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BeeGee56

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All I want for Christmas ... Posted: 11/10/2009 7:15:11 AM
Well, that World Vision Canada "catalogue" arrived in the mail the other day. Stock a health clinic with medicine or equip a classroom with school supplies... Decisions, decisions...

BeeGee56

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boobs on webcams Posted: 11/10/2009 7:13:28 AM
Kudos to whoever located and resurrected this thread

BeeGee56

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Dateless Saturday nights Posted: 11/4/2009 6:15:37 AM
Daisy! Nice to see your smiling face again :)

BeeGee56

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Prostitution .. for or against ?? Posted: 11/3/2009 6:15:39 AM
a gram of weed cost $6-$8... Point taken, but there's more'n a gram of demon tobacco in a pack of cigarettes. I think the ease of growing the other product locally would tend to keep the taxes moderate. But that might be wishful thinking. ;) BG

BeeGee56

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Dateless Saturday nights Posted: 11/3/2009 6:10:31 AM
I'd take a few cold ones over to my buddy's place and work on my car. Nice heated garage :) Sitting home playing guitar or reading sounds good too.

BeeGee56

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Prostitution .. for or against ?? Posted: 10/27/2009 7:58:52 AM
I'm not in favour of women or men selling sexual favours because of economic necessity or to finance a drug habit, but a province, and a country, that has legalised gambling and lacks the courage to outlaw tobacco has no moral authority in these matters. So they might as well legalise and regulate "solicitation for the purpose". Then at least the trade could be regulated and hopefully made safer for all. They might as well legalise marijuana and collect the taxes on it while they're at it. It'd be interesting to think about what kind of... professional association?... "sex trade workers" would have. I have this image of the trade show at their annual meeting. It's... interesting Happy Tuesday, all!

BeeGee56

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oasis first dance Posted: 10/20/2009 7:56:55 AM
And I see a few new faces too, so it must've been a good one :) Belated happy 50th, Maple59. BG i

BeeGee56

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World Of Warcraft Posted: 10/19/2009 12:56:02 PM
Well, there's my son. He plays it enough for several people.

BeeGee56

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would you date someone who suffers from depression? Posted: 10/19/2009 12:43:07 PM
Suffering from depression = NOT BEING TREATED APPROPRIATELY...OR....NOT BEING TREATED, AT ALL....!! Right on, Doc; I like that. I have depression. I choose not to suffer. Stay well, all. BG

BeeGee56

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Pick a topic... ummm... internet addiction support groups?? Posted: 9/29/2009 8:57:44 AM
Could have been at one time -- as it is I make my living online. What do you do for a living, Mac? Just curious and off topic, me ;)

BeeGee56

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Newley Seperated man in dead-end Posted: 9/8/2009 9:40:26 AM
Shouldn't be that hard to fulfill that wish list, Mac. ;)

BeeGee56

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Bill Posted: 8/25/2009 2:00:57 PM
I was gonna cut that tree down anyway

BeeGee56

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POF changes Posted: 8/25/2009 1:57:03 PM
I agree about the forum postings. Not having the number of people who have one on their favourites list is probably a good thing, as a large number here tends to be prejudicial for some.

BeeGee56

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Dutch Mason Posted: 8/7/2009 6:22:21 AM
I hope you enjoy it. We're going Saturday; first time. Lookin' forward to it.

BeeGee56

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Do you believe in angels? Posted: 8/5/2009 6:53:17 AM
Yes, I do. There's probably lots of 'em around if one wanted to take the trouble to look.

BeeGee56

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Did you keep your wedding photos? Posted: 7/30/2009 5:30:08 AM
I scanned all of mine to disk and gave the originals to my ex. I agreee with jewlsey; moving on doesn't mean erasing the past, difficult as that may be at times.

BeeGee56

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He Doesnt Have Alot of Time Anymore Posted: 7/29/2009 8:50:05 AM
...what you are describing is a natural course of events. You two are secure in each other enough not to HAVE TO make your intentions known to each other anymore. He can relax some and let the things that he had neglected to be with you be dealt with now... This (#18) is pretty much right on, IMO. If you both do things regularly to let the other know they're important to you, your relationship will flourish whether you're together all the time or not. Avoiding complacency and taking each other for granted, is one of the things one has to work at in a relationship. Best, BG

BeeGee56

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Dutch Mason Posted: 7/28/2009 12:02:45 PM
Yeah, the shuttle is going to be your best bet unless you're planning on staying sober enough to drive. Motels in Truro tend to be not terribly expensive, there aren't any within a reasonable walking distance of the Provincial Exhibition grounds. The NSAC is literally a couple of blocks away and is decent, if you can get in there. There's a nice spot called "Baker’s Chest Tearoom and Bed & Breakfast" a short stagger from the site in the other direction. I was there for a Christmas party last year and it looked to be a nice spot indeed, although not the least expensive in town.

