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jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Dear God stop touching that! Posted: 11/23/2009 9:59:21 PM
The playpen idea is probably the best. Plus you could do what my mum did for me when I was 1- supply the Monkey with pink toilet paper and let her decorate the tree herself That way the ornamentation is not only unbreakable but recyclable too, and if the tree falls on her it will cushion the blow......

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Guacamole recipes? Posted: 11/20/2009 3:33:59 AM
My only added extra to the above recipes is Tabasco. I mash up a Hass avo, some lime juice, 1/4 a chopped red onion, a de seeded firm red tomato (roma or vine ripened round) a clove of garlic, chopped coriander, 7 or 8 hearty drops of Tabasco, and S+P to taste. I 8se it as a dip, as a topping to nachos or chili, or as a salad accompaniment. I also eat it by the spoonful straight from the fridge....

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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What spices go good with what? Posted: 11/20/2009 3:17:11 AM
My few arguable food/spice combos: Tomato and basil avo and coriander/cilantro lamb and rosemary or oregano if you want to go Greek nutmeg and spinach Italian tastes with bay and oregano potato with mint or tarragon... or tons of garlic olive oil and dukkah as a dip..... sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet... There are more but after a 40 degree Friday my mind is shriveled.....

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Conflict in the bedroom. Posted: 11/20/2009 2:36:47 AM
Is it really conflict, or is it just that you haven't felt comfortable opening up (yeahh bad pun ) to each 0ther yet? If you love her, I bet you are more than happy to take the kink a bit slowly, yes? Stay within her comfort zone a few weeks then let her know that there are areas you would love to explore with her. In truth, no one can say if she will accept your wilder side but she needs to be given the opportunity to at least try. Good luck to the both of you.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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No-one likes him except me Posted: 11/17/2009 4:30:13 AM
I don't usually post negative things on the fora but... are you sure he's not running away from say- family commitments? As others have said- its a bit odd that he chose to leave a good job in the current economic climate and do the footloose thing. Following your heart is one thing. Doing so while wearing blinkers is another. Be careful of both heart and wallet OPie

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Baby loves every food I've given him!! Posted: 11/10/2009 1:43:01 AM
About to go out but thought I'd mention... at 7 months my now 18 year old loved mashed spud if I added a few squirts of breast milk!! It may sound odd but think about it- I swear if I had another child now I'd mix breast milk with farex for that first solid food experience!!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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help : leeks Posted: 11/10/2009 12:49:28 AM
Leeks are 100% yummo with mushrooms! Use in a quiche, as a pasta sauce with parmesan, as a topping to anything..... Leeks rock as a green/spring onion sub in any recipe. Leek and spud soup is SUBLIME!!!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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What's this I see, he says suspiciously ... Posted: 11/9/2009 11:16:53 PM
Its not the site's creator you need to worry about OPie... its.. shhhhhhhhhhh..... the ad men! They probably know by now that someone on POF has.... drum roll..... SEEN THROUGH THE BULLDUST!! They fear more than anything independent thinker who dont buy into thinner is better, whiter is natural and wrinkle free is the norm. Be careful K? If you cease to post we will organise a search party. Good luck....

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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a BBQ virgin... lol Posted: 11/9/2009 11:06:05 PM
Just wanted to thank you all for your help- the birthday weekend was just great, thanks in large part to0 super-fabby BBQ you made happen! I ended up with only 14 for the BBQ so I cut back on some things but the menu included SS's lamb kebabs with a minty yoghurt dip, the pork loin recipe- I cheated tho and just bought the chops not the whole shebang- which got rave reviews, chicken skewers (marinated chicken thighs in orange, lemon, ginger and garlic) seafood skewers of prawn and scallop tossed in chili and coriander, rump steaks in a mustard marinade , corn a la lapilot ( I cut each cob in two then ti9ed the husks back on as we had little kids who didnt want a whole cob each) potato, capsicum, mushroom and veggie sausage for the birthday girl, along with felafels and hummus, lots of sides and lashings of champagne, beer and red wine. My most excellent brother in law cooked the meats to perfection. We had the kid's dad make 2 huge tiramisu for dessert. OMG.... we were full! The next day I put on a picnic for 20 (simple foods tho! Bread, salads and cold meat ,mainly) at the local animal park where we all had so much fun- a private animal show just for us, heavy on the reptiles because my daughter is a fan- and ... well. It was an 18th to remember. So and to all of you who helped me plan the feast. I'd have been lost without your assistance!!

