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halftimedad

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Profile help!! Posted: 11/13/2009 10:41:26 PM
In your profile you say you're Not Single and Not Looking. If I received a message from someone who had that, I'd figure she was married and looking to cheat on her husband. She would show the profile to him and say, "Look, it says I'm not single - I just like the forums." All in all, a drama no guy is going to want to get caught up in.

halftimedad

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Profile help!! Posted: 11/13/2009 10:32:39 PM
Not single-not looking. There's your problem darlin'.

halftimedad

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More opinions on my profile Posted: 11/13/2009 9:38:52 PM
We can't see your face in any of your pics. There's really no point in going further.

halftimedad

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please review Posted: 11/13/2009 9:18:22 PM
YGF, I'm so disappointed. That's an Old Style, not an Old Fashioned. Gee, haven't you ever been to a bonspiel? Are you sure you're Canadian? And he's 18. I remember flying through Alberta when I was 18 and I made sure to go into a bar. That's the legal drinking age there.

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::Depression:: Posted: 11/13/2009 6:35:10 PM
There are very good anti depressants now. Your doctor can either refer you or help you herself. It sure sounds like depression - and that's biological.

halftimedad

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Sexually Inadequate??? Posted: 11/13/2009 10:53:42 AM
There are some women who can't. Ever. Can't even get themselves off. Sex can still be good - as the Opie said, it's all about the intimacy and arousal and grownup play. Your ex was too focused on the destination and not the journey. It's kind of the default position for men though, so with your next you should be open and communicative. Make him understand that it's not going to happen for you every time and that it doesn't mean he's less virile or that you don't enjoy it.

halftimedad

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Anyone play poker at pokerstars? Posted: 11/13/2009 10:38:46 AM
This thread prompted me to try it. All I can say is that anyone who figures they are doing that professionally is earning their money. I can't imagine a more boring way to spend an hour. Surely there must be easier ways to earn a living - does watching paint dry pay an hourly wage?

halftimedad

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Profile review please Posted: 11/13/2009 10:23:16 AM
You make me wish I was 20 years younger and a woman. Good job.

halftimedad

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taking a dip in the fish bowl... Posted: 11/13/2009 10:20:41 AM
Wow. You manage to hit all the wrong buttons with this one. Naked isn't a good look for very many guys. You're a case in point. And it will get your profile deleted. Pics all come down to warm, inviting and good lighting. If you're going to have a boring profile, at least make it informative. We learn nothing about you, and you spend a lot of words not telling us anything.

halftimedad

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Looking For Some Real Honest Answers Here Posted: 11/13/2009 8:25:39 AM
Yeah, I second the above post. You're the one who is controlling OP. You demand that a grown woman abandon everything in her life and make you the centre of her existence. It doesn't work that way when you date grown ups.

halftimedad

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Anybody interested In American literature Posted: 11/13/2009 8:07:36 AM
If you're doing an MA thesis you need someone a little less obvious than Twain or Steinbeck. I'd suggest Jim Thompson. Wrote at the same time as Kerouac; took the hardboiled genre of the 30's to a much darker place; the favourite writer of many more successful writers like Stephen King and Elmore Leonard. It's a little tough to find his stuff though.

halftimedad

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Obama's latest approval ratings. Posted: 11/12/2009 10:40:32 PM
^^^Let me guess: Your experience on the forums was that when some said McCain was going to win, others posted poll results that showed the opposite. There isn't going to be an election for 3 more years. It's not that Obama supporters are discounting polls, it's just that it's not relevant or interesting. But when one side says Americans are opposed to the Public Option, when every opinion poll says otherwise, then it's worth bringing up. Polls are significant when one side is claiming to represent the American people, when clearly they are lying.

halftimedad

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please review my profile Posted: 11/12/2009 5:16:26 PM
Judging from the testimonials you have, you've gone through a period where you did this reviewer thing for a while yourself. So you probably know the obvious stuff: Bad pics - most are blurry, or we can't see your face for the shadows, or in one you're wearing sunglasses. You're my age, you don't have kids and you want kids. So I understand why you're looking for a woman under 35. But if you're hoping to date that much younger, you need a great profile - you have an "ok" profile. I wouldn't worry about being long winded. I'd try to make it as attractive and humourous as I could.

halftimedad

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Actress Heather Graham star of PoliticalAction Campaign Posted: 11/12/2009 2:45:02 PM
Shouldn't you be active in trying to get taxes raised then?

