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 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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SO the printer of your horoscope has bad days too...
Posted: 4/29/2013 11:57:02 PM
Well I thought it was funny! As the 'worst of the lot' I hope my murder is quick and painless ;)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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songs that scared us when we were kids
Posted: 4/29/2013 12:40:35 AM
OMG!!! Accessed that link and it scared the sh!t outta me! Probably shouldn't have watched it in the middle of a 2 week stint alone in the house.....
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Young adult children from his/her marriage
Posted: 4/28/2013 2:53:39 PM
Thank you everyone for the contributions. I realise that it sounds odd that we want to rent the house out rather than living in it, but the idea behind that is to ensure the boys do not have any notion that they can move back in. It has been their family home all of their lives bar about 4 years for the oldest. The house needs work done on it to realise it's full potential and selling it now would be a bit of a waste. However it IS currently the fall back plan.

I do not want to move into the house with the older boys, I would then be seen as replacement mum who they would expect to cook and clean for them. Not happening.

Oldest son has put in an application for a rental, but with no rental history it could take time, which is why the offer of very temporary accommodation had been made. I envision 2 or 3 weeks. At that point, there are a million share houses around and that would have to be the next step. The only added complication are 3 boisterous dogs who also need a home! Youngest son has only sporadic employment although he can and does take any work on offer. They have just been so mollycoddled that they do not know how to take responsibility for themselves.

Oh and to the poster who mentioned that the boys must have been given notice that mum was leaving? They got 3 days notice, as did my SO. Is lack of responsibility inherited???

Having slept on it, I will wait til my SO gets home next Sunday and can actually speak to the boys. I like the idea above from starlight... a brainstorming session with the 4 of us, and that can be when I explain what being at our house temporarily would mean in terms of what is and is not ok.

thanks again everyone :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Young adult children from his/her marriage
Posted: 4/28/2013 4:16:48 AM
oh jan HELL yes they would be paying rent. And doing chores. No free ride from me. my own child had to help out and become responsible for herself. They need to learn how to be independent- I honestly think it will be good for them in the medium term.

Also.. the oldest son works 6 days a week as a concreter and the middle son works sporadically, either with his brother or as a qualifies asbestos removalist. they have no school or trade qualifications though.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Young adult children from his/her marriage
Posted: 4/28/2013 4:12:49 AM
To Igor, whose opinions and insights I have always taken very seriously, I do realise that my decision not to leave him means I have to accept what his life brings to a degree.

IF, and it is a big IF, they do move in with us in the short term, there will be rules to which they simply HAVE to adhere. These would include where they can smoke cigarettes, doing laundry, buying junk food etc. Plus zero tolerance for joints, bongs, hard drugs etc. And this would be supported by their dad. We had this convo tonight. Plus not forgetting this is a nice rented house and our lease states it is for just the two of us. I deplore the way they were brought up but I can't see them homeless at the same time. The concept of them living here briefly under our rules was my idea not his.

Life is such a challenge huh! I have all of this plus a massive accreditation thing going on at work to occupy me at the moment. Gaaaahhh!
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Young adult children from his/her marriage
Posted: 4/28/2013 4:02:24 AM
Dad is overseas purely for work... its not for pleasure. It is his only source of income, although it does pay very well. He is so worried its not funny. And I was just trying to organise cleaners and plumbers rather than his family! This is why I am a bit overwhelmed. The issue of his ex moving that far away with his 12 year old is totally distressing to both of us and I could rant for a long time about that but it is not what is stressing me at the moment. Naturally, it affects him horribly.

Would you let the older sons move in with you in order to rent out the family home to pay off the loan?
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Young adult children from his/her marriage
Posted: 4/28/2013 3:33:43 AM
I don't want this to be gender polarised hence the his/her thing....

Ok background. It is a bit complicated. He and I have been together 3 years, living together 17 months in a rental. He has 3 sons. His ex was bought out from the family home a couple of weeks ago, where she was living with her oldest and youngest sons. My guy had to take out a mortgage to make this happen. For the record, this is what she wanted. Oldest son, 22, who was living at home with mum was told he would be moving out locally with mum, her b/f and the 12 year old son. But then mum, b/f and 12 year old move 800 k's away to 'start again' leaving 22 year old at home. Now, my guy wants to rent out his home to cover the cost of the loan with the idea that in 3 or 4 years we both move back in, when the older kids realise it is not their flop house any more, renovate and sell. Thus the kids get a decent inheritance. I would not benefit financially from this... I know what is in his will.

