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DivineBovine

Joined: 5/13/2005

Msg: 174 (view)

Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook? Posted: 5/23/2013 5:34:37 PM
Most recruitment in many areas is done through LinkedIn. really? which industries? and where? i was encouraged to join LinkedIn and couldn't get off it fast enough; the damn thing wanted to "link in" to my personal email account. last thing i wanted was my 93-year-0ld Nana getting annoying emails from one of my "social networks".

DivineBovine

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Ready to marry after 4 months??? Posted: 5/23/2013 5:21:51 PM
my mother met my stepfather in 1967 and is still with him. my step-sister has been married for 42 years to someone she became engaged to after 3 months of dating. one of my friends is about to celebrate her first anniversary of marriage to someone she met on this site 5 years ago. they were engaged 2 weeks after they met. (okay, not as long-standing as the others, but they did meet right here on PoF.) so... yes, it is possible. and i'll bet for every story like the ones above, other people have 10 where the opposite is true.

DivineBovine

Joined: 5/13/2005

Msg: 63 (view)

Letter from Markus Posted: 5/21/2013 6:19:55 PM
it doesn't discriminate - EVERYONE has the new +/- 14 restriction on them. bingo! zoltar, if you feel that strongly about it, file a complaint. see how far you get...

DivineBovine

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Msg: 55 (view)

Letter from Markus Posted: 5/21/2013 5:00:10 PM
I'm not sure Markus's age restrictions would withstand a complaint to the Canada, or B.C., Human Rights Tribunals. so go for it then... file a complaint. but i looked up BC's code and i don't see where you can find discrimination in this list: Discriminatory publication Discrimination in accommodation, service and facility Discrimination in purchase of property Discrimination in tenancy premises Discrimination in employment advertisements Discrimination in wages Discrimination in employment Discrimination by unions and associations you're probably better off with a Charter challenge...

DivineBovine

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Msg: 363 (view)

Message Restrictions Posted: 5/21/2013 4:40:12 PM
thank you for reminding this site that they are breaking the law. really? cite the law. i double-dog dare you.... eta. Behind Blue Eyes - prove that it's illegal. this site is hosted in Canada - please tell me which section of the Criminal Code of Canada is being violated.

DivineBovine

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Msg: 361 (view)

Message Restrictions Posted: 5/21/2013 4:34:12 PM
This is not acceptable, probably illegal ... illegal? really? you're in Canada; cite the section of the Criminal Code that covers this. again.... when you signed up here people, you AGREED TO THE TERMS OF REFERENCE! and the terms of reference to every website in the entire big world wide internet all state that the terms are subject to change at any time without notice. period. you have NO recourse - NONE. your sole option is to leave PoF - don't let the door hit you on the way out.

DivineBovine

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Msg: 244 (view)

Message Restrictions Posted: 5/20/2013 5:47:19 PM
aweseome: ...everything to do with protecting Markus' income stream? it is a business, first and foremost... i thought this one was hilarious: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts16030088.aspx this is what happens when you claim to be 107 years old! LOL!

DivineBovine

Joined: 5/13/2005

Msg: 240 (view)

Message Restrictions Posted: 5/20/2013 5:16:25 PM
xCoopsx: Godwin's Law on the 7th page... not bad. i was expecting it on page 5. too bad we didn't make a bet on it. animaltime: I guess we have to feel for ladies sometimes, I think that the fact of the menopause and them losing that part of their sexuality... where's the rolling on the floor laughing emoticon when you need it? fertility has NOTHING to do with sexuality. and i do hope that this man begins to experience ED precisely on his 40th birthday... ;-) Hapworth: Obviously, age difference becomes less of an issue when the two people involved are, ahem, "older." not entirely..... a few weeks ago, i managed to get a 7-year-old thread deleted due to my response to an 85-year-old who was whining at me about MY age restrictions! he felt we would be a "good match". last time i dropped my age restrictions to host a party, i got more ruder, cruder and downright nasty emails from men in the 5 to 10 years older than me range than i ever did from the Pretty Young Things. if they treat me like that, i can only imagine how they're treating the ones young enough to be their daughters and granddaughters. why are people continually missing the fact that the majority of young users are accessing the site on their smart phones and that the app doesn't allow one to set email restrictions? the youth demographic are the ones that bring in the money - if the young ones are being "inconvenienced" this is damaging to the site's revenue base. it's that simple.

