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kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 318 (view)

Why Are Over 45 Men In Love With Motorcycles? Posted: 5/21/2009 10:24:41 PM
It's not just men - I love them too! Plan to get another one this fall and will definitely post that pic :)

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Do men and women really enjoy wet sloppy kisses? Posted: 5/21/2009 10:21:35 PM
Who said french kissing has to be sloppy? Sorry, but that's just gross .... no one wants to be slobbered on. This actually did happen to me once - yukkkkkk .. I had to let that one go quick !

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 43 (view)

Girlfriends mom living with her forever... Posted: 5/20/2009 7:42:33 AM
You and she just don't want the same things - that's REALLY obvious. Has more to do with that than it does with Mom ..... So be honest and tell her this in the most caring way you can; you do seem to care for her, so be kind and let her decided if this is what she wants. I really do empathize with her because I am in a similar situation in choosing to be home to help and take care of parents and the family home now. Like you though, I want a really great, monogamous relationship that is long term, (trust, love, and all that gooey stuff) LOL And like you said --- I don't want to live together or get married (for many reasons). Seems this is almost impossible to find so I'm not knocking myself out trying to find it - if it's meant to be, it'll happen. It sure would be fantastic!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Why are women over 40 so desperate to get married? Posted: 4/22/2009 11:44:30 PM
Wow, I can't say that I know anyone in my age group that WANTS to get married again, including me. The trick now is to separate the ones who want no commitment at all from what I and most others I know are looking for - a really terrific, long term relationship. That's what really hard to find ----

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 57 (view)

Death - Fear or Acceptance? Posted: 4/22/2009 11:32:42 PM
Twice in my life I have been told to "get my affairs in order" due to medical issues ... Well, I'm still here :) I truly believe that dying is simply returning "home" and I look forward to that when its my time. I have to agree with some posters here that I am not looking forward to some of the more painful methods of exiting ..... wanna go quietly in my sleep!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 53 (view)

Trusting again Posted: 4/13/2009 10:55:41 PM
Short story on trust - My late hubby knew (without being told), that he would need to prove himself to me as far as trust was concerned. He knew it instinctively. Know what? He didn't mind doing that and said so ..... and prove himself he did! He knew when he met me that he wanted to marry me so he set about making that happen. If someone really cares enough and for the right reasons, they will invest the time and effort to make those negative thoughts go away. It's surprising that when they're truly genuine in their intentions, it doesn't take long :) It works as long as you are both doing this for one another .....

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 163 (view)

When to mention s*x in letters..? Posted: 4/13/2009 10:39:32 PM
wow ..... NEVER in a letter, only in person with someone you were dating seriously. That is just icky ......... If someone were to start talking about sex in the e-mail stage, I would put a halt to that relationship QUICK. It is not refreshing, nor is it honesty .... it says to me that you are looking to get laid, not form a relationship with that person. Sex is a terrific thing, but I want to get to know them as a person first, before anything physical. How can you otherwise make any sound choices on whether or not you are compatible enough to go the sexual level (long term relationship)?

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 151 (view)

who takes the first step? Posted: 4/13/2009 10:24:08 PM
I tried to do this and got the same treatment also so I don't anymore. Many men on these sites are not really here for a relationship and that's OK :) I enjoy the forums alot; and I am also not a lonely person and have a full life now. Adding someone to the equation would be a bonus to my life, but not a necessity. Still, I don't entirely discount the possibility of meeting someone - anything is still possible and how kewl would that be?

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Is acceptance a thing of the past? Posted: 4/13/2009 10:14:59 PM
And what is so wrong about this man - at any age - deciding that he still wants sex in his life? I say good for him and wish him all the best

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 72 (view)

Do You Tell Your Parents Who (or if) You're Dating? Posted: 12/14/2008 7:19:48 AM
ROFL I don't know! Just the way it is I guess .... hehehe I have learned to accept that and work around it. Peace

