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american51

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Does online dating make your life easier? Posted: 10/29/2009 1:33:36 PM
Online dating doesn't make life easier. Sure with the internet the world become one village in a way of speaking. But still is impersonal, in the initial contact. People don't really don't know you but would base a decision mostly on a picture. In real life however, there is more of a chance to have a conversation with a girl who probably who not even give you the time of the day via an internet profile. Alhough online dating has some perks, the first impression,conversation or even some kind of bonding in the first contact doesn't exist. I'm sure a lot of guys on here would share the feeling.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

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People With No Conversation Skills Posted: 10/23/2009 9:19:49 PM
There are people out there who don't talk much. Some reasons might be: 1. They responded to be polite but have no interest in the other person. Hence they give you the hint or just want to come out cold so you get the hint. OR 2. They really are not easy with starting conversations nevermind trying to keep up with one. Solution: Move on to the person you think can keep up with your conversation requirement. Never ever have expectations from people you don't know. This way you won't be disappointment. Everyone does things their way which might not always suit us. Go with the flow and let things happen.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

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And if she sleeps with you on the first date? Posted: 8/7/2009 9:24:38 PM
That's a simple one. Just go with the flow or else it would get awkward. If both of you feel the urge to make out etc.. why..just like the sone from the group Asia Heat of the moment After that both have to act like responsible adults. Don't run away thinking you scored or she/he was too easy. It would have been a cold awakening if either partner refused.

american51

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 3/6/2009 3:25:49 PM
43 pages on this post. Good man is a matter of interpretation. Looks and money talk these days. We have to be honest on this one. Most women say they want a good man but many don't know when they see one. From a guy's perspective, very few women really would give a good man a chance or even the time of the day. Possible interpretation of a good man: 1. Has to be number one - good looks = i will give you the time of the day 2. Money - drives a nice car and good job 3. Buys me stuffs 4. Nice, polite and funny 5. A combination of the above So in reality and if a lot of women were honest, they would say in order for me to consider a guy, option 1 above is 90% my choice. I know some who would tell me 'well i dated a guy who was not good looking, who i wasn't attracted to..........' well good for you, and I applaud you for giving the guy a chance. Good guys on this board, what's your success rate? And then tell me if you think women on here are looking for a good man. If they were, my fellow 'good guys' , you would not be on here for long. It's all about who gives you the time of the day and want to get to know you. But many don't. I may sound a little bit bitter but I just wanted to inject a dose of REALITY in this post. I'll to that

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 12/4/2008 4:23:46 AM
Whether we admiot it or not speaking from a guy's perspective, it's about how much you also care what people think of you. Stereotypes of certain ethnic group push a lot of people to just abandon the idea of dating outside their race. Like I always say. Why don't you give that man/woman the time of the day and get to know them. Don't just look at a picture and either delete their mails or let the paranoid perception of stereotypes affect your ability to be personable and talk to the person. A lot of people also scream 'I have the right to have a preference'. All fair and dandy but what is your preference really based on? One should ask 'is my preference really based on a fair ideology?' Remember give every person the same chance you might be suprised.

american51

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am I being unreasonable... Posted: 10/15/2008 4:39:43 AM
It's not unreasonable but if it bothers you, maybe you should have a talk with him. It will all depend on his reaction to it and if he wants to change that part of him. YOu might be surpirsed to find out that he didnt pay attention to this aspect and will definitely make the change. Some people like that, others will take it as you're trying to change him. Doesn't hurt to have a talk with him. Everything else is pure assumption. If it still bothers you that he doesnt want to change, then you can either accept it or part ways while remaining good friends. Hope that helps.

american51

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Dead Fish F*ck Posted: 9/24/2008 4:15:56 PM
It doesnt just aply to hot girls. I know some who literally did as your date. Just stay there and wait to be taken. I say bring on the titanic steaming window lovin

american51

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Accents A Plus+ Posted: 9/19/2008 12:12:17 PM
My accent is a combo of three I guess, I have lived in England, Australia and I also speak fluent french; so it's weird to some and sexy to others depends on the lady. That said a russian/ukrainian accent on a girl hmmmmmmmmmmmm sexy Comrade !!

