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Joined: 11/13/2007

Msg: 73 (view)

am I being unreasonable... Posted: 7/4/2009 9:52:18 AM
If it is something that bothers you, then you need to talk to him about it. I understand the whole, judging the book by it's cover premise, but everyone has some sort of standards. You aren't a bad person because you find his habits a turn off, you just need to discuss this with him and try and see if you can both reach a center ground.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Would you ever consider? Posted: 7/4/2009 9:27:27 AM
Please, take that snide little comment and put it back in your pocket. He was paralyzed from the waist down. I would assume that would also effect his gentiles. I never asked him about more details of his own sex life because I felt it was quite personal.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Would you ever consider? Posted: 7/4/2009 9:13:15 AM
I had a friend in Oklahoma who was confined to a wheel chair, his dating life seemed to be just fine. As a matter of fact, for whatever reason, his wheel chair actually attracted quite a few ladies. Apparently he even had quite a good sex life, even though I don't know how that works.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Dinner Date - Who Pays? Posted: 11/27/2007 8:04:35 AM
I always foot the bill, no matter where I am, how much it costs or how deep the relationship is. But thats just me, it isn't unreasonable to ask if she would split the bill.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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need help. I sounded like a tramp. Now what? Posted: 11/26/2007 5:02:49 PM
I agree with that. I am 22 years old, and I am not really interested in anyone who has any kids at the moment, maybe later down the road, but not right now. If he is like 18, I am sure that is the last thing he would like to think about.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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need help. I sounded like a tramp. Now what? Posted: 11/26/2007 1:48:04 PM
Pedophile?! Wow that is really, out of line there, there is no reason to consider a 24 year old dating a 18 year old a Pedophile. The fact is, there are a lot of factors that come into play when trying to judge if a person is a "adult" or not, some people become much more mature at different ages then others do. Comments like that are what stopped me from dating that 17 year old when I was 20, because I was afraid people would jump to conclusions right away. I wish I would have now, because she was a really fun person to hang around with.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Question - Green Bean Casserole??? Yuck! What is the story??!??? Posted: 11/24/2007 12:19:33 PM
That is one of my favorite Thanksgiving treats my mom cooks for us. She uses French style green beans, French fried onions, celery soup and lots of garlic and pepper. And a little bit of milk and butter. Everyone seems to love it where I live. Perhaps it is dependant on the region in which you live.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Profile Review? Posted: 11/23/2007 6:09:53 PM
Thanks I have taken a lot of this into consideration. I used bold text as a way to try and high light certain areas of my body of text, to try and make it a little easier to read. I have seen some profiles that looked like a train wreck.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Profile Review? Posted: 11/23/2007 5:39:40 PM
I was hoping someone might be able to take the time to peek at my profile and take a look at it? Is there something lacking, or perhaps, I have spoken a little too much? Let me know. And I already know about the pictures, I need to get better ones, that is one of the things on my list. A picture is worth a 1000 words isn't it? One last question, I have been kind of looking around, sending messages to people, hoping to chat to a few. I have talked to a few of the ladies here, but a lot of them seem to ignore me. Would you say that I haven't actually moved to the area yet playing a big role in it? I am currently reside in Oklahoma, but am making plans to move to Florida, possibly by this X-Mas.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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need help. I sounded like a tramp. Now what? Posted: 11/23/2007 11:16:59 AM
I don't know what to say. Really, I would have been flattered that someone would have come right up to me and said that. But he is a little bit younger, so maybe you just surprised him. People are sexual creatures by nature, I wouldn't go as far as to call you a whore. But I can see you feel really bad about this. How far have you actually tried to talk to him? Have you called him, maybe you could find something about from one of his friends? You were very honest to begin with, you should continue to try to be honest. Let him know how you are feeling.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Physical Connection Posted: 11/22/2007 9:06:35 AM
Actually part of it (moving) had to do because I was feeling disconnected to her. I would have been more then happy to stay in a crappy little town for her. But that really didn't seem the case. We would have a blast on the weekend, and then during the week, I could barely get a few words out of her. I tried to come by her place once or twice during the week, asking her if she wanted company first and she usually told me she would rather be by herself. I don't want to seem like a jerk, I never said it was her fault, honestly I blamed most of it on myself, with my inability to express myself properly and give her what she needs. I tried to stay in a lot of contact with her, but when she just seemed to ignore me, I kind of decided not to care as much.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Physical Connection Posted: 11/22/2007 9:00:53 AM
Alright, thanks. I couldn't really help it though. I met her, became friends and I fell for her. It is a disappointment, but you keep walking right? kupcakes4you, I don't know how to respond to that, I really don't. When I first meet the person, that isn't the first thing I think. When I made the topic, I didn't even have an idea for any sexual stuff in mind. Honestly, if it comes to that point, they already have me because I don't sleep with anyone who is looking for just a fling. Alright, thanks for the help.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Physical Connection Posted: 11/22/2007 1:08:20 AM
Yeah, and now the more I think about it, the more I wonder. I talked to her about all sorts of stuff, I asked her how she felt about me, if she could see herself with me down the road, I complimented her as much as I could without trying to look like a jerk.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Physical Connection Posted: 11/22/2007 12:50:03 AM
The move was a sudden thing, it wasn't really planned. One day I got up and just decided I didn't want to live where I do anymore. This was after I met her, if I had felt more connected to her, I am the kind of person who will hang around just for one person, but her attitude changed so much it was hard to tell what she wanted.

Joined: 11/13/2007

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Physical Connection Posted: 11/22/2007 12:24:40 AM
Alright, I need a hand. Recently I have had a complete realization of myself when a person I was seeing told me they thought I simply "didn't want them.", it completely tore my heart in two because it was farther from the truth. The whole low down was simple, I just met her, she had been through a crappy relationship that lasted 6 years, ended when her ex cheated on her. She is currently living in a sheltered woman's home for abuse. I feel as though I am old fashioned to begin with and try to take things slow. I don't like to feel "pushy". So taking this all into consideration I just went with the flow. I tried to show some physical connection with her, touching her lightly on the shoulder or leg when talking to her, keeping direct eye contact. I would have eventually tried to make a move, but twice she was sick, once with a bad cold, again with strep. So I decided to just wait until she was feeling better before I tried to get closer. Now I'll be moving in a few months out of state and I felt it wasn't fair for me to try and get any closer if I wasn't going to even be around, so I told her that. The rest is history. Anyways, the whole point of this, was to ask for some tips or advice. I don't ever want someone I care about to feel like that again, but at the same time I don't want to come on too strong. I think this time around, I'd get the best advice from the ladies, so, give me some tips, so I don't end up messing up another relationship.

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