You do get a lot of "average" figures that should be in "few extra pounds"

Marco, you are a wondeful man who has lots to offer someone, but if you dont feel it in your heart to TRY then making yourself TRY shows and that might be part of the issue...the vibe you maybe sending is like a Hail Mary Pass..

I think we forget that the other person wants to be AS SPECIAL to us as what we want to be to them, when you are in a rotating door of meeting people and they all kinda start to blend together then you need to take the pressure off yourself and just breath.

We focus on the other person to much...that makes us vunerable ...if you go into something just for a friend and it leads to more...you have attained more...if you go into something wanting a relationship..you might end up without even the friendship.

I would like to add something to this statement and that is I believe it's harder on men or men will become burned out faster than women. Reason being is men pretty much have to do all the leg work, all the initiating etc. In other words it's much easier for women to date many men and hopefully find the right one (as this is a numbers game) than it is for men to date many women in a given time frame. There are some threads on POF that bear out this theory.
Also not too long ago in the Over 45 forums there was a thread called "when you've lost your motivation". The OP was a 50+ man that pretty much felt the same as the poster I am quoting above.

The big question is, do you want to spend precious years (maybe not a factor when in your 20's or 30's) pursuing relationships that are not going anyplace? If this sounds very negative all I can say is I'm looking at the cold hard facts as opposed to glossing things over. Also believe the odds are much better for women than men simply because of the numbers.

Oh, My I, my worst nightmare, be sure never to read anything, or look up anything to read, or see a book, magazine article and read it...,

It is not self esteem

It is not about encouragement

It is not about women who have had a lot of sexual partners and therefore is "dirty" (OMG, that's sick And how would you know this number anyway?)

It is a physical change and can be controlled by A PILL, you superstitious penis obsessed wacked out in-denial, ignore your wife's history with her body, ignore all Doctors, Palin loving, death panel believing,birther backwoods nit-wit!!!!!

Why is hiking the mountains, working out in the gym every day, chasing an adventure every weekend, etc., looked upon as better proof of “living well” than listening to music, watching the birds, contemplating the sky, enjoying thoughts while rocking on the porch? Or going for a stroll, a unhurried bicycle ride?

Do we expect more or less? Or something completely different from what we expected in our 20's or 30's?

I think some spout how they DONT NEED OR WANT anyone but then they are on a dating site saying that so it makes you wonder why??? All kinds of forums on the internet so if it was just to interact with someone else they wouldnt have to do it here, but here they are...see I believe they are hoping someone will prove them wrong ....but if someone feels like that do they really deserve someone else to prove them wrong? Their anger and bitterness is like a beacon to stay away from them and that further adds to their anger and bitterness. What a cycle!

" I just happened to be shopping today" - that's another problem -a lot of men won't shop. They want to just sit in a cave all day while we go out and gather.

My fiance is 48 and i trim his eyebrows for him and pluck any ear hairs that need to go. It's a weekly thing

Really ,I thought it would be this one:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEmJ-VWPDM4


Good one. I just have a personal preference for "Green Day". That's all.

Bite my lip and close my eyes
Take me away to paradise...

Well it's time to read and crash. Because this thread is about libido, and most of us are single now, I think it's fitting to leave it with one of the great masturbation songs of the last quarter century.

Hit it, Billy Joe!

Just what was it again, that makes someone over 45 (or 50 in this case) so sexy and hot?

Why oh why do we HAVE TO GO THERE !


Because, like it or not, it's important to a lot of men.

He may be unsophisticated, unjaded in the accepted mechanisms of courtship. He is just putting his feelings "out there" because he is feeling them...not THINKING about them. You are such a skilled communicator, just TELL him how you are feeling in the same clear way you've told all of us.

This whole thread has made me wanna run home an brush my....


TEETH!!

^^oh lordy, I can see a new thread on its way - "Do men like grey pubic hair?"
"Well, mine's not really grey. It's more a silver/white".

So not natural blonde FFS? lol

First of all, it's fashionable. Secondly, it's definitely more hygienic, especially in older women. Thirdly, it's sexier. You can see everything - surely that's sexier than looking at a big bush of hair?

I have a friend who just turned 65. He is trying internet dating for the first time. Today I ran into him at the gym and asked him how it was going. He told me that the women he met had lied about their ages to such an extent he now refers to internet dating as "carbon dating" since the women he has met appeared old enough to use that scientific method to establish their true ages.

.Hey, marry me and I promise I will make sure you get plenty of excercise

now i always insist on a phone call before i even consider a meet..

LMAO...I see a motorcycle pic and I click next

^^mmm. Could be a lot worse..
Guys, girls laugh at men who have jet-black hair when they're in their 50s and 60s. It looks WRONG. And the same goes for that yucky reddish-brown dye.
Don't do it!!!! Say ''no'' to hair dye!

Guys, don't dye your hair! It looks awful. I know you all think grey hair makes you look older, but it actually makes you look NORMAL.lol..

I was thinking about this after I posted, Mirabelle, and I can see where the women are coming from. It sort of puts him in the "friend" zone immediately. But why? Just because he was parenting when they met?

Not sure what all the fuss is about. At a guess about 30% of the women who make first contact with me have included either their, full name and their phone number or their email address which often includes their full name.

I always reply and if I am interested I tell them I would like to email a little here first. If that goes well for 2 or 3 emails then I suggest we move it to private email. After a couple of those and the interest is still building from both sides, we go to a phone call and meet. The whole process to the meeting takes about 4 or 5 days.

I had never thought about it being cart-before...

Is it just me, or does the whole thread presume that everyone on PoF is looking for a life partner?

Some of us aren't.

Just saying.

Kissing's alright. I've never really been into extended pashing sessions - well, not since I was a teenager.
Kissing's great, but I like other stuff more.

And I just cannot believe this thread has lasted for 33 pages!!!!!

Are you willing to compromise on anything or expand your horizons and search in a new direction?

So in order to meet them as in boxing your timing has to be very precise, you need to catch them when they are between relationships. This window of opportunity is usually not very long, it can be just hours or a few days.

I know you have all met them. People ( for me old guys) that have gone to years of
ballroom dancing. Seems to be the midlife thing to do. Well, sometimes they ask you to dance, and decide that they need to give you lessons, counting each step, swinging you around and around like a disco king, banging into people, dipping you, twirling under his arm , wayyyy too much. I kind of find the whole thing annoying on a first dance. Do some people actually like this? . First , it seems a bit attention seeking, and I just don`t think it is appropriate for a first dance when they know that you aren`t ballroom broken. Anyone else have this happen? Or am I just being stuffy?

Perhaps I am not serious about meeting someone yet..I do not know..

and then...oh I am still married.....did I not mention that?.

Yes - that email after three days that says - What's up? I have been too busy to write can be lame.

James Carville is married to a Republican woman.

So your attention span is 10-15 minutes?

What are your experiences/thoughts?

I have recently had a couple of great conversations. They seem to be going along fine for a short time period and then, rather abruptly, the window of opportunity just seems to close.

Online conversations are a complete waste of time. This is about dating. It's not some internet fantasy game. If we aren't talking about meeting right away, I would be moving on ....

I'm seeking just plain sex with a gentleman who reads after we are done.

Why doesn't this ever show when I use the search engine for common interests?