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

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A guy in a old crappy car ? Posted: 8/28/2008 3:24:15 PM
It's not what you drive that matters ,it's what drives you in life Sure there are lots of women out here that judge the guy by their car. I have met many that the first thing they say is 'Nice car'. That said I started going on dates in a 1994 camry that's clean and runs nice (my buds car). The amount of time I got told by the date 'oh thats old' you need a newer car; I can't even count. Easy to filter the ones looking for the nice car. The most common ones I used to get 'I'd look good in your car hehehe' Go to dates in a clean old car if you can and see for yourself. Of course that doesn't apply to all women but as I said I have met many.

american51

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He doesn't love me anymore?! Posted: 8/28/2008 3:09:47 PM
In the defense for windsor, the main thing I think he tried to convey in his message was that, she was being to easy on her b/f. He says jump and she says how high. I think OP needs to get rid of this guy since in my opinion he is playing her and he doesn't even know what he wants. OP you're not supposed to stay home, and light a candle in the hope that he will get back with you. You should tell him that he should ONLY come to you when he knows what he wants out of this relationship, no grey area or im unsure. This will limit the drama. You need a firm answer from him not a wishy washy 'i care about you' but still don't know what I want. Protect yourself emotionally. Typing words sometimes do make people sound like jerks but is not meant. I know the feeling that why i talk on the phone. A voice is always better than typing. When you don't know the person, the least thing they can say could be interpreted as hostile. OP, I noticed that your profile says Single looking for date but it seems that you're still hung up on your bf. That is ok but you might want your profile to be changed to 'Friends' or even 'Hang out' for now until you get this resolved. Just a friendly advice :)

american51

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Why do Babes dig ugly guys? Posted: 8/28/2008 8:30:32 AM
And where are those girls by the way? Maybe I live in the wrong state

american51

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Has anyone ever broken the bed? Posted: 8/27/2008 8:53:41 PM
Cracked the box spring and since the bed frame had wheels and was on a wood floor, we didnt notice but the bed went from one end of the room to the other. That was a good laugh though

american51

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Best Songs to Dance Like A Slut to? Posted: 8/27/2008 6:32:33 PM
I would have to say: Missy Elliot - Ching A Ling Listen to it carefully and feel the beat

american51

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Married Women Looking For Sex Posted: 8/27/2008 10:44:18 AM
From what I have heard, the reason why both married men and women look 'elsewhere' is because the flame is gone. Before marriage it's wham bam all the times. After marriage mostly the man doesn't get it as much as he wants. That s what I have captured from my married friends. The man wants the same kind of sex and the woman doesn't (not always). However in long term relationships, the same thing tends to happen a lot of times. So this in itself pushes the man or woman to seek an active partner for some titanic window steaming lovin.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

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He doesn't love me anymore?! Posted: 8/27/2008 7:38:01 AM
OP sorry to hear about your situation. Seems like he is not ready to commit and is want to have his fun on the side or keep his options open. It's nothing that you have done. I know it is hard to break up when we have strong feelings but in a way i think it would be good if you distanced yourself from the clubs that you go so they don't ruin your reputation. He is a lucky man to have a woman with that much love for him. At the same time he didn't want that love. Damn why can't i get that kind of girl Whatever you do don't try to get closer to him it will only hurt you more. Time to move on to someone who will appreciate your love. Hmm how far is PA from here

american51

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Why is a great person like you single? Posted: 8/27/2008 7:26:05 AM
Depends if the woman wants to give me the time of the day to get to know me. That would be a good start. I think a lot of people have a requirement list that they stick by without any grey area. It's either 100% or nothing. Seriously, speaking from a guy's point of view it's all about the woman wanting to talk to you. Doesn't matter if they don't past the 'picture' phase and decide to give you a shot. I'm think im a normal person. I consider myself to be polite and a good person at heart. But to a point it doesn't matter what type of character you have. It has been discussed a lot on here, it's how your picture looks then post'picture phase' then you get a conversation. Greatness is a subjective opinion.

