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tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 76 (view)

Bad experience with pets Posted: 7/3/2009 9:38:03 AM
I don't date people who sleep with animals! Problem solved. I don't think the horses will be as territorial. However, you don't sound like you know much about horses. They are to be respected but try not to show your fear, they will sense it. Just keep in mind that they can bite and kick, even with their front hooves. No sudden movements! Read up on horse behavior. Do your homework! Offer them treats, (ask your friend what they like and come armed). Pet them and stroke their nose, mane or neck... act like you like them!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 39 (view)

punctuality and doing what you say Posted: 7/3/2009 9:32:10 AM
While I have been known to be late, due to the fact that I get extremely nervous when going anywhere, I do have the decency to call if I'm going to be more than 5 or 10 minutes late. And if my plans change, I would surely let the person know, and give a good reason, of course. It's just plain inconsiderate not to, and really, you don't want to be with someone who does not consider other people's feelings. As far as 'Not doing what you say", well, that is a form of lying, and sooner or later, when a person does this, you start to NOT believe anything they say, which does not make for a good relationship. If a person does you this way, RUN!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 281 (view)

You're in a relationship, but you have a profile on POF just for the threads? Really? Posted: 7/3/2009 9:01:47 AM
Yes, really! I've had a profile on here since 2004. I have been in and out of relationships since then, and change my profile accordingly. If you will notice, there is a forum specifically for relationship issues. It is very helpful to go there when you are in a relationship and having problems. And peole DO make friends here.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 184 (view)

Is it racism when.... Posted: 7/3/2009 8:49:36 AM
Some people are attracted to people more like themselves, some people are attracted to people way different than themselves. It doesn't hurt to state your preference, however, you didn't have to mention the Asians. You could just say what you ARE looking for.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 53 (view)

Self-Conscious about Lips down there~ Posted: 7/3/2009 8:38:25 AM
I think you are worrying too much. We're all different. There is no cut mold on how a woman's vagina looks. If a man loves you, he will love your vagina! Penises come in all shapes and sizes and lean in one direction or the other. If you are going to dump a man because one of his balls hangs lower than the other, you may as well just give up now!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 53 (view)

Define Financially Secure Posted: 3/3/2009 8:30:43 AM
I think that financially secure means that you were already being a big boy and taking care of yourself before I came into your life. You were supporting yourself, had a steady job and reliable transportation, and could afford to take me out on a real date. I'm doing good to take care of myself and my son. I don't need an adult to take care of or to worry about the stress of wondering if you're gonna get a job, get your life straight, get on your feet, etc. I need a man who can carry his own weight and help me out a little if need be. . . somebody I can depend on. And also, somebody who is a good role model for my child. Of course, there are plenty of women out there that are very financially secure and can afford to have a 'kept man' and don't mind it if said man is doing them favors and enriching their lives. Those are probably the women who do NOT have 'must be financially secure' on thier profiles.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 53 (view)

The logic of the dinner date Posted: 3/3/2009 8:05:43 AM
First of all, there are a lot of guys out there that like a curvy woman with a little meat on her bones... something to hold on to! LOL! And, if you are dieting, then just order something that's good for you; The grilled chicken breast and a side of veggies and salad maybe. The dinner date is still the best way to get your partner's full attention and some actual eye to eye talk time. Anywhere else... movies, concerts, clubs, ice skating, horseback riding, outings with friends, even watching TV at home... you really don't get in the serious, "I want to know more about you" mode.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 19 (view)

Should I expect a thank you after paying for the meal, etc.? Posted: 3/3/2009 7:58:54 AM
It's all about manners and appreciation. Whether somebody totally paid your way or not, I believe you should always say something nice. For instance," I had a great time!", or "Thank you for taking me. It was so much fun!"