jojoaus

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moving in together after being single for a decade or more Posted: 11/9/2009 10:52:15 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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moving in together after being single for a decade or more Posted: 11/9/2009 9:52:01 PM
^^^^^ not too sure what you are getting at, but you are very welcome to your own opinion. Thanks for all the responses you lot! To the poster who mentioned the difficulties of the LDR- you are dead right but we did have a year together before that to iron out the wrinkles in our relationship, and had had enough great ti9mes together to make us miss everything about each other for the 9 months he was away. I hadn't really thought about what the ramifications of one of us moving into the other ones space, but luckily he has just secured a new apartment and I will move in with him come January. Kaylie- I suppose I hadn't even thought ab out the fact I DO already share a space- plus I have had my daughter's now-ex b/f for the last 2 years while they both finished school. I know I'm lucky to have met someone and reading your sage advice has helped me remember that while nothing is guaranteed, I have as good a chance as anyone at making it work. Cold feet are part and parcel of being human I suppose! Thankyou again.

jojoaus

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moving in together after being single for a decade or more Posted: 11/9/2009 2:51:43 AM
L5377- I'm sure thats a huge part of it yes. Single mother and her only child- a daughter? Yep I will miss her a great deal. She really likes the man concerned so that is resolved in my mind. She said to me maybe 6 weeks ago Hey mum... he's really cool. I like him and tho I don't wanna think about it I'm happy you have... a BOYFRIEND!!' (Im 46... he is 49... b/f?? WTF!!). My worry in that respect is that she prefers my current SO to her dad- he has alcoholism issues and is really difficult to deal with. But I want her to be OK with her real dad. I suppose my concerns are selfish but... You certainly challenge me by asking if I would change my mind about moving in if the consensus here was that I was doing the wrong thing. I bet I wouldn't. So... I'm here because? Over 2 years I have read almost s much wisdom as pure bullpoop and I like to hear advice from real people way more than ... well... pop psychologists... Thanx all

jojoaus

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moving in together after being single for a decade or more Posted: 11/9/2009 1:57:59 AM
Really, the title says it all. I split with my husband 12 years ago and raised my daughter alone for 10 years. 2 years ago I met my lovely guy here on POF. After a year of living fairly close and then a year separated by the Tasman sea (we still saw each other once a month) we are all set to move in with each other in January when my only kid moves 1000 k's away for a gap year before uni. I'm scared witless!! All the boxes are checked... I love him- yep. I trust him- yep. We have so far never had a cross word, but even if we do I'm ok with that. He's quite literally 'all that' and then some for me! Soooooo... why am I scared? Is it just because my last live-in experience (with hubby) ended disastrously? Is it because I fear I'm too set in my ways after 12 years alone? Or am I just a whingeing up-myself arsehole???? I think I'm just being a sooky twit but... has anyone else had these fears and resolved them? Thanks POF'ers.....

