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Insult?? Misunderstanding?? Trying?? Posted: 2/11/2006 2:44:57 AM
Thanks you guys, different point of views, but, I was really offended yesterday since that was the very first time to have received such an email. I have blocked the guy anyways. It could really be the matter of East-West, closed-minded, open-minded. I am over it now, today is another day.

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Insult?? Misunderstanding?? Trying?? Posted: 2/10/2006 7:38:21 AM
^^^No, but, he had written in a very excellent English. He explained also about his English Literature majoring some years ago. But, it is about his intentions and his very low ideas about women who do appear on the dating sites.

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Insult?? Misunderstanding?? Trying?? Posted: 2/10/2006 7:35:14 AM
^^^He sure offended me with his message though he was trying to put some decent words also through it. But, how primitive of him, I think.

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Insult?? Misunderstanding?? Trying?? Posted: 2/10/2006 4:15:00 AM
^^^ I have already blocked the guy. But, it makes me think how has he gotten the ideas he has already about me and why!! Or, maybe in the other side of the world, a woman being on a dating site means a whore to them!! Pitty, pitty!!

mind_reader

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Insult?? Misunderstanding?? Trying?? Posted: 2/10/2006 3:08:43 AM
Just received a mail from an Egyptian guy, 35 years old letting me know that he is planning to arrive to the Netherlands sometimes in April and has chosen me as a " Submissive, hot lady to go and spend a few nights with him in a hotel since he would like to enjoy his stay in the Netherlands and experience Hot, sexy moments". While reading his message, I got a feeling to know what does he mean by: Submissive???? How does he know if I am Submissive or not?? Is this because I am an Eastern woman?? Reading my own profile does not project a submissive woman or does it?? I don't find myself at all being submissive specially when I don't know a date very good, or when did I ever go to a hotel to meet a man and spend the night with him?? Am I being preserved as a " Pleasure lady" being on the dating site?? I have a feeling that I am being insulted, or am I being misunderstood?? Or, is this a way men try to get a woman do things for them?? What do you think?? Input please

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now all i do is listen to sad songs like i always do Posted: 2/5/2006 5:48:17 AM
It is true, we all think we are the only one with Loneliness, sadness, desiers, cravings for Love, at any age, it does not matter really. The only difference is that when you are around your 18 years of age, you can Hope for many many years yet to come to achieve Love and other wishes you do have. But, What are you going to do if you are 49 today like I am, without love, without romance.:::.............. How Sad............!!?? I am enjoying a good music from Eagles though, I have invited a few people to join me for dinner tonight. My daughter is busy gathering music for me amongst her own collections, I am wearing nice clothes and have baked a two-story chocolate and orange cake. Would you care to join me??::

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What do you hate most about being single? Posted: 2/2/2006 11:58:33 PM
I don't Hate anything about it. I L O V E I T, Being Single, Free....................... and Happy and my own boss, HOOOOOOOOOOOORay..............................

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Dating someone who's Mentally unstable Posted: 2/2/2006 2:27:03 AM
I do get some depression every once in a while. I have also been through a few unwished and unwanted so called traumas during the last 20 years of my life. I have always pulled me out of them and continued in a positive way. Have been raising a child who is now 15 years old and also very intelligent. But, I also do notice, when I do talke about these past undesireable evants and show some emotions, people do run away from me!! I do exercise, walk in the open air, cook delicious meals, draw and make nice paintings, motivate my daughter constantly, have 4 cats and do enjoy them, have shown love and concern and helping hands toward other people, But, I am still no Good, because of what happened years ago. Mentalities are the big walls, break them down my friends!!

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Are PASSION and LOVE different? Posted: 2/1/2006 6:42:49 AM
I walked with you hand in hand over the soft grass, path of sand, went into my soul and came through trying to find the same inside you, what was it trembling in heart of mine? warm as a hot sun, old as an old wine, beating hard, looking into your eyes was it my Passion? so great in size? Mind reader

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Technology: The death of relationships Posted: 1/31/2006 10:38:24 AM
Hi Arri; Nice to communicate with you. Don't worry, me and you have very old, full of love genes running inside our vains!! This can keep us in Love forever no matter what!!

