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Positive_Rainbow

Joined: 10/17/2007

Msg: 535 (view)

POF will soon crumble with no IM Posted: 5/10/2009 10:31:29 PM
I'm sorry we aren't permitted to name sites in here or give out links. Our post will get delete for it and we possibly banned. for it.

Positive_Rainbow

Joined: 10/17/2007

Msg: 533 (view)

POF will soon crumble with no IM Posted: 5/10/2009 9:49:33 PM
I have spent many hours reading through the 22 pages of this thread. The biggest problem I see isn't people being frustrated with no IM. It's the lack of acknowledgement of our (good or bad) feelings from our Admin. The only responces I have seen over the past few days seem to be insultive or critical from the so called moderator. Yes PaClassyLady your right people don't pay attention to the title in threads. They were here to discuss the issue not what the title was. hmmmm you contradict your own name. You are not at all classy no one with class would be so insultive towards others as you have been here. COWBOY you have been no better so stop gloating at someone else getting a hard time. My understanding of all this (which is what Markus himself should have done) Many (myself included) frustrated from lack of communication and our IM being pulled. Yes it was our IM. No we didn't directly own it, AOL does. They are only discontinuing it simply because Markus has removed the advertising space. They are not discontinuing their service to all, only to him. Markus was making a great deal of money from "USERPLANE" Which he himself admitted on their own site. (yes I went and looked)...google userplane you get the same info i did or visit their site directly. Markus may have built this site and allowed us to be FREE members. We are the ones that made him what he is today (rich). Without us he would be another nobody and just another gateway number on the internet stream. DOES HE OWE US FOR A FREE SITE... Darn straight he does. With out us he would not be where he is today. WHY IS IM GONE... USERPLANE pulled their service because Markus pulled the advertizing space to give some members a "Perferred member button" (if they pay for it) WHY DOES HE CLAIM AN INCREASE IN TRAFFIC.... Markus claims traffic increased by up to 10% since removing the IM service. He's is part right. Traffic is up but, as noted by many other members in this thread it is not due to the IM being gone. It is due to people having to log on more frequently to check emails. and such. WHY NOT USE YOUR OWN PERSONAL MESSENGER... There are reasons people (both men and women) don't wish to do this. 1) They don't cared to disclose any personal info till they feel comfortable in doing so. 2) Can find out first if it's worth conversing longer by using the onsite IM Which is far faster than emailing. Think about it....all the comment laid out here could have been taken care of in less than one day had it been through a chat service rather than the forums. So yes IM is far faster. SO why not set up a seperate account just for POF contacts. 1) Some cant run more than one messenger at a time . Why lose contact with your real friends you already know just to have the one running for POF. 2) Some are not able to run more than one for pc lagging reasons. 3) Some may not understand how to use something such as trillian which can enable you to do this either. BENIFITS TO IM... 1) faster contact 2) you know right away if someone desires to talk with you rather than waiting days to seen if they deleted your emil to them or gee they are still holding it but haven't yet responded to you. 3) Yes it puts people on the spot. They are forced to either "ignore user" or respond to you and answer. So you know now not 2 weeks from now or never. FOR THOSE THAT DIDN'T LIKE THE IM... Yes you had the choice to turn it off altogether in your mail settings or simply only allow those on your fav list to contact you through it. All of us that did allow it to be on in some way could easily BLOCK those that did IM us right from the IM window. That choice was up near the "smack" "kiss" button. We all had a choice. Now we have none. WILL I STAY... only till i find another good yet reliable dating site that is also free. With Marku slowly destroying this one that shouldn't take long. See Markus, many will go. Now where will your revenue (gold mine) come from. New will join yes but, once they to see they have been lied to they to will leave you. How are you lieing? Your main page alone advertizes FREE messenging service. That is no longer true. Whether or not the paid member are able to use the IM remains to be seen at this time. As one paid member (very disatisfied I might add) posted in here that she cannot use the IM. So where does this benifit her at all in sending money to you and getting no more than a "preferred member" button. She can do no more than we can. Yes Markus you did (key word did) have the best site going. Now as one other member stated it's only a matter of time before someone else see how you messed up and pick up where you failed. Giving us all back what we want. FREEDOM OF CHOICE. Chances of me reposting here is slim to none. Not to say I won't but, it is very doubtful. Everything has been said I see no value in rehashing it further. Nor will I entertain some of the childish comments from others such as the 2 I have mentioned plus several others I have not. FAIR DECISION Post a link on the main page for alll members to vote (one vote only per member and per IP address) Now get your fair numbers for what your members really do or don't want. Don't assume we all know what that does don't we. If I were to go solely on the Forum members (which is not a fair count) then majority would be ruling in favor of bringing the IM in some form back. Even i would opt out of the voice n video for a better quality of IM. If not even the old one (with its problems) was still by far better then none at all) I think I have covered just about everything.

