Loosing faith in Women, chat & forums.

Jeez, you emailed for a day! Toughen up pal. The internet is full of flakes.

Good responses, but he well may have meant "Omenous", although I can't quite find the omen in this story.

i'm reserving my comments about Obama until he has actually served in the office however i personally believe all major figures are puppets with their strings being pulled whether they like it or not

Race and gender should be irrelevant.

3, count 'em 3 alarm clocks.
I don't get up with just one whimpy alarm, I need 3 to face the day!

ouldn't disagree more. In fact, if I never hear that phrase again it'll be too soon. It DOESN'T mean "I want to be friends," it (more often than not) means, "I never want to hear from you again." There's a HUGE difference. Do NOT use, "I want to be friends," unless you ACTUALLY want to be friends with someone. If you want them to stop calling, TELL them to stop calling.

For me, I'll stick with the first sentence. Is kissing a dying art basically.

A kiss will always and forever be super important at least to me. Sex is great and all, but a kiss can melt and sear your soul if done right. A deep, sensual, passionate kiss that seems to linger forever as you pray for time to stand still "just this once"...mmmmm...damn.

Being with someone who may enjoy sex, but not kissing would just immediately bring me to the movie "Pretty Woman". Then I'd lose my mind thinkin' A) she's a former hooker/callgirl/escort, or B) she has no intent on sharing real intimacy with me. I could feasibly go without sex for long periods, but I'm fairly certain I couldn't say the same about going without kissing. A kiss, to me, is way more alluring than sex could ever hope to be.

If it's a dying art, I'm gonna thank my lucky stars that I still seem to find the ones that cling to the art like it was their last cupcake. There'll always be something so magical about a kiss that can't be replicated, bought, sold, or bartered for.

That's it...I'm settin' up a kissing booth over thatta way ----->

I don't know anyone who can't immediately recognize when someone else is 10 years or more older or younger. You don't just look at their faces; but at their clothes, physique, posture, hair, teeth, etc. Some people like to flatter themselves; but most of the time, it's easy to tell when a given person is significantly older or younger than you are.

I hate both terms MILF and Cougar too. I think both terms are very demeaning.

There wouldn't be any need to ask each other's age if the two people are 10 years apart. It's obvious almost at first sight. Also, there aren't too many people far apart in age who have "common interests". A 25-year-old dude is likely to have very different interests in foods, sports, music and entertainment than a 40-year-old cougar. That goes without saying.

For the most part, when you see a great age disparity of more than 2 or 3 years, any "relationship" is purely for sex and fun. The woman is in for a rude awakening if she thinks otherwise.

Many girls will flat out ASK you to buy them a drink after making conversation for 30 seconds. What do you ladies say about that?

Older women, and men who pursue youth, are typically attempting a coupe de cradle.
As their opposition robs the grave. Both sets are pleading with their opposition, and placing bids on vicariousness.

True statement, although it's more true of older women going after younger guys than it is of older dudes going after younger women. Older men/younger women is still the norm throughout the world, so the same level of desperation or eccentricity is never associated with those liaisons.

I strongly disagree... I have never purposely pursued a younger man, and if i choose to be friends with, date or develop a relationship with one it has nothing to do with robbing the cradle. It makes me roll my eyes actually because its so incredibly ridiculous. I'm not looking for a 'trophy stud' I value the individual and our ability to get along with one another.

When you meet people you don't typically ask their age right off the bat. If you hit if off because you have common interests, and great conversations or meet on the trail or on the mountain snow boarding, or at a music event ... obviously that is the common ground. So if you find out later that they are younger should you then cut off contact despite getting along well?? How silly... I think we can learn and grow from meeting all kinds of people, why shut the door on people because of of superficial factors?

I try to be realistic understanding that there is that whole 'stages of life' thing to take into account, there is definitely 'too young' for me, but I never judge someone solely because of their age.

