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weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Why do so many women put their pets in thier profiles? Posted: 8/13/2009 7:27:52 AM
I've posted pics of mine partly for the reasons mentioned...they are part of my life and always will be...take it or leave it. The other reason is because I have found many guys don't read my profile thoroughly about my interests etc...so, posting a pic of one of my interests can't be avoided!

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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my poor puppy:( Posted: 8/13/2009 7:19:51 AM
I gather your dog is running loose? This is the first thing you must change. You have complete control over your dog as others have said and not this child or her father! As another post said, this child should seek permission first. This will be very difficult if your dog is running loose.If you decide to continue to let your dog loose, then perhaps you should remove the collar. Of course explain to this girl why it's an unacceptable behaviour and that you will not allow her to continue doing this. She is free to come and visit your dog, but if she continues to abuse the dog in this fashion she won't be allowed to visit him.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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thought things were going well... Posted: 8/13/2009 7:09:27 AM
I think there are a lot of men on here like that.It could be a confidence booster for them, to have all these women fall for them.Once that level of achievement has been successful, they drop you like a hot potato...I believe it lasts for 3-4 months. If you meet someone like this in the future again...take control and slow it down...put the ball in your park and don't act too anxious about the relationship. Men like this I think are very self centered and control freaks..remove the control and you'll see how the relationship is really going....

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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artistic creativity and compatibility Posted: 6/30/2009 4:14:23 AM
In the past, I would have to say it was the oil and vinegar relationships..Rocky for the most part. I am artistic and love to act and unfortunately have given it up off and on just to PLEASE the other as I found they didn't like my devotion to the arts..which I know was a dumb thing to do. I'm pretty versatile and accepting of the differences, but it does make for a difficult relationship if there is no understanding from the other party. I think this has perhaps been a mistake I've repeatedly made and now am seeking out someone with common interests that we can share. On the other hand, I'm sure there are those opposite relationships that work out well which compliment each other but have found most of them don't. The ones that are working out are those that are willing to open themselves up to the other's world of interests and either support the other or participate.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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bringing a dog to the first meet Posted: 6/27/2009 6:42:12 AM
Grrrrr...would you like to meet my brood Goodman?

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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bringing a dog to the first meet Posted: 6/27/2009 6:31:50 AM
I have to admitt this has never happened to me but I most definitely don't have a problem with it....I have 5 myself! I do think however, you should ask the other person if they mind and of course meet in a place suitable to take your pet. Taking a dog along could prove to be of benefit as an ice breaker. It could make both people feel more relaxed and make for conversation when at a loss for words.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Controlling daughters Posted: 3/21/2009 5:51:21 AM
I can see where you are coming from and there are several things that could be going on here. After being in this relationship for over a year,and if you both are serious about it, it will be necessary for his girls to adjust to the fact that Dad needs someone on an adult level in his life. I'm not sure how much affection you show their Dad when they are around, but i would suggest keeping your distance in that respect.The girls obviously need reassurance you aren't taking him away from them. It sounds like the kids see you but don't know you. I would focus on outings with all the kids, you know, the kind that involve a lot of interaction..ie ....bowling..swimming..walks..biking etc or games of trivia,cards or other board games. I would most definitely not being staying the night until the girls have come to accept you and understand that you are an important part of their Dad's life but not as important as them. Spend a few hrs together then go your own way. The girls need time with their Dad on their own. Gradually the girls will feel more comfortable about the situation and will ask their Dad when you are coming for a visit or express their desire for you to stay longer. You may even wish to only show up on the one day instead of the whole weekend as well.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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To Stay Or To Leave An Abusive Marriage! Posted: 3/21/2009 5:29:59 AM
I was going to suggest the same thing as other posts.Give your friend a womens' crisis number to call for someone just to talk with. I was in an abusive relationship and I know the state of confusion your friend must be in.She knows within her heart, it's wrong and she's probably bashed herself for not leaving him or taking some sort of action. It's a merry go round that's hard to jump off of.This man probably has his cycles like mine did and others I know of.While he's being abusive, she is probably filled with anger along with fear.Then for a time he will cease the abuse for a time.He'll be as sweet as anything and she will see the man she fell in love with and has hopes that maybe this time he will change...but then the abuse starts again.It's a horrible roller coaster to be on. As has been said by others there are so many variables as to why a woman remains...believe me, in most cases the woman is NOT seeking sympathy as was negatively posted here. You are doing the right thing by being there for her and that's wonderful. She will not leave until she is ready for this and overcomes her fears. If you can encourage her to speak with someone even if only by phone to someone at the crisis center, this may be enough to give her the emotional strength she needs to really consider leaving this man.It's a very tough decision to make for many...abuse sneeks up on you and before you know it you're in it deep. It won't be until she has actually left him and been on her own for sometime to see things much clearer then she does now. Please ignore the negative comments posted here.It's obvious they've had no or little experience with someone in an abusive relationship. As i said the victim is in a state of emotional confusion and she does need to vent to someone. By speaking with you, she is getting the reassurance that her situation is very wrong and dangerous which will keep her in touch with reality...not succombe to his world!!

