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 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 4 (view)
 
long distance and one sided...
Posted: 11/2/2008 8:29:37 PM
I personally don't believe in long distance romances... JMO
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Potluck dinner in Cleveland area?
Posted: 11/2/2008 2:38:42 PM
How about it? I would have suggested my place, but it's rather small, and we have a huge problem in here with the parking. Any ideas? East side preferred, close to Lake county. I work every Saturday, so the only good days for me are Sunday (late afternoon), Monday, or Wednesday.

C'mon now, folks. I will roll up my sleeves and will actually do some cooking.. lol.

 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 11 (view)
 
How About a Group Dinner and maybe a Movie
Posted: 11/1/2008 7:08:49 AM
Can you all come over here to the Cleveland area?
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Things to do and NOT do on a date!
Posted: 10/31/2008 6:37:42 PM
Do NOT compare your date to your mother. (True story).
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Dating Setups:how many of you have had positive experiences?
Posted: 10/31/2008 6:33:06 PM
Absolutely not!!

Dating sites like this one are more than enough!!

No thanks!!!
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 208 (view)
 
Would you date a cop?
Posted: 10/31/2008 6:27:27 PM

Okay been talking to a girl for a while, she is 5, 4 cute little blonde girl. Had no pic up but sent me a few in private. She had legal written down in her profile. I assumed something to do with lawyer stuff. Then she surprised the hell out of me today and told me she is a police officer. I am always one for words, but kind of left me speechless, in no way would I have ever guessed that. We have plans this week to go out.

Would this change things for you, or would you date a cop? Expecially guy answers here.


I had a date with a (male, naturally) cop, this past Sunday. Will NEVER do it again, swear!!!

First, on his profile, he is handsome, athletic, muscular, and so forth. I went on picturing him in my mind (no pic on his profile). But in reality, he has a beer belly and a chin that is steadily on its way to become double. Weighs about 300# (my rough estimate), being 6 ft tall. BTW, a younger man. It's a shame for the younger folks to be overweight. He probably sits at the desk at work for most of the time... Just not my type.

On top of it all, him having to do with homicides and God knows what else in his line of work, he probably talked to me the way he interrogates his suspects at work. That coupled with a terrible spelling, from someone who claims to have a Bachelor's Degree. Oh well. Anyway, I didn't feel comfortable. I have nothing to hide, no problems with the law for goodness sake, but just couldn't relax. You know that feeling, when a cop drives behind you on the road, or in front of you, whatever... This is the kind of a feeling I had for the duration of the date. Horrible.

I will NEVER do it again. Ever.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 210 (view)
 
Dumped mid date!!
Posted: 10/31/2008 6:14:25 PM

A guy on here messaged me, he seemed ok although not particularly attractive. We chatted online, he complained that he was a "nice" guy and women wouldn't give him a chance. We met for drinks, I liked him ok. He called and asked me out to dinner for the next day. I met him there, halfway through dinner he saw a woman he was aquainted with. He was all ga-ga over her, practically drooling over her, touching her, etc. Meanwhile I was left at the table alone. I got up and left.

He emailed me and said she was just a "friend" and that I had embarrassed him. He said I had it all wrong. I called him a jerk and blocked him. Should I give him another chance, or did I do the right thing?


Violet, you did the right thing. Dump him and move on. He is a pig; you deserve better than that. If he had a nerve to pull this on a second date, imagine what he would do in a relationship. Keep up the good work, girl.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 116 (view)
 
When they say Self Employed what does it really mean
Posted: 10/30/2008 1:06:33 AM

Just a little curious when men state they are "self-employed"........my take on it is that they are unemployed or have a low paying job that they are embarrassed to say. The self employed statement just is a catch all for hiding the real truth.


I totally agree. To me, it means that they don't have a job to speak of. JMO
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 1258 (view)
 
can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers?
Posted: 10/30/2008 1:02:12 AM

Is this a big hassle for women? I guess there's the argument that it can enhance or detract from the relationship, but that can go either way. I guess I don't see it as a 'bad' thing...