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 226 (view)

why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 3/3/2009 7:52:57 AM
I have on my profile that I am just looking for friends. I am in a serious relationship. If someone messages me, I thank them for the compliment, say that it's nice to meet them, and tell them I am taken. Then, I go back to the FORUMS!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 225 (view)

why do people stay on POF after meeting someone? Posted: 3/3/2009 7:48:07 AM
THEY COME FOR THE FORUMS! Even after you are in a relationship, you can still come here for relationship advise, sex advise, advise on how to deal with a blended family, etc.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 71 (view)

Who shoud initiate kissing/sex? The man or woman? Posted: 3/3/2009 7:18:39 AM
I don't think it matters, as long as it's obvious that you both want to kiss. However, you should not have to chase somebody down to kiss them, or pull them closer or hold them. If a person wants to be kissed or kiss, you will see it in the body language... getting close, gazing into your eyes, sweet talk, etc. ...You can figure it out!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 213 (view)

Would you date a man who wore makeup? Posted: 3/3/2009 7:04:26 AM
I think it's ok, unless it's really obvious, like touch-ups. It's a double standard. Women can wear pants and men's clothes and nobody thinks twice about it. Why should just the female population be able to hide their flaws? Wouldn't it be wonderful if the teenaged boys with acne could conceal it, without people making fun of their makeup? Hey, all the tough guys on TV wear it!

Tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 176 (view)

what if your soul mate is NOT financial stable Posted: 4/14/2008 9:32:16 PM
I think that when most people put in their profiles that they are looking for someone financially stable, they mostly just mean somebody with a steady income, with their own transportation, and somebody that was already taking care of themselves and being a big boy! Nobody wants to go into a relationship where they would be adopting a whole set of problems worse than the ones they already have. Everyone wants to get with someone who will improve their life and make it better... not worse!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 123 (view)

What is great sex Posted: 1/29/2008 11:07:17 AM
Great sex is when everything feels right, including emotions, and it is thoughtful, and both of you climax and feel totally satisfyed!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 70 (view)

does the internet make people more picky? Posted: 1/24/2008 8:23:48 PM
Since we have the space to write it down in black and white and a large audience, it doesn't hurt to ASK! I don't think that people expect that they will find someone with ALL thier perfect specifications, but with some luck, you'll get someone with SOME of the qualities you want!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 77 (view)

high sex drive, higher chance of cheating? Posted: 1/24/2008 6:47:32 PM
I believe that people with a high, or low sex drive should try to find someone sexually compatable. Yes, I do believe in the test drive! And I think it should be discussed. Sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, but in time, both, the one doing without AND the one being bugged about sex all the time, will start to resent the other. The sex fiend will probably stray, and the one with the low sex drive will probably find attraction with someone who stimulates thier mind.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 64 (view)

This is why Sex Should Always Be In the Bed.. Posted: 1/24/2008 6:21:54 PM
Well, it doesn't have to be in bed to be safer than a roof top! There is a lot of middle ground here! LOL!

Tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 28 (view)

Getting your rocks off via other peoples sex discussion Posted: 1/23/2008 8:38:11 PM
If all this sex talk is repulsive, then by all means, pick another topic! What are you even doing here? I find it to be a learning experience!

Tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 40 (view)

Sex at someone else's house... Posted: 1/23/2008 10:48:56 AM
I notice that a lot of the comments are referring back to when you were teenagers and having to sneak. However, we are both in our 40's, and nobody's sneaking, and yet, he still has a problem with it. I don't know how to deal with the fact that he feels so uncomfortable about it.

Tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

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Sex at someone else's house... Posted: 1/21/2008 9:29:31 AM
Msg. 10 - greenchair - I really enjoyed your response! That is pretty much the way I feel also! If the mood is right, and an opportunity presents itself, go for it! What I really need to know is, how do you deal with a partner that doesn't feel the same way?

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

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Sex at someone else's house... Posted: 1/20/2008 10:24:25 PM
Yes, I would definitely try not to make much noise, but as long as I have some privacy, I don't care where I am or who else is in the house. My boyfriend is uncomfortable with someone else in the house. I just wonder if anyone else has or has had this problem and maybe some advise.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 16 (view)

How much do you tell your friends about your sex life? Posted: 1/20/2008 10:10:49 PM
It would all depend on how much I trusted the person I was talking to.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

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Sex at someone else's house... Posted: 1/20/2008 10:03:56 PM
How would you feel about having sex at someone else's house? I mean, say you've been dating someone a while and one or the other of you lives in the house with your mother or grandmother... would any of you be too uncomfortable to have sex in a private bedroom with the door locked? How about if it's at someone's house where neither of you live, say, at his mother's house, out of town, for a weekend? Would you have sex there?

