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clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

ok guys i need your help!! Posted: 6/20/2009 7:30:03 AM
Because you flirted with him and he's a guy to whom marriage doesn't necessarily mean that much

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do? Posted: 6/19/2009 10:03:57 AM
It is not legal and it is criminal in spite of your childish Nyah, Nyah, Nyah, Nyah Nyah rant. Just like a wiretap or putting a hidden camara in a bathroom. Just because you are allowed to use the bathroom doesn't mean you can use it criminally. By using your distorted assholic female logic then - just because I don't have a sign posted by my house that says "Please don't burglarize" it is okay to burglarize? You're a dope

clambroth

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Any other grammar nazis around these parts? Posted: 6/19/2009 9:46:00 AM
Oh man. Thought there were sufficient votes to delete this thread. Apparently not.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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What is the difference between games and being a challenge Posted: 6/19/2009 9:44:34 AM
There's not a problem with that although I think if you read the forums regularly you'll see that it is a common complaint or issue with women, namely, guys who give out their number and (mistakenly) expecting the woman to call. In that case the answer is the result. Neither side calls - end of contact.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Question about PICS? - Posted: 6/19/2009 9:41:08 AM
Can't say as I've perused the male profiles. Don't intend to to answer your question

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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doesnt make sense Posted: 6/19/2009 7:38:32 AM
Did you ever meet him in person? Was this relationship an online thing?

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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When a man is a porn pervert and lies about it what to do? Posted: 6/19/2009 7:35:50 AM
He was lying about porn. HOWEVER, what your friend did was criminal. Seriously criminal. The fact that she's still with this guy in spite of her ill gotten information tells me she is a criminal and a loser. He is just a loser

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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It ain't all roses Posted: 6/19/2009 7:29:43 AM
Can only speculate what drove your wife to seek other male companionship. Probably had nothing to do with the fact that she was married to an abusive domineering bully. One day you're going to show up at the wrong guy's house and you'll have your head handed to you. Then we'll get to listen that A bragging about how he kicked some poor schlump's a

clambroth

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daughters, fathers, fat and dating Posted: 6/19/2009 7:19:55 AM
My mother was 5'10' and very athletic. She kept her figure and athletic appearance because she was active and didn't eat like a pig. She died of breast cancer. That aside, weight is something we can all control. Some of us put forth more effort in that regard than others. Others who choose to get/become or remain fat do so by choice or neglect. I'm not criticizing anyone who chooses to be fat but they would have to understand their dating limitations relate to their appearance. I resent the fat criticizing the rest of us because of our attitude against the fat people and not giving them a chance dating wise. Keep hearing the same old chestnut about how wonderful the personality is if we would only look past the weight and give dating a chance. My dear sister is fat and so is her husband. Two fatties made for eachother. God forbid if either ever were to be on the dating scene.

clambroth

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The Ring-a symbol of love or deception Posted: 6/18/2009 9:52:17 AM
Everybody is different. Some guys like rings and jewelry and such. I hate rings and have never worn one. Before I was married my ex asked and I said if you really want me to wear one I will. She understood. Just can't stand the claustrophobic feeling of not being able to get the thing off. More power to any guy who wears one

clambroth

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Friend Zone After a Relationship? Posted: 6/17/2009 8:50:47 AM
Vanish into the night. She doesn't deserve your friendship, if that's what she wants. Clearly she doesn't want anymore than that and she is not going to come around

clambroth

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No responses to a woman Posted: 6/17/2009 5:38:58 AM
Not interested; brain freeze; don't want to say anything that might encourge further contact from someone you aren't interested in; don't really wish to hurt anyone's feelings; hide behind the ethernet. Lots of reasons

clambroth

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Do men prefer to make love or have sex? Posted: 6/17/2009 5:35:55 AM
Love em both. Making love probably tops. Then one gets married and it just sort of fades from memory