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Today Was Our 6 Month Anniversary Posted: 11/8/2009 9:24:25 PM
OOOOO I do like happy endings... or beginnings as someone up there ^^^^^^^^ said. I met my fish here too, after just 4 weeks of joining up. We will mark our 2 year anniversary in January, and are finally about to move in together... scary but exciting! We weathered a year (well 8 months ) of him being in New Zealand and me here in Aus so I guess we can withstand the tough times as well as the good ones. At least I got to go there 3 times which was a treat. I get sad at those who bash the site for failing them- it is what it is- a free site so there will be time wasters. but I'm pretty sure you reap what you sow, so working at it rather than complaining or charging all women with being gold-digging attention-seeking drama queens with no grey matter between the ears has to be better?? I think there are probably more success stories than we know about as most people dont come back to report their successes. Some of us never leave because we love the forums huh Good luck everyone!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Do I owe an explanation? Posted: 11/8/2009 6:35:42 PM
I don't think the OP was referring to spelling in particular. He says the messages were 'poorly expressed' and 'sloppily written'. To me that implies long sentences, lack of punctuation, poor syntax and no flow through. If her profile did not alert him to any problems in this area, maybe she had help writing it? To me, it's probably NOT a good idea to have someone write your profile for exactly the reasons experienced by the OP. The exception to this is would of course be if the person was dyslexic, then no problem. OP- I might be inclined to give the woman the benefit of the doubt one more time, especially if you could arrange to talk to her instead of communicating through email. But if you are not comfortable asking for her number or supplying yours, I would just sent the 'I don't think we are compatible' email. If she replies in a negative way, block her.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Parents Visting and Dating... Posted: 11/8/2009 5:43:00 PM
OP, I'm with the crowd applauding you for doing what should be the natural thing, but to some folk seems to be abhorrent. I am an only child and fully expect to care for either or both of my parents if they need it. BUT a couple of bits of advice from someone who has lived with her parents as an adult a couple of times. Firstly, even though it is your place, parents never ever stop parenting so do expect them to tell you how to do things 'right' on occasion. Mum may want to take over the cooking if she is there 6 months (thats 180+ meals) and be hurt if you suggest her way of doing it isn't yours any more (What? This is how I cooked for you and your brother now suddenly its not good enough????) and dad may want to do things his way too. I suggest sitting down with both of them and voicing your minor concerns, telling them that you dont want to upset them but explain a couple of things about YOUR lifestyle and ask them to elaborate on how they want to live while with you too. Ask them for ideas on how to give and take. Don't worry about the odd nay-sayer on here, most women do in fact give extra brownie points to the family-oriented guy, especially when its a temporary thing. If you do meet someone, just pray she lives alone or has a housemate who travels extensively....

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Sex versus love Posted: 11/3/2009 12:10:07 PM
I think that most men who have matured emotionally (no age limit here- I know mature 20 year olds and immature 50 year olds) DO need to feel at least some connection to the women they have sex with. It doesn't have to be love though. When I met my guy, it took perhaps 5 months to realise I actually loved him, and for certain I could not have lasted 5 months before getting him nekkid I'm pretty sure it was the same for him- we liked each other, we slept together, we got to know each other physically, intellectually and emotionally, then we used that L word! My non-scientific equation is therefore: spark+connection+sex

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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My signature recipes Posted: 11/3/2009 2:10:31 AM
3 things 1) Minestrone soup w/ home made garlic bread 2) Spanakopita pie 3) Filo apple pie w/ mixed berries and cinnamon