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Technology: The death of relationships Posted: 1/31/2006 9:54:27 AM
^^^ Believe me there are all sorts of new and modern equipments including toasters and computers and MP3 Players, Playstation 1 and 2 and dishwahers and what you can imagine entered into the so called third world countries long ago!! There maybe only amongst the Ab-Originals that you can't see any of the modern-age inventions. Everywhere on the earth is getting so full of them, but, the difference is that within an old - Culture, or as you mention third world countries, people do not replace these object with their Love!!

mind_reader

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Technology: The death of relationships Posted: 1/31/2006 9:26:23 AM
It sure looks like we all do have many reasons to put the Blame on. You are mentioning Techonology, independence, emancipation, the effects of the modern-age thinking etc......... We know what the causes are now. What are we going to do about it? It is called the Process of Growth!!! Humans grow physically, mentally, scientifically and technologically throughout history. Humans' needed eachother as man and woman in Love before. Now, they need eachother as friends and sometimes lovers. Shortly, they'll need eachohter only as friends and maybe later on as only the Other gender!! That gradually the meaning of Love has lost its depth, that gradually the meaning of Respect is replaced with brutality, that gradually, needing eachother has become less and less, that gradually, the Precious "We" has become the lonely " I ", all true. Human's do pay for their own progresses and witness the fall of their own civilization through the Lack of humanly emotions, Love and Respect. Therefore, there are too many Artifical Plesures to quench the very thirsty souls of human's. There are many people who have gotten involved in such Artificial Satisfactions and are raising their children also in the same way. Though not real for the real souls!! But, there are also many people yet on this earth that do enjoy some of these artificial pleasures and do pay much more attention to the " we " culture and do keep the Love and Respect part throughout their lives. They are the ones who do not allow the modern technology interfere or damage their precious loving relationships. How do these people do this?? They do spend time together. Real time, real talks from heart, real attetion to their children. They do sacrifice for eachother, they wait with patience for eachother. Maybe they are people with good, solid upbringings, or the ones who do believe in God or another meaningful Idea!! Why don't we try to be like them?

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Guys and how they dress Posted: 1/27/2006 4:29:16 AM
It can also be Insecurity. When guys don't respect themselves, or are afraid to show up as someone who has tried hard to look beter!! A low self steem or a high confident could both be shown by the way a person is presenting himself. Bad choise of clothes can reduce the respect and positive progression within the first seconds of a date!! You have to have a good explanation or a very charming personality to survive all of those good points you have lost in the begining!

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why im deleting my account Posted: 1/27/2006 4:19:19 AM
I am only looking for friendships mostly. If there comes someone serious about me and maybe we can find something together, would be NICE, otherwise, I keep enjoying being with you people in general and be able to exchange ideas!! I guess the guy got upset and angry and wrote his post while being very emotional!! Understand him please. He did not mean it!!

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How far would would you go to find love? Posted: 1/26/2006 8:35:16 AM
I think it is very near actually, Love is inside each one of us. When we do project it, we do receive it in return, the actuall land or distance are only outside of us. We could examine them, but, if and when we do get there, and we do see the person and we could not Love them, then, we have to start all over again. Within ourselves!!

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Have you ever stolen someone away from their partner? Posted: 1/26/2006 8:11:05 AM
It happened to me when the wife of the man meant to start a relationship with ME, she being a Lesbien and thought I was very pretty!! Then, I was no Lesbien and while visiting, her husband who happened to be a straight guy, did fall for me. But, things went very wrong when she found out. She became very Jealous about it and made vicious and savage attacks to keep me away from her husband!! Sometimes, we do get involve in such matters without any intentions!

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Turn me on, Turn me on Posted: 1/26/2006 7:57:14 AM
It is a simple question and a desire when I am with a man I like. His voice turns me on, his touch of hands, his eyes when he looks at me and I do feel warm and gradually HOT. Then, I start singing inside me: Turn me on, turn me on, But, sometimes, mostly around here, I do get turned on and get warm and Hot and do Remain that way!! The men with whom I date, they don't dare to Cool me off after they've turned me on or they do like it only that way!! They do enjoy keeping me Turned-on only!!!! Any other input? Did you ever experience such behaviours too? Should I date someone else? Should I talk about it? What would you do?