I have mused often lately that it is a good thing i was born in this time that we are in now, because if i'd been born back in the days of male dominated culture i'd likely have burned at the stake along with the 'Joan of Arc's' and 'witches'. I have pretty much zero tolerance for gender roles imposed upon me or the idea that male or female is superior. I also don't buy that people can be put in a box because of their age. I am pretty forward thinking in my opinion, and not one to follow the traditional routes it seems, which is also probably another reason why i get along well with some younger men. They have been raised by a completely different generation, with radically different values and role models... this is creating a different kind of man. Emotionally quotient, far more willing to see woman as partners and fellow human beings, appreciate intelligence and self sufficiency and so on.

Of course i must add the disclaimer that I understand there are these types of men in all age ranges, I just think there are more of them in the generations following our's...

Thank you flowers!! I have said that several times myself, but it didn't seem to sink in with some people.
I have enjoyed your posts

"Boston..."

then I agree with you. Society tells us what is acceptable...I do not think always society is right

Control might be an issue also. I would think that its a very small number of women who actually would do it for the control.

Do you not think its mostly about them reliving their youth and feeling flattered by this young guy feeling attracted to her??? She can in some way control him I guess but thats maybe because she is so much more experienced sexually and she really feeling non-attractive as years pass by? Maybe having experienced their men leaving them for a younger model...then by dating or marrying young men they feel that when a young guy can be attracted to them...then they have their self-esteem boosted

What do you think????

I think alot of younger men I like older women because they are more mature, easier to get along with, more experienced, less bs, no drama, and its the excitement of being young and being with an older woman. For people my age, I'm 24, I think a lot of us had this fantasy ever since American Pie 1 lol, Stiffler's mom. An older woman can still be very sexy, and very attractive. There are alot of beautiful older women. I myself, I've been with an older woman before, and to this do, still was the most amazing sex I've ever had. Very beautiful, amazing shape, well toned. And it wasn't all sexual, we were friends, got along great, and hung out without it just being about sex. It's all about attraction, you can't help who your attracted too, its human nature. Age is simply a number, its all about maturity. I could go on and on but I won't, I'm only posting about this because of what a certain person said.

howbigisyourlove, I read your opinion, and while it is your opinion, I think you have a very harsh look on reality. Who are you to say that any older woman who has sex with a younger guys, is immature and is not attracted to the person and is deeply disturbed and has serious issues? And the comment you made for the guys excuse, I can't even remember what it was cuz it was so far out there. I don't know where your basing that opinion from, maybe you read one of those stupid phycologist books or something that is normally full of bs anyways, but that kind of opinion, your judging it on alot of people you don't know or never met lol. Sure maybe your right about a few, but then again, who doesn't have some kind of a personal issue, or some kind of problem. It's life, everyone has something. But your opinion was much better kept to yourself, because it simply has no merit what so ever, and no proof. Think before you write, lesson the day. I'm 24, your 48, I think you just got outclassed by someone half ur age.

Yay, yet ANOTHER "older women younger men thread" so older women can fish for compliments yet again. It seems as if older women are so constantly terrified and insecure about their age that they need constant ego stroking from young guys or they need to date men that could be their kids. I don't think that age matters in a relationship if it's true, but there seems to be a lot of people doing it for very dysfunctional reasons. As far as all these cliche reasons for dating older women, there are just as many younger women who are smart, know what they want, etc. etc. There are also a LOT of older women who aren't so smart, like to play childish games and act very immature. Trust me. I'm surprised the younger women on here haven't piped up regarding the constant bashing they seem to get in these threads. Then again, maybe they actually have enough confidence that they aren't worried about what everyone in here thinks.

When I said chances at 40 and above its about how many want to stay with you...and NOT how many approaches you for sex.....undestand that.
For some reason you still bring it up from the sexual approach perspectives of your chances but on the other hand you accept that they want sex.....which is not much for you....so you go down to nada again.
So...that's where your chances are ...how many want to stay with you and follow your rules ? That's what you need to answer yourself.
So what do you do if 10.000 approaches you for sex but none wants you for stay? Huh? Well that's where your chances are....AND one day even all those with sex approach will be gone. Gone for good, its a matter of time....either you accept it or not.