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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has anyone ever broiled baked goodies? Posted: 3/7/2009 8:43:04 PM
thanks for the comments...good question about switching the element..i don't know if that would work...i do know how to change the element..i just haven't located one yet..it's an older model but thanks....the crockpot sounds good too..do you have any recipes using that?

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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has anyone ever broiled baked goodies? Posted: 3/7/2009 5:11:53 PM
My bake element just died in my oven and i'm trying to get another one.I do love baking cakes pies, tarts, bread etc and i was wondering if it was possible to use the broil element at the given recipe temps? This would just be a temporary resolution until i have my bake element replaced. I usually bake 2-3 times a week so this is greatly missed.So I'm just curious to know if anybody has ever tried this, and how it worked out for you...thanks

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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18 month Development Posted: 3/7/2009 4:58:51 PM
ah, now that's a fun age for combining teaching and playing together.I used to sit with my kids on the floor and we would toss or roll a ball back and forth to each other which helps their large muscles develop as well as coordination.Another fun game is building blocks or if you don't have any,canned items make a great substitute.The child will develop reasoning and patience.Mine used to love dancing with me (actually, their version of dancing was hilarious but it was a blast) and that helped them with developing a sense of rhythm. Of course there's the game of peek a boo and can be done with their favourite doll or stuffed animal as well.Another great game is hide and go seek with an object. Children love to get their hands messy for the most part so investing in some poster paints and large sheets of paper( the larger the better..lol).You'll need an old shirt..not just for your child but yourself as well if you are participating, and just let them go at it.At first they may be a little reluctant so you will need to put paint on his fingers and start painting on the paper for him and do it yourself as well. I wish you all the best with your little tyke and enjoy him as much as you can, cause as you know they grow ooooh soooo fast!!

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Its happened again Posted: 2/15/2009 3:44:05 AM
Although this may be true in many cases, I personally think that in more cased then not...it's a nice way of the girl telling you she's just not that into you without hurting your feelings.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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any emotional attachment after a few months? Posted: 2/11/2009 4:54:02 AM
I would have to agree with the comments here. I've read a number of threads regarding the disappearance of one or the other after having what seemed to be a perfectly fine relationship and the passion was great. Maybe i'm wrong, but if there is still a lot of fire in that passion, i would have to think there is chemistry to go with it after a few months. Surely if there wasn't, you'd be able to feel that aloofness or coldness during an intimate night.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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any emotional attachment after a few months? Posted: 2/11/2009 2:41:36 AM
I'm not sure if there is a thread concerning this, but i did just read one regarding any emotional attachments after having sex. I thought i would carry this further. Guys, (or i guess this could apply to the gals as well), if you've been having terrific sex with the one person for a few mnths, can you walk away without an emotional attachment to this person? If it's true after one or two sexual encounters with the one person,is it true after those few months especially if everything is else is going good with that person other then in the bedroom? Do you have to have chemistry with that person in order to keep up that passion for several months?

