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saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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addiction, crack of all things Posted: 4/17/2008 7:24:58 AM
My brother was married to a woman who smoked pot when they first got married. It was only "recreational" use, according to her. Then, she started smoking to cover up the smell of the pot. She went away for a job, and that's when the major problems started. We all believe she began using crystal meth while she was away working, and it completely ruined their marriage. She spent all the money she was making and became very paranoid. When she came back, she had lost about 20 pounds that she didn't have to lose, had sores all over her face, and seemed to have had a complete break with reality. She was borderline psychotic! They ended up getting a divorce, and she basically took my brother for as much as she possibly could. Once it was final, there was STILL more problems. Phone calls from collection agencies on a regular basis, vehicles being "stolen," all sorts of insanity. He is now with a wonderful woman, who also went through something very similar with her ex. They both understand how impossible it is to be in a relationship that has 3 parties involved. You have to fight with the drug for the attention of the user, and the drug will usually win.

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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How to start again. Posted: 10/2/2007 9:10:14 PM
You're in a tough place right now, but it will get easier. I worked with someone with borderline personality disorder, and knowing how hard that was, I'm extremely impressed that you were able to be in a long relationship with her. It's a terrible disorder and is probably harder on the people who love the person with the disorder than it is on the person themself. You might want to talk to a psychologist to help you get your confidence back and figure out where your head is at. Being with someone who has borderline personality disorder can really confuse a person and about make them feel like they are crazy. Good luck starting out again!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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if a girl really loves a guy can she go long amounts of time without cheating Posted: 8/26/2007 11:40:37 AM
I know from experience that girls can go for a long time and not cheat. But what really made me want to post on this was the control issue. I noticed that the OP is 21 and if the gf is being controlled that much by her parents, how old is she??? If' she's still in high school, no wonder the parents have an issue with this!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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how long does a break have to be? Posted: 8/19/2007 10:30:55 AM
If you are only on a "break" with your gf, why on earth do you have a profile on here since last October that says you are looking for a woman for dating? It sounds like you are being dishonest with her from the beginning. Maybe you need more than a break from her.

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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so confused! Help! Posted: 8/2/2007 9:17:17 PM
If I was the OP I would run as far and as fast as possible! Just the fact that he was a dishonest as he was would have been enough for me to be gone, but the rest of it is just plain nasty. Especially since you are pregnant. You do not need the additional stress that this boy...and I do mean BOY... is adding to your life! This is a really tough time for you to deal with anything this major because your feelings are probably a little bit exagerated because of your hormones. You will always feel some connection to him because he donated the sperm that created your baby, but don't mistake a sperm donor for a daddy and bf! You have to think about 2 people now, not just one. If he causes you this much stress now, it's only going to get worse! I would not see him, not accept his calls, not IM, not text, and not email him...and especially not name him on the birth certificate. He is not worth your tears!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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Help a fellow out Posted: 9/25/2006 10:49:37 PM
The looking for an activity partner will scare off a lot of women. Especially if they don't bother to read the rest of your profile. Changing it to friends or even dating would probably be better. Also, you might want to spell out the word "you" rather than just typing "u." That works great for text messages, but not so good in telling people about yourself. Good luck! Nicki PS I thought the very last picture you had posted was the best one in there! Maybe you should think about making that one your default.

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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the answer is 42 Posted: 3/9/2006 6:41:56 PM
And I was just thinking, So long, and thanks for all the fish!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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Kids... on purpose or bullshit? Posted: 3/2/2006 4:14:01 PM
You know, it could very well have been on purpose that these women didn't mention it. A friend of mine was a single mother and she had a hell of a time getting dates cuz no one wanted the responsiblity of it! I totally understand the OPs point and think that it's great that he knows what he wants and has the fore sight to try and avoid a potentially painful situtation for all. But, if the ONLY reason that you don't want to get involved with someone with kids is because you may be moving, stick that in the profile! State right out that you may be leaving the area after you finish your schooling. And on the subject of people on dating sites lieing about kids, I met someone on a different dating site and it stated in his profile "No kids" but wants them someday. Well, we got exclusive and were together for about 4 months when I here him on the phone with a friend of his TALKING ABOUT HIS KID IN TEXAS!!!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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tell the truth...thats what they say Posted: 2/24/2006 7:51:59 PM
No, we're not all crazy! Don't take this the wrong way, but you don't have an overly professional appearance. I don't mean this as a negative at all, but sometimes that can attract the crazy girls! You just maybe need to say it in a little nicer way, if you like your tires! I want to hear the truth. I mean, come on, I dated a guy for 5 months that thought telling me I had Flintstone feet was ok! Honesty hurts sometimes.

