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Joined: 11/24/2007

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Is honesty always a good thing? Posted: 2/4/2008 3:15:56 AM
Thank you very much, that is exactly what i was trying to get across. I'm not unhappy with who I am, I'm just realistic about it.

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Is honesty always a good thing? Posted: 2/1/2008 10:44:18 AM
I just want someone who can tolerate me.

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Is honesty always a good thing? Posted: 2/1/2008 10:43:08 AM
I'm not suicidal at all, to be honest, and I'm not looking for anyone to pity me. I'm quite content with where I am in my life right now, but I'm not going to lie and make myself out to be someone I'm not.

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Dating a girl with PTSD... is it possible?? Posted: 2/1/2008 1:26:37 AM
I suffer from C-PTSD and to be honest, you are NOT wasting your time but you will have to be VERY patient with this girl and giver her space when she needs it. We are easily scared off by sudden advances, etc. Even thought I might love a guy, if he suddenly touches me, or hugs me, I get shy and pull away. I don't even like talking on the phone, preferring to text. Just take things slowly and reassure her that you are there for her if she needs it, but that you will not push her on anything. If you really love her you will do that. If you have any questions are PTSD. You can PM me. Do you have any idea what brought hers on? If it had something to do with being abused by a man, that fear of men can be a very big obstacle. It isn't impossible, like I said, please be supportive and take your time. She needs you!

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Is honesty always a good thing? Posted: 2/1/2008 1:18:29 AM
Thank you, and yes, I hope so too.

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Sex with minors Posted: 1/31/2008 11:43:39 PM
Well, where I'm from, the age of consent is 14. Most of my friends were sexually active even before that! Also, the term you're looking for is ephebophilia, an attraction to adolescents as opposed to pedophilia, an attraction to children who have NOT yet reached puberty. No matter what you want to say, a man being attracted to a physically mature 14 year old is not pedophilia. If she has breasts and hips and is already menstruating, a REAL pedophile would have absolutely no interest in her.

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Is honesty always a good thing? Posted: 1/31/2008 11:34:33 PM
I have decided to put it all out there in my profile, and while I have gotten some interest, I wonder if it would be better to just make my profile like everyone else's, listing my likes, dislikes and so on. Opinions?

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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder) Posted: 11/29/2007 11:38:26 AM
I'm diagnosed with BPD. I don't really see myself as being as bad as everyone has described, but I'm medicated, etc. I have been for a long time. I do have my "moments" but they tend to be few and far between unlike when I was younger. The best way I can describe having this condition is emotional childness. We are NOT manipulative or mean. At least I'm not. I don't mean to hurt people. I just do. There ARE people with borderline who can lead normal lives. Princess Diana was reputed to have it, albeit she was a "high functioning" borderline. Also for those people saying we have different "personalities" that we make up, this is NOT true and it's one of the most difficult parts of having this. I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM. people with BPD have no sense of self or self image. We change to suit the people around us because we don't know how we should act otherwise. When I'm alone? I feel empty inside. Yes, I was sexually abused as a child. Yes, I self harm. Yes, I have a substance abuse problem. I'm a cliche. But I 'm still human. I have feelings. I hurt, a lot. I'm really sick of people acting like people with BPD are selfish animals who manipulate others for fun because we get off on hating everyone.

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What IS off limits in the bedroom for you?? Posted: 11/29/2007 8:48:09 AM
LOL same I don't think anything is off limits for me. No animals, I guess. No scat. But I'm fine with anal, S&M, light bondage, threesomes, whatever. I'd take it as it comes. I don't get girls who only want missionary, face to face, ugh.

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Msg: 106 (view)

Why are women so protective about their 'number' (of sexual partners)? Posted: 11/29/2007 8:42:10 AM
Because we're afraid of looking like sluts, pretty much. Or if a girl was raped (which is more common than you might think) she might not be sure whether or not to count it, etc.

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married men Posted: 11/29/2007 8:21:05 AM
I've had some friends who met guys on here who said they were single in their profile, but actually had a wife and kids. It sucks. If you're seperated, be upfront about it!

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