BeeGee56

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My little story Posted: 7/24/2009 9:47:12 AM
Forgiveness will set you free. That is the reason I believe some people never get over a broken heart . I like it :)

BeeGee56

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Can we go out and get what we want?? Posted: 7/24/2009 9:27:55 AM
I have a difficult time being in a relationship not thinking that he is the man I could spend the balance of my life with, that someone "better" may come along. I think that's a natural sentiment and probably not a real positive one. If you want to be with someone, eventually you've got to dig in and work at it. Everything worthwhile takes work. "Settling" sounds rather cold. How about "taking a stand"? Love is something that grows between two people. How will one find love if one doesn't take a stand? I heard this once: "Re. the difference between love and infatuation: Infatuation is when you think he's as sexy as Robert Redford and as smart as Dustin Hoffman. Love is when you realise he's as sexy as Dustin Hoffman and as smart as Robert Redford, but he'll do anyway." There is a bit of truth in that ;) Have a good weekend, all

BeeGee56

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Imopressive / Memorable Technology Posted: 7/10/2009 1:18:11 PM
The colour-corrected two-element glass optical lens. How such a thing was devised without computer modelling, using a theory of light barely advanced beyond witchcraft, continues to amaze me. Have a great weekend, all.

BeeGee56

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Dont contact me anymore some advice on that Posted: 7/6/2009 9:31:17 AM
Women are funny creatures, they want a man to be strong, not for them, but because of them. They don't want a man to be nice so that they can be with them, but because that is really in his nature. A woman doesn't want her man to work because that is what she needs to help have a family taken care of, but rather because he wants to work to take care of the family. There are few things worse in a womans eye, then a man doing things he THINKS will make her happy, therefore he's doing them... She wants a man to do things because that is what makes him and the family a unit as a whole happy. Thanks ;) I just might print that out and put it up on the wall.

BeeGee56

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Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX? Posted: 7/6/2009 9:00:14 AM
Sure. My ex is no angel but she's a lovely person: smart, classy, very well respected in her particular field of artistic endeavour and fundamentally kind. I think she grew a tremendous amount as a person during the time we were married; going from somebody who was basically too shy to say "boo", to someone with a fair bit of moxie. Plus she had more guts than I did about ending a relationship that was holding us both back and had long since ceased to be a source of joy.

BeeGee56

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Summer..any ideas Posted: 6/25/2009 9:36:46 AM
Last summer we went to a different beach every weekend and only managed to get 'round part of the Eastern Shore and Northumberland Strait. Going to explore the western part of the province this summer, hopefully for a bit of pub and grub.

BeeGee56

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Is it fair for me to be using this site? Posted: 6/25/2009 9:29:17 AM
I am a firm believer that unless he goes back to meeting new friends he will stay always in the healing processes. With respect to the folks who hold the opposite view, I think that's reasonable advice. Meeting new people and dating casually is healing and confidence building experience. Honesty and openness about one's present situation must be part of it though or, as has been pointed out, you'll probably wind up hurting someone else. Good luck, eh?

BeeGee56

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She said I betrayed her trust Posted: 6/25/2009 9:17:53 AM
Methinks those who have posted before me speak the truth, OP. You'll do a lot better in life if you learn to look after things like bank accounts, budgeting, etc. etc. I don't think you're an idiot, btw, but that one-sided secretiveness about finances is never a good thing in a relationship. I know this from experience, and I WAS an idiot. Cheers, BG

BeeGee56

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How do you end a relationship that can't go any further when you truly love the man? Posted: 6/24/2009 1:32:59 PM
RenaissanceMan (#4): Much food for thought.

BeeGee56

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Don't post photos of your Dog/Car/Toilet... Posted: 6/24/2009 9:53:06 AM
Seems to me if a guy was really interested in improving his prospects with pictures of his toys, he'd post a photo of a vacuum cleaner. I have it on good authority that skill in the operation of that machine will get you further than a Harley.

BeeGee56

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Re: Romantic, moon-lit walks on the beach Posted: 6/24/2009 9:51:09 AM
Nothing like getting your cottage door knocked on at mid-night to go help push someone who has their car stuck on the flats. ehhhhhhh.... guilty The lobster was good though, as was the wine.

BeeGee56

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Transition Woman Posted: 6/24/2009 9:36:15 AM
Good luck, trustediva. I hope it works out for you one way or another. If you both want it to happen, well just maybe it will. Being friends first is a very good space to start from, I think.

