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JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

My tom cat keeps trying to procreate with a skunk! Posted: 11/28/2008 10:13:10 AM
^^^^^ Hey, great idea!!! You get a gold star... uh, er... beer!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

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Admit a flaw Posted: 11/19/2008 9:56:17 AM
I have a very low tolerance for those lacking common sense... --Low I.Q. or naive...? I can deal with those. --Otherwise reasonable person of average or above average intelligence desperately clinging to absolute nonsense as fact or truth...? ARRRGGHH!!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 52 (view)

Why California? Posted: 11/17/2008 9:04:29 AM
Gottalight... Your own "wordtwisting" is noted. <div class="quote">"their rights to partner choice is more important than your right to vote" The entirety of your post IS an expression of a battle of ideology regarding thuggery over the rights of the individual... ...you are simply mistaken over who is 'wearing the black hats' in this scenario. Your fascist argument is moot: No one is trying to make you marry another man. <div class="quote">"Engage your brain before you open your mouth!" Duh! Welcome to America. --You don't have to accept an ideology to tolerate one that differs from yours. *Equal rights for One IS equal rights for ALL.* edit: This is one of the reasons why I love living in California: it is part of a FREE SOCIETY; America. waves the American flag

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 370 (view)

Movie quotes NOT to use on a first date. Posted: 11/14/2008 2:21:49 PM
^^^^I think they used that one in The Big Chill, too!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 365 (view)

Movie quotes NOT to use on a first date. Posted: 11/12/2008 10:25:54 AM
Pitch Black (2000) Paris: Paris P. Olgilvie. Antiquities dealer, entrepreneur. Riddick: Richard B. Riddick. Escaped convict. Murderer. ------------------------------------------ Johns: He just escaped from a maximum security prison. Fry: Should he just stay locked up forever? Johns: That would be my choice. Fry: Is he really that dangerous? Johns: Only around humans. ------------------------------------------ Riddick: They say most of your brain shuts down during cryo-sleep. All but the primitive side, the animal side. No wonder I'm still awake. ------------------------------------------ Riddick: All you people are so scared of me. Most days I'd take that as a compliment. But it ain't me you gotta worry about now. ------------------------------------------ Jack: Where the hell can I get eyes like that? Riddick: Gotta kill a few people. ------------------------------------------- Fry: You're not a cop are you? Johns: Never said I was. Fry: No you didn't. You never said you were a hype either. Johns: You have a little caffeine in the morning, I have a little morphine. So what? ------------------------------------------- Johns: Hey, I thought I said no shivs! Riddick: You mean this? This is just a personal grooming appliance. -------------------------------------------- Riddick: That's death row up there, especially with the girl bleeding. -------------------------------------------- Riddick: Strong survival instinct. I admire that in a woman. The Chronicles of Riddick (2004) Richard B. Riddick: Its been a long time since I smelled beautiful. -------------------------------------------- Richard B. Riddick: Remember that favorite game of yours? Kyra: "Who's the Better Killer?" Richard B. Riddick: Let's play. -------------------------------------------- Richard B. Riddick: You made three mistakes. First, you took the job. Second, you came light. A four man crew for me? F'ing insulting. But the worst mistake you made... [Toombs darts for the gun rack which he finds to be empty while Riddick smiles] Richard B. Riddick: ...empty gun rack. --------------------------------------------- Vaako: Obedience without question. Loyalty until Underverse come. --------------------------------------------- Purifier: It was hard for me to accept too, the first time I heard these words... But I changed. I let them take away my pain. Just was you will change when you realize the threshold to the Underverse will be crossed only by those who have embraced the Necromonger faith, by those of you who will right now, drop to your knees, and ask, to be purified. ----------------------------------------------- [after ripping out a man's soul] Lord Marshal: Join him, or join me. YIKES!!!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 117 (view)

Semen acts as an Anti-Depressant Posted: 11/7/2008 12:57:19 PM
^^^^^Alright... Testosterone does give back some of the 'vim & vigor' lost for women during menopause... It has been added to a hormone-replacement therapy called Estro-Test. It may increase some desire and energy, but it has it's drawbacks, too: It can cause a woman's hair to start thinning out on her head and start increasing on her upper lip, and increase aggression. Other than that type of "joy" the testosterone brings to women, semen is where the actual trouble lies for most of us!!! ---Nah! It IS the testosterone! Just kidding!!! ..... sort of

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 70 (view)