NO FRIGGIN' WAY!!
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 316 (view)
 
Why are older women scared about dating younger men?
Posted: 10/30/2008 12:57:11 AM

Why are older women scared about dating younger men?


Whaaat? I thought it was the other way around.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 53 (view)
 
HELP...I smell bunny boiling!!
Posted: 10/29/2008 5:06:50 PM

If you truly like the guy other than his crazy phone habits I suggest asking him to chill on the phone calls and if he persists... cut him loose... good luck!


Absolutely. I was briefly seeing this guy who developed a habit of calling me a hundred times a day, every day. At first I let it slide, hoping that it would pass, but no such luck, so had to cut him loose.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 579 (view)
 
does anyone get as turned off with a smoker as i do?
Posted: 10/29/2008 5:03:21 PM
I wouldn't mine a guy smoking if he's a considerate one. That shows he's a gentleman and respects my feelings. Niceeeeeeeeeee
But is probably something next to a pink elephant. LOL
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 8 (view)
 
needs advice
Posted: 10/28/2008 1:32:49 AM

so i met a guy off here on sat , hes really nice, we have lots in common, and i think we hit it off pretty good, by the end of the night we ended up getting drunk together on whyte, i was waiting outside with him for my cab, and his ride was there already, now, his ride was a girl he met off this site the weekend before, he says that she was bar tending at her work which is on whyte and she offered him a ride, he says they are just friends and plan to board together, but im not to sure what to think of this,
like, why would he even be texting with this girl while hes on a date with me?
-kels


Kels, first of all, I don't understand why you have to get drunk on the first date, but this is just me. As for you, he's a game player, girl, which is precisely why he texted another girl while on a date with you. What was so nice about him? Beats me. As another poster noted, these types are a dime a dozen. You need to forget him and move on. If I were you and perchance he contacted me again, I would tell him straight out that he's a game player and I am not interested; and then, I would say "Have a nice day," while smiling sweetly and hang up. If he dares to call again, I would have told him to forget my phone number. This is just my 2 cents worth. Happy fishing.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 6 (view)
 
updating the looking for or I am profile info
Posted: 10/27/2008 5:49:40 PM
Mine's a little different. I am a "normal" divorced female. Okay? Now, when I created my profile initially, in that part at the bottom, I chose to be looking for "Long Term" only, but now that I want to include "Emails", I cannot do that. There is no link to change anything in that part. Any ideas?
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Wierdest online date EVER!
Posted: 10/26/2008 7:27:04 PM

Oh you missed a good opportunity. You should have had dinner with him and afterwards told him you had to get going and asked him nicely and seductively to walk you to your car. Where you would have given him a nice kiss good night and asked him to show you his c**k. When he whipped it out, you should have started laughing hysterically and drove away and never called him again.


That was a good one!!!
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 339 (view)
 
Rejected after the first date?
Posted: 10/26/2008 7:17:56 PM

I have felt the rejection as well- BUT I remember that EVERYTHING.. has a reason in the big picture of life. I look at it as THEY'RE the ones missing out (not being egotistical either) - I have also learned be careful what you pray /wish for- -- you may get what you want, but not wanting what you got!! Thousands of divorce attorneys are nodding their heads reading this and giggling I bet!


This is a good attitude. If something happens, then chances are, it was meant to be.
If on the other hand, it doesn't happen, then probably it wasn't meant to be, and this is better to find out sooner rather than later.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Things to do before that First Date
Posted: 10/26/2008 7:10:20 PM

But I still think meeting someone on here who looks like their photo is an urban legend...........


