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Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 10/15/2009 11:31:35 PM
WHY??? Why the OP asks? Who can say for certain. I'm loving this thread. But for all I've read I tend to agree most with Msg.110 from 2825buck. I'm 41, never married, no kids. If you have a problem with that then it's your problem. I like me & feel no need to put up with anyone who is emotionally unwell. I did the conquest thing. I've felt the fear of comittment. I've wanted the good wife, 2.5 kids & white picket fence. I've played the field & watched from the bench. There are reasons I did what I did & didn't do what I didn't do. If you want to get to know that about me I'll tell you but have absolutely no need to justify my life to anyone. But I feel that people try to size you up & place you in a category too quickly. If we lived & let live more maybe it wouldn't be that way. If people concentrated on making themselves the best they could be rather than looking for support, validation, or leaning on others as an emotional crutch then quite possibly we wouldnt have 1 out of 2 marriages ending in divorce. Happily ever after is what we all seek. Some of the lessons learned to achieve that take us in different directions. I could be judgemental of the single grandmother of two who's just turned 40. Or the neighbor with the revolving bedroom door. Or the cousin that's been married 4 times before her 35th birthday. But WHY? It's not my life. Not my decision. If a woman chooses to box me into her perception of who I am that's her loss. Your reality may very well be your perception of it but your perception may not be reality. It takes all kinds. If you aren't willing to step outside of yourself & view the world from another's point of view then I believe you are missing out on some of the best life has to offer. So fence me in. Place me in a category that feels right for you. Maybe that's why you're single But it's not why I am.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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A question for people in their 30's. Posted: 10/15/2009 10:51:35 PM
Ok brother here's what I think. You are trapped in yourself. Stop analyzing. Quit thinking about it. Just freakin' stop. Just go be. Be one with whatever you choose to be involved in. Don't try to impress. Don't try to pick up. Be observant to your surroundings & when you catch yourself analyzing them acknowledge it, laugh at yourself for it & move on away from that state of mind. Try to involve yourself with activities that you are already confident with. Groups, volunteering & stuff like that are great ideas. The more you stay trapped in yourself the more time you will be by yourself. Make sense? The woman for you is out there. And she likes you for you. Sometimes to find yourself you first have to let go of your pre-conceived notions. And until you find yourself, SHE isnt gonna find you either. The great thing about embarassment & unsurety is, it doesnt hurt, doesnt last, & doesnt really matter to anyone but you. Let it go. Jump in to life with both feet & dance in the puddle. Why care what others may or may not think of you? Drop the ideas that you must be a certain way. And the idea that others are oh so different. Thats not reality. Reality is we're all the same with just minute differences. Once you start enjoying what you have then others will magically be there to share in the party. But if you dwell, then my brother, you dwell alone. PEACE

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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I'm seperated three years, should I just lie about it already? Posted: 5/23/2009 8:42:03 PM
OK here's what I think. OP you really have no business dating towards a relationship until you finish the relationship that you're involved with. And you're not finished yet. Now, with that being said, COMMUNICATION is key. If it's important to you to get the information across then explain it in your profile. If a woman doesnt want to date you because you are seperated or "misunderstands" your status then why would you feel the need to change her or explain your way into a date that is beginning from less than honorable circumstances. It's just not a match. Move on. If you put the same amount of effort into your self & your imminent divorce as you have into dating you may find that dating is less of a difficulty when your own house is clean. Lastly, SOME of you people responding are seriously fvcked up. You should offer your responses as opinion and not fact or advice that should be followed without deviation from your own personal outline. And noone has the right to judge. You're going to do it anyway but you don't have that right. Judgement of others is a flaw within you. But again, that's just what I think. I also think spelling & grammar count & only show the ignorance of the writer when used incorrectly

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Those mysterious friends... Posted: 5/21/2009 8:32:24 AM
OK Brother. You got some insecurities screaming out loud here. I checked your profile & your other posts. So I'll give you my 2 cents. You're 26, she's 20. She has already proven more than once that she isnt gonna be loyal to you from a physical standpoint. Here's what I think you should do. Use "I" statements. I feel_____ when you ______.If you matter to her then she will make an effort to change. But bottom line is you shouldnt waste your time with "checking up" on her. State very clearly what your deal breakers are & the consequences of what violating those would be. If she chooses to step over the line then your action is already outlined. So if you say no more talking to strangers online about sex or we're history & she does it anyway. Then pack it in & bail. You should be able to feel better about the whole thing & you'll end up realizing she didnt really care in the first place. But make sure you're taking responsibility for your own actions & how they may be affecting her beforehand. Take some accountability & demand that their be some integrity within the relationship. Then stand up for yourself & what you need from a relationship. Or you could just continue to be a whiny **** about the whole thing.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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what do women want in bed??????????? Posted: 5/20/2009 6:43:33 AM
You've gotten very interesting responses, opinions, & requests here OP. I'll offer mine. One only need be observant. Your observations can come from verbal communication thats very true & the best place to start. But never stop learning. You cant KNOW what type of women like some things & what type of women don't beforehand. Do you want just a conquest or something more? If it's more than you must also consider what YOU want. Denial of your own wants can lead to resentments or lack of personal fulfillment. We all have boundaries. If you meet someone that you're compatible with outside the bedroom but not behind closed doors then chalk it up to experience & move on. The woman for you will operate on a similar wavelength. One only need be observant.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Women who use toys Posted: 5/3/2009 11:08:44 AM
Oh my doggie, Wouldn't you like to know? Ok I'll tell. It was just the one time with a LTR but dessert fed with fingers is always good. I didn't get the car door shut before she was on me like a fat kid on a cupcake. I guess it's just my opinion but I believe toys inspire the imagination. Creativity & thinking outside of the box (so to speak) is what adds spice. Isn't the salt of one's self the difference between a great meal & just a plain piece of meat or fish? One last thought & then I'll leave this be. (ladies we can talk toys on my page) Toys don't have to be a big piece of preformed plastic. Open your mind prior to her legs. Don't you both deserve it? It's your relationship. Set the rules & boundaries together. Greg