Positive_Rainbow

Joined: 10/17/2007

Msg: 124 (view)

Why are good looks only skin deep ? Posted: 3/13/2009 4:53:30 AM
Most of you i see just don't get it at all. For that yes you are very damn shallow. Let me tell you a story about my own experiences I once had a man as a room mate he had his own room I had mine. As for looks he sure as hell was no Robert Redford and although I was single at the time. I looked at him an thought "ewwww, god no not my type at all" (yes there is a point to this bare with me) Over a fairly short period of time I fell in love with his personality and yes we went way beyong the roommate situation. I would still be with this man today and probably now married to him had he not taken a heart attack and passed away. So grow up ppl I'm living proof that looks DON'T make a person the inside sure as hell does though. So get mature an go beyond ones outside appearances. You will get very surprised by the beauty you will find within another soul. Not one of you shallow people will find true happiness untill you can learn to look inside another. That physical attraction you are seeking is only your hormones talking telling you just how much you wanna get it on with that person. That my friend is a sexual attration nothing more. You cannot build a relationship on that, there must be more. I am not calling all who have posted here shallow. Simply those that feel you must have that physically attraction from that initial meet in order to be with that person.

justyou4me

Joined: 10/17/2007

Msg: 324 (view)

would you date a nice guy if hes had very little money Posted: 10/29/2008 10:01:12 PM
Money doesn't buy happiness. It will by you all your material desires yes, but once you have everything you ever wanted, yet you are alone, are you truely happy? I know for one I wouldn't be happy like that. So yes, if the man is nice your darn rights I would date him. If he is really nice I would hope it would last a lifetime. For as to be able to have a true friend and a lover all rolled into one, would bring far more happiness than any money could ever buy.

justyou4me

Joined: 10/17/2007

Msg: 224 (view)

Dating East Indian Men Posted: 10/29/2008 9:29:57 PM
Only one thing about east indians that make me cautious in dating them. Like any man they can be very sweet and charming gentleman afterall they are still human beings. What concerns me is this.... most are already pre spoken for to another girl of east indian decent at birth. I fear to actually fall for the man and then have him tell me he must leave me now to go get married. Never happed to me personally but has to a close friend of mine, she was devastated. They had gone out for just over a year when he tripped her with that. Also if anyone has read or even seen the movie "Not Without My Daughter"....That poor woman went thro hell and was treat like crap by her own husband an nearly lost her child when he fled to india with the kid. For those that don't know the woman was white, married him and had his baby (a girl which are looked down on in india) Both the mother and daughter were americains. Another woman born and raised in India; married a man from there(this one hit the media big time) they both remained living in India. The mother inlaw didn't believe the girl had come with a large enough dowery for her son. She actually went to the girl and had beatten her to death. So would I date an east indian?....probably yes, but I would also be very guarded to start off and would also explain this to him with my reasons why (in all fairness).

justyou4me

Joined: 10/17/2007

Msg: 137 (view)

Stalkers? why do some girls joke about this are they dumb? Posted: 10/29/2008 8:19:03 PM
to post 73...SJC25 Actually it is only slander if you are lieing about someone to demean them or do harm to them. If you are telling the truth and in doing so this happens to destory them in some way it is not slander....check out the legal meaning. there is not one charge he could lay on her that would stick if this WEST COAST guy did in fact do all she said he done. Unfortunately I was unable to confirm the terms of service with POF I seem to not be looking in the right place for that so not sure about that one.

JustYou4ME

Joined: 10/17/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Can anyone make sense of this? Posted: 1/27/2008 7:45:42 PM
eormeel i was skimming old posts when i seen yours...i cant believe you would even suggest giving her number out to strangers im not defending what she did as it sure isnt anything id do although had it done to me several times but to give out anyones number is just plain rude an completely disrepectful no matter how much of a jerk they are...i cant believe no one else attcked you for that either so low of you to even consider such a thing

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