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 8 (view)

would you stop seeing someone soley based on sexual experiences early in a relationship Posted: 1/20/2008 8:42:00 PM
Well, I'm not a guy... but I'm typically nervous and not very outgoing in the sexual department at first. I think sex is very important, but it takes some getting to know each other first, for the sex to be great. I think that anyone who would stop seeing you just because the sex wasn't mind blowing, wasn't really interested in your personality or who you really are. I'd say they were just interested in sex and you are better off without them. If I was really into someone, and the sex was bad, or there were problems, I'd probably give it some time and see if things improved.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 166 (view)

My ex says I am a disgrace for being on an internet dating site Posted: 12/8/2007 3:36:34 PM
Yeah, I think that either he's a member with no picture, or he was at someone else's house checking the site out under their profile name. There's no disgrace in being on a dating site. I never go out and didn't figure Mr. Right was going to come knocking on my door! Besides, it's a great place to make friends and the forums are great fun and educational. My ex and I are both members. I actually told him about the site and helped him with his profile. And... I don't think our child will be traumatized by it! LOL! Don't let what he says bother you!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 48 (view)

Do women find a sensitive men a turn off? Posted: 12/6/2007 8:36:13 AM
Well, to start with, you can't lump all of us WOMEN in the same category! Some like tough guys, some like sensitive guys! I personally like a man that is not afraid to show his emotions and has a soft touch!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 246 (view)

How to dumb myself down? Posted: 12/6/2007 8:30:40 AM
You don't need to Dumb Down or try to be someone you are not. You need to find someone that is intellectually compatable. I'm no genius, and don't have any college degrees, however, I'm smarter than the average bear! LOL! I find it really difficult to even communicate with someone online that can't at least match my intelligence. If a man is any where near my age and can't spell or doesn't know the difference between dilute and delete, etc., then I just totally can't deal with it. Drives me crazy! However, I would be willing to date someone that I deemed smarter or more educated than myself, but I wouldn't want him to Dumb Down. I would want to try to learn to communicate on his level.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 63 (view)

Anyone else here scared about getting a STD? Or do you have one? Posted: 12/6/2007 8:11:31 AM
Yeah, it's scary as hell! Anyone who isn't afraid of STD's is an idiot! And like someone said, the amount of partners one has had, has nothing to do with the risk factor. One wrong choice is all it takes. And, you can't really look at someone and tell! Unless someone is having an outbreak, herpes is undetectable, as are some other STD's. Bad things sometimes happen to really nice people. I've been fortunate enough to NOT make the wrong choices, but I have a couple of friends that weren't so lucky! The only way to be sure is to have safe sex until some point when you totally trust the person, or the person gets tested.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 19 (view)

If a guy really loved you!!!!! Posted: 12/6/2007 8:04:40 AM
Lighten up! Porn has nothing to do with love! Maybe you should join in and watch some with him. It might spice up your sex life! LOL!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 18 (view)

C'mon baby, will u let me and 5 other men f@ck you? Posted: 12/6/2007 8:01:20 AM
I just have one more thing to say... Why are you even talking to this guy? You have expressed that you are not interested in the kind of sexual escapades he wants to engage in, you are not serious with him, and you are an attractive woman. You just totally don't have to put up with such as that!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 17 (view)

C'mon baby, will u let me and 5 other men f@ck you? Posted: 12/6/2007 7:53:23 AM
Would you or your g/f or b/f want to have a gang bang? How would you feel about that person if they did or had been in a gang bang before? Would this cause any resentment in the relationship towards each other in the future? How would you make sure the person was aware of your sexual fantasies/boundaries? First of all, you stated in your original post that you have dated this guy on and off and you are not dating anyone now. I take it you are just friends with benefits??? If you ARE going to do it, this would be the right kind of relationship to do it in. I say that, because the relationship has no real chance of being a committed, lasting one anyway. In answer to your questions: -No, I would not want to do it! There is not much chance of a lot of SAFE SEX going on in a gang bang!!! You would be risking a lot. (Physically AND Emotionally) -I would feel that, if a man I was with had done it before and still had the desire to do it again, that we would be totally uncompatable... as I feel the two of you are! -It WILL cause resentment if you are looking for something serious! -And the way to make sure he knows your boundaries is to COMMUNICATE! Tell him in no uncertain terms.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 72 (view)

