CON: Telemarketers don’t even call small town dwellers, because they can’t get them off the line.

However, since I wrote

"The 60 dollar amount I used was based on a thread I read here last year by a man who insisted that it was possible to feed and clothe a child on 60 dollars a month if you shopped sales, got staples only and shopped for clothes at the goodwill."

And then "Since it can be done, that's all that any NCP should have to pay for any child." most people would realize that that would be HIS conclusion and not mine. I have 2 words for you... reading comprehension.

My guess would be bs'ing it because there is just no way in hell $60 would truly help support a child.

The 60 dollar amount I used was based on a thread I read here last year by a man who insisted that it was possible to feed and clothe a child on 60 dollars a month if you shopped sales, got staples only and shopped for clothes at the goodwill. Since it can be done, that's all that any NCP should have to pay for any child.

CS is enforceable, not forced, by the system itself.

Wouldn't the simple solution be to get your kids immunized? Or are stocks of H1N1 vaccine still low in your area?

I feel like calling and asking where to send it since i need a license to earn a living (truck drver) maybe they will listen when i can no longer work and pay anything.

Actually in some countries,,,along with their religous beliefs,,,have catergorized the North American lifestyle/choice/people as the work of the devil,,,,just as an example of how "differently" people can think.

And just for fun if you like, assume you have an unlimited budget, and pick a gift for a fellow poster

So it isn't just about the having to pay child support. It's doing that and trying to feel you have anything left to rebuild a new life when everytime you reach a new pinacle in life - a raise or promotion, thast job you always wanted or a financial windfall you will be forced to share it with someone who doesn't want you just your money BECAUSE it's all for the kids right?

lol, whats a natter? never heard that one.

the same rights to decide what is/is not in the best interests of his children.

Yeah...I realize it is hard to accept when you are the primary caretaker of the children but it is the truth...legally and more importantly morally.....

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Two weeks later, I send him an email to let him know where I'm at with the gifts. I've purchased a bit more than half of them, and [u]told[/u] him he could pay me the $300 whenever he'd like, but sooner is better as I'd like to finish shopping by end of Nov.

After 10 years of marriage where I controlled all the finances, did the taxes, took care of the home and needs of the children, I guess I am in the habit of wanting to keep control of things like Christmas. The thing is, these arent things I ever wanted to be in charge of. I had to do it or it wouldn't get done, [u]or would get done incorrectly[/u]. He never complained because in all honesty, it is very difficult for him to argue with me, as I run cirlces around him with quick words. I take full responsibility for this...I am not a ****, but became one when I married the wrong man. He is not a spineless idiot, but became one when he married me!

Look at the custodial parent...look at where they are in life and realize they are probably where they would have been with..or without the children.....

If you were married the credit would be split evenly so why should that change? I don't see that as being unfair to anyone, but I am sure a few here will argue the point.

Also, if he is living in a nicer area, the cost of supporting him goes up. If he is going to fit in with the kids in that area, he will need more expensive clothes, he will have more expensive school activities, he will be invited on more expensive outings, etc.

If your ex were in the same situation of choosing to be a stay at home/student, you would be willing to financially support him to keep him off of welfare? You would change custody to facilitate such an arrangement? In most situations, a CP would not willingly exchange positions, or subject themselves to the same stipulations and criteria that they expect an NCP to simply accept and be happy with.

So again, I ask... do you really mean both when you speak of sharing responsibility and accountability?