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Sex in parents house while parents are home Posted: 11/1/2009 10:12:47 PM
I did as a teen- down in the kitchen while my parents were asleep upstairs! Have done it more recently too, visiting my parents with my SO. Luckilty the spare room is downstairs..... We just kept it a bit (a lot!) quiet, just as we do if he stays at my place and the kids (18 years old) are home.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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who e-mails who first Posted: 11/1/2009 2:10:23 AM
I met 4 guys from here- I initiated contact with ALL of them. Read my profile and you will see I found my fishie here 2 years ago. I emailed him just because he was close by to say a polite hello in a large country with a small population. I didn't think we were a match but I am proof that taking a punt works.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Making an Excuse to Party on Halloween - Roadblocks if any? Posted: 11/1/2009 2:04:54 AM
My roadblock??? I'm an Aussie/ English woman and Hallowe'en is an American holiday!!!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Let's take a walk in the woods Posted: 11/1/2009 12:25:45 AM
^^^^^^^^^^ really? What is different about YOU taking advantage? Makes you equally culpable. Dating isn't about talking advantage- on either side of the gender fence.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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When should the woman offer to pay? Posted: 11/1/2009 12:13:53 AM
I earn almost exactly the average wage here in Aus. My SO earns almost exactly 3 times that. Our first date, he paid for coffee then a couple of hours later I bought cold drinks. 2nd date was coffee at his place. 3rd date he cooked for me. We don't go out too often to eat as we both love to cook but if we do, even after 2 years together it tends to be a 50-50 split between us for who pays. maybe its because I have been a single mum 12 years now and with no CS I did things entirely alone, and by now I find it hard to accept someone paying my way? I budget very well and thoroughly enjoy treating my guy. He is more than enough of a man to just say 'thank you'. It does not emasculate him.... On edit- maybe its 55/45... we sometimes go out for brunch and I've only paid once. Just trying to be truthful here!!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Being together for 30, 40, 50 years. Posted: 10/31/2009 2:55:25 PM
My parents are still together after56 years. Mum is almost 77 and dad turns 80 next year. They are off camping with their almost 80 year old friend for a couple of months after Christmas.... At 46 and having been with my SO for nearly 2 years I am looking forward to at least another 40 years with him of non-wedded bliss!!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Gurgle gurgle what? Posted: 10/24/2009 8:51:07 PM
My daughter was 18 months old and very vocal, with disappointingly few mispronunciations. But one day we were out for a walk after watching Sesame Street, and she kept yelling 'uncle! uncle!' N0w her uncle was about to come for a visit and shed not met him before, so I assumed that was it. But as we neared the end of the walk she darts off, yelling UNCLE at the top of her voice... and comes back with a stoone shaped like... a triangle!! As a child I called flamingos 'mingagos', pen guins were 'poogins' and my wallpaper as a child had an odd fruit-like print on it which I called 'stobbyabbles'. The kids at work always call light sabres 'light savers'. One refers to shoving in (pushing in) as 'shovelling in'- now they all say it! Kids- better than the telly.....

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Is there a stigma associated w recent widowers? Posted: 10/24/2009 6:34:54 PM
My thoughts, based on nothing more than opinion since I am neither widowed nor seeing a widower, is that there may be some hesitancy on the woman's part to date a widower. IMO there might be concerns that they wouldn't measure up to the deceased partner, that the widower would have his wife up on a pedestal, that you might be in some way emotionally unavailable, that she might need to walk on eggshells around you, that discussing the past at all is a no-no, that your son is going to have real problems with another woman around you and eventually him... those are a few things that come to mind. Are they fair or realistic? Dunno, but they are valid concerns. I would imagine these kinds of worries are the same for both genders. Having said all of that, I can say that for me, it would make no difference if I wanted to contact a widower or if he contacted me. As long as he felt he was ready to start dating again then I would assume he had thought things through and that would be enough for me I am sorry that you had to lose your wife- I cant comprehend that kind of loss- but I do wish you and your kid a great future

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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How far would you go? Posted: 10/24/2009 12:22:41 AM
My daughter is nearly 18 and the borrowed son has already turned 18- I went as far as New Zealand on several occasions this year!! Seriously- they enjoyed the break as much as I did.... The first time I left my daughter alone for the day because I had to work she was 14. I was close by though, and she had the whole 'lock-the-door-and-dont-answer-the-phone' speech first too.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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You know your a Mom when.. Posted: 10/23/2009 2:41:35 AM
I know I have everlasting mum status because- my 'kid' who is about to finish school (and the lad I took on 2 years ago of the same age) STILL get sandwiches and whatnot made for them every day, plus a hovering female who makes them eat a good breakfast before leaving the house.... I do refrain from checking behind their ears for potatoes tho

