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FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Why am I being limited on my posts? Posted: 1/23/2008 5:05:06 PM
Reacently I have noticed when I reply to a thread, I get a message that says "Messages this short may not be posted". This baffles me because I see replies and posts that are shorter than one sentence. If I am being singled out I deserve to know. If this is normal I would also like to know. Thanks.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Trying to quit or No Answer ??? Posted: 1/23/2008 9:55:20 AM
You seem very judgemental. The last line of your post confirms that. So let me turn the tables on you....Why Care? If you feel your opinions are valid, stand by them. Seek out only "Non Smokers"as is your option. I can ony assume you have never smoked yourself, or are one of those self proclaimed "Smokers who quit" But in actuallity you were never addicted and just had a few puffs over time. Smoking is not easy to quit. You dont enjoy it and its effects, but like a drug you are addicted....Many people trying to quit want to be around non smokers. It keeps them from that temptation. Rarely will they be so rude as to light up around a non smoker.

FescheLola

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Looking for a better condom Posted: 1/23/2008 8:19:23 AM
My dear boy, One does not buy the "Extra Large" Condom when his Schlong is "Extra Small". Fear not, it is a common mistake. And to be fair if the Condom makers did not offer that model they would go bankrupt. I would suggest Sheepskin, but that would undoubtedly be upsetting to your sheep. Oh well, Sucks for you.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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When to disclose a felony conviction Posted: 1/21/2008 12:17:10 PM
What is the "felony"??? I wouldnt. The first date rule is to keep things casual and basic. Telling your life story ups and downs is a bad move. Now if there is a spark fine...But there rarel is a strong one on the first meeting...And something serious can screw things up. I can put people at ease, And because of this I have had people in the beginning tell me things that would curl your hair. Its a bad move. Judgements are quick when you dont know someone. So dont do it. A first date is just that...A first meeting, not an engagement.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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When a woman brushes her boobs against you Posted: 1/19/2008 8:48:42 PM
Riddle me this..... What should I do when I am in a bar, minding my own, knockin back a few, and some Boob brushes against me? What does this mean? Is he just scratching his bits or is he inviting me to? I'm confused

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Weird First Date gifts Posted: 1/17/2008 12:30:20 PM
You talk about "misguidedness" but you were telling a guy what lipstick you wear and thought that was a subject of deep importance? Men usually dont pay attention to such things, especially before a first date. But hey, at least you got vanila lip gloss. rolls eyes

FescheLola

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Scarves Posted: 1/15/2008 6:59:16 PM
It's a well known fact that when a man dresses up as a female, he will wear a scarf or a choker to hide his adams apple. According to who? What "data" are you going by Sparky? Personal Experience? I have drawers full of scarves. I must be a dude. Anyway, why this is still up I have no idea. Its a sweeping generalization.

FescheLola

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Guys who dont like boobs,,,, Posted: 1/15/2008 6:55:57 PM
I don't like "Boobs" myself. Yet these forums are crawling with them So I must be in the minority.

FescheLola

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Why are you here? Seriously... Posted: 1/15/2008 11:04:15 AM
Say Tiger..... Got Issues?

FescheLola

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Do people ever really change? Posted: 1/15/2008 11:01:53 AM
Relax OP.... This is'nt one of the "Why are all " threads... Sadly you'll get a few that turn it that way. Its in your hands now.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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why are jewish families against intermarriage? Posted: 1/15/2008 10:59:38 AM
Further, the notion of converting should be freely and without guile or goal. Converting "for" a person can be a recipe for resentment and regret, much later in the relationship. Exactally. to that and your entire post. Hopefully the OP will slow down (8mos? c'mon) and at the least do some research....Outside of POF forums.

