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sharzi

Joined: 10/6/2007

Msg: 86 (view)

do good guys get the girl? Posted: 11/15/2009 4:38:26 PM
Provided the nice guy is looking for the right woman. I'll use my brother as an example... he is a nice guy, but he looks for the model or cheerleader type... gorgeous, outgoing, thin, blonde, a little b*itchy, who really is very full of herself. Time and time again he's rejected. He's a good looking guy, but looking for the wrong type of woman. If he tweaked his preferences just a bit, I am sure beyond a shadow of doubt he would find someone. As for me, I am looking for the nice guy. But I hate to say it... there are not too many around, and all those bad apples really do spoil the bunch. Still, I'm not closing the door... just being very particular about how far I open it, and to whom.

Sharzi

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Why are their so many more guys looking to meet on here then women. Posted: 11/15/2009 2:06:07 PM
Dan wrote: >>> I know alot of guys complain that women dont respond back to them. The problem is, these women are getting flooded with responses from guys. <<< I know a lot of women on this site and there are a few reasons why women don't always respond. Men and women think differently. While men (and I'm generalizing with all this) are very visual, women are emotional creatures. Men are drawn to a pretty face (the reason so many never read our profiles), but women are usually drawn to someone genuine. Sure, we have to have initial attraction, but there has to be more. I'm totally turned off by guys who go on and on about how physically fit they are, guys with pics of their muscles, or holding a fish. lol Okay, I like to know someone takes care of themselves and enjoys the outdoors, but I'd like to know the kind of person you are... what you're looking for... what makes you happy... and that you're not just here looking for another notch in your belt. Sure, we get a lot of emails, but trust me, that doesn't mean we like them. I get a whole lot of emails that say things like, "Hey sexy, looking for someone to have some fun with." Those are overlooked immediately. So are the ones saying things like, "You're hot" or "Looks like you've got some big boobs." And yes, your male counterparts really do send emails like those... a lot of emails like those! I get some that are FAR worse and I can't even imagine a complete stranger ever writing things like that. I for one want to be respected. I want to know the guy contacting me REALLY is looking for a relationship and honestly does want to get to know me. But, the feeling myself and my friends get is one of 'he's emailing as many women as he can in hopes he's going to get as much sex as he can.' I know that's not the case with all men. So, the respectful and genuine emails always get a response. I hate the fact though that the bad apples really leave a very bitter taste in our mouths. I wish the nice guys could read the emails we get from the ones who are not so nice. As far as the statistics go, there are 2 women to ever 1 man in Western NY. The problem is, the guys are taking that so for granted, they have forgotten what respect really is. Trust me, we don't have it made. Just my 2 cents.

sharzi

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East Amherst NY 14051 POF Party @ Pietros 5841 Transit RD March 6 2009 7:00 PM Posted: 2/22/2009 2:08:52 PM
Some non-bar suggestions (some during the nicer weather).... Botanical Gardens meet and greet Dog walk in Delaware Park for all of us dog lovers. POF picnic (might be able to get food donated from some local deli's) How about having a lawn fete meet and greet in the summer? There are many car shows over the summer. One of my favorites is the one in Olcott. There is a huge shelter where you can bring food, gather and talk, then walk around and see some amazing cars. :) I'm sure everyone would have some ideas that wouldn't take place in a bar. Sharzi

sharzi

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Amherst, New York POF party @ FRIDAY'S 2/17/09 Tues 6-11pm Posted: 2/16/2009 11:55:03 AM
Looks like I'm not going to be able to make it. I have to work until 9pm. :( Hope everyone has a great time! Sharzi

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Amherst, New York POF party @ FRIDAY'S 2/17/09 Tues 6-11pm Posted: 2/14/2009 12:15:31 PM
kimber, I don't run them (I've heard that from a few others too) ... our wonderful Dubs does. And his efforts are greatly appreciated!! I just come to mingles and have fun talking to people I've met along the way. :) Hope you attend on Tuesday if for no other reason than to watch the first POF fight. I hear there is going to be some biting, screaming and scratching. Um... wait... are we sure that's a POF fight or the goings on from the room Tim and his "lover" are getting down the road. lol Sharzi

sharzi

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Amherst, New York POF party @ FRIDAY'S 2/17/09 Tues 6-11pm Posted: 2/12/2009 8:24:07 PM
Tim.... And you were trying to weed out all the dolts? lol I guess I'm first to go. haha Sharzi