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Is this normal? Posted: 2/11/2009 2:30:29 AM
geesh..that's awful!! No it's not normal...not only would i shut the door but i would have music playing as well. Kids become very curious at that age, especially when a stranger has come into their parent's lives, and that parent is now diverting some of their attention to that new person instead of giving it all to the child.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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I got cheeted on!! Why won't she admit it? Posted: 2/11/2009 2:18:56 AM
i thought that was very well put there blackberry and yes i agree with you too spunkster ...it's the closure that's needed.I am the same way. It bothers me to no end when someone is dishonest and won't come clean. I have even come across dishonest people who claim the reason they don't come clean is because they feel it's a kinder approach...BS..it's a copout and the easy way out for a coward.I believe it's because they feel so guilty for their wrong doing they can't face the consequences of their actions and will avoid any confrontation whatsoever. Just hold your head up high op, and be proud that you are not the same!In time you will heal and forget all about it. The hurt must still be fresh. There's absolutely nothing you can do to force her to speak with you...trust me, I've been there.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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times are changing Posted: 2/9/2009 3:26:26 AM
Op, I went through something similarr with my oldest 2 kids who are now 31 and 33. The only difference was that there wasn't a drinking problem. The reason they left had nothing to do with the amount of time I was spending with them as i had done a lot of that. It seemed to me, they thought they were mature enough to live on their own and didn't like the rules of the house. This happened when they both reached the age of 16. My son-we discussed the issue before he left but he was determined to try it on his own, and had already arranged to stay with someone I knew with a bsmt apt. He left for about 3 mnths, but in the meantime wasn't able to secure any work (or didn't want to). Then i got this call from welfare asking if i would sign a form allowing him to rec' welfare...hahahahaha..not on your life!! It wasn't long after, he was asking to come back home and he stayed until he WAS mature enough to be on his own!! My daughter-she felt the same way, that she could handle things on her own..she was only gone 2 weeks and asked to come home..I let her and she asked if I'd allow her on welfare..again I said...NO WAY!! I've always allowed my kids to be independent to a certain extent and have encouraged them to reason things for themselves. I believe a lot of teens think they are "know it alls" and sometimes need something like this to wake them up. Yes you can take away their cell..the internet..their friends ...whatever but it has often been my experience as teens, they become even more rebellious and where there's a will there's a way if they are determined to do what they want. By this age, they know your teachings and have them within their heart. It can be scary but sometimes they need to test their wings a little and they soon learn that maybe the other side of the pasture isn't greener after all. By all means, contact the police,but if your daughter won't come home, at least find out where she is staying and with whom,and maybe keep in touch with that person so you can keep an eye on the situation.Whatever you do...DO NOT provide her with any money!! She thinks she's an adult..let her earn her keep...nobody is going to support her financially....well this will force her back into reality. Good Luck..I know it's not easy.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Too much in common? Posted: 2/7/2009 3:15:25 AM
I'm not really sure about this op, but perhaps i can offer a different perspective on this commonality issue. Each person is an individual regardless of how many common interests you have,but what makes the difference is, your past experiences with those traits and how you come across with them and deal with them.It's impossible for two people to react in the exact same way or have the same degree of knowledge at the same level especially for all interests or traits. I think having a lot in common opens the doors for expanding on those traits or learning and evolving from the other. If it's negative traits in common, perhaps this would be an eye opener to those negativities when seen through another person, therefore, it would allow you to see your true self and aid you in making any positive changes within. For most of my life in all my relationships,i have found very few interests in common with another person which has been a big mistake for me. When i did share something in common and we shared this..it was wonderful, content and there was harmony..the opposite was true if we couldn't touch base with things not in common.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Amazing chemistry with guy - to later be dumped. Why? Posted: 2/2/2009 8:58:49 PM
be careful op, i had something similar happen to me and i went out with him for the 2nd time,and noticed the distance thing starting again so i ended it..he also wanted to "hang out"..I can't explain it either..maybe he's afraid of commitment more then he thought?..i wish you luck but don't be fooled.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Did I do wrong Posted: 1/31/2009 5:56:04 AM
I don't think you had done anything wrong either, but maybe there is a different way to look at this scenario. Perhaps she's had the experience on several occasions of a man who has made the same claims and it did turn out that they were actually players. It's really difficult to say, but i feel she should have at least discussed with you more calmly .She may very well have issues. It's too bad she didn't allow your actions to speak louder then the words! She did over-react.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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court rules dad too lazy so doesn't have to pay support? Posted: 1/30/2009 7:23:50 AM
Thanks for your input and just to answer a question regarding the kids..2 of them were in school at the time and the youngest taking a nap. This lady advertised her pet on a freecycle site so that is how we found her. To be honest, i don't know all the details,whether she works or not etc., but i would imagine it would be very costly for daycare even if she were subsidized. I have my own issues with my ex but i can relate as i'm sure many can who are raising children on their own. It is very sad that some non-custodial parents can just make believe these children don't exist. I will talk to her more and see if she is seeking assistance and maybe even a support group. She looked so sad and i do feel for her. I do hope that if there are some parents not helping with their kids have read this and other similar threads and maybe start thinking twice about deserting the kids.It's just so not fair to them. I'm glad to see she's on this freecycle site as anything and everything is offered by people who no longer have any use for these items.I don't know if i can tell you the name of it here in case there are others that are frugal for whatever reason, but here it is...freecycle.org.