american51

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Your worst sexual experience Posted: 8/27/2008 7:03:00 AM
OP, were you watching sunday night RAW? Seems like he laid the smackdown on you hehee j/k Worst experience was with this nice girl who was giving oral on the edge with her knees on the bed. At one point she slipped and on her way down decided that my candy stick was a support handle and held on. I took off the bed like an athlete doing a polevault. and ended up standing. I have no clue how I did that but the pain OMG. We were both laughing but man the pain lasted for 2 days. She was embarassed to the point that she stopped calling me but sent me a nice email though to explain how sorry she was. I still feel the pain thinking about Miss Cliffhanger there.

american51

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are you in love with someone you can't have? Posted: 8/26/2008 1:51:21 PM
Was there but have moved on. Two years and she wouldn't even give me the time of the day to even go out. Somehow old flames never die. It remains hidden somewhere in our heart then everytime you see that person even if the love is gone, the slight feeling comes back.

american51

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beautiful people, ugly genitals... Posted: 8/26/2008 12:21:34 PM
What the Ugly genitals??? How do we even begin to define what an ugly genital is??

american51

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guy off to iraq Posted: 8/26/2008 12:13:07 PM
OP it is your choice to do what you want. Emotionally and mentally you were not ready to expect the unexpected should something happen to him. No one can blame you for your decision. I have been deployed before when I had a g/f. For me personally I know it's never easy for anyone to see their loved ones going into harms way but at the same time I had a tremendous amount of respect for her since she stood by me and she was very positive and encouraging when we talked. In a way the distance brought us closer. So in short you made a decision that you felt comfortable with. You decided you couldn't deal with him away from you. I personally don't judge you as a bad person but rather someone who wasn't ready or didn't want to deal with that particular situation. for everyone

american51

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Dating East Indian Men Posted: 8/19/2008 10:17:42 AM
Another thing I wanted to point out that one poster said that if we look indian, we are middle eastern and terrorist. Happens all the time. This misconception is from an immature person. You can grow up hearing somethngs but as adult and with maturity you have to find out if those beleifs are true. Middle Eastern or not, not every middle eastern person (or indian looking) are terrorist. The wrong doing of the few spoil the reputation of the many. Get to know the person not the ethnicity. discover the personality not the cover of the book. Isn't surprising that still at this day and age we are still hung up on this?

american51

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Dating East Indian Men Posted: 8/19/2008 10:10:58 AM
I haven't found it too tough to date women of other ethnicities. But I'm sure a lot of women would not want to date the indian looking guy. Just like OP, I am partly of indian decent, my mom is portuguese born in Portugal and my dad was born on a british island ,same for my grandparents, so we all have he westernized mindset. I do however tend to read about my heritage and been to india on some occasions. Very beautiful place. I grew up mostly in England/british overseas territory island and now living in the US. For sure the mindset of an indian man born and raised in India will be different in terms of values and cultural beleifs. I myself am catholic since in my family we followed this path. I'm a seasonal visitor to the church :). That said, I can speak for the North East, a lot of women won't give you the time of the day because they think you must be indian and hence the stereotypes just goes right to their head (he must eat curry everyday, he must have this funny accent, he probably is possesive and hot headed etc etc). We are overlooked because of the stereotypes and society as a whole. Stereotypes become perception and they become reality for many women and men. I stated once that we have to try really hard to make women look 'past our pictures' and it holds true. One poster pointed out that it's all about getting along and thats very true. Coconut brown on the outside and westernized on the inside. This applies to a lot fo women but not all. But by remaining positive we can overlook these petty differences. for everyone

american51

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Do you understand this at all? Posted: 8/18/2008 4:33:47 PM
Fratguy, This was a silly statement on your behalf. I do agree that to date someone with herpes might be a personal reason but you can also be a gentleman about it and not rude just like OP experienced. You mean to tell me that the guy who left her there on the spot did the right thing in such a cowardly manner without being man enough to say that he would prefer not to date someone with herpes?