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It's still not working Posted: 11/12/2009 11:50:59 AM
I don't think you're ugly. I think you have a pretty good profile. I guess I should have said that it looks like a cliched 70's cop mustache. Cause I'm old. That's the mustache that cops had (and nobody else had) when I was young. If you feel strongly about it, then keep it. But it's going to be a minority taste among women - I see a lot of women's profiles that specify they want clean shaven, so I'm guessing a lot more women than that prefer it but don't say it in their profiles. I just think it reduces the number of women who will be attracted to you. And that's what this is about - the whole forum is here to help people increase the odds of attracting someone else. I put my opinion in, and others felt the same way. If there's a broad consensus, then it's something to consider.

halftimedad

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It's still not working Posted: 11/12/2009 7:55:53 AM
There are things you could do to make your profile more appealing. It starts off a little dry, and stays dry for a few paragraphs. I'd recommend making it a bit lighter. But that's pretty minor - overall it's good. So I'm going to express an opinion you won't want to hear. Keep in mind this is just my opinion. Lose the stache. Makes you look like a cop - and not in a good way. The way we used to mean when we said it when we were 18.

halftimedad

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Could someone please help me understand whats wrong. Posted: 11/12/2009 7:43:04 AM
In your case it's probably the smoking issue. Very common to see "Must not smoke" under restrictions.

halftimedad

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How about a review Posted: 11/11/2009 6:25:05 PM
You have to smile - especially in your main pic. You have to write something that is appealing to women. What's there isn't terrible, but there's very little there.

halftimedad

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Help please! Posted: 11/11/2009 6:22:49 PM
I know why you're not getting responses, and so do you if you think about it. You're looking for someone to face the coming Zombie Apocalypse with. Yet you describe yourself as athletic. Clearly, that's the problem. When the zombies come, we all want to be with people who run slower than we do. D'uh.

halftimedad

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Hi Posted: 11/11/2009 6:14:54 PM
I read your first date sentences several times, and I still can't figure out what you were trying to say. You can't put AIM contact info in your profile - you'll get deleted (it's also a very, very bad idea). Your profile just reads like a list. It's boring. I'd be more interested in knowing why the Breakfast Club is one of your favourite movies, than in a list of your favourite movies. Why are you going to graduate school? Are you planning on eventually getting a PhD? Humour works really well here - I'd try to make it lighter. Your pics all show the same smile - it's kind of weird.

halftimedad

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Black Awakening Posted: 11/11/2009 6:08:17 PM
You've got to stop listening to crazy people.

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Does my profile suck or what? Posted: 11/11/2009 5:49:33 PM
Um, you come off as superficial. Sorry, but that's what's in your profile. You expect a woman to overlook the fact that you're in early middle age, and you work as a retail clerk. But you won't date a woman even 18 months older than you or who has kids or smokes. And you'd rather not date someone who eats meat. Or who has found a spiritual path that works for them through traditional Christianity.

halftimedad

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P.P.& Rapists Posted: 11/10/2009 7:59:58 AM
The question about how many have met a child rapist, and particularly the answer the poster gives, reflects the real problem. We've all met child rapists. Just because they're not wearing big red signs or haven't been caught, doesn't mean they're not among us. This is not some group of aliens that can't pass for human - they're everywhere. I don't think all men are potential rapists, as was a popular slogan at one extreme. But the mindset reflected in that post represents the other extreme.

halftimedad

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I think I might be long winded Posted: 11/10/2009 7:40:16 AM
Your profile gets across a decent, thoughtful guy. Your outlook and goals seem to reflect someone who lives life consciously. Your pics are of a scary guy. You only have one smiling pic, so move that up to main pic. The pics are the most important part of a profile, and the main pic is the most important part of that group.

halftimedad

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Jaws and other behaviour-altering movies. Posted: 11/10/2009 7:32:16 AM
I took my daughter to see Babe when she was little. She wouldn't eat pork for at least 10 years after that.

halftimedad

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does this turn you away Posted: 11/10/2009 7:26:49 AM
This is profile reviews. Do you want one?

