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drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Do you ever get use to being single? Posted: 8/21/2008 2:10:36 PM
Yea, unfortunately you can get used to it. I'm single but,I'm not digging it as much as I used to.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Is there such a thing as a normal man?? Posted: 8/18/2008 10:03:01 PM
What constitutes the word "normal" to you? I'm a drummer so, naturually I'm quiet and laid back,I'd love to be as animated as Animal from the muppets.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Is it better to live in your memories, or to be making new ones? Posted: 8/7/2008 11:19:51 PM
making new ones for sure! But we all have old memories that we may never share w/ anyone else, Good or bad! You have no time to live in the past,life's too short. J.m.o.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Do You Believe It is Possible to Find Your Future Husband/Wife via Online Dating? Posted: 8/7/2008 11:11:55 PM
Anything can happen!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Am I wasting my time? Posted: 8/4/2008 6:38:47 PM
I dated a woman who was my real life version of the 40 year old virgin. She had gone through college and was very worldly. In fact when I met her she had just come back from living in Japan for 4 years. I thought she was pretty mellow but, I soon learned she was also very catholic. 2 weeks in to dating it was marriage,or split WTF? Then after that episode was avoided, she tells me" if your Daughter ever get's knocked up,she would leave me." So I broke down this new piece of info. So if my daughter get's pregneant,a time I might need a shoulder or advice,some kind of support,you would just leave at the same time?-YEP Then she demands I make her#.1 in my life...........UHHhh??? 3 day's later I moved to Pdx. I don't assign how important people are to me by numbers,letters,or any other sign. I see her around now and then,she only has 1 sign for me these days though.****ing Hostile!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Should this be a problem? Posted: 8/4/2008 5:55:16 PM
I would have a difficult time with this issue. I consider myself a spiritual person but,I don't subrscribe to a faith that is ready made. I've checked out other religions out of curiosity,and they all had one thing in common. They were trying so hard to instill guilt and fear.(Doomsday!) So I have my own cosmic ideas that I live by,some people need to lighten up! Maybe I need to lighten up?

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Instant Magic - anyone else find it? Posted: 7/27/2008 1:47:11 PM
Simple answer Nope!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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How to move on and not let the past show? Posted: 7/27/2008 1:44:22 PM
Our past's is what makes who we are today,you have to think internally. Try to discard some of what you don't need,and keep what you want. A 30 lbs. rock is'nt that heavy,carry it it around for a while days/weeks,etc. You have to learn when to put down the weight,and keep moving. The post from eastendwoman really hit's the nail dead on. Jmo.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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What Next? Man Caught Sodomizing Neighbor's Rottweiler!!! Posted: 7/24/2008 11:28:07 PM
Necrophelia is when someone has an obsession with human corpses! Either way it's Fuc**ng dead! And anyone who would do that to a dog, what are they are going to escalate to? Stray's? I don't think so!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Whoops! Didn't see THAT coming.... Posted: 7/19/2008 5:14:57 PM
The thread is funny because it's digusting but,I had'nt really thought about it. Don't get me wrong, I shower everyday. But,you never know when your going to get caught up in the moment. I agree though ear nibble's are a turn on,I can't say the same about a wet willy!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Would you date a guy or girl who didn't drink? Posted: 7/2/2008 1:05:13 PM
Yes of course, I myself don't drink but,I also don't shove my feelings about it down someome's throat. I still go out and meet friends at bars. Just because I don't drink does'nt mean I'm a any less of a person.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Time to come clean: What keeps you from meeting someone? Posted: 6/29/2008 4:18:47 PM
I was married at 18yrs.and that was 14 yrs.ago! I would love to meet more people but,I have no clue what I'm doing out there? I see people out there but,I'm hesitant because,I'm thinking they probably have heard every cheesy line of the month and don't want to be bothered anymore. Plus I'm really pretty shy,which does'nt help at all. I never thought I'd be doing this all again. I was'nt very good the first time around.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Why Do Men Say I Love You & then dump Posted: 6/29/2008 3:59:46 PM
this is a multi edge sword,I'm afraid to say. This happens to men as much as it does to women. I've known males and females who have survived this situation. We all some how move on to more peaceful water's, instead of always fighting out a squall. It's part of the game apparently!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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I feel like a teen again...fear of REJECTION!... Posted: 6/25/2008 3:18:16 PM
I think all of us have a level,or certain degree of being afraid(fear)! Nobody like's to be told I don't like you,or I don't need you/want you. Either gender it bites both ways, with Guys and women. If you hear it enough times,eventually you can become gunshy.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Do you touch on the first date? Posted: 6/23/2008 3:42:57 PM
I think it depends on how the date is gowing! Some people just open up,other's are a little more reserved. It's that chemistry thing!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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dumped by a text message.... Posted: 6/23/2008 3:26:23 PM
Sound's like you found a pyschic vampire, who happened to leech on you physically as well. He's probably working on his next trophy already. Tell yourself "good riddance",and chalk it up another experience in life. Well it was'nt a text message but, does e-mail count?