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What would I change about the World Posted: 1/26/2006 6:46:46 AM
We are in our late forties, early fifties, or older. We have seen many and some say " enough " of everything. Most of us, do have the knowledge, experience and ideas about the present World, where we do live in. We are effecting the world as human and the world has always have a crutial way of influence on us. How do we think, how do we approach and see and how do we go about solving our complicated problems. Many of us do see the invisible circle of written or unwritten laws forming the demands on our behaviours and lives. Such laws do exist in very many different cultures around the world and are the reasons as to the matter of the mentalities of each nation. But, there also exist International laws keeping the human relations, economy and most important the Peace under their umbrellas. Yet, there are very many evants and new laws confusing the nations of the world. Many of these people do have active participations in so called choosing their own country's laws, others don't. We have also learned to see beyond the many occurences for exmaples the reasons why the wars begin between countries. The reasons behind economical progresses and down-falls, the reasons why a few countries do remain within an old, not modernized technologies or economies!! Why the sudden change of currency, why the seperation of millions of population of the world through a simple belief called Religion. Why very many small traditions and entertaining objects ect....................... And, we are looking for someone to warm up our lives and stay next to us during such big Confusion. And, why could not we find that someone though many in contact with us, sending e-mails and posting their ideas. Something Wrong? It has made me to Look at the Big Picture. We are just simple PRODUCTS of our World. It is true they have Taught us to think about "Our own choises", But, our own choises within such Powerful Influences and given Mentalities ( directly or indirectly ), has made us even more confused!! And, even when we do think we have found that special one, things go wrong often! Then, we start to think to wish to change the World. I like to change the world to make it much more simpler, as to the matters of Human Feelings and desires, to make it friendlier and safer. To make it to Love and not to Hate. What would you change about the World?

mind_reader

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The Greatest Act of Love??? Posted: 1/24/2006 12:59:10 PM
It is to Accept and Respect people as they are within their own cultures and upbringings and appreciate them the way they are without any prejudice !!

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/24/2006 3:43:24 AM
Amazingly, very well done you guys!! I am impressed!! Well, I can also now understand the reason why most of people on POF are yet searching for the "One". It is rather to see and comprehend through most of your writings that a "Demand" exists which seeks a better being in order to reach the target and do feel complete next to that special "Öne" considering the life itself which is very different in reality than the sweet moments of datings and the first flames of Hot Love!! Thanks you guys Mind reader

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/23/2006 1:29:44 PM
^^^ Thanks for correcting my spelling. I am busy speaking, writing, and reading Dutch, Farsi and English with you guys now. Don't you think three languages could effect eachother a little every now and then? lol Mind Reader

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/23/2006 12:53:30 PM
At this moment, I can only think of you guys mostly being very cute rather than posessing a high IQ.!! Playing around you all. Mind reader

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/23/2006 12:23:14 PM
^^ Thanks for your explanation. I can relate to your answer now!! Mind reader

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/23/2006 11:43:19 AM
^^Charlie girl; And, maybe I am very insecure nowdays. I used to laugh at every post and I am also taking everyones'post very seriously, unnecessarily serious. It is O.K. now. I do write from two different languages and am living within a very different culture than most of you. Therefore, I do also notice the fact that I do misunderstand or see other point of views also not the way they do mean!! Friends? Mind reader

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/23/2006 11:36:57 AM
^^ wespauly: Said it very nicely, also a very few other answers are nice and deep. Glad to see and be able to communicate with such high IQs.!!!!

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At what point do you give up on Romance? Posted: 1/23/2006 10:39:20 AM
I do give up on Romance when some sort of stupid mentalities keep blinding the folks to be able to see the light as obvious as the sunlight!!

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/23/2006 10:30:22 AM
I could not understand the meaning of an EQ?????????????? And, to Charlie Girl, I like your analysis on my post. Thanks for making me see how I can't relate to what I do really mean. Maybe, you can also think a little and read twice to see how many other people have been able to understand it. My intentions are just to keep us all talk to each other and exchange ideas. Nothing at all like you think and try to make me see about my own writings. Yes, it is also fun to write and later on think about it. Why not??? After all, it is the matter of keeping the folks busy, isn't it?? Thanks

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/23/2006 9:36:13 AM
Well, you guys, this was another subject to get you involve in and has kept you busy, or not?! The matter of IQ is important in the long run. You can enjoy one's chemistry and connection and loving and all that, but, there comes special situations in life that you need to be in the same level of thinking and education to be able to reach a target or make a correct decision. I am not at all talking about the common so called "IQ" tests and competitions. I am talking about being in the same level of intelect in order to be able to communicate mind to mind. I can enjoy people as to the matter of getting togethers and enjoying life, but, when there comes a time to make a higher connection and communication, one needs to be in the same IQ as the other one!! Of course, age, culture, background, expectations and the insight could all play important roles too. You guys made me laugh through your answers, some very delightful ones too. thanx Mind reader

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IQ, Important or not Posted: 1/23/2006 6:31:41 AM
Normally, it is the very natural chemistry keeping two friends of lovers together. For some people it can be the financial situation and for another groups the personality or the behaviours important. But, there are also people who are very intelligent and could not establish a rather enjoyable form of friendship unless until the partner could reach the same IQ as they do have. I, myself, could be friends and do start a fine, loving relationship with the low IQ ones and do remain faithful to them but, I can get bored with them and after some times, I can realize the difficulties of a proper communication and start keeping my distance from them. Now, here comes the question: Is the IQ of a friend, lover or partner important enough to stimulate the progress of the relationship between these two or could the low IQ or lack of it be the cause of the ultimate seperation?

