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 Author Thread: should i wait?
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 71 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 7/1/2008 6:26:01 PM
No, we are not waiting for her to die. She first of all is not his wife, they never got married and have not lived together the whole time except for maybe the last 9 months and thats because she had no where else to go. She is supposed to be moving soon as far as her health is concerned, she was saying she didnt want to go through the things she needs to to get better but now she is so thats y the doctors had said if she didnt she could die. And as far as getting what i deserve, u know i know that i am a good person over all to everyone and maybe haven't made the right choices sometimes but i know what i've been through in my life and hopefully do get what i deserve. I'm just tired of always putting everyone else first and this time i want to get what i want and it so happens to be this man. anyone else can say they wouldnt do this or that but until someone is in that situation, cant really say what they would or wouldnt do. im just a little more honest than most people i guess.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 67 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 6/30/2008 11:14:36 AM
no she didnt die. She still lives with him but she tells him to hang in there with her for just a little bit longer. I know it seems like i'm a horrible person and i understand where people are coming from. i also used to say i would never put myself in such a situation but sometimes things happen. Believe me its not all great, i go through alot with this man being with her. Its like he was already unhappy and out of love with her but this happened. How can u leave someone when they need u? We have even both tried walking away but are miserable without each other. As far as i know I dont think he ever cheated before me. (but who knows for sure?) I don't wish this on anyone one its a very difficult situation and theres alot of heartache on all parts.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 64 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 6/29/2008 8:29:07 PM
********UPDATE*************

Just in case anyone wondered what ever happened. well lets see, everything seems to be going ok. We are still together and i would say we're happy. I mean everyone has issues in their relationships and we are just dealing with whatever comes our way. We're actually become very good friends and i gotta say have never been this close with anyone in my whole life. Thanks for ur interest and good luck to all u who read this!
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Tricks on avoiding the marrieds
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:32:51 PM
THE BEST WAY IS TO TELL THEM "IT'S COOL IF U ARE SEEING SOMEONE OR MARRIED I JUST WANT TO KNOW SO THAT I CAN WATCH MY BACK" THEY USUALLY DO TELL. THEN U SAY OK THANK YOU GOODBYE!
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 62 (view)
 
How do you get over someone
Posted: 3/28/2008 7:14:38 AM
The best way is to keep busy and everytime your mind starts to wander, just rememeber the bad stuff(at least until you get over her), everytime you want to start thinking about the good stuff, dont allow it just quickly think of somethin else.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 115 (view)
 
how to say i love you without actually saying it
Posted: 3/26/2008 7:51:41 AM
Geneseo, that was funny!
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 7 (view)
 
A kiss...What can you tell from a kiss?
Posted: 3/25/2008 7:51:40 PM
A kiss is very important. when i met my boyfriend i swear we only knew each other a few minutes and felt some sort of magnet pull us together and kiss. we knew we shouldnt have since we hardly knew each other but the chemistry was so right and he was the best kisser i ever had. we've been seeing each other for 8 months now. had it been a bad kiss, i dont think i wouldve continued.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 55 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 3/12/2008 12:45:04 PM
no i dont need any more attention. i was being sincere, i mean of course in the end i'm guna do what i want to do but i like hearing different opinions and a lot of what was said makes sense. thats all.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 52 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 3/11/2008 8:35:38 PM
just wanted to thank everyone for their harsh words and common sense.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
A problem with me drinking...
Posted: 3/11/2008 10:26:22 AM
Do you think your drinking is a problem? You have to really think about the reason you drink so much. ya its fun to party with friends but is there more to it than that? What are his real reasons that he doesnt want you to drink? Then when he answers that think about it and ask yourself if it makes sense or is he just being "drama" and maybe afraid u will do somethin like cheat on him when your drinking.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 105 (view)
 
Dating Musicians??????
Posted: 2/29/2008 7:28:37 AM
It used to be a major turn off to know someone was a musician. I met a guy during a break one time and didnt know he was in the band and i thought he was cute but once i saw him go on stage and play i thought oh no! he's in the band! but as I started to get to know him he was great and a really nice guy. So I believe that everyone needs to take a chance and get to know someone before they judge them.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 1749 (view)
 
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 2/16/2008 6:38:51 PM
yes! not once but twice. well the first one was ok. there just wasnt a spark between us we had been talking on the phone for about a month. anyway he turned out to be just a friend.