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Amherst, New York POF party @ FRIDAY'S 2/17/09 Tues 6-11pm Posted: 2/12/2009 8:45:22 AM
LOL Thanks openlover.... I just realized these were questions to ask at the mingle. lol I guess I'm just used to do all those silly surveys on my spa ce. lol Sharzi

sharzi

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Amherst, New York POF party @ FRIDAY'S 2/17/09 Tues 6-11pm Posted: 2/12/2009 8:37:10 AM
Interesting questions.... What do you think is the most important value in a relationship? I CAN'T SAY JUST ONE... LOVE, PATIENCE, RESPECT, HONESTY, FRIENDSHIP, CARING You have got six months to live, what will you do first? TELL EVERYONE HOW VERY MUCH I LOVE THEM AND THAT WHEN I GO, I TAKE A PART OF EACH OF THEM WITH ME. What makes you laugh/cry? LAUGH... A GOOD JOKE, A FUNNY EXPRESSION, LAUGHING AT MYSELF CRY... KNOWING A CHILD WAS HURT, SEEING SOMEONE I LOVE CRYING, LOSS What adjective would a close friend use to describe you? GENUINE, HONEST, GENEROUS, CARING Are you a morning person or a night person? BOTH, I DON'T WANT TO MISS A THING. :) Sharzi

sharzi

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Amherst, New York POF party @ FRIDAY'S 2/17/09 Tues 6-11pm Posted: 2/10/2009 6:45:42 PM
I saw that Tim asked how comfortable it would be to sit and talk to someone you aren't interested in. I used to go to mingles that had 5 min dating. We had those few minutes to ask questions and try and get to know someone a little. I thought it would be uncomfortable, but what I found was that I made friends.... people I might not have ever approached or who may not have approached me, were now getting to know a little about me, and visa versa. We may not have been a match, but remember, friends are always nice to have. Next time you go to a mingle, you might walk up to talk to someone you met during speed dating and, lo and behold, they might have a friend who sparks your interest. I've made a lot of friends at the mingles and I've had a great time. There have only been a couple of times I felt a spark with someone, but even so, at least I'm having a fun with people who are no longer strangers. Sharzi

Sharzi

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Lancaster, New York New Year Eve Gala @ Paradise Island Wed DEC 31,2008 8:00pm-1:00AM Posted: 12/31/2008 3:21:01 AM
Dubs... Paradise Island is different from most venues. It sort of reminds me of the old Kahunaville that was at the Galleria Mall. I used to love that place! I'll see everyone tonight and looking forward to bringing in the New Year with my fellow fishies. :) Sharzi

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Lancaster, New York New Year Eve Gala @ Paradise Island Wed DEC 31,2008 8:00pm-1:00AM Posted: 12/31/2008 3:18:53 AM
Hi Dubs, One of the motels you mentioned.... Transit Manor Motel 6 Jessica Ln, Depew, NY 716-674-7070 (0.39 miles away) I'm not sure where that is, but there is a Jessica Lane right near where I live, and it's a residential street right down the street from Page's Paradise (about 2 min away), the first street past French Rd. There are no motels on that street. I'm not sure where there is another Jessica Lane, but don't want anyone getting confused and ending up at my house all night. lol Sharzi

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People willing to leave their kids behind.... Posted: 12/24/2008 9:51:28 PM
shmodzilla... It's okay. :) I was talking about young children who really do need their parents around. I can't imagine leaving to go halfway across the country for a guy when my kids still need me. Sharzi

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People willing to leave their kids behind.... Posted: 12/22/2008 9:06:01 PM
Universal Gemini... You're kids are blessed to have one very loving parent who is active in their lives, showing them love, and making a difference. I know for me, my mom is definately on a pedestal because she tried so hard to give us enough love for both parents. That is a saint in my book. Sharzi

