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winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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I want to met this girl,but have no money. Posted: 7/25/2009 11:20:09 PM
Coffee-to-go and window shopping costs almost zero. I forgot to look at where you live.....most bigger cities/metropolis's (metropolie?) have plenty of free things to do, should the walk and caffeine turn out to be the beginning of something more. Who knows, everyone seems to be broke now-a-days and she could be in the same boat. Be a big boy and reel her in!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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how should a first message be? Posted: 5/25/2009 6:04:51 PM
Not too short and not too long, but juuuust right. Actually, it depends on a couple of factors Mention what attracted you to her profile....besides the purty lady on the postage stamp pic. Then, on how much wine you've imbibed in to bolster the courage in order to write her. "hey" is for horses. Throw in some oats and corn in order to get things rolling. Good Luck

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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I don't want to be interviewed Posted: 5/21/2009 7:00:46 PM
Seems that your profile has a 'ready made' first date idea included in there.....go dancing! There are a number of places that have lessons before the major dancing begins. You, also, mentioned cooking. Any chef/cooking schools in your area, where you could go for a tasting? Now, I'm presuming that you are talking about a first 'date', not an initial meet-up, yes? Since you've already talked on the phone, that would indicate that the preliminary 'interview' has happened. There could be a number of places to go and experience that are interesting, free>low cost and allow an 'out' for either one of you. Many museums have a free night/day. Bookstores have author readings, sometimes libraries, too. Take a look at what your local college/university/community center has on offer. Any art galleries having a new exhibit opening up? Like someone mentioned, if you are wanting to meet with another, do a bit of research. The idea that you've put some effort and imagination into setting up this first 'date' will garner you extra points.....and you may enjoy the evening anyhow, even if they don't and disappear on you!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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How long to wait before dating? Posted: 5/20/2009 6:38:44 PM
Well, goodfella, its not so much being hesitant about dating someone fresh out of a relationship, as the idea that dating me (or anyone) would send you into bouts of 'NAUSEA'! Fer g'sake, hon, don't get your knickers in a twist over the thought! As others have said, maybe you need to wait and settle into your new place. Take a bit of time to discover who you are (outside of being in a relationship) and what you truly enjoy doing all by your little ole lonesome, before you ask someone to join the fun. I, personally, find the whole line of 'completing' or 'being the other half' kinda repugnant. When someone is complete, self-sufficient, mature and knows where they'd most likely want to go in life.....THAT is truly appealing.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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What will your kids find? Posted: 5/19/2009 4:34:01 PM
aaaa...and what cave have you emerged from, younowho? Anywho, got rid of my stuff awhile ago, when this same subject came up among friends. Decided to give my hands 'names', instead. Remind me to tell you the story of my friend,....while moving into a new place, her dog found 'Mr. Jiggles' and proceeded to play and toss it around the backyard, where all her neighbors could look over fence and enjoy the fun!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Had the best date ever!! Posted: 5/17/2009 10:11:27 AM
So, if you met him from POF, then chances are that he will read this thread.... Hey, guy, this lady is TOTALLY into you!! Ask her out again already. Sounds that there is more to be explored. Hope this works for you, Romny. Good Luck

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Favorite bumper stickers Posted: 5/17/2009 9:58:23 AM
I AM DRIVING THIS WAY....just to piss you off!!