clambroth

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male mid life crisis(59) vs workaholic are we done?? Posted: 6/17/2009 5:34:27 AM
Awful lot of information here. Frankly, this is probably a little far beyond forum answer type problems. Your whole life appears to be crumbling. Work, business, marriage, drinking, infidelity. Worse he's apparently in love with someone else. Perhaps if he was arrested for a DUI and sat in jail for a bit maybe he'd have an epiphany - but I doubt it. Sounds like you need a plan. How to extricate yourself from the marriage, claim your fair share of the marital estate, repair your psyche, and start all over. That is a a tall task. Plan, gotta have a plan. Spend some time away thinking about what you need to do. Probably a lawyer, probably a support system of some sort. Not sure dating is your best choice right now as you bring a trainload of baggage at the present time. Your plan ought to involve at the least moving on but I don't think any of us here can lead you in the right direction. Good luck

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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He's Just Not that Into You. Posted: 6/17/2009 4:55:50 AM
Maybe the question about the time was a date killer. This seems to be a step many couples meeting for the first time have trouble with. There seemed to be interest. Decent first meeting. She's expecting him to call as all women do. He's sort of hoping she'll call because he was looking for a little more demonstrable interest thas she actually showed during the date - instead of "you have my number". Both wonder, neither does anything. Oh well.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Need a Guy's Opinion on How they really feel Posted: 6/16/2009 9:32:48 AM
Well it seems as though this situation is progressing at a normal pace. You've recently had sex. Takes time for both of you to process the magnitude of the development. He's probably on the same page as you and probably does want to have the same talk as you. Give it another week or so and see how it plays out from his end. Good luck

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Most rejections stem from what is NOT in her profile... Posted: 6/16/2009 5:50:12 AM
If they can't overcome the negative impression generated by the looks/picture one doesn't get any further on this site. Regardless of what the profiles say - look is pretty much everything on here and if they are not attractive you don't get past initial contact stage.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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My fiance continually leaves me High and Dry Posted: 6/16/2009 5:07:27 AM
Love the use of the term fiance. Five years and counting? That's not fiance. Just because you're starting to think about getting ready to start talking about maybe getting married some day doesn't rise to level of fiance. Sex has stopped now? Just remember it will stop completely once you get married and for sure if you have children. If He's unconcerned about your needs now think about it years from now when you're married. Uh Uh

clambroth

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I don't get it? Posted: 6/15/2009 5:03:15 AM
Its not too soon at all. Unfortunately

clambroth

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sleep apnea Posted: 6/14/2009 1:26:42 PM
if i was him i'd probably resent it at first because i was selfconscious about being so fat which generally causes sleep apnea but then i'd understand that she was concerned for my health but also understand that my sleep apnea probably affected her sleep and that if we had any future together i'd probably want to lose weight so she wouldn't worry and also could sleep at the same time as me and then she could concern herself about my concern for her lack of punctuation

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Does any one have a GOOD/POSITIVE story on this site? Posted: 6/12/2009 9:27:08 AM
Yeah, I had a great game of golf yesterday. Want to hear about my round? I didn't think so.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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How big is too big of an age difference? Posted: 6/12/2009 7:10:41 AM
I would say your analysis is correct. As you get older you are going to say? Why did I do this. When you're younger everything looks rosy and you think love can overcome anything. It can't. Be wary

clambroth

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Do you think this is normal? Posted: 6/12/2009 7:05:04 AM
This is a public watering hole. No less than the singles bar. You'll have all sorts of critters trying to pick you up. Filter(s) is/are the key. No point in analyzing or trying to figure out why. Just the way it is

clambroth

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why ask for her number n not txt? Posted: 6/11/2009 7:03:36 AM
if u tak lik u rite dey cudn't unnerstan u 2 gud

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Help!!! Posted: 6/10/2009 9:32:37 AM
You'll have to move on. Whatever you've heard about her situation makes it seem pretty unpalatable. Sounds like you are better off. BTW, did any of her complaints have anything to do with your writing style and her inability to decipher your messages due to lack of punctuation?