Sharzi

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People willing to leave their kids behind.... Posted: 12/22/2008 9:03:43 PM
shmodilla.. It's great if you're the kind of father who actually uses planes, trains and automobiles to be sure he sees his kids. But that doesn't seem to be the reality for most. I know men who moved away from their kids to pursue a woman and they expect their kids to always call their father, call their father, while the guy is busy having a good time with the new woman... so much so, he forgets he has kids. I don't know... as a parent myself, I would much rather my daughter or son stay close to their kids rather than to me. I have memories. I have an entire past with my child, but their kids won't have much of those if they aren't around their father enough to form those memories. Seeing a father only a few times a year... well, that really isn't enough to nurture that bond that a small child needs. As far as me being 12 and my father walking away.... I don't think it matters how old a child is... you miss that parent, and you wonder why they walked away. Maybe it would have helped had he called or written. Maybe it might have been better had he visited. But for him, planes, trains and automobiles never brought him back. We can all speculate how a child will react of feels, but no one really knows except the child. And sometimes even a kid can be good at hiding behind a smile. Sharzi

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People willing to leave their kids behind.... Posted: 12/17/2008 10:17:24 AM
On a similar note... I've known men who had kids with another woman and said things like, "I am making up with this one for what I didn't do for my others." You can't make up to one child for not being there by being there for another child. It's never too late to make that effort. Sharzi

Sharzi

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People willing to leave their kids behind.... Posted: 12/17/2008 10:15:37 AM
Nona, I've talked to several men who have no problem leaving behind their kids. By the same token, there are so many women who don't seem to think anything of a guy saying his kids will be fine without them. In my case, we were better off without our father in our life. He wasn't a very good person. So, maybe the same holds true for anyone who would do the same to their children. I love a guy who is a good dad.... someone who misses being with them every day, but makes an effort to be an example to their kids. That to me... is a real man. Sharzi

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People willing to leave their kids behind.... Posted: 12/16/2008 7:34:04 PM
a/c... same here. I can't imagine leaving my young kids behind to put myself and my needs first. Sharzi

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People willing to leave their kids behind.... Posted: 12/16/2008 4:12:46 PM
When you start talking to someone from another state, and you know they have young kids, how do you feel when they tell you they are willing to relocate? Personally I'm turned off by that. I'm very impressed when a man who is a good father and keeps that responsibility close to his heart. When a person is eager to move away... meaning they would rarely see their child... I wonder if they are able to form strong enough connections to even make a relationship work. Not to mention, they are putting a woman as a priority over their own flesh and blood. Young children won't understand why "daddy" or "mommy" didn't love them enough to stay. I know a woman who walked away, moved halfway across the country and left four kids under the age of ten behind. She sees them twice a year because they can't afford to make the trip here to see the kids. The kids have grown up not really knowing their mother, so when she does visit, she's like the distant aunt instead of "mom". I've talked to many men who said their kids would be just fine without them because they have a loving mother and extended family. That really makes me cringe! My own father did the same... something that was torture for my siblings and I. I'm just wondering if this is as much of a turn off for other people as it is for me. Sharzi

Sharzi

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West Seneca New York POF Xmas Bash @ Rock & Roll Heaven Fri 12/19/08 6-11pm Posted: 12/8/2008 8:32:28 PM
southtownguy.... Many times a picture does not say a thousand words. In person though, there could be an attraction that isn't happening online. Getting to know someone in the flesh is far different. You can see the person smiling. You can see how they are in social situations... are they shy, life of the party, do they mingle or stand like a wallflower? When they talk, do they look you in the eye or avert their eyes? All those things matter, and all those things can't be seen online. A mingle is a perfect way to know if there is chemistry. Typing onto a blank page just doesn't have the same effect. You never know, if you come to a mingle, you just might find the fishy for you. Sharzi

Sharzi

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12/06/08 Holiday Hop Photos & Feedback Posted: 12/7/2008 10:43:18 PM
Roger, I wasn't complaining at all about your pictures! I think they actually turned out the best of any I've seen so far. There was a pic you took at the mingle... showed it to me and I wasn't crazy about this big black thing that seemed to be over my head (it was something behind me), so asked if you would delete it. Thank you for that. :) Sharzi

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12/06/08 Holiday Hop Photos & Feedback Posted: 12/7/2008 10:30:58 AM
Rogergee, I know I asked you to delete one of my pics, but I did see you sneak in another. lol Can you send it to me at aquillinhand@aol.com? Thanks! Sharzi

