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dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Were women better off 50 years ago? Posted: 9/29/2008 6:50:03 PM
No way Jose. Back in the 50's women were treated like 2nd class citizen, or a stay at home mom who supposedly didn't do anything serious with all their time of running the family and catering to her husband's needs and mostly demands. She was the little woman who needed a man's protection. The reality I have observed in my lifetime, that more women have to work. Or perish. We work because we women have to. And, by the way, there are pampered mantenidos, men who are financially supported by their wives or girlfriends. I raised my son and daughter to pull their own equal weight with their spouses. I have yet to meet my equal match. I don't want to support financially a man, ever. Equally yoked, in our faith and values works best for me, in the long run.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Suffering—the soil of spiritual growth Posted: 1/17/2008 5:24:24 PM
This is my own opinion: In the 12 steps A.A. program suffering brought the two men, a stockbroker, and physician together to start this worldwide phenomenon into existence. And helping another fellow sufferer into sobriety keeps he/she out of self. With a healthy balance, of course. Wide is the road to destruction, and narrow is the gate to the way. Jesus Christ is the only one person to claim He is the Way to the Father who is in heaven. The Big Book of A.A. was founded on the bible teachings. Even Jesus is mentioned on page 11 of the Big Book of A.A. And so is the Spirit of God.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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What is grace Posted: 1/13/2008 10:21:30 PM
Grace means undeserved favor. Which to us, christians, means we do not deserve to go to heaven, but since we accepted Jesus Christ as our personal Lord and Savior, we can get into heaven because we believe in His Word and His Way of living. The Word of God is foolishness to those who don't believe in His Word.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Check Yourself Posted: 1/12/2008 10:10:11 PM
Get Him to Notice You. Play with Him. Then throw a gal at him. Then watch to see what he will do. If he's smart, he will see what you are up to. Then pick up another guy in front of him to watch him simmer. If he is smart, he will figure out what you are up to. Lets just say, this has worked for me. Oops, I married that guy I snaged from another friend gal who was always snagging guys from me. . I have used this method several times. Remember, Men, Love, Games...

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Would you buy shoes for a woman you just met? Posted: 1/12/2008 9:51:04 PM
Depends on the amount of the shoes, about $70.00. I would rather have a nice pair of shoes over a movie at the theater and dinner on a first date. And please throw in a $30.00 leather purse to match my shoes...Whee...

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Would you marry a slut? Posted: 1/6/2008 7:02:48 PM
A lepoard cannot change its spots. I was married to one, a spoted one, that is. I kept taking him back, and he kept cheating on me. Always after the 6 month itch. So I stayed in church to keep me busy. But, the cute ones are the male/female sluts. Not all cute or good looking men are that way. My ex passed on 10 years ago. I have two kids and grandkids that came from that marriage. Some good came from Him. Sigh

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married? Posted: 1/6/2008 6:49:45 PM
Dear Mr. NiceGuyfin1st on 1/6/2008 1125am You are an exception to my ruler of thumb. Your case of being single is rare. I hope God's best 4U. Dee.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Would you go out with someone in the 45 plus group that has never been married? Posted: 1/3/2008 8:21:10 PM
I am very leary of dating men who have NEVER been married....hard to train as they are very set in their own ways! Those type of gentlemen seem to be very controlling and noncompromising... I agree with vixeneyes on 12/26/2007 1043 p.m. I dated four men who never married, but, lived with women for 5 years each. Then they moved on or the gal walked out on him/them. They were noncompromising and controlling and too in love with themselves. No room for a sincere commitment with me. But, I know that there is a man who is looking for a woman like me. We have to bump into each other one day, soon. Not most men are flakes. Like, not all women are gold diggers, some are. Just like there are men who are also gold diggers too. Thank goodness, I know God has a man all for little ole me.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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FREE Federalized Health Care Posted: 12/26/2007 11:45:32 AM
I aggree with anni, since she is a borderline qualified $10.00 food stamp recipient to recieve the free federalized health care. Several government grants are friviolous and would be better used in cutting down the spread of communitable disease. Naturally the corporations and upper middle class have the use of tax attorney skills always benifit from their expertise. While those that are financially suffering are punished for being this way. The truth will set us free. From the tirany and oppression of the wicked and abusive wealthy selective one.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Why do women date mutiple guys at once? Posted: 12/24/2007 7:39:28 PM
Some men and women are fickle and not serious about life. Flakes are everywhere. Don't sweat the small stuff and don't give your heart away, right away. Use emotional self control.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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I'm deleting my account because..... Posted: 12/24/2007 7:32:49 PM
Some people are first attracted to people, then, they think about the serious connotations involved marrying someone from another country and their lover's country customs. Maybe he didn't want to totally commit to you. I'm sure you were concerned that he thought you only wanted him to fix your immigration papers. My step-dad had his immigration papers fixed by my mother. But, that is another thread.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Are we just friends.......or am I reading too much into things Posted: 12/22/2007 11:19:48 AM
Actions speak louder than words. He is stringing you along, emotionally. He is a professional " Player". He thinks, why buy the cow, when the milk is free. Kick him to the curb. Don't be His Fool any longer...Have some self respect GF, signed, been there, done that too.