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Would a man catch the eye ... Posted: 6/5/2009 6:53:33 PM
Learn to respond. Dream catcher and all that. Stuff happens quickly and you have to be prepared. he's gone, never to be seen again. Learn to respond. Oh BTW, whilst is not a word

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Whats the deal, texting verses talking? Posted: 6/5/2009 6:51:40 PM
Throw in the towel. The golden rule here as in gold (Au) - if it hasn't happened by now it is not going to happen. You are way past that asking date. It hasn't happened and its not going to happen. Chemistry says when there's no reaction nothing happened. Nothing happened. Nothing is going to happen. The experiment is dead. Try another - as in move on

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Loss/death in the family.. how to mention.. Posted: 6/5/2009 6:47:21 PM
Not sure why you'd be mentioning that or bringing it up in conversation - other than him asking. Obviously the way you answered it drove him off. Family loss is a tough thing. At age 16 or 22 its different (or should be) than at age 39 or 50. Not something I would expect my potential date to be dwelling on. Yikes. To the extent that your life was seemingly a capsized ship because of the situation one would have to wonder what sort of life you were living and whether getting involved with you was a wise choice - as he did. Just don't know why you'd be talking about death when meeting someone. What aboutyour present life? Okay, for all you people that're going to slam me for being insensitive I've been through all that with both parents at an earlier age AND while in the midst of a relationship.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Hypothetical question about being drunk Posted: 6/5/2009 8:19:47 AM
Have to agree with Principero on this one chief. We all at one time or another hastily type something and post it without proof reading. Typos and such. I've done it numerous times on here. However, when a thread comes up that has to be read and re-read and re-read to decipher it's point, question or meaning, as in whaaaaaaaaat(?) Principero's point is well taken

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Listing next town over? Posted: 6/5/2009 8:09:38 AM
I would vote for the zip code instead of town name. The town name isn't all that more important than say your shoe size once you've struck up a conversation so to speak by email. If you're talking on the telephone and that joke comes up a silent non-reponse by you is pretty awkward and conveys the message well.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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i dont get this what when wrong? Posted: 6/5/2009 7:55:53 AM
I think you are a nice gal who is sincere in her post and I hate to pil on you over the punctuation and spelling thing. Perhaps a little attention to that will go a long way to making a better presentation of yourself. If you read the forums, guys apparently do this all the time for a wide variety of reasons including: scared, lack of interest, lack of balls, not that into you, changed mind, seeing somone else, something "better" came along.

clambroth

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The wearing of knee length boots Posted: 6/5/2009 5:39:36 AM
Dressy boots for cold winter weather is about it for boots and stylishness

clambroth

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he's over 40 and he's not hard the 1st time Posted: 6/5/2009 5:27:40 AM
Otherwise known as ED (erectile dysfunction)

clambroth

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Old broads and come ons. . . . Posted: 6/4/2009 7:51:18 AM
There is no point. She sounds like an 80 year old who just wants some companionship. Get a pet I'd say. Cats and dogs seem to like to cuddle and sleep with their owners. As to why she would fix herself and dress sexily I guess the pride and narcissism type thing. Just because you're frigid doesn't mean you don't want to look your best - or something along that line. Sex is one of the reasons people get married or enter into relationships. If she's not interested then there should be no issue about being alone at home.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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I was just wondering if any one can tell me why i cant find a guy my own age????? Posted: 6/4/2009 7:19:01 AM
Interesting way of putting the question. You seem to be implying and asking why all the guys your age are looking for sex and then implying you can't find anyone because that's all they want. I guess the answer would be guys that age are placing a higher value on the sex component of relationships then you would like. Young and horny I s'pose

clambroth

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Is it wrong to wanna find Mr. Right at the age of 22 Posted: 6/2/2009 7:13:29 AM
The things that you say would describe your ideal Mr. Right unfortunately portray yourself as Mrs. Needy. You've made some poor choices with the early parenthood which makes finding Mr. Right doubly difficult.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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Is he just not that into me? Posted: 6/2/2009 7:01:49 AM
Sounds like he was being fairly upfront with you as to his intentions. He essentially said if you want to stay in touch you'll have to contact me because I'm not all that interested. You in turn said if you want to stay in touch you can call me. He doesn't call and he didn't lie about his feelings. I think there's nothing between the lines to decipher.

