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LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 54 (view)

The Best Match? Posted: 10/23/2008 4:17:25 PM
Well I think I was first to post on here with my very short one sentence answer. The only good thing about that is that it proves I can be short and to the point lol. or One good thing about it. I just read the other responses and I am so impressed with the answers. mthomjmark I loved what you had to say about how you can't be independent when married with children. I also agree self sacrifice is very important and that you do work like a team and do what is best for the team. That ability is so precious and amazing and seems to be getting rare. I wished you did not live in Cal lol. I loved candid too and if you meet that Tao's master send him my way too. Truth be told that is why I did not have children or want to marry in my 20's. I knew I was too selfish and career oriented for that. As soon as I was 31 that all changed and keeps changing. I was extremely driven and knew what I wanted in my career since I was 2. To be an actress and performer and a psychologist in the day so that I would not be so self- centered. To balance me out but mainly becasue that is one of my gifts. Now I would love to meet a man who can be a team and I do see so many people using the word independent to mean that self absorbed ness and so many use it who really are not at all independent. Strangly I have found they are very much needy takers who have no clue who they are. I also loved forget the nic sorry, old age, lol about why she took out independent from her profile and her analysis of men's fears and it was brilliant and so very true and educating.. It is hard to find a balance and thank you for those insights all of you. And yes to the op you sound so wonderful you are so intelligentand very pretty I do hope and pray you find someone worthy of you and who makes you happy. I wish that for us all actually. God bless

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 65 (view)

Comfort Level and Meeting Face to Face Posted: 10/15/2008 9:04:20 PM
first of all a big "lol" to "abitmore" s response hahah ok I have been totally off here since last March? and I have to say REAL LIFE is so much better to deal with and so much easier. First of all, you know right away if there is attraction so that big fuss is out of the way. Then most of all you can see and read body language and tell if they are lying and if they are geniune and get a "feel" for the real person. On here or any site it for me is an anxiety ridden mess lol for men I hear it is not but that maybe is becasue there are so many nice woman to meet and really no grave danger for any men like worrying about being raped or killed or stalked or something along that line that men just dontttttttttt have to worry about I like real life in better in general. In the real world it's hard enoughto weed out the lyers and ingenuine and whackos and its way too much harder on here in so called vitual reality. There are so m any scammers lyers and all that jazz.. so I choose real life

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

Scary - Sex Offender and POF Posted: 8/18/2008 1:55:11 AM
TY SO MUCH FOR PUTTING THIS IN too bad it didnt sink through the males head's on here evilside wow what a grt name for you LISTEN UP AND LISTEN GOOD THIS IS NOTTTTTTT ONE ISOLATED EVENT THIS IS REALITYYYYYYYYYYY AND A REALITY FOR WOMAN ON HERE AND IN EVERYDAY LIFE ALL THE TIME do you read the news do you live in la la land or are you one of the abusers they are talking about realityyyyyyyyyy go get that site that shows you how many pedafiles just in your own sweet home town there are. Even though I work with the FBI and police as a profiler being a Phd trainded psychologist from Harvard and psychic and trained in criminal law I work non stop on battered woman cases missing children blah blah blah I see it all and its wayyyyyyyyy over 50 percent of life its about 85 and that is being kind and even IIIIIIIIIIIII when I got this email abouthow to put your zipcode in and see how many pedafiles are in your town I thought well being in an upscale nice community maybe 5 well guess what there were thousanddddddddddddddddddddddds and they wree on my street next street and guess what 2 of them were from Match.com men I almost mettttt in real life... and they wer haneous murderer o f littel boyb and girls raped them dismemberd them oh how lovely no its not a rare one time incident MEN WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE you are lucky that any of us woman ever give you a chance ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I deal with this every damn day I have to surmise either you are sooooooo naive and unwilling to learn or possibly an abuser youself and by the way since I work with the Fbi and police I have had over 50 men checked out on here that alllllllllllllllllllll h ad criminal creepy records and were all lying and that was just in 4 months on here sooooooooooo no wake up and show compassion for the woman in general and for us woman who deserve medals for even tryign to trust oh and just 4 months ago a woman was abducted on here bruttally and repeatedly raped and it did not make the papers for various reasons I cannot say but it is moreeeeeeeeeee the norma than a nice man and the amout of domestic violence going on would knock your socks off and again its about 85 p ercent or more so I am talking from reality and experience ask any court room judge police officer that is seasoned or a domestic violence trained detective what the stats are and you wake up to reality becasue DENAIL OF IT IS HOW THESE GUYS GET AWAY WITH IT AND ALL YOUR UNWILLINESS TO FACE IT AND SEE IT IS WHY THESE GUYS GET AWAY WITH IT THEY BANK ON YOUR NAIEVITE AND that casues all of us woman and children our lives think about that

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

Serious question Posted: 8/16/2008 9:33:25 PM
I agree with 1Johnnymac.. Sad to say it happens everywhere and my sister was murdered by her husband that way.. It kills me and it is everywhere and it is often still kept so hidden.. so sad.. and yes it is men who do this and you know I just got bashed so bad for saying this about men in another forum from a man on here . I sent him a nice email kind loving supportive funny and he sent me one that was viscious attacking me and blocked me becasue I had this opinoin about men. not all men but about men doing this more than a woman does although woman do.. I bet anything he is an abuser and hated reading about himself.. so he could not bash me physically but did emotionallyh and sneekilly so that I could not even respond back. gee I was in a happy mood now I feel sick and hurt... so yes they are everywhere and plenty of them on here sad to say... God help us all and men need to own this and get help!! and any woman who does it also does but men are inherantly more violant than womannnnnnn and no more bashing emails for this opinioin please and op I think its kinda nice you did not notice this as it says to me you are not like that and you could not fathom that. I have been through it and counsell battered woman for years and again my sister was murdered that way just 2 years ago and he walked no prison for him!!!!! I pray my niece still with that ........ is ok every second I can.... so sad

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 26 (view)