winernotreally

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4 dates and they all used someone elses pictures Posted: 5/7/2009 7:44:36 PM
wow, you went on FOUR dates that did the same thing?! Not one, where you could 'learn your lesson', but FOUR!!! Methinks you might want to look at what (who) is the 'common denominator', yes? Obviously, its the 'looks' that are blinding you. Combine that with a certain amount of inexperience/naivete with the on-line 'dating' world....well, what can I say? Maybe take a bit more time conversing before meeting? Why not ask them if that's their 'real' photo? Possibly communicate with them 'sober'? Oh well.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Is she too old for me Posted: 5/7/2009 6:55:44 PM
This is hilarious! At some point, after a certain 'age', 'age' itself becomes a moot point. It all depends on similarities and/or differences that you can tolerate. Energy/activity level, conversation that flows and is fun. Maybe, hopefully, sex at some point. 'Course, if you are an "Elvis Guy" and she is an"All Frank, All the Time" kinda gal, then, I'm sorry....I just don't foresee a future for you two. By the by, my parents are in their 80's...Dad is falling apart physically, though his mind cracks like a whip! Mom is just plain ole 'cracked' (loopy-loopy)! And she has the health of a 40yr. old......I anticipate trying to chase down a 95yr. old nekkid lady as she runs down the street. Yup, that's MY future!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Favorite romantic movie scene Posted: 4/29/2009 9:22:03 PM
ooo...ooo...I got one! The lovemaking scene in "Play Misty For Me"....when Clint is with his girlfriend in the coastal redwood forest and Roberta Flack is singing "The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face"......SIGH!!!! OK..that's enough for me about now....think the Spring Fever has gotten me but bad!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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dating as a interview... Posted: 4/28/2009 1:24:35 PM
Has anyone asked the inevitable "Where do you see yourself in 5 years?" "How do you see yourself developing within this company?" "If a customer started yelling at you and being rude & nasty, what would you do?" I think these questions are still asked, even if you applying to flip burgers at McDs.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Have at it! this round's on me! Posted: 4/28/2009 12:44:27 PM
Yep, definately the 'Date' thing. C'mon, ma man, you're only a hop and skip from NOLA! Besides the constant, continuous party that goes on there, there are plenty of things to do! Think of your favorite museum or neighborhood for a walkabout. "Hole in the wall" for drinks and nibbles. Music and dancing. Penny slots at Harrah's. Touring the cemetaries or a 'ghost' tour. Events and Festivals....besides Mardi Gras (Hey, JazzFest is ahappenin', so I know that many of the musicians from there are playing at other venues in the evening!). Even just riding the St. Charles streetcar from one end to the other would be delightful. Remember, most women luuuv a creative mind on a guy!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Tear Jerker Movies Posted: 4/28/2009 11:24:08 AM
Forgot about "Green Mile" and "Schindler's List"....tearjerkers for everyone!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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does the first meet count as the first date? Posted: 4/27/2009 9:33:03 PM
I'm all for the 'go with the flow, morphing' idea. For a long time, there was a real reluctance, on my part, to call any 'meetings' a 'date'. Finally, after going out with one particular man for 4 'meets', he insisted on paying my way into the music venue and says "NOW, we are OFFICIALLY on a DATE! Get used to it." HA! I did for a good 11 more months.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Tear Jerker Movies Posted: 4/27/2009 9:14:57 PM
When I really need to let go and sob, occasionally I need a 'trigger'...usually "Sophie's Choice". Yeah, I know, an unhealthy relationship is not something one should weep about...though there is so much more to the characters. Also, I just love "Shakespeare In Love"....very romantic and I do get teary at the 'Romeo and Juliet' scene...takes my breath away. Many years ago a movie titled "Scarecrow" with Gene Hackman and Al Pacino, would make me cry. Think many guys would find it a 'mans tearjerker', as well. It ends up being very sad and all about 'love' in the friendship form.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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I'm scared to start dating Posted: 4/27/2009 2:50:46 PM
Scared of dating? Then quit calling it D-A-T-I-N-G! Give it another name....Meet & Greet, Breaking Bread with a potential Friend....anything that could ease up on the 'expectations'. Learn to read the profiles with the focus being that they could be a good buddy/friend to go out and do things with....rather than a 'future mate, last date, one and only, Prince Charming, grand poobah of your life, the reason for living, etc.' Really? You can put your feet in your mouth?! I'm impressed. I'm sure many a guy would be, too, if you put that in your profile. You'd get tons of e-mails!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Do men and women really enjoy wet sloppy kisses? Posted: 4/27/2009 2:42:43 PM
Amen, amethyst! Now ya'll gotta quit talking about this 'stuff'....it's not doing me a bit of good. Kinda like stirring the pot with no-one to partake of the soup, n'est pas?