The New President Posted: 11/7/2008 12:36:02 PM
<----- Still enjoying the serenity of it all. Sha-La-la-la La... !!! Hmm Hm HMmmm!! @<~~~~~~~~~~la la la!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

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Civil Rights Posted: 11/7/2008 10:18:57 AM
Well.... it looks like the protests of the '60's are back! On a different note: It cracks me up that it has been suggested in this thread that some posters could have "a personal stake" in making sure that no American is denied their RIGHTS, how ever it is that they differ from our individual lives, could be anything BUT personal... Remember the movieThe People vs. Larry Flynt(1996)? Larry Flynt: "If the First Amendment will protect a scumbag like me, it will protect all of you. " --Civil Liberty for One IS Civil Liberty for ALL. Yes, it is that simple. I won't forget it... will you?

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 874 (view)

Civil Rights Posted: 11/6/2008 7:07:12 PM
I feel a need for a unitarian prayer/relaxation/understanding of/coming together of "I don't have to be right" to be Right coming on...

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 36 (view)

Our New President Posted: 11/6/2008 1:41:54 PM
Your need to resort ad hominem attacks when you can't respond to the points shows the lack of serious thought I mentioned. Yes, entering into an actual serious debate with you won't bring joy to me or anyone who reads these posts... Enjoy YOUR debate with the rest of the world. --You do like to fight on just about anything, as long as you can prove your position by winning with some rules you learned in high school debate class. --And, yes, you are good at playing by those little rules. Everyone has to be good at something; your talent lies in honing your skills arguing "The Rules" with people. --Your career path must rely on that greatly... I am sure you are very successful at it. Though, how's all that 'winning word wars' working out for you in your personal life?:dispute: --I am sure the ladies are loving it! <-------See? ...sarcastic and STILL smiling! And, I didn't have to file an motion with the courts... Bonus! --I raise my glass to the 44th President-elect! pushes away from the keyboard, humming Etta James' At Last* contentedly while she takes a sip*

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 853 (view)

Prop 8 is still bigotry and it's still wrong Posted: 11/6/2008 12:08:06 PM
ALL those are EXCELLENT reasons for GAY MARRIAGE!!! Yup, Katervina... works either way.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

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Why do some men like the Catholic school outfit so much? Posted: 11/6/2008 11:58:25 AM
OP... 1) Most people's "type" is discovered at a fairly early (jr. high to high school) age... 2) The 'forbidden fruit,' thing... corruption of the so-called 'good girl'... 3) A woman in specifically sex-minded wardrobe leaves no ambiguity to the woman's intentions, and a lot of men like that more than guessing 'what's for dessert!' (#3 is where your intention and their interpretation of your outfit gets muddled!) 4) You look really HOT in it! They wished their high school girlfriend had looked as good!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Our New President Posted: 11/6/2008 11:35:32 AM
Barack Obama is like the near-perfect husband: He has that loving creative "thing" that is simply a part of his being and will continue to be a daily renewed expression of his wonderful character. Match... If the "abandonment of serious thinking" to which you refer is simply disagreeing with a 'close-minded, stale stand-in for actual THOUGHT' point of view...? Uh, yup... Abso-freakin'-lutely!!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 845 (view)

Civil Rights Posted: 11/6/2008 10:25:37 AM
The two sides of this debate won't ever be resolved due to it's very nature being a question of opposing moralities: --One says it is against God to allow it. --The other says it is against civil liberty to deny it. It comes down to what each side believes is the correct answer for what is good, right and righteous, and that is, as always, subjective to the individual. To simply deny someone or some group rights because their ethics are secular and therefore the foundation of their understanding of right and wrong is different from yours makes as much sense as denying a Jew a home in a Christian community. "Luckily, this is not a situation where humans are in physical bondage, so its really not as big of a deal as the opposition tries to make it out to be. Ummm...???? --That would depend on the basis for one's point-of-view, now doesn't it? I am sure the interracial couples denied marriage rights prior to the Supreme Court's 1967 (!!!!!) ruling in Loving v. Virginia would have something to say on that one. The Supreme Court ruled unanimously in that case: "Marriage is one of the 'basic civil rights of man,' fundamental to our very existence and survival.... To deny this fundamental freedom on so unsupportable a basis as the racial classifications embodied in these statutes, classifications so directly subversive of the principle of equality at the heart of the Fourteenth Amendment, is surely to deprive all the State's citizens of liberty without due process of law. The Fourteenth Amendment requires that the freedom of choice to marry not be restricted by invidious racial discriminations. Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not to marry, a person of another race resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the State." **'Bondage' is in the eye of the 'Bound.'** A couple of substitutions for the words 'sex' or 'gender' in there, and Voila! a some-day-to-be-decided ruling on same-sex marriage will have similar consequences. It might take a some time to get the civil rights legislation right on this one: It took a whole 84 years after Pace v. Alabama in 1883 to condemn that anti-miscegenation law to it's proper place in 1967: History. --Patience!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