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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a BBQ virgin... lol Posted: 10/23/2009 1:37:02 AM
^^^^^^^ ohhhhhh yeah there will be corn!! lol it grows well here and is plentiful at the moment! I might do some thin sliced onion, potato and sweet potato or pumpkin wrapped in baking paper with herbs and a splash of white wine- had that once and it was deeeelicious

jojoaus

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For something really radical - Toast :19: Posted: 10/23/2009 1:33:29 AM
French toast... FRENCH toast..... French TOASSSSSSSSSSSST...... eggy nutmeggy fruity deliciousness. Where is the droooooooooool icon when you need it! I love fire toast (a delicacy from my youth) A good white bread, with plenty of body, cut waaaaaaaay too thick. Slip onto a toasting fork and hold close to naked dancing fire flames (NB please be sure to read that correctly- naked flames not people!!) . Toast to desired brown-ness then turn. Slather in real honest to goodness butter and enjoy. Repeat once a decade or when cholesterol levels return to safe levels. I am now frustrated. I have no good bread, no toasting fork and no fire

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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latest cookbook you bought? Posted: 10/22/2009 2:05:50 AM
My last cookbook wasn't about cooking. Was c0cktail book. Am I going to hell?????

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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I WON'T eat this without??? Posted: 10/22/2009 1:50:04 AM
I cant eat: pizza without a knife and fork (yeah I know) mango without a bib red spag sauce without a shower after.... and a good soaker for my shirt corn without a toothpick

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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a BBQ virgin... lol Posted: 10/21/2009 11:40:15 PM
Wow everyone! Thank you all SO MUCH for the ideas so far- they are all things I would love to try. To SS- I have a large gas powered grill to use- its a loaner and I will check it out tomorrow to see what bells and whistles it has. To those suggesting I get experienced BBQ cooks to handle most of the meat?? You bet I will!! The brothers-in-law are champing at the bit so thats easy. I suppose they are actually ex- BIL's but my ex's family and I have never let a lil old divorce stand in the way of a get-together Fish, probably salmo,n will definitely be on the menu as I have access to good fresh local produce. Grilled mushrooms too just because I love them... The family will be chipping in with some of the meats such as sausages and thin steaks, and I intend to provide 3 or 4 really good mains. I think the marinated chicken wings are a go for the kids, and I have a fancy to make lamb kebabs and serve with a yoghurty-minty-garlicky sauce- or mebbe skhordalia (sp?) that garlic bread sauce? That boneless Sides so far will be a huge potato bake, a good greek salad, a tabbouleh, maybe some dips like hommus and baba ghanoush? Dessert as this stage is my ex making 2 huge tiramisu as he does fabby ones and it's the birthday girl's fave. I have PLENTY of time to cook, marinade etc- have taken the Friday off work as it is the actual birthday day so I will be cleaning and pottering all day. Then I can cook for most of Saturday as the clans gather mid afternoon. That marinaded leg o' lamb sounds good too... ^^^^^ tell Phil and Kate (not Kennedy is it???) to follow their noses. The party is on the 7th November so I have 2 weeks to plan it. Can't wait! Again... thank you all so much for inspiring me!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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a BBQ virgin... lol Posted: 10/21/2009 2:02:13 AM
OK so my daughter turns 18 in 2 1/2 weeks and we have at least 17 family members descending on us (yes at my invitation... how silly am I!!) and we will be having a BBQ at my house. Now... I'm a veggo as is my kid but I want to cook meat other than the obvious sausages for the family. Basically... I need help! BBQ for dummies What can and cant be barbequed, marinades, cooking times ANYTHING please! I'm going to do potato bakes and salads but any sides suggestions would also be much appreciated as I have never BBQ'd in my life! I'm really looking forward to it.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Hey that's my spaghetti sauce Posted: 10/21/2009 1:53:03 AM
2 nights ago i made a new 'my' spag sauce recipe, tho really its not so special in terms of ingredients! Chop up a red onion and 2 cloves fresh, pref organic garlic. Sautee in evoo on low to med heat til onion is soft and the garlic is making you drool. Add a tin of roma tomatoes, chopped, or 6-7 fresh ones with a little water. Cook some more. Add 2 dessertspoons of rich tomato paste. Allow to reduce by 1/3. Add salt/pepper to taste. Stir in 2 giant tablespoons of pesto and stir well. Serve with your fave pasta. It was.. delicious! All up it cooked for around 40 mins and I think that was what made it so special. Next time I may add bay as an extra dimension.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Lentil Soup... Posted: 10/21/2009 1:44:40 AM
Vampiel.. I put lentils (red ones) in my spag sauce. My non veggo lodger (read meat eating teen) prefers it to the meat version. On topic.... will find my dahl soup recipe soon and post it. Tis very yummy....