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12/06/08 Holiday Hop Photos & Feedback Posted: 12/7/2008 10:29:46 AM
I had a great time... again! :) It was nice talking to my friends, and some of the people I met at previous mingles.... including Kevin, who likes my pizza. lol Looking forward to the next mingle at R & R Heaven. See everyone there! Sharzi

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12/06/08 Holiday Hop Photos & Feedback Posted: 12/7/2008 10:25:57 AM
Heidi, Sorry we didn't see you when we left. We headed over to Macaroon's.... which we regretted. We shouldn't have left. lol I keep telling my brother he needs better pictures. I'll have to take some for him! Sharzi

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West Seneca New York POF Xmas Bash @ Rock & Roll Heaven Fri 12/19/08 6-11pm Posted: 11/25/2008 8:15:41 PM
As always, looking forward to the mingle! :) Nona... say hi when you get a chance. Nikki, talk to you soon. AJ... let's make plans soon to do what we talked about. Everyone... have a wonderful Thanksgiving and see you at R & R Heaven. Sharzi

sharzi

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He needs some space Posted: 11/24/2008 3:58:14 PM
Every single time I've ever known of a man to say he needed some space to work on some issues, usually the issue was that he wasn't feeling it for the woman the way she was feeling it for him. I've been in that situation myself. We'd been seeing each other for 5 months and then he needed space to figure things out. I waited another couple of months and then a friend told me he was on the personals. When I asked him about that, he said, "We broke up 2 months ago." No we didn't! He told me he didn't want me to see anyone else... just to give him the time he needed. I think if someone really loves you, they can't imagine life without you in it. If they are asking for a break, space, time, etc, I'd chalk that up to lots of doubt on his part, and I'd hope the man I am giving my heart to would be as sure as I am. Sharzi

sharzi

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11/17/08 Monday Night Football Photos & Feedback Posted: 11/18/2008 6:46:14 PM
I had a great time as usual!! It was so nice to meet some new people and hang out with some we've met along the way... Rick - love the new toy! Don- you are so darned sweet! Kevin - you can sneak my pizza any time. lol And Mark - just because you showed your nips doesn't mean the rest of us would. lol I met a few others and I'm so sorry I don't remember your names. :( Again, had a great time with my girls... Nikki, Angel, AJ, Cindy, and I'm glad my brother stopped in too. :) Doesn't matter the size of the crowd, you just have to make your own fun. Sharzi

sharzi

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why do people put on long term when they mean dating Posted: 11/16/2008 7:11:45 AM
shelove47.... How can someone possibly know that the person they start seeing is going to end up being longterm? I have longterm on my profile because that is inevitably what I'm looking for. I'm not looking for endless dating, but that may be what ends up happening until you find "the one." I think if someone isn't ready for a relationship and just enjoys meeting a lot of new people, then they should list "dating." But if they really do want something more, the word "longterm" applies. Sharzi

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When does it become being pushy? Posted: 11/15/2008 9:34:28 AM
I don't delete my emails... so that is no indication of interest or not. If the woman doesn't email you back, you have your answer. Sharzi

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WHATS THE GREAT MYSTERY ABOUT WHERE YOU LIVE???? Posted: 11/15/2008 9:32:20 AM
Since everyone has to put in a zip code when they sign up, doing a search for someone within a certain mileage from where you live, will bring up anyone closeby. Sharzi

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Flashdance Flashback Photos and Feedback Posted: 11/15/2008 7:37:23 AM
buffalo brian wrote: >>> Wow. I was thinking about attending one of these parties but i don't know after reading this thread. Is everyone at these events so bitter and angry? Is everyone in everone elses business too? Since I don't have ANY single friwnds I was going to show up "stag" but it sounds like the POF Pond is a little clicky <<< Brian, the few people who are making nasty and rude comments are a very teeny percentage of the very kind, fun and good people who attend the mingles. I'm unsure why anyone would say some of the things a few people do on these forums, but I tend to think that type of person is basically not a very happy person by nature and would find fault with anything. I had an uncle like that... miserable person. He was never happy with anything and when he passed away, everyone around him was sadly relieved. People like that want to drag everyone down to their level. The thing is, most of us won't let them. :) Come to a mingle. Chances are you'll have fun, meet some really nice people, and if nothing else, make a few new friends. And, you'll quickly learn who to stay away from because they would be the ones sitting in a corner taking notes and complaining about everything they think is wrong. I have a good time at every single mingle even if no one approaches me. I hang out with friends, enjoy the music, etc. It's all about making your own fun. If your attitude stinks, everything around you will stink. But if you relax, see the positives, you're always guaranteed a great time. Sharzi

