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ladypagey

Joined: 5/28/2005

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Dear lover Posted: 7/8/2009 9:57:42 AM
love gone amiss does imdeed cause massive pain. Sometimes so intense. Well written

ladypagey

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Quiet, Unassuming Betty Posted: 7/8/2009 9:24:06 AM
Well written and captures attention. Also makes the reader want to reach thru the computer and slap the husband. Women like Betty are out there. They are so meek and quiet. Of course the ones that are fiesty and flauntung their wares are more noticed. Betty like women just are not noticed til some day they snap. Good job. Thanks for writing it.

ladypagey

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Fiesty vs meek Posted: 7/8/2009 12:55:51 AM
Once upon a time in the land of here were sisters of Fiesty and Meek. Fiesty seemed always to be trying to be in control of Meek, Meek on the other hand was so docile she cried at any harsh words One day a handsome young prince came into the hamlet of here vowing I will win the heart of one of the fair young maidens. Fiesty studied this handsome prince and said to herslf. Wow how dashing and dreamy he looks . I can hardly wait to win his heart. Meek on the other hand secretly dreamed of a knight that she hoped would someday come into here and claim her. The day came that the prince would pick either Fiesty or Meek for his bride. Who do you think he picked??? Give up??? Neither as the prince decided he would never marry and rode away into the misty morning never to be seen again in the hamlet of here. - the end-

ladypagey

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What stops you from replying? Posted: 7/6/2009 12:35:05 AM
Because sometimes if you reply at all they think oh I am interested. Perhaps I get cold feet because of my age or perhaps I have been scared in the past who knows.

ladypagey

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How important is money? Posted: 7/5/2009 12:08:50 PM
To be very honest. If you seriously love someone help with good advice and help guide the person to a more stable way of looking at finances. It may take a third person like a financial counselor to help get things back on an even keel

ladypagey

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Beauty in the eye of the beholder Posted: 7/5/2009 11:39:29 AM
a lot has changed about how I value life since I wrote that original thread. Beauty does lay way beyond the physical. It is in how you treat someone. The tender gestures , the radiation of care that reaches out and grabs you The caring words and never tossing mean words back at someone even tho the person deserves it. Yes I still believe beauty is everywhere

ladypagey

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Should I change my profile Posted: 7/5/2009 12:50:15 AM
So true. You would be amazed at reasons people give why not. As we age it is because it seems the age of the woman scares them. It makes them not sure of life ahead, Some have even said they would prefer to be seen with 21- 49 year olds simply because it makes them feel more vital. I know what you are saying about mountain biking and hiking and running in marathons at 56. Some women would some wouldn't Thanks for imput and I will give it thought.

ladypagey

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Should I change my profile Posted: 7/4/2009 10:02:30 AM
Those are very good suggestions. I will definately give the advice thought today. I changed the body type as you suggested. Thanks also for compliment. All the best to you also

ladypagey

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Should I change my profile Posted: 7/4/2009 1:43:48 AM
I have recieved only one new e-mail since changing my profile.Any advice you could offer would be appreciated. Some say spice it up. Some say make it more thought provoking. As some say I come across as a dull sort in the profile. Ones that have met me don't think I am dull just not what they are looking for.

ladypagey

Joined: 5/28/2005

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Pics.....wtf? Posted: 7/4/2009 1:02:01 AM
I read your posts about main photo and went on and switched to one with head clearly visible. It is also more current. People have stated about sunglasses. The reason I wear them is I have light blue eyes and am sun sensitive. My face would be all squinted up if I tried to get a pic taken in the sun without them.

ladypagey

Joined: 5/28/2005

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Question for the ladies Posted: 6/30/2009 9:44:44 AM
I did not instantly give him my phone number but when I did I was pleasantly surprised and he did not instantly in first message give phone number. It was the best ist message I have ever recieved

ladypagey

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The First Message Posted: 6/30/2009 2:40:12 AM
Really look at their profile and think about the person. I like to get messages that are thought provoking and interesting

ladypagey

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When your man checks out other girls Posted: 6/30/2009 2:35:54 AM
My mom who was married to dad for 64 and half years used to say " you know you can pull a tiger's fangs but he can still growl" Kind of fits don't it.

ladypagey

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Question for the ladies Posted: 6/30/2009 2:30:14 AM
The best message I got was how we should talk on the phone and then meet. A local person. Two words .. Hi, bye ...worst first message

ladypagey

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would you get involved??? Posted: 6/27/2009 12:23:05 PM
phone calls do not fulfill the need to reach out and physically hold and cuddle the person. Also meeting the person and getting a chance to see how the person is around you gives you a chance to study the way they treat you. Are they cold and silent or are they warm and cuddly

ladypagey

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What do you do in this situation?? Posted: 6/27/2009 12:17:38 PM
Sometimes saying something makes it worse. Perhaps the best answer is one step ay a time. If the person is interested the right moment will happen if not it is not meant. Keep a positive attitude.