Do plain looking people make better lovers than drop dead gorgeous people? Posted: 12/5/2007 8:43:21 AM
Looks have nothing to do with it! I'm good looking AND good in bed... and so is my boyfriend! LOL! Seriously, in my experience, it's not true!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 115 (view)

I usually date small, thin women, but I'm really attracted to YOU! Posted: 12/5/2007 8:35:51 AM
Well, he invited me to his mom's for Thanksgiving, and asked if he could put my name in the basket to draw names for Christmas. That screams 'Long Term Relationship' to me. Maybe I did over react. Maybe you Did over react. You do seem to have insecurity issues, which that statement did not help. Sounds like he is serious about you though. If he seems to be really attracted to you and is treating you good, I wouldn't worry about it any more. Good Luck!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 31 (view)

How was I?????? Posted: 12/5/2007 8:21:35 AM
Maybe he came so quickly because he was SOOOO into you! I'd have said, "Well, It was really good for about 15 seconds!" Seriously, if you are really into him otherwise, I'd give the sex a second chance!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 26 (view)

Can a Guy be just friends?? Posted: 11/27/2007 7:11:20 AM
I have several male friends in person, and several online. However, I think that this statement is probably true... Nope. Ladies ALL you male friends want to bang you, don't believe me? Then tonight call up any guy friend tell him you want to F his brains out and see if he says no. I'd be pretty shocked if I actually made a move on any of them and got turned down. However, I wouldn't do it, cause it would ruin the FRIENDSHIP!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 28 (view)

The sex sucked and the person you've been dating is... Posted: 11/27/2007 7:01:50 AM
You shouldn't even discuss the sex with this person, unless you want to try and make the relationship work. If you aren't feeling any chemistry and don't want to try, just let it go. Just say you don't feel a connection and leave it at that.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

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Spanked by your dad Posted: 11/24/2007 6:45:45 PM
Seventeen is way too old to be "spanked by your dad" and I really think that 15 is pushing it. And the fact that he threatened you in front of your boyfriend... totally inappropriate! I think that children should only be spanked until they are of the age that they can be reasoned with. At that time, they can be grounded or have privileges taken away. I think you need to tell your parents how you feel. I also think it wouldn't hurt to see a phycologist. You have some serious issues to work through, and you have to get past it to ever have a good relationship with them. Someday, they will be gone, and you will wish you had done something to fix this.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 17 (view)

How soon before u leave your kids with new bf/gf? Posted: 11/24/2007 6:25:58 PM
I'm way too paranoid! It would be a very long time, possibly after marriage!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 220 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 11/24/2007 6:20:47 PM
I really can't deal with it. It is one of my pet peeves! And you really can tell if it's just a typo or an occasional misspelled word, (we all do that from time to time, nobody's perfect). If someone is just uneducated or mentally challenged, you can tell that too, and if you are educated and smart, you are not going to be compatable.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 68 (view)

On Turning 40 (For ladies.) Posted: 11/24/2007 6:11:33 PM
I don't remember freaking out about it. I don't worry so much about my age. I am more concerned with my looks and my health.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 60 (view)

Do any WOMEN over 30 like house/techno/jungle/etc? Posted: 11/24/2007 6:08:50 PM
I'll always like dance music, and I love to dance. Hey, Madonna is 3 years older than me, and she just came out with a Dance Music album not too long ago!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 231 (view)

How can you predict sexual compatibility? Posted: 11/24/2007 6:00:12 PM
Well, I don't think any couple should rush into sex too soon. I have values and don't think people should just sleep around, but when you get serious about someone and are in a committed relationship, I think sex is ok. In this stage of my life, I would never marry someone without having sex with them first. It's not the MOST important thing, but it's high on the list. Would you buy a used car without trying it out???