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Is there a REASON to marry after 45? Posted: 12/14/2008 7:16:21 AM
These days, marriage is a serious legal liability that sticks with you for the rest of your life, regardless of whether the relationship sticks with you. Well said sir. Once you mix your household with another person, with or without the marriage certificate - you stand to lose everything if that person so chooses.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Do You Tell Your Parents Who (or if) You're Dating? Posted: 12/10/2008 2:31:55 PM
Aren't ALL parents like this? LOL I tell my parents VERY little about what I do. I really don't want to hear the hysterical "NO you CAN'T!!! " thing that is the first thing I hear. They worry about you always .... cause they love you - ??? Well of course they do, it just isn't good to hear that every time you want to do something .... Peace

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 75 (view)

HELP - How is this done? Posted: 12/10/2008 2:26:38 PM
If he doesn't call, he isn't interested ... PERIOD. Never chase men - if they want to talk to you, they will. If they don't, your calling them is only an irritant and won't help. Too many other people out there who ARE interested to waste any time on someone who isn't.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Is there a REASON to marry after 45? Posted: 12/10/2008 2:18:50 PM
The ONE reason of course is the Moral / Religious requirement some people have, but barring that, are there really any reasons to marry? In a word ...... NO

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 173 (view)

The Longer You Go Without Posted: 12/10/2008 2:08:16 PM
When I was younger, I thought being alone would be the worst thing ever. But now that I am older and alone now, the thought of a relationship is cause for shuddering and stomach pains. It's because I grew up and got over this childish state of mind. Deciding to stop dating and stop getting involved with other people is not sad when you finally figure out that there's hardly anyone who is worth putting up with after sex - LOL - sorry but it's true. The most freeing thing in the world is when you discover that you ARE enough, and are much happier without the constant chaos of looking for someone to make you happy. You realize that you ARE happy just with YOU. With that realization, you also discover what real control over your life is. and that you REALLY don't miss any of it. Even better when you make this discovery while you are young enough to really enjoy your life! Peace

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 131 (view)

People, of our age, alone...what do our pets say about us? Posted: 10/28/2008 8:37:35 AM
LOL ok. Having a dog says you have time to devote to it since dogs need alot of personal time and attention. Having a cat says you are a fairly busy person (me) who doesn't have the time necessary for a dog or any other attention-intensive pet. That's why I have always preferred cats. I like dogs, but having one would not be fair to the dog. I love all animals but want one I can care for properly - physically and emotionally. Beyond that and basically personal preference (some people dislike certain animals), choice of pet doesn't denote any personality type.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 176 (view)

Proper ladies don`t go out alone! Posted: 10/28/2008 8:26:26 AM
Fyi for those people who think a wedding band will keep away unwanted attention - The most "bad" attention I ever received was when I WAS married LOL Don't ask me why that is, but unless you are looking for a one-niter with no strings, this is not a good approach! Just a little advice from someone who has had the experience of ducking people all night who thought a the wedding ring was a turn on!!! :)

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 175 (view)

Proper ladies don`t go out alone! Posted: 10/28/2008 8:20:50 AM
I go out alone alot, mostly to karaoke events, but I DO have rules and I stick to them. The biggest rule is that if I went by myself that is how I leave .... no picking up anyone EVER. I buy my own always, never accept anything bought by a stranger. I am friendly to people in general, but not so friendly as to create any false impression that I might leave with, or that I might be attached to them in any way - drunks get weird ideas sometimes ..... cuts way down on problems. I don't think this is too "closed". I go because I love to sing and it seems to make people happy!!!! I don't drink so a bar is not a good place for me to meet dates

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Do You Ever Really Wonder? Posted: 10/28/2008 8:06:45 AM
Having discovered a long time ago that people near me on this site are not really here to meet anyone ... LOL (It's really ok people, not a complaint!) I like to come here for the forums because I find that reading what other people think is quite interesting. Posting what I think from time to time is fun

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 10/28/2008 7:23:18 AM
I don't think it's "jaded" to be cautious about who you let into your world, not at all. We have all met and trusted people who were liars, thieves, cheats. etc; many who are very good at their craft and fool the best of us. There is little defense again a good liar, we all know. Being cautious applies even more so if you have children who will be in the mix. Being cautious is not jaded in any way. It's the ones who AREN'T cautious that worry me LOL. Tells me they haven't grown up or learned anything in the way of discernment (scary). As far as waiting for the other person to make the first move, I personally wait for the man to do so because this is how I was raised, and have found through experience that Mom was right. Chasing men only gives them the wrong idea (at least here in the Midwest). Yes, men here still believe that a woman who makes the first move is less than a lady and will treat you accordingly - even in the year 2008 when we are supposed to be so "enlightened" Men, for the most part, are still in the 50's when it comes to that here, even the well-educated ones. Sad but true.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 133 (view)