american51

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Do you understand this at all? Posted: 8/18/2008 9:43:13 AM
Sassy, I travel to England practically every month for my work and I still have a lot of family there and in Wales so I visit there often

american51

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Do you understand this at all? Posted: 8/18/2008 9:36:04 AM
So sorry to hear about this situation. He was looking to get lucky and you telling him about your situation pushed him away (and that's a good thing, you don't need shallow low life scum sucking pr**ks in your life). But on the other side you had to walk in a bad sector with sketchy people and that was the bad part; glad you're safe. Remember you're better off now. I would like to point out that this exist both in males and females. I had an experience with a gal once. In this case we met twice and she would always text message me about how she needed money to pay her bills, her car was broken and couldn't get to work and her cell phone was shut off. This was after 2 weeks of talking to her and two meetings. I felt bad for her and took her to her job for 1 week and picked her up also. Face to face she would never ask me for money but only by text messaging. I didn't give her any money but gave her rides. Three weeks later, I decided to ask her (in a nice way) why she always texts me asking for money. She said she thought I would give her and she didn't have the courage (which is undertstandable) to ask. So I told her that financially I couldn't help her at this point in time and we just really met etc. We were in a pub and she left straight away and told me 'well then I can find 10 more guys that would shower me with money'. I didn't see that she was this type of girl since she approached me as a family oriented girl who love the simple things in life etc etc ............ etc...I have to point out that she had very good looks and was using it to get money. We never did anything (kissing etc). So in a way I can relate to you OP. DOn't worry always be honest and you will come across the right person. for you

american51

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 8/18/2008 8:55:26 AM
I once was told by a girl (working girl and has her act together and not on POF) that if I had fair skin, it wouldn't matter what ethnicity I was she would date me. And another gal on here from the south im'ed me just looking for a friend told me she had a beautiful aryan babyboy. I'm not even joking about this to which I had no answer, I was like euuhh 'cool'. Obviously again not saying everyone is like that. So my fellow POF'ers out there what are you point of views. I can't say much about it apart from my own experience . How much does skin color irrespective of ethnicity affects your decision in a potential partner. And what are the factors that make you think this way? 1. How society will see you? 2. Your family and friends opinion of you might change? 3. Your personal beliefs?

american51

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Chances of Pregnancy Posted: 8/18/2008 8:04:29 AM
I don't want to flame in here but the chances are getting pregnant varies by person. Not using protection itself is a lack of reponsibility. I don't want to get into the details. She is either pregnant or not. Best way is to get a test kit at your local pharmacy. Within 72 hours she should get the morning after pill. Tell her to carry Carry condoms for Christ sake . And if you have the urge use them with pills. No birth control method is 100% effective. OP i assume that you are aware of certain facts of pregnancy since you're a woman. Not saying that men don't know but women tend to know more of those facts. So assuming you listened well during the sex ed class if you had this class, why would you come on a board and ask the obvious 50-50 question? Are you sure it's not for you? In any case I hope for the best for your friend

american51

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Do you judge the book by the cover? Posted: 8/18/2008 6:16:05 AM
I think here we are mostly talking about the first impression being a photo of the person. Ssme thing applies for IM'ing on POF. Like I said it's difficult to make a lot of woman go past 'the picture' stage. I'm a guy so I will speak from a guy's perspective. I agree there are some women who are not like this who really are looking for the 'good guy i'e average package'. Some are based on looks some simply race with stereotypes. You can see a lot of profile saying 'good guy, honest and the works' but there are fine prints that we don't see i.e 1. Must look good in speedo 2. The Tom Brady looks 3. Has his act together (translated into good paying job and a house and will take me to vacations in the carribeans ) 4. Has a car that will make my friends jealous 5. Addition to #3 . I have an average job with some collge but my man should be some engineer with Masters degree. I could never understand this one Disclaimer: The above exist in many variations and are used in most cases.