BeeGee56

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Does This Happen to Anyone Else? Posted: 6/23/2009 8:25:59 AM
Up until I read the part about getting stood up, goodTNgirl, I was thinking the chap was probably on POF telling everybody else he was in contact with that he was off the market. Man, some guys are dumb. ;) Good Tuesday, all.

BeeGee56

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some unsolicited fathers day advice Posted: 6/18/2009 1:18:01 PM
Thanks for that, Bradley.

BeeGee56

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Sexual Disgust...is possibly another thing disguised... Posted: 6/18/2009 1:07:47 PM
With respect, I don't think concepts like "evening the tables" really have any place in a loving relationship. It's about compassion, forgiveness and understanding, not settling scores. But to answer your question, if the she meant that much to me in the first place, then personally I'd consider starting another relationship with her. But I'd make sure it really was a new relationship and not a continuation of the old one. Who'd want that? That one ended. As others have pointed out, none of us are exactly virgins and it's unproductive brooding about someone's past. As long as it was healthy ;)

BeeGee56

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Why Are Over 45 Men In Love With Motorcycles? Posted: 6/16/2009 12:12:57 PM
Whilst out riding last evening, this occurred to me: By the time we reach middle age, we've become expert at a lot of the things we have to do in life. So expert that we don't even think about them most of the time and are able to drift through the day without a lot of effort. We become visitors in our own lives, pushed along by natural forces and content, for the most part, that the direction we're drifting is more or less where we want to go anyway. On a motorcycle, everything changes. On a bike, you have to take total control of every second of your life. You're aware of everything: a pebble on the road becomes a landmark at 60 mph. Every corner brings a new set of priorities. Your temporal frame of existance expands from the moment to twelve seconds in the future. You go from being an observer of your own life to the centre of it. Maybe that's why things seen, and places visited, on a motorcycle are so vivid in memory even decades later. Maybe it's those times, when we are seconds away from death, that we are most alive. Maybe that's what we're in love with.

BeeGee56

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Single signs Posted: 6/12/2009 10:04:19 AM
We do have a sign which shows we are single - a huge big smile! LOL True enough, that. Although it does beg the question of what we're all doing on a dating site presumably with the goal of becoming un-single to some extent. Have a great weekend, all.

BeeGee56

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YOU KNOW YOU GETTING OLD WHEN...fill in the blank Posted: 6/10/2009 10:19:10 AM
...when there's 11 boxes of 5.25" floppy diskettes on a shelf in your office.

BeeGee56

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Single signs Posted: 6/10/2009 8:20:28 AM
Or, assuming you haven't cast it into the pit of a volcano, put your wedding ring on your right hand. Then when somebody says "say, you've got your wedding ring on the wrong hand", you can answer "yeah, well, that's because I married the wrong (wo)man."

BeeGee56

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Is he still in love with his ex wife? Posted: 6/5/2009 9:40:52 AM
How about when a guy has a legitimate reason to communicate with his ex (about kids, for example) but is agressively in "no contact" mode instead. That would suggest to me that he is concerned about what feelings might arise, unbidden and unwelcome, from face to face contact with his ex. Just my opinion, but being "in hate" with a former partner is probably just as bad as still being "in love". Guys who have unresolved issues with former partners - bad feelings over things that happened before the split for example - might find it pretty hard to have the degree of indifference toward their exes that they need, to move forward. As to the second question, I think the halls of heartbreak are well stocked with people who thought they could truly love two women at the same time. But there's love, and then there's Love, if you know what I mean. Sad to say, OP, but any decent guy is going to have, carefully encapsulated and stored in a recess of his heart, some degree of feeling for any woman he's truly shared life with.

BeeGee56

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Healed from divorce or lingering baggage. Posted: 6/5/2009 8:51:09 AM
Lots of good advice here from folks who have been there, OP. However, as in all things, "your mileage may vary". Going against the grain this morning, I don't think there's that much wrong with casual dating at this stage of life as long as it really IS casual and not freighted with heavy expectations on either side. This is a time when the women you know who have you permanently tagged as a "friend only", can be really good company. I think you'll find that no matter how much time you give yourself, the reality of dating and being with other people is going to be an eye-opener. You might discover that you're not as "ready" as you thought you were, or that personal issues that you thought you'd left behind are still lurking around in the background. I found that to be the case with myself, at any rate. It sounds like you've done some serious introspection and that's a good thing. We all need to do that. Best wishes to you on the great journey

BeeGee56

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What the! Posted: 6/1/2009 9:04:04 AM
Your thoughts? I think the individual in question would be well advised to avoid straying into wooded areas where men are using power saws. Seriously, that's just off. It's also illegal in many western countries, although, sadly, not the one I live in.