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Our New President Posted: 11/6/2008 8:30:15 AM
"The problems of the world cannot possibly be solved by skeptics or cynics whose horizons are limited by the obvious realities. We need men who can dream of things that never were." --John F. Kennedy

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 21 (view)

Our New President Posted: 11/6/2008 6:51:30 AM
Matchless... BLAH. BLAH. BLAH. Your little rants can't remove my good, warm-fuzzies about this man! Your cynical heart will never be able to see what I see easily in people... Too bad... The view is quite pleasant!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 804 (view)

Civil Rights Posted: 11/5/2008 2:44:14 PM
The vote, simply being as numbers, would indicate that people think that marriage is something between a woman and a man. Proposition 8-Same Sex Marriage Ban -- 25,196 of 25,429 precincts reporting (99%) Yes 5,324,131 52% (X) No 4,844,050 48% Well... a little more than half... at 1:53 in the p.m, Nov. 5th, 2008.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

Our New President Posted: 11/5/2008 2:27:50 PM
OP... I think that the rest of the world won't see our 'business as usual' --and that can't be a bad thing. Barack Obama IS the American Dream... I am in awe of the simple beauty of this man being recognized as a beacon of hope for so many, Black, White, Yellow, Brown, Red... --and, it doesn't matter your religion... --His gentle strength and warmth is what we have been starving for the last eight years and I can feel a quiet pride welling up in me, warm and satisfied, with his grace and intelligence as our country's new leader. I think the parts of the world, that have been paying attention, can feel it, too! Yes, OP... Barack Obama IS the Civil Rights Movement personified: He is man of respect, both deserving of ...and giving of it This is what my favorite teachers (the Hippie ones!) left me with when the details of their lessons fade and rust in my memory with un-use: A warm, simple, genuine offer of (mutual) respect goes a long way in any relationship... Who would YOU want shaking the hand of foreign and domestic dignitaries... Obama or McCain? ...I can breathe, now. It has been a LONG eight years!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 798 (view)

Civil Rights Posted: 11/5/2008 1:46:58 PM
Don't worry --this is far from over! This was never a vote for 'The People" to decide... It IS a Civil Rights issue and will be brought before the Supreme Court, at the federal level, before ya know it! Democracy may mean 'the rule of the mob,' but it won't be a simple majority vote to overturn what the court will decide is "Right" when it is done with this one... Slow and steady, cool rationale will define this in the end. Hate isn't an American value.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 64 (view)

My tom cat keeps trying to procreate with a skunk! Posted: 11/4/2008 7:24:36 PM
I wonder what the Yes on 8 people would think of this!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 591 (view)

No on H8 Posted: 11/3/2008 12:31:39 PM
If a couple is infertile or simply doesn't want children, they are still allowed to marry, right? They can still adopt, if they qualify under the rules, and want to create the contract of responsibility that adoption and/or marriage actually are. ...We have a lot to consider before we go changing the definitions of words. Consider the consequences of actions, as noble as they might seem. Yup. I agree with you there. No on H8.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 18 (view)

The phrase I am just a girl Posted: 11/3/2008 12:14:31 PM
"Girl" can mean many things... The resistance to being called "Girl" on my own part has been because it is what men and boys have called each other when they mean "Weak" or "Powerless" or "Ineffective." Going for a state of equality in this American Wonderland, and actually getting it ...for the most part, I am no longer afraid of, nor offended by, being called a "Girl." Now, I prefer to be called other things, but "Girl" is just fine. It is kind of like the "C" word... It isn't actually a slang or a curse or bad; it simply means "Woman" or a woman's nether parts. It has been hijacked to be the lowest thing you can call a woman, but it really doesn't mean that. When someone called me a "C," to try to upset me, I said,"Thank you! Most people don't know the meaning of that word but you... you used it correctly! Yes, I am a Woman!!!! Thank you!!!!! Now, I can go on with my day!" --That pissed him off a bit! Neither "C" nor "Girl" is a bad description of someone... --If I don't FEEL DISMISSED by someones words, how do they have any power over my little world? Regarding 'wearing different hats,' as it were, it all depends on what needs to be donned at that moment: "...Specialization is for insects!" --Robert A. Heinlein -Otherwise, when all the work is finished for the day and I can get into relax mode and kick off my shoes and any stubborn, lingering 'hats,' I WOULD just be a girl... and that's just fine with me!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 585 (view)