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Women who use toys Posted: 5/3/2009 10:13:45 AM
Oh let's use toys. The name alone insinuates fun. Toys for me. Toys for you. Together or seperate. Lighten up. Let's play. Here's a scenario. You're on a date. someone you've been seeing a little while. The subject of toys comes up. You make the suggestion to go toy shopping together. Right now. Pay your tab. Leave & the anticipatory excitement level is rising. Get to the store find new playthings & before you get out of the parking lot they're out of the wrapper. You can't help but begin to play before you get somewhere more private. Yeah even the guy the OP was having a conversation with would be ready at that point. Let's play more & fight less. BTW, My favorite toy, the remote control vibrating panty. With the bullet that fits in a strategically placed pocket. I get the control. Mmmmmmm. Makes for a very interesting dinner date.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Why Can Women Critic Women but Men cannot critic Men on Appearence/Sex Appeal? Posted: 4/16/2009 10:24:15 PM
YEP!!! That's it. Pure jealousy. I've always wanted to be an under educated, self-absorbed, chauvanist with homosexual tendencies. BTW, you're not that unique. Ask any woman that has dated into her thirties & she'll probably have 1/2 a dozen stories about cookie cutter boys like you.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Describe your first time Posted: 4/16/2009 9:41:21 PM
I was 13. I was so ready to find out what the big deal was. She was 15. Her name was Gypsy. And she did things to me I will always be thankful for. As I look back on my life I realize that my first time wasn't really all that special. But the first time I gave myself wholly to someone I cared for & knew a little about what I was doing is what I look back on as my true first time making love. And I'll keep that story to myself. So I say to all the virgins out there to take your time. Play, experiment, study. But you only get ONE first time & alot of us don't remember the details. Some of us wish we could forget them. But I remember Gypsy. Thank you. You dirty dirty girl. And I remember Kelly. After all this time love lost is still bittersweet.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Men receiving oral Posted: 4/16/2009 9:08:34 PM
Kaylie!!!! My God woman. How are you still single? I've read your profile & your posts. You let me know when you're ready to get back in the saddle, so to speak.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Why Can Women Critic Women but Men cannot critic Men on Appearence/Sex Appeal? Posted: 4/15/2009 9:23:13 PM
Yeah OK so whether you choose to acknowledge it or not you're displaying latent homosexual qualities. NOTE I did not call you gay. Metro to bi probably. You have effeminate (sp) qualities. Deal with it! You may be attracted to women but you're attracted to men as well. You find the male body more attractive then women. You said so yourself. You wanted this thread to go a different direction but it didn't Your body definition has nothing to do with what quality of man you are. Your vanity only accentuates your femininity. Don't hate because you don't get the answers you want. Go ahead & blast away. I'm comfortable in both my manhood & my sexuality.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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How long to wait? Posted: 4/15/2009 9:09:55 PM
I'll throw my two cents in. I think Sepia777 has got it down pretty good. But to answer the OP's questions. How long will guys wait? Not long/Forever. Should you be upfront? Always. In all things. Are your expectations too high? No just pushing the boundaries of realistic. Should you just have sex before you're comfortable? Probably not the best idea. If it doesn't feel right don't go there. Look, you're 26. You may not be very experienced but communication is key. Talk to your man. Openly, honestly. Put it on him verbally & let the chips fall where they may. But trying to put a time frame on love is a futile effort. It's nice to see someone giving this subject the respect it deserves. But do not hold it over our heads as a tool or a weapon. That will bite you in the end & you'll wind up alone. Ya feel me? Oh, you can expect the guy to offer continuous light to heavy pressure til you give it up. But that's JMO