weezygirl

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court rules dad too lazy so doesn't have to pay support? Posted: 1/30/2009 4:23:33 AM
I met a young lady yesterday with 3 children ages 2, 7 and 9. The reason we met was because she was giving away her pet rabbit as she couldn't afford to keep her any longer. My daughter and i went to pick this rabbit up, and while there started a conversation with her. She seemed she really needed to vent to someone. i was shocked to find out first of all, that her ex left her 3 days after her 2 yr old was born!The next thing she informed me about was that the judge ruled her ex didn't have to pay support because he was too lazy to work? Apparently he never holds a job for very long and is often unemployed. Myself i have never heard of this and still find this difficult to believe. Has anyone else here been through anything like this or heard of this before? Any opinions on this matter? I guess this is another form of a deadbeat dad or mom. I asked if she had family around to help out but apparently she doesn't, so my daughter and i are going to try and help out somewhat, to at least give her abreak from the kids from time to time.

weezygirl

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4 Months and then Dumped? Posted: 1/16/2009 3:48:06 PM
i experienced the same thing about 1 1/2 yrs ago now. i can understand that 4 months does not necessarily mean you're in a long term relationship but i feel the beginnings of one. I do know of couples who move in together within 3-6 mnths after meeting, so i really think that depends on the people involved. What i don't understand, as the op has stated, why even bother discussing the future if you are not sure about the person you are dating?Why lead them on in that way? You commit your heart to that person cause it really feels there is chemistry between you two, and you talk about the future together, then the other one ups and disappears? Breaking up after dating for 4 months because it isn't working out is one thing but when you start talking about a future together then break up, that's a different scenario altogether without giving a reason.That's what i believe really leaves you baffled, and then some of them want to remain friends? There's no answer op and i do feel for you..it really puts you off or more cautious with the next one you meet...at least there was a lesson to be learned.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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birthing stories!!! Posted: 1/15/2009 6:57:27 AM
well what can i say, i have 5 kids and for the most part they were fairly easy births. 4 of the 5 ranged from 3 hrs-6hrs..doctors always said i was built for having babies..lol..whatever that means!!. but, with my 3rd child it was sooooo different,16 hrs of labour irregular and double peaks of pain!! OUCH!!..there was no doc present for about 8 hrs..get this i was told he was at church and would be in later!!...an hr before i gave birth he shows up..looked like he was hung over!(found out later he was an alcoholic). Anyway, he broke my water and went to lobby for a coffee. then it was bearing down time..well i could have sworn he was coming out my back!! then my baby was crowning and the doc still wasn't there..so the nurse shoved him back in!!..finally the doc arrives to deliver my baby,when i first laid eyes on my son he was purple from head to toe..but no explaination from the doc. Later that day i visited my son in the nursery .the nurse commented that the cord must have been wrapped around his neck pretty tight!!! WTF!! needless to say i was a little upset.it took maybe 2 days before my son was a natural healthy colour again.fortunately he wasn't affected mentally by that.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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A Different Kind of Fish Posted: 1/12/2009 1:47:50 PM
as for your 55 g tank i have to agree with rsx, angels make a wonderful display for that size of tank but i don't think i would mix cardinals or neons in with them..you may be okay with a well planted tank but often as the angel's growth progresses they tend to get a little aggressive and will gladly eat the smaller neons or cardinals. angels prefer a peaceful tank and can become shy when there are faster paced fish living in amongst them. dwarf gouramis and other smaller varieties of these cichlids do well with angels. as you may know, whichever you opt to mix with your angels you should purchase a minimum of 2, preferably 3 of that variety otherwise if you have an aggressive angelfish it will constantly pick on that single one...if you have more then that,they are confused as to which one they were picking on. the same holds true with discus in regards to a peaceful tank.angels and discus have been a well known combo, but there is much dispute over whether or not this is a good idea.discus min requirement is that of a 5o g tank , but are much happier in a larger environment. in a 55 g i wouldn't suggest anything else in it but 2 discus..they really do appreciate a lot of room.

