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Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 159 (view)

Toilet seat up or down- Relationship downfall? Posted: 9/13/2009 8:18:16 AM
I was also in a relationship at one time where he wanted the lid down as well. It took some thought on my part because I had been by myself for so long and was just used to leaving it up. But I thought the bathroom did look much more inviting when the lid was down. It just looked less like a toilet and more like a room. Our relationship is no longer but I still occassionally practice the lid down habit. The fact she said she did it her way and wasn't going to change her way was a bit disturbing to me though. Everyone in a relationship needs to compromise on various issues and if she couldn't bend on this one tiny thing what makes you think she will compromise on bigger issues? You might just want to think this thing through.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 97 (view)

You Know Its Over When... Posted: 8/19/2009 3:32:59 PM
The lady you just met at work starts to tell you about the guy she's dating who says he has a real bi,,,ch for a wife.... and she calls him by name....

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 94 (view)

Still on the market? Posted: 8/16/2009 6:38:24 AM
Hey Bandito, ever hear the expression buyers are liers? lol.... It was broke when I bought it, always a good one. Even though you tested it before they left the showroom with it.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 93 (view)

Still on the market? Posted: 8/16/2009 6:34:29 AM
Am I the only one on the planet who still believes in a handshake on the first date? Sex on the first date? ,,not unless I am looking for a one night stand is that happening. When looking for just the right person to spend a life time with I guess I am taking it too slow huh? Maybe that is why I am still on the market. I must at least have some sort of feelings for the person before I make love to them.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 143 (view)

How long should sex last? Posted: 8/16/2009 6:28:47 AM
How long should sex last? 3 minutes? I think not. 'Till the commercial is over? hmmm, my ex did that. 'Till death do us part? Ding, ding, ding, ding, correct answer. Every day, all day, when on the phone, while sleeping, while washing dishes together. Sex should be more important than food. LOL the way to a man's heart may be through his stomach but the way to a woman's heart is through her.... well you get the idea.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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little help with my profile please, preferably ladies Posted: 8/16/2009 6:16:51 AM
Hey if he wants his first date to be 18 holes of Golf then by all means he better be looking for someone that wants the same thing. There just might be that One woman that sees 18 holes as a must. Also I have thought about the sideways picture. You are not going to attract me or many with it. ,,, But on the other side of the coin that One woman that finds it funny or attractive is the one you are looking for. By all means be yourself. When you finally do get a response it will be the One that wants you for whom you are. Go for it baby!!!!

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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Soul mates Posted: 8/8/2009 9:23:22 AM
Hi deva129, I am so sorry for your loss. I believe that a soul mate is one soul. Many of us have not met their sould mate, many of us do not believe in a soul mate. I do. I believe that when you meet your soul mate in life and that soul passes it passes to someone else it may find you. Or not. It may be a child, or another love of your life. If you are lucky enough to find your soul mate more than one time.... oh ,,, my ,,,, God... you are a lucky soul. I have not found my sould mate yet.... still looking.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

What to talk about after first or latter dates Posted: 8/2/2009 3:30:10 AM
I stand by my words woobytoosday. Respecting your partner's views however, is not a one way street. And I guess I don't have such strong convictions to feel anathema on most subjects. I am willing to listen and if I feel strongly about the subject as you stated then I will at least say to my partner that may be a topic we are at odds over. I do not prefer heated discussion but another point of view is usually welcome. As you pointed out in your first marriage, he was not respectful of your views. Finding the right mate is difficult at best. I think that is why we should discuss religion and politics, not necessarily to find out if their views are the same but if they can be respectful of our views. There are always two sides to the coin. Try being married to a man who has never exercised his right to vote or has no religious views. Topics of conversation left to discuss are "what's for dinner" and you spent how much on what? !! Relationships are hard enough to cultivate and maintain, but being able to discuss any topic without fear of ridicule is what a grown up relationship is all about. I am glad you found someone who peaked your interest. You are lucky to have had that. OP please discuss what ever your passion is about. You will find the right one.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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What to talk about after first or latter dates Posted: 8/1/2009 4:19:49 AM
Widowsdesire, ones views on life, whether it be religion or politics, should not hinder a meant-to-be relationship. The point is not to have the same views but to respect the views of others while having your own view.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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What to talk about after first or latter dates Posted: 8/1/2009 4:16:47 AM
Clasical cynic, you have not met the right woman. If you are interested in in politics and religion and bringing them up leaves your date speachless or uninterested? Then you need to continue looking. What is important to you should be important to your date. Even if she doesn't know anything about the subject but is willing to listen and ask questions shows her interest in you. Good luck.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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Profile review....Whats wrong with me Posted: 8/1/2009 4:07:54 AM
Hi Cali, I see how beautiful you are at 30 but I am 54 and I know there must be someone for me.... You got help..... So what is wrong with me? I had the head shot first, edited my profile several times, even changed from long term to dating just to get a date. I don't even get mail.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 41 (view)

Still on the market? Posted: 8/1/2009 3:59:47 AM
I just want to know what is wrong with me. I have not had but one date since being on POF. ???