I am officially FUBAR Posted: 8/16/2008 9:18:58 PM
Oh I am so so sorry for you.. my heart goes out to you. I have also been in that place and I can say time does help and it can help heal. I can see why your friends in this situation may not be the best place to get your support. I may try counselling myself and have. I do not know what fubar means? I know you are grieving and I say to you good for you to ad mit that and deal with it and reach out here and own up to that. So many people and I find men tend to jump fast into another relationship to heal but that can be unfair to the other woman.. So I applaud what you are doing in taking time out and feeling your feelings I know it sounds soooooooooo easy and it SUCKS ROYAL.. and again I am so sorry for you.. you are not alone.. I do hope and pray time heals and that you will get the support you need and I do not think going to a counseller makes you weak at all. I suggest you are picky with who they are as not so great.. some are great for certain issues and not others.. I hope you find the love and comfort you need and I really hope and pray that you are able to move on and love again, maybe not the exact same way but to love again. I personally pray. I believe in Jesus and God, I do not know if you do and I ask the holy spirit to come and comfort me and it does... so all the best and God bless I will say a prayer for you.. sowwie again, wished I could do or say more

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

The Best Match? Posted: 8/16/2008 9:12:37 PM
Well for me being independent I would say another independent person..

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

When you're mad or hurt, who do you want comfort from? Posted: 8/16/2008 9:11:04 PM
to the op, in response to your querry..Well it would be nice from him but I have found when a man is upset or the ones I know, often they need time to cool out and be alone and I need to give them that time.. I being a libra, hate conflict * I do not avoid it but am a lover not a fighter at hearr) and hate unresolved conflict and want to work it out and get back to the love and peace fast, butttttttttttttttt I have learned I have to let go of my timing and needing that to respect their timing and need for space, as hard as that can be for me. lol. me I need comfort from my bf or my sister or a good friend . use to be from mom and dad too . dad was great but they have passed on 8-( so.. hope it all works out for you...

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

Why does she keep coming back Posted: 8/12/2008 12:06:16 AM
sounds to me like she is a very beautiful woman and very loving.. what a fool you are to obsess on whether she is heavy or not pretty enough.. The reason you keep thinking of her is you know she was loving and kind and you were LUCKY TO FIND SOMEONE LIKE THAT.. Maybe if you could get over being shallow and stupid you would call her and date her. Your lucky she still wants to be friends.. what is your problem... and if you are not so called interested in her then whe are you even asking these questions and wondering about her and thinking about her about her meeting someone else and was it casue she got out of a relationship? sounds like ysour in denail and maybe do care about her. and Becasue maybe you know your lucky to h ave her. If you really do not feel anything which I doubt then just be her friend and maybe try being kind to her back and appreciating it..

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 171 (view)

No baggage, is there any such thing? Posted: 2/28/2008 9:08:32 PM
I see a huge red flag from all who say they want a drama free life, or a person without baggage to me that is translation- "I am shallow and do not or cannot handle anything of substance or anyone of substance and you cannot count on me" ugh yuck we all have baggage till the day we die.. and nooneeeeeeeeeeeee is baggage free and noneeeeeeeeeee's life is drama free what ajoke that is loooooooooool unless they are shallow drug addicts who always keep it happy which is called living in denaillllllllllllllll.... Howeve we n eed to know how to d eal with it and how not to take it out on others and many cannot do that so that is a better way of saying it and yes some create stupid drama and love that and I would love a completly drama free life all peace and happiness but that is justtttttttttt not reality There has to be a balance.... just my HO

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 22 (view)

Is it just me or does this scare others off as well? Posted: 2/26/2008 2:15:42 PM
I totally feel the same way Yuck! when they do that. You are not being too anything but normal Men like that are gross and out for one thing and are not respecting your boundries foreiners I find do that alot ugh yuck big turn off I not only want to run the other way I doooooooooooooo run the other way Unless of course you are thatttttt beautiful and they do fall for you which is a nice thought but no matter, still once you say noooooooooooooooo they should get the word noooo! don't cha just loveeeeeeeeee dating grrrrrrrrrr

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

Help on erasing Posted: 2/20/2008 12:29:02 PM
The scientists actually already have a pill that will be out soon that erases memories the only problem it erases all of them..the bad ones and the major good ones.. sooooooo big question, would you want to take it? I would if it would erase my memory of a particular man I cannot forget either and of some very bad things.. but then some of those bad things made make me who I am soooooooo would you take it? if it was not all or nothing I would... I am in the same spot as you op... dont want to be with him becasue well its just over and he kinda does still but if he would stop drinking I would be with him but he wont so I can't ...yet I cant stop thinking about him either... and I hate that... I think when I meet someone else and fall again I will forget alot more but I am afraid I will never meet anyone that will kiss me like that or make me feel the way he did again andso loved sooooooooooo I am not much help.. I can just relate...

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

What is it with girls in their 20s Posted: 2/20/2008 12:02:08 PM
darn it..where is that topless pic looooooool seriously and sorry to the 20 year olds that are more mature but I go think that there has been a 180 degree turn around almost so ok top less pic first someone said nakid pic lol no not there then topless no no there darn lol and yes as beautiful as the exotic dancer is they do look paid for hence the perkyness... and in that biz most are not real and paid for...

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

What is it with girls in their 20s Posted: 2/20/2008 11:55:45 AM
I agree. I am an older woman and I believe things have done a big turn around. When I was growing up the girls were more mature and the boys were not. Now with the boys having mothers that work and often the boys have to make their own dinners and do their own laundry they are not coddled like they were before and they see the mother as a strong independent woman not just his slave or caretaker lol so henceforth they the boys are more mature and attacted to woman like their mother who are grown up mature woman... So the girls use to mature more as they had to do more back then but the whole USA got stuck on this obsession with youthand with making young girls looking overly sexy sooooooooo now you get young girls who come from messes up families that have no obligation at home and often not any or a good father figure so they are needy and immature and spoiled and dress act overly sexy not caring about their intellect as much and you get the new strain of boys who are much more mature view woman much differently and again are attracted to older woman like their mom who work are sophisticated and mature.... so just MHO

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 437 (view)

Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 2/19/2008 12:16:48 PM
They are just stating the truth and reality of it all Their children WILL COME FIRST and there probably have been many woman who wanted more from them and wanted them to put their children after her and the man knows he can and will not do this I think they are being very kind in being this honest i personally am so glad they put it in becasue I want to come first lol and you cant with a man with children and its not right to expect them to and if they did i would not respect them they are just stating facts and reality in the hopes that woman who think they can change it will GET IT THAT THEY CANNOT The men have also been thru alot of rejection from single woman without children not getting ti and leaving them so its just the truth which is always kinder than lies thats the gist of it people are funn they hate lies but then they hate the truth too you have to make up your mind do you want to be lied too or not good for them for putting it in for everyones feelings his the childrens and the woman he is not going to promise something he cant do good for him for being honest

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 113 (view)

Rejected once again Posted: 2/19/2008 12:02:40 PM
no rage44 i am not one of those that are obssessed with looks and shallow but he is very overweight and not very tall and that it nottttttttttttt healthy for him or his heart or attractive i was not even that heav and I knew I did not look my best and when you dont take care of you it can reak of low self esteem laziness and depression none of which are attractive fine for friends and family but not for dating its reality and im not a gym rat i dont even go and hate gym rats it doestn haev to be so extreme but teh ope needs to lose weight and that is very real i did it and i haev a low thryoid and on meds taht give me weight and fibromyalgia and rhematoid arthistis i live in great pain and yet I managed to swim and bike and walk and lose weigth adn it helped me out in every way he doenst have to be stick thin im not and dont want to be im curvy and voluptuous and proud of it but he is way overweight sorry op but you are and you are a good looking man but its hidden by your weight take better care of you exercise adn show that handsome face hiding under well fat sorry but yes

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 112 (view)

Rejected once again Posted: 2/19/2008 11:55:11 AM
sorry for all you are going through but I agree with wowsad he is speaking the truth and it will all help you focus on your now getting in shape you will feel better too feel more confident and then when you start dating again you will be able to handle it better hey we live in the real world which is very visual it just is that is reality and some can find others who are overweight as well to love them but its not good for anyones health at all i kow when i put on weight aI felt like c rap i got rejected all the time i felt bad pyscially and mentally and emotionally then i forgot about men worked out lost the weight felt better mentally emotionally and in every way and got less rejections if none at all sooooooooooooooooooo that is real and yes since iw as the perfect barbie doll figure all my life without even trying when i put on weight it was a shock and now that i have lost it i kinda realize that they are liking me for that and they may have been the ones to r eject me when i was heavier butttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt i like people looking good too and they have a right to want me to look good and be healthy as I do them so I agree forget dating and take better care of you it will up your self esteem and you will prob not get rejected soooooooooooooooooooo Good luck dont shoot the truth sayers or the messangers its just reality and overweight is not good for your heart or anything so do it for you ok Good luck

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 812 (view)

Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 2/19/2008 11:42:43 AM
oh man can I relate SweetKristine too well.. same thing all my friends are happily married and having grandchildren or my bro who I use to hang with is getting married again and now has no time for me and my 2 single girlfriends that madethis all bearable meaningtheir great company andhow they would come over visit and get me out and go dancing well one in oct left to go back to brazil for good and now my polish friend just told me last night she is leaving for poland in march 21 as she is not happy here has her twin sister there and mom and better job and friends and found a man on a dating service who just happens to live in her town and knows her mom so i Know i should be happyfor her and I am but ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhh and this place pof is filled with nuts nuts nuts its been on bad experience after the next just awful ones and being older and yes I fear I will be alone and I have been able to be alone alot and actually need time alone alot but having in 4 months a year and a half ago lost my daughter, killed in a car crash then my best friend to melanoma then almost myself to melanoma then my dad died in my arms and then my mom and then my twin sister was murdered by her husband that I fixed her up with so i guess im lucky to be sane at alllllllllllllllllllllllllllll I then went to floried to take a break and it was a nightmare ex for the most part I did meet aboy a teen I took under my wing he is sweet and amazing but I just found out he got a girl pregnant and he is such a good boy at 17 he has taken her in and is going to marry her sends me copies of teh ultrasounds he is so special and rare an dmore mature than any man i have met in my life and certainly on here but i am sad I am selfishishly sad for me that he does nto need me anymore and that he is too busy to chat with me daily and I am sad for him that he is growing up too fast as he sings amazign and plays guitar and writes and I was going to get him on american idol he would be perfect for that so handsome so talented but now he is tied down and for now he is quite happy about it so I just lost him since his gf or wife to be need s and wants his attention alot so I came home to boston from florida for my aunt dying of cancer whose son and wife moved in so she didnt need me to help my brother thru a major heartattack who fell in love and she takes care of him and he does not need me and to be with my single gal friends who have left and then now shaun is growing up an daway and i try to make dates on here but they are all nutty players lying married men abusive or just not for me so yes i am having a bit of a pity party and i have confidence like you but i fear I will always be alone man wise soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo hope noone feels like jumping off a bridge after reading t his ugh it feels like its all losss loss loss but for you who are young and are goign to school there is soooooooooooo much hope and so much promise in your future dont ever forget that trust me it gets harder with age not easier Im sure those that are young and full of life and have support snad school will do just great!!!! Good luck to us all lol

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 38 (view)

Broken Heart needs to snap out of it Posted: 2/19/2008 11:20:16 AM
awwwwwwwwwwwww what you are going through is hell and I am so sorry for you you are a beautiful girl and none of this is your fault and there is no way you are goign to just snap out of it how cold and uncaring they are to say this especially with 2 children and knowing he has another one ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh your heart must be breaking and having been a single mom devoted to your children it makes sense you don thave any friends I am so sorry all this happened to you and maybe your family means well but you need to grieve and take all the time you need to do that can you get to counselling? You can email me any time you like I know you dont know me but I am a trained therapist but more imp a caring person You are a wonderful precious beautiful young lady who did not deserve this men are just such ugh cant say it but you know ughhhhhhhhhhhh I hope and pray you get all teh support you need go to therapy alot of places have sliding scalesa dn you can pay 1 to 5 dollara dn maybe go to a group for single moms but who will babysit its hard for you well contact me if you need someone to chat im sick and out of work and have way too much free time soooooooooooooooooo ill try to help and do the best I can ok enjoy your children and Ill pray for you too it will take time to heal from this and no you will not snap outof it and dont need to tell them they need to snap otu of telling you that next time they say it and htat you do not find it helpful or compassionat and that you need support for waht you do feel not for waht they want you to feel ok hugssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss take care I am so sorry God bless hun hugsssssssssss