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Big Mistakes Posted: 4/27/2009 10:07:57 AM
Big 'mistakes', though you eventually learn your lessons from them..... Ignoring my creative side for too long, intermittent times....leads to frustration within my everyday life. Finally figured out that I have to something, anything, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant EVERY DAY! I'm the progeny of artist parents, so one of my mistakes was thinking that it would be fun to be involved with another artist. I thought, since I had witnessed it, that two people of similar mind-set could be mutually supportive of each other....NOT! I found that I was the one doing the 'giving' with no 'return' in the offering. Much better to deal with my own ego, do my thang, take classes (with supportive teachers/students) where 'constructive' critiques are on offer.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Do men and women really enjoy wet sloppy kisses? Posted: 4/27/2009 9:31:18 AM
wow, it must be Spring...all this talk of kissing, smooching, kanoodling, etc.! I never really connected Frenching with 'doing the Deed'. Though, generally, by the time I get around to employing a bit of tongue in a Make Out Session, it could be heading in that direction. And, don't always equate the sloppy 'facial' with the French Kiss, either. Wasn't there a scene in "Sex in the City" where one of the gals goes in for the good night kiss and gets her face licked instead? Hilarious! There are some people that don't like to kiss AT ALL! Men and Women. I'm not one of them. Though sometimes a really good back scratch/rub could replace it, for ONE TIME....ONLY! HA!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Favorite romantic movie scene Posted: 4/26/2009 8:37:24 PM
I adore "Shakespeare In Love", where Fiennes and Paltrow enact the ending to Romeo and Juliet and really meaning the words....the hush and tears that fall over, not only, the audience within the movie, but the people in the movie theater...just stunning!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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How many first dates don't lead anywhere? Posted: 4/18/2009 11:09:33 PM
Awww, heck there, hon. When you finally get around to making that 'first' date, why not just tell them that its actually your 5th date together....consider that the 'nasty' has already happened and now its time to decide whether or not to be exclusive...or to move on to other '5th' dates. See? Easy-peasy!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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College & Dating over 45 Posted: 4/18/2009 7:48:46 PM
Well, when I started taking classes this past semester, I put the whole idea of 'dating' on the waaay, waaay back burner. Just thinking about getting 'cleaned and dressed up' left me exhausted. Hey, after working full-time, going to classes all day for two days a week, upkeep on my abode, dealing with a teenage daughter and various critters, I'm sure that I must seem like a real bargain! Like it says on my profile....I've got about 15 mins. to spare (maybe) on a Friday night (maybe)....if someone is open to having that 'cup o coffee' at odd moments in a day, spur-o-the-moment-like, who can say what could happen? Just wake me up when the 'interview' is over. There are a few folks that are 'of an age' in the classes I take....though it seems like they are in the same boat as me, so even becoming friends with them hasn't happened.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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The beat of a different drum Posted: 4/18/2009 7:21:08 PM
One of the most romantic songs that I know...from Antonio Carlos Jobim. Of course, heard in its original Brazilian Portuguese is enough to put me in a puddle! Dindi (pronounced 'Jinjee') Sky, so vast is the sky And far away clouds just wandering by.. Where do they go? Oh I don't know, don't know... Wind that speaks to the leaves Telling stories that no one believes Stories of love Belong to you and me.... Oh Dindi.... If I only had words I would say all the beautiful things that I see When you're with me oh my Dindi Oh Dindi... Like the song of the wind in the trees That's how my heart is singing Dindi, happy Dindi When you're with me I love you more each day Yes I do, yes I do I'd let you go away If you take me with you Don't you know Dindi I'd be running and searching for you Like a river that can't find the sea That would be me Without you my Dindi And, the most 'sexy' one, sung reallly slow, low, with little instrumentation "Lazy Afternoon".

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Are old people starting to look good to you? Posted: 3/25/2009 12:10:49 PM
Clint Eastwood....now there's a man that looks good at ANY age! Craggy face and all. Some folks luck out with the genes. And some keep up the effort with body and mind active. I think I look (and feel) somewhat attractive 'for my age'. There are certainly no plans on my part to quit doing what I'm doing. And, hopefully, anyone who I might meet down the road will have a similar mind-set. All in the mind of the beholder.