Whaaat? Are you trying to say I am not the only one like that? Geez, what a relief. I actually briefly met a guy with whom I didn't even make it to a coffee house, it all ended amicably in the parking lot. He looked like his own father compared to his picture, in which he looked good 20 yrs younger and cuter. In reality... OMG. His car looked better than him. A Pontiac G6 with 6 cyl, 3.5L, great big 17-inch wheels, jet black with a sunroof. Him... I guess a million miles and just as many wrinkles. Anyway, complete opposite from what I expected. A disappointment.
With this one, if we exchanged emails and phone calls, it all would boil down to meet in person, and would have been blown away with that one reality check. See, on the bright side, I didn't end up wasting much time.
Thanks for the ear.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Things to do before that First Date
Posted: 10/26/2008 7:03:34 PM

...proceed with caution! Stay in the middle ground with your feelings and expectations. Some people are very deceptive and not what they portray, and the ones who are most resistant to meet are often the ones with something to hide behind their computers about. Dont waste your time, this is a 'dating' site...not everyone is here for that purpose. Several are here for a whole assortment of purposes...lets just say, you cant always see the bottom because the pond is somewhat polluted!

Best Wishes,
Shay


Thanks, Shay. So... the moral is, fish carefully, and try not to catch the wrong fish from the polluted pond.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Things to do before that First Date
Posted: 10/26/2008 6:39:56 PM

He gave you his phone number, but in what context?

I'd rather talk on the phone than e-mail. E-mail is too sterile. There's no emotion. You can't hear the pitch and tone of the other person's voice when they're telling you about things. Smilies don't do it.

It doesn't matter if he thought you wanted to meet too soon. Everybody is going to have different time frames before they're comfortable meeting. Were YOU comfortable meeting that soon?

I'd rather meet sooner rather than later.

Putting off meeting is stupid. The point of this site is to meet people. So make a date to meet at a coffee shop or a restaurant or a mall. Somewhere public, where you both can feel safe. Meet, talk, enjoy yourself.

Take a chance -- It's just a date.


He gave me his phone number, without me asking for it. He did it on his own free will, so to speak, I am not sure in what context. Anyway, when I called him, we talked for a while, then there was a pause, during which I went ahead and asked him what he was doing on Sunday. The rest is history, at least for now.

Look, I don't care about this particular guy, I am rather trying to analyze the situation. This event took place on late Sunday afternoon, at a local Burger King, we chatted a while, then he stepped outside to talk on his cell with his sister, or so he said, whatever, and meanwhile I finished my iced tea, and there was nothing else to do, really. So when he comes back, I stand up and say, "Let's wrap it up." Chances are, he didn't take this well, hence his reaction. Don't you think? Some guys just aren't used to a woman being assertive.

On the bright side, I met a guy who looked like his photo, finally!! And had a glass of iced tea as opposed to indulging in an ice cream, therefore lost a couple of pounds, I hope.
My glass is still half full.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Things to do before that First Date
Posted: 10/26/2008 4:07:13 PM
I am fairly new on this site, so cut me a slack for asking the kind of a question that every member with some seniority on this site apparently already knows. When you have the first online contact with your prospective date, is it a proper etiquette, or a rule of sorts, to go on emailing each other for some extended period of time, before actually meeting? This is the feedback I've received today. When my date said that, I felt like I was acting reckless, careless, and whatnot, by meeting him shortly after the first online contact. He told me that I should have exchanged a few emails first, ask questions and learn about one another that way, before actually contemplating a date. Then why would he give me his phone number??

My opinion is (and still is ) that virtual communication has drawbacks vs. actually meeting in real life, and that the drawbacks outweigh the benefits. I think that it's easy to pretend certain things about yourself while typing away at your computer. Furthermore, when people pretend, they can even half believe in it at the time, although it's not true and they know it, and it will sure come up later, but still, they'd go for it. You follow me? My opinion is, that the best way to learn about one another is to meet in the real world.