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Next Election and Obama Posted: 11/9/2009 10:29:36 PM
Yeah, that wasn't really an argument - it read more like a peyote inspired fantasy. Apparently the only way to ensure that the health care system doesn't collapse is to prevent poor people from accessing it.

halftimedad

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Obama drops the ball...again. Posted: 11/9/2009 8:30:26 PM
Really? He moved fast to save the American auto industry. He brought in health care reform when he knew that would be a tough fight. He campaigned on putting more emphasis on Afghanistan. Unfortunately, his options are limited by the actions of the previous administration. He can't just pull out of Iraq, and the military doesn't have extra troops to send to Afghanistan.

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Jaws and other behaviour-altering movies. Posted: 11/9/2009 7:52:29 PM
It didn't change my behaviour, but apparently Easy Rider introduced cocaine into American culture. They were looking for a drug that could be transported, and heroin was considered a bad choice. Cocaine was a small niche drug that not even the druggies that made the movie had ever seen - so they picked it. And made it cool consequently. The rest is history.

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Next Election and Obama Posted: 11/9/2009 7:44:36 PM
If he doesn't deal with the causes of the economic disaster then he will have failed. If he doesn't make positive changes then he will have failed. One of the big roadblocks to recovery is the current health care mess. Usually, in an economic downturn, many new businesses are started by people out of work. But, if you have a family, you need to have health insurance. So an ambitious young man with a young family won't be starting the next Microsoft or Intel because he'll need to find a job with benefits. Obama's plan isn't perfect, but it will address this. I'm afraid he won't bring in the regulations and the cops to enforce them needed to deal with the Wall Street shenanigans that nearly collapsed your economy. Which means in 20 years you'll see a variation on it.

halftimedad

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Recent string of shooting rampages Posted: 11/9/2009 7:00:00 PM
Buddy, you're trying to argue that the availability of guns isn't related to the large number of incidents of gun violence in your country. Why not try something easier, like teen pregnancy isn't related to teenagers having sex?

halftimedad

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open for critic. Posted: 11/9/2009 5:34:35 PM
I like it. I think your fourth pic (with the "come hither" smile) is the one most likely to get guys checking out your profile though. But I think it's likely to get responses from the right guys. Just need to get enough of them looking over your profile.

halftimedad

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Can you believe it ? Posted: 11/9/2009 10:34:10 AM
I think that falls into the "doing an associate a favour" category.

halftimedad

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I've got a good joke for you and if you could review my PoFile that'd be great. Posted: 11/9/2009 10:23:48 AM
You suck. Okay, maybe not. But you can't promise a good joke and then pull out that hoary old chestnut. Try not to use vaudeville jokes in your first messages. Your profile is pretty good. The pics are all good for the gallery. You are missing the smiling, well lit head shot that should be your main pic though. First date is a little intimidating. Even the girls who know their best time on the Grind might be a little put off by a guy that thinks that would be a good first date.

halftimedad

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Where am I coming up short. Posted: 11/9/2009 10:15:40 AM
Yes, your pics have to go and be replaced with good ones. The ones you have now should be excised entirely. I doubt that you have a Masters or PhD, so lose the Graduate Degree. The idea of a profile isn't to give the facts - it's to sell you. Your profile is dull and pedestrian. Be funny or quirky or something to stand out.

halftimedad

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Help with profile pretty pl Posted: 11/9/2009 10:09:08 AM
You have 3 bad pics - you're not smiling, not looking at the camera, they were all taken by your monitor. Lose them all and get outside with a friend and a camera - or at least in good lighting. You have 3 lines of text. Outside of the Poe and Lovecraft (which combined with unsmiling pics makes it seem creepy) we learn nothing about you.

halftimedad

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Next Election and Obama Posted: 11/9/2009 9:50:10 AM
Those who think Obama is unpopular are just polling in their own bathrooms. He's still popular; the majority want health care with a public option; nobody with a rational bone in their body blames Obama for Iraq or Afghanistan. That said, if the economy sucks in 2012, Obama will lose. If the economy is better, then he'll be re-elected. Incumbents that have lost - Ford, Carter, Bush I - lost because the economy was in the tank.

halftimedad

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Is it harder to fall in love after you reach a certain age? Posted: 11/7/2009 9:23:37 PM
I think it is harder to fall in love after you reach a certain age. The whole biochemical/brain chemistry thing is set for the young. It's all about passing on your genes. I fell in love with a girl I was standing behind in a movie line when I was 15. The infatuation chemicals just don't kick in the same way.