winernotreally

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gaslighting, has anyone ever experienced this? Posted: 3/25/2009 11:55:51 AM
I thought gaslighting meant he lit his odoriforous colon emanations (farts) HA! Yep, I thought, when first reading the title to the thread, that we would be treated to scenes from 'Blazing Saddles'. I had not heard this term before, though I have experienced this kind of behavior from others. Agree that it could have a connection to people's mental health. Its possible that the 'severity' of someone's mental condition is in direct ratio to the amount of 'gaslighting' manipulation that their partner is subject to. In my case, the X has an anxiety/depression disorder. You certainly wouldn't know it when you meet him and he is on medication/therapy for this. Don't think he was aware that he did this to me (he always was kind of oblivious)....I wasn't aware that this was happening to me for quite a long time! Yes, it is insidious...so slow, sneaky and subtle that you don't realize where your self-esteem has gone until a friend points out "Gee, you used to be so confident and laughed all the time." You begin to wonder where you went! Hopefully, most of us have some good friends that can point out when this is happening. Otherwise, be aware. I realize that this can happen to anyone, at any age. Though, its possible that at our relative 'ages', some folks get a bit...uhmmm...desparate, shall we say, to have ANYONE in their lives. Kinda sad, and true.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Do you know what exactly what you want from life now? Posted: 3/5/2009 1:07:17 PM
Do I know 'exactly' what I want from life? Well, not 'exactly', though I have a good idea of the direction its going. Mostly, I'm following the paths that I've set out for myself with enough leeway in case life makes me take another road. Some of these journeys seem quick and secure...and others may take a longer bit of time with the options of changing my mind. Ain't Life interesting?!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Unique 'getting to know each other' date ideas Posted: 3/5/2009 11:59:10 AM
Cooking together is a great way to get to know someone....emphasis on 'together' or at least a willingness to learn and have fun playing with their food. Bookstores, also, excellent. What about author/poetry readings? You can discuss afterwards. Since everyone seems to own a digital camera, what about you both bringing your own along to a festival, flea market, stroll, etc., snap loads of photos.? Then go have coffee somewhere and look at what each of you snapped pics of. (don't do this if either of you are 'professional' photographers....they are kind of weirdly 'competitive'!) Many museums have discount or free days. Someones 'taste' in art can, also, tell you a lot about them. Or, sign up on a couple of gallerys' mailing lists. You'd get notification on any 'openings'....nothing like crappy wine and cheese cubes to set the mood! Cemetery idea? Only if its a really interesting place....New Orleans is good, you can even take a tour. Virginia City, Nevada. You are located in St. Augustine, yes? Oldest city in the U.S.....there's got to be historically loaded places there! Hopefully, you both share these interests. Are there some things that she likes to do that you'd be willing to try? Come on, learn how to knit...take a chance on the 'wild side' of life.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Breakfast as a first date! Posted: 2/26/2009 1:32:12 PM
1st 'date' or 1st 'meeting'? To my mind, the first 'meeting' is generally somewhat brief with as little cash spent as possible. If you've gotten that out of the way and move on to a first 'date', then make the breakfast idea one among a few for her to choose from. Personally, I like going out to eat in the a.m., as I rarely do all the fixin's for just myself. There's always places that don't have the 'regular'-type (Denny's, IHOP) breakfast, either.....Mexican for a burrito, Bakery for coffee and fancy pastry, you get the idea. With the 'grab and go' you can stroll around or picnic & converse. As you can tell, there are a number of differing opinions on this....ask her HER opinion!

winernotreally

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i think i met her today, could use some advice. Posted: 2/20/2009 8:59:54 PM
And If I were you, I would still attend that festival...keep an optimistic attitude, good luck Yep, Ms. Maeflowers is right....go to that Festival. Many people (including us single-type women!) love to go to stuff like that. You never know who you could start a conversation with. And, besides, its in your community....the more your visible to others, then recognition in another place could happen as well. You know "Didn't I see you at such & such place?" Also, Ron9 brings up a good point...there are many reasons for a "Mr. and Mrs." on a piece of paper....divorce, widowhood, even separation. Like others have said...its good to know that the ole SCHWING!!! is still there...whew! What a relief after a time of being 'dead in the water' to realize you're still capable of feelings and attraction, isn't it?