What do you think?
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Are sigle women handy women?
Posted: 10/20/2008 8:14:39 PM
I am (somewhat) handy, can assemble a piece of furniture, actually assembled a bunk bed for my kids all by myself, by trial and error, and assembled the top bunk right on top of the lower so I wouldn't need to ask a favor lifting it; I painted two bedrooms, dragged phone wire from one room to another and installed a jack from which this computer is now running, and a handful of other projects. Oh and I organized some of my tools on a 48-inch pegboard with hooks, and hung up 2 48-inch shelves underneath it. I love being handy, have this tremendous feeling of accomplishment, and am awfully proud of myself.
In this country, things that we do, are not gender oriented; they are rather overlapping. For our own good.
Unfortunately, not all men are as handy, as I found out from my single career. Too bad.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Hopeless situation?
Posted: 10/19/2008 8:25:42 PM
Listen here, Confused. You need to move on, quickly. Hopefully you have learned something from this whole incident. Next time you meet a woman, don't waste your time on pointless phone talks about emotions, etc., that have left you heartbroken in the first place. You have to ask direct questions about her lifestyle, employment, and so forth. Don't be afraid to come across as materialistic, because you are not. You are just trying to protect yourself from trying and getting burned again. Forget about long distance romances, they don't work. You can just as easily find game players locally. I've been there, done that.

Besides, when you meet a local person, you can always look them up on the court websites, etc., do your own little investigation, it will pay off. If they tell you one thing, and it turns out to be something else, don't hesitate to end it. Your time is valuable, too; you can't afford wasting it on the liars. I talked to a guy who told me that he was divorced, well, it turned out that he didn't even file for a divorce. I never met him (of course!!)

Good luck, and take it easy now. You'll get there.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 137 (view)
 
Scams from women on dating sites
Posted: 10/7/2008 12:32:04 PM
I wonder if anyone met this woman. We posted on the same message boards on AOL, and that is how we became acquainted (online). She says that she's originally from Canada, a nurse but for some reason was unable to transfer her license to the States, so now she is something like a home care aide, in Florida. Her husband is 16 yrs her junior. lol. She told me her BD and I sent her a $10 gift card to Walmart. I wonder whether she expected more than that. She, in turn, sent me nothing for my BD, which I took a mental note of. Still, we continued IMs and emails. She referred to us as being sisters by Internet, and then she says that she was adopted anyway, and had no blood relatives. She tried to sign me up for some kind of activity for adopted in NY area, which I refused. She wanted to meet, and told me that she'll be in the area about 50 miles or so from my home, delivering some kind of a truck over to Florida, and wanted to stay over at my place, to which I replied that sorry I can't, I am busy with my work.
A while after that, she announced that she's getting divorced and moves to England to be with her bf. She gave me her new address and a phone number, and asked to ship her some graham crackers, as (according to her) there are no graham crackers in England. I did not. Hmmm...
And then, she stopped all emails. I wonder whether this was a scam. Her name is Heather.


 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 151 (view)
 
First Date Pet Peeves
Posted: 10/5/2008 6:02:06 AM

The pics she sent you were from the previous decade


Funny, I thought I was the only one this happened to. I met a man whose pic was cute but probably some good 15-20 yrs old. Comes reality check, and boom, he looks like his own father... wrinkles and all... an old you know who. Good we met in a parking lot, I hesitated to get out of the car for quite some time, and was tempted to just turn around and drive away, which I finally did. Beats me why guys do that. On the bright side, however, a lesson learned and a ride back and forth on a sunny afternoon. Hmmm...
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 437 (view)
 
for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor?
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:50:50 AM

YES,I can honestly say that money has nothing to do with it.My Ex made as much as 297K a year and I walked away with nothing,except my kids.


Ditto here.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 741 (view)
 
Reporting And deleting Main images
Posted: 9/23/2008 3:37:30 PM
What's the big deal about photos? They are not recent anyway. I just met a guy... not sure from POF, but it's all the same. He might as well be on POF just as well. Anyway, his pic looked cute, and then, I thought, some people look young for their age, and he looked like, wow. We were going to meet in a parking lot of some coffee house. I pulled in, and here he is, sitting in his Pontiac G6, but OMG. Compared to his pic, he looked almost like his own father. I hesitated to get out of my car, was tempted to turn around and leave, then decided to step out, just out of courtesy. He sensed it, pretended to be reading Giant Eagle flyer, and then informed me that he couldn't stay as he had to appear in a courthouse. Yea right. A good excuse. BTW, he was wearing one of those Harley Davidson t-shirts, but his profile did not mention anything about motorcycles. I am glad that this wasn't far from my home, so had a nice ride, that's all.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 740 (view)
 
Reporting And deleting Main images
Posted: 9/22/2008 8:18:03 PM
To The Moderator:

I had my picture deleted for no reason. It was the right size (396 by 317 pixels); it is now 400 by 350 pixels; is THAT enough? It clearly showed my face and nothing else. I am at a loss how this site works. Do you just delete pics as you please?