Prop 8 Posted: 11/3/2008 11:36:08 AM
...seem completely blinded by passion. Actually Katerivta, it is more like: ...seem completely blinded by COMpassion. It is not a bad place to be... in compassion, really! And this one...??? Its not a matter of rights. Its a matter of reality. Marriage occurs between a man and a woman. A fool denies reality. It IS so a matter of rights. And, it IS a matter of reality. A fool denies reality. You said it!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 537 (view)

Prop h8 is bigotry Posted: 11/2/2008 5:28:32 PM
As far as The Founding Fathers go, I don't believe that they would have predicted the world as it is now, and all that entails... What they accomplished was something more... --It created a foundation for an evolving system greater than itself --one of tolerance. Although some of Our Fathers were outspoken bigots and racists, The Constitution was not confined to a singular viewpoint or philosophy; it had built-in tolerance written into it. America may not have evolved into exactly what they had dreamed up in the beginning, but they opened the door to a better (read: more tolerant) life for everyone... and I certainly won't forget that. I am an average American... and I approve this message.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 500 (view)

Prop 8 Posted: 11/1/2008 2:46:45 PM
No matter what happens Tuesday, I am confident that this will be argued at the Supreme Court level, and it WILL be defeated to the point where a Constitutional Amendment WILL be made to ensure the rights of our citizenry: Marriage is a legal, social contract between two consenting adults, and shall not be limited on the basis of sex or gender. Everyone rest easy... this isn't the last word we will hear on this matter. "It isn't our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences." --Audre Lorde --No or Yes on 8... it won't matter. I love this country!!!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 338 (view)

Prop 8 Posted: 10/30/2008 12:44:26 PM
This bears repeating!!!! Katerivta, maybe you should think twice about using phrases like "Step down from the freedom limiting, constitution violating high horse." Our traditional definition of marriage was changed to allow those of mixed races to marry. I don't know if your parents were married or not but if they were, you can thank an "activist judge" who allowed it to happen. Ah, traditional marriage, when a man could legally beat his wife. When forcing sex on your wife wasn't considered rape. When women didn't work but were handed off from their fathers to their husbands to be taken care of. When wives listened to their husbands and the husbands decided where the family would live and as head of a Christian household all decisions were made by him. Yes traditional is a wonderful thing. If we followed tradition Katerivta would have no voice here or anywhere except maybe her sewing circle. No one cared for the opinions of women traditionally, not even the Christian church, maybe especially the Christian church. If you wanted to work because you were a spinster at age 18 your choice of work was limited to very few things like a teacher and you would be looked down up and pitied. Isn't it wonderful for Katerivta that these things changed and she now votes and her opinions are considered whether or not if they are smart or dumb, that at age 39 she is not someone we pity because she is unmarried and the fact that she is on a secular dating site we don't question her morals. Funny how willing people are to forego tradition when it benefits them but not when it benefits others. One rule for me, one rule for you. Thanks for helping put perspective on this, Bob! --I feel very strongly about the idea that Prop 8 is very much like the Jim Crow Laws imposed on Blacks in the South after The Civil War... --It's passing would be somewhat like the first steps of imposing the so-called "interment" (concentration) camps on Americans of Japanese decent during WWII... Proposition 8 is the first step in eliminating/denying civil/human rights to our own citizens. Here are some quotes for you to chew on: America has believed that in differentiation, not in uniformity, lies the path of progress. It acted on this belief; it has advanced human happiness, and it has prospered. --Louis D. Brandeis (1856 - 1941) I am a Conservative to preserve all that is good in our constitution, a Radical to remove all that is bad. I seek to preserve property and to respect order, and I equally decry the appeal to the passions of the many or the prejudices of the few. --Benjamin Disraeli (1804 - 1881), campaign speech at High Wycombe, England, November 27, 1832 So many new ideas are at first strange and horrible, though ultimately valuable that a very heavy responsibility rests upon those who would prevent their dissemination. --J. B. S. Haldane (1892 - 1964) Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. --Martin Luther King Jr. (1929 - 1968), Letter from Birmingham Jail, April 16, 1963 In the state of nature...all men are born equal, but they cannot continue in this equality. Society makes them lose it, and they recover it only by the protection of the law. -- Charles de Montesquieu (1689 - 1755) If you want to be free, there is but one way; it is to guarantee an equally full measure of liberty to all your neighbors. There is no other. --Carl Schurz (1829 - 1906) Liberty is not a means to a higher political end. It is itself the highest political end. --Lord Acton, Lecture, February 26, 1877 I would rather be exposed to the inconveniences attending too much liberty than to those attending too small a degree of it. --Thomas Jefferson (1743 - 1826), to Archibald Stuart, 1791 We hold these truths to be self-evident that all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. --US Declaration of Independence It is this last one above ^^^^that will ensure basic freedoms for ALL of us... --And, because of that last one, any actual passing of Prop. 8 WILL be overturned, in time. NO ON 8!!!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 405 (view)

