The bottom line is that cats that roam outside die younger than those that live inside. After losing several cats I decided to keep all future ones inside. They have all had much longer lives.

I see strong opinions on both sides of the coin.

would guess that this scenario happens more often in bad made-for-tv movies than in real life. Give us some credit. The person you are describing, is not a friend and the majority of us would be smart enough to see through that behaviour right away.

who have enough ethics and self-respect that they aren't inclined to fool around just because it's offered. :)

But I'm curious - if the friend was a woman who had a tendency to try to monopolize your attention away from the woman you were actually interested in, would you also leave the pair of them in the dust?

but neither are they going to give up long-standing friends to satisfy someone's insecurity.

And why is it that some people think bringing out the boogieman of perpetual singlness bolsters their argument in any way?

Weak people don't care if their so s are dating other people or grinding up on them because they feel like they need to settle for disrespect because they don't have enough confidence to risk losing something that they think they don't deserve. " do whatever you want because I'm scared this is all I can get in life!"

A lot of us are mature and solid enough to draw our own boundaries.

I could sleep in bed with an OS and nothing would happen...

I was just reading an interpretation of Tony Robbins,

Do you think people could be "either/or"? do you think they just alternate from time to time, or as they go thru life?

I (and Hamilton) can easily disprove your anecdotal evidence with our own anecdotal evidence. If you expect me to believe that OS friends leads to problems in a huge percentage of cases, you will need to provide something more than personal experience

Even at that, for most people cheating is more complex than simply being provided with a proximate body of the preferred gender.

HUH?? EG calls 'em like he sees 'em-I'd certainly call that substantial?

Can one have a platonic friendship with the opposite sex?
In my opinion, speaking from my personal experience, yes one can.

they are merely saying that they refuse to cut their friends out of their lives.

did he ask first? because if he did then you and your friend must have been giving off strange vibes.

honesty in a relationship is great, but some things need to stay in our past.

That's wrong. What's funny is I bet if the boyfriend started hanging out with an ex she'd lose it

off topic just cause it came in to my head... "Where , oh where, are you tonight? Why did you leave me here all alone? I searched the world over and thought I found true love. You met another and phbbbtb, you were gone."

It will be interesting to hear if the standard doesn't suddently become "well, that's DIFFERENT" when it comes to a GUY keeping up a friendship with a former FwB.

why didnt you just say he was your best friend and not a former, fwb's.

and only close friends know about.

Get a full panel of tests immediately before and immediately after any kind of sexual relationship.

I have a new BF and I felt compelled to be honest with him that one of my best friends was a FWB.

When I find a BF though, we stop but then we pick up where we left off when we're both single

He said he can't stop me from seeing my friends, but I'm not sure if he's being honest. He is VERY easy going and not prone to jealousy

but damn, I don't want to ignore my best friend that I've known for years.

Men do not want to meet your ex's, fwbs and guy friends. Nor do they want to hang out with them.

As for cultivating new friends, I have no need. I'm old and my friends have been with me for over 15 years, seen me through thick and thin and will continue to do so. Anyone new in my life would be nothing more than an acquaintance.

So because you can't be friends with an ex without wanting to bed them, everyone must want to bed their ex???

You have just validated the point so many have been making. You can't be in a relationship with someone who has an ex as a friend because YOU can't be friends with an ex without wanting sex or them back.

I have always been open from the beginning that my best friend is a male and an ex.

I have always been open from the beginning that my best friend is a male and an ex. If they have a problem with that, they need to bow out from the get go. Seldom do they, thinking instead they can manipulate me into getting rid of my OS friend for the "sake of the relationship". It never works.

Try this...
Go to Google Images.... type in "Hiv in men"

HIV and HPV are not the same thing...

Not all forms of HPV result in genital warts, so your google images of severe cases are the exception

As a comparison, for men, it's not as bad as having cold sores (herpes simplex 1), because it's not a visible, irritating, thing. And herpes simplex 1 is ridiculously common as well (and barely indistinguishable from herpes simplex 2, just more common).

I've already got one that directs anybody that sees it to look at the USB stick I keep in my wallet.

Causes
The cause of cervical cancer is unknown. Factors that put some women at a higher risk of cervical cancer include:

--and I would like to see the source of that statistic.

At this stage, I think most couples would be interested in sex 4 or 5 times a week, and probably more

Well,there's a good story to feel doomed. :(

Ok, your turn..........Let's have a fun thread : )

A friend doesn't find it necessary to "test" another friend, especially in such a ridiculous and over the top manner.

but because even if he did it proves nothing about whether or not men and women can maintain a non-sexual relationship as just friends.

In any case, even heterosexual male and female friends have been known to have sexual relations with each other when certain conditions were met. Could be a one-off, could be a latent desire, could be curiousity about same gender sex, could be a need to feel physically close to someone.

My room-mate David and I have been platonic room-mates and friends for over five years now...it is a financial situation...we like to live the way we do, and it takes two to do so. From day one it was known there would be NO 'craziness' between us and that's how it's been and will continue to be...why complicate a very good thing with sex that would eventually ruin it?

Not really, no. Sleeping together is a mutual choice.

The common perception is that the woman decides

You are projecting your own beliefs and assumptions about personality, motives etc. on others you don't know.

I prefer to judge everyone I meet as an individual and on their own merits instead of generalizing and assuming I know all about someone based on one small piece of data such as "she was willing to sleep with me on a first date".

I suspect you may either be biased because of past experiences that have left you frustrated or angry or you are trying to impress others by putting forth some sort of moral high ground that you inhabit.

While that might be the case with a small number of people I think it is more the exception than the rule. Of the many first dates I've been on I think I've had sex three times. Guess I'm a man whore! Lol! And for the record, two of those led to relationships

And there also seems to be an assumption that if you sleep with someone on a first date you sleep with everyone on a first date?

or the classic well if she had sex with me on a first date no telling how many others shes done..

Perhaps the closest Mcdonald is 20 miles or they don't eat meat

see parents strapping toddlers into regular lap belts in the back of a car all the time...it is against the law

There is an old saying - "When life gives you lemons, make lemonade."

Please offer insights if this would be awkward or not for Pam to be contacted by me after what happened.

But then what - 6 dates and he is gone? Who cares what two consenting adults decide to do?

Who cares what two consenting adults decide to do

The probability is quite high that if the MAN is willing to have sex on the first day, he may have fuked and sucked a few hundred girls. But of course, this merely based on assumption.. correct?

Now 4 years after coming to terms with it all, I have issues with trust in putting my faith in others words. I find that this may be an issue for me in finding someone. So I ask, should I just throw caution to the wind and possibly subjugate myself to this hassle once more? Or would anyone say that my cautionary tactics are sound?

Do they expect their partners to wear matching underwear, lingerie, shave their nether region completely? LOL

I have questions for woman do you think we will not respect you really ?

The sex is a bonus for me do not expect but often wonder why not a little fun ?

Yesterday I told guy "no". He said " in that case u can leave". He literally thru me out of his house.

Now I'm going to put guys in three months hold or something. First they better develop some kind of committed exclusive relationship with me before sex.

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, But when he moved out of state he tells me to be patient with him. His words are perfect but his actions are totally different. I dont want to lose him out of my life but dont want to be used either!

you don't Need to tell your friends every girl you made out with. It will only affect him if you're going to start Dating her. If you get to the point where you may -- then Ask him. And of course, if he hates her and you & he are close friends, then don't even hook up with her.

I have been talking to a guy who was hurt very badly by his ex. I understand his being gunshy and he admits that he pushes me away, but we still talk all of the time.