american51

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 8/16/2008 5:54:29 AM
Bie111, Who is moaning? I was stating an obvious fact about some women and men of color in general. I don't only email caucasian women where did you get the info that I was doing that. I explained a fact that we have to try harder and how women of every ethicity generally find it easier to email a caucasian male that even someone from their own ethnicity. I did not say anywhere that somehow the caucasian male, all of them have it easy on any dating site. Nowhere. You repeated the obvious with the rich men which i already touched on. There was no need to put the Jay Z, Brad example I think from what I explained, Tiger Woods was an example about money not just because he is a colored man. We mostly got the point. Who said anyone was special? Again if you do stay on this topic I debated the idea of what we go through. READ carefully do me this favor OK. So in order not to look silly ready everything i said and your last paragraph showed that you didn't. Women get to choose?? Oh i would not have known that if you didn't tell me I'm on an internet forum debating internet dating. Everyone known that internet dating shouldn't be the only avenue. So I like to stay on target on my discussion since we ARE on an internet dating site. Your assumptions about my posting were way off course. You know what they say when people assume..... I rest my case

american51

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guys, women who squirt.... Posted: 8/14/2008 5:34:40 PM
Whats hotter is to feel her squirt while in her. hmmmmmmmmmmmm ok i need to stop

american51

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 8/14/2008 5:27:28 PM
Hydro, Sure we all wish the world was color blind. If i like a girl, i like her for her and hopefully she feels the same way. I don't ay attention to others as long as we are both happy. I was just pointing to some real facts as to how the society or even people function. In my case mostly talking about the some women. I see you're from China, been there many times for work, awesome places to visit. I was in Beijing mostly.

american51

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 8/14/2008 3:50:15 PM
My point was who gets to marry a swedish supermodel. Tiger woods would never have had this kind of chance if he wasn't multi millionaire. Money talks He would probably have been on this board talking on this thread ;)

american51

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 8/14/2008 1:49:34 PM
This thread is not really about racism but the struggle of the colored man (since I'm a man) in the dating arena and the facts of life. We should not try to butter things up. Sure there are probably exceptions where a caucasian woman dates and/or marries a man of color; but I wqould re-iterate it's not common because of society as a whole. If we had to do a poll on here about how many man of other ethnic background have to work harder to try to get a conversation (sometimes even with girls of similar ethnnicity) I think we would see the real difference and the fact. You can be westernized, good mannered, cultured, a gentleman, you name it it doesn't really matter. As one of the post I read on here where the guy was an all round good guy emails women and 90% always get the 'Read deleted'. The experience that two of my friends did proved a lot of things. They were contacted by aisian, indian, black etc. SO this post was more to point out how it is not easy for us as I said to make a girl 'read past our picture'. It's not being given a chance to have a chat or even discover the person, it's directly the 'closed window' in 4 seconds and 'read delete' the we mostly get. Like I said Truth be told

american51

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Do you judge the book by the cover? Posted: 8/14/2008 11:41:24 AM
We forgot to mention skin color??? Bring on the stereotypes !! Send IM ... Window Open.... 5 seconds later Window closed .... Happens very often but if the colored man had some $$ he would be marrying supermodels. Yes i know a lot of women who look at a guy's car before even considering dating them. Not to forget that on the female side they don't want to disappoint their friends in their choice in a dating partner. Happens all the time. You know what they say ...once you go brown..you can't calm down

american51

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 8/14/2008 11:23:45 AM
Nu Jin, I generally say things as they are and people are afraid to state the obvious and the current state. Sure there are exception to women looking past the skin color but they are few out there. Do you think if tiger woods wasn't a multi millionaire that he would score a supermodel, hell no; he would be your average man of color (yes i state that because that's how society views you) and he would have the same struggle. Same for other colored athlete. I use the term colored but really it should be the opposite. I am dark, was born this color, in the sun i stay the same color; not sure why that statement applied But i know a lot of men on here especially non white can relate. It generally doesnt matter how smart ,funny or educated you can be, they won't go past your picture. POF should put a 'Race' preference option just like age range so people can select who they would like as ethnicity. This will prevent a lot of us from wasting our time. Truth be told cheers