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 51 (view)

I'm an idiot Posted: 2/19/2008 11:11:45 AM
Your just human go easy on yourself he put your through enough and you were not weak to cry in front of him cying and feelings are not a weakness BUT offering to take him back is a big fat one and you deserve better you should be dumping him not him you and you willing t take him back he lied about all the sex hes got baby mamas galore man what a mess there is nothing wrong with you your human and you trusted unfortuanly most men are not worth trusting sorry but sad to say and t rue best you can do is go much slower next time and liek the other person said have them earnnnnnnnnn your trust dont just give it away for free they need to earn it sorry this happened to you and Thank God you have all the support you do I wished I did you can get back to feeling good soon enough the way you were before himmmmm just go slow and stop beating you up good for you for hitting him lol beat him up in your mind every time you think of him remind yourself of all the bad parts take control over your thoughts every time you glorify him when you start to miss him thinkof all the bad things and the lies and all okkkkkkkkkkkkkk you dont want or need someone like this back you can do much better Good luck God bless

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 79 (view)

......am i doing the right thing.....???? Posted: 2/19/2008 10:57:43 AM
Run for the hills and dont look back You ARE doing the right thing... she was poisen to you and you enabled her and she abused you it is not healthy for either of you You can forgive her all you want but God commands we love ourselves too and you need to love you now and put you first those things she asked of you to do to your children were totally selfish of her and so awful with no care for you at all.... put her in GOds hands and you get therapy and help for you for being a codependent go to Al-anon meetings for people affected by others drinking and drugging .. they are free and you meet nice people You are a wonderful loving kind man and you deserve much better and will find it I am sure of that dont look back even she doesnt think you should so love youuuuuuuuuuuu now forgive her but dont go back love yourselffffffffffffffff God bless take care so sorry you went through all that

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 218 (view)

do we attract a certain type Posted: 2/19/2008 9:39:00 AM
yep totally I think we all have and are doing that Freud did say we attract those at our level but he also said we attract either our moms or dads or a mixture of both and that is where only counselling and becomming conscious of that pattern can break it even becomming conscious is not enuf you have to keep making efforts to see it watch the red flags for you and then you make a different choice like not going out with them... For ex I had, have a bad pattern of always trying to make peace with everyone even when they are being the abusive one and I will keep taking it till I can make it all right or think I can and I am p roud to say I met this man on pof the othernight who seemeddddddddddd so wonderful and kind and great and then he was an abusive schmuch and no I did not hang up right away like I want to next time. I did stay on and take it more than I should becasue he was also telling me how it was all myyyyyyyyyyy fault finally he said call me later and I asked when he said in an hour and i said im afraid i will be asleep by then and he said very arrogant and smart a##ed "well ill happily take that chance" i barley could speak but I never called him back, that was a big deal for me sad to say... I did not try to fix it I realized it was him not me and then in a few days he sent me an email today actually and it was so sneaky it said" just clearing the air" inthe subject line and i was hoping he was gonna apologise lool and he ripped me to shreds and told me I was abusive and turned everything around to not contact him anymore when i was not going to and have not in 4 days and nights and he knew that.. he just needed to be in control dumping me.. and I found out he is not a firefighter in his town and was lying and being fraudulent. I called the firestation only to find out he was lyign to many woman and they were getting odd calls from woman from here and other sites asking the same thing or asking for him when he is not a fireman anywhere.. so i told him not only am i not going to contact him but I am sending all this to the fire chief showing them what he is up to and they may press charges and I hope they do He was a lying married man drug addict pretending to be a upstanding fireman ughhhhhhhhhh in lynn mass I tell you I am so ready to give up on men

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 131 (view)

Does Friends first ever really work? Posted: 2/19/2008 9:28:56 AM
what crap did you fall for.. you did this all to yourself.. you found exactly the woman you wanted and followed her around blah blah.. she did nothing to you.. you brought it all on yourself.. and you were the deceitful one. the poor woman know probably feels like gee I guess guys really cant be friends when .sayyyyyyyyyyyyy they are. your not the victim. it was all your doing.

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 829 (view)

Why men don't date strong women... Posted: 2/19/2008 9:19:05 AM
yes men like strong intelligent interesting woman AS LONG AS they do not direct their insights towards the men in other words the woman can have any opinion they want about anythingggggg and anyone but THEM thats when all the trouble starts I am so sick of men saying they want and honest woman no they dont they cant handle it not honesty directed at them lik if a woman is hurt by her husband or bf if she tries to tell him at all even in the nicest kindest way all hell breaks loose and all of sudden she is notthe right one or too intense or whatever maybe they will put up with it a few timesssssss and pretend to go along but it is just that pretense hence the men marry woman who never confront them or hold them accountable and then whine and whine and wonder why she leaves him cheats on him and acts out on him passive agressively get it guys the truth always comes out in the endddddd you cant hide ok soooooooooooo either you deal with an honest woman who will tell you how she feels and how your behavior hurt her and you can be open to it change and grow or you can diss her and marry the weak one butttttttttttttt that so called weaker one sees teh same faults you have is annoyed by the same behavior and can only hold it in for so long sooooooooooo then she acts out in cheating or whatever its all gonna come outin the wash so men you need to start becomming stronger in yourselves and much less busy protecting your ego and be open to growth and change or you will still pay for it at a later price but youll be paying for it and so will she I am so so so sick of men who say they want an honest smart woman yes as long as she never directs it at them and im not talkng abuse or screaming atyou Im talking honest communication to tell you how you are hurting them so you can change the hurtful behavior and then the love can go deeper that type of honesty is a commitment to love if i am upset with my man and i dont tell him i end up like anyone else actring it out passive agressivly but if i get it out nad he hears meand we work on it then the lovef or him just grows deeper but very very very few men will ever do this or chooseeeeeeeeeeeee to do this when hey they think ive got this other one woman over here who i s just ass smart and just as strong but does not put poor me thru this so they marry her and wonder why it all goes south grow up guys or everyone pays the price