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Dumped because my children are of mixed racial heritage Posted: 12/21/2007 2:56:46 PM
Why waste your precious time with racist men, let them know on the 1st date you have a child from a " fill in the blank". This will weed out those type of men you do not want your children around. I have a son who's two kids are cherokee native american and mixed european blood in them, and my daugther who has a child who is mixed black and german, and also a son who is mex/amer with half puerto rican blood. I am proud of all who they are, beautiful and precious to me.

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Doesn't call during the week Posted: 12/21/2007 10:25:16 AM
Gf: He is Not That Into You. You are in control of Your Life. Do not put expectations on another human being. They will always fail you. Trust in God, my Lord J.C. This works for me. Yeah, we women get lonely, but, we don't have to settle for potato chip crumbs. Drop him like the crumb he is. Just move on. He is not worth your energy or your time.

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Doesn't call during the week Posted: 12/21/2007 10:24:23 AM
Gf: He is Not That Into You. You are in control of Your Life. Do not put expectations on another human being. They will always fail you. Trust in God, my Lord J.C. This works for me. Yeah, we women get lonely, but, we don't have to settle for potato chip crumbs. Drop like the crumb he is. Just move on. He is not worth your energy or your time.

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Expensive gifts for Christmas? Posted: 12/20/2007 4:51:00 PM
Just for today be grateful for the thought. Of the gift, whether expensive or conservative, some people are extravagent. But, since you are a conservative spender I wouldn't want to marry him/her. They like to throw money around like toilet paper. He would drive me crazy.

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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He says we went too far too soon Posted: 12/20/2007 4:43:11 PM
he's trying to let you down easy. Didn't he have the problems in his personal life before getting involved with you? Sounds like an excuse to me to get out of the relationship. I agree with both of these statements from men. I say "next"

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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OK, why would he tell me this? Posted: 12/20/2007 4:35:06 PM
Whenever someone tells you that they aren't ready for a relationship what they really mean is that they do not want to be in a relationship with you..... This statement works on both sexes. Don't trip potato chip, on the crumbs.

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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are some people not MEANT to be in relationships? Posted: 12/20/2007 4:26:50 PM
Read James Patterson author of Cat and Mouse. There are men who are so screwed up and criminally minded. OOps...Some women are so screwed up and criminal minded too.

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Guys in supermarkets...... Posted: 12/20/2007 4:17:53 PM
Some people are vouyerisimists. Who the heck cares what other people think you have in your shopping cart at the market? Unless you have duct tape, rope and porn magazine, then I would worry who you are and where you live.

Dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Superficial.com? Posted: 12/20/2007 1:59:02 PM
Yep, I agree:OP, sure there's a lot of men and woman subscribing to this. They'll have to learn the hard way that what they think they're buying is an illusion. The deep call to the deep. The shallow call to the shallow. The spiritual call to the spiritual.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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What do women think of guys who dont drink?? Posted: 12/12/2007 2:00:15 PM
Meeting people to date at the bar is kind of asking for an alcoholic minded relationship. Look for women in other "Spots".