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Set in your ways due to living alone Posted: 6/17/2008 12:40:53 PM
I can't remember who said it but,"Repition is Death".

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Why Do women dump men who are nice to them. Posted: 6/10/2008 11:32:37 AM
The question apllies to either gender really. You're just damned if you do,or damned if you don't! Jmo

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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I have a problem accepting some women as equals (can't respect them). Posted: 6/7/2008 9:51:20 PM
Janet4ever nailed it on the head. You don't just have a problem with respecting women,I don't think you have respect for anything. Maybe that big chip on your shoulder will help your obvious problem.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Does intelligence turn you on? Posted: 6/7/2008 9:38:09 PM
Yes it is part of what attracts me to a person. Intelligence can manifest itself in many ways though,humour,quick wit,finding something funny to laugh about,when other's might be put off. How they listen to you,and the feedback you get from them and vice/versa.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Why The Need For Justifying Disinterest? Posted: 6/7/2008 9:26:39 PM
If the conversations stop,and there is no explanation then I assume that, 1.They were'nt really interested in the first place. 2.They found something more to their liking. If you don't like me you don't need to tell me why! That's just the way it goes,I'll wait until the stars fade before I need to know "why". Sometimes things don't work out,go figure.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Ex's and mean texts Posted: 6/5/2008 7:58:07 PM
If your really going to stick to your decision,read them,then erase them. Most of the time people who do that are just trying to drag you through the dirt but,you're not going back again right? This on and off thing either needs to stay on or stay off,you're just wasting your time! Who wants to read text's that are alway's degrading anyway? JMO.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Am I wrong, you make the call... Posted: 6/3/2008 12:42:10 PM
Are you so cheap, you can't pony up 2 or 3 Bucks?