sharzi

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Slick Willies Photos and Feedback 10/26/08 Posted: 11/13/2008 8:14:30 PM
richard wrote: >> i am kind of surprised that women in their early fourties and fifties feel that they have to go to functions like bars to meet people...isn't that the main reason you are single now? hmm..pictures came out well << So you think we are single because we go to functions at bars? That's a very odd thing to say. There are several reasons any of us are single, and I doubt most of us are in that situation because we were hanging out in bars during our marriages. lol I think most of us aren't necessarily thinking we will meet the person of our dreams in a bar, but we're open to all sorts of venues in our quest to meet people. Certainly, just hanging out and having fun isn't such a bad thing. This is just one option for singles and it's not for everyone. That being said, women in their 40's and 50's aren't dead yet. We still know how to have fun, we're open minded and enjoying life, so why not a bar? A festival? A book store? Starbucks? It's not really about the where... it's about the who. And truthfully, age has absolutely nothing to do with it. To each their own. Sharzi

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Prenuptial - maintaining physique - is it reasonable? Posted: 11/11/2008 6:06:07 PM
Wow... I can't believe anyone would even think of something like this. Heart meds can make a person gain weight. Thyroid issues can make someone to gain. Steroids and more can make a person gain. Someone who is feeling neglected by her significant other can turn to food for comfort. Instead, maybe she should have it in HER prenup that you'll pay for her plastic surgery (lipo, tummy tuck, breast lift, etc), personal trainer and chef to keep her the way you want her. LOL Oh, and hopefully she'll request you don't develop a midlife paunch, go bald, gray, or share all your lovely bodily functions with her. Grounds for divorce? Hogwash! Seriously, if your love for someone is dependant on how they look... to me... that is not love at all. You love a person... mind, body and soul. And, you have to expect changes over time. Hopefully you love them "warts and all." If you're expecting longterm perfection.... your expectations are extremely skewed. Sharzi

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Flashdance Flashback Photos and Feedback Posted: 11/10/2008 7:27:07 AM
I had a great time! I wasn't bothered by the band starting later... gave me a chance to check on the game in between talking to people, and on that note, it gave people a chance to talk a little and get to know each other before the music came on... which makes it a little harder to hear each other. I know for a fact that the band never starts until after a Sabres game. It was probably that at the time arrangements were made, they didn't realize there was a game that night. It was so much fun hanging out with John, Cindy, Lisa, Anita, Cheryl, Don, Terry and Kathy, and a few new friends. :) Thanks for making it a fun night! Sharzi

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11/08/08 Buffalo/Depew 80s Flashdance Flashback 6 to 11 Posted: 11/4/2008 4:39:37 PM
OMG.. Nona!! I am very happy for you girl!! :) As far as hanging out, I do hope that we get to see you!! Hugs, Sharzi

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West Seneca New York POF party @ Rock & Roll Heaven FRI 11/14 6-11pm Posted: 10/28/2008 6:06:09 PM
I had such a good time at the last mingle there, I'm looking forward to revisiting! :) Sharzi

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Slick Willies Photos and Feedback 10/26/08 Posted: 10/28/2008 3:15:13 PM
Nona wrote: :::: Can you imagine being a man who is interested in a woman he spots across the room only to view that she is standing in a circle of 8 women?:::: I can imagine it would be very intimidating, but there are times when a women is by herself. She might be on the way back from the "powder room." She might be up at the bar ordering a drink or food. She could be on her way outside for a smoke or for air. Or... he might just walk up to all 8, tell them all they're beautiful, introduce himself to everyone, stay and talk a while, then make his way somewhere else. The one who's interested in him will more times than not, find a way to walk by him and say something, or go up and talk to him. But I can't for the life of me imagine leaving the group I'm with just to wander around like a shark looking for live bait. lol I'm just not wired that way. I have a feeling that many in my age group are a little more leary about making the first move. I couldn't bring myself to flirt with someone or talk to someone first if my life depended on it. But, someone comes up to me and says hi, and I'm very open. Then again, maybe our dear hosts would put a little bug in someone's ear if there's an attraction. It worked for a couple at the mingle. :) Sharzi