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Another Joe To Be Proud Of - Health Care Posted: 11/7/2009 8:13:33 PM
The last thing I read is that they were putting the ammendment up for a vote of the whole House - assuming that it couldn't pass on its own. A dangerous gamble. The ammendment is pretty stupid, but it's kind of surprising how much stupid stuff gets passed. I imagine it'll get dropped in the talks with the Senate even if it does pass in the House though.

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Ft Hood Incident Highlights Dangers of Gun Control Posted: 11/7/2009 7:13:05 AM
Canada has been described as a nation 5000 miles long and 30 miles wide. Most of us live in cities, just like most of you. Empty spaces doesn't affect the actual population density as it is felt by the people living here. Gun control leads to higher crime in the same way crimes against murder causes murder. That's just stupid.

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Can you lovely like minded people give me a review please. Posted: 11/6/2009 5:48:02 PM
It's not bad. It gets across an impression of a real human being. You seem successful, ambitious and genuine in your desire to meet someone special. I'd drop "Petite" as an adjective - seems a little feminine. Movie Star size would be better.

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Ft Hood Incident Highlights Dangers of Gun Control Posted: 11/6/2009 5:27:48 PM
Canada has the same urban/rural mix. Very similar history, immigration patterns, settlement patterns, racial diversity - Hell, we even watch the same TV shows, movies and listen to the same music. Toronto is the 5th biggest city in North America. We just have a smaller population. Name the other countries with at least 300 million people - Russian, China, India, Indonesia (?), - I don't think there are any others. By including population size, you essentially ensure that your position is unassailable. That's called a tautology and is only used when you're trying to defend a ridiculous position.

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Nobel Peace Prize Laureate confirms Faux News is NOT a news organization Posted: 11/6/2009 5:22:27 PM
We've already conceded that there are a lot of delusional people in your country who go to great lengths to ensure that their delusions aren't challenged by reality. I have no idea why you think this is significant.

halftimedad

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Does it read to harsh? Posted: 11/6/2009 4:33:04 PM
Clearly you've had a lot of jerks contacting you. Not all the guys here are jerks. Unfortunately, your profile is chasing off every guy that reads a profile - right now all you're getting are the guys that go strictly by pics. Learn to use the delete button; make a real profile; reply to the guys worth replying to.

halftimedad

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Ft Hood Incident Highlights Dangers of Gun Control Posted: 11/6/2009 4:21:33 PM
All the stats are per capita. You're setting up impossible criteria. We have strict gun control laws and similar population diversity. We have much lower PER CAPITA rates of violence. In fact, our biggest problem is sharing a border with a nation that has no real gun control laws.

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Can you prove the media is liberally biased? Posted: 11/5/2009 4:24:11 PM
John Stossel has always been a nutbar, and I defy you to find a single liberal who loved him. Thank God he's off to cable where he can reach fewer and do less damage. I hadn't even heard that he'd moved to the Cult of Fox, but it's where he belongs. And just cause he was on a show that won 17 emmy's doesn't mean he had anything to do with it.

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What can I do to get more responses? Posted: 11/5/2009 2:33:07 PM
I got bored halfway through. It really does feel like a million others. Take chances. Be quirky. Be funny! It's better to be offensive than to be boring.

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Does anyone know this song? Posted: 11/5/2009 12:36:27 PM
It's actually by The Band. Joan Baez just covered it. The Band's version is much better.

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Was I wrong ?? Posted: 11/5/2009 11:52:51 AM
Holy Hell! DTMFA! He's 40. I can't even go into to all the reasons why this guy wouldn't be datable if he were 20, but at 40 he's not even trainable. He's never going to give you what you need. Rent some chick flicks; invite girl friends; eat ice cream; get some pics up on your profile. And MOVE ON.

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Profile photos! Posted: 11/5/2009 11:41:22 AM
Is it just me, but when I see a profile with only one pic and that pic has two people in it, it's just a no-no. You have no idea who you're getting. I love a bit of mystery, but that's pushing it.

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