BeeGee56

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what do women really want and like? Posted: 5/30/2009 9:17:19 AM
Allll right, if anybody ever asks me why I'm still on POF despite being in a committed relationship, I'm gonna point them to this thread. Thank you all; this has been most informative, educational and entertaining (in a good way). That's on the level about ice cream and chocolate, right? I've found it also helps if you're somewhat good with kids. And big dogs that lick your face when you fall asleep on the sofa.

BeeGee56

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YOU KNOW YOU GETTING OLD WHEN...fill in the blank Posted: 5/29/2009 8:59:29 AM
Haha, yep. I had to show one of my son's friends how to use one to call home once.

BeeGee56

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appropriate ways of expressing negative feelings in relationships Posted: 5/28/2009 11:44:32 AM
It wasn't saveable as a marriage but we are friends now, but it took 7 years. Sorry for the off-topic, but I'd be very interested to know something of how you made that happen. Best, BG

BeeGee56

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Smokers... are they as evil as perceived?? Posted: 5/28/2009 9:39:12 AM
Thanks ;) It is not easy, but you probably already know that. I quit for a year in 2005 on those plastic inhaler thingies. Started again for reasons that no longer make any sense. Good luck to all who are trying.

BeeGee56

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Question for you guys Posted: 5/27/2009 9:53:48 AM
I think there are a lot of middle-aged guys looking for a long-term relationship, but I wonder whether we're all looking for the same type of long-term relationship we had in the past. Most guys in our age group on here have got at least one divorce and two kids under their belt. Most likely the kids are adults, the divorce forced them to take a new perspective on life, and they've been alone for some while and know how to make their beds and iron their own shirts. Let's face it, the men you're most likely to be attracted to are probably fairly happy with their lives the way they are now. Maybe a new type of relationship is in order. Committed, exclusive, supportative, growing, sharing... ...maybe just not married and sharing digs.

BeeGee56

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Stunned & Blindsided Posted: 5/25/2009 10:27:45 AM
How long do you give it? That version of the relationship is done. The lady wants out, brother. Two years from now you won't be the same person you are now and neither will she. Let THOSE two people meet and fall in love, if they want to and if they can. For now, you should focus on becoming all YOU can be, instead of just being somebody's husband. There's more to life than mowing the lawn and making mortgage payments. And I hope you discover what a total rush being fit, fifty, and FREE, can be. It's a long dark tunnel, but you do get through it. Best Wishes BG

BeeGee56

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Smokers... are they as evil as perceived?? Posted: 5/22/2009 11:46:03 AM
I discovered the lovin's a lot better without 25 cigarettes a day. "This wonderful morning interlude was brought to you by three months of tobacco deprivation." Have a GREAT smoke free weekend!

BeeGee56

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What Do You Guys Think Posted: 5/21/2009 12:35:39 PM
Do you guys like when a lady notices you and sends a note or is that too forward? Some of we guys like it very much and find it somewhat flattering, which is always a good way to get on a man's good side ;) Good luck, eh? You're right, too: it IS just a number. One of the best times so far in life, really.

BeeGee56

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want advise about a 8 year marriage ending Posted: 5/21/2009 12:23:17 PM
Whatever her reason, she is still leaving room to talk. So talk to her, discover what she really wants NOW. And when you talk leave all the blame, hurt and anger outside the door... This is good advice, OP. So is the advice about just cutting the ties and getting on with it, but do try this first if you can. Best wishes, BG

BeeGee56

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representing myself during divorce - ontario Posted: 5/19/2009 6:56:05 AM
Well, lots of good advice here. Unfortunately most of us have some familiarity with this area. It's been mentioned by several people that you can't afford not to have a lawyer. I think this is true in most cases but it's also a fact that some folks have successfully represented themselves against well-funded opposition. What you might consider - and I apologise if this has already been mentioned - is to use the services of a lawyer on a coaching basis. That is, you represent yourself but you use the lawyer when necessary for information. You'll still have to do the bulk of the work yourself but you will have the benefit of professional advice and hopefully minimal legal bills. If you wind up going the lawyer route, you might ask for their bill every month and do it on a "pay as you go" basis so you don't have to shell out everything you get from your ex to pay your lawyer. Don't be fooled or intimidated by "chest pounding". People in this situation get all kinds of funny ideas and make all kinds of threats but reality is somewhat different. It's really not much like you see on TV. Good luck, eh.

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