FescheLola

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If you are a middle aged man . Posted: 1/15/2008 10:39:42 AM
Damn you and yer "logic" !!!!!! Yes, it hurts at times and is underappraciated (re forums) Sob

FescheLola

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why are jewish families against intermarriage? Posted: 1/15/2008 10:27:11 AM
Its a cultural thing. I feel like my beliefs are closer to Judaism then my own families beliefs. I would be willing to convert but this apparently isnt enough for his family........ There is a reason conversion isnt encouraged. Being Jewish isnt about converting, or the religion itself, its culture. You being and saying "I'm Catholic/Christian" is'nt the same thing as someone saying "I'm Jewish". Your children would be considered your religion, did you know that? To be Jewish is ones culture, nationality, and most important a way of life. I have known Jewish Atheists who say "I am Jewish". How many Christian Atheists do you meet that say "HI I am a Lutheran Atheist".? You've only been involved with him for 8 mos? That is way too soon for you to even consider marriage or conversion...A Rabbi would turn you away at this stage. Before continuing (With this thread or making this relationship more serious) I encourage you to do research. I would contact a Temple in your area and ask to speak to a Rabbi and ask him or her to guide you in the right direction re: learning about Judaisim. Most will gladly do this Rabbi after all means Teacher. and find out if the temple offers classes...Many do. You are going to find beliefs and practices very different, than Christian ones.

FescheLola

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If you are a middle aged man . Posted: 1/15/2008 10:14:56 AM
dials up two 18 year olds That adds up to 36. Two years older than you.

FescheLola

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Do people ever really change? Posted: 1/15/2008 10:00:47 AM
She is not Indian. In fact she is a midwestern-born Christian. His parents want grandchildren and are pushing him to get married but allowed him to choose a woman of his liking (as long as she could have kids.) Wow. Then I was dead on. He thinks your wife is a whore.And he "picked" the fiancee? Western women or not, he is going by cultural standards. Time to move on my friend. Counselors and "hope" dont change people.

FescheLola

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If you are a middle aged man . Posted: 1/15/2008 9:56:42 AM
The big deal is that she will spend longer as a nurse than as a wife Wow. You sure have a sunny future planned out. If its a good match who cares? I wouldnt. If he was meant for me i'd gladly "nurse" him. Another thing, My grandfather lived to be 92...He never needed "Nursing".

FescheLola

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If you are a middle aged man . Posted: 1/15/2008 9:54:14 AM
Meow!!! I date men your age. But never fear....They are usually dissapointed i'm not an airhead, So have hope

FescheLola

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Do people ever really change? Posted: 1/15/2008 9:45:10 AM
Wow. Tough one. 1) Do you think that she will ever change and be honest and open with me? I honestly have no idea. Nor will other people. We don't have crystal balls. SHE has to want to change. And if you don't see that happening, you can stay and be cuckolded, or leave. 2) Given her feelings for him do you think she will be able to break off the affair? Sounds like (from what you said) "If" he "could" marry her, she would have already left you. 3) Am I just being manipulated? Yes. But at this stage you are allowing it. Sounds like you've tried, and she is practicing the same behaviors. You are staying and putting up with it hoping for change. You need to take responsibility and face facts. 4) Should I contact his fiance' (she is American) and let her know that her husband to be had sex with my wife the day before they left to go to India? I don't have her contact info but do know her name (they got a marriage license) and could find it. No. Thats always in poor taste and self serving to tell the other persons partner. There is no point in hurting another person. If she too is Indian, and this as you say is an arranged marriage, men having affairs is common. However unlike the Anglo-puritan western world affairs arent "love" they are sexual satisfaction, and they are expected, accepted and not spoken about. The wife is loved and respected. She is the mother and keeper of the home. The rather sweet irony to this is your wife has no clue that he us using her. and no doubt regards her as a whore. Actually I KNOW he regards her as a whore. She is foolish to believe she had a serious chance with him. As someone that knows world History/Culture/Religion trust me on this. Also he is laughing at you. He is probably amazed and amused that a husband is taking his from him and her. Remeber India not so long ago was a culture that practiced "Suttee". 5) Have I just wasted a year of my life? You saying that answers the questions. You keep saying "In Love, I love her" but you lay out some facts that you know you have been screwed and it probably wont change. So if you stay and tolerate this, Yes you wasted a year. If you go on with your own life then you've not wasted a year, you learned.