Giving out my phone #? Posted: 9/2/2008 12:02:05 PM
I know it's a bit of a risk in giving your phone number to a virtual stranger, however, I find that I find out ALOT by talking to a person over the phone before I meet them in person. I'm positive it has saved alot of drama to screen them on the phone before putting myself out there bodily ....

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 188 (view)

Men over 45 and facial hair Posted: 9/2/2008 11:53:44 AM
Facial hair that is neatly trim and well cared for is seldom ever a bad thing

kclady

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Mismatches: Marriage Minded People Pick Commitment Phobics And Posted: 9/2/2008 11:50:30 AM
People who want a serious relationship don't just "pick" commitmentphobes. The commitmentphobes are, many times, dishonest about who they really are, preferring to let the serious minded figure it out on their own .... Some people lie, plain and simple, to get whatever it is they want. No rocket science there!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 186 (view)

Is intelligence a key characteristic for you? Posted: 9/2/2008 11:39:28 AM
I don't ask for much book learning smarts as much as I require the person to have good common sense and the ability to make good decisions in life. Have seen ALOT of college grads who don't have either of those things.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 200 (view)

You've been THIS long without sex, why is it still a solid requirement? Posted: 9/2/2008 11:35:04 AM
It just depends on the people involved. Personally I could be happy either way if I truly cared for the person. I seriously dated a man who was impotent due to prostate cancer and I can say it was one if the best relationships in my life ......

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 160 (view)

What Would Compell You To Marry After Age 45? Posted: 9/2/2008 11:14:28 AM
"Why not keep your own place and just date exclusively?" My sentiments exactly

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 170 (view)

Get a grip of the reality of your age Posted: 8/10/2008 11:29:20 AM
I don't quite understand being neurotic about how old you are. I love every age I have been; have never been ashamed or thought I should try to look younger. I will be 45 in two weeks and think it's great!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 75 (view)

What grabs your attention? What makes you stop reading Posted: 8/10/2008 11:22:58 AM
Profiles ... What makes a profile interesting? Funny and clever! I have a wicked sense of humor so that in another person is attractive <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> Music lover<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> Positive and happy! Sometimes sarcasm can be great too depending on the meaning <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> A good pic = It's an honesty thing. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> A profile that has realistic expectations on who and what they are looking for <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> What makes me stop reading - Too long or too short ... Please have something real to say. Your poetry might be good, but it's kind of personal to post to strangers on a dating site isn't it? For the ones that grunt out one sentence, you really should have more to say than " I can't think of what I should put here" LOL Pics of your kids on your profile - If you need to be told why this is a bad idea, I'm not going to waste my time. <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> Description of your date sounds like Christie Brinkley <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> Bad pics or half naked pics .... LOL Obvious you are looking for one thing only; and no, I am not impressed I am not too impressed with group pics either. Who is looking, you or them? Mean profiles -- They on here. What ever made you think that might be attractive to anyone?????

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

Are people REALLY as romantic and mushy as their profile states? Posted: 7/30/2008 8:49:52 AM
Lordy I HOPE not , ick!

kclady

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Msg: 83 (view)

Spin off Shallow Men: BBW Admirers or FA's Posted: 7/30/2008 7:00:22 AM
Hi all! First, kudos to BBW ladies who don't the rudeness get to them. I am not a BBW, however, after being laid up several months from an injury last year, I put on a few lbs, which I am now in the process of losing ... Well I have had some rude comments! I am astounded by the shallowness of some men! But, I look at it as a good way to weed them out

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 68 (view)

OK- this was just RUDE, and gasp I'm offended!!!!! Posted: 7/29/2008 6:55:44 PM
I agree what she said was really pathetic, but you should learn to be more amused at people's behaviour than offended ...... less stressful and makes life more enjoyable