ladypagey

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casual sex or friends with benefits Posted: 6/27/2009 1:35:16 AM
what can happen is words uncaringly said. What started out as magical friendship turned into friends with benefits but friends with hurt in their hearts. What could have been a wow event turned cold with hurtful words said perhaps not til later but said. To recapture the magic would take special capturing

ladypagey

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Cuddling and touching after sex Posted: 6/27/2009 1:17:55 AM
To be held and touched and feel like the very act of sex was just not a act of need but an act of care. A way of gently cuddling and then not abruptly getting up and leaving but gentle time afterwards

ladypagey

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One Sided Love? Posted: 6/27/2009 1:03:31 AM
in my case I think some of the problem is I am too easy going too forgiving to all that are in my life. I let them walk all over me. I am not a toughie just a marshmellow. When I love I love deeply one sided it is I know.

ladypagey

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One Sided Love? Posted: 6/25/2009 12:23:17 PM
Since I have been in a one sided love situation for about two years I can say first handed that how I feel is like put thru a grinder at times. Its true that a person can't be forced to love you back and it is true that you don't choose what your heart decides it is going to feel. It is true I could decide to pretend I don't care and dodge him and seal my heart away forever for allowing myself to ever care that deeply again. Perhaps that might be best.

ladypagey

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ever think about giving up and just be happy and single? Posted: 6/23/2009 7:14:48 PM
my nephew told us today that he was never going to get married . There are too many ways to enjoy life without tying oneself down to marriage

ladypagey

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What stops you from replying? Posted: 6/23/2009 7:11:40 PM
another reason they give is my age scares them. They are the same age and they want the woman to be 21 - 49 years old. Being the same age makes them feel old.

ladypagey

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What stops you from replying? Posted: 6/22/2009 1:09:51 AM
The truth is most that don't want to reply to me use the reason the live too far even it is only across the state from me or maybe not even that far. Some see the amount of my favorites and think she does not need another writing to her. They are sincere friends that are my favorites. Not romantic but simply friends. Some replies make me sit and cry.

ladypagey

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ever think about giving up and just be happy and single? Posted: 6/22/2009 1:05:51 AM
Some have said love is within each of us. Yes and if we are happy with ourselves perhaps the genuine true love that I know each is looking for will happen.Perhaps when we least expect it

ladypagey

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Maybe love is not out there for me ? Posted: 6/20/2009 3:08:49 AM
yes don't rush into marriage. It can be a very big mistake.

ladypagey

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Who was your first crush? Posted: 6/20/2009 2:05:14 AM
the first crush I had on here was a guy who had no picture. His words were like honey and wow did he know how to say them. No I never met him face to face

ladypagey

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Maybe love is not out there for me ? Posted: 6/20/2009 1:54:46 AM
I have thought those words myself. Sure I have loved but never, yes that is right never had a man say I love you. I wonder if the man to love me isn't there

ladypagey

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Are there any men looking for true love for a lifetime? Posted: 6/20/2009 1:15:18 AM
I can honestly say I have loved but I have never had a man say I love you. I also want someone to enjoy life with as I age

ladypagey

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Are there ANY women who don't CHEAT? Posted: 6/20/2009 12:39:21 AM
If I were in love with a man no I would not cheat but if I felt the fellow was thru with me and moved on. I would consider moving on myself which is not cheating.

ladypagey

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not calling Posted: 6/20/2009 12:30:42 AM
^^^ those words apply to alot of life's experiences. I have been described by some as a doormat. Yes we should value ourselves. Yes each individual here is important to themselves.

ladypagey

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What is emotional abuse in relationships? Posted: 6/20/2009 12:25:03 AM
emotional abuse can be so mild that you don't know it is happening to you til one day you open your eyes and realize those slight put downs are a form of emotional abuse. The love you have for the person is eroded slowly into dodging verbal slings and wondering what next

ladypagey

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if i am so perfect to him why does he still need to chat to other women Posted: 6/20/2009 12:08:14 AM
Perhaps something in the relationship has him wanting to reach out to other people for friendship. I had someone tell me I am perfect and I believed those words. The abuse I had suffered in the past caused me to not trust men. So I had a guard up but knew something was very missing in my life. In reality the words I am perfect may fit you two but reflect on giving him time and if it meant it will happen. The fellow who said I was perfect has since started chatting with others and dating others