Admit a flaw Posted: 10/30/2008 9:25:24 AM
Flaw #10+... I have trouble with "the chain of command" at work. I believe that if you are having issues with something under another department's per-view, or in your own, that you should go directly to the individual in question to work out the details of what your needs are, not aspire to getting caught in the red tape of going through management all the time. It has always seemed very inefficient to me... --Not to mention direct contact creates a dialogue between departments (or individuals) so information and needs are met in a mutually beneficial way. Perhaps if I worked in a larger corporate environment, I would feel different!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

Apartment or Mobile Home? Posted: 10/29/2008 11:48:00 AM
I don't believe that mobile homes appreciate in value the way a regular house does... --As far as I know, they lose value, over time, more like a car. Look into it! There are some very well-made ones and you can rent a space in good parks, but you then they stick you with all the rules (and other B.S.) of the neighborhood association regarding your pets... fencing... working on your car in the driveway... date for x-mas light removal... not to mention the space rent, etc... My friend lived in a very nice park and home, and he left because of all the stringent, unreasonable rules. Good Luck!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

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Discuss: The freaks Come Out on Halloween Posted: 10/29/2008 11:38:31 AM
ANY reason is a GOOD reason to dress up!!!!! Halloween is great because you get to be ANYTHING you want, as long as your imagination and your budget (and time) permits... Example: --You could be "Invisible"...given enough time and money!!! 1)Poor-man's "Invisible" = painting yourself to look like the wall at the party, or dressing as a floor lamp with the lights and stand very still. 2)Rich-man's "invisible" = covering yourself in tiny cameras to project the other side of your body (from the observer's p.o.v.) onto a seamless, full-body covering screen. I haven't seen any of the #2 kind of camouflage [except for, maybe, in a James Bond (?) movie], but I believe that someone will actually build a life-working model for some Halloween soon! Another reason to dress up is to explore an inner side of you that you wouldn't express on a daily basis (ie. Dominatrix or Submissive or Cheerleader or Zombie or Superhero...). It is FUN to ham it up in costume, especially if you are normally very shy! :229: <----What tickles your fancy???? HAVE FUN EVERYONE!!!! HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 57 (view)

My tom cat keeps trying to procreate with a skunk! Posted: 10/26/2008 7:29:24 PM
Tom would NEVER cheat on Stinky!!!!! --That's just horrible!!!!!! They are IN LOVE!!!! shudders

JadeMuse

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Pet names - original or not? Posted: 10/23/2008 1:14:37 PM
I like some of the classics, like "Sweetie" or "Sweet-face" or "Honey" or "Hon" --but, I use those for everybody--including dogs and cats! The special ones are tuned to the individual ...kinda like the cat I grew up with having a new nick-name every-other week depending on what silly thing he happened to do. He always did answer to "Kitty," though that one wasn't one on file at the vet's office! My guy is in computer consulting... --He is "The Administra-tor!" <----we have a lot of fun with THAT scenario!"