winernotreally

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Turned 50 and it's different (shallow thread) Posted: 2/19/2009 1:34:52 PM
Q-tips....being from Florida(RetirementCity), originally, you'd be driving along and see another car with all these little, white, puffy heads popping up from the carseats....voila'! A car 'full of Q-tips'! The only 'blue hairs' I've seen recently are on the younger kids that dye theirs all colors of the rainbow. Think the ole 'blue rinse' has, since, become passe for us 'oldsters'.

winernotreally

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Turned 50 and it's different (shallow thread) Posted: 2/19/2009 1:02:21 PM
Well, I say "Welcome to the Fabulous, Don't-Give-A-Flying-Fck Fifties*!" I tell ya, its the best age to be in....wouldn't trade it for any other age in my previous lifetime....hmm, possibly with the exception of certain body parts, but that's no-never-mind. Anywho, this is a time when your passions, and compassion, begin to make themselves known to you and you realize that its allll up to you to do something about it. Rather a 'freeing' mindset, for the most part. Happy Birthday to all who walk through this door! (Ron9...I thought we (more 'mature' ladies) were called 'Q-tips', not Blue Hairs?)

winernotreally

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No physical attraction Posted: 2/19/2009 10:46:05 AM
Certainly have been in that boat before. Are you sure that he doesn't feel the same towards you, as well? Sometimes taking the person out of the 'dating' situation might offer a different point of view.....we're always on our 'best' behavior during those times. try....asking him to volunteer with you, visit him at work (if its allowed), go dig in a garden, etc. You know, things that may take both of you out of your 'comfort zones' or see each other from a different angle. I know, for me, that if I find someone sorta 'ho-hum' and eventually they display a sense of humor that I find really funny, that person 'all of a sudden' takes on that extra shine, in my eyes!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Do hearts harden with age? Posted: 2/19/2009 10:13:04 AM
Hearts harden? I thought that was the arteries! And Good Luck on getting any other body parts to 'firm up' at this age. For me, I guess, my 'focus' has changed in what I want in life, as well as in the areas of 'romance and relationships'. So, its not a matter of protecting my heart, as it is having the life experiences to know what I want (and don't want) and recognizing those attributes when I see them or the door opening for an opportunity. More of the combo of 'brains and heart', than just one particular organ taking over! (Sheesh! I'm gonna hear about that one.)

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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i think i met her today, could use some advice. Posted: 2/18/2009 8:00:06 PM
Ask her if she knows about the Festival and if she's planning on attending. Take it from there...no, she's not planning on going (for what ever reason, don't ask!), then go the route that someone suggested "This is very unusual for me to do this....etc." If the answer is 'yes', then just say "If you're going by yourself, would you like to meet up at 'such and such' booth around 11a.m....I'd really like to treat you to lunch!" See? Polite and interested without being pushy or overbearing! Good Luck PS I know what its like to be attracted now and then to a customer! You're fortunate enough to have spent a bit of time with her in conversation, rather than 'technical' stuff and "That will be $595....credit card or check?"

winernotreally

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Just a card - or something more? Posted: 2/6/2009 7:10:09 PM
So, what was the picture on the front of the postcard? That should give you a clear indication of his intentions. I gather that it wasn't a young, blonde hottie holding up two coconuts in front of her nekkid body. Therefore, let's conclude that he was just making contact because the place obviously reminded him of you and the good times you had together. Since I don't know either of you, it would be hard to guess if he was hinting at 'friendship' or something more....you know him better than we do....do you WANT it to mean more?