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Is kissing a important part of intimacy??? Posted: 4/14/2009 6:18:17 PM
To me, kissing IS intimacy. I just broke it off with a potential partner because it wasn't in the kiss. I don't wanna sound like a b1tch but I want the fireworks too. Nothing turns me on more than a woman that can kiss me the way I want to be kissed.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Painful ass spankin' Posted: 4/10/2009 1:59:06 PM
Reminds me of the old joke. This girl told me to give her 12 inches and make it hurt. So I f*cked her 4 times & punched her right in the face.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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What have u named your privates? Posted: 4/10/2009 1:28:17 PM
"PLEASE tell me that it's immediately followed with a 'Boogity boogity boogity let's go f*cking!!" Absolutely!! And typically when I leave the pit box you can hear me peeling rubber. Now if I could just figure out how to mount the camera to get a shot of the undercarriage I'd really be on to something. For those of you unaware of what we speak please tune in this Sunday to the race. You can see me in the #69 Dodge sponsored by the new drug Mycok. Ask your doctor if Mycok is right for you.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Lame heading removed so it doesn't show in my profile Posted: 4/10/2009 1:10:48 PM
Thank you darlin. But I was just putting that out ther for others to ponder. Or comment on. I'm quite happy in exploring things together once we've reached that point in a relationship. Read my history & you'll find I'm a huge advocate for communication & working thru issues together. Peace to ya.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Lame heading removed so it doesn't show in my profile Posted: 4/10/2009 12:44:36 PM
I'm gonna have to side towards~rain~ on this one. But I do understand how for some of you women that caring deeply for a man is key. But aren't you basically saying the same thing? Rain thinks you have to care about what you're doing & enjoy it while other women think you have to care about the man in order to care about what you're doing & enjoy it. And what's the deal about nationalities? Like the japanese are predispositioned to be good at math so another country's daughters are predisposed to giving really good head? Interesting theory but I think it may be without merit. I know I'm not shopping for a woman based on her oral skills but if she doesn't do it I'm throwing her back in the pond. Is that wrong too? What about age? Does she get better with age or is the schoolgirl (please be over 18)with the lollipop fantasy the way to go? And that leads to the question of experience. If you knew she spent her spare time sucking off every guy she's ever dated in hopes of one day pleasing the man (you)she spent the rest of her life with with those skills would that be a turn-on or a turn-off? Maybe sexual expertise is not what one should base a successful relationship on. But that's just my opinion. If you don't like it or don't agree, well then you can suck my c@ck.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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What have u named your privates? Posted: 4/10/2009 9:27:27 AM
Most recently it's Digger. Like the little NASCAR gopher. Cuz he's always trying to burrow into holes really fast. But I don't give names to myself. They're always pet names given to me.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Guys - when do you 'expect' sex? Posted: 4/9/2009 4:55:57 PM
^^^^^ He beat me to it.^^^^^ When do I EXPECT sex? If I'm in a committed relationship I've found I do expect sexual relations regularly. If I'm single I never expect it. But I want it all the time. I thought that want was going to diminish as I got older. NOPE! I'm as horny as a school boy. Almost always. I'm not abnormal in this am I? As far as 1st date or whenever, it really doesn't matter. It's more about whether we're having fun together. But I've found that if we "click" then it doesn't take long. Maybe that's what men mean about the 3rd date rule. Maybe it's about how much money they're spending with no play. But for me, if I don't feel something other than the tugging in my trousers it ain't gonna last. Sex at that point is just the physical act. And if she's game on opening night, who am I to say no? Does that sound wrong? ButI'll be as honest as I can be, I always try on the first date. If I'm interested in you or I'm physicallhy attracted then I'm gonna let you know it. And you can make or lose points with me based on how you handle the situation. Whether you give it up or not. But lately nowadays it seems sex is acceptable whereas in the past it was more off limits. AIDS & the 80's/90's. I'm dating myself I know. I've been on several dates recently where we both know it's not a match but HEY we're dressed up & she put on her good panties so what the hell. This is a new attitude for me from women but I'm not complaining. Much. I do still want the happily ever after though. So that's what I continue to seek.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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But I'm still married! Posted: 4/8/2009 9:01:38 PM
So that was the question to which you were referring. Well based on the information you've provided, the past history you described & me knowing me, I believe I would've caught up with her prior to engaging in sexual activity or a relationship. What I mean by that is I'm sure I would've asked her what she had been up to. What had happened to her husband. What she's doing now. How her life has changed since last we talked. That type of thing. But from reading your original posting you two were going out for months before covering that ground. That I don't understand. And this is exactly where I believe you aren't taking accountability for your own actions. You blame her for not telling you but it's your responsibility to yourself to ask the pertinent questions. If my intent was to be a boyfriend/relationship material I would've been well informed as to what I was getting myself involved in. But if I were to be in that situation I believe I would've been a bit shocked. I could see me breaking it off with her but not because she was still legally married but because by the time we had reached several months I would've confided in her & she in me. Which would mean that a lie would've been told regarding eligibility & status. That open dialogue thing is a really big deal for me. But I'm still a bit confused. You say you asked her where she thought the relationship was going but in other posts you've said you will never re-marry. Where was the relationship supposed to go? What was your intent for the relationship? And if you never intended to marry another than what difference does it make if she hasn't finalized a divorce? I really don't get that. If it's a morality issue then where do your morals lie? You won't date a married woman but you will have sex with someone you know very little about. How strange for someone who claims to be an instructor regarding HIV. Seems hypocritical to me. Have you made a mountain out of a mole hill? If given the chance what would you do differently? What will you do the next time you are at the beginning stages of a possible relationship?