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Should we date out of our culture? Posted: 5/19/2008 4:43:26 PM
We find who we find,whatever culture that may be. If you have an open mind or are just generally an open person. I know some people who date exclusively thier own race. And I know friend's that date whomever, race is'nt a factor to them or me for that matter.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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How lonely did you feel when you discovered plenty of fish? Posted: 5/14/2008 11:32:55 AM
I was more curious than lonely. But,killing time the way you are,can spiral out of control. Your just self medicating so the nights are'nt so barbed and the day's don't cut as deep.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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HAVE YOU EVER BEEN DUMPED VIA EMAIL?? Posted: 5/10/2008 5:37:01 PM
I'm sure it's just a matter of time!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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She has AIDS and is on POF. Is this the end of dating ? Posted: 4/24/2008 1:39:56 PM
At least she told you. She's probably waiting to see,how you'll handle that bombshell. Now it's up to you,to see if you're going to live in that world or bail. But,that is one hell of a bombshell,to be dropped on any ones head.Jmo.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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you're not their first choice........ Posted: 4/17/2008 5:18:19 PM
I agree with the rest of the poster's! Playing second fiddle makes you feel like S**t!. Just keep walking.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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exotic dancers Posted: 4/8/2008 5:18:25 PM
I was a drummer for a band that was,constantly looking for rehearsal space. On 3 different occasions we ended up,in basements of dancer's club's. Dancer's were alway's coming down for a smoke break, or somewhere to go when they were off. These woman were some of the smartest,nicest, regular women you would ever want to hang out with. We were'nt expecting any kind of "perk's" we had respect for what they were doing to keep money in their pockets. So not everybody looks down their noses to you.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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shut off... Posted: 4/6/2008 12:08:50 PM
Remember the three month's you had,although his reason for leaving sounds a little questionable. Remember those feelings you had,it's that most of us seek. Right now your not going to hear get over it! Why? Because your in a whirlwind of emotions,your not going to hear get over it! There are other people out in the world to meet but,you need to heal from this one. I won't tell you to get over it but, this too will pass. You need to get some sleep as well.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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It Sucks to feel all alone even when there are people all around you ! Posted: 4/4/2008 10:27:01 PM
I don't feel that way 24/7,mine creeps up on me. Most of the time I toss the thought aside but,sometimes it get's me. It run's it's course,and I'll concentrate on everything else that I have that's going terrific in my life. I call it the "big empty",it's just one of things in life that has no immediate answer or cure.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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All men cheaters or just some? Posted: 4/3/2008 10:25:53 PM
All men cheaters or just some? Posted: 3/17/2008 1156 PM That's painting a pretty broad stroke,don't you think? And again,it starts the sex wars debate. I can argue just the very same point about women who cheat, just as much as men do! I don't need to be questioned by Dr.Phil,about it. So how's that working out for you? The question is almost pointless now,one points the finger at the other. It just makes for good ratings,and getting people fired up. Some men and women cheat-Fact! Some men and women don't cheat-Fact!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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To love, honor, and... OBEY?!? Posted: 4/3/2008 10:15:27 PM
I don't care which side it's "supposed" to be directed at. If the word "OBEY" were slipped into the vow's,I'm outta there. And hopefully my S/O would follow or vice/versa. Playing it out as a joke is one thing but,seriously this is'nt the 50's. And to suggest putting it back in would curtail divorces? What planet are you from man? I'm not a pet and would'nt treat someone like one either.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Why do women get cold feet? Posted: 4/3/2008 9:59:03 PM
It might help if you stop keeping count,that will only make you bitter. If you can't find someone else to buy the ticket,take a friend. Or just go enjoy it by your self,everybody get's cold feet. It does come with the territory,and it suck's that it's alway's close to the last minute. What are ya going to do?

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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no effort produces no luck Posted: 3/29/2008 5:49:55 PM
Don't give up on the option to travel a little. But,set your limit on how many miles,or kilo's one has to travel. But,that also means you can't just pop in with a movie,or dinner. Long distance has some down falls but,if they are only an hour away or less? The drive is worth it to me. But,preferably I would like to find someone close by,in my own town.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Its all about looks Posted: 3/29/2008 5:37:14 PM
Someone may start dating somebody they think is just hot but, that person may have the personality and intelligence of a hollow log. I leave the gender open,because both men and woman could qualify for this type of person. There are some people out there,that would be happy as a "pig in shit" if they found someone like that. Eventually looks fade,be it years,months,or weeks,I've even heard day's. So looks are'nt everything,in every instance. We should be looking for what attracts us personally,nothing else matters.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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The baby was born, now what do i do with my relationship? Posted: 3/29/2008 5:16:46 PM
If you don't feel like throwing in the towel,then don't. You probably have done a great deal of talking,and thinking about this. But whether he know's it or not,you are going to get pushed aside a bit.(alot!) Have you really considered that thought deeply? And what if the "fling" or he,decide to get together again? To raise the baby on their own. Where will that leave you? It's very different when it's your own child but,someone else's? You may find yourself at a crossroad,later on.JMO