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Your First Posted: 10/21/2009 1:35:35 AM
My first dinner party was at age 21 for my new fiance and my friends. It was simple because I never learned to cook with my mum- she was and still is a pretty awful cook I made pan-fried rainbow trout (whole) with a green salad and home made shoestring fries. I know I made dessert but I have no idea what!! The first thing I EVER made was mince pies for Christmas- Mum was mortified that my pastry was better than hers. It was because I used butter instead of margarine! She swore she hated the fatty taste of butter but she certainly scarfed down those mince pies.... People like the OP and Charon are just incredible.... I am astounded at your creativity and just love reading about your culinary exploits! Maybe the next foodie movie could be SS and Charon instead of Julie and Julia- who would play you two do you think???? Great thread SmilingSalmon!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Hypothetical question re preschool children's fear and scary movies Posted: 10/20/2009 1:54:58 AM
^^ Isabel kitty^^ I wanted to message you to ask you a q but as I suspected, your settings excluded me. I am really interested in looking at preschoolers and how many have DVD players in their rooms and the run-on from that as a possible PhD thesis. Would it be OK if I referenced you in a new thread here on POF? You can email me yes or no. If I don't hear from you, I won't reference you. If you say no, then obviously the same applies!! On topic- I work with pre schoolers and I think it can to an extent depend on the child, but I believe desensitising toward actual violence happens early. I caught a glimpse of something on the TV tonight (cant reference it... was cooking dinner at the time!) which suggested children under 2 should simply not be exposed to TV period. dont know how practical that is really but I must admit I tend to want to limit access to violence in the media- real or cartoon/stylised- for the younger child. JMO of course. Great topic OP!!

jojoaus

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And what was your part in it? Posted: 10/20/2009 1:04:22 AM
I saw someone needy and thought I could 'fix him up', mould him into what I wanted. How arrogant of me! if arrogance isn't one of the 7 deadlies... it should be. Mea culpa.

jojoaus

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unfermented sour? Posted: 10/18/2009 1:23:08 AM
Sumac gets my vote. I wasn't really familiar with it til last weekend- I put together a birthday picnic hamper for my SO (with the help of a local cake store!) and one of the components was a beetroot/sumac relish... it was literally mouthwatering. Tamarind would perhaps add more of the sour you are after but sumac is a little more... subtle? Dunno. But its yum with a capital Y