JadeMuse

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How do I get past the friend complex? Posted: 10/23/2008 12:24:04 PM
Elmonchis... Oh, boy. Both of your posts are exactly what I was talking about. It is why there is so much in-fighting between men and women: If she doesn't want to "do" you, she should be hooking you up with her female friends or she is of no use to you ....?????? * * * * * Ummm... --Uh huh. I would hazard to guess that everything in your world is perceived as good or bad depending on if it can be "used" to get you laid, etc... * * I am surprised any women talk to you ...EVER. Whining has got to be the most unattractive of human expression. "What about MEEeEEee!?" In case you missed it: YOU aren't at the top of her 'to do' list. Apparently, she doesn't believe you are right for her friends, either... ...unless she thinks THEY aren't right for YOU, but I doubt it! Hire yourself a shill, ya big Baby! You aren't as 'nice' as you think people believe you to be.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

is anyone able to interpret relationship-related dreams Posted: 10/23/2008 12:03:01 PM
Jackster121 (msg#2) seems to have a grasp on what your dream could mean... --Dream interpretation is a pretty subjective study, and the specific details are what any of it means to you in the end. The 'legless boyfriend' could also be that you believe your guy to be a good catch, but he has an issue (perhaps a big one?) that won't be going away...? I would have to say that the 'mother guilt' part could also be your belief for what your family's or society's expectations are for you, represented through the whole WWMomD (WWJD) scenario....???? And, some would say that any building in a dream represents yourself... Whatever others come up with, it is you that has to connect with what your subconscious is trying to work out in your sleep, and specifically HOW you feel about any piece of it. ie. you could be having what anyone else would call a nightmare, and be laughing because you find the bogeyman to be a ridiculous thing to be afraid of, etc... --It all comes down to how you feel, no one else. Check online under Freud: The Interpretation of Dreams for some of the basics! (I think that was the title...something like that...) It will get you going in the right direction anyway: to better understand your inner self. There are lots of authors out there for this subject. Happy reading!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

How do I get past the friend complex? Posted: 10/23/2008 6:28:18 AM
Erai has it!^^^^ exerpt: " I really despise guys who criticise women for not being attracted to a guy but wanting to be their friend. What exactly is wrong with this? It's extremely noble. You make it clear that nothing will ever develop and offer the best that you can, friendship. It's men who are dopes for thinking "stupid woman, I will make you love me by acting like a boyfriend, anyway, until you realise that I should be your boyfriend." This never works and in the end they just get bitter and start vilifying the poor woman for using them when the whole sorry mess is their fault for trying to be so manipulative." My brother has this same issue... He wonders why women will knowingly keep a guy around as friend (him) when he has originally hit on her ...and she turned him down. --Why should she deprive herself of someone she has admitted she feels is a friend?? She is exchanging friendship for friendship. Just 'cause you want who you want doesn't mean someone is a b!tch for not returning your desires. If someone can't handle it, he (or she) needs to avoid the bitterness of constant rejection by hanging out with someone else! edit: And, if you are one of these guys that has been mislead by the advertising industry, etc... to believe that a woman's affections can be actually be BOUGHT with expensive dinners, flowers, and jewelery... and some woman actually uses him for STUFF because of this idiotic perception --perhaps letting EITHER bloodline continue to breed would be a bad idea anyway. My$.o2

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 33 (view)

I have a friend who was molested by her massuer... Posted: 10/22/2008 1:12:15 PM
I'm yet to see enough of a smoking gun in this so called "Molestation"?? molested HOW??? From message #16 ...she trusted him enough to relax enough to let him work her upper thigh, he slid his hand into her shorts and inside her. ... 'Nuff said. Actually, Guys.... I think I am better equipped than I was to help her now... Thanks for all of your help.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 31 (view)

People have been shot and killed for less..... Posted: 10/22/2008 8:20:33 AM
^^^Yup... --Like a dog with a bone! My ENFP "Champion" is showing... Try thinking of it as if it happened to YOUR daughter, sister, mother or son...? --Your own panty's twist would be cutting off your circulation by now!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

People have been shot and killed for less..... Posted: 10/21/2008 10:09:51 PM
...hindsight is 20/20... This was not some "buyer's remorse," ...questioning other women I am not the frickin' police ... are you dense??!!! If this sort of thing had happened to me, I would have at least marked him with a pronounce limp, if not caused permanent damage to the perp! Well, at least he's not allowed to practice anymore locally. Practicing locally would have been the least of his worries! HE is lucky he she is as non-confrontive as she is. I would ruin his LIFE, not his gd LICENSE. Jail would be a good place for him to learn about unwanted advances... --I hope he becomes a warning to others!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 377 (view)