FescheLola

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Do any guys actually like pessimistic girls? Posted: 1/15/2008 6:24:43 AM
Life is ALSO not a cruel, cold, harsh, unbearable suffering in the depths of hell. Uhh yeah it is. Cry me a river. Someone has always, ALWAYS had it worse or got it worse.

FescheLola

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Do any guys actually like pessimistic girls? Posted: 1/15/2008 6:23:01 AM
Here is a basic explination of it: "Pessimism, from the Latin pessimus (worst), denotes a belief that the experienced world is the worst possible." Why would ANYONE want to be involved with that? And two people together with that attitude, aside from a suicide pact I don't see what purpose it would serve. I've met people like that, and cynic that I am I can't stand them. They want to whine and moan, think they've had it the "Worst". Basically I described the whole "goth" scene. The opposite extreme of that is a "PollyAnna" who think everything is good great and nothing is wrong.

FescheLola

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personal vanities and age Posted: 1/15/2008 6:12:39 AM
How would you know? you're 28...? I was being sarcastic. try'n keep up.

FescheLola

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E-Harmony Posted: 1/14/2008 8:32:56 PM
To the people bashing E-Harmony.... I am not a memeber and have no desire to be, however from what I understand its not a "dating" site per se. Its a site for those looking for something serious/long term. Most who are griping about it seem to just want to date. If thats the case don't join E-Harmony.

FescheLola

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Is it wise to have sex with someone 21 years younger Posted: 1/14/2008 7:01:49 PM
Do what you want.... But doing it in her parents home? Please. Thats what you do with your 20yr old BF not a man 20 yrs older.

FescheLola

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personal vanities and age Posted: 1/14/2008 6:48:49 PM
Good god. Humble arent we? Pssst....Over 30? it just gets worse.....I know you dye it.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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What have you learned from online dating ? Posted: 1/14/2008 6:44:58 PM
Ding, Ding, Ding! We have a winner! Belly, kudos. Come claim your prize.

FescheLola

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Too much corn in a cows diet = too much fat on the meat? Posted: 1/12/2008 9:49:15 PM
Arent you the same guy starting Vegan threads in the Brit Forums? Stop trolling dude. You dont eat meat. fine. The rest of us do. accept it.

FescheLola

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why do I (+ most women) love assholes?? Posted: 1/12/2008 9:43:52 PM
Take away the "most women". If you attract and are attracted to ***holes YOU are in the minority. Don't try and drag normal women down with you.

FescheLola

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Diamonds, size or quality??? Posted: 1/12/2008 9:40:37 PM
Quality is what makes a gemstone more valuable.

FescheLola

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food scents as perfumes Posted: 1/12/2008 9:38:26 PM
Those arent perfumes. Sounds like you are describing Body Sprays, From B&BW or the Wal-Mart holiday gift baskets. Real (quality) perfumes have a mixture of scents. You'll find mant with Vanilla, Furit etc undertones.

FescheLola

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Gentlemen prefer ...? Posted: 1/11/2008 12:04:39 AM
Considering most women dye their hair, who cares?

FescheLola

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Acceptance: I am not designed to enjoy sex Posted: 1/10/2008 11:55:23 PM
After spending money on dildos/vibrators and lube I have just given up and decided that sexual intercourse will never be right for me. Psst....Dildos and Vibrators arent "Sex". Don't feel bad...I had to explain that to some guys on here who thought their hands counted.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Message me if you want to find out more about me Posted: 1/10/2008 10:40:40 PM
Its a cop out. I skip those and other one sentence profiles. They have given me no reason to respond.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Do You Dig The Blues? Posted: 1/10/2008 10:11:39 PM
Muddy Waters and Howlin Wolf all the way.

FescheLola

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Pictures with rats Posted: 1/10/2008 10:00:16 PM
I wouldnt. I have had pet rats myself. But most people it would freak out.