Background on the background is that the kids are all still very dependent on the parents. 22 year old is really pissy he actually has to move out. Tonight I hear from my guy (who is overseas for work) that the almost 21 year old has been thrown out from his g/f's house where he has been living for more than a year. He wants to move back 'home'.

I am stressed out by this as I am trying to organise the house for rental while my SO is overseas yet rather than getting the oldest to move out, we now have another one moving in!!!

I have suggested that he give them a firm date to move out... but I doubt they would take him seriously. My other thought is to have them move in with us but make it a truly short term thing just to allow us to get the family home ready fr rental. I am sure that given their habits they would hate living with me lol

What would you do? And no, I won't abandon a good man who did not raise his kiddies terribly well....
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Garnishing inheritance money
Posted: 4/26/2013 4:28:53 PM
Just to be clear, Tealwood, I do give her a regular amount which supplements her income from work and assistance from the government. I just know she does it fairly tough and sometimes the cost of a new text book or incidental thing needed for uni can unbalance what is a very carefully balanced budget. Also, while she was growing up and I was studying full time for a degree then a masters, we had very little money and nowadays, my income allows me to send her the odd $50 just because :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Childfree life
Posted: 4/23/2013 2:45:38 PM
I can't exactly answer your question as I have a child and so does my partner. I just wanted to tell you that I heard an interesting statistic yesterday that 1 in 4 women here (Australia) do not give birth. That does not mean some will remain childless, as there is adoption and step-parenting in the mix, but I think that as you get older you will find plenty of other childless women in the community, and I do not believe they will all remain single! I know you are in a different country but it seems unlikely the stats would be much different. In high school I had 5 best friends, we all hung out together all of the time. Of the 6 of us, only 2 have had children. So, I do not think having no children is a negative.

Good luck!
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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First experience.. Not good.. scam?
Posted: 4/23/2013 1:35:28 AM
When I was looking, I always spoke on the phone before meeting, not because I particularly planned it that way, it just seemed like a natural progression to me. At the very least you would (probably!) be able to tell the gender of the person! I was never stood up but twice I was cancelled on a few hours before the initial meet. But both men rescheduled and oddly, both ended up as LTR's, and I am still with the second guy.

As for your Ms Flakey- I would not give her a second chance as she was pretty rude the first time.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Garnishing inheritance money
Posted: 4/22/2013 3:02:51 AM
Amazed my old thread was resurrected although I am sure I was not the first to experience this kind of thing. I never did get one red cent from him for my daughter- she is still at university and mostly supporting herself with occasional cries for financial help to me :D Not long after I posted this thread she met her dad for what I suspect will be the last time... He was in ICU after yet another drunk fall. That was 3 years ago. Not every story has a happy ending. My pissiness, fully admitted to, dissipated pretty fast and she and I just got on with life. Right now she is happy, I am happy and I cannot ask for more.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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What would your spaceship be like?
Posted: 4/19/2013 6:13:29 PM
I have very little tech know-how or understanding of how space actually works (and I suspect I would be scared witless at the randomness of it all anyway), I will answer the question as it stands. I think my ship would have a definite steampunk look- lots of knobs and pipes and weird looking machines, with a great deal of copper and brass. There would be a well-stocked****ail cabinet and some kind of mechanical butler. I would also want a small but functional biosphere so I could develop a melancholia for all I had left behind. Any space pods would be similar in appearance and I might even wear a pith helmet while exploring new worlds (which as I type I now imagine to be similar to the world in Avatar for some reason).

I am useless at naming things. Even my own daughter... her name is so common that at play group many years ago, 5 of the 9 girls shared her name. So I would want someone else to find something original for it :)

It is cold and wet here today and thus wonderful for imagining great things.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Sperm & Egg Donors: How would this effect your feelings?
Posted: 4/17/2013 1:02:21 PM
Well as a woman who had to rely on donor sperm because my husband was infertile, I can only say that at no point after my marriage failed did I ever consider going after the donor for child support! That is craaazy. And for the nut jobs out there, try asking my well adjusted 21 year old whether or not SHE feels 'real' or short changed in any way. Without the donor sperm she would not exist and I do not think that option would appeal to her.