Admit a flaw Posted: 10/20/2008 3:48:40 PM
Pssst! HeelsRSo4ever... Thickening toenails could be a sign of a fungal infection. A good remedy is Tea Tree Oil! You can get it at about any Longs or Walgreens. The medical treatments for it (pills) can be toxic to your liver. Tea tree oil is about $8 a bottle, and you apply it 2x a day until the nail grows out. Put it in one with a little brush next to the toilet and put it on a.m. and p.m., and one little bottle should be enough for the entire treatment. My toes are one of my best features since I cleared up the one that had been breached! Good luck! Flaw #?? Giving unsolicited advice.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 19 (view)

I have a friend who was molested by her massuer... Posted: 10/18/2008 5:43:33 PM
I respect a victim, doing what she has to, to SURVIVE. I have , fortunately, never had to deal with the consequences of a sexual assault. What ever she NEEDS whether I AGREE with her or not on how she handles it pr not, is my duty as a friend. No other standards apply.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 16 (view)

I have a friend who was molested by her massuer... Posted: 10/18/2008 11:50:03 AM
She runs daily, and she has had muscular pain running down the inside of one of her thighs and calf... For a massage to actually do any good, the person has to fully relax and let the therapist work the muscles. She was in a pair of shorts and a sports bra (did I mention that she is very modest?) and when she trusted him enough to relax enough to let him work her upper thigh, he slide his hand into her shorts and inside her. She had the where-with-all to calmly get up, get her clothes, and walk out of there. He had the audacity to follow her out congratulating her for being a "strong woman who knows shat she wants... holding to her beliefs... blah blah blah..." He has no wiggle-room for an "oops" on that one!!!! She mentioned that she spoke to the police about it, after her pastor and some good friends from her parish, and I believe she knew the officer from her church and that helped. I don't know what progress has been made so far, but I get the feeling that she is okay to let it go. I hope he gets what he deserves!!! A guy like that is likely to have done it before to other women... Perhaps there are some women who would like more of a 'special massage' out there... --My friend is definitely not one of them. If she wants to pursue it, I will be there for her in court... If she wants to let it drop, I will still be there for her, too. It really is her baby. Thanks for all your good advice. --Sometimes this sounding-board needs one of her own.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 122 (view)

What if I don't want to be a cougar? Posted: 10/17/2008 4:51:27 PM
^^^I hear from a lot of women of 'a certain age' that the don't want to be with someone they can't relate to. Some do, and it usually isn't about his wallet! Enjoy, Ladies.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 76 (view)

If there is such a thing as Outside-the-Box, what is The Box? Posted: 10/17/2008 4:46:33 PM
There are boxes of many shapes and sizes, and we have to figure out if "The Box" is defined by others or ourselves. What would you do?

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 12 (view)

I have a friend who was molested by her massuer... Posted: 10/17/2008 4:41:44 PM
^^^Some things are beyond $$$$. I would prosecute him.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 17 (view)

He Wants To Take It Slow Posted: 10/17/2008 3:52:15 PM
Slow is good! Don't forget what that means for you: Maintain your friendships ie. make plans on your own without him. He wants to have his "guy time," whatever, etc... and don't fall into a one-way relationship. So, keep up with YOUR life! --He is doing the same.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 6 (view)

Help! Widow starting to date after 15 yrs Confused about this new man Posted: 10/17/2008 12:45:44 PM
OP... Either too hot, or not, huh? Tell him about the job interview part and that is messing up the honeymoon portion of the relationship for you. If he can't deal with a little cool down, he isn't the one for you, in the end, anyway. I would use caution with this one... "Passion" is a double-edged sword. All that intensity is yummily good when all is well, but if he has passion like that for you now, the only place to go is down in flames when you when you forget to pick up his favorite kind of Cherrios, ya know, Great Goddess of his Desire...? Don't let him chip away your self-esteem in the meantime. He built you up and now is looking for blemishes in the artwork. If he won't quit with the "scares me" part, run away... FAST!!!

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

Co-habitating etiquette - AFTER the breakup Posted: 10/17/2008 12:07:37 PM
is it fair to set a deadline I know she can't meet just to try and motivate her to do the best she can? When you set the bar low, you aren't helping anyone reach for their goals. When you set that bar a bit higher than what you KNOW you can expect from someone (and stick to it), you might be surprised that when faced with a challenge or deadline, that a person (with whom you have mutual respect) will rise to meet your expectations more often than not. In other words, expect her to conduct herself like a full-grown adult with whom you have shared a loving relationship. So, make it four months to include the ($400 and up) pet-deposit-thing, then. ...And, craigs l i s t, etc... has lots of pet-friendly rentals and movers and storage units available. Otherwise... I am getting the feeling that either you consider your ex a child in the world (ie. very irresponsible), or you simply don't want to look like the bad guy when you kick her out and are looking for a bit of empathy from us on here... When weighing your needs with what the right thing to do is, what SHOULD you do...? Make the deadline reasonable and make sure she signs the move-out date to set it in stone. If she needs (and deserves) that extra week at the end, it should be your decision to GIVE leeway to her, not that she DEMANDS it at 3 months 3.5 weeks into it, ya know? Good luck.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 14 (view)