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Slick Willies Photos and Feedback 10/26/08 Posted: 10/27/2008 8:14:34 PM
Loukious wrote: *** Sorry about not showing up there...wish I had. The night beforehand a friend of mine called me since her bf threw her out of the house and needed a place to crash, so had to pick her up. We ended up drinking and I woke up on my bedroom floor with her in my bed at like 230 in the afternoon. *** LOL I'm not sure that's the thing to say on a dating site if you're hoping to get a date. LOL Sharzi <---LMAO

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Slick Willies Photos and Feedback 10/26/08 Posted: 10/27/2008 7:01:30 PM
I don't agree about the women being clicky. AJ and her friend came up to our table while Lisa and I were eating, introduced herself and I invited them to sit with us. When I saw Don standing there, I went and got him to join us. When John and Bruce came up, we were more than happy to have them join us... the more the merrier. Anyone who would have come up would have been invited to join in the fun... and did we have fun!!! I think, (and I do not speak for everyone), some of us are a little shy about approaching men. For me, I'd prefer the man be the hunter. :) Once I get to know someone a little, I'm far from shy. Would men prefer that women make the rounds and say hi to every man around? Men don't do that either. So, I guess you see someone you like, find a way to break the ice. But, as far as being clicky, I don't think that's the case at all. Sharzi

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Rochester get together co-host needed Posted: 10/27/2008 7:19:33 AM
David, Please contact me. There was some misinformation, and I would like the opportunity to talk to you and straighten it out. As for the Rochester mingles... I agree... I know a lot of folks in Rochester who would probably love some events there. Sharzi

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Slick Willies Photos and Feedback 10/26/08 Posted: 10/27/2008 7:10:08 AM
AJ.... You can bring up the "P" word any time, although I think certain people were a little nervous about that. Hmmm.. maybe nervous isn't the right word. lol I swear I laughed the whole time we were there with sporadic attention to the game... which I never thought would happen... but you guys were just too funny. So, we've got the 80's thing coming up and I have no idea what to wear. Nona wants to wear her prom gown. (Nona, you're a trip. Hope you feel better soon hon!). I'm thinking "high hair" is in order and maybe something Madonna-ish. Will have to hit up Amvets for something like that. lol Otherwise, AJ... give me a call maybe Wednesday night and we'll figure something out for the weekend if you like. Anyone else up for some fun... say hi. The more the merrier. :) Sharzi

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Slick Willies Photos and Feedback 10/26/08 Posted: 10/26/2008 9:06:03 PM
OMG I had the best time!! Lisa, Angel, Anita, Cheryl, Heidi, Don 1, Don 2, Bruce... you guys had me laughing all day. lol Sharzi

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Photos and Feedback - Fancy Fling - 10/11/08 Posted: 10/23/2008 9:37:39 PM
icedesigns3 said... *** What ever happened to that buffalo guy? buffalo newyork ?? it was kind of funny how he made all of those posts and everyone attacked i=him no matter what her said *** I don't anyone was attacking him... I think it was visa versa. no matter what "Her" said? Sharzi

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Photos and Feedback - Fancy Fling - 10/11/08 Posted: 10/21/2008 3:59:11 PM
0046.... the beautiful woman in pic #6 is ..... Xena 24 Sharzi

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Photos and Feedback - Fancy Fling - 10/11/08 Posted: 10/16/2008 6:23:11 AM
buffalonyork.... Writing a private email to me and asking me to "wear something kinky" under my dress and you will be "looking for me" is not what I would call a normal email from someone you don't even know. And saying that and then not identifying yourself... sounds pretty much like a stalker to me. It was your email that convinced me to be sure I never go out alone. Sharzi