I need some instructions on how to try and upload my pic again. I want to give it another try. I looked all over the place; can't locate the button with "Upload Pic" on it. Any ideas?
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 739 (view)
 
Reporting And deleting Main images
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:56:54 PM

my pics disappeared, what happened , they have been up for a long time, my head shot was on my main pic and no nudity, whats up?


Same thing happened to me.... this place sucks.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 738 (view)
 
Reporting And deleting Main images
Posted: 9/22/2008 7:49:21 PM

I hate the idea ... It's a form of censorship! Just like the other commercial sites, I don't like my personal expression (Image or words) to be judged by the Gestapo profile police ... I've banned myself from using ANYTHING Yahoo and Match because of that reason because they policed my profile ...

Sure don't use other people's photos if you do, credit them! ... Don't put a singles ad online and use a photo of your daughter, or some random stranger or yourself 25 years ago to attract a younger male ... duh!!! Don't use a celebrity ... again DUHH! But if you create your image ... why not? I have many photos I like to use, some have been pulled, I'm pissed when it happens, why can't I show my talent without a face present?

How would anyone really know if we lied anyway unless it was a mainstream photo? If I don't want to post my face (for whatever reason) I should not be required to do so but If I want to show off my artistic ability I should be allowed to do so. And if people MUST see a photo just to speak to a person so be it ... MOVE ON (I don't wish to speak
to you anyway) ... Say Hi to me first ... I'll send a recent photo of me .... geesh ...

The whole idea is to make an ad attractive .... to attract a certain person whom may appreciate that image, your talent, your style ... YOU. But don't try to be someone whom you are not or may HAVE BEEN ... thats not the way to start any relationship.

Report Spammers and Fakes leave the REAL PEOPLE and their own images and words (whatever they may be) ALONE.

Maybe a check box to claim ... "Not my face"?
In the end it all comes down to what the site owner decides ... as it should be ...


I agree. My pic was deleted by the Admin for the reason that it does not show my face, according to them. Well, it DOES show it, but the problem is probably with the size of the pic (I think). I will remain pictureless for the time being.

Some other posters expressed their opinion that if a pic is not real, then the person must be lying. Well, he (or she) might be lying anyway. If they don't give you their home phone number, chances are they're attached, married or whatever, and are playing you. Then again, even if the pic meets all the guidelines, it could be someone else's pic, so what's the point.

If I ever win in a lottery, I will open my own dating website, and let everybody post whatever pic they wish. I think that it should be up to the poster what kind of a picture they want to, and if someone else doesn't like it, hey, move on to the next one. No big deal.

Why some people just loooove it to blow things out of proportion? Beats me.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 431 (view)
 
Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 9/22/2008 2:28:51 AM
I have to confess, I did the disappearing act on a guy whom I met here on POF. We emailed each other back and forth, then talked on the phone a few times. Some things about him bothered me, so I stopped calling. And now, after reading this thread, I decided to better myself. With that in mind, I sent him a message with the explanation as to my disappearance, was very specific, and finished it off with a "I hope you find what you're looking for" line, and then wished him good luck.
See, I was bad, but am getting better. Thanks to this thread.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 113 (view)
 
Women please tell me how to find out if a guy is lying???
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:51:34 AM

Based on my experience, not only online, but also in the real world, if there are ANY red flags, RUN!!! I met a guy on here (Shane_to) 2 years ago. There were things that seemed funny when I first met him, asking about how much money my father makes, what cars they have, would say he worked on this and that music video, then a week later "I never said that" or "no I didn't; I don't know why I would have said that". Stupid me ended up living with him for a few months. He would steal money from my wallet, bank account, my half of the rent, my parents house, my brothers wallet, ended up cheating with other girls in my own place. It was horrible. It has taken a long time to heal after that experience. Therefore, my advice to anyone, is if there are ANY flags, ANYTHING, any instinct, bad vibes, things that don't add up, CUT THEM. It's so early on that it is easily done. Its much more difficult once you are fully involved and its too late. Do the right thing and trust your instinct! There are a lot of frauds out there! Be careful!