Appearance change? Opinions ladies? Posted: 10/17/2008 11:16:27 AM
L4nce... Hon, don't worry about the style you choose... so much as that it is YOU. I, myself, am not into facial piercings, but if that is YOU, go for it! My guy is much like you... Computer consultant, gamer... and not a slave to fashion. He is... "The Administra-tor!" I love him for HIM... slightly rumpled khakis and well-loved sneakers and all! I must confess: I have always had a "thing" for geeks! If you want better chances at being initially NOTICED, well... something "shiny" sticking out of your face may very well do the trick or/and a few streaks of blonde/blue/whatever in your hair will grab some extra attention and separate you visually from the background. You seem perfectly intelligent and write quite well... You would be surprised at how far that goes --once you have gotten yourself noticed. Switch things up... experiment with your facial hair (I know I would, WEEKLY, if I had any!)... Get a few new pieces of clothing that go with a lot you already own. --$200 is nothing when it comes to buying a NEW wardrobe, but it will go a lot further if you get yourself a QUALITY anchor piece ie. new boots(?) or a jacket(?) per month/paycheck to add to what you have in your closet already. In the meantime, get some new socks, undies, and undershirts that fit you --TOSS the ones beyond your help with stains and holes! And, you can never go wrong with some good quality long sleeve black t-shirts. They are flexible for style's sake and also versatile to wear under anything like a classic jacket for a nice dinner with your mom, up to underneath biker leathers... --The style itself is defined through the ACCESSORIES. Steel Magnolias (1989) Clairee Belcher: The only thing that separates us from the animals is our ability to accessorize. Oh, and keep on wearing your geek-gear t-shirts... --When you find a woman who understands the joke behind your favorite one, she may indeed be your +1 soulmate! Best of luck to you! P.S. Good places for high quality anchor pieces (at half the price) are places like Marshalls or Khols. Otherwise, larger department stores are so hard up with the economy the way that it is that you can get great deals on anything now in just about all of them. J.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 44 (view)

Co-habitating etiquette - AFTER the breakup Posted: 10/17/2008 10:13:02 AM
"Appropriate" = Nov. 1 "Compassionate" = Dec. 1 Awww... c'mon! It's October 17th!!!! "Appropriate" amount of time to either get a second job or get more hours at work to be able to afford first, last and security deposit...? Probably about three months. "Compassionate" is giving her that extra week to get her brother to come out and help, or keeping her dogs for that extra week while she sets up, or helping her move her stuff into her new place himself, and showing concern that she not become homeless, and that she could use a dowel or two to keep people from crawling in her windows... Just 'cause the party is over, doesn't mean ya gotta flip the lights on and kick everyone out before 2am! YES, she needs to move out, but in a realistic time frame, not some impatient 'you are cramping my style, NOW' kind of BS!!! Kindness and civility in a break-up proves good character.

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 15 (view)

why do so many men have profile pics with their kids? Posted: 10/17/2008 9:10:58 AM
They are saying: "Ummm.... family is a big part of my life." "If you can't get on board with the priority of my kids (pets), keep walking." Someone who likes/wants/has kids will see this as a positive thing and dig deeper into the profile; someone who doesn't, will be repulsed off the bat and it will save everyone some time. One caveat: Safety concerns for the children should come first though, so I would blur their faces or place that handy little black bar across their eyes. --Ya don't want to attract predators. Same thing goes for putting children in clothes or backpacks or hats or hair-thingys that have their names written on them! --There is power in a name, and predators don't need any "ins." Just my $.02

JadeMuse

Joined: 11/3/2007

Msg: 421 (view)

California women: fact or myth? Posted: 10/17/2008 8:46:57 AM
^^^^You have awakened him!^^^^ He doesn't need any of our help, Mzzy!!! Pete reminds me of "The Todd" on Scrubs. high-five California women like Scrubs! Does that make me shallow????

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