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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what does open-minded imply? Posted: 4/8/2009 6:28:47 PM
You have not posed any question to me on any other thread. It's wrong of you to say so. But I can understand your confusion. You were being blasted by anyone with a clue on that one. Your poor spelling only heightens my awareness of your carelessness & lack of perceived intellect I only KNOW why you were kicked off based on your say so. But kicked off is kicked off. Without checkable references I wouldn't believe anything you state as fact. Proof? you want proof. But you don't deflect or shy away from accountability huh? Cowardess. DODGE, DUCK,DIP,DIVE & DODGE.Why can't you just admit to your own implications? Your insinuations? But your confession is not needed. Your own actions are quite telling enough My reluctance to take you at your word or blast you for your worm-like squirming is not judgement. You poor, poor victim. But if I were to judge. You'd be sorely lacking. In no way am I hijacking another's thread. I clearly stated my opinion on the subject matter. And what if she did ask for me to come to her aid? What would your opinion be then? As for my hard on for you. You're absolutely right. But this should be handled in the afore(skin)mentioned anal sex thread. I'm pitching baby. You want the curve or the heater?

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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what does open-minded imply? Posted: 4/8/2009 5:32:51 PM
Check your spelling tough guy. And you were chastised for your condescending arrogant attitude. Typically I would refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed man but in your case I'll make an exception. I have no problem with differing opinions. I do have a problem with you twisting words and categorizing my behavior as yours. Your petty attempts at manipulation won't fly with me bud. You have followed closer2u. You more closely resemble stalker than anyone here.You called her out by name and you belittled her. You take no accountability for your own actions yet you cry the poor victim role when called out by anyone who vehemently disagrees with your tack.(sailing term you should be familiar with) You did insult and disparage & you don't have the b@lls to step up and admit when you're out of line. You respect nothing or noone that does not fall in line with your own personal set of standards. You may not be trying to make enemies but you're doing one helluva job accomplishing just that. There's a reason you've been kicked out of others forums and sites. You choose to blame others for your consequences when in reality you create your own consequences. Just as we all do. Feel free to voice your own opinions. Regardless of how shallow they may be. But if you call out one more person by name we will take this to a higher authority. I believe you owe an apology to the lady. Now shoot your best shot.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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what does open-minded imply? Posted: 4/8/2009 4:30:19 PM
Awwww Ship that statement to closer2u exemplifies closed-mindedness. We are all entitled to our opinions (even you) but what is not tolerable is your condescending judgement because one has voiced their opinion. Trying to be a bully again are you? You just have to knock others down to make yourself feel better than they. But that's just MY OPINION. Got tired of getting your a$$ kicked in your own forum post so now you have to hunt down others seeking validation from the masses? It's her body. Her life. If she chooses to not let someone in based on preference or past experience who are you to say she's wrong? So based on your own statement what's important to her may not be important to you. Why the need to label her soooo superior? By her own admission she is closed to certain aspects of life or certain potential partners. But she came right out & said it. Whether I agree with her or not is irrelevant. She's deserving of my respect regardless. The question posted is what does open-minded IMPLY. It seems apparent that it means different things to different people. Is that a surprise to anyone? My stating that I'm open minded & meaning I'm willing to date inter-racially, someone of a different age demographic or religion is now being misconstrued as I like to suck c@ck. Well I don't but I really don't care if you do. There is an easy solution to the OP's question. ASK the person what they meant. So I guess the choice comes down to are you interested enough to gain clarification or would you be willing to let word play, confusion & misinterpretation dictate your action or non-action. My opinion is we ALL have lines that we won't cross. However OPEN COMMUNICATION can remove the confusion as to whether one is a potential mate or not. Talk, educate yourself, love all & try to be part of the solution rather than part of the problem. "What's so funny 'bout peace love & understanding?"