the second one, he described himself to me on the phone and i thought yea right whatever! when he picked me up at a friends house, he got off the car i was shocked. he was really hot! damn nice body, good teeth, good complexion, tall and well dressed and a good job. well anyway we went out to dinner and went back to his place and i had been feeling a little sick and he kept telling me on the phone he would take care of me. he did, make me fell comfortable had bought me some medicine and we just relaxed and watched a movie he had rented. nice! too bad at that time i wasnt ready for a boyfriend which is what he wanted and still to this day emails me from time to time.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Should I forgive him?
Posted: 2/16/2008 4:13:31 PM
did he do anything at all special for u on valentines or any of these holidays. its not about buying something its about showing someone u love them. so if he did, then dont worry about it but if it was just like any other day, u need to find someone else that will appreciate u and will show u they do.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Just the phone so far...
Posted: 2/14/2008 11:47:51 PM
next time u talk to him just mention somewhere in the conversation that when u make plans u need a little notice because of the kids and see if he asks u out for maybe the next day or something. that way ur not being pushy but letting him know.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 49 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 2/13/2008 7:41:45 PM
yes i did ask for advice and appreciate everyones responses.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 212 (view)
 
Best songs for strength and for mourning/pain
Posted: 2/11/2008 10:55:12 PM
perfect song for cd 2. i ****ing hate you by godsmack.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 56 (view)
 
Opinions please
Posted: 2/11/2008 10:07:17 PM
in my opinion, i think that once a couple has split up it should stay that way. there was a reason for the break up and they need to remember what that reason was.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Is it really THAT strange??
Posted: 2/11/2008 10:00:49 PM
yes i think its strange but im kinda in the same situation except that my ex husband cheated on me with this girl. he's still with her and she does call me(btw i do not talk to my ex at all) she talks to me about everything but i pretty much just listen. there are certain things about her that do remind me of me also. but i figure as long as shes good to my kids everythings ok. thats the most important part.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 37 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 2/11/2008 6:07:57 PM
Just one more thing, I do know how it feels. My husband of 13 years was cheating on me for years and i never knew it. So I do feel bad because I know how it is but at the same time as soon as I found out I left him. So its not like I knew she was dying when I met this guy I even stopped contact with him for a while but we started talking again and we have a really strong connection. The reason he never left her was because she depends on him and he didnt want to be an ass but hes not happy with her. now that shes sick he feels obligated to be there which i totally understand but it doesnt change my feelings.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 122 (view)
 
Public Affection.. Hrm? Opinions on it?
Posted: 2/11/2008 1:47:53 PM
I gotta admit that I'm not used to being affectionate in public. I was with my ex husband for 13 years and it never bothered me i guess we both were like that. So when i started dating again and someone was affectionate would really make me uncomfortable. But now I'm with someone i really care for and he is very affectionate, always kissing my cheek, holding my hand, really nice in a sweet way. I didn't know what I was missing!
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 16 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 2/8/2008 3:05:11 PM
ok, let me add she has kidney failure thats why shes dying. shes been in the hospital for about a week and the reason i dont doubt that hes lying about it is because he has been spending alot more time with me and calls me from home when of course he couldnt do that with her at home. he says she did try to break up with him because she doesnt want to be a burden to him. he said he does care for her because shes done alot for him but he's not in love with her anymore and he had never left because he felt obligated to her because she depends on him. they have no kids together by the way. just thought i'd clear that up.
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
should i wait?
Posted: 2/8/2008 8:06:42 AM
i met a man 7 months ago who was upfront with me and told me he had a girlfriend but they were "on and off". so we started talking and becoming close. we never slept together but do really care about each other. of course like many men, he says he's gonna leave her for good. he's been with her for 12 years and shes 20 years older than he is. we are only 2 years apart by the way. just as it seems he's really close to leaving her, she got really sick and ends up in the hospital. they tell him she's dying. of course he feels guilty and i asked him if he wanted me to give him time to just focus on her and i'll be ok since she needs him right now. he doesnt want to take a chance losing me so doesnt want to stop seeing me. should i wait or walk away?
 21spursfan
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
saying god-bye to the one you love
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:02:50 AM
ok its real easy. looks like she was in it for fun at first but did start having feelings she wasnt READY for. thats y she said goodbye. she was just scared and that sucks. no one likes to get hurt but its all about takin chances. bottom line. she just wasnt ready for love.
 
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