To actually answer the OP... no. It would not make one iota of difference to me.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Guy from the past
Posted: 3/27/2013 4:11:54 PM
I would message him with a couple of options, along the lines of 'Hey ____, I am free Tuesday or Friday after work. I t would be fun to catch up and chat. Let me know if either of these works for you.' Of course, I tend to be fairly direct in my communications with men (and women) and this does not make me feel uncomfortable. YMMV
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Called by an ex's name
Posted: 3/25/2013 4:04:54 AM
My SO of 3 years' name rhymes with my ex husband. A single syllable name, 1 letter different. I have been apart from my ex hubby for 15 years and have no contact yet I have mixed up their names a handful of times. My lovely man rolls his eyes and sighs melodramatically and we carry on. He is confident enough in himself to know it means nothing.
he has never called me by his exes name but makes up for it by having her name tattooed on his shoulder and I get to see that every night lmao :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Anyone have good recipes for gaining weight?
Posted: 3/25/2013 3:48:12 AM
I had a friend growing up who was and still is just like you. So were her mum and sister. She/they simply never gained weight and ate whatever they liked. It is quite rare- 1 in 10,000 she was told. Maybe look into the whey protein shakes guys use to build up lean muscle? But yeah, that's an uneducated guess on my part. Eat lots of good fats such as oily fish, avocado and egg yolk. Hope you get where you want to be!
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Middle Age Romance
Posted: 3/23/2013 10:27:56 PM
My 59 year old man is perhaps not traditionally romantic but has his moments. If he was wanting a nurse and looked at me- he would have a terrible time as my bedside manner is more Nurse Ratchet than Florence Nightingale. If he is looking for a purse, well again he would be sadly disappointed. I will say when he was starting his own business 18 months ago there was a serious cash flow problem for 2 or 3 months and I happily paid both our ways until the money came in. Now he earns close to twice what I do and he is generous and sometimes spoils me. If things dried up again for him- I would have his financial back no problems.

So yes. Definitely. Middle age romances are possible :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Meeting her 1 1/2 year old soon. Advice?
Posted: 3/5/2013 12:58:27 PM
1 1/2 is quite a good age as most children are over the inbuilt fear of strangers by then. If you do want to bring something for the little one then yes, the book is a good idea. Let the child come to you, and just act like a pal to the mother for now. I am sure it will be fine... Good luck :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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weekend away...when is the right time?
Posted: 3/4/2013 10:33:26 PM
Due to distance, family and living constraints, I think it took us 4 months to go away together. It wasn't a romantic weekend away, he had a business trip to Darwin and I had always wanted to go there. So we went. It was fun :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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How would you improve the human body?
Posted: 3/3/2013 10:28:55 PM
Re: message 65 and a subsequent one below citing horses as 'trippers', my horse had the ability to trip over thin air. I think he could see things out of the corner of his eye, believe them to be in front of him and then stumble. he would also JUMP over things that weren't there, again it seemed to be things that were just to the left or the right of him. Handsome but just maybe a little dopey ;P