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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The price of the spice? Posted: 3/28/2008 12:26:22 AM
I used to work at a pasta mnfctr co.in Seattle. The most expensive product we made was anything,that included raw saffron in the recipe. We had a stock of raw saffron in small yellow tins. Each tin was about $100.00 or so,so we really had to stick to the measuerments of the said recipe. We made everything from Ravioli's to Tort's,and every make of pasta. And supplied the local restaurants,to the Space Needle menu's. It was'nt so bad being a starving musician then,just bring a little work home for the weekend.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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from fat to thin Posted: 3/28/2008 12:11:50 AM
As another post put it,congrats on the loss. Next,you gotta tell this guy to Piss off! After the weight loss,he says he loves you! To me this guy is showing his true colors,and they are not pretty. What a Nipplehead!JMO.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Why are there so many beautiful women in British Columbia and Canada? Posted: 3/28/2008 12:04:56 AM
I think this is a case of "the grass is always greener" syndrome. I have to agree,although the OP does ask a good question. But,I think if he did a bit of looking around the states as well, he'd see really it's all good here too! I don't mean to come of like a dawg,or player because I'm not! Just really,really single! And I don't have an active bank account in B.C. So I can't move there!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Men who don't want to stay in touch with their ex girlfriend Posted: 3/27/2008 11:43:55 PM
Some guy's can deal with it right off the bat. Some need a bit of time,to recover and move on. Some never let go of the past,and they put you on a pedestal of hate. That's just a waste of time,whether you talk to each other or not. People are different thank god. It depends on how deep things got/get,how involved the relationship was. Some people are better left alone.(JMO)

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Sex Has Dwindled - Will it ever come back? Posted: 3/25/2008 9:16:47 PM
Would it kill him to talk to a doctor?

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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What's with people these days??? Posted: 3/25/2008 9:14:09 PM
jlynnh is on the right track. Most people talk about meeting but,never get around to it. If plans are made you should at least follow through. Unless the date is just going to hell,Check please. No need to torture yourself/or them.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Are there faithful or decent men out there short answer: yes Posted: 3/25/2008 1:55:03 PM
Uh...my post was nothing more than a joke. I'm not bitter,angry,or jaded. This question has been asked so many times,it's become redundant. I was being sarcastic!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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is there faithful or decent men out there Posted: 3/25/2008 11:50:40 AM
Nope,all the nice,and honest,decent guys are gone. They either got sick of being used as a door mat. Or got sick of people telling them, that they were spineless! So we have all devolved into lying,cheating,scumbags. Or they got tired of waiting for faithful,and decent women!

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Memorabilia of the dreaded ex Posted: 3/25/2008 12:00:45 AM
I read the post wrong! MY BAD. I think everybody has a piece of their past,photo's gifts,that they hav'nt gotten rid of. With a few exceptions of course.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Memorabilia of the dreaded ex Posted: 3/24/2008 11:42:47 PM
Put everything in a box or bag,whatever. Call him or text him (e-mail),and tell him your only going to hold the stuff for 2 weeks. If he wants it that bad,he'll come and get it. Leave it on the porch! If he still doesn't get it,leave it out for 1 week. FINAL NOTICE-if he does'nt want it,leave it with the trash. Tell him in that order,that way he has 2 weeks notice! Then move on with the rest of your life.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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Do believe in love at first site? Posted: 3/23/2008 2:27:00 PM
I believe in attraction at first sight. Love's a big word,with a lot of different meanings! I used to believe but,I was very young,and gullible.

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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How you like your Steak done? Posted: 3/22/2008 3:04:56 PM
I'm a carnivore when it comes to my steaks. Bring mine bloody rare! I swear you'll get the best cut in the house, and don't send it back. Your liable to really piss off your chef! (Big no,no.)

drmmergy

Joined: 10/25/2007

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so pissed at men Posted: 3/22/2008 2:55:53 PM
What's with the wide stroke statement of "so pissed at men"? I'm not that man,alot of us are not that man. But,that's/those are the one's your choosing. Why should a certain lot,have to deal with his damage?

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