I think you take better care of yourself when your single.

I've never seen the attraction of marriage. I mean some people obviously like it as they have gotten married 2-3+ times, but around half of all marriages fail. No one ever goes in thinking "This is going to be a cool few years before we break up," but yet it happens. If the relationship is going well, why screw it up?

I have been finding that each and every last one of these "men" assume that just because I am over 40 and single, that I must be easy.

military men are hot. i love men in the career. mmm uniforms lol

Man, I hate it when women bash women for being sexually secure...if i were a woman I'd punch a b!tch in the face if I ever heard the words "slut" or "whore" come out of her mouth...like women don't already have it tough enough in this regard?

We were all brought up to think sex was bad, dirty. Luckily for women, many of us have outgrown that notion and are light years away from alot men in our liberal thinking towards sex. I find the men who are more advanced are generally more advanced in many ways sexually (not necesarrily more experience, but more educated and more open).

Oh Wow!!! I've been out of the dating world for almost 30 years. Didn't realize I would be classified as a slut. If after getting to know a man a little, we are both adults, and we both decide to sleep together that I would then be a slut. . . .But at lest I have you, to make me feel a little better. That maybe I'm not a slut. Thank you so much. After reading the other posts that make me feel like I am stupid and a slut, I needed to read yours.

Needing is a bad thing. Everyone should learn how not only to survive on their own but be happy on their own.

Wanting is a far better thing than needing. It's truer and much more flattering.

I have to think that you had sex too quickly with him. You'd only known him one month - been on 6 dates and you were intimate.

I see it just the opposite, I find it so much easier now that I have some experience, I can look back and laugh at how crazy I use to be and I can relax and take things as they come instead of thinking I must have a man now or perish! I am finding my old age quite comforting.

I always open the door for the woman, even when she gets in the car and makes me fumble with my keys to unlock my door instead of just reaching over and unlocking the door for me.

As much as I'm in the other camp, I definitely respect your point of view! Have you experienced hate from men for your way of thinking?

Fair enough. However, if a woman walked out on me because I simply offered to pay the bill, it would definitely be the last date from my end as well. It's not something I do because I think you can't take care of yourself, it's just the way I was raised. It's second nature just as holding the door open for a woman. There's no malice behind that either. Couldn't you just explain to the guy t how it makes you feel?

That's pretty rude, though, right? All he was trying to do was be a gentleman or be polite. He shouldn't be punished for that..

Clearly bcsofnc you know nothing about chivalry and integrity in a man on a first date.
Im curious why you do not?

Most every man I know would deem this below his moral to ask a girl out....then
have her pay her way.

I really appreciate complete honesty. Especially when it concerns one's 'availability'

Nothin' sadder than learning your paramour isn't actually 'single'...kinda ruins the moment.

No, I'm not the cold one here. His wife sitting next to him was ice cold. She didn't care if he was professing his love for her national television. All she cared about was that the other men whom she cheated with took her out and lavished attention on her. I wanted him to have some back bone and kick her to the curb. This man had genuine tears streaming down his face. Even though the relationship counselor in the audience said she didn't see much hope in repairing that marriage due to the wife's coldness toward the man, he still wanted her back.

Many men are also out there desperately looking for the 'feminine' woman, the one who doesn't have to stand in front of her man, but is happy to stand behind him and support him when he faulters, rather than criticise and make him feel emasculated.

Its really funny how we define a womans age by the age of the men she goes out with. 18 year old female with 18 year old male she is a woman. But now a 18 year old female with 35 or older male is now a child?

I find this hilarious. So now the 35 year old man is a child molester and the 18 year old man is not?!? People are hung up on age a little too much.

While there's no denying women look their best at a younger age, it is rather shallow to exclude older women simply on age.

Beyond pure physical attraction, I did just hear about a study which revealed that women are happiest at the age of 28ish. While men are certainly not immune to growing more unhappy with age, I do think that women experience greater pressure and anxiety due to their biological clocks ticking down shortly after that age. Not to mention the environmental pressure society place on childless women leaving their fertile years. It's no wonder women have such a short "window" of happiness.