DivineBovine

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Msg: 162 (view)

Message Restrictions Posted: 5/20/2013 2:32:42 PM
POF is a privately-owned business and can set up whatever rules it wishes. not just that.... any website on the internet that you join - ANY one of them - this one, Facebook, Google+, Instagram, Twitter - has a user Terms of Agreement. in order to create your account, you MUST AGREE to abide by the Terms of Agreement. if you don't check off that little box, your account will NOT be created. i'd be willing to be that EVERY SINGLE LAST ONE of the Terms of Agreement for every site on the internet has a line stating that those terms are subject to change without notice! and they sure won't be polling all their members to see whether or not they like the changes. do you think Mark Zuckerberg asks the billions of Facebook account holders for their opinion on every change made to the site????? for that reason alone, Hapworth is right, no lawyer would take on anyone trying to sue Big Fish for this. plus, don't forget that most of you are in the US and this site is hosted in Canada - owned by a Canadian; your laws don't apply here. i do find it interesting that SO many men "of a certain age" appear to have "good friends" with whom they have been communicating for months who are female and much younger. if they are "such good friends" why have you not taken communication off this site???? there are still many places to get throw-away email accounts for when such "good" friendships go south....

DivineBovine

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Msg: 195 (view)

Learn to Take a Hint...I Don't Want to Be Cruel Posted: 5/18/2013 1:33:42 PM
because to use religion in this is just...well. I don't know what else to say on that. that's because it doesn't relate to religion - he means he has a method - most likely some form of "speed seduction".

DivineBovine

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Why do Men of a Certain Age HATE Facebook? Posted: 5/16/2013 3:18:59 PM
I don't hate it all, I'm not even on it. ditto! OMG! i guess this means i have something to hide! LOL!

DivineBovine

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Hi Posted: 5/15/2013 5:11:58 PM
you have the option to set a minimum number of characters in an initial message sent to you. that should take care of the "hi" and nothing else types.

DivineBovine

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over 50 then look at this Posted: 5/1/2013 4:22:29 PM
^^^^Well...if you need someone to help spend your money and share your pension, etc......... you're on! but i should warn you... the nearest ski hill in this place is about 1/10th the size of what you're used to (unless you drive up to Collingwood)! :-)

DivineBovine

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over 50 then look at this Posted: 5/1/2013 4:59:09 AM
it's all about the money for some people, i'm sure it is. women that have more money than average aren't eager to get married. i do quite well for myself and i would like to get married. i'm sure i'm not the only one.

DivineBovine

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Can women REALLY get laid whenever they want? Posted: 4/30/2013 4:29:07 PM
No they can't, not when they are freaking over the hill 50 year olds with too much fat. finally! someone who sees what i've been saying all along on this thread for ... how many years now? LOL!

DivineBovine

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Training needed? Seriously? Posted: 4/30/2013 4:22:30 PM
How else would they know the right ratio of bacon to lettuce to cheese on my sandwich? geez, every bacon lover worth their salt KNOWS that a bacon lattice is the way to go! :-) when i was 40, i had a 29-year-old boyfriend who was terrible in bed. he refused to take any suggestions or hints. and i stuck it out with him for a year, when i really shouldn't have. sexual skills can be learned - if you have a willing pupil.

DivineBovine

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over 50 then look at this Posted: 4/30/2013 4:12:11 PM
You know, we don’t have to pursue this. I'm probably mistaken. sure we do! the man who could build a better bra could get rich - and think of the research! ;-) Think you meant UUdderstatement. hey! i resemble that remark!!! :-)

DivineBovine

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Msg: 297 (view)

are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man? Posted: 3/13/2013 4:18:03 PM
henry, look at the bell curves they've posted on their blog.