Conversations of substance I can get with my male counterparts. It can happen with a women too...but its not the rule. Its more the excceptions case...as I saisd before.
The most women looking for relationships for longer time are those 35 and up...because at those ages is when most men ... are just flying away...no matter how....kicked in the butt or just leave.
Yes you may get sexual attention because in N. America are TONS of desparate men for sex...that's why...first. The talk comes second and they do talk because they may want the sex with you....and keep it as it is....as a sexual hook.
How many "serious" offers did you get from those younger ones? You get the younger ones because they dream they will get "something" out of it and they "simulate" the "deep talk."
The human brain is set for the "reward"...for the recompense. Women look for their stuff, men for what they think they want as recompense.

The greater concern is with OTHER people's contact with their own blood for the reasons no_1_bby pointed out. Mere hand washing isn't going to clean any blood that may have gotten under the fingernails, which is why I think a brush should be used if someone's got blood on their hands. It's so easy to deal with menstruation without ever touching any blood that I'd need some really awesome reason to switch to an option that required such contact.

Women have been victimized by sexist tradition. They are trained to be passive and docile and wait to be picked up by males. They are taught to fear and suppress their own sexuality, in contrast to males who are expected to celebrate and enjoy theirs. The word "stud" is considered positive, while the word "slut" is an insult.

Some people are calling it a 'preference', I call it 'insecurity'. That's pretty shallow that some women won't date shorter guys. And it's All because of the way you think other people will look at you.

I like little people. They make me smile.

I like short girls but I'd date a taller girl. It would be nice to have some muscle with me when I go out.

I don't care what the op's intention was, everyone knows when they start these types of thread where it ends up. Not to mention that his "logical" explaination has a lot of stereotypes with no real proof and is extremely ignorant and offensive in a lot of ways.

Well, I would have said 40 to 45, but maybe that's because I am old. A woman by 40 to 45 has usually figured out who she is. She has survived some life experiences and acquired a life story that makes her unique and interesting, with a personality for you to explore. She has endured some disappointments and healed some bruises and she now knows at last that life is not a fairytale so she is ready to encounter you as a human being, not just as a candidate to fulfill a juvenile fantasy.

Just what's wrong with the 20+ women? Have you got something against firm breasts? Do you prefer bitter vindictive women?

In general, 30+ women rarely leave home, as you've discovered. Read the profiles here -- they are seriously waiting for a 'knight in shining armor' to 'rescue' them from their couch at home.

That's the main reason why most of us older guys date younger women -- they still get out in the world.

Big question though can you just choose to become more engaged, do you think that it's that easy. Seems like helping yourself and handling things yourself can become a habit. I also see now where not asking who she went out with or where'd she go as seeming not caring or interested. That wasn't my intent though just didn't want to come off as nosey of possesive.

YOU GO, GIRL!!!

I don't even call it "Dating land" or "Adventures in Dating" anymore...I call it IHOP because of all the waffling guys.

There are a lot of things that I wouldn’t have a problem telling someone that I was interested it or who was interested in me but to state it for all to see just so they can use this black/white info as a means of filtering doesn’t sit well – for me.

You want to know about my past? My sexual experiences? Relationships? Drug or alcohol use, etc? that’s all part of getting to know someone and until things reach a ‘getting to know’ stage I’m not so sure that I should be expected to reveal these things online for all to see – regardless whether there’s anything to reveal or not.

i think the women dont want to move ....its cosy for them the way it is....the longer u sit here the worse it looks on the site....i think the powers that be would take my view over urs ladies...if u want a tea partty ..send invitations..but do it on ur own time...

no but at least in here i know who is single and looking....when was the last time u approached a strange female in the real world......ill tell u one of two things happen....she will do her best to humiliate u....or she will string u along for a while and then do her best to humiliate u.....its an uglt place out there if u not in the loop....and evem then..who says u want any available in ur loop..?