LOVELY_LISA88

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 163 (view)

Ever realize that you're the problem? Posted: 2/10/2008 9:24:32 PM
yes of course I have seen my part and my faults alotttttttttttttt but what I dont get at all with you is the part about is when YOU say.. "I have no interest in making any changes because, despite being really bad at relationships, I like who I am" That I DONT GET why would you nottttttttttt want to change for your sake for the other persons sake and for the relationships sake That drives and people that think like you drives me nutssssssssssss how could anyone be so selfish... ugh that is one of the main problems with this world is everyone wants everyone else to change but themmmmmmmmmm. I coudld handle it better if you weer just in denail and ignorant, but TO KNOW YOUR WRONG AND TO NOT CARE OR WANT TO CHANGE YOUR WRONGS.. SORRY BUT YUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!! That is sooooooooooooooooooooo sooooooooooooo what is wrong with this planet and one of the greatest evils... sorry but its true

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 33 (view)

Is it really THAT strange?? Posted: 2/10/2008 9:17:51 PM
I think it is sooooooooo wonderful and so precious, and I commend you on it. if only everyone could work it out like this! I am friends with all of my ex's ex's lol. And I was friends with his exs when he and I were together. They were all great woman and they were all good to me and still are. and he is great friends with them. and I never minded when we were together either. I am just not that jealous at all I dont know why but I am not. And like they have to you Alot have said how strange that is of me to not be jealous. However with my last ex who I am still madly in love with, I am very jealous of a few woman who are after him, but they were mean to me from the start, did everything to ruin he and i ,and are the reason he and i are not together. and I get sooooooooooooo jealous, for the first time in mylife so I do not know, does that mean I am more in love with him than all my other loved ones or it is the circumstances, I dont know.. but GOOD FOR YOU FOR ALL OF YOU!! and it is so so wonderful for the children too! what a great rold model you are!!!

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 34 (view)

I made a big change today. Posted: 2/8/2008 11:40:25 PM
Well what a relief I just some actually really kind posts from woman on here giving you the heads up and support you deserve yahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ty all it was so nice to see so rare but so nice God bless all you nice peeps out there who helped him and god bless you too op hugssssssssss

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 33 (view)

I made a big change today. Posted: 2/8/2008 11:37:20 PM
TO galonthemt OH MAN leave the guy alone ... you totally contradict yourself one mintue saying you will believe he has moved on when he does not need to post thennnnnnnnnnn you say feelings are not right or wrong so get offffffffffffffffff judging his feelings and telling him they are wronggggggg does anyone have a brain here You did a great job op at what you did and you talk about it till your blue in the face until you are done talking and done having those feelings dont listen to all these angry bitter attackers most of them never even hadddddddddddd a relationship at your level of love and comiitment and have no clueeeeee how to hence they have no clueeeeeeeee how much agony andpain it is to go through such a loss you are going through hell and you are doing the bestttttttttttt you can and you keep on doing whatever you need to do i may not post in here any more too many uncaring admittedly insensitive vicsiousssssssssssss angry bitter people who just live to attack YOU DO NOT NEED THAT get a kind counsller or find a kinder supportive place and dont let anyoneeeeeeeeeeeeee tell you when they will decide when you are doing better You know if you are and even if its a baby step GOOD FOR YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU CONGRATS TO YOU AND FEEL SORRY FOR ALL THE JERKS ON HERE LOL SO MANY UGH WHO HAVE NO CLUE WHAT BEING LOVED B ECAUSE THEY ARE NOT LOVING THEMSELVESSSSSSSSS OR CAPBABLE OF GIVING IT TRY TO JUDGE YOU OK you are doing just fine and just great and you keep on loving you and you will go backwards at times and thats ok too!!!!!!!!! and if you need to talk you can email me... and I wont attack you promise she may only have taken 8 months but you can take all the time you need you are doing great you are taking steps see the world has it all backwardsssssss they see the one who can move on as the strongerrrrrrrrr one and the one who loves as weaker NO NO NO YOU JUST LOVED MORE THAT SHOWS YOU HAD AND HAVE MORE LOVE TO GIVE she had less to give and cared less that does not mean you are less lovable it means sheeeeeeee is lessssssssssss loving so you are doing just fine bro im so sorry for your pain and you take care of you and dont post on here they are too sick and emotinally handicapped I only come on to pick up the pieces and broken hearts they leave behind take careeeeeeeeeeeee hun it will happen in time and try taking that love for her and put more into loving you but its gonna take time and you do it on yourrrrrrrrrrr time noone elses ok hugsssssssss Ill say a prayer for you God bless sweetie and for those fewwwwwwwww who are kind on here very very very few I was not talking to you

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 52 (view)