jojoaus

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parental contact after the nest is left--how often do you speak to your kids? Posted: 10/16/2009 9:52:39 PM
I am about to find out OP!! My one and only is set to move 900 k's away in January... gulp! Given that we get on very well and enjoy each other's company I expect to hear from her once or twice a week. I think it will be a combo of phone, email and maybe skype. I have told her I would worry if I didn't hear from her at least weekly. I'm pretty sure she will call more often at first as this will be her first stab at independent living and no matter how well prepared they may feel- its hard at first!! My parents live very close but I tend t visit rather than call.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Men and needs Posted: 10/15/2009 11:20:05 PM
I'm pretty firmly in the 'wanted' camp. After a few dates with my SO, I got a text which said- "Thank you for making me feel wanted. It has been a long time since I felt so." That was nearly 2 years ago- I kept the text. He still tells me how good that feels to him and he surely knows I feel the same way. I don't need him, though it may feel that way at times, but I want to be with him as much as he does with me. I suspect women articulate that desire more than guys but both genders feel it deeply.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Vegetarian Potluck Posted: 10/4/2009 3:40:30 AM
Yes I do drain the chickpeas, but keep a little bit of juice to hand just in case... my food blender isn't great and sometimes it gets clogged and I add a little of the reserved juice to help things along. I did mean to add to the above recipe that I use whichever herbs grab my fancy on the day. I am a great coriander fan so I do use that quite often. Once I used cumin, dried coriander and curry leaves in it and that took it to a whole new level! I thin k I used some tahini instead of the sherry (which I never have anyway- I just double up on the stock). I do love that b y and large, cooking other than baking is not an exact science... I can make it up as i go along As far as eggs and dairy go SmilimgSalmon- I eat both and while I could easily forego dairy most of the time (though special cheeses might be a wrench... sigh.....) I think I need the protein and fat that eggs supply. My kid, also vegetarian- has a good friend whose mum is vegan. She basically eats what she grows. Her daughter started out in life eating a little meat, as dad is not veggo, which she gave up. She then cut eggs out of hjer diet too (odd, because she raises and breeds chickens !!) as well as the little bit of dairy she ate. She became quite ill, with low energy, catching colds etc. So she went back to eating eggs and all was well. I do think 'ladies of a certain age' (i.e. older chooks like you and I ) need to be careful to eat from a wide variety of sources, to make sure we cover all bases. We also need to be careful about calcium intake. I can't in all honesty advise you about whether or not you should include eggs/dairy in your diet- I suppose the only real answer is to listen to your body. As with my kid's friend and her mum- different family members react differently to the food they eat. I'm rambling! Reduce your intake of dairy. Then eggs. Do it slowly!! See how you feel. BTW... felafels with hommus and tabbouleh are favourite foods with the girl and me.... read your post in hey good lookin! Take care one and all xx

jojoaus

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Salmon and capers Posted: 10/3/2009 7:53:43 PM
Fresh tuna steaks in the frying pan with capers and a smidge of the juice from the caper jar is also divine!! Also I have coated a tuna steak with a little evoo and rolled it around in dukkah (a delish middle eastern spice blend) and just baked it in the oven wrapped in tin foil. Would bet salmon could be used to the same effect. My SO likes to smoosh up evoo and Moroccan spices and marinate white fish in the fridge or a few hours then bake in the oven too. Tandoori flavours mixed into yoghurt makes a great marinade too, then grill the fish. Haven't had that in ages.... hmmmmmm. Enjoy your experimenting!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Vegetarian Potluck Posted: 10/3/2009 3:16:19 PM
OK- sorry for taking so long to post but my internet has been down for a day and a half, and is not reliable at other times. Trying to have someone home to talk to an internet-fixer-upper is proving tricky too as the kids finished high school (the forever kind of finish except for exams!!) and are busy socialising all the time. And some of us actually have to work every day to support said socialising...... Chickpea roast 450g/1 lb can chick peas 5 oz chopped walnuts/pecans 5 1/2 oz fresh breadcrumbs 1 brown onion finely chopped 3 1/2 oz chopped mushies small can of sweetcorn or 1 cooked cob, stripped (corn is cheap here atm!) 2 garlic cloves, crushed 2 tbspn dry sherry 2 tblspns stock 1 tblspn fresh coriander (cilantro to you yanks lol) 8 oz prepared puff pastry (I made my own once. Just the once.... ) 1 beaten egg* 2 tblspns milk* *omit for vegan dish Put chickpeas, nuts and breadcrumbs in a blender and whizz 30 seconds. Put onions and mushies in a dry fry pan and cook in their own juices for 3-4 mins. Stir the chick pea mix into the pan with the mushrooms and onion. Add corn and garlic. Stir in sherry, stock, coriander and salt/pepper to taste. Remove pan from heat, allow mixture to cool. Roll out your pastry into a 12 by 14 inch rectangle. Shape the chickpea mixture into a loaf and place on pastry. Wrap it up and seal. Place seam side down onto a dampened baking sheet. Mark a criss-cross pattern on the top, and glaze with the egg and milk mixed together. Or not, if going vegan. Cook in a 200 deg C/400 deg F oven for 30 mins or so til brown. Simple but yummmmmmmmmy... The same recipe book had a lovely lentil loaf recipe which, however hard I try, always sticks to the loaf tin, baking paper, whatever... So last night I made the loaf but wrapped it in pastry like this recipe... I might even prefer it this way. Its slightly softer than the above recipe so doesn't look as impressive when you cut it up but it was just for me and the kiddies on a cold cold night... Put chickpeas, nuts,

