In one case a woman contacted me and I find myself interested.

.I certainly was not the one holding out

here 'dtf' usually means 'down to f**k'

don't know wether to go for it or not.

Should a person with issues still be putting themselves out there?

work on your relationship with God, He will heal you

I have encountered a number of men challenged with ED.

Do you think there is that one person out there for someone?

Have you found that person and then lost them?

I'll live, soul or no soul.

any women out there ever had these situations w/ an obsessed man? do you deal w/ it and assure the guy that you like him? or do you just get rid of him?

Why should it matter to the women he dates if he binge drinks alone occasionally?

Then he should find another place to drink

Messaging women that I KNOW are below my standards just to see what would happen

why are these women who are so pathetic and desperate in real life pretending like they are gods gift to man on the internet?

Why is it a good looking guy with a job, money, morals, nice car etc. will get treated like crap by an unattractive, jobless, fat slob of a woman on this site?

That's an urban legend or some kind of a myth you men have invented to assuage the pain of rejection. It's not true.

Cheer up Red. Maybe you should get out the Man Bat.

Ah, but it's not her plan and she contacts you any way. She has 100 reasons. Adopt. Do in-vitro. Hire a surrogate. Open an orphanage. Really, the checkmarks on the profile here are "preferences" and should not be considered to be written in stone like Trajan's Column.

Even girls that are so below my league on this website dont even respond to most of my emails. Im talking about girls that I wouldnt even give the time of day in the "real world".

What I am not?
Judgmental, egoistic, narcissist, psychopath, immature, jerk...

Who I would like to meet?
I'm just looking for someone sweet and thoughtful...

To be honest, in my profile I really wanted to talk about social issues that I feel strongly about like homeless people or plastics in ocean but since I'm suppose to talk about myself I made the current profile.

I'm a light-hearted and mature guy who isn't looking to play games. I'm straight forward and honest. I been out of relationship for about 2yrs... Ok 3 :D I try to keep up with politics around the globe and issues that affect our world. And I like to play my part as a responsible global citizen on the world stage. That's basically me. Is that what I'm conveying to you through my profile?

And have paid for my way through school, not by taking out loans or by grants but instead by working hard and juggling 4 jobs for years.

Before we met, we both did things that were important to us. But when we started dating we found that we were not doing those things because of the amount of time we spent together.

About the only thing I think I can really tell you about it is that grief comes in waves. You are having a good day and then a feeling of sadness or anger or woe-is-me washes over you - seemingly out of nowhere. Well, sometimes it washes over you and sometimes it takes your legs out from under you, lol. This is normal... it's the way feelings work. They will pass.

Can you be at peace with your when you are angry?

Welcome to metro Cleveland, Ohio. Land of Pittsburg fans who don't support where they live.

Instead of worrying about others anger issues, maybe you should worry about yoursel.

1. Are you an angry person? Do YOU *do* anger?

If you answered "yes" to the questions above:
Why?
What do you accomplish when acting out of anger?
What are the things that make you angry?
When was the last time you acted that way and what did you do?
How do you handle your anger in a relationship, and what is it that your partner can do to help you to overcome it?

If you answered "no" :
Why is it that you don't do the anger?
How do you overcome the impulse to act in such a way (I assume that we all get pissed off sometimes, but it does not mean that we all *do anger*)?
Have you ever been in a relationship with an angry one, and how did you handle it?

i didnt state all men cheat i said this could lead to cheating. Is there a way to fix this problem?

I have spoken to my Boyfriend about this but he is adamant that he will ignore these feelings because he wants to be with me. Now i dont think he will cheat but at the same time i dont want to find out a few months from now he can no longer ignore those feelings especially when iv put in so much into this relationship.

i do love him

I wonder what reasons others have for not posting a photo.....(?)

I have and that's where the problem comes in, no matter what methods of counselling and treatment they use, it ends in the same result. They haven't been able to change anything for me. I don't know what's wrong so I was hoping for some feedback from people who have been through this or know what it's like to deal with. That was the premise to get advice on such an issue. I do apologize for not stating the issue entirely

Question: is "Becoming Evil" a how-to book? And if it is, can I get it on Amazon?