Could I Be Insensitive? Posted: 2/8/2008 9:19:46 AM
TY BLACK VELVET 46 finalllllllllllly a voice of sanity!!! Of Course you were insensitive... I would asked a stranger I met on a bus If I saw them again how it was all going being me give them a hug... I can't believe the amount of people esp woman admitting they are insensitive too in this very cavalier wayyyyyyyy like its not big deal and yet these samehumans the ones who go wah wah if it is done to them or about how the world is so messed up The world is all of us and it all starts with each one of us.. and I am sooooooooo sick of the men trying to find any reason to bash the woman here. I wouldnt even have given him the 2 days...I would already have seen what he was made out of it She was being too nice becasue she cared and is hurting. I also cant believe who unbelieveable cruel the woman are to each other here.. just as quick to bash the woman everyone is bashing the victim and woman WOMAN let me ask you an honest question do you do this and agree with the men just to get their approval???? do you need their approvallll thissssssssssss bad that you would bash a sisterrrr because maybe you are not getting mens attention in real life... Man if anyone wants to know why the world is such a mess read these responses thatssssssssssss why I cant believe all of you there were like 2 normal yes you were totally insensitive honest answers here I would never trust a man like that and it isssssssssss a total red flag about who he is and what is not capable of human kindness and compassion does NOT HAVE A DATE ON IT... AND IT DOES NOT EXPIRE LIKE BAD MILK either you haveeeeeeeeeee it or you donttttttttttttttttttttttttttt and if you have it you have it asapppppppppppppppppppppp and those that confessed the women that confessed your not good in that area my word woman where is your heart and do you wonder if this is why your alone on here I am alone now out of choice due to having cancer not alone but not dating since I found out I have it as I dont feel it is fair to put anyone new through that and its not a great way to start out dating but Ill tell you when I tell the men whyyyyyyy I am not going to date them Some of them are sooooooooooo kind in their emails to me so so sooooooo kind and have been such good people and through that I have made some quality friendships others were jerks and others did not respond which is a jerk They ask me why did I not get back and I tell them and they show no compassoin Hey good I dont need someone like that does someone need or want someone likeyou if you are like tha tand admit it why arent you working your butt off to change that??? ok enuf said

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 1227 (view)

Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 2/5/2008 7:37:29 PM
EVERY AND I MEAN EVERY POST OF YOURS IS WOMAN HATING could that be whyyyyyyyyyyyyy your not meeting them mr misognyist look it up

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 1226 (view)

Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 2/5/2008 7:34:47 PM
The totalllllllll opposite is true I know alot of men on here and match and other places The men meet alot of nice woman.. The mens worst experiences are, hmm she was really nice and we are just friends, or we dated fora while but she is not the one for long term. Or nice girl but no connection. Ok the womans experiences omggggggg are almost got raped, lying married man, had to get a restraining order, and one was even abducted from this site. Go read the post about "your worst date ever" You will see how the vast majority 99 percent of the woman's experiences were all dangerous and horrific and and psycho and awful and the mens were what I said and you will read a few mens responses in there saying "wow I guess we guys really dont have it that bad.. the womans sound like steven kings novels" soooooooooooooooooo Yes woman get more emails but that means more nuts Men get less but from quality woman... and I do ask guys out and I know plenty of woman who do... so I dont know what universe you are living in???

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 32 (view)

Sayings that should be on buttons! Posted: 1/31/2008 4:50:06 PM
I have a magnet that says.. "Take my advice ..I'm not using it!"

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 2 (view)

HUSBAND'S PASSWORD Posted: 1/31/2008 4:46:29 PM
hahahahah that was funny ty looooooooooooool

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 230 (view)

Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 1/31/2008 4:44:45 PM
let me clarify ugh first of all I should never post when Im really tired Im al ready bad enougth lately and lazy in my typing as you can all see lol ugh sorry but I did notttttttttt date woman, I meant to say I know woman who date woman very well and i know both sidessssssssss not side.. ugh oh man am I gonna get emails now from lesbians or from men who like lesbians lol I hope not So I am here to clarify that ty

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 465 (view)

Genital Herpes Posted: 1/31/2008 4:22:14 PM
I do not have herpes nor did I ever sleep with the man I spoke of who did.. Just wanted to clear that one up...No sex at alllllllllllllllll. not even kissing so... I was wise..

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 11 (view)

How can someone act like this? Posted: 1/31/2008 1:03:59 PM
I have not read other responses yet as I do not like to repeat things so sorry if this is one ugh but one maybe the GUYS were there and he could not show his real feelings..? or maybe I dont know are you sure he is not calling your gf to talk to her and she just tells you he is calling is he hitting on her I hope not I dont know how he hurt you before so I cant say much either and im getting gun shy about even bothering on here the people on these posts ARE SO MEAN TO THE OPS AND TO ME AND OTHERS im so sick of it There are so many rage aholics here they look for any change to go in for the kill I am beginning to believe that If i came on here and said Hey I just baked some cherry pie would anyone like some? That I would still get visciously attacked by the rabied wolves on here lol ugh sooooooooooo my suggestion to you is to go to answerology dot com its an amazing place with very intelligent people you can ask or answer questions and very very few idiots they have really great info great answers and its a nice community of course there are angry idiots they are everywhere but I find the ratio there much less than here so all good peeps here and there are some very very savvy intelligent womanhere I wished would go to that site too and join its free and its great and some kind smart men here but too many jerkieola here so if anyone attacks you Im saying for you im sorry to you for them first ok ugh take care if you want to contact me you can so i can know more and say more if it helps but answerology.com is really amazing okkkkkkkkkkk Good luck sorry you are suffering im done with the abusive nut jobs here tc bye

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 36 (view)

Hairs the story... Posted: 1/31/2008 12:28:11 AM
It's never about the hair He was just looking for an out probably for a while now and he just grabbed onto that one..... He either met someone else or just wants out was not courageous enough to tell her or be honest or was afraid of her reaction maybe cant handle tears or whatever but it was notttttttt about the hair ill assure you

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 16 (view)

chemestry vs nuts and bolts Posted: 1/30/2008 9:22:15 PM
Your ex sounds like a sex and love addict chemisty is great but its not the end all be all and you do not sound bad at all you sound more like realisitc solid marriage material but you could be a bit more romantic lol you are both just very diff people you are opposites shes in the thrills and hot sex not paying attentin to the praciticality or healtyness of the relationship and yousoundike you want a solid life which is greatttttttttttttttt and after chemistry is gone that is all you have and you are great in that way you are level headed and smart and you just need a woman who is more like youmore grounded and practical she was not into nuts and bolts just nuts hahahha but you could be a tad more romantic Good luck

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 433 (view)