ladypagey

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what is love to you ? Posted: 6/19/2009 11:48:30 PM
There is also love where a person realizes perhaps it is best to just let the person who does not love you back move on. With understanding and hope that the person in question can find peace and contentment somewhere

ladypagey

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Hope this helps all who is healing from a broken heart... Posted: 6/19/2009 11:40:47 PM
I too hope everyone on pof reads this thread. I am sincerely thinking of printing it out and framing it to ponder and reflect on. So deep and powerful

ladypagey

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Hope this helps all who is healing from a broken heart... Posted: 6/16/2009 8:19:48 AM
This does indeed help explain why doors have to completely close before another door can open. Hopefully soothing friendship and family tenderness will help soften the injuries to the heart perhaps seen by the person suffering

ladypagey

Joined: 5/28/2005

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what is love to you ? Posted: 6/16/2009 8:04:13 AM
^^^ so totally agree. Saying I love you to someone else is a brave act. It is trusting that person not to throw it back in your face unwanted. If that happens the self worth of the person who said it is damaged. It is said because a person is opening their heart to you. If rejected the person has to move on in life and with time and compassion will heal.

ladypagey

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Is Sex all that Everyone thinks about? Posted: 6/16/2009 1:44:52 AM
In all honestly sex is a natural part of life . Some probably think about it more than others but life is a great adventure

ladypagey

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what is love to you ? Posted: 6/16/2009 1:39:13 AM
love is being able to open up and be totally honest about all aspects of life. Love is also being able to trust another person. Trusting and believing and enjoying a person.It is wanting the best for someone

ladypagey

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Who was your first crush? Posted: 6/16/2009 1:33:47 AM
my first crush was cutest guy in class. A real case of a popular guy who did not know I existed. He never knew of my crush.

ladypagey

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What women really want from a guy Posted: 6/12/2009 2:12:59 AM
that would be right with the right companion. Someone not afraid of enjoyment and companionship and just wow

ladypagey

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What women really want from a guy Posted: 6/12/2009 1:58:45 AM
to me it is not about their material things it is how a guy looks into your eyes and makes you believe you are the only one for each other.

ladypagey

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What do women over 50 find desirable and undesirable in a man's profile? Posted: 6/11/2009 2:59:52 PM
I think what I find desirable in a profile is sincerity. To totally surprise me with kindness and care. I have met two from here and can say neither turned out to be a knight in shining armor. In other words they were human. I learned I am very attracted to a bald man with a moustache. wow. What is undesirable. Well anyone who overwhelms with non comfortable approaches to life.

ladypagey

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What women really want from a guy Posted: 6/11/2009 2:44:07 PM
I think in my case I want love and hugs and simple care about me. I love surprises and impromptu drives. I love to be kissed and held. You know the normal feel good stuff.

ladypagey

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 6/11/2009 2:25:48 AM
sometimes bad boys may look like good guys when they are sweet talking you

ladypagey

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What was your worst negative reply? Posted: 6/11/2009 12:43:49 AM
since confrontation makes me ill I would rather not say anything rather than say negative but if I had to I would say you live too far from me or avoid saying anything

ladypagey

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 6/11/2009 12:27:32 AM
I have thought about those words recently. I need develop a better attitude or perhaps I need to accept the fact that perhaps I will be alone forever

ladypagey

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Is it wrong to say I don't want and cannot be JUST friends? Posted: 6/11/2009 12:19:07 AM
I think being just friends is words asking for trouble. I was just in a just friends relationship. It doesn't work. A heart gets broke regardless of how good a resolve a person has

ladypagey

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WHY ARE MEN SO MEAN Posted: 6/11/2009 12:02:18 AM
mean men come in all ages. Got to say they do drag your self worth down. I dated a guy who I thought could do no wrong. I worshipped him. I accepted the crumbs of attention. Foolish woman that I was. He thinks of me as pathetic simply because I haven't got the nerve to say bleep. It makes me ill to confront a person if they have walked all over me. Guess he has joined that crowd

ladypagey

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Trust issues Posted: 6/10/2009 11:54:00 PM
I think up until recently I had started to trust again. In my marriage I had grown so non trusting that it was hard to let my guard down. Now after dating and being on a roller coaster of emotions. Something was said that shattered trust. Perhaps never will I ever totally trust again.

ladypagey

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cure the valentines day blues Posted: 2/14/2009 9:44:20 AM
I am not alone this valentine's day I have all of you to keep me company on the computer so Happy Valentine's day to each of you

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