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I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/22/2006 10:47:20 AM
Hi Everyone, I came to this a little too late today. I had net problems. The Differences between the Twins: Slightly hight differences, shapes of their heads, one a little more round and looked bigger the other one's head. Colors of eyes, one slightly grey-blue, the other one very blue. I never saw these men's bodies since we met only outside walking and talking. Sometimes they did came in and sat to drink coffee and stayed for a while. One was kind and positive and the other one angry and negative mostly! Their clothes completely the same both in color and material. Hair colors and models perfectly the same. Behaviours very much the same, dogs and names very much the same too. I am here 11 years now and have mostly been alone with my daughter except for a few times a year which we do receive visits from a few of our church groups. More questions? I am here now. Thanks for your concern. But, I do feel a little sad about what has happened to me since I don't think I did deserve such Role-Play with me. I am an affectionate woman and do love people for what they actually are. But, as you notice, I do get angry when such undignified evants do happen to people like me: Innocent, hungry for Love and attention and It makes me feel so regretful towards my own self that why had I forgotten how intelligent I always have been when these two were busy Decieving me!! Well, Ive learned my Lesson well! Mind reader

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I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/21/2006 11:05:24 AM
^^ With very fast, I mean the way most of those short sentences are made. Too short and too quick. From experience, I can realize it and of course, when I do notice the answers very far from the reality. It shows that the ones did read my first post, did not ever think about it and mostly followed each others opinions in order to fit in mostly. When I say only one or two, it is because there are two answers which did show a deeper look into the matter than only following the rest. You do have to learn to read between the lines. Don't take everything so very shallow and learn to respect other people without prejudice. I have been trying to show you that I do understand you and have given you the right to voice your opinion though you are only looking at my post by reading it word for word!! I have asked you to take it easy and be friends, but, you go on trying to irritate others to disagree with me and agree with you, only because you are very proud and this comes from your lack of knowledge and experience as to the matter of trying to be Kind and Understanding. You only want to win here and I don't know what is it that you are going to win. At least, try to win the respect of the ones who do care enough to try to open the subject deep and easy enough for you to be able to understand it. How old are you anyways?

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I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/21/2006 9:34:08 AM
^^^pepsi303; No, you don't have to apologize for your right of own opinion at all. Take it easy. Friends??

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I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/21/2006 9:28:36 AM
^^Yes, I have done that. I have already stoped the whole knowing these families all together. It is about 7 months now, but, I do see them yet in the environment since they do live on the same street with us. I am very careful specially about my daughter and them!!! Thanx for your advise.

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I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/21/2006 8:35:01 AM
And, may I ask please don't jump on Pepsi303? Let her be please. Pepsi303, I wrote my first post last night almost 11 p.m. Netherlands time. The rest all I have written this afternoon also Netherlands time. And, you are right. My first post was somehow not good enough to Understand. please be patient and understanding towards other people. One day, they'll do the same to you and it can hurt and you don't need that at all. And, you are also right about my very good English and translation abilities. It is true, but does not work when I do get emotional!! This is my handicap. I can't relate a message very clearly when I do get emotional. Please try to understand?! Mind reader

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I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/21/2006 8:23:30 AM
Hi Arri; Thanks for your input. No, not all Dutch are evil, but a good whole lots of them are. There also are very nice and kind hearted Dutch who do try to break the ice between the Dutch and other ones. But, the Dutch has gone too far in their so called Freedom. Something I call Self-destruction Method. It is that they have had Sex from their 13-14 years old and have been taught Sex is Sex does not matter with who and what!! Could be any body and any gender and very often their own Pets too!! And, then, above all that comes the drugs and alcohol use and Businesses too. Very common amongst their youth too and as a result, too many youth problems in this small country of 16 million. Most Dutch don't believe in God or anything else either and the laws are so very easy going on the crimes that most people do dare to commit criminal acts as they know for example that they do have to act either insane or otherwise a maximum of 5 years imprisonment within a very nice entertaining-learning program with good, heartly meals and computer and chat rooms. No serious Punishment laws and therefore, too many criminals and rapes and drug businesses here. Can you imagine how difficult would it be for a Foreign mother and her daughter to be able to survive without Love and a good, solid friendship within such environments, while they both miss their own family and their own people whom they can trust?