My choices for improving the human body would have to include:
1. A better designed spinal column
2. A faster metabolism which did not slow with age
3. Flight......
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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bucket list of to-do recipes we can't believe we've never made
Posted: 3/3/2013 12:21:43 AM
I ticked one off my bucket list tonight; san choy bau. It was good but not great- I used an online recipe and it needs tweaking. Nevertheless, it was a lovely light dinner :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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chicken breasts
Posted: 3/1/2013 4:10:50 PM
If I use the skinless breasts I will sometimes make a pocket in them with a sharp knife, and pop in a baby bocconcini, maybe a fresh basil leaf, a semi dried tomato or fresh cherry tomato, wrap in foil and then bake until the chicken is cooked through. I like making home made schnitzels too, much as described above but instead of the corn flakes, I use a mixture of breadcrumbs, finely grated Parmesan and lots of black pepper. These can be baked or fried, but if you bake them you really have to be careful not to overcook or they will dry out. I work full time too and pretty much every weeknight dinner needs to be fairly simple to put together.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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My kids a biter!
Posted: 2/7/2013 10:52:51 PM
The day care mother CAN look for triggers and certainly should be aware when the biting occurs. Presumably the child being bitten cries? I have been an early childhood teacher for 16 years and I do know that biting is usually triggered by something; mostly frustration because either a) the biter wants something the other child has or b) the biter is being goaded and/or upset by another child. Having said that, other posters have pointed out that some of the responsibility for addressing the situation falls firmly on your shoulders. She is your daughter and with the best will in the world, her day care mum cannot change her behaviour single handedly. It is up to the both of you to work out when and why the biting is happening (this needs to be observed and recorded by the day care mum) and then working out how to avoid the situations which lead to it in the first place. You do need to talk to your girl often about why it is wrong to bite, you need to remind her each time she is dropped off at day care that she is not to bite, but use her words and tell the carer if something is wrong. The day care mum needs to reiterate this regularly throughout the day. Then when she does not bite, you act like a crazy loon and applaud her good behaviour.
It will take time but with clear and regular reminders of the correct way to behave coupled with positive reinforcement, it WILL help.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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bucket list of to-do recipes we can't believe we've never made
Posted: 2/5/2013 12:48:34 PM
^^^^ Google Nigella Lawson's Frangelico tiramisu. I made my first ever tiramisu for Christmas day dessert this year using this recipe. It was so easy (if rather expensive as it uses copious amounts of mascarpone and liqueur) and a real jaw-dropping crowd pleaser!
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Home Made Cold and Flu Remedies
Posted: 1/26/2013 10:45:48 PM
My partner just came home from a business trip to Northern China where it is pretty damn cold. Whenever he goes there he is presented with.... boiled coke and ginger! He just made me some and while I find it wayyy too sweet to be palatable, it certainly clears your head and I do not even have a cold! I googled it just now and found quite a few mentions of it, one had lemon slices added which might counteract the sweetness a bit. Before coke was invented apparently it was brown sugar dissolved in water then boiled with sliced up ginger.

I make NO claims to it's efficacy but hey, 1.3 billion Chinese can't be wrong ;P
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Advice
Posted: 1/23/2013 11:56:10 PM
Don't flip the tea towel that hangs in front of the oven on to a hot ring in the hob top unless you enjoy both putting out fires a d the smell of singed material :/

I was the unwitting victim of a salt/ sugar mix up once when a staff member filled the sugar container with salt. Just awful
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Met a Beautiful Woman.........Never disclosed she's in a Wheelchair
Posted: 1/23/2013 12:53:01 AM
OP I honestly do think the lady should have disclosed. I perhaps understand that she is sick of being rejected by those she has told up front, but it IS a big deal in that able bodied folk by and large do not understand what it is like to date someone in a wheelchair. I should imagine that showing up on a date to find he/she is in a wheelchair would make actually getting to know the person really hard, because the whole wheelchair issue is being processed at a million miles an hour.

You said that her being in a wheelchair was not necessarily the issue, but as I said before, she might have had a whole series of rejections based on prior disclosure. Very tricky for her I would think.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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homemade salad dressings
Posted: 1/20/2013 12:14:19 AM
Ok here is another one. Having done a bit of travelling in Asia in the last couple of years I have come to love the clean fresh tastes I have found there. That, combined with my expanding waistline due in part to finding someone who loves my cooking I have been looking for low fat low carb dinners. Tonight I am alone as my guy is away for two weeks but that is no excuse not to eat well. I made an Asian style chicken salad comprised of poached shredded chicken, coriander, shredded cabbage, julienned carrot, capsicum, shallots AND a lovely dressing. The dressing would work with any Asian style salad.

Asian dressing

2 tablespoons fresh lime juice
1 tablespoon fish sauce
2 teaspoons brown sugar (I used palm sugar for a little more authenticity)
1 fresh red chilli, de seeded and chopped

Obviously I made a lot less for just me

It's so nice. Hope you like :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Would you do this?
Posted: 1/16/2013 12:58:01 AM
Yes I would. My daughter got my old car once she was eligible to drive alone (here in Australia 16 year olds get their L plates but need to complete 120 hours of supervised driving before getting a provisional licence to drive alone) and was 18. If she had EVER had a drink and got behind the wheel, the car would have gone. Simple. Cars are a privilege not a right.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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homemade salad dressings
Posted: 1/9/2013 12:56:21 AM
I dunno!!! Must be something else in there besides honey and mustard? Maybe I need to..... Google!!!
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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homemade salad dressings
Posted: 1/5/2013 12:19:51 AM
Bumped up this salad dressing thread because I found a great new dressing today, it is intended for a beef salad.