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Is this weird? Posted: 2/6/2009 12:16:06 PM
Hey kiby, seems like you are 'in between' worlds! Most of us giving advice or opinions haven't been in your shoes, necessarily. Interesting subject matter you bring up. I think having a conversation with your Mom is a good idea. Ask her some questions about her 'youth' and how she felt about her 'arranged' marriage (I'm presuming there). Doesn't sound like it worked out all that well for her....or was she pleased with it? Ask her if she could have had it differently, how would she have changed it? You might be surprised at the answers. Believe taking it to a 'personal' level with her might help her to see your point of view in a more gentle way. Most mothers want their daughters to have a life better than what they were given or have had so far....education, direction, opportunities and, of course, love. Like someone else said, ask and comment with respect and compassion, if you want to get it in return. Let us know if you have this conversation(s) with her and how it goes....I'd be interested in knowing!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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I could use your honest opinion on what I might be doing wrong... Posted: 2/6/2009 11:44:49 AM
Could it be my photos? Uhh, very much most likely! A friend of mine would go out on first dates dressed like you have in your photos....she would then complain to me how the guys never seemed to want to talk...only look at her like she was 'a piece of candy'! (Well! I never...!) I told her to quit displaying the bon-bons on the first meet. Guess what? She took that advice and gradually started going on dates, many of them with the same guy, and having some fun! Actually making true 'connections' with people, having real conversations, finding similarities....all without the distraction of those 'bright, shiny lights'! Now, I don't know what your previous profile said, obviously it was further 'advertising' with some negativity thrown in for good measure....and I gather that you've since changed all that. Good. Though you are looking for 'long term', seems like you are still sounding like a bit of a 'party girl'....may want to consider further tweaking. There are a few guys out there that scan any profile for the word 'sex' and the innuendos, no matter what context its put in. If you are serious about 'long term', then eliminate those kind of things from your profile....don't worry, you are young and I'm sure can sound like a fun person to be around without bringing up the subject matter right off the bat. Whether or not to 'bed' someone will show up sooner or later after you've been on a few dates. Good Luck

winernotreally

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Are dating sites addictive? Posted: 2/5/2009 1:06:44 PM
Ah, Cornelius, I think I love you! OP, your 'brains' are quite visible from here. Why, even in that postage-stamp size pic, we can tell exactly where their located. The forums are the addiction 'of choice' for me. Dating sites, for some, I think are a 'fantasy' addiction. To each their own.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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The Past Revisited Posted: 2/5/2009 11:52:52 AM
Fizzies. They bought them back around 1998 but they're gone again HA! Yep. Believe that a few 'oldsters' tried the new ones and they ended up exploding in a few guts!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

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The Dreaded Are You Interested? Posted: 2/5/2009 11:29:28 AM
I think those kind of messages are just 'random'! If they haven't bothered to comment on your profile in a way that let's you know that they've actually read it, then they are probably just closing their eyes and letting their 'fingers do the walking'....sending out a half dozen 'cut/paste' e-mails a day. Nothing personal about it. And you shouldn't worry about hurting any feelings or a need to reply with a 'read/delete' hit of a button. Such is life in cyber-world. Get over it and move on. You could always send a message back "u shoor r purty. wanna chat?".... 'course that's just playing with their minds and some may not 'get it'.

winernotreally

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How to leave the first coffee date without hurting him Posted: 1/20/2009 10:46:51 AM
Oooops! Double posting....apologies.

winernotreally

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How to leave the first coffee date without hurting him Posted: 1/20/2009 10:44:23 AM
I never leave the meeting open for anything longer than about 30 mins. If I want to continue it longer, I will bring it up, but otherwise I keep it to a time which I predetermine (or cut it even shorter) unless I really can't stay. I tend to sandwich them between other activities, so a lot of times, I can't. Ms. Chickie has got the answer...go no further! Either say "Thank you for meeting, I gotta scram now....good luck on your search!" Or, say "It's been a pleasure meeting you. Unfortunately, I have to go now. If you'd feel like continuing the conversation, please, feel free to call me!" He should be able to 'take the hint' either way....unless he's still jabbering away and totally oblivious to the signals...in which case, just excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, then disappear!

winernotreally

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I don't think she got the hint... Posted: 1/16/2009 12:45:29 PM
"Do you not hang out with your friends? Because I do. And if you said to her "Thanks for the opportunity to make a new friend" she probably thinks you are friends, which is why she asked if you wanted to do something. If you had nothing in common, then you shouldn't have even offered friendship." Exactly! I was on the opposite side of this (similar) situation a few years ago. Actually, our first meet was really fun...no lulls in conversation, plenty of laughing. 2nd meet is when he told me " I've met someone and am interested in her. Though I'd really like us to be friends." Silly me, I didn't mind the 'friends' angle, in the least and attempted to get together with him, just to hang-out or go to places of similar interest. Took me those couple of 'refusals' to get it through my thick noggin! So, be a grown-up and say what you mean and mean it, only don't be 'mean'....if she suggests another time, then you need to 'fess up' in a compassionate manner....otherwise, take a chance and go make a friend!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

Msg: 23 (view)

A word between like and love Posted: 1/14/2009 8:40:33 PM
According to Merriam Websters Online Dictionary, the word directly between like and love is "lithograph" too funny! "I...I...I L...I Litho you!"