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Still on the market? Posted: 8/1/2009 3:53:13 AM
There are so many sides to the coin of your question Truesamurai. Why do you have to say anything? If you like the person and are just dating but find another you want to date then you have every right to do so. If you are having sex however, yes I suggest you let the "I am dating others" cat out of the bag. A date is a date, is a date, is a date. When and if something becomes more? You will not want to date others. Then you will be worried about her. My suggestion is get out of the realestate business and get into the dating business. They are two totally different animals.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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how soon for new relationship after death of partner Posted: 7/19/2009 6:15:37 AM
farceur, your poem had rendered me crying. I will never forget that awful morning my daughter called at 6am to say her husband was dead. My heart just broke because my only child was suffering and there was absolutely nothing in this world I could possibly do to fix it. I still break out in tears every time I do a word puzzle with the words die or died in it. I tried to be strong for her. I forced her to write down goals, and told her during those first three days of planning the funeral, that she didn't have to make any decisions today. I took her and the kids in for many months while she went through her grieving process. After a year she actually came out of a closet (litteraly, she put her computer and everything in a walk in closet and locked herself in there) after a year and a half, she came out of her bedroom and after 2 years I let her be on her own. She is still having a difficult time. Latching on to anyone that will listen to her. I do not know when the greiving process stops. If it ever really does. She has accomplished all of her goals, (3 of them, Get a van, get a house, get a degree) We forgot to put down get a job. (she was a stay at home mom.) My heart still is in pain over the loss of my son-in-law and wish every day we could have seen heart disease in his life. Anyone who has lost a spouse? My heart goes out to you. With love.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 95 (view)

Let's get naked Posted: 7/18/2009 6:17:16 PM
I think that is why the eyes go bad after 45. So you can't see eachother so clearly.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 53 (view)

Goodbye? Posted: 7/18/2009 6:11:45 PM
I have to comment on your, " I have quit letting maybe it will work run my life, there just isnt that much time left and I refuse to waste it on what might be." I agree with you whole heartedly, there isn't enough time to waste it on maybe's.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 52 (view)

Goodbye? Posted: 7/18/2009 6:01:11 PM
I have always been the leaver. Even though there were many times I should have left long before I did. When I became an angry person and no one could stand to be around me and my smile left my face, is when I hit the road. Sometimes I wallowed in self pity for awhile doing the I am a failure routine. Sometimes I just picked up my boot straps and moved on. I only started dating right after a break up once and that was a horrible disaster. I usually take a couple of years to come back. This time I was in a 4 year relationship that should never have lasted that long. It has been 3 years since we parted ways and now I am having a hard time finding a future anything. I am happy, I am going out and keeping myself busy, but for some reason I have nothing to say to anyone. I have been alone for so long I have nothing to talk about. I am finding at 54 it is the hardest time finding anyone to even go out on a date with. If they are available it's because there seems to be something wrong with them and if there isn't anything wrong with them they aren't available. Maybe someone with more luck than I can help me get jump started too.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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little help with my profile please, preferably ladies Posted: 7/5/2009 6:47:21 AM
Sideways pictures are a turn off for me as well. I am and older woman but spelling and grammer are something I look for. You did not capitalize one "i" . Does that mean you have low self esteem? Break it up so it's easy to read. Most women won't go beyone a couple of words all jumbled up. Hey find more pictures too.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 91 (view)

Has anyone practiced COMPLETE abstinence for sometime? Posted: 2/9/2009 2:48:16 AM
Thanks VRB1955 I am over 50 and for sure need a little reasurance in that field. I want it to be warm and fuzzy. I will go check out that book at the library today. I have been asked out on yet another date with a man I met here on POF. This will be number 4. So, one never knows in the near future that subject just may come up and I want to be ready.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 86 (view)