1/2 cup plain yoghurt (I used Greek style because I like it)
1 tablespoon creamed horseradish
2 tablespoons lemon juice
2 tablespoons cream (I used low fat milk)
2 garlic cloves, crushed (I used one- the SO is a garlic sissy)
few drops of Tabasco

Mix it all up with s good grind of black pepper

Awesome :D

PS I did not invent this, it is from a recipe book but with no actual author... just a summertime recipe collection.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Low Fibre Meals
Posted: 12/24/2012 2:23:20 PM
http://www.cancer.org/treatment/survivorshipduringandaftertreatment/nutritionforpeoplewithcancer/low-fiber-foods

This link gives some idea about which foods are low in fibre. I am sure some of the great cooks here on PoF can come up with awesome recipes from it. Merry Christmas to all :D
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Tarte au citron
Posted: 12/17/2012 11:53:09 PM
For someone like me who just doesn't do dessert..... I am sold! I love lemon flavours. I might cheat and use ready made shortcrust pastry, mostly because it is too hot here in Aus to have much success with pastry in summer. Thank you OP :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Need help adding to my dinner menu
Posted: 12/15/2012 1:56:16 AM
OP, do you just refrigerate or freeze? How about spag bol sauce... can be used on all kinds of pasta, baked or served on fresh cooked pasta. If you make a basic meat/tomato sauce you can turn it in to chilli easily too. If you are freezing things, soups do well this way. Freeze in a container. Minestrone, fresh tomato soup, mushroom soup... whatever you like. Let us know how you are storing the meals. Props to someone actually cooking real food for their children btw!!
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Is it too late to be a father at 45 ?
Posted: 12/8/2012 11:01:40 PM
No. it is not too old, my SO had a child at exactly that age too. BUT. That was in an existing marriage of 18 years and he and his wife already had two children. They just really liked kids and went for a third. So they were well versed in what to expect. Lets say you meet the woman of your dreams tomorrow. Realistically you would be looking at AT LEAST 2 years down the track before marriage or settled co-habitation. Then you need to factor in having some couple time before trying for a baby. Then there may a period when she doesn't fall preggers yada yada. I would think it unlikely that you would become a dad much before 50. Now that in itself is ok. I turn 50 next year and I work with little children 40 hours a week and can keep up. But you do not really know what to expect- having younger brothers a long time ago isn't really adequate prep. You will be mistaken fro grandad as another poster pointed out, and while you may be fine with that, will your child? And if you want a sibling for your baby, you will be that much older again.

I honestly do not want to be a negative Nellie. Children are delightful (well mine was lol). Apparently you are looking for MUCH younger women and as has been said, will such a woman just feel like an incubator for your reproductive desires? How do you feel about single mothers... I was one once and honestly, I am quite nice :) Keep up your volunteering and have a good think about the practicalities of becoming a first time dad close to 50.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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The Pizza thread.!!!
Posted: 12/8/2012 10:41:13 PM
One that I haven't done in a while but that my fuss-pot dad used to love (maybe he still does) is just your favourite pizza sauce on the base, then add with very finely sliced onion, however much you like, then finished off with eggplant slices that you have char grilled to almost black. In between the eggplant rounds add sliced tomatoes and top each bit of tomato with a fresh basil leaf. Finish off with not-too-much cheese. I like the pizza blend ones you can buy ready shredded. If you have a fresh mozzarella ball, maybe put a round of that on the tomato. Into the hot oven or on to the pizza stone and cook til done :D
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Staying home
Posted: 12/5/2012 11:46:02 PM
It's an old saying but I honestly do believe travel broadens the mind. I am not AT ALL suggesting staying home means you are narrow minded, but going overseas and out of your comfort zone gives you new perspectives on your existence and it kind of re-calibrates how you see what you have. I am by no means an experienced traveller but have visited perhaps 10 countries and I gained a lot from each visit. I feel a definite pull towards more of the Asian countries as the sheer foreign-ness of the cultures gives me so much to appreciate.