Thumbs up!!
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Women please tell me how to find out if a guy is lying???
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:48:10 AM

houston if you've started doing background checks on the guy that means you already don't trust him and that means end of potential relationship.


IMO this is not necessarily so. I will prescreen all my potential dates. But then again, when I talk to a guy on the phone, I don't know him, so it wouldn't hurt to double-check what he says.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 111 (view)
 
Women please tell me how to find out if a guy is lying???
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:43:39 AM

Do you do back ground/property checks on any guy you date?

Do you do credit checks as well?

I think you are a gold digger.


I do, and I will, except for the credit checks. Once I did a background check on a guy, just looked his name up in the local courts online, found out he had 2 domestic violence charges on him. I told him I would never date him and that was the end of it. I think this was a close call and good I did my homework. Will do it again. Well if a guy has nothing to hide, what does he have to worry about? The courts websites and others in my state are very user friendly. And if I find out some discrepancies like a guy tells me he owns a house, when in fact he does not, I'd ditch him. If a guy does not give me his home phone, he does not get mine, and I probably won't date him anyway. These are my preferences, and I am sticking to them, after having kissed a few frogs. I will not date a guy who proved to be a liar before we ever met. And, I appreciate him using a spell check, too. JMHO
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Should I let her beat me?
Posted: 9/22/2008 1:32:57 AM

No- we are not weeping willows, we like competition just as much
as you do and we are good at sports and pool and cards and everything
else so you should give us a fair shot- just because you are a big strong
man does not mean we cant kick your ass.



 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Fun First Date Ideas
Posted: 9/22/2008 12:45:34 AM

If you were at dinner and just couldn't get the conversations flowing it would become extremely awkward.


Whaaat? And I thought I was the only one like that. LOL
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 95 (view)
 
Fun First Date Ideas
Posted: 9/22/2008 12:28:27 AM

shopping for clothes is fun....

Everlast, where've you been before? I would go on a date with you. But, I am 20-some years too late...
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Chemistry/compatibility
Posted: 9/22/2008 12:13:20 AM

Chemistry is a fire that burns your guts and then goes up on your face and makes you blush something silly! You can't stop it, and it makes you want to run- but not really, and then you go home and you think about that person, and when you drive you can see his face on the windshield while you know he's not there. You have an ear to ear smile all day long until your face hurts. And stuff like that. It 's a sort of high, like being drunk without the booze part, and it keeps you from sleeping well at night. It's good if both parties get infected by the same bug. It doesn't happen often, in fact it rarely happens, and some people are totally immune.


I am not immune anymore, just holding back. I always feel this for the wrong guy... lol
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Would you reject someone because of something in their profile?
Posted: 9/21/2008 6:50:05 AM

blondieca621 : Sounds a little foolish and immature to reject someone because they like to drink a glass of wine.....or because they don't.


IMO, this has nothing to do with being foolish and/or immature. Those are just personal preferences. I am sure you have yours.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Was dating easier years ago?
Posted: 9/20/2008 7:50:20 AM

But it seems like the women want it more now on first dates than they did some years ago. I don't really get it.


Funny, I thought this was true about men.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 15 (view)
 
I am really starting to hate dating
Posted: 9/20/2008 7:11:07 AM

lol Wow your story was pretty awful.

Well luckily I havent experienced anything like that but I seem to be having a problem with guys witholding information.

See..Im a simple girl.
I dont drink much, I dont smoke, I like good food, decent conversations and I love nature.
Id rather be by a river catching frogs than in a club getting drunk.

And the guys I arrange to meet tell me they are the same..so I date them..and I find out they are alcoholics...or control freaks..or gamblers...so on and so on.

I just wish they wouldnt decieve me.