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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But I'm still married! Posted: 4/8/2009 3:58:45 PM
Windloverr is my hero. So succinct in his schooling. And I think that just about covers that. Was that fun windloverr? I think you had alot of fun with that.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Condom Too Big Posted: 4/8/2009 2:24:09 PM
First I'd just like to thank God & my mother & father for one less thing to have to worry about. You're making this guy sound like he's hung like an acorn. Sux to be you dude. You could buy a smaller condom yourself & keep them handy or put them on for him. I think a c@ck ring is the way to go. Of course a piece of surgical tubing tied around it or inserted over it (depending on actual size) could work. But in a pinch you could always try those left over bread bag or trash bag ties.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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But I'm still married! Posted: 4/8/2009 2:05:25 PM
Surely you're not insinuating "I" called you a name. As for the others, if they choose to assassinate your character then you can either acknowledge it or not. Why he's being raked over the coals seems pretty obvious to me. Judgment of others while engaging in acts of questionable ethics. It may not be the definition of hypocracy but I believe we're beginning to flirt with symantics. Your assumption was she was divorced. What if her assumption was that you knew the score? Or that at the bare minimum that she wasn't with him any longer? And yet, you STILL avoid & deflect direct questions posed to you.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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But I'm still married! Posted: 4/8/2009 12:31:55 PM
And the more you post the more information is revealed. Some of which is quite telling about you. JMO YOU'RE beating a dead horse while she's riding off into the sunset on someone else's pony. REDUNDANT???? You did NOT discuss her marital status prior to engaging in sexual activity. JMO moronic idiotic loser? Maybe not but it appears you are displaying the manipulation characterisitics & word twisting play that often comes from someone who has to be right & controlling of the situation. Dysfunction junction. What's your function? Sing along. You know the words.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Talking during sex? Posted: 4/8/2009 12:17:12 PM
Hey! I've got an idea. You really wanna know how freaky this little hottie is? Next time she starts talking encouragingly to you tell her if she isn't quiet you're gonna have to spank her. I'll bet she talks more. Then you can tell her the only way you're gonna get her to be quiet is by shoving something in her mouth. Have fun brother. coitus should be fun. Make a game of it. tell her she's a dirty girl. Cuz she is. she wants to be and YOU like it that way. An attractive girl who's a lady on the streets and a freak in the sheets. You either don't deserve her or you're in way over your head. Just a personal side note- Very few women make me as moist as ~rain~ does. Come here bad girl. I'm gonna whisper in public what I'm gonna do to you when I get you home.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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But I'm still married! Posted: 4/8/2009 11:53:21 AM
This is ridiculous! Ship, you put yourself up for criticism by posting. You have to take the good with the bad. If you don't like it or cannot differentiate an intelligent comment from an insulting one than you may have bigger issues than her marital status. If it's a dealbreaker for you then move on. If you're questioning your decision then gather the input provided & make your own choice. But you still have refused to answer intelligent questions posed to you regarding your attempt @ simple communication. It sounds as if you made a somewhat snap decision about her without knowing all the facts. At least you haven't provided them here. My opinion is she's long gone anyway. Live & learn. But chastising others for giving their opinion that you solicited is just childish. It sounds as if you want some sort of validation for your superior choice/opinion. Sorry dude, you're not gonna get that here. We all don't think the same. Maybe an open mind sprinkled with a bit of compassion followed by a pause to process all the info would provide a better result. What sensibilities of yours are violated by her situation anyway? Does a government document supercede religious doctrine? Is a LTR only consumated with a marriage license? And yet, you hit it before you had the facts. Would you have refrained if you knew then what you know now? Why wouldn't an intelligent man such as yourself have asked about her marital status prior to bedding her? You knew she was married before you took her to bed but went off the word of anothers speculation. Next time, before you point that finger, take a long hard look at the three pointing back at you.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Anal Sex (Good for the Goose as it is for the Gander?) Posted: 4/8/2009 9:07:24 AM
FoxNews????? Can you see the sign carrying, protesting, religious right encircling an "Adult" store? I can I know nothing of FoxNews. I spend my time reading Nietzsche & the Enquirer simultaneously while QVC rambles on in the background. Broken up only by the occassional remote control jump to ESPN to catch up on what's really important and gratify myself with the visual aids of women's golf & the college cheerleading championships. Because free internet porn costs too much on an emotional level.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Anal Sex (Good for the Goose as it is for the Gander?) Posted: 4/8/2009 8:14:38 AM
Y'know, unless you're a 1 percenter on the financial food chain, we ALL as a collective have been figuratively been taking it up the a$$ for as long as we've been alive. Political humor aside I find it amusing that the people that are against anal sex are far & away the same people making judgements & character assassinations against those of us that say live & let live. Just because YOU believe something DOES NOT make it LAW of the land. I tend to think you're repressed. Probably in more ways than just sexual.Which makes perfect sense why you don't, won't or can't have anal sex. There's no more room with your head shoved so far up your a$$!!! But this post wasn't about anal sex persay but about the head games that a few of us have mentioned. And IMO those head games go far beyond anal sex but also to include using sex as a weapon or tool of manipulation. I'm sure that concept never crossed the mind of some of you that are anti-anal but freely show the pouty, semi-clad, overflowing cleavage pictures we've all seen on profiles here. NO you'll use those tools of seduction & attraction to garner a mate but have them mention a fantasy or an interest in anything outside your little mental boxes & you label them. I, for one, would much rather spend time with a woman with an open MIND & closed LEGS than vice versa. Because eventually once trust, respect, & honest open communication is established the LEGS have the capacity to open freely. Hypocrite b!tches. The soap box is open now. WOW I feel better. Have a nice day

Gregzky 98

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I might have gone too far ... now what? Posted: 4/6/2009 10:05:09 AM
I say quit thinking about it & COMMUNICATE. You're not afraid to go down on him but you are afraid to open your mouth to speak about it?? Does that seem odd to anyone else? Be strong girl. Speak up about your feelings. Let him know you like doing what you did but if he wants it again then he needs to be a man & not play games. Oh & a side note- closer2u, I think I'm falling madly for you. You & I. Bike week. Myrtle Beach. You in darlin'?

