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1sweetsarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 28 (view)

Can anyone advise on this? Posted: 11/24/2009 5:01:06 PM
Was it good sex? lol Seriously there are so many things that could have been the cause of his disappearance...he could have had a date with another girl he liked better, maybe you just weren't what he was looking for and he didn't have the balls to say so, maybe he's just a player and wanted some a$$. Maybe he's gay, married, etc etc so many possibilities. Chalk it up to bad judgment on your part and good luck on your next date :)

1sweetsarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 68 (view)

Are there women/men who wait as long as 6 mos. before sex? Posted: 11/24/2009 4:54:29 PM
I try not to judge, everyone has their own rules and ways of doing things...mine are MUCH different than most people's but I don't think that makes me a bad person. In fact I've done the waiting and I've done the first date thing. My first bf and I waited 7 months before we lost our virginities to eachother...then a few years later when my now hubby and I started dating, we decided to wait till we got married. We dated from April to September, got engaged and got married in February, so I guess it was a 10 month wait :P Now..well, things are a little different lol but really, I think to each their own :)

1sweetsarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 69 (view)

Success, then utter disgusting failure Posted: 11/24/2009 4:39:54 PM
I was in TEARS reading this I was laughing so hard! haha! You have to be making this up..I mean, really...what would a woman have to do to get you to dump her? She's already shit on your bed!! Maybe if she took a dump in your car you'd get rid of her? lol. IF this is a real scenerio (and I hope to god it isn't) then seriously, this girl has MAJOR ISSUES and you need to move on. No one is hot enough to put up with SHIT in your BED.

1sweetsarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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At What Point To Tell You About My Job? Posted: 7/9/2008 9:52:11 AM
Well, are you interested in men who would judge you by your chosen job? Probably not...so don't worry about it. If they react negatively, obviously they aren't the kind of man you would want. My guess is, the kind of man you want is one that would be turned on by the fact that he gets your sexy voice in real life, rather than over the phone lines ;)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 71 (view)

why dont most men keep it trimmed ?? Posted: 6/11/2008 10:04:46 AM
Trimming is essential. I have actually turned a guy away for not being trimmed, I just will not do it. Of course I'm a swinger so I have other options for guys, but for me it's just a given. I don't expect a guy to want to go down on me if I'm a bush, why should I give it to him? It's common courtesy.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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do some guys really like a really big AZZ? Posted: 6/9/2008 8:45:35 AM
I know guys who like some nice booty ;)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 72 (view)

Food as a first date.......why ? Posted: 6/7/2008 9:48:45 AM
Eating on a first date is a great idea because: 1.You have a chance to see if the person ur with has any manners 2.You learn if they're cheap, like if they complain about prices or leave a little or no tip. 3.It's a public place, which is non-threatening if either party is feeling even a tad bit vulnerable. 4.It's easy to part ways from a restaurant if it's just not clicking. 5.Food is good. I could probably come up with more ideas, but those are a few off the top of my head.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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When should I stop trying to message someone? Posted: 6/7/2008 9:45:39 AM
Yeah, don't keep pushing or u seem desperate.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 556 (view)

I caught a women I've been sleeping with inserting my used condom inside her Posted: 6/6/2008 1:50:45 PM
yeah..that's a little scary. I mean, MAYBE she just wants a baby, and doesn't care to go after support at all...not that it makes her any less odd, but yeah, now that you know she wants a baby and doesn't care how she's gonna have it, STAY AWAY. Scary.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Used condoms in the trash - believe she's not cheating? Posted: 6/6/2008 12:05:44 PM
I use a condom on my dildo. Yes it saves me having to clean it...but more importantly, I'm prone to yeast infections, and since it's battery-operated I can't put it in the dishwasher, and it's hard to get the whole thing really clean...so it's the easiest way. As far as whether or not she cheated, I guess that's something you'll have to determine...obv if the condoms are tied up or have semen in them, it's a no brainer.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

Do you have long nails? Posted: 2/9/2008 9:45:31 AM
Nope, I'm a dog groomer and there's no sense in even trying to keep decent looking nails.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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How many women would get married again Posted: 1/15/2008 1:45:43 PM
I'm not sure I could get married again. I don't think there's a man out there who treats me as well as my husband does...anyone else would be a major disappointment.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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ladies and no pics. Posted: 1/15/2008 1:44:17 PM
I don't post a pic because I'm a swinger...and the whole world doesn't need to know who I am. I will give pics if someone asks me :)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 35 (view)