weezygirl

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Men who ride Harleys Posted: 1/12/2009 3:16:00 AM
ah yes, men and their harleys...what a thrill...i was exposed to them when i was young as my 2 much older brothers had them and almost every guy i was involved with had a bike of some kind at least up until my ex....i do miss that thrill of being snuggled up behind a guy as well and the freedom you feel when on one! i think it's the sense of adventure and freedom you feel that you are attracted to...have you ever considered getting your bike license? you may be able to attract the biker man of your dreams that way.

weezygirl

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Is it possible to re-attract a girl? Posted: 1/12/2009 3:07:21 AM
i would perhaps move on for now and then after several mnths..drop her an email to see how she is doing.you can kinda get a feel for how she feels with her response or lack of for that matter. start slowly with friendly emails but maybe not often and once you feel comfortable the friendship has been established..ask her out for a coffee?...but don't get romantically involved at that point...just keep up the friendship, as difficult as that will be, and continue dating others until you see if that attraction for each other can be rekindled...good luck.

weezygirl

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Would Single Moms Do it over Again? Posted: 1/12/2009 3:00:44 AM
yes, it can be stressful at times raising my kids on my own...yes it can be difficult playing both mom and dad at the same time....but i wouldn't trade it for the world!! i'm very proud of all my kids , ages 10,`5,16,31 and 33 and all of their accomplishments despite the sacrifices i have and am making to this day. in my scenario, my ex has opted not to see the children and hasn't since the summer of /07, which is oh so sad, but in many ways a good thing as he is an abuser and an alcoholic. i would say the most difficult part of raising them is not having breaks, the kind where the dad has access to them every other weekend. it would be soooo nice to have a little bit of time for myself.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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DeadBeat Mothers Posted: 1/12/2009 2:51:05 AM
bravo!! to all you guys raising your children after they've been abandoned by these dead beat moms..i know a couple of guys doing the same thing and i really think it's awesome!! i do have a couple of questions though, 1. where are all these stats coming from? 2. have all you great guys taken your support issues to court? i do find it difficult to believe you haven't been awarded support if you have gone through the court system..i have known of some women who are paying support but also heard that a lot of men can't be bothered to pursue it all legally...i say, don't let the women away with it...good luck

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Are bats a pest control issue... Posted: 1/11/2009 7:54:34 PM
i agree with post #2 bats are very beneficial of course for devouring up to 1,ooo mosquitos an hour and should be discouraged from nesting in your attic. they tend to congregate in groups, some large, some smaller, but the chances are especially if you are in older home,you probably have quite a few. what you will need to do, is observe at the onset of darkness,where these bats are coming out of.these small holes will need to be blocked. this may take a few days to weeks to discover where they are coming from. before you attempt to do this, you should either make or buy bat houses and have them placed close to their usual doorways and as you start plugging up these holes,they will move into those houses it's best done in early spring or in the fall when all young are old enough to fly on their own. the bat houses can also be placed on any existing trees on your property..however, do not paint them, leave them in a natural state or colour or you will find that your "pests" won't want to move in. hope that helps some..i'm sure you'll find some great info online by googling it.

weezygirl

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Making Love Outdoors - At One With Nature Posted: 1/11/2009 7:16:56 PM
i've had these sensual adventures on the beach,in parks, side roads,on a tower and of course fields but i think the most humorous, or i should say rather embarrassing place..lol..was along side of a 4 wheeler trail. my guy said not to worry, nobody uses this trail at that time..well, guess what he was wrong!! he just waved at the 4 wheeler passing by while i buried myself under the blankets..no more trails for me!!