I live in Australia and it is a huge land that I have barely begun to explore after immigrating over 20 years ago. I want to do both! Explore here and learn about where I live, and continue my sojourns in Asia. Oh and my SO is currently in South America, now I want to go there too!
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Vacation in China or Japan?
Posted: 12/5/2012 11:34:50 PM
OP my guy travels about 5 times a year to China and has in the past done the same in Japan. Now admittedly this was for work, but he still has a good grasp of the cultures. He personally prefers Japan in part due to what one other poster says- they are a proud and rather interesting race. Of course China is hugely diverse but he has problems with their lack of respect for any kind of order or indeed personal space. Chinese food can be a bit confronting... chicken feet, blood jelly, he is offered a lot of snake etc whereas Japanese food is a little more familiar to us in the form of sushi, sashimi etc. Chinese food in China is pretty different from what we see in our cultures (I am Aussie) outside of the main cities. I would love to see both, but my first preference would be Japan.

Have fun :)
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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SEX AND WOMEN OVER 40 OR 50?????
Posted: 12/5/2012 2:16:40 AM
^^^^ Remind me to stick to the highway when I drive past the Forster exit. What a tool :/

The concept in the OP is misleading. Of course some women will experience a loss of libido. It is just no a universal thing. From responses I have read it would seem that it is a minority of women who experience an overall downturn in libido. Thank Dog ;)
 jojoaus
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Bananna Pudding (home made)
Posted: 12/2/2012 1:08:22 PM
Glad you enjoyed the baked bananas Kings Knight! Baked apples are also delicious, core some green or other very firm apples, fill the centre with dried fruits and a little brown sugar and bake until soft. Can't recall how long it takes. I don't really make desserts any more.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Predjudice against hiring the 'mature' person
Posted: 12/1/2012 11:08:34 PM
I guess I qualify as 'mature' these days, although my daughter might disagree! I work in a day care centre that has been long established in the area. We have such a great mix of old and young. Some of the women have been there since the place opened and I can honestly say that they seem so open to new ideas that it impresses the heck out of me. In such a setting, it is very reassuring for parents to see not just the bright young things (who often do not have children) but the more motherly and grand-motherly face!

My SO walked out of his job last July taking with him over 20 years of expertise in a field which is so narrow as to be almost invisible. He applied for a couple of jobs but really, none took his fancy and realistically, at 57 as he was then, there was a huge risk of him not being hired. We sat down and chatted and came to the conclusion that he was probably better off becoming a consultant, and now most of his work is done for his previous company at a higher salary without the 4+ hour commute each day. He is respected in his field like many other posters here, and people can and do pay for expertise.

I dont know if Bunnings is an entity in the US, but here it is a huge DIY and garden centre chain. They actively seek out older workers, knowing that they USUALLY bring both a wealth of experience and a serious work ethic to the table. I like being served by lumpy bumpy real people who can relate to what I need!!

Ageism is not just a scourge but it is self-defeating in many respects. IMO at least.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Final divorce papers...
Posted: 12/1/2012 10:44:39 PM
After being married 11 years, most of them not very happy due to his alcoholism and emotional abuse, he actually found the strength to leave. We parted pretty amicably. But his drinking got worse, his relationship with our daughter faltered and has never recovered (she is 21 now). I was pretty messed up from my time with him and had no inclination to date, in fact I took 10 years to bring up my girl, get a degree and a masters and prove to myself I was not the useless piece of crap he had told me I was. When my girl was 16 and got a b/f, I looked at her beautiful adolescent happiness and something changed in my head. I spoke to my ex (and after 10 years apart, he really WAS my ex) and when she turned 18 we signed the papers. 4 months later the papers arrived- March 1st, exactly 22 years and 10 months after getting married. I drank Champagne.