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

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Played it cool and 'NICE GUY' got in my way, but... Posted: 4/6/2009 9:46:00 AM
Nick, Quit WHINING!!! Geez. You've gotten decent advice here. Either take it or shut the F up. Ask her out again. Show her who you are. Quit talking the talk & start walking the walk. If you "like" her and want a relationship then STEP UP! Last I checked sex was a healthy part of a healthy relationship. Press her up against a wall & kiss her like you mean it. Take her breath away. But for God's sake man quit trying to analyze the thing to death. Be proactive. DO something about it or cut it loose. I'm now not convinced we're talking with the "played it cool" guy or if you aren't really "Mr. nice guy"

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 32 (view)

Anal Sex (Good for the Goose as it is for the Gander?) Posted: 4/6/2009 9:30:46 AM
Stereotypes & preconceived notions. If it feels good, DO IT. Keep an open mind I personally don't see where the woman is going to get her pleasure from while she bends me over & commands me to grab my ankles but I'm not into Dom/sub relations. But a little a$$ play is PLAY. You wanna test your endurance guys? Try sticking a vibrating bullet in her a$$ while you go at it. Or change it up & go buy a vibrating c@ck ring and tap that a$$. Just turn the vibrating part toward her vagina & let the fireworks fly. That actually prolongs me Some women have very intense orgasms from anal sex. And men can intensify theirs too with the proper stimulation. I say to each his own. Tongues, fingers, toys, small hand tools. Whatever gets your rocks off. Be safe. Have fun. Explore.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 9 (view)

Played it cool and 'NICE GUY' got in my way, but... Posted: 4/6/2009 8:56:26 AM
And this is exactly why you don't mix business with pleasure. But if you're gonna then I say TAP THAT A$$!!! The best you can do is take care of yourself. Give it to her good & let the chips fall where they may. Just don't get attached in the process. She'll decide what she wants to do for herself. This ain't rocket science. If she can't make up her mind then don't let it bother you. Or at least don't let it show and move on to someone that can make a decision. I'm all for happily ever after but it sounds like she's playin' you both. STEP UP! BE A MAN!

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Is this really what the dating scene is like? Posted: 3/28/2009 7:38:11 PM
You seem like a nice guy. I'll throw my two cents in. You're familiar with the saying "don't put all your eggs in one basket"? Seems to me that's what you've done. Better to keep your own options open until you decide you're ready for the next step. You made her your target. Your sole option & when you found out you weren't her only option it hurt & you reacted in a way you regret. Live & learn. Have you ever had a new toy that was just the greatest thing until you've worn the "new" off of it? The hottest new game?Your first car? Your weapon? It was the coolest thing & noone was allowed near it . I'd say your mentality towards women is similar.(I could be wrong) But what you're feeling is not love. It's lust. It's a shiny new toy that brings about those feelings. It's a rush. You're online. Keep talking with more than one woman. It helps to bounce back & forth with one you just talk to & one you feel more strongly towards. In different stages of relationship development. Just because you're social doesn't make you a player. But try not to cross that line either. That way you don't put all your eggs in one basket. Does that make sense? Plus, if it's ok for you to see more than one person at a time. And it is. Then shouldn't it be ok for her too? BTW, THANK YOU for your service.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 97 (view)

How long should sex last? Posted: 3/28/2009 5:58:40 PM
OK call me Captain Obvious but shouldn't the answer be forever? How long SHOULD sex last? Forever. How long DOES sex last? About the amount of time for a long commercial break. Followed by a sandwich & a 4 hour nap. So if I'm really going to show my age I'll refer to the old show Laverne & Shirley. Anybody remember that one? I'll use their technique to tasting beer for MY description of good sex. Sip, Swirl, Suck, Swallow. I think that about covers it. BTW, the next time you drink beer like that.......Think of me. I only wish I could be as studly as some of the men here claim to be. I know it's a dating site but far & away the most common thing a woman wants (by her comments) is honesty. So let's be honest. I'm gonna do all I can to make sure she gets hers. As many as she needs. Once she's satisfied, or well on her way, then I start to think about me. BUT sometimes it's like how many licks to the center of a Tootsie roll pop. ONE, TWO, THREE.gunk. Wow. Thanx baby that was great.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

Women & Sex Posted: 3/28/2009 5:20:56 PM
OMG!!!! Please. Somebody help DaManLuh. I thought for sure he was being sarcastic but then I looked at his profile. I had to come back & post. It was like a bad car wreck. You don't want to acknowledge it but you just can't help yourself. Somebody back me up on this before my belief in humanity is completely destroyed. You poor kid. There's this thing called the ENGLISH language. You may have heard people using it before. You should try it. How your belief system in what real women want became so askewed is beyond me. But before anyone or anything can help you'll have to acknowledge that there may be a better or different way of looking at things. I'm slightly shocked at the decline of the fringes of society. But before I go. I just can't resist. Did you get the big floppy shoes to go with that costume? Did you take your nose off for the picture? Is that one of those cars that you can pack like 50 clowns in? How do they do that? Thugged out look in polka dots? I have no words to describe my feelings. Can we start this kid his own forum page? PLEASE.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