Full Body Shaving...shave it all off Posted: 1/15/2008 1:41:02 PM
There's nothing wrong with a little "man-scaping" but don't shave it all and start oiling up...that's just trying too hard :P lol. A little trim is good though, just so you're not like a gorilla...and PLEASE, men, if you have back hair...get it WAXED because yes, it is nasty. There may be a few women out there who are into the "bigfoot" look, but the majority AREN'T.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Is sexiness about the attitude? Posted: 1/14/2008 2:38:36 PM
It's ALLLLLL about the attitude for sure :) I'm a large girl too, but I have NO trouble with the boys ;) Accentuate what should be accentuated, walk the walk, and dress to impress, and you'll have more men wanting u than u can shake a stick at :) Oh and you do have a beautiful smile ;)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

what should i bring on a first date? Posted: 1/14/2008 2:28:20 PM
Bring your manners...and the dessert suggestion was a good one :)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Why is humor the #1 thing girls look for?? Posted: 1/14/2008 2:26:47 PM
because even when a man is old and ugly...if he can still make me laugh, I'll keep him around.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

Do you really think that it's that important for me to smile Posted: 1/14/2008 8:53:38 AM
I wanna see if you have nasty teeth or not...that's why smiling is important to me. If a dude has nasty teeth, it's an automatic HELL NO in my books.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 37 (view)

Curves vs confidence Posted: 1/14/2008 8:52:41 AM
IMO a man that can be confident without being arrogant is SEXY. Size, shape, really doesnt' matter that much.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Swinger terminology? Posted: 1/14/2008 8:50:37 AM
I'm a swinger, and I have NO idea.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 46 (view)

Vagina Size Posted: 1/14/2008 8:47:13 AM
Sure lets discriminate...in fact, if someone has a mole in the wrong place, lets discriminate against that too, oh and a BIRTHMARK, eghads, lets discriminate someone for that too...nose is a bit too big, yup, discriminate...have an innie, not an outie? Let's discriminate... DO you get my point? EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT...big, small, black, white, and any and all combinations...does that make anyone wrong? I'm a swinger and I've been with big**, small, and every size in between**, and you know what? The size has NOTHING to do with how good of a lover they are or their ability to please my sexual desires...I've been called "tight" by some and "not so tight" by others (yes I've had 2 kids...) but did the men I was with leave happy?...ALWAYS. Get over yourself OP.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 47 (view)

just by looking at someone-she /he is not my type Posted: 1/10/2008 11:04:06 AM
Sometimes I can tell right away...I'm not into guys who can't form a proper sentence, who look like a member of a gang, or who show up to a "date" wearing dirty clothing...to name a few.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 39 (view)

Another question for the moms... Posted: 1/10/2008 10:45:38 AM
I'm a stay at home mom and I can relate a lot with how your wife feels. Being home with the kids all the time SUCKS...but it's her reality and she needs to learn to deal/cope with it. It sounds like she may need to be on antidepressants...the sleep problems in particular are signs that she may need some meds. I know because I've been there, and what you're saying sounds exactly like how our marriage was before I got help. Your wife feels like a prisoner. I know because that's how I feel sometimes. She wants to go out, but yet she wants to relax..but she can't relax because she is frustrated...it's a vicious circle. I understand that you feel at the end of your rope, and for good reason..but seriously talk to her about her mental state, and suggest that she get evaluated for depression. Once she's on meds and they kick in, life will be easier for everyone...believe me. I know it's not easy, but she really needs your support. If you want to spend some time with just the kids, try taking the kids out, just you and them...or suggest SHE go out..to the library, coffee shop..anything, just OUT and away, for her own mental state. It helped me immensely. Thankfully my husband is the most amazing man in the world, and he continues to be understanding. Meds helped me to cope and deal with every day pressures, and I KNOW that going on them helped save not only my marriage, but quite possibly my life.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 40 (view)

waiting untill marriage Posted: 1/6/2008 7:36:58 PM
My husband waited till we were married...I hadn't. It was a personal choice on his part..on both our parts, and it worked out for us. I don't regret not waiting, it's all a matter of perspective I guess.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO DOES NOT DO ORAL? Posted: 12/12/2007 2:14:21 PM
I love to give and receive oral. IMO, it's as good or better than the actual penetration. That is, when a man is good at it. ALSO, I LOVE to give a bj, and I guess I'm just not so prudish to worry about the fact that urine also comes out of it :P Whatever, it's sex, an exchange of MANY bodily fluids, big deal.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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When you are approached by someone in a wheelchair? Posted: 12/12/2007 2:00:48 PM
Well, recently I met someone in a wheel chair, I did some work for him (I have my own business)...he was hot too lol. What went thru my head was "he's hot". He was also super polite, friendly, and outgoing. I think he'd be a lot of fun.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Safe sex or not? Posted: 12/12/2007 8:30:52 AM
I'm a swinger, and I ALWAYS use condoms. Always. If you do decide to go ahead and try the group thing, just insist on condoms...and if anyone argues, kick them out. Respect is the MOST important part of swinging, and if you're made to feel uncomfortable, it's not worth it and it won't be a good experience for you.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 42 (view)