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Vegetarian Potluck Posted: 10/1/2009 12:41:02 AM
I suppose the weather where you are is cooling down, so maybe one pot warmers are a go? I am a vego with the odd lapse but my girl has never eaten meat in all her almost 18 years (apart from her daycare admitting in horrified tones that they gave her a sausage once by accident ). I love chili sans carne- make your fave chili recipe but just double up on whatever pulse you would normally use. For lacto-ovo types, quiches and frittatas are great, both taste delicious at room temp too. In any casserole or stove-top sauce for say, spaghetti,, red lentils are a great meat substitute- wash thoroughly and either cook separately for 15 mins or cook in the actual sauce. I make a yummy version of beef wellington using chickpeas and sundry goodies all whizzed up that looks great and tastes better... do let me know if you want any detailed recipes from those mentioned. Most are a combo of recipes I own, ones I read 'somewhere' and improvs due to lack of ingredients at some point, so I can't copy/paste them. Good luck!! Oh... a favourite I have made and put up in the forums is spanakopita.... look for the phyllo/fillo/filo thread

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Anyone else a phyllo/filo/fillo pastry fan??? Posted: 9/29/2009 3:49:32 AM
Never seen or heard of Kataifi but am salivating at the thought! Can you shred your own? Just how finely is it cut??? pleeeeeeeeeeeeeease share as it sounds wonderful!!

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Biting/Slapping/Etc. Posted: 9/22/2009 3:11:03 AM
I do think that maybe while the 20's generation may be more open talking about sexual proclivities, kinks, whatever as per the professors in the OP's small study, that does not mean that 'older' (OMGGGGGGGG!! I'm older??) couples don't... experiment... They always have done! We just don'y necessarily talk about it. Each generation assumes they are more liberal than the last- I discovered my mum (married 56 years this month) was sexually active a full 2 years before me Yup... far too much info but it stops me thinking I am more liberated or freer sexually than her. Vive la differance.... of le generation... lolol

jojoaus

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Older people only pls Posted: 9/22/2009 2:54:02 AM
OP... your last line... I was shamed by a religion or molested... what does that mean?? Are you not sure? Are you trolling? Hmmm... I'm definitely older thus qualified to answer but the parameters of the question aren't clear.

jojoaus

Joined: 10/28/2007

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Fish Sandwiches Posted: 9/22/2009 2:44:56 AM
SS seriously hun!! Get that book published... you can count on this Aussie food lover to give you a testimonial Choosing healthy food is a big issue for sure- I love my healthy food and my gym visits BUT!!!.... The passion you exhibit in your genuine love of food just because its sooooooooo yummy is infectious and... really! We don't all subscribe to the idea that counting calories is more important than having delicious heartwarming smile-inducing foods to share with our nearest and dearest. Put me down for a first-run edition ok???? Signed of course

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