Has anyone practiced COMPLETE abstinence for sometime? Posted: 2/8/2009 4:17:54 AM
Man this brings up a sore subject for me.... I had a sexual partner that the minute we moved intogether all sex stopped. We lived together for over 5 years. I had sex twice in that 5 years (both times on my birthday I guess he thought that was my gift) We split up over 3 years ago and I am jonesing. I had the opportunity not too long ago and just froze. I am not sure how to get back in that saddle again. I do not want to have casual sex but,,,,,, I am not finding Mr Right. I used to be a tiger in the bedroom but now I am not sure if I can perform. I guess slow is the way to go. But this stopped train needs to leave the station.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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Long first meetings Posted: 2/8/2009 3:46:39 AM
Still curious what's going on during those 4 + hour first meets My first date with a very nice man was a day trip to the beach to buy a kite for my grandson's birthday and fly it. We had written many times and had lengthy phone conversations before ever meeting. I guess that part took over a month span. Our decision was, if we didn't get along then we were adults enough to still have a good time. It was a wonderful day. He traveled an hour and a half to get here then we traveled about 2 hours to the beach. We had lunch, bought the kite, had a great time flying it, walked a bit and then had drinks on the beach. We talked about everything from politics to family to interests. Sometimes when conversation was slow it was nice just sitting quietly watching the world go by. We had a drink at a local pub when he brought me home then he was off for his drive home. Our date lasted about 12 hours. We have seen eachother since then and I spent a platonic night at his house after visiting with him and his friends for a musical jam night. I don't think this man is the love of my life, but he sure has all the makings of a best friend. And who knows over time. I always hated those dinner or drinks first meeting. One sits in a chair and struggles for something to say. I say plan an adventure, something to do. Unless you have no imagination of course then hey why not a cup of coffee? But at my age coffee after 10am is a lethal weapon for sleep. haha... I am still looking for Mr. Right to sweep me off my feet, until then? I think an outdoor concert or a trip to a museum is a wonderful 1st date.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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Are we all commitment phobic?? Posted: 2/7/2009 11:05:33 AM
I thought that too. I have been on POF for a long time and no one mentioned meeting. And when I did all communication stopped. It was either they thought there was something wrong with me or there was something wrong with them. I even had phone calls from these men. But one day I got a message from someone and I responded (because he was not totaly gross) and we met about a month or so later. But he was not in my search criteria. Granted I don't think he is my Mr. Right but I must say we have met up 3 times and we talk on the phone he is a nice guy. We have a lot of fun and I like him as a great friend. I would also like to ask how do you start a forum cause I want to know how to have sex after 50 when it has been many years. I need advise. preferably from a man. or maybe a woman that has experienced what I am going through.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 158 (view)

why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 2/7/2009 10:35:25 AM
I agree with you I am here even after starting to date someone. I need to keep my options open. I had some wonderful times so far but I know I am not in love. I want to be in love. That usually is something that happens right away not something that is slowly leaned into. I am not even in lust. So I think the door needs to stay open. I know he is on POF. I never asked him why but he has mentioned that he keeps in touch with people he has written to and still does. Mature relationships are great. There is no room in my life for jealousy on my part or his. So I agree,,,, let's keep the door open.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/11/2008 2:27:49 AM
Is it possible they don't contact you because you do not have a photo? I know I want to look at the person I contact because while I am not too superficial I do have a thing about looks. I do not want to date someone that is totally ugly. Ok that is superficial. but you get the idea. Everyone has to have a visual. Some peoples attractiveness may not be another's but everyone has to have some physical attraction or it won't work. So get a picture of yourself and download it. Bet you get a nibble.

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 188 (view)

Do I ever miss physical touch! Posted: 11/28/2008 2:20:27 AM
I miss physical touch so much that I am actually becoming afraid of it. I haven't had a man touch me in sooooooo many years..... Help I need a date!

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

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I feel like I'm overmatched here... Posted: 11/28/2008 1:55:38 AM
Oh my, that is wonderful. Ask her out. You will never know until you ask her out. Then when you are face to face you both have that opportunity to find out if it is the right one for you. Never worry if your 5 matches her 10. Who knows, she may be so attracted to you she will think you are the 10. Besides, personality is what carries us through to the end right?

Rosemary51455

Joined: 10/18/2007

Msg: 103 (view)

Single for longer than you expected? Posted: 2/27/2008 2:51:57 AM
Oh my yes!! I had no idea that it would be so difficult to get back in the grove. I have been out of the dating thing so long I am not sure I even know how to act anymore. What I did years ago won't work today. I am over 50 and I may have lost some of my confidence but I remember 10 years ago dating was easier for me. I just jumped in and had a good time. I think I attribute my lack of finding anyone is I am getting so particular. I don't want a bad relationship and maybe fear is keeping me from getting out there. I have not even gotten a good bite from this site so maybe its my looks. After all I am aging. If you find out let me know. lol...

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