american51

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ETHNIC ATTRACTION... Posted: 8/14/2008 5:36:31 AM
It has a lot to do with status and stereotypes. It is true that caucasian men in general will tend to have an easier path when it comes to dating women of other races. The problem for guys 'of color' is that a lot of women don't go past our picture/s. It is profile for 3 seconds then BAM deleted. Also when you try to IM a girl you're interested on here, you see 'Window open' and not even 5 seconds 'window closed' so they haven't even read the profile. So my good friend AJ and Josh (average looking caucasian men as per their statement) decided to put this theory to test. They set up a profile very similar to mine and 2-3 pictures. They get 4x more messages than me and 30% of the girls contacting them are of other ethnnic background. They did however put their real jobs (postman/insurance agent). So it is a fact that men of color will have to work harder to make a lot of women read past our pictures nevermind having a conversation with them. In a way many people are still bothered by what society/friends/family will think of them. I think on the man side, we don't really care about this but many women do care. Just my 2 cents for everyone

american51

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People who state I'm attractive in their profile. Posted: 8/14/2008 5:17:19 AM
I think it will tend to push a lot of guys/girls away. The attitude of 'I'm attractive' is subjective. For me someone's personality is attractive first and foremost. How many can say that? I don't know but in reading many women's profile, they do talk about 'a funny,smart and responsible guy' but one must also read the fine print i.e. 'Must look good in speedo' as an example. We don't know what's attractive if we only go by looks we have failed as a person. Look deeper than that. People we all need to stop being superficial

american51

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I really like you......silence Posted: 8/14/2008 5:10:50 AM
Sunnybunny, I couldn't agree more with your statement. When it's free generally it's 'let me test the waters and sometimes play around'. Of course this statement doen't apply to everyone n her ebut to many. When you pay for a site, you're keen is getting to know some people ,get their contact and contact them and see where it goes since, you don't want to be paying $20/month and slack off. Well said :)

american51

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sustained/erection Posted: 8/13/2008 9:16:21 PM
Seems like it could be a chinese restaurant's name Kum Too Soon Ok in all seriousness, try to sesek professional help and see what could be the reasons. They might do some bloodwork and determine if you need some vitamins etc. There are many items that can cause ED, I read they were coffee, alcohol etc. I have coffee often and alcohol (in moderation of course) and the best sex is when i have alcohol weird

american51

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men in uniforms Posted: 8/13/2008 8:22:33 PM
What about my star trek uniform, does it count or does it have to be a real uniform??

american51

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Does penis gets bigger the more you use it? Posted: 8/13/2008 8:18:38 PM
I would say that depends how excited you are, if you're not too tired or if you haven't released some 'pressure' in a long time and finally get the opportunity to shoot your bazooka. Just google it, you might come acroos some medical facts or something. I noticed you are getting flammed with sarcasm.

american51

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Dating European versus North american girls.. Posted: 8/13/2008 4:10:14 PM
I have traverlled and also lived in Europe for a long time. This subject is rather sensitive since we can't really say who is better than who. It really depends on where you have lived and the type of people you interract with. That said I would say that in my college days in England, sure the girls were way more receptive and up for a good talk and hang out. It seems that they gave more attention to the person as a whole not as one post said 'if you look good in speedo'. They also tend to keep away from the 'bad boys' I can confirm that. One of my cousins who live in Ireland said to me once' European girls don't tend to think that they live the 90210 lifestyle. That said we can't say all American girls are screwed up. I have met many good ones but to be fair one can definitely see the difference in 'open mindedness' or even approchable factor that European girls tend to have. I live in the Boston area and seldom go out with my friends and to say that the attitude of many of the North Eastern girls is pretty bad is an understatement. Travelling south, you can definitely see the difference. That said, it was just a general observations from my experience and not a statement that all American girls are screwed up. I know many screwed up European girls too ;)

american51

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Guys with braces Posted: 8/13/2008 12:39:08 PM
It's not liike braces are permanent anyway. YOu know the person is taking care of his teeth. I am for oral hygiene. Personality/character aynone??? Funny thing sometimes how some people jump on the 'looks' bandwagon rather than peronality ;) Just my 2 cents.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