....It helps weed out, as it were.

Well, probably not, unless your idea of a great date is a live-action version of Dexter Morgan.

And you cannot go far wrong with more T&A. It's a T&A world, as "they" say.

Not all guys feel they have to be the smart one in a couple. If your self image demands it that's fine. But don't say all guys need that. I mean, would you condemn all women who are smarter than their spouses (roughly half of them) to continually dumb down their conversations

But has it occurred to you that the libram on (cough) *death squads* might just have intimidated the last 7 guys within a 100 miles of Jacksonville who were not intimidated by the profile "tel quel"?

Might just want to reassure those of us who accidentally misplaced our intellectual acumen, that you will not be cracking Incredible Lightness of Being jokes at our expense.

Tell us that you like your men single, sexy and sane, but you understand you only get 2 out of 3, or something like that.

Quite liked the Beaver Cleavage shot, by the way, v. amusing

are there any professions, brain surgeon, for example, that you immediately think they are probably full of it?

No one has ever questioned my position as Queen of the Universe.

Any professions that you tend to stay away from like jobs with odd hours.

a forum legend

You might mention a few favorite sociologists, say Goffman, or whoever your favorites are.

You look like Ann Margaret.

If I lived there and was looking at profiles, I wouldn't see you. You list your age as 35, then come clean in your profile. My search criteria would exclude you.

Yep, fabulous profile. Would not change a thing...You should have a ton of hits from here! Happy Fishing!

I know, the dungeon thingy, I would have omitted also...good job on that. Don't wanna skeeeeer 'em too early. Huh?
But all in all *red* you do have a unique profile and that's a tool to weed 'em out, right? You omitted the bodybag reference too....yeah, that might have been too much too soon on the strolls on the beach. HOW many times does one have to see that.

You say, "If you don't pee on the sofa, I might keep you." It's obviously a joke, but it got my hackles up. It speaks to me of a superior attitude. I would suggest dropping it.
Driving like a Daemon could go as well. Why scare the poor profile reader? He's probably going to be intimidated by your profile as it is.

Don't do it Red ! Get out of the Pond and go back into The Light !

If you said there's a shorter version of it, I'd go with that. I don't know any guy that would spend that much time reading a profile that long. Plus, you're not really leaving much to talk about later on.

connections can happen without ever meeting in person. Connections happen in the mind, whether in person, or not.

He knows she cant go to the other country w/o a visa.
So he is keeping them apart.

Forum posts tend to be the real deal, and I think they do say a lot about a person.

What can I do to assure my girlfriend that I'm totally faithful to her?

Cassandra: I think you need to get out from behind the keyboard and strike up a conversation with someone in person...

I'm 24 yrs old and i'm 6ft 5inches tall. I go out with my friends and all i get asked is how tall are you. It gets annoying. I feel my height intimidates women, do you agree or am i just no good at chatting to women?

Good question. Why don't you answer it. Why did you get physical? It takes two to cuddle. Two to almost have sex. Two to kiss on the lips. Two to toss a ten year friendship. Did YOU not think that this could happen?

I was wondering what are some of the best things a girls has done to woo you?

I was cringing when I wrote in that I was a nerd and play video games in my profile

If she's had a horrible day @ work & is ready to rip the head off Medusa just for a snake sandwich, it's probably not the best time to tell her about the time you got busted w/ your parole officer/brother's wife while doing opium off the buttocks of underage asian boys.

*passes popcorn to Red**

The real point is, I believe, that if you are really "into" a guy, a lot of that stuff won't matter...it would be ok if he's a shop assistant and not an Ad Mogul if you see what I mean.

Just relax, give him enough rope, and he will either hang himself in time...or he'll Lasso the Moon just for you.

LOL! I sat on the committee when we discussed amending the bylaws to allow honorary members access to classified information. The vote was tabled for another day, so you'll just need to sit tight on that. :)

**Tee** i wont lie about my penis size ever. no reason to lie about what we have or dont have. and i honestly have never measured before......................time to break out the tape measure i guess

I've never told any woman my penis size. If she was curious or hinted at wanting to know, I have always just let her feel for herself (over my pants).