FescheLola

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A tip for great sex! Posted: 1/10/2008 3:58:25 PM
if youre great in bed she will never look anywhere else. And yet you are single and on this site. Back to the drawing board, eh spanky?

FescheLola

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Riding a sybian Posted: 1/10/2008 11:12:24 AM
It has a penis-shaped attachment which twirls, not thrusts. The twirling means it's going to hit every yummy spot inside the cooter -- the G-spot, etc. A guy who says "cooter", and "borrows" a sybian. Charming.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Riding a sybian Posted: 1/10/2008 11:08:30 AM
does it listen to your problems, pay the mortgage,fix the roof when it leaks, take you out for dinner. ...need i say more? Neither does a man. Whats your point?

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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different ideas of romance? Posted: 1/9/2008 10:56:05 PM
When I glance through a magazine or look at romantic ideas, I'm rarely moved by the common ideas. Don't send me roses. Daisies, or literally, something picked on the way to my house, is much more romantic. Well daisies are symboyls of insanity... Especially when picked on the way to your house (think about it) When a man took me to a place, far away, where he lost his virginity and told me about it while holding me, I loved the romance of it, to me, he was sharing a very private time that he hadn't shared with anyone. WHY and HOW in the name of christ, is hearing about how and when a man blew his first load "romantic"? Rarely is a first time "romantic" an god knows if I want a guy telling me about it!

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Corsets and Binding in the name of Lust Posted: 1/9/2008 10:52:09 PM
What the hell is your point? I like a corset. But I am neither "goth" or loopy.

FescheLola

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Another question for the moms... Posted: 1/9/2008 11:48:39 AM
Sounds like neither one of you knows or cares about the other persons life. So no it doesn "make sense" nor is it "normal".

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Chain restaurants good or not Posted: 1/9/2008 7:54:09 AM
just so yas know.... that Outback restaurant... yas are getting ripped off.... in a huge way.... the burgers are nothing what we have here... as most of yas know i have explained the aussie burger to yas...lol.. theres no mustard or mayo.. or pickles on them... ya will only find them here in the burger king and maccas chains.... Of course Outback isnt Australian. Its shocking how many people I know who think it is. Just like Fosters beer isnt really Australian either. (Made there sold here) Its just a steakhouse with a theme. And themes sell here. I liked it when I was 12.

FescheLola

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Genital Herpes Posted: 1/9/2008 6:50:39 AM
Yes , I use a condom every time. Good. Do you know how many don't? And you of course know that Herpes and Hepatitus can still be transmitted with or without a condom...right? No , I do not give oral sex. I'm not stupid. Really? Good for you. However a great majority are "stupid" in your words. You are a nice person I am sure, but you can be rather blunt and tactless. 2 things are real RN is not...Well a good one. You were a CNA, right? Yes, I have been tested for both diseases after my 3 broken relationship Excellent. However the validity of Herpes testing is hotly debated. Last time I checked there was no carved in stone US test for it. AS a "nurse" you would know that generally the ony time one knows is if a skin sample is taken during an OB. And considering some never notice OB's and a few lucky ones never have it....Well.... I am very herpes,aids,hepatitis phobic. You know, a Nurse in this day and age would not word it that way. When my mother became a nurse in the early 80's, Many Nurses, and Doctors were "phobic" too....Patients didnt get treatment because of "phobic" people.My mother stopped working in hospitals because of some of that ignorance...Thank god thats changed...People arent "phobic" they know how its transmitted and what the risks are. Well SMART people. So, you better damn well believe I have been tested after breaking up with a man. 2 ex-husbands and a boyfriend. I do not just sleep with anyone. I am extremely cautious. As should more people be. However the only way to be100% safe is to abstain from sex period. Another thing, I saw your gay man comment....Gay men were indeed at more risk for HIV. Did you know that rate has dropped? and young Straight people now top the charts? Why? Gay communities educated each other after dealing with ignorance and condemnation...Safe Sex in testing went up among them way before it did with the straight population.