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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Would you marry a porn star? Posted: 1/2/2006 2:43:53 PM
Sure, why not? As long as they are not dishonest about what they do and have enough left over at the end of a work day to keep me happy!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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Inconsistent stories... concerned Posted: 12/29/2005 2:43:59 PM
Actually, with the new HIPPA crap, there are times when the hospital can't even give out a room number! My aunt volunteers at the info desk our local hospital and the way the new laws read, giving the room number out is considered a violation of HIPPA because it confirms that the person is in the hospital! I actually had to call my mom on her cell phone to find out what room number my uncle was in when I wanted to visit him!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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Is it just me? Posted: 12/29/2005 2:31:19 PM
OK, so I just turned 30 last month and all of a sudden, it seems like 90% of the people who are sending me mail are over 50! What's up with that? Does 30 make me over the hill? And why would guys who don't want kids email me when it specifically says I want kids in my profile? Will someone please enlighten me?

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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Scary Experience Posted: 12/16/2005 6:32:15 PM
I was on another dating site, a pay one even. I had been using the mail through the system and then we exchanged personal email addresses, since he didn't have yahoo messenger. Well, after emailing for a while, one day out of the blue, he calls me! I had never given him my phone number! Totally freaked me out. I forgot that my last name appears when I send email from Outlook and we had talked about where we live, so he called information and got my phone number. Thankfully, when I told him I thought that was creepy, stalker behaivior, he did leave me alone. And the poster that made the comment about "guys in the bars" being no safer than the ones on-line, so right! I was suprised by someone showing up at my house one night that I barely knew just because he knew where it was. Some people are just whacked! In case the OP didn't know, you can actually remove your name from anyone's favorites list that you want. Just pull up the list of people who have you on their list and click the remove button! Was very handy with my semi- stalker on this site! I hope the rest of your online experiences go better than this one!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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webcam behavior Posted: 12/8/2005 4:24:37 PM
Well, a friend of mine had a similar problem. She caught her man several times masturbating while looking at porn on the internet.....now I'm assuming here that he is not just innocently watching people type...For her, the biggest part of the problem was that he was not being intimate with her and hadn't been for several months. He was acutally suffering from depression and was questioning their relationship. I think that you should sit down and talk with him about why he's doing it! Has there recently been a major change in your relationship, his job, your job, money, family......something like that! Are getting any lovin from him, or is it all going on the webcam? And maybe, just maybe, he doesn't realize just how badly this is hurting you! Talk to him and see what he has to say about why he's on there! And, if it's just for fun, maybe you should think about joining him...or doing an intervention!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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Is It OK for Hot Chicks to Fart? Posted: 9/20/2005 7:31:54 PM
Well, fluffing is a politically correct term for something, but it sure isn't farting! Fluffing is a little more XXX rated than that!

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing Posted: 5/30/2005 4:24:21 PM
I think I may actually have found the source of my problem! I'm pretty sure that I have a virus, but my stupid Norton antivirus won't remove it. Uuhh! I'm going to try that AVG program and see if I can get rid of it that way. I do have a question about that, though. Is there a way to set that to scan my computer right when it boots up, before it starts running most of the programs? I keep getting "access to file denied" when Norton tries to remove it.

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing Posted: 5/27/2005 1:35:47 PM
Wow, I didn't even know I could run those programs in safe mode! I tried that and it doesn't seem to help! Maybe I need to find a new browser.

saintpetergirl

Joined: 5/22/2005

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IMPORTANT --> Spyware - Popups, Homepage Changing Posted: 5/26/2005 12:00:17 PM
Ok, I took some advice from this forum and downloaded MS antispyware. Almost everytime I enter this website, it keeps popping up and telling me that IE plug in spyware is trying to install itself to my computer! Any advice? And I'm not quite a computer idiot, but I'm not an expert either, so please keep it simple! Thanks.

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