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Do you think there should be laws against people who trick you into sexual encounters! Posted: 7/28/2008 1:26:09 PM
Ummmmm ---- just HOW does one get tricked into having sex ???? Sorry that one don't fly

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 209 (view)

Why would anyone want to date you? Posted: 7/28/2008 1:00:20 PM
LOL this is not a question I had really considered, but here goes .... I am 45 years old. This means that I do not look 20 anymore, but am still nice looking, with most people guessing me 5-10 years younger than I am. Not too bad! YES all my pics are recent within the last week or so. I am funny, hard-working, great cook, SANE with good common sense. Most of the time I have excellent people radar equipped with state of the art WaddyaWant meter. I am fairly frugal with money (cause there isn't alot of it). I know right from wrong and I well known to do the right thing, not the easy thing. I have NO DRAMA and don't allow any. I don't do drugs and seldom ever drink. I am NOT rich, college-educated, or a bedhopper. I need do to lose about 20 lbs due to an accident last year which cause me to be laid up for a few months ... am working on this and have lost a size already. It will happen :) Any guy that holds this against me ... well ... nuff said. I am talented, musical, creative, and most of all - I am happy! Cheers!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 83 (view)

Do you think this is creepy? Posted: 7/28/2008 12:35:06 PM
OK I will say it .... Freebird78, if someone makes you feel uncomfortable in ANY way, PLEASE listen to that, not these other people that want to talk you out of what your gut tells you. There really are weirdos out there, so pay attention to those feelings, be safe, and keep Cheers!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Am I too intolerant? (BA-BOOM, BA-BOOM) Posted: 7/27/2008 11:09:16 PM
ROFL!!!! No, you are not intolerant. Used to be there was a thing called a noise or nuisance ordinance and they wouldn't allow people to force their noise on you. I don't know what ever happened to that, but they need to enforce it again. It drives me nuts too.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Do women need to work at it harder after 45? Posted: 7/27/2008 11:03:20 PM
There has always been the double standard at every age, the difference is now that I have discovered quite some time ago that I don't need to impress anyone. If someone likes me and wants to go out, great! If they don't, I go on and don't give it a second thought. I am happy with my life and don't feel the need to run after anyone or change for anyone else. I am 45, and I don't look 20 anymore ..... but I am happy, and I am ENOUGH!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 239 (view)

Do men like it when women contact them first? Posted: 7/27/2008 10:54:36 PM
I tried doing that here, but found the men don't take you seriously, or get the wrong idea. Yep, guys are STILL in pretty much the same mindset as they were years ago. It hasn't changed. I wait for them to contact me now .............

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 30 (view)

Childless men Posted: 7/27/2008 10:22:41 AM
You are not a failure, things happen the way the happen, thats all. Your girlfriend, however, is the most deceitful and hurtful for doing that behind your back. If there was a good reason for not having the child (medical problem, etc) at least she could have been honest. Sorry I can't stand liars. I think fathers in most situations have the right to a say in things.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 75 (view)

Never married female, no children, early 40's - what's wrong here? Posted: 7/27/2008 10:17:16 AM
Defend your life ??????????????????? Wow. I am 45, and never had kids. When asked, I simply say I have never been able to have them, end of explanation. When I get to know them better down the road, I will explain the whys and wherefores, but until then, it's really none of their business. You do NOT need to "explain" your life. It is what it is, they can accept it OR ------ LOL

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Money spent on dinner dates Posted: 7/27/2008 10:12:01 AM
Good for you outofthedesert! I feel the same way. I have always made it a policy to pay for my OWN dinner until I know the gentle VERY well, and there is a real relationship. After that, I will pay about every other time if I can. I am not an "eat out alot" type of person, so I enjoy cooking; even more if we cook the meal together. On the occasion that he wants to cook for me, I sit back and relish that too.!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Vets with scars Posted: 7/27/2008 10:01:34 AM
Absolutely not, and G'd bless our veterans for keeping us safe!