Curvy Vs Slim Posted: 12/12/2007 8:25:11 AM
Being a bi-woman, and a bbw at that, I LOVE curves...and I LOVE to feel soft skin. I love women that are "fat" like me :) I've never been attracted to skinny girls, and I find that pudgy girls are a lot more secure about themselves and are much less judgmental about everyone else. Same with men who aren't obsessed with going to the gym...they have a more openminded approach and care more about what the person as a whole and not just the body they're wrapped in. Of course this is a general observation, and there are exceptions...however, I'm fine with not being thin, because there are plenty of awesome, sexy, nice guys who like a FAT girl like me To each their own :)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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sexy clothes? Posted: 12/10/2007 11:17:49 AM
I think a man is sexiest when he's wearing a nice button up or collared shirt and a good fitting pair of dark blue or black jeans, and a nice clean pair of shoes. Oh and a nice jacket over top of the shirt is nice too. mmm and cologne, but not too much.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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If a guy really loved you!!!!! Posted: 12/10/2007 11:15:20 AM
I like porn, and I'm a woman. I like watching it, it gets me off. I don't have a problem with my husband watching porn at all. I probably watch it more than him, and sometimes for me it's just a release...it has nothing to do with me loving him less, in fact perhaps the opposite. Porn has nothing to do with the love the he has for u.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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A question of etiquet Posted: 12/10/2007 10:50:01 AM
It means you can ask her something NON-vulgar like: -Do you have any children? -Do you like pets? -What's your favourite TV show? -What do you do for fun? -What do you do for work? -Have you travelled? where? -Do you like to play any sports? -Are you originally from (insert name of city here)? -Do you have any hobbies? -What's your favourite food? etc, etc, etc...

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

women are natural sex experts? Posted: 12/10/2007 10:29:30 AM
I think it totally depends on the person. Some people naturally search for knowledge, while others just figure what they do is good enough. As well, some people are very selfish and are only concerned with their own pleasure and don't care about what they can do to please their partner. Some people are open to ideas and are great at being taught what to do.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Are women too Uptight . . ??? Posted: 12/9/2007 11:17:27 AM
Yes ALLLLL women are completely uptight because we don't want to talk about the size of our breasts or set up a time to "get it on" in the first 5 minutes of a conversation... MAYBE if you were a gentleman and talked to women with the respect and dignity we deserve, you would get a little further in this dating world...

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Why don't you like to provide oral sex? Posted: 12/9/2007 11:02:44 AM
I love to both give and receive :) I love the feeling of a smooth hard penis filling my mouth...and I love the look of sheer bliss on my partner's face when he's enjoying the feeling I'm giving him...and for the men I'm with, I expect them to feel the same way about giving me oral. In my experience, most do. I have come across a few guys that don't like to give it, or at least don't seem to, but I'm not sure if that's because they really don't like it OR they just aren't experienced enough to feel confident that they're doing it "right".

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Masturbation in public places? Posted: 12/8/2007 8:45:59 PM
The most "public" place I masturbated was in the passenger seat while my hubby was driving on the freeway...I got off and he could only partly pay attention... He was goin crazy by the time we got home ;) Lol, as for on a Jet...if u were jerkin it beside ME, I'd damn well know. That's freaky, and those seats are sooo damn small and close together...icky. I have to know though...what'd u do with the cum?

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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What's in a kiss? Posted: 12/8/2007 8:09:37 AM
As an old Chinese Proverb says: "A kiss is like drinking salted water. You drink, and your thirst increases."

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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The Aesthetics of the Penis Posted: 12/7/2007 2:56:47 PM
I've seen a few really nice looking penises...or is it Penii? Anyway, one guy in particular had one sooo smooth, I even complimented him on it...and it was very straight and really, just a nice looking**** Then I met this one guy...his was HOOKED DOWNWARD. Not left, or right, or even up, but downward, on an almost 90 degree angle....I didn't try it, don't know how it would have worked...just the physics of it are mind boggling....but I have to say that was the ODDEST looking penis I've ever seen.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Used to love anal when we first got together.... Posted: 12/6/2007 9:20:43 AM
I agree with the others that say it's more of an occasional activity. However, another reason she may not as keen on it anymore is because now she has you...she could have been "tolerating" the anal early on to intice you into a relationship, and now that she has you, she feels that it's not something that she enjoys that much, and does it occasionally to keep you happy. Be glad she lets u at all.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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An ounce of prevention.... Posted: 12/6/2007 9:17:40 AM
I'm a swinger so I do have protected sex with multiple partners...but I'm not so naive to think that condoms provide 100% protection, so I get tested a couple to a few times a year, just for my own piece of mind. And, it's completely anonymous and free here in Ontario, so why not?