FescheLola

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so she says.... Posted: 1/9/2008 6:25:06 AM
Some people are eccentric. I have met well to do people who had holes in their clothes. Why not ASK her?

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Genital Herpes Posted: 1/8/2008 7:41:23 PM
Right on ilegion... The thing is its the "See no evil, Hear no Evil, Speak no evil" mentality....No people are getting in the mindset that you can look and tell what someone has... Herpes is an STD for which there is no cure, hence its stigma. The AIDS and STD terror of the 80's and 90's has calmed considerable. People arent getting tested, and safe sex is on the decline. I would run as fast as I could. Who the heck wants a incurable disease. And if they have herpes, god only knows what other diseases they could have. Yeah, I belive you would "run". Tell me have you ever been tested for AIDS or other STD's? Do you use a condom for Oral sex? Do your partners use dental dams when preforming oral sex on you? Do you know what STD's are out there and how you get them? i.e. Hepatitis for example? Unlike AIDS it can live for hours on surfaces, and is transmitted via saliva and blood. Here are some Herpes stats for you. Wise up. -------------------- -One out of five of the total adolescent and adult population is infected with genital herpes. -Infection is more common in women (approximately one out of four women) than in men (almost one out of five). -Male-to-female transmission is more efficient than female-to-male transmission. -One in five Americans have genital herpes (yet at least 80 percent of those with herpes are unaware they have it). -About 80 percent of American adults have oral herpes (cold sores). -An estimated 25 percent of American adults have genital herpes. Still feel "safe"???

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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How many times have you been called 'THE ONE'? Posted: 1/8/2008 7:33:29 PM
Oh boy. sighs OP I could belive you are "THE ONE", doesnt make it so does it?

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Posting In Forums.... May Show Vulnerable Tendencies? Posted: 1/8/2008 10:40:16 AM
I think so. To the latter...Common sense.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Kill it, cook it, eat it? The alternative - Going Veggie! Posted: 1/8/2008 10:01:09 AM
You are right. TV and YouTube do indeed scar your brain.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Right girls, listen up. Never too late to learn. Posted: 1/8/2008 9:55:15 AM
Makes sense.... But fair is fair..... #1 Be rich....rich enough to support a woman and children. Rich enough to buy her that dress, ring etc. Oh and to provide a large, posh home that she can maintain. #2 Have a mistress. Laying back and thinking of England is tiresome...(See 1-10 of the womens list) But be discreet, you'll never leave your wife. And when you buy her something your guilt (And good breeding) says you must buy your wife something nicer. #3 Suggest nothing "Kinky" or "new" in the bedroom. She is there to have Children and satisfy your basic needs (See #2) #4 Compliment everything....How she looks, what she cooks (even burnt or you dislike it, she is after all trying!) #5 While she has prepared the children, it is your duty to discipline them. No worries. She will be sipping G&T and taking "Mothers Little Helper" whilst you beat the living daylights out of them. (She will comb their hair) #6 Be well cleaned/shaved/dressed at all times. A smoking jacket and pipe are nice touches. No sport jerseys, jogging pants. No watching sport on TV whilst scratching....You get the idea. #7 Never complain about her spending (See #1,#2) After all she cooks,cleans,Rears children and is avaliable to you in every way (sans emotion) So don't get angry over that new hat or money to the Columbian drug lord... God the past was so much nicer.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

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Is there a thread limit daily/weekly ?? Posted: 1/8/2008 9:41:24 AM
Doh! Thanks Sassy.... Well daily helps...but somethimes I wish it was monthly.

FescheLola

Joined: 10/15/2007

Msg: 325 (view)

Genital Herpes Posted: 1/8/2008 9:22:31 AM
In a nutshell, no thanks, I know there are alot of people out there who have contracted it accidently and that is a shame but I wouldnt have sex with anyone with it, no way 10 bucks says you already have..... I belive the rough stats on it are 1 in 7 have it. Maybe more because many who have it dont know. Also many who have it dont tell because they think "No OB no transmission". Herpes is the gift that keeps giving.

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