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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Men that say Never Again Posted: 7/27/2008 9:58:57 AM
It is not just the guys who get raw deals in divorce court these days. I know from first-hand experience. I have not given up on finding the right person, but marriage is not something I would consider again because there are too many automatic financial losses associated with divorce, losses on both side, depending on how the judge feels that day. Because many laws on property division now include domestic partnerships, I would not consider living with anyone without a signed property division agreement, and always separate financial arrangements "Never the money shall mingle" Love is a wonderful, amazing, overwhelming, beautiful, crazy, marvelous thing and I look forward to having it again in my life someday. I just plan to be smarter and protect myself and all that I work so hard for. I don't see anything wrong with that at all

kclady

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Msg: 45 (view)

My future stopped overnight! Posted: 6/30/2008 3:32:46 PM
So sorry to hear .... I think this person wanted out, for whatever reason. Mom has a saying - you can't miss something that never existed. Sounds like you are sad for someone that never truly was .... Mourn -- then be glad you found out now! I hope you get over him and move on with your life, and wish you the best

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 314 (view)

Over 45 Men, How should we dress? OK Ladies fire away! Posted: 3/3/2008 6:32:44 AM
Men - be clean and dressed in clothing that match and is not worn out (no holes, etc). That all I ask. Nothing more unattractive than a man who looks like a rag. Jeans or pants with a nice shirt is all that is required. Only other thing I ask is PLEASE no cologne !!!! Soap is the best smell - any other smell-goods sends my nose into a tizzy lol PS - if you are bald .... BE bald! If you have gray in your hair .... it's great! Please no comb-overs, Grecian formulas, etc. Be yourself!

kclady

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What if your daughter brought home her BF who is 25 years older than her? Posted: 1/20/2008 4:43:48 PM
I have been the daughter in this scenario. My parents were very gracious to him and never treated him badly. When it ended, they quietly brought their pick-up and helped me me move ....

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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I don;t want sex or a date! Posted: 1/20/2008 4:32:48 PM
If your discontent is sincere and you're really tired of it all why not simply remove your profile then? From where you sit this might be the way it appears which could be due the perspective formed instead of actuality. There are probably many women who don't blame the internet for people being fools----they were in abundance well before this !! I considered removing my profile altogether, however, I do enjoy the forums so they are the only reason that I still log on.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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I don;t want sex or a date! Posted: 1/20/2008 6:36:28 AM
Please, PLEASE PLEASE do NOT fall into this jaded view of men----it's truly one of the more unattractive things any woman can exhibit. It might be true from some men but it's hardly the only thing you encounter trying to date or meet people via ithe internet. Sorry you feel it's jaded. Unfortunately this is the truth from where I sit, and many other ladies as well, and does seem to be more prevalent online, although it occurs alot in real life too. It has gotten very old very fast, and I no longer have any wish to become involved again. I am sure I am not the only one ...........

kclady

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People who still live with their parents. Posted: 1/20/2008 5:43:12 AM
It depends a great deal on WHY they are living at home. Are they taking care of their parents? I will be moving back home for this reason, and have several friends now that are doing this as well. My dad is 74 and retired ... Mom is 68 and just retiring so the income drop is going to necessitate my moving home. I think this is the right thing to do, the only thing to do. They raised me, took care of me when I was growing up, and when I was sick even as an adult. Our family has always taken care of it's own people. I can remember my parents taking care of both sets of their parents (my grandparents) while holding down full-time jobs, and raising us kids. I have also known people who do not ever seem to be able to leave the nest. Those people I DO wonder about, and no, I would never date one of those, but neither would I ever date someone whose idea of caring for the parents was to stick them in a nursing home when they got to be seniors.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

Msg: 47 (view)

taking care of your parents Posted: 1/20/2008 5:24:53 AM
I am going to be moving back home in the next 2 months to take care of mine. Mom is retiring, so income will be cut in half. I am moving there to make sure the family home stays intact and that bills are paid there. I don't mind at all doing this, and really welcome being able to spend this time with them.

kclady

Joined: 5/17/2005

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I don;t want sex or a date! Posted: 1/20/2008 4:24:27 AM
Sassi What IS wierd is the number of girls who assume that, because a guy wants sex, then he doesn't want anything else but sex and that he only wants it for one night. Ummm, his is one of the reasons I stopped dating .... LOL it's largely true, esp on these dating sites. I found most of these guys are married or attached and just looking for something on the side. Get used to it. I am actually grateful that I no longer have the free time to even consider dating .... way too much drama for me

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