Being the sexual aggressor Posted: 3/28/2009 10:06:06 AM
Alright. How about some sexual food for thought. Maybe (probably IMO) you have different sex drives. While still relatively young you are going to have a higher sex drive. OH how that will change as you get older. Over a lifetime you will achieve a certain amount of balance if you will. Secondly, as you stated before , communication is key. Not only that you want her to initiate but why. Lastly, try a different approach. For example, seduce her into seducing you. Be the perfect gentleman, take care of the little things. Her wish is your command type of thing. But with all your charm & no outward expectations. Then, while letting her know you're receptive, let her build to the point that she just has to have you. Do you have the discipline to build the sexual tension but allow her to act on it first? If you do then you can thank me later. BTW, this is common. We as men think about conquest more than women. It's genetic. Can't fight it. Just have to come to terms with it and work the system. Talk to your woman(no whining). She may find that more of a turn-on than you do.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 60 (view)

Women & Sex Posted: 3/27/2009 8:39:14 PM
I think someone needs a hug. ^^^^^ You can't change other people. But you can make changes to yourself. Things happen in everyone's life. The best advice I can give is to seek counselling. Take the time to really get to know yourself. It doesn't have to be sexual counselling. I would bet the issues that keep most of us from sustaining healthy relationships are not sexual but stem from within ourselves & not our partners. OP this is NOT a tragedy but an opportunity. Taking life as it comes can be frustrating & difficult. But trying to alter reality is futile & so much more painful. When you get your own issues on a path to health & well being then you can start to truly study human sexuality. All the info you'd ever need to be a wonderful lover is out there to be had. But even equipped with all that knowledge if you haven't handled your own personal issues it's really just wasted technique. Once you love yourself then you can love another & more importantly allow her to love you.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 926 (view)

To everyone: Men should rebell against women who have tatoos! Posted: 1/14/2009 8:17:03 PM
To everyone: People should rebel against illiteracy!!!! Spell check is a beautiful thing. Some tattoos are not attractive whether they be on men or women. And while you have the right NOT to like them, when opinionated asses like yourself run the country & dictate what I can or cannot put on my body I'll move to another country. Until then, those of us that have tats know what the rest of you think about it. Sometimes that's why we let them blaze. Some have called it mutilation. Some view it as self expression. Any tattoo artist will tell you the majority of tattoos are memorials. And who are YOU to say how I keep my memories. Lighten up. Tattooed people are like radio stations. If you don't like the tune then just change the station. BTW, Got any books you want us to burn???

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 320 (view)

Men who ride Harleys Posted: 1/14/2009 7:57:46 PM
LOUD PIPES SAVE LIVES!!!!! So I'll keep my 2 into 1 4 inch exhaust with the baffles removed. You can complain but I won't hear you. I like to drown out the imports with the bumble bee exhaust & stereos that rattle their own windows & decklids. Harley Davidson has had an active racing program since it's birth in 1903. They are the front runner in dirt track racing & NHRA drag racing. And have been so for years. Besides Ducati running road racing what do they do??? And I'd really like to pull up beside the ducati on my V-rod next to the guy who keeps b!tching about pipes. Bikes are cool because people think they are. But they are also economical & ALOT less polluting than the cars & trucks on the highway. Maybe you people should get your facts straight before you rant about something you're obviously clueless to. Now I know why I hang out with bikers. Not outlaws mind you. Just normal people who ride to live & live to ride. Lastly, I have just as much right to ride as you do to whine about it. Bottom line is people don't pay attention. Because it's a smaller vehicle you think you can bully us. But when we ride in packs you get the hell out of the way don't ya???

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

Is sex better with your FWB or in a relationship? Posted: 1/14/2009 6:09:42 PM
I think it would depend on the mental state of the individual. Whether they want that close connection with someone. But, for me, my preference is a LTR. I don't think any man or woman can truly experience all that sex has to offer when it's a casual thing. But I'm not opposed to a FWB until that special someone comes along. When the memories come flooding back of the sex I've had, the greatest & hottest experiences are always with someone I was involved with. No casual encounter rates in the top ten. Now if anyone wants to try & change my mind on this subject I'm willing to take a long, hard look at my position.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 30 (view)

Body Shapers, Pushup Bras, Tummy Tammers - Lying or looking good? Posted: 1/12/2009 8:12:33 PM
Isn't this a question of intent?? If you wear these things to feel better about yourself then go ahead. If you are doing it to look better to a potential mate then it's deceptive. But isn't the marketing of these items generally preying upon your own insecurities?? Or they're marketed toward the deception mentioned above. One thing is for sure from my point of view. It's a turn on to see an attractive woman. But it's a much bigger turn off to feel deceived when she unveils it all & she's sprawled out like an emergency life raft that someone just pulled the chord on. My last thought is this. Take the money that you would spend on these items & invest it in a gym membership or yoga or pilates classes. You'll end up feeling better about the person in the mirror in the process.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 50 (view)