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Oh my goodness. I'm going on a date! I'm going on a date! HOORAY! Um... help? Posted: 1/12/2009 10:55:32 PM
I think she should go out with Needy Ned. His profile sounds right up her alley. (Brilliant, Mr. Ned!)

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

Msg: 11 (view)

Does anyone like a serious profile? Posted: 1/12/2009 11:49:45 AM
Ok....the basics Your profile sounds like more in the 'looking for dating', than Long Term. (You should put something down in the 'first date' section anyhow....you could let this be where your 'humor' comes through....only nothing too gross or scary!) Fill in the 'employment/profession' area. You could expand a bit more on your job within the profile....why do you like it? Drop your age and where you live, in the body of the profile....its already mentioned up above. I agree with editing out the 'family drama' bit...it comes across as a tad 'negative'. Besides, if you want to have a subject to talk about during a first 'meet'...."family" combined with humor (hopefully) can make a terrific conversation. I'm glad that you've written what you are attracted to in someone....without going into the physical minutia....(gives us 'older', artistic-type women hope for our 'younger' sisters!). Again, this could make for interesting fodder when in the 'contacting/connection' stages. All-in-all, like someone said, its a pleasant read with hints of meeting an interesting guy. Its up to you on adding more 'humor'....gives a woman some indication on what to expect...don't want to surprise them with 'heavy sarcasm' or 'space cadet randomness' on the first meeting...they might think your on medication! Good Luck

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

Msg: 49 (view)

Male enhancement side effects Posted: 1/12/2009 11:05:20 AM
I recall hearing that Smilin' Bob got into a bit of legal hot water earlier this year, I'm not sure of the details Really? I didn't hear about that. Do ya think that maybe he 'accidentally' bumped into someone on an elevator and couldn't wipe the 'smile' off his face fast enough? Ooo...ooo...he tried to be a 'towel rack' in a department store bathroom display! Yep, bet that's it!

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

Msg: 59 (view)

What Questions Would You Like To Be Asked?? Posted: 1/11/2009 1:49:44 PM
The infamous interview question: where do you see yourself in 5 years? And the answer is: "I see myself as an astronaut in 5 years! And, you?" Seriously (ahem), how about, "Can I give you a million dollars with no strings attached?" THAT one I could answer easily.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

Msg: 59 (view)

Have all the really older guys given up? Posted: 1/11/2009 1:39:33 PM
Good on you! I agree with the advice about men your age range not being terribly computer savvy, in general. Most of them probably 'retired' before computers were a major requirement in their jobs and they may not 'trust' it as its a 'foreign' concept. If you've got the time and wherewithal, you could look into 'activity/social groups'...hiking? birdwatching? card games?....try meetup dot com. Granted you may have to 'travel'....though probably only about 1-2 times a month. The hiking group I belong to has many folks of different age ranges and it offers hikes at different levels of expertise...from a walk on level trails through local parks to 11mile/sea level>2500ft elevations! Also, volunteering comes to mind, if you don't already. When I did some 'work' at my local food bank, I was one of the 'youngsters' (at age 53!)....many there were retired, both single and married. Habitat for Humanity is a wonderful organization to be involved with....you'd probably be able to volunteer once a month, depending. Granted, the areas they concentrate their work at are usually some major urban towns/cities so, again, 'traveling' would be required. These are just a few suggestions I could offer you....you get the idea.

winernotreally

Joined: 10/15/2007

Msg: 87 (view)

Ever been asked,Why aren't you married? Posted: 1/11/2009 12:52:47 PM
^^^^Whew! golfgirl, I promise to never, but ever NEVER ask you that question! Though I certainly agree with you on your philosophy, for the most part, I sometimes feel that a good BELCH in the face of the questioner suffices....seems that then they understand.

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