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Joined: 11/21/2007

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Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?... Posted: 11/28/2007 10:09:51 AM
A guy says he loves you one day and disappears the next? In order to understand behavior like this, I urge you to get a copy of "Mars and Venus on a Date: A Guide for Navigating the 5 Stages of Dating to Create a Loving and Lasting Relationship" by John Gray. I picked up this book about a week ago and I've since been slapping my forehead at regular intervals, saying things like, "so THAT'S why they don't call!!!" (In fact, there's a whole chapter on why men don't call!) I wish I had read this book years ago. I realize I've been interpreting male (Martian) behavior from my own Venusian perspective all this time. On THEIR planet, what they do makes perfect sense (just like on OUR planet, what we do makes perfect sense.) Because we don't realize the other person's from another planet with an entirely different set of rules, you get a lot of this action: Seriously, before you go on another date or chat up another guy online, get a copy of this book. It's one "aha!" moment after another. It will completely change your perspective on dating and help you get out of the cycle you're in. And it will give you incredible insight into what drives male dating and mating behavior. (Same goes for you, fellas!)

Joined: 11/21/2007

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Why do some men like being a Sugar Daddy? Posted: 11/25/2007 1:26:26 PM
First, I guess we have to define Sugar Daddy. It may mean something different to everyone who has expressed an opinion. Second...why does ANYONE spend money on ANYTHING? Because they value what they've spent the money on more than they value the money. When I was in a situation where I was dating someone who had less money than I did, I spent money to enable us to do things together and enjoy each other. I valued being with him more than I valued the money. So it was my pleasure to spend it. Does that mean I was acting like a "sugar momma?" I didn't feel as though I was "buying" him or that he owed me. I was a grown up and made a decision about how I wanted to spend the money I earned. I chose to spend it in a way that benefited us both. Now that I'm going through a rough patch money-wise, I'm in the opposite situation. I don't have disposable income to travel all over the country as I used to. So if someone from across the country (or the ocean) wants to meet me, they'll have to decide if they're interested enough to buy a plane ticket (for themselves or for me.) Money is a way of keeping score for some people; others (like me) value money because it gives us freedom. All other things being equal, would I choose a wealthy guy over a poor one? OF COURSE I would! And I would expect a man to do the same. And I don't think that's a bad thing. Just my 2¢. MissMayflower

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