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Photos and Feedback - Fancy Fling - 10/11/08 Posted: 10/15/2008 5:14:28 PM
Nona, The person you're talking about made some inappropriate comments to me in an email and said he would be looking for me at the mingle. That was very disconcerting. I had visions of a stalker watching me all night. Truthfully, he never did identify himself to me, and I do find that to be more than borderline stalking after what he said in his email to me. I don't know what prompted that email, but it was uncalled for. I was very insulted, and would love an apology. But, it seems this person is only here for one reason... to incite, to frighten, to harrass, and to make our experience here less than enjoyable. I think it's cowardly to hide behind a screen name and then do the things he's doing. Frankly, I don't know why it's allowed. When I worked online, three strikes and he would have been out. Sharzi

sharzi

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Msg: 42 (view)

10/26/08bSlick Willies Buff/Tonawanda Football Party Sunday Afternoon Posted: 10/14/2008 8:27:55 PM
Angel, I'm really happy y0u're doing something like this! Only problem is, every time I go out with my gal pals and there's a game on, they actually expect me to talk. lol When the Sabres are playing and I'm standing there watching, they are chattering around me... totally distracting. lol I'm wearing a very old football jersey, and hoping we have a sweet win. :) So, football, men, beer, pizza... sounds good to me! :) Now if I can get my friends to keep it down during the game, even better. lol Sharzi

sharzi

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Msg: 26 (view)

Photos and Feedback - Fancy Fling - 10/11/08 Posted: 10/14/2008 8:17:27 PM
Eckie, I don't mind the rules... it might just keep others from saying things they shouldn't say to harrass, scare, or otherwise cause a problem for those of us who are here to enjoy ourselves. Sharzi

sharzi

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Msg: 21 (view)

Photos and Feedback - Fancy Fling - 10/11/08 Posted: 10/13/2008 8:07:41 PM
Nona, You mentioned that the company who owns POF is Canadian and that is perhaps why freedom of speech in the traditional sense is not an issue. I worked for AOL for many years and will say that freedom of speech has its limits. We are free in the US to speak our minds, but a private company... as with any company... has the right to put limits on anything that can harm another. I was also an HR specialist and though freedom of speech is our right, if that speech is harrassing, threatening, or otherwise imposing on another person's rights to feel safe or enjoy their own freedoms, than that freedom of speech has to be examined from another point of view. We can't infringe on the rights of others under the guise of free speech. And just as a company is allowed to dictate what you wear or don't wear to work, what you're allowed or not allowed to say to your co-workers, etc., so too does an online forum have the right to set its only limitations, especially if a member is being threatened, harrassed, or frightened by the behavior of someone whose sole purpose in being online seems to be nothing more a venue to inflict that type of 'free speech' on others. I don't think it's asking too much that we all respect one another. After all, we are here to try and meet someone, right? I can't imagine anyone wanting to meet someone who is nasty or condescending, disrespectful or rude. I have a plaque that hangs on my wall, and it reads.... "Because nice matters." Sharzi

sharzi

Joined: 10/6/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

Photos and Feedback - Fancy Fling - 10/11/08 Posted: 10/12/2008 1:27:10 PM
Hey my friend.... ladylove1967..... I had a great time with my friends and I wholeheartedly agree that the place was very clean, the bartenders were so nice, very accomodating, and the food ... though maybe not up to everyone's standards... myself and my friends enjoyed it. I don't have any complaints. I loved seeing everyone dressed up because people don't normally dress up anymore when they go out. This gave us an excuse to show another side of ourselves. Someone mentioned the music being too young for the crowd, but truthfully, I like newer music and don't always want to hear 70's and 80's music all night long. I's love a nice mix of everything.... Motown, disco, alternative, R & B, country, etc. A little something for everyone. But... I'm pretty easy to please, so whatever is playing, I'll still have a good time. Thanks to the hosts... nicely done! :) Sharzi

sharzi

Joined: 10/6/2007

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Photos and Feedback - Fancy Fling - 10/11/08 Posted: 10/12/2008 12:58:26 AM
Angel, I had a great time! It felt so good to dress up for once and do the whole glam thing. :) The food was really good, the atmosphere was comfortable, and the place has class. I would definitely sign up to do this again! Sharzi

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