Genital Herpes Posted: 1/30/2008 9:07:20 PM
I knew a man up in maine where we had always liked each other but had never gotten it together as one was either in a relationship or we both were Finally he was available he was so gorgeous so smart so kind so educated such a great man nad he took the time to tell me he has genital herpes he told me the knowledge they had back then now they know it is contagious all the time back thenmost thought only during outbreaks but he was very honorable and a good guy who was honest and told me no it is contageious 7 days before and after an outbreak and there is no way to tell it is comming and of course contagious during well and the sad thing was he got it from his ex who gave it to him knowinglyyyyyyy but once he had it and he was in love with her he tried to work it out then broke it off feelinghe could not get over the betrayal Thats when he and i got together Part of me was so torn I was so in love with him but honestly I did not want and do not want genital herpes So I slowly let him go and I was sad and the sadest part is I saw him a few years later with 2 beautiful girls of his own he was married but was not makign eye contact with me I found out he had gone back and married her since all of us other woma rejected him HOW SAD FOR HIM HE COULD NOT LOOK AT ME CASUE HE KNEW I KNEW IT ALL I could strangle her for doing that to him and putting him in that prison He lives up in maine and there are few chances of meeting single people If only she has not given him that I would have happily married him I still love him but could not deal with it I had chronic ebstein barr virus at the time years ago and it is from the herpes virus as well so i would have beenin grave health danger to expose myself to that sooooooo I just could not I still feel sorry for him could never meet a nicer better kinder smarter sweeter and gorgeoussssss successful guy dang shes a jerk

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 226 (view)

Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 1/30/2008 8:59:45 PM
Well said not laura I am sorry to hear you suffer so but impressed with your self honesty I appreicated your input and I hope and pray for complete healing for you in time you are not a cliche you are wounded human who deserves love and kindness and compassion God bless you hugssssssssss sweetie

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 225 (view)

Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 1/30/2008 8:57:02 PM
Yes i have and we have NO GOLD PRO but you are a man and you are meeting woman and there are many great woman out there sorry but there are not many serial killer woman or rapists and abusers You seem andlook like a very kind man and I know they are out there and I think maybe you are naieve about what a woman goes through it is not your fault and you seem very sweet its just very different for us woman much tougher and much more dangerous and yes we woman are much more guilty of stayin with these men too long being caretakers by nature and trying to help them or change them or see the best in them or denying it whenmen are much better in general there are always exceptions but men are pretty darn good at saying hey take a hike if anythinggggggggg is askew sooooooooooooooooo again some men are codependentstoo taking care of sick woman so but the majority reality is that woman have it harder sorry but true and i use to date woman sooooooo i know both sided

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 224 (view)

Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 1/30/2008 8:52:56 PM
to netdates4humanshit great response well written well put and good advice ty and so sorry you had to go through all that man i wished to God I could wave a magic wand and heal everyone including my pain from all we have gone through and the poor mentally ill ones who did not mean to inflict this on us due to their painand suffering may God help us all ugh hugssssssss i wish the best for you in the future all of you all of us male and female

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 42 (view)

Disappearing Act - How Did You Feel? Posted: 1/30/2008 8:43:25 PM
I know exactly what you mean and I must say you wrote it extremly well and explained it very well I do go through all you mentioned and feel like the stalker a bit too when looking for closure but I dont know your case entirely but i know my guy promised the world said he would never just disappear and was going nowwhere and askedm eto marry him all to dump me on whim out of the clean blue and moved on like nothinghe promiseve ever happened ugh it sucks i hate it i went throught same thing as you i was shocked at first so i said nothing and got out of the car and just leflt then i got angry and called him and yelled at him then i got sad and called him and cried and then i just gave up id ont think you and i are stalkers lol i think when they behave like this they force you to act like that there is a book by viginia satir called crazy making most of the time ia gree with taking charge of your life being positiev blah blah but everthing in moderation the people on here and life that spout these extremes of its all waht you make it your in complete control what a crock of sh** sooooooooooo that book is great for helping you to understand people can make you crazy if someone is standing there provoking you to anger like this guy did me then they asked for it and deserveit and it was not meeeeeeeeeeeand it sounds like ti was not you im assuming you mean disappearing by promising the world then not ever calling or contacting you or responding??? with no closure sorry you had to go through it your not alone and yes when i read how you dealt with it i felt like youwere reading my mind so wellwritten your very smart and im sorry it happened toyou and me and all it has happened too tc sorry no grand advice here hugs

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 50 (view)

A message about stalking Posted: 1/30/2008 6:25:05 PM
Your very welcome so many here are so naieve and dont get it or they are so jealous because of my level of awarness and education all they do is attack instead me in stead of pay attention and learnnnnnnnnnn so good for youuuuuu and I will get that book you take care be safe God bless its a nutty worldddddddddddd but there still is great good only if you are wise and know the difference you cannot know one or truely experience one without knowing and acknowleding the other and to the man who said oh he is joking just reversing you as the agrressor YES HE WAS REVERSING HER AS THE AGRRESSOR AND THAT IS HIS FORM OF CONTROL TRYING TO GAIN CONTROL BY GETTING HER TO THINK OH GEE AM I BEING BAD AND TAKING THE FOCUS OFF OF HIM TRYIN GTO GET HER TO DO IT HISSSSSSSSSSSS WAY SO you had half of it right

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 45 (view)

A message about stalking Posted: 1/30/2008 6:03:43 PM
Deuce SORRY TO SAY BUT ITS HER ITS THE WOMAN YOU ARE DATING SORRY GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HER NOWWWWWWWWW I DO THIS FOR ALIVING AND I KNOW WAHT IM TALKING ABOUT AND IM PSYCHIC PLEASE DO NOT TELL HER THIS OR SHOW HER YOU ARE AFRAID OR YOU KNOW ANYTHING TELL THE POLICE YOU KNOW WHO AND GET A RO IN PLACE FIRST SHE WILL GO WHACKY WHEN YOU TRY TO LEAVE SHE IS TRYING TO MAKE SURE YOU AND YOUR EX NEVER GET BACK TO GET AND THAT YOU ARE NOT CLOSE TO YOUR CHILDREN IT IS HERRRRRRRRRRRR TRUST ME IT IS HER DO NOTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT GIVE UP THIS INFO TO HERR AND YOU MAY HAVE TO MOVE PLEASE CONTACT ME I CAN MAYBE HELP YOU GET HER SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER ANY WAY YOU CAN AND GET IT TO THEM AND HAVE THEM RUN IT ITS HER DEUCE TRUST ME ITS HERRRRRRRRR YOUR IN DANGERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 44 (view)