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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To pierce or not to pierce that is the question Posted: 12/6/2007 9:14:42 AM
Sure, go for it. The piercing you can always remove if you decide you dont like it...the Tat, well just make sure it's something that you can live with for the rest of your life, and don't get it anywhere tooooo visible, at least not for your first one. Then if you decide you really like the first one you can alwyas get a 2nd in a more visible place if you wish. Your body is your canvas, may as well decorate it lol. Have fun. And, tattoos hurt like heII.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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are you kinky or not? Posted: 12/6/2007 9:10:23 AM
Yup, I'm kinky...not gonna go into details...but I have likely been seen doing the "deed" on numerous occasions :)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Are you more open minded or narrow minded when it comes to dating? Posted: 12/6/2007 9:09:05 AM
I am very openminded. I mean, everyone has their limitations, but compared to the majority of the population, I think I'm pretty open to most situations.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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C'mon baby, will u let me and 5 other men f@ck you? Posted: 12/6/2007 6:48:42 AM
I agree if he keeps pushing the idea, then he's being disrespectful, and I don't have tolerance for that. As far as a gang bang...Well my hubby and I are swingers, and I've been lucky enough to entertain a few gentlemen at once and it was a LOT of fun :) They were all very respectful, nice guys, and I'll do it again when the opportunity presents itself. If people lose respect for me because I'm not too self conscious to explore my fantasies...then so be it, but I know I'll only live once, and I'm going to continue to explore my sexual fantasies for as long as I am able And yes, condoms are ALWAYS used when I have sex with men other than my husband, and I undergo regular testing, just in case

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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FWB relationship- Exchanging Gifts?? Posted: 12/5/2007 4:24:16 PM
A gift card is a good idea. What kinds of stuff does he like? You could get him some kind of accessory for his car or something...

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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any ideas to make a day date more special Posted: 12/5/2007 2:01:44 PM
I'd definitely give her flowers...if you know her fav colour, then get some in that colour. Even just ONE rose can be very sweet. When shopping, pay attention to what she looks at...what she seems interested in, the types of clothes, etc...then if this all ends up working out, you will get a good idea of her likes/dislikes when you go to buy her something :) Just be attentive, focus on her, and HAVE FUN :)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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First time; And What Does/Did Virginity Mean To You.. Sex Before Marriage: A Must Posted: 12/5/2007 11:39:05 AM
Sir_cheer, it's great that it works for you...but don't be so quick to judge others. For some sex isn't a moral issue as it is for you. That doesn't make either viewpoint wrong.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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have you ever messaged somebody below your league Posted: 12/5/2007 11:34:40 AM
This is a simple yes or no answer No, it's not a simple "yes or no" because these so called "leagues" are subjective. There is no set criteria stating that one person is "above" or "below" another...which is why I didn't give a yes or no answer. And no, I don't always read entire threads...I give my input to the question the OP posts.

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 56 (view)

Bed-time: When women wearing sex-clothes….. Posted: 12/5/2007 11:13:30 AM
IMO a woman sleeping nude is not sexy. a nude woman IMO is not sexy. a woman wearing revealing clothes IS sexy, a glimpse of stocking tops or top of tights IS sexy. 1SweetSarah personally speaking i dont find the nude body all that sexy...there has to be a little tease. Hmm, well we have LOTS of sex, so I guess his opinion is different lol. Besides, my sexy clothes and lingerie get worn A LOT..since we go to swinger events and such :)

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

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Foreskin Restoration Posted: 12/5/2007 10:59:55 AM
I'm a girl too...and my hubby is circumsized, and I'd never wish for him to have such a procedure. Not only would it inevitably be painful, but it'd be pretty pointless. What are your motivations for wanting to do this?

1SweetSarah

Joined: 11/6/2007

Msg: 44 (view)

have you ever messaged somebody below your league Posted: 12/5/2007 9:17:42 AM
League...hmm. I guess I don't think of people in those kinds of terms. I try not to be judgmental...and maybe that would help you in your search for a partner as well.

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