No Sex on the First Date-Dealbreaker? Posted: 1/5/2009 6:25:01 PM
I kinda agree with Jamie (mssg 47) on this one. Isn't the old addage-a woman knows if she wants to sleep with you in the first five minutes?? So, 10 minutes into the first date you can ask if she thinks there will be any sex in the foreseeable future. That should work. Or you could keep it in your pants & concentrate on getting to know one another. Remember "There's something about Mary"? Yeah? OK so quit going out with a loaded gun. Maybe I'm too old fashioned. I'd like to think that there's someone out there for me that wants to kiss me passionately. Maybe roll around on the couch. Fog up some windows. Fight with that unfamiliar bra strap. Keep a little mystery in it. Let the suspense build over time. Don't get me wrong, I love the crazy 1st date animal sex. But I like the deeper connection more. I don't want to play games to get a piece every week. And I'd like to know that my woman is giving it to me & no one else. Are these concepts really that outdated??? Plus how do you ever experience true seduction if all you're interested in is hitting it as hard & as fast as you can? No sex on the first date??? OK. You didn't think I was really that easy anyway did you ladies???

gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 43 (view)

Asking about Jail is an inappropriate question? Posted: 12/28/2008 8:44:46 AM
This is funny. I found the post & the responses quite amusing. From what I can tell on this site most people are looking for a hook up anyway. And alot of women are interested in bad boys so maybe this a qualifying question of a different sort. The insincerity, dishonesty & judgment is really a turn-off. Statistically people go to jail for 2 reasons- domestics or drugs. Let me quantify that a little. Drug related offenses top the list easily. Lie, cheat, steal, beat, batter & kill to get drugs or money for drugs. Domestics usually involve alcohol or drugs that assist in the escalation of violence toward the people that are closest to us @ the time. My concern is the judgment that seems to come from the people that are asking. Yeah I've been in jail. So what? You haven't? Guess what? You're the minority. Prison is a different story. That's real time for real crime. Maybe you should put yourself in their shoes before you ask. Or take the advice on how to ask. It's possible there are extenuating circumstances. Everybody has a story. But the funniest thing is to expect a real criminal to be honest with you about it on a website. You ask & they tell you what you want to hear.

gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 13 (view)

General question Posted: 12/3/2008 9:23:25 PM
Well, I hate to sound judgmental but, that sounds like a question that comes from an insecure, juvenile man that when you finally reject him for some other reason can pass judgment on you to make himself feel better. There is no good answer to that question and why anyone would want to put hisself through that kind of self induced mental torture is beyond me. Plus you put yourself in a lose/lose situation. Why would you want to be with anyone that would put you in that position? If he's made you uncomfortable now what will the future bring? SO, What's so funny 'bout Peace, Love, & Understanding?

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

A blow job never does the job ! Posted: 10/27/2008 7:46:28 AM
Happens alot more than you think. But now we men should be able to understand or at least empathize with women on how difficult it is for them to climax doing certain things. Could be a mental block going on too. If she's willing, have sex till you're ready to blow and have her finish you off. If you've never cum in a woman's mouth than you may be hesitant to do so. Getting that first one out of the way may be just the ticket. Could be technique. Lots of ways to fix that. Check out your local bookstore or some of the instructional porn tapes. But I like the dirty talk. Just get nasty with it. You to her. Her to you while she's doing it. When you have no doubt what she wants then the people pleasing side kicks in and VOILA!

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Premature Ejaculation Posted: 10/27/2008 7:33:25 AM
You got good responses here. But I disagree with having him masturbate beforehand. No pun intended. That would open the door for new issues. How about you take care of him first and get that quick one out of the way. Cuz I agree, Second rounds are alot of fun. There are desensitizing creams and condoms that can be tried. A healthy body helps with healthy sex so yoga, working out regularly, and even a little tantra are all good thoughts. Bottom line is this, if it matters to him then he'll follow the suggestions. If it doesn't, he won't. Show up with the info in hand. Tell him "This doesn't bother me but I know it does you so I did some homework for ya" and give him all the tricks of the trade. Then let him know you're willing to practice til perfect. If that's not inspiration I don't know what would be.

Gregzky 98

Joined: 10/19/2007

Msg: 27 (view)

Make it Quick, Are you almost done ??? Posted: 10/27/2008 7:05:58 AM
OK here's a thought. How about you don't concern yourself with getting yours? How about you concentrate solely on her? Give her one orally. Then maybe one or 2 more with vaginal penetration. Slowly. Teasingly. Don't bang it like a bass drum. Then when she's satisfied, you just curl up and go to sleep together. She'll pay you back. And the way that she looks at you and talks to you will let you know if you're doin it for her. If she's really being selfish and unfeeling you'll know it. But if you want to "feel" like a king than you have to "behave" like a king. If you can outlast her then you have to accept the good with the bad. And sometimes it ain't all about you. One last thing, spell check is a beautiful thing.

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