A message about stalking Posted: 1/30/2008 5:59:32 PM
Also I would NEVER GO TO HIS PART OF TOWN i have a very bad feeling about this and trust me I am usually right i do this for a living profiling and putting away killers stalkers and serial rapists and murders something is going off big time in my gut do notttttttttttttt go to see him make the men come to your part of town and make it not your home meet them in a place where people you know see you with him and see himt this is how i do it when i am ready to meet and even beign this safe has almos tcost me being raped so careful here we go 1) do not give our your phone number at allllllllllllllllllllll call him with yours blocked which is what i assumedyou meant by anonomously very smart by the way 2) have him meet you in your town at a place wher eyou know people 3) tell them he is comming and you call them to see if he made it 4) you show up in your car afterrrrr he is there and they say he seems ok 5) meete him check him out 6)have him leave first so that he does nto see your car or can follow you where you live and go home and keep an eye on your back SORRY THIS IS NOT JADED THIS IS REALITY this is the reality of a very dangerous world where we woman are told to not listen to our guts taht are desperately trying to protect us listen to that and allof you nay sayers how many times have you watched dateline or shows where the womnan was murdered and raped or is missing and how many times did she not trust the most simple warning signs and how many times did the guy seemmmmmmmmmmmm great it all only happend when seh let down her guard too fast too soon and beat her self up for her good healthy fears THAT IS THE ONE main thread in all of those haneous crimes the one thing that she the victim could have done differntly was listen to her gutttttttttt and as son as a man say oh noooooooooooooooooo lets do is this way ( my way his way) different than your boundiresssssssss you set they are troubleeeeeeeeeeeeeeee that is huge red flag screaming at you hun

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 43 (view)

A message about stalking Posted: 1/30/2008 5:50:31 PM
TOTALLY WIERD you are smart to be weary and anyone anyoneeeeeeeee who is not respecting your boundries I mean you said NO and he is trying to get you to go against what you feel and the boundries you set THAT IS WHAT STALKERS DO so be very very careful and it was not funny at alllllllllllllllll it was creepy their is humor and there is truth creepy truth disguised as humor and this was just a disguise to throw you off and get you thinkiing exactly as you are he is dangerous creepy and not out for you or your good dang I wishe di could see this stuff for myself better any good man will always respect your no and your boundries and your gut it say no for a darn goo dreasonnnnnnnnnnn be safe take care

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 6 (view)

Am I just envious or caring? Both? Posted: 1/30/2008 5:46:02 PM
I am curious what answer did you come to ??? was it that you are still in love with her and I would say regardless if you are and it has some envy andhurt you still should tell her and say something asappppp then let it go you did your part and then its up to her dont listen to all those saying its all her prob dont say anything no no we are just as guilty in life from what we dont do as what we do do so do the right thing tell her even admit part of your motives quickly before she accuses you of them maybe even start out saying that there ae those motives in there but that DESPITE THAT the truth is .. such and such Good luck real love means you do care what happens to her give her insight and give her the option THEN its up to her

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 28 (view)

What does this phrase mean?? Posted: 1/30/2008 3:48:51 PM
I agree with carolann I read your profile and maybe your quirky humour as you called it and certain things about you made them feel you were immature or silly and they were uptight englishman lol or just felt more mature than you are and you said you were different sooooooooo in THEIR eyes maybe it was that..... thats my gut for some reason.. .and that you said you dressed real out there sometimes and dance to your own drummer so maybe try younger men age wise unless it is the that your more mature and then try older man but my gut and I am very psychic says it is the first one sorry but someone will love you being silly and dressing eccentric and all that you mentioned an artist type a younger artistic male try an artistic male and if you were going younger try older and visa versa try something different and ask them how do you feel about a woman dressing eccentric when you speak.. I do think you are very honest in your profile too about who you are. but some men do not read our profile and are looking at your adorable face sooooooooooooo so there you go... youll meet someone and unless you partied too hearty lol ... tc Good Luck

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 27 (view)

What do men find unattractive as far as behavior when dating? Posted: 1/29/2008 4:56:28 PM
I love this post it is great ty for it and I am learning alot from the men which is great to the man who said the woman all she did was talk about herself lol hahah that old joke yes but I have to admit sometimesssssssssss I do that myself for 3 reasons but its either because 1) I really like the guy and I am very nervous and feel intimidate for som ereason and you are really good looking (the profile who put in about womnan talking so much and the old joke) so maybe she was just nervous or 2) i am not interested at alml they are scaring me and are not getting my body language of Im not interesteed and do not touch me and are moving in too fast so I am talking to keep them away and turn them off and talking fast enough so they wont even think of trying to kiss me lol hahhah or once in while its casue ...wow am i being honest too honest prob.... I just am boredddddddddd to death, they are putting out no energy or effort and I am really interesting so I figure someone has to be making it interesting..I only do this if they are encouarging me and say they are enjoying listening though... otherwise I just get out of there politly off to read more mens answers i love understanding men better its great

LOVELY_LISA88

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Msg: 19 (view)

A White Flag In The Battle Of The Sexes Posted: 1/29/2008 4:46:41 PM
I agree and I can admit I have been guilty of being angry at men ugh sowwie ,after this guyhon pof the one and only guy I met and really liked here on pof who did something so haneous and heartbreaking ,,,I have not been myself so I confess Ihave sounded that way about men a few times ugh but I find it not just gender bashing I find it bashing anyone and everyone for any reason so much anger and bitterness in peoples hearts its sad and breaks my heart I said this myself to the people here on one of my last responses to a post , something like.. hey this bitterness is nottttttt attractive and maybe why you are still single... and pleaded for people to please have compassion and be kinder to each other.. I have not gone back to see the bashing I musthave received for saying that ugh hmmm So yes just more kindness compassion in general would be so nice it is easier said than done we have all been hurt by others and it snot so easy to get over but we should not make anyone but the person who did it pay for it or maybe not even them forgiveness is an amazing tool that is for ourselves as much as for the offender sometimes im great at it sometimes i suck royal but im tryinggggggggg

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