Hey Vinny, have fun ttyl... ladies be easy on him

Well, I have to say that was an interesting experience...I'll try one or two more parties, but I'm not sure these are for me either....Or maybe it's because I don't know anyone...

She sent me messages last night which I ignored, they are normally things like, "hello I hope you are ok, hello I think about you all the time"? However, it was only a matter of time and I responded. We broke into what I felt was a friendly/platonic chat, then she tell's me she is getting upset and she'll have to go, then she changed and raked up the stag night incident for which I have apologised thosands of times for but then she got nasty and vindictive and demeaned me about it? ? She had gone offline so, I sent this and I asked her, "Why are you doing this? Why can't you just forgive and forget? Are you just out to try and totally mash my head, hoping that I will take my life because that is what you are doing". "Now please leave me alone"!!

Here is me wondering why nobody will chat, they attach this forum to my profile. Women must think I'm deranged because of Canam Miles accusing me of having a very bad drink problem. Thank You Caman why don't you go and tug yourself!

Ladies...and perhaps a few of you gentlemen out there could answer his question for me...
Why is it that after a gentleman writes to a lady and shows that he is verrrryyy interested in her that he practically demands that she drives to his house for the weekend or week or whatever,,,it would seem to me that they could meet halfway when the lady felt comfortable enough to do this...it is not right on his part to demand that she drives ti his house...or is it?? I know I am not a raving beauty or Miss America here,,,but it really ticks me off to have someone say well I guess you really don't care enough about me to drive here to see me....I guess I will find someone else to date...!!! WHAT IS UP WITH THAT??? Am I being overly cautious or old fashioned about this whole thing? I mean I do like the guy,,but he had no RIGHT indemanding anything like that I felt...Cna I please have some input on this please?

women look too, they're just not dumb enough to get caught.

Vinny, Vinny, Vinny! OK...maybe *I* don't sport wood...but yes, I have been known to drool a time or two! There was once this Charlie Brown sort.....does a cl1tty or t1tty hard on, count??

Well Vinny, this explains why you think its okay.. but let me assure you, that a lot of people do think its bad manners,.. upbringing has a lot to do with ones attitudes, evidently.
Strange though, no man Ive ever went out with has done this to me, ever... people treat you how you let them treat you. i wont stand for it, so if someone wants to date me, he wont do it in my presence. Simple. nothing stuck up about that,.. im just making my boundaries clear, and showing that If he respects me by not ogling another woman in my presence, I'll extend the same courtesy to him by not looking at other men. Sounds fair and civilised to me.
Morgana

I would think it would be human nature to look at somebody you found attractive. I know I do. It would be rather hypocritical to expect my partner not to.

That being said, there's nothing wrong with appreciating beauty whether it be in a man or a woman. I love to people watch and I have no problems with it. Anything beyond looking (eg. making lewd comments, flirting, ogling) is disrespectful.

If I decide to be with a partner, that means that I trust him, and feel secure enough in that relationship to know that I'm the only one he wants, regardless of who he looks at. If I start to become insecure about something so trivial? Then I would definitely have to re-evaluate my relationship with that man and wonder what it is that makes me feel that way.

I just know how things usually end after first meetings.

I hate to be negative but I have to keep telling myself that it probably won't work out.

Are you talking about the possibility of him being physically abusive??


I hope thats not the case but, I am trying to keep a level head throughout talking to him.

It's just making me nervous for the possibility of meeting him in person, actually liking him, and then him dropping me b/c of a "lack of chemistry".

Ideas?

Carry on letting men get away with this behaviour, and next it will be looking, then remarking,.. then flirting in front of you. You ladies who allow this get what you deserve, IMO. A woman with some self respect would'nt date a man who is crass enough and boorish enough to do this in front of a woman he's with. I know I certainly would'nt give an oaf like that the time of day.
Morgana. x

I have a cat where I work and although there are over 100 people in the building she follows me also. I never realise that Cats could be so clever and loving so I understand

they give so much love. they love you unconditionally. when it's time to put them to sleep it's like you're betraying that love. it hurts so much.

"One thing I am wondering about, though: Why is "What ended your last relationship" a topic to discuss with dates anyway? I have never been asked that question, and I have never asked it myself. Can't you just avoid that question until lateron in a relationship?"

I wonder that myself. I don't really understand why people feel compelled to ask such intense questions on a casual, first date. I usually ask them what kind of music they like, where they've traveled the last few years, what they like to do for fun... or the deepest I go, is "what makes you happy?".

So I don't get it. I guess all I can do is keep on movin' forward... to the next date, to see where that will go. I did get some great insight on this thread, and am glad I posted :)

Sure go for "revenge" ....."good" christian people. Revenge that's the keyword here.

I have a sneaky feeling that you'd gotten the great looking guys because you are an attractive lady. At your age, men are not willing to settle for the attractive lady who's shallow and mean and selfish.

I hope you're serious and not just trolling for compliments on your looks.

Well, feeling you up is not cool, but as far as the gun... do you know that he doesn't work AS a sniper? Maybe he was showing off what he does for a living, legitimately.

How about this line"its not me its you"

ya ever think maybe that`s how the person really feels?.......ya think it might be possible that she was actually not in love with you....omg the horror.....shit happens.....not everyone is gonna be in love with ya .....reality check......

Is it just me does anyone else think this is funny? Why? Because there are women IN EVERY STATE, who put this in their profiles. Some I bet have never even been to the beach, lol? Or have never even lived in an ocean state? Before you say it of me. I used to live in hawaii. And I would never say that.

Am I the only one who thinks this is funny?

It's all about communication. If a blue collar guy talks to me like I'm one of the guys, and he's bullying me or treating me with rough language. I don't want to feel as if I have to get defensive, like I'm in a cage, fighting with a tough guy who is angry and needs to make a point.

I would prefer someone who can discuss, intelligently, in a mild-mannered tone of voice, which soothes my ears, after a hard day's work. Not a rough and tumble, coarse and crude man, who yells at me, like I'm one of the guys in the shop.

If someone is in the habit of communicating in a professional manner, within the confines of an office, he will bring that tone of voice to the bedroom.

So, does it make a difference? It all depends on the communication style.

My parents divorced when I was two but my mom still kept my dad's crappy last name and shafted me with it too. Now, I hate my last name so much I can't speak it or even write it down without wanting to vomit. So in refusing to be a victim of the modern age, I have decided I will either change it to my mother's maiden name or voluntarily take my wife's.

Come on now people, lets admit it, who plays by the 3 Day Rule?

Goodness, I suppose because I'm here, single, still breathing and I'm able to move reasonably large objects without the help of a man (some men find that incredibly sexy from what I hear.)

In response to Messages 86 and 87. Your profile states that you smoke pot....thank you for proving my point in Message 85. What a hoot! Your Honour, I rest my case.

How many times have you heard another cop tell someone that the Bible says to give unto Caesar what is Caesars?
Caesar is DEAD and was killed for good reason.