clambroth

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why do i keep wanting to go back? Posted: 6/1/2009 4:22:13 PM
To answer your question- lack of pride

clambroth

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Should I stay? Posted: 6/1/2009 4:16:01 PM
Keep looking. You picked one out of the trash bin. He's still trash

clambroth

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Married Woman? Fact or Fiction? Is There really one? Posted: 6/1/2009 4:02:20 PM
By dating I assume you meant in person. If so he was using you as a vehicle out of an emotional deadend. Regardless of what you felt or how much hope you have that he might still be there for you pride would dictate you simple vanish without further explantion. If the occasion would arise for an explanation then a simple F*** you should suffice.

clambroth

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Real or Fiction? Posted: 6/1/2009 3:58:06 PM
Well, if you were to base your hopes upon the general experiences you read about in the forums I guess the consensus would be what you speak of only happens rarely. Most of what you see on here are exploding cigars, phantoms and spectres that simply vanish back into the ethernet after identical expeniences such as yours. Good luck though.

clambroth

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After talking for a year romantically and meeting twice what happend? Posted: 6/1/2009 3:53:07 PM
You fell in love with a ghost. The voice of an unseen, unknown telphone operator. The comfortableness you felt replaced your lonliness and you mistook it for love- of sorts. Kind of like your best friend when you were kids and they moved away. Only this one was just a penpal.

clambroth

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Whats da real deal replies Posted: 6/1/2009 3:48:03 PM
Feel free to speak however you wish. Its a free country. Just keep in mind that many consider the slang speak cheap and offensive and I suspect the majority of people who might otherwise respond to a regular sounding post wouldn't bother to one that was written in text/ghetto slang speak.

clambroth

Joined: 10/27/2007

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The best course of action Posted: 6/1/2009 6:29:15 AM
Since cancelling is part of your MO and you found what you think is a big red flag, I'd cancel right away. Don't wait to the last minute and put pressure on yourself. Just call her up (Text her) and say something came up (like your mental instability or inability to commit to dating engagements) and just let her off the hook. I'm sure it wouldn't have worked anyway

clambroth

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Can someone interpret this for me? Posted: 6/1/2009 6:22:59 AM
One would draw the conclusion from reading your post that musicians are a shallow, self absorbed lot. Sounds like it is the case

clambroth

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I need some guy speak decoded.... please help Posted: 6/1/2009 6:19:54 AM
This is the same guy that will probably sleep with you after he's married. As long as you are aware that he's only having an affair everything is okay. Did you hear what he said? He told you flat out he's not over the ex and he's staying available for her if and when she changes her mind. If she doesn't change her mind then he might be available for you. If that doesn't inflict serious damage to your pride then hang in there with him and grovel for seconds. If the pride thing bothers you, as well it should, be gone with this guy.

clambroth

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Will not understand the east coast men Posted: 6/1/2009 6:14:02 AM
Probably easier to meet men if you don't hide your profile

clambroth

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Dirty Puddy Cat Posted: 6/1/2009 6:09:09 AM
Some posts are easier to answer than others. This one is easy. You embarrassed him - not that it wasn't deserved - but that's the last you'll be hearing from that guy. Don't even need to get into an analysis of the circumstances

clambroth

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Choice of Pics on Profile Posted: 6/1/2009 6:02:13 AM
Did you drop your car keys down there? Seems like your looking for something

clambroth

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Both Married,, want out, what to do??? Posted: 5/31/2009 2:08:37 PM
farceur had it right on. Committment/escapism/playing the victim. Lots of temptations in this world, Some avoind them for entirely different reasons. Honesty is the best constraint

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