DivineBovine

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Am I fighting unbeatable standards now that I'm older? Posted: 3/12/2013 6:41:35 PM
abmccray, you give some of the best advice i've seen on the forums. if i was 20 years younger and lived in Sarnia or Windsor, i'd be sending you an email.

DivineBovine

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are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man? Posted: 3/12/2013 6:08:21 PM
I would have to say yes they are. Not just girls, some guys too. no, not just SOME guys - the truth is that it is MOST guys - across ALL age ranges. another dating site has published their statistics - the plain fact is that the top 20% "most beautiful" women on dating sites get 80% of the email traffic. the rest of us are out of luck. the same study shows that the 60% of the men in the middle of the "attractiveness" scale are the ones who get the most email from women.

DivineBovine

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Msg: 276 (view)

'Younger' older women. Why? Posted: 3/11/2013 3:45:10 PM
it's the same thing here, Helen. i see the young women in the courthouse with their drug dealer boyfriends and i'm struck by how completely haggard they look. it's frightening. sometimes i wonder if they will even live to see 40...

DivineBovine

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Men who have no childern after 50 Posted: 3/10/2013 3:31:46 PM
We are more than just a parent so what is so hard to "get". this! exactly this... i am NOT just my broken uterus and i don't think a functioning one would make me any better, or less, of a partner to a man with a child. just as a man with a child who died, or one that lived to give him grandchildren, is so much more than just a parent. we are the sum of all our parts, thoughts, and actions of which being - or not being - a parent, is one.

DivineBovine

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Woman who sucks at sex!!!! Posted: 3/10/2013 1:22:35 PM
there was nothing I could do about it , so I was stuck.... i think that's terribly sad. and you aren't the first man i've heard say that - "i was stuck". an ex-lover from university married his "Ms Right" - she was supposedly model-beautiful and a great trophy wife for a young stockbroker on the move. and able to feign interest in sex until she got her 2 babies. after that, it was separate bedrooms. i was a long-time acquaintance of this man's cousin and would often run into her. when i asked how he was, she would tell me. about 10 years after i graduated, my sister (a banker) took me to some Bay Street event with her and he was there. we met for lunch the next week and he poured out his heart to me and told me that he felt "stuck" in the marriage. shortly before i moved away from Toronto a few years on, i heard that he was divorced. most women are cold and frigid. and you've had sex with most of the women in the US, so you know this from personal experience?

DivineBovine

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Msg: 163 (view)

Fear of getting naked? Posted: 3/10/2013 9:39:34 AM
Are you saying I'm frigid???....lol you've never experienced a Canadian winter - especially out where mae lives! yowza! :-)

DivineBovine

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Chatting blind Posted: 3/4/2013 4:11:02 PM
I chatted with for a few days back in january has today viewed my profile for the 1st time....if the viewed me part of the site is to be believed. don't believe what you see. the "viewed me" list does NOT show people in the order they viewed your profile. that is a paid upgrade feature of this site.

DivineBovine

Joined: 5/13/2005

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Top Ten Prospect feature Posted: 3/4/2013 4:03:26 PM
Is there a new one called Top Ten? on your in-box, it appears as the middle option in a header above the photographs of men in your region who are online. this is ONLY AVAILABLE TO WOMEN, and, as Phoenix pointed out, it's triggered by email. every man i've corresponded with from the forums is on the list - even if he's on the other side of the planet. and the person at number one is someone i wouldn't consider dating in a zillion years! LOL!

DivineBovine

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Add Politics Category to Profiles Posted: 3/2/2013 1:48:04 PM
dear moderator - you forgot the Natural Law Party (do they still exist?)! :-) i put it in my profile. for some reason, i keep attracting ultra-conservative types who seem to think that belittling everything i stand for passes for conversation.