Ditto here, pigeon.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 807 (view)
 
Dinner Date - Who Pays?
Posted: 9/4/2008 5:53:50 PM
I personally think that a gentleman should pick up the tab, and a lady should take care of the tips. That what I would do, while dating a guy. Now, later on into the relationship, providing it develops, I might take my guy out (if he deserves it) and pick up the tab. In the early stages, splitting up the cost does not sound very romantic to me anyway. It sounds rather cold and distant.

Of course, I might be wrong about it, but this is just my opinion.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 42 (view)
 
How to prescreen a potential first date.
Posted: 9/4/2008 12:07:53 PM
From my experience... you don't really have to ask them whether they are crazy, just engage in the conversation with them (e-mail preferred, before you actually get to talk on the phone), and see what they have to answer. This guy I talked to last night, is crazy, I tell you that. No really. He feeds me stories that his truck is broken, and wants me to pick him up and drive to a nice (of course) restaurant. I emailed him and expressed my concern about taking a man who is essentially a stranger, into my car; told him that I had an experience with now an ex-boyfriend (domestic violence) who I had to call police on, and he spent 3 weeks in jail. This POF guy didn't take this well, he like bursts up and says, you can be a murderess too, can poison me with a drink, etc. Gosh, but I am a single woman, and this guy is tall and muscular, I take him in my car and then learn that I shouldn't have, what do you think? I told him by the way, that it's not that I distrust you, just am trying to be extra careful. Sounds reasonable, don't ya think? You'd probably do the same in my situation, I bet. Besides, he's younger, and made a comment (on the phone) that I wouldn't be able to catch up with him; I in turn suggested (in e-mail) that he probably never dated older women. He then says that his ex-wife was 20-some yrs older, and boy, is he mad. Says that I judge him but know nothing about him. Of course, I don't as he didn't tell me, duh! Anyway, I am glad this has ended before we met. This guy has a short fuse. Too short for me.
Besides, have you ever heard about buying a truck F-150, last year model, for $3000, and need to fix transmission in it? Already? On a one-year old truck? Oh please. This guy must be thinking I was born yesterday. BEWARE.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 836 (view)
 
If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond?
Posted: 8/19/2008 10:26:34 PM

i would have a hard time deciding whether or not to respond. i try not to judge people, but i kind of get this urge to choke anyone who uses the word "supposably" instead of "supposedly". of course, there's the chance i'm just a grammar nazi


I can pretty much overlook some of the grammar problems, especially if a person wasn't born in the US. But things like "their" instead of "they are", or "there" will turn me off instantly. Ditto for lots of abbreviations in an e-mail. I think that this shows ignorance. This is my opinion that everybody should proofread their messages before sending them. I know I do mine.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 85 (view)
 
Now that we are over 45, what do we want?
Posted: 8/19/2008 10:14:18 PM
I want Clint Eastwood in his younger years.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 472 (view)
 
Do men like it when women contact them first?
Posted: 8/17/2008 3:28:46 PM
Some do, some don't, and some will get a kick out of it.
I personally will contact a man first if I am in the right mood.
Besides, it will put me in control as to whom I want to contact, and whom I don't.
Hope this makes sense.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Computers vs cars
Posted: 2/4/2008 5:56:45 PM
That was a good one!! Thanks for sharing.
 Anya216
Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 754 (view)
 
Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 2/4/2008 5:27:02 PM
Oh, I am alone and feel just fine. I am divorced, had a few bad relationships after that, and so I just fine by myself. I am not looking. I do what I want and when I want to, not when I have to. I watch TV most of the night (on my days off), and then sleep until about noon or so. I don't have to impress anybody, I don't have to cook, vacuum, do laundry, etc., unless I am in the mood. Nobody gives me hard time, nobody criticizes me like my ex used to, nobody's cheating on me or playing games... Of course, I am not saying that all the guys are like that (described above), no not at all; it's only those whom I meet. So, why bother? Besides, not all of my friends have bf's or husbands. Some do, and some don't. I am alone, but not lonely. There is always something to do around the house and enjoy it.
 
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