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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enough with the sex already! Posted: 12/12/2007 1:51:27 PM
I KNOW this sounds old fashioned, but, what about getting married to some woman who is from your religious faith background? Could be you are attracted to women fast and shallow, instead of a type of woman who has your similar sex views and possibly same type of religious faith background. On the 2nd date, ASK the WOMAN if she prefers a low keyed man in the love making, and what does she think about her religious faith ground verses yours. Then, if you are still interested in her, continue a slow dating process. Do you let the woman manipulate you into bed before you are that committed to a serious relationship with her? Do you know what you want in a woman before you date? Just ask and get to know her and how she thinks. But, don't lie and let her think something you are not. In the end, she will leave you, because you weren't up front with her.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Is kissing more or less important to you in a relationship as you get older? Posted: 12/10/2007 1:56:40 AM
Yes it is, very important to me. Passion slow kisses are the best. But, what is the motive to the kiss? What is the intent of this kiss? Fact is why the kiss? Issue is why the kiss? Rule of the kisser is what, where, why? Conclusion of the kiss is the result from it.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Grown Men 40+ who live at home Posted: 12/4/2007 10:13:47 PM
I say why not? If you get along with your parents and your mom or dad don't interfere or try to run your lives, do what you want. If your family is too dysfuntional and you are too codependent, then don't do this type of living arrangement.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Is this a major turn off for anyone else? Posted: 11/24/2007 10:56:59 PM
If I had kids or grandkids living with me at the time of the first date I would not bring him over. We all have to be careful of predators lurking behind online screens. As well as any other methods perverts may disguise themselves.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Gospel Accounts vs History Posted: 11/24/2007 10:27:58 PM
Note: to enter the kingdom of heaven, you must be like a child. The Word of God is foolishness to the wise. These statements are written in the KJV bible. Look them up in the concordenance.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Be careful out ther ladies Posted: 11/24/2007 10:14:31 PM
I bet you, your gut instint said to back off from this person. It could even be a she leading you on. Move on girlfriend, just say, "Next" Some people are evil and enjoy inflicting pain. Split, like a banana. Enjoy the day, make the best of the moment. Make somebody smile, do a good deed for the day, it will make you feel like a million bucks.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Calling all 40-60Something Males? Posted: 11/24/2007 10:02:51 PM
Right on brother--its all a question of who is a good fit for me and who I am a good fit for. Also, I don't need a bed partner, rather, a life partner.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Drinking Again Posted: 11/24/2007 9:43:59 PM
Don't drink alcohol. Been free of the "spirits" for 9 yrs. Attend 12 step meetings and meet people there too. Found a deeper relationship with my higher power at the 12 step meetings. You got to want it like a dying man is looking for a cure, or a medicine to stop the spread of disease. Your sobriety, that is. And with it, comes a new way of living, a day at a time.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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guys copping out for no reason. Posted: 11/23/2007 11:23:38 PM
Being unequally yoked with unbelievers is asking for major problems down the relationship road. Thank God you didn't stay hooked up with those men who were saying one thing and living and walking and acting like another person. God did you a big favor. Let God be the driver in your life and keep your mind on doing God deeds. Been there and done that too, sista.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Single and very content Posted: 11/23/2007 11:00:09 PM
I am comfortable being single just for today. One day at a time. Yesterday was history, tomorrow is a mystery. Praying the Serenity prayer helps me stay focused and content.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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How much time do you devote to dating Posted: 11/23/2007 10:52:25 PM
Right on sister. I, too, will create as much time as I feel is needed to maintain a "healthy balanced" relationship. Last year, I was involved with a man who spent too much time with his two teenaged kids. To me it seemed he was smothering them, but, hey, that was my point of view. Since my two kids were grown and married, he may have thought since I had already been there and done that with my two grown kids, I should be more understanding to him and his kids. Needless, to say, we parted due to another issue. He was a decent catch, but, we were not on the "same page" in three issues. Relationship with God, smothering his two teenage kids, and #3.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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is this wrong Posted: 11/23/2007 10:40:40 PM
I have seen many marriages fail because the couple were not equally yoked. That means in tune with each other's faith and belife system. You can go ahead and marry a non-believer, but, you will find that you cannot make a horse drink water, so to speak.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Gospel Accounts vs History Posted: 11/21/2007 8:56:47 PM
I love the freedom of speech we have in here at pof. I attended an accredited bible college. I was going for my B.S. degree. Although I did not complete the 2nd year I do not regret all the subjects I was enrolled in. I would like to state my own opinion as well. Having attended Victory Outreach church for 20 plus years and Calvary Chapel for the past 4 years and attended their bible study and school of ministry all year for the 20 plus years I love to read the Word of God and hear the Word of God from both of these two type of non-denominational churches were the Word of God is taught from the KJV and NIV bibles. You believe the Word of God if you choose to, and if you don't understand the bible, then attend a bible college. Good luck to all of those who choose to seek the truth for yourself. Dee.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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Should over 50 people be less selective? Posted: 11/14/2007 11:03:12 PM
I agree with you too. To jump the gun and hook with any person is asking for unseen trouble. For example: Did you and anyone else see the movie "Bug" with Ashley Judd. About a woman who hooks up with a man with major bug issues. I don't want to settle for any man, just to be in a realtionship. We can repeat negative relationship choices if we are not careful. This also runs in business relationships too. Better to move slowly, then, get run over by a semi truck in the dark.

dahliah1

Joined: 10/26/2007

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what do i do soo confused please help Posted: 11/14/2007 10:02:14 PM
Dear kid: I have a 31 y/o daughter and 30 y/o son who are both married and they have kids. I feel for you wanting to have that connection with another human being. But, son, take your time in what type of woman you want to bear your children and be your wife. My son just got married this October with a gal 4 years younger. He met her at his job site. They both were in not positive relationships when they met. Then they started to talk at work, before, and lunch time, and after work. Before you know it, they were getting married, all within a year's time. My daughter also met her husband and got married within a year's time. She is married for 6 years. Me, I'm still shopping for that special guy. So, I say all of this in hopes to cheer you up and remind you and myself that "shop around" is a virtue and better safe than sorry. Be good to yourself son. Your lady maybe working nearby. Let the other gal go, she sounds like she needs to work on herself. Unless you think you can cure her of her ex and drinking issues.

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