DivineBovine

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K-Y Intense arousal jelly for her? Posted: 3/1/2013 3:47:28 PM
that one isn't bad, but for what i paid for it, i was expecting a better result. i only do well with the products that are cooling/tingling, the ones that are warming do nothing for me. it's trial and error to discover what works for you - and that can get expensive. i'm sure there are some lucky women that can use both. Kama Sutra has a couple of good ones - the cooling gel and the peppermint "love liquid" are particularly effective. the Adam & Eve website has a house brand sensitizer that is also cooling and often goes on sale. it's too bad that toy stores don't have samples of more of these so one could find the products that work. have fun trying them out! ;-)

DivineBovine

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Msg: 44 (view)

ring on right hand Posted: 2/28/2013 4:51:51 PM
in Orthodox Catholic religions, the wedding ring is worn on the right hand. so you will find Ukrainian, Greek, Serbian and many other women and men in eastern Europe wearing wedding rings on the right hand.

DivineBovine

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Is Physical Attraction crucial in a relationship? Posted: 2/28/2013 4:38:25 PM
I don't think it's as important for an older couple as it is a younger couple. 50s are older? i'm in trouble.... if they were 80 or 90 something, maybe.

DivineBovine

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No contact us - now haveto UPGRADE is pathetic Posted: 2/26/2013 3:32:04 PM
....to charge people to do this is an outrage. an outrage? what's wrong? Ashley Madison or Adult Friend Finder too expensive for you?

DivineBovine

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Am I too slow? Posted: 2/25/2013 7:21:48 AM
why can't he move to Toronto???

DivineBovine

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ultimate dinner party guests Posted: 2/15/2013 4:23:37 PM
at a table for 8: Queen Elizabeth the First Nelson Mandela Stephen Hawking Aspasia of Miletus Amelia Earhart Cary Grant Alexander the Great

DivineBovine

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Serial daters on this site Posted: 2/12/2013 5:02:12 PM
I found a great profile the other day of someone who has now listed all the men (obviously for us ladies looking for true love etc) who are not who they make out to be. The list is long! and how do you know that the woman who made that profile with that long list on it is telling the truth? if SHE has a long list, she's obviously the serial dater and she might have created that list to get back at them for (probably justifiably) rejecting her. just a thought...

DivineBovine

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Do men in their 40's want younger women? Posted: 2/5/2013 6:34:58 PM
i see the advocate of wife-beating is back with more of his sexist crap...

DivineBovine

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Over 45 & never married............... Posted: 2/2/2013 7:58:53 PM
I'm thinking that many of both genders feel that "twinge" of what has not transpired in their lives, like not having children. i think you're on to something, Ms B.

DivineBovine

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Over 45 & never married............... Posted: 2/2/2013 12:13:13 PM
thanks, all.... i do still have a visceral reaction when something happens that sets off whatever latent maternal instinct may be lurking in my reptilian brain. like last year when one of my best friends became a grandmother for the first time and came running up to me on a lunch date a couple of days after the event going "i'm a grandma, i'm a grandma", showing off pictures on her phone. there was a twinge or two and then i just smiled and nodded and cooed and said the things you're supposed to say when your best friend becomes a grandmother. maybe the twinges will always be there, but i had hoped that the passage of 20 years would eliminate them...

DivineBovine

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Over 45 & never married............... Posted: 2/1/2013 8:04:22 PM
I'm pretty sure it never crosses a woman's mind that having children might be of great emotional importance to some men...... not at all. my ex-fiance made it painfully aware when he dumped me one month after my doctor sat us down and explained that would never been able to bear a child. he refused to consider adoption - no discussion.

DivineBovine

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Relationship Prospects Posted: 2/1/2013 4:14:08 PM
thanks! if only we could refine it! LOL!

DivineBovine

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Relationship Prospects Posted: 2/1/2013 4:42:10 AM
I might have to due with the fact that you had previous contact with the other person. he shows up in the "prospects" list with a number ranking beside his name. it was my understanding that hiding one's profile hid you from all the searches on the site.

DivineBovine

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asked how many women I've met from here Posted: 1/31/2013 6:28:18 PM
someone asked me that in an email yesterday and i said that i've been here almost 8 years and met LOTS of people! beyond that, he doesn't need details. and i NEVER ask! it's none of my business.