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 86 (view)

Is alot of make-up sexy or the natural look better,what do all of you think????? Posted: 11/19/2007 6:38:35 PM
I think that most men aren't being honest if they say they want NO make-up, unless their woman has a flawless complexion and big beautiful eyes with full lashes and naturally bright pouty lips... That being said, I do believe that less is more. Just use the make-up to enhance your own natural beauty and to tone down your flaws, if you should have any! My boyfriend says I'm pretty without my makeup, but hey, I have a mirror... and believe me, I am a lot prettier with it ON! LOL!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 84 (view)

Sexual partners; Experience vs slut? Posted: 11/19/2007 5:54:24 PM
I don't think that having sex with lots of men gives you better experience than having a lot of sex with a few good men! Besides, do you find that they all want exactly the same thing??? My guess is NO! The longer you stay with one partner, the more you learn about what they want, and the more you can teach them what YOU want. Experiencing new things together is exciting!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 58 (view)

Do you think threesomes can ruin a relationship? Posted: 11/17/2007 1:05:34 PM
In general, I don't think it's a good idea, unless you are doing it with someone that you are not really that emotionally invested in. Possibilities... Sex, in any form, is very intimate, and can mess with your emotions. She could decide she's in love with the other woman, and leave you. Even tho she suggested it, she may later feel jealous. She could feel that if you accepted, it means you think she's not enough for you. YOU could fall for the other woman! If your relationship is a good one, I personally would be afraid to mess with a good thing. If you need more excitement, get some sex toys... oh, and they do make some very life like sex dolls! LOL!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 178 (view)

Have you ever written to someone without seeking a date? Posted: 11/16/2007 10:43:30 PM
Yes, I do. I'm not looking for a date. Sometimes I write to someone to answer a question they asked in a post on the forums, or to give them some advise if they asked for it. Or sometimes, if I really like someone's profile or photography, I will compliment them.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

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Would you have a relationship with a registered sex offender? Posted: 11/16/2007 10:33:36 PM
I would definitely stop all contact, and probably make sure everyone in the area knows about it.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 177 (view)

Are you old enough to be my dad? Posted: 11/12/2007 10:14:22 PM
Wow, a lot of people gave you a hard time didn't they... about your name, your message settings, etc. I don't think there is anything wrong with your name or profile. Nothing wrong with saying you're lonely, and well, the hottie thing is just obvious. I'm 45 and I get annoyed by all the same stuff. Although I have on my profile that I am just looking for friends, men who are way older than me, or who LOOK way older than me are constantly sending me messages asking me out. (of course, I get it from the way younger ones also!) LOL! It's not always all about age either. I think choosey people look for people with similar qualities... such as; If you are in great shape and don't even look your age, you are probably not going to go for someone who is out of shape and LOOKS like your Daddy, even if he is the same age as you. He wouldn't be able to keep up with you or do the fun things you wanna do. In other words... if you are a hottie and you know it, you're probably looking for a hottie too! If you are plain, or plain ugly... it's going to be really hard to find a hottie that is willing to take the time to get to experience your sparkling personality. It's a harsh world!

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 59 (view)

Girls, whats your view on red haired men?? Posted: 11/12/2007 8:50:01 PM
I'm no longer a girl, but I'm female... does that count? LOL! I don't think hair color makes that much difference... well, unless it's purple or pink! I think hair style, and nice facial features make more of a difference. I think you would look better if your hair was longer. But... I'm partial to collar length hair. JMO I had a long running relationship with a red head when I was younger.

tigress

Joined: 4/11/2004

Msg: 38 (view)

Is kissing a important part of intimacy??? Posted: 11/12/2007 8:40:07 PM
Wow! I don't even know how I would react to that. I have never been out with a guy that did not want to kiss me! I would probably take it personally, but after reading a lot of posts here, I see that kissing just isn't that important to some people. For me, I think it would be a deal breaker. He would definitely not get me into bed without some passionate kisses to warm me up!

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