mind_reader

Joined: 5/9/2005

Msg: 31 (view)

I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/21/2006 7:39:32 AM
@CountrySuger and Delytful Thank you both for your support and understanding. The problem with me is that I do become very emotional at times and am not able to relate the message as good. I am not at all angry about some of the responses. A few of us are also very young yet to have experiences like I have had!! As a few of you have mentioned, I am a mother and should not have let these people inside my life at all!! True. But, It took almost 6 months to find the truth about them and then I gradually started to break the relationship. I could not stop it at once since one of the twins told me the truth and was very nice and showed Love and respect in the end!! Something very difficult to let go of. But, I did. they were not Honest with me even their wives knew and were enjoying themselves with their own boy-friends and did make fun of me!!

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Joined: 5/9/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/21/2006 7:29:59 AM
Pepsi330, No, I did not try to post a misleading, deceiving thread purposely at all my dear. I do live in another culture somewhere else on this earth. I don't know even now how much explanation has been necessary to describe the situation. I am not angry, neither disappointed in you at all. But, I expected a little more deep thoughts and understanding from you guys since I do care about you and do try to help generally. Not to make fun and when there comes a thread I don't understand or can find an answer, I just don't participate in it. I don't like to hurt other peolpe's feelings. Sometimes, people are very much hurt and that can make them Not to be able to forward the message as clearly as it should! Mind reader

mind_reader

Joined: 5/9/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

I send you my Own Lover Boy Posted: 1/21/2006 6:37:09 AM
Enough is Enough you guys, Yes they were twins very much identical twins with very narrow differences. They showed up almost every three weeks so you lose the track. Then, I noticed gradually by the differences between the attitudes since even their behaviours were also very much the same and their voices too! Later on, heared from other foreign women that these two have done the same with a few of them too and I did help them to see the very small differences between the two of them since they were deliberately trying to look and act the same. They also have the same dogs!! The same names for the dogs too!!! The same names for their daughters too! Of course, now I have found out about their addresses and whereabouts each one by one!! But, I did enjoy your very fast, impatient responds. Exactly only one or two were thinking rationally about this subject and came close to the reality. No, I never use drugs my dear friends. I am a responsible mother and also very healthy, beautiful woman as well. Don't need this kinds of substances at all. I even don't drink as much as a whole lots of people do drink around here. The idea was to make me looK as the Dutch say: Gek. Means Crazy!! Because where I do live, there exists a big amounts of Racisme amongst the Dutch. I am a very different Foreigner. Someone who does not feel neither acts Less than the Dutch people. The majority of the Foreigners around here are the ones entered into this country only as The Cheap Labour several years ago and do act submisive and bow before the Dutch. If you talk to them, they would tell you that" Dutch are better and higher than we are, its a fact." !! Pitty, isn't it? These people, did enter into my house and life as friends. I have always been alone with my daughter and in need of Good Friends. But, because I acted different from the other Foreigners and was open about my ideas, they thought I am a Prostitute!! See, in this cuture, foreigners stay only within themselves mostly, they never mix with Dutch and if they do, they are either Prostitutes, or somehow related as family relationships. Get the picture you guys now or need more explanation yet? I did fall in Love becasue of the fact that I was first attracted to the man, then I was very lonely in a Heart-less, cold and dark land. Anybody else came close, could I fall in love with him too. There are not much respectful, social life around here at all. Almost every gathering or frienship ends up with Group Sex. I don't do such things at all. I was not brought up that way, but yet need love and attention. Let me know what you think now!!

mind_reader

Joined: 5/9/2005

Msg: 27 (view)

If I could do it all over again I would..... Posted: 1/20/2006 2:57:05 PM
The difference between me and him was that I was PURE and everything I did came from my very self and romantic feelings, but, his actions were based on FEAR from Foreigner for which he always only listened to the other people giving him all sorts of advise. Therefore, no matter how much I tried, it did not work. What can I do? It is them and us Foreigners, can I ever change me into one of them? No, I am not born in their land. So, be it, no matter how much I would like to repeat those good feelings again!!

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