weezygirl

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SNORING?? Does it really matter ? Posted: 1/11/2009 7:07:49 PM
i really can't answer that one..never really known anybody who snored that much..execpt of course my dad!!..without a word of a lie, my mom recorded him when i was very young and when she played the tape back, you could have sworn it was a bear!! anyway mom was so upset with his snoring that one night i noticed her dragging something out of the bedroom...she had cut the mattress lengthwise and moved into another room!! in his last years we did find out unfortunately that he had sleep apnea.

weezygirl

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A Different Kind of Fish Posted: 1/10/2009 4:35:23 AM
i would also suggest going with live bearing tropicals for your 10 g tank.not only are they very colourful but for the most part pretty hardy.i would suggest your typical community tank with guppies neons and some platys and perhaps add a couple of unusual interesting varieties such as hatchets and kuli loaches...as far as the young fry go, if you have too many..why not give them to those kids who have aquariums of their own? being that this will be in a classroom i would opt for the artificial planting for maintenance purposes.

weezygirl

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Clingon Go AWAY! Posted: 1/9/2009 4:35:10 AM
i guess it's different strokes for different folks...in these scenarios i believe there is a lack of communication.if you really like this person and you find them too clingy, why not tell them that? too often we shift all the blame i think on someone we consider "clingy".how do they know you feel like this if you don't discuss it with them?...i think those feelings are well founded if you have discussed it with them and they continue to be a source of frustration...often at least in the beginning, until the "high" of meeting someone special settles down, some will maybe get carried away with what you would perceive as too much contact because they are so excited about the great connection...others though are just a pain in the derriere and i would be wary if they had to know where i was every minute or followed me around..that is a bit much.

weezygirl

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words as bait Posted: 1/9/2009 4:16:51 AM
onlybarby i agree with you.it would be nice to see a little more info on some profiles..makes me think they have a hidden agenda..if you tell them you like something, they do,if you have a fav dessert,they have the same fav etc, etc..lol..then there are the ones whose profiles are so lengthy you just skim over them or fall asleep!!guess that makes them great communicaters or at least chatter boxes..lol.

weezygirl

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What if you were being tracked by your cell phone? Posted: 1/8/2009 3:12:18 AM
op whether or not he is actually tracking you doesn't matter,he is showing signs of being a control freak..i know my ex was and it only gets worse...he'll try to control every aspect of your life including who you are allowed to be friends with..he will eventually try and isolate you from friends and family...it's not a pretty life believe me..i'd say run fast and follow your instincts..you already know the answer as difficult as it may be

weezygirl

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Does he really not understand my need to have him call? Posted: 1/4/2009 2:59:14 PM
you know op, i don't think you're off base about the communication..it doesn't matter if you're a teen in your 20's or much older as i am...and i don't find it to be a needy thing either....especially when in a new relationship..i like to keep in touch at least once a day especially if we can't see each other often for whatever the reasoning..i just love to hear the new love in my life's voice..it's all apart of getting to know each other...he'd be on my mind all day,so even just to say good night would be great...sure not everyone likes to communicate by phone..fortunately we have email..but it's a little more personal by phone...for the whole 11 yrs i was with my ex we kept in touch daily from his work despite the fact he was home every night...he'd call me or i'd call him..it was wonderful!!...it made me feel like we were united..does that make sense?...i don't think it's childish at all but when it's like every half hour or whatever then i would consider it to be needy or jealousy,control and possessiveness..but what the heck is wrong with keeping in touch once a day?.. talking this over with your guy, helping him to understand may be just the answer..as other posts have said..some guys don't realize or understand this feeling of wanting to connect with someone you're falling head over heels in love with.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Cats Posted: 1/4/2009 5:55:39 AM
how about this?..go to your local humane society or ASPCA and record all the dogs barking...take it home and play the recording each time this cat gets in or on your doorstep..sure to frighten this cat away...by the way i love cats and have never minded the occasional visit from one whether inside or out!!