No stories of squabbling over money here though. He never paid one red cent towards his daughter's upbringing after we split when she was 6. On the rare occasions he actually worked, he drank the money away. When he inherited $80,000 after his father's death, he bought her a lap top and a camera and gave her $800 for a holiday. Classy huh! He drank and frittered that away too. I think I am still a little bitter!! It is easy to say 'let it go' when you see your child struggling to make ends meet at University when he could have set up a fund for her. Ahhh well. She knows I am a soft touch at least.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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She wants to wear a tux and be a groomsman at the wedding!!!
Posted: 12/1/2012 9:35:17 PM
One of my daughter's best mates is a man. He has asked her to be his best man when he eventually marries his girlfriend. My daughter will tux up and I am sure they will have a blast. Honestly?? Get over it and focus on the happy event.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Bananna Pudding (home made)
Posted: 12/1/2012 5:38:27 AM
Kings Knight... I honestly cannot recall oven temp for baked bananas as it has been years but a med-hot is probably right. And as a UK/Aus mix, I have never really understood what heavy cream is? I just used to use thickened cream or whipped up normal cream. I have never added butter but I think it would be just fine.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Bananna Pudding (home made)
Posted: 11/30/2012 8:18:13 PM
Since no-one has mentioned it... thanks OP for a lovely recipe! Sounds like what we used to call banana custard in the UK which I used to love. Never thought about adding biscuits (cookies). And yeah... chocolate custard sounds good too.

I used to love baked bananas.. in a hot oven, skin on for 15 mins or til skin is black. Remove skin CAREFULLY as it's boiling. Serve with whipped cream and brown sugar.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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How does love work for you?
Posted: 11/30/2012 3:00:27 AM
For me, age 49, love comes slowly. The butterflies come in the first few meets when I find someone attractive. Then... they subside. But... the butterflies come back if I grow to love the man. This has only happened twice in my life. This is how love works for me: I meet a guy and I feel a physical attraction and the beginnings of an intellectual connection. We date, talk, flirt, kiss and laugh. Then we become intimate and that whole physical rush which I love takes a hold. Then we start to touch on the truly important issues- politics, social ideals, religion. Once all of the really important issues are resolved, then lasting love can follow. I do think that if you are the kind of person with strong convictions, then loving relationships need to be based on similar ideals. Sex can only get you so far.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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single guys dinner for two
Posted: 11/26/2012 10:56:51 PM
So... dinner for 2 on a boat with not a lot of access to fresh food. You could do a tin of tomatoes and a tin of kidney beans, heated through with chilli powder and serve on boiled rice. You could buy ready made pesto in a jar and use that mixed through pasta. A friend of mine likes tinned tomatoes and tinned tuna heated together with a bit of extra tomato paste as a pasta sauce. Admittedly she puts a whole load of chopped parsley in hers too. You could do a veggie fried rice using tinned veg such as corn, peas, asparagus, whatever you fancy. I like to crack an egg into my fried rice- gives it a delicious extra flavour.

There are lots of possibilities really. Not all are fat and salt laden. Happy cooking!
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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HELP! I need an easy Appetizer!
Posted: 11/21/2012 11:18:10 PM
OK. An easy one. Prawn and mango salad. My SO is making this as a starter for Christmas and it has to be simple for him :) Make a dressing from EVOO, lemon juice, the smallest touch of balsamic, and lots of chopped fresh basil. Leave to let flavours mature. Clean and de vein prawns and butterfly them. Marinade in anything you like- we prefer chilli, lime juice and a touch of oil. Prepare a small bed of greens on each person's plate and top with fresh mango cubes. Cook the prawns on the BBQ or in one of those ridged frying pans you put on the hob (not sure what Americans call them?). Place 3 or 4 cooked prawns on top then drizzle with the dressing. You can garnish this with micro herbs or flowers... or anything you fancy really. If you like macadamia nuts, these can also be a part of the salad. I am not a fan so we leave these out.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Are you still a big kid at Christmas?
Posted: 11/7/2012 3:59:40 AM
I have always loved Christmas- as an only child of 2 loving parents, as a married woman with a child, as a single mum for many years hosting my ex and my parents to now; me, 21 year old kiddo, SO, his kid, my parents. Its low key but high on cooking and quaffing and laughter. I still wake my adult daughter on Christmas morning to make her open her stocking! I love to cook something new each year and have this years menu planned. I get a real tree and take pains to decorate it. It is hot here so often Christmas involves a swim or 2.

We are not too big on gifts, this year I got calendars of our Vietnam holiday made from photos for my parents and kid, had some sentimental art work framed for my guy and not sure what I will do for my kinda-step son. I LOVE Christmas- it is a wind-down pat on the back for a years' hard work :D
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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New relationship vs married couples
Posted: 11/6/2012 2:11:15 PM
Perhaps you could offer to babysit for a date night? You and your g/f could practice being parents! Not kidding... might be nice for BOTH couples :)
 
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