DivineBovine

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Relationship Prospects Posted: 1/31/2013 6:17:26 PM
so i clicked on this link a couple of days ago when i first noticed it. is this available to both genders? why does it NOT respect the "hidden profile" rule? a net friend showed up in my list and i realized i hadn't heard from him in a while so i sent him an email. he told me his profile was hidden. this item also doesn't take into account distance filters - someone on the other side of the country is of no interest to me. and i'm wondering about the algorithm that makes this determination, because one of my "top prospects" is a married man looking for something on the side who is lying on his profile - or so his wife said when she emailed me about our ONE date last summer. then there's the man who's political views are so opposite of my own that his idea of a good time is putting down everything i believe in and then telling me that i have "no sense of humour" if i object to his diatribes. how does it work?

DivineBovine

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Do men in their 40's want younger women? Posted: 1/29/2013 3:27:23 PM
Men in their 40's want younger women. It is a fact. the man who advocates wife-beating has spoken. those of you on this thread who have stated your preference for women your own age or even older are obviously deluded. and i have to laugh at the troll's take on relationships in the middle ages; where middle and upper class women were traded like brood mares for cash and lower class women married the boy at the next farm at age 14 and dropped dead in childbirth by 20. THAT is the REAL reason for the centuries of inequality in age at marriage! until well into the 20th century, women routinely died while giving birth. since men of all classes needed wives for childcare and to run their homes while they worked their fields or followed kings into wars, they would marry again, and again, and again. the wives would always be teenagers, even as the men aged because the younger wives were good workers.

DivineBovine

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Do men in their 40's want younger women? Posted: 1/28/2013 4:54:35 PM
No man in his 50's would date seriously a woman his own age, and the older he gets the younger his age range will be compared to his own age. there you go, folks... the oracle has spoken. (where's a rolling on the floor laughing emoticon when you need one?)

DivineBovine

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When a woman says she wants to have fun, what do you read into it? A sexy chat? Posted: 1/28/2013 3:42:24 PM
Would depend on the rest of the profile, and the context they used it in. Looking at your profile OP it could go either way I thought. not to me. when i see someone not single/not looking and they want "fun", i take that to mean sex on the side. and i doubt i'm the only one who thinks that.

DivineBovine

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Relationship Goals.. Posted: 1/27/2013 9:21:40 AM
People over 45 generally want a relationship that is monogamous, long term but only involved on weekends or time off. They don't want anyone that wants to live together, either married or not. I think of is as monogamous, long term FWB. "generally"? since when did you get to decide what the over-45s want in general? there are a lot of people who post to this forum who want long-term, non-live-in relationships, but i don't think they're in the majority.

DivineBovine

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How many years have you been on POF Posted: 1/26/2013 8:40:50 PM
coming up on 8 years... is that as bad as it sounds? :-)

DivineBovine

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Do men in their 40's want younger women? Posted: 1/26/2013 10:57:49 AM
Dino, i know about the preferences reducing my chances, look how many years i've been here with no success. :-) and i do know that lying about one's age does seem to help; one of my best friends married someone last summer that she met on this site. she took 5 years off her age on her profile. i've often wondered (but never asked) when she had that conversation with her husband about lying about her age! LOL! i don't think the preferences i've listed on my profile should be the point here, but i have said this before about why i've put them to such a narrow range at the top; i have had more lewd, crude and downright nasty emails from men who are older than me (especially those 5 years older and up) than those who are younger (including the 20-somethings) on those occasions when i have co-hosted local parties and dropped my age restrictions for contact purposes.

DivineBovine

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Do men in their 40's want younger women? Posted: 1/26/2013 9:01:24 AM
this coming from a woman who has age restrictions of only 2 yrs older but 9 yrs younger where in my post did i say that women didn't want that as well? i didn't... did i? she asked a question about what MEN in their 40s want, not about women in their 50s.

DivineBovine

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Do men in their 40's want younger women? Posted: 1/25/2013 7:03:36 PM
yes! and so do men in their 50s and 60s. hope this helps!

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