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EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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Specifications, or wish list ? Posted: 9/21/2007 4:50:49 PM
Thank you Str8ahd, that is exactly the kind of information I was seeking. If you feel like elaborating, I'd love to know what's special about that one characteristic that makes it a requirement.

EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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Specifications, or wish list ? Posted: 9/21/2007 8:20:19 AM
Thanks to everyone for their input. Amelodyforadrian and Digital Sinner, I was asking specifically about attributes which are described with numbers : how old, how tall, etc.. So in your case, Digital Sinner, do you have a well-defined cutoff for minimum IQ, or number of years of formal education ? Oriole, the phrasing of your desireables is unique in my experience, so I had to think about it a while, but I think the key word is 'probably'. That is, men who don't fit those criteria are not automatically excluded, but you do have a pretty concrete idea of who is your type. It may even be that there are no men to whom you have ever been attracted who do not meet those criteria, but you are not consciously screening out all others. Correct ?

EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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Specifications, or wish list ? Posted: 9/20/2007 11:40:02 PM
Sometimes profiles will list quantitative values (age, income, height) for what they seek in a partner. Are these more often absolute requirements, or things that would be desireable, but are probably negotiable if the overall package is good ? If it is a mix, which are the absolutes, and which are the bonuses ?

EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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Myers-Briggs Personality type...if you know it? Posted: 2/2/2007 10:47:14 PM
If you think that your Myers-Briggs personality type is relevant to your romantic aspirations, there is a dating site that matches members based partially on type. Since the people who run POF are (apparently) not in it for the money, and most serious seekers are on a few websites anyhow, I hope they won't mind the link : http://www.typetango.com/

EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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The art of Energy Manipulation Posted: 7/15/2006 10:18:40 PM
I just found this thread, and in an effort to appear no more ignorant than necessary when posting (we shall see how well I succeeded), I have read this all the way through -- a feat of concentration and willpower which I believe should earn me 1,000 mystic mountaintop monastic master points. I would have liked to have commented on many of the posts when they were current, but for now I will just confine myself to one question and one observation: First, why did the name of the thread change from 'UFC and Mix Martial Arts' to 'The art of Energy Manipulation', seemingly on July 12th ? Second, on 6/10/2005, saiyen 1 writes ....Judo matches are won by a three-second pinning of both shoulders after taking you opponent to the ground..... and on 7/2/2006 he writes ....sundays are judo day for me..... I must point out that the shortest period of time for which a contestant in a judo match can score any points with Osaekomi-waza is 10 seconds.... http://www.ijf.org/rule/rule_referee.php#Koka ....and there is no requirement to pin both shoulders. http://www.ijf.org/rule/rule_referee.php#Osaekomiwaza

EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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Willing to settle.... Posted: 7/15/2006 3:26:34 PM
I suppose that it's not surprising that most of the responses in a forum comprised mostly of single people would be against "settling". (That is, the kinds of people inclined to settle are already in relationships, and have a limitted interest in POF.) I guess it depends on exactly what you mean by settling, but I think that it's important to be prepared to make realistic compromises with your image of the ideal mate. Many of my happily married friends wound up with someone very different from what they thought they were looking for when they were single. My own perspective is that I am confident I would have been happier for the past 15 years spending them with someone who was nice, if not my ideal mate, than spending them in brief and infrequent realtionships in search of that ideal mate.

EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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is height a matter? Posted: 8/4/2005 11:56:06 PM
I just wanted to express my admiration and appreciation for the attitudes averred by mrslucci and sasssy. May you both derive great joy from this site.

EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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Restrictions,Demands and Wants in women profiles Posted: 6/18/2005 11:32:25 AM
You all can whine all you want if my needs don't match who you are--- but I like what I like and that's not going to change for YOUR sake. Amusingly enough, Cruel2BKind, while people may not change their specifications on the internet, it has been my experience that in the real world, they do. I know one woman who re-entered the dating scene with only 3 criteria: He must not be divorced, have children, or have a hairy back. She married a man who was all three. Perhaps the things that seem very important/unendurable at the keyboard turn out to less important in person. For myself, while I can imagine all sorts of things that would be desireable or undesireable in the abstract, if I were to meet a woman who seemed otherwise a very good match but did not line up with what I had previously believed was an important criterion, I would probably drop that criterion. The point being that it's usually the total package that makes or breaks the deal, and I think that's why some of us find the 'laundry-list approach' to mate requirements to be a little self-limiting. That's not to imply that people shouldn't have standards, or aren't entitled to their preferences, just that it's in most of our best interests to be a little bit flexible. You're probably going to have more fun on a date with someone who is not quite your ideal, than spending the night at home screening out "inadequate" profiles. Of course, that's just my perspective, and I'm not going to pretend to have the whole thing figured out -- else why am I still on a dating site ?

EarnestQuixote

Joined: 5/23/2005

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The ABC's Of The Ex BoyFriends.... Posted: 5/28/2005 10:47:42 AM
Before the slag-fest, and before the cookie hijacking, there was an interesting point raised in this thread which is very appropriate to discuss on a dating site : How much responsibility each partner should be assuming for birth control. Some of the initial outrage seemed to be generated by the idea (and let's leave aside for the moment the issue of whether it applies to the specific poster) that a woman might a) lie about using birth control b) choose to blame her ex for the consequences However, Wild Gypsy 73 warns us Oh and "men" if you are stupid enough to not use protection no matter what a girl says, you are just that, STUPID!!!! I would like solicit the opinions of this site's members on the question of whether it is reasonable to believe a woman when she tells you about what form of birth control she is using. I suppose the obvious idea would be that you shouldn't sleep with someone you don't trust, but a significant part of the reason that there is a heartbreak forum at all is that most of us have made bad decisions about that at some point, as love (and lust) cloud one's judgement. What say you ?

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