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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This is why you can't find love and why it never stays Posted: 1/4/2009 5:51:31 AM
haha...i just posted those verses on another thread...think i'll post it here again...i couldn't agree with you more... i really believe there are many who don't understand wht it means, or know when they are until it's too late of course. "Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Is just being in each others company and sex a relationship? Posted: 1/4/2009 5:29:55 AM
"Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." for me love and affection go hand in hand but some interpret it differently..if his kind of love isn't doing it for you..it never will..he sounds pretty selfish and arrogant..i'm always asking questions and showing interest when i'm in love..i would have to say find someone who will be selfless and attentive and show you the kind of love you want.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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misuse the term single? Posted: 1/3/2009 2:11:09 PM
then what comment do you have regarding a dad who claims he's single?he can father far more children then a woman gives birth to with far more women.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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POOF....he's gone!!! Posted: 1/3/2009 2:02:18 PM
that does seem to be the trend on here..no matter what the age..when you figure it out...let me know will you?..just have to have a tougher skin i guess, makes it more difficult to seek out the good ones,although i'm sure they do exist.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Such Dad, Such Other One Posted: 1/3/2009 1:54:53 PM
the only thing a lot of men i've know have had in common with my dad was their drinking ability..alcoholism..but my dad quit when i was 19..my dad was very loving despite his addiction and had a really big heart to boot and he was 6' tall...i've yet to meet someone who could fill his boots in my heart!!

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Last time you were told I Love you? Posted: 1/3/2009 1:49:21 PM
hmmmmm...interesting question but i don't remember the last time i wasn't told first...if i haven't said it first,...one of my 5 kids do each and every day...does that count???...lol

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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I just can't stand being around your child Posted: 1/2/2009 10:24:16 PM
this sounds like a typical child who cries to get the attn he demands...he cries, she gives in..his mom is giving attn to someone or something else..he cries and demands and by his age he has it down pat..it will be difficult to change that behaviour but it can be done.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Devoted fathers Posted: 1/2/2009 10:00:30 PM
i'm with you too mizq...i have no problem understanding the priority of having children as your main priority, but i also know as my profile states i will find time for someone special..maybe not as often as i'd like but i'll do my best to let him know he means a lot to me.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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I just can't stand being around your child Posted: 1/2/2009 9:35:25 PM
i would suggest you speak with your friend very diplomatically..for example...it seems you are having a lot of difficulty handling "tommy's" outbursts and it must be really frustrating not being able to calm him down...and it has to get you down at times...i have this book (buy a self help book, new or a yard sale)that i spotted and i thought of you and thought it might help.i love our visits but it's difficult to enjoy them when you are constantly having to meet his needs because of his outbursts...good luck it's a very touchy issue when advising someone else about their unruly child/ren.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Can she do this?? Posted: 1/2/2009 9:26:31 PM
from what i'm reading, under normal conditions your wife doesn't have a problem with your access times..she sounds like a mom who is just concerned for the safety of your little girl..understandbly so..but on the other hand, perhaps you can talk with your ex and reassure her that it is only temporary and your ex should maybe encourage your daughter to talk about her visits with you..i realize her ability to communicate may be somewhat limited but perhaps this will put her mind at ease.i know when my kids were seeing their dad, i would worry not knowing what was going on..i did have reason to worry as he was verbally abusive and an alcoholic...but unless your daughter comes home with a reason to validate her fears she shouldn't need to worry..i highly doubt she will stand a chance in court regarding that issue...she would have to prove that your daughter was being negatively affected by this arrangement.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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When to tell your child about you dating again? Posted: 1/2/2009 9:15:53 PM
don't lie to her, as you said yourself she is old enough to pick up on things going on around her.explain to her that you are lonely and would like to once again have somebody special in your life, but reassure her that your relationship with someone will not in any way change your relationship with her..she will understand..but depending on your daughter,...ease in to it..maybe dating once a week until your daughter adjusts and whatever you do..don't introduce your daughter to these dates unless you are sure you are a "couple" which will probably take at least several months...you are right not to expose her to every man you date.

weezygirl

Joined: 11/15/2007

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Learning why some people just choose to NOT answer!! Posted: 1/2/2009 9:04:07 PM
i know when i've been emailed by somebody strange or if all of a sudden he freaks out through an email..i immediately send them a not interested email and block them right away.i won't give them a chance to respond.

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