Lube Question Posted: 8/13/2008 12:33:45 PM
Astroglide works wonders and it stays longer. With other types of lube they tend to dissipate fast. ALWAYS practice safe sex ALWAYS. Can't stress that enough. Don't do anything that could potentially jeopardize your whole life.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

Msg: 45 (view)

How do I tell my family? Posted: 8/13/2008 12:24:39 PM
Am I really seeing this or just dreaming it. OP with no disrespect to you, I seriously hope you are joking about telling your parents that you're no longer a virgin. Like others have said here, you're a grown up sure we all go to out parents for advice but not to ask them permissions for that kind of matter. Be safe in what you do. This thread has been beaten to death and OP has probably gotten the point.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

Msg: 114 (view)

How often per week is a normal sex life? Posted: 8/10/2008 1:40:10 PM
By preference 3-4 times a week of 1 hour + of window steaming titanic action ;) Also depends on your mood and your partner's mood too. If we are both very busy people like in my previous relationship then it was more like twice in a week if any. But in reality havent met a woman who had this preference; I'm sure there are a lot of them out there who do like it everyday. To the OP 25-30 times in 8 years, is definitely low. But you loved her and didn't mind so you made the sacrifice.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

Msg: 78 (view)

Too Picky Posted: 8/6/2008 11:36:20 AM
Requirements are good to have but they must be reasonable. If I have 10 requirements on my list, can I get all of them? Not really can I compromise? Sure we all have to. But sticking too much to a our list is what will make us ignore partners that could have been good ones. I like smart women, does it it I need someone with a PHd, not at all. From a guy's perspective I will tell the women on here. Please give everyguy (to certain exent) your 100% and get to know him. Don't base yourself on the requirements you have and he doesnt have it you push him away. I have seen too many people pushing away good partners because he/she didn't meet all the expectations. We are huamns and far from perfection. When you say must have a job, must be smart, must be funny, must be tall ,must be etc etc. Always have a margin that you can accept in any of those requirements.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Rushing Into Dialogue Posted: 8/6/2008 10:11:21 AM
Talk via messenger or if comfortable webcam. I personally prefer a voice conversation to typing. Meeting if I have a good feeling after 10 days.

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

Msg: 94 (view)

Should attraction be on the first date. Posted: 8/6/2008 6:43:37 AM
Fact is most people (not all) men and women are shallow by nature. By shallow here I mean 'lacking depth; superficial'. I'm more of a personality attraction person. It takes couple of meetings to discover someone's character. I have been in situation just like the previous post where I didn't notice a girl and after spending time with her got to like her. I beleive that everyone deserve a chanc and deserve my 100% attention to begin with. I think what we tend to do is that when the other person is very attractive, we tend to 'worship' them more than someone who is average looking. At the end if we think about it we barely pay attention is we don't like the 'looks' That's where we use the term 'beauty is skin deep'. Sure if your if making a decision whether you're going to give someone a chance is based 80-90% on looks is what floats your boat by any means it's a free country

american51

Joined: 10/31/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

She can talk to the husband but I can't talk to the wife. Why? Posted: 8/6/2008 6:23:07 AM
Double standard here. At a 50-50, if you can't talk to the wife assuming you're willing to still pursue this avenue for your relationship, she can't talk to him either. I think you're coming close to finding some 'secrets' I agree with some of the posters here. If you approach her nd she gets mad/risiculously defensive, there is a big nasty creature lurking down there waiting to be discovered. Stand up for yourself and lay down the conditions. If it's nto a 50-50 agreement between you, then you guys shouldn't be together. Goodluck

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