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Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Dress code? Posted: 11/15/2009 10:07:08 AM
Do you think you look really attractive in this outfit? When I am with a man I am attracted to, I want to look my best so he will find me attractive.....so I dress accordingly. I have been know to slip into sweats after having spent the whole day together, and we are laying around watching some tv. But to show up at his place dressed like that? No way.

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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My mama (and daddy) would be so ashamed! Posted: 11/15/2009 9:56:35 AM
Wow! I would be so pissed if I were you!! What a scum bag! You did nothing wrong......he lied! You have every right to be outraged! I also don't think waiting till the 5th date is rushing it, if you are getting along. My god, you go on 5 dates, you are obviously attracted to each other, so why not?! Thankfully most men are not like this. I guess, in the future, you will have to explain to your date, why you would like to have him bring his ID so you can see it!

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Your two cents worth...... Posted: 11/10/2009 10:23:39 AM
This thread has really turned into something I wasn't expecting. It has become very diverse......the harshness, the insightfullness, the compassion............thanks everyone! Please continue.......its been a great read!

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Your two cents worth...... Posted: 11/8/2009 5:14:03 PM
The lack of compassion on these forums never ceases to appall me.......

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Your two cents worth...... Posted: 11/8/2009 5:44:33 AM
Thanks everyone for your insight! To "The Reason": (If it's a penny for your thoughts, why do you have to put in two cents???) Consider this a "high end" question! Its worth the extra.........did you want change??

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Your two cents worth...... Posted: 11/7/2009 1:43:45 PM
I found this quote interesting and was wondering about others opinions. Lets Not consider beatings, drug abuse, or extreme mental illness as the "worst". "If you can't take me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best." Its attributed to Marilyn Monroe. Of course, her best was pretty damn hot!

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Dating In The Dark Posted: 11/3/2009 5:11:12 PM
I enjoyed watching this show many times. But lets face it, if you were put in this position, would you envision someone who wasn't attractive? I think that is why so often we are disappointed. Thats why I don't accept profiles without pictures. It makes me feel so shallow when their picture would be revealed and there was no attraction. I have tried to be open to all, but have found that I shouldn't let it start if there isn't some attraction. Its easier to stop it sooner rather than later.....and only fair.

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Not to feed your ego... Posted: 10/19/2009 4:51:45 PM
We are all special.....to someone. Its just a matter of finding that someone!! My "someone" needs to be trying harder to find me, because I am getting tired of this dating merry-go-round!!

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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belly button kissing and licking Posted: 9/26/2009 3:10:54 PM
On a first or second date???????????? Are you f**king kidding me?!! I have never had any man want to do that, even on relationships that went on for several months. But if it was okay with both people involved, then it should be okay......just not that early. Make sure all the lint is out!! LOL

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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How (not?) to end a relationship Posted: 9/24/2009 10:09:29 AM
It is really beyond me how some people can be so callous. You did deserve better. She obviously didn't want to start talking to you about her change of heart when she first started feeling this way. She just let it build and then felt justified to make a quick exit. Hope you can keep an open heart and find someone who is truly right for you.

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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How important .... Posted: 9/16/2009 3:31:18 PM
I want the action, not the words. As they say...."words are cheap"......and they are easy. I want his look, his touch, his love shown to me. I never want to hear it too soon.....eventually would be nice, but the actions are what will win and keep my heart!

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Don't know what is going on..... Posted: 9/12/2009 7:13:33 AM
Did he know that his mother had cancer when he first contacted you? If so, then his texting and etc would continue unless she took a turn for the worst. I am sure he is truly worried about his mother, but he also maybe using it as an excuse not to stay in touch that much. It wouldn't be surprising.....it seems the way of the internet with some people. Do as some have suggested.....show interest in his mother's condition...if that doesn't change the situation....then sorry, he's just not that into you any longer.....time to move on.

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Trying to make the shoe fit as we age Posted: 9/10/2009 9:28:43 AM
I guess thats why its taking me so long to find someone. I am not inclined to try to change someone.......trying to find a good "fit" takes time and effort. As for the "social drinking".....thats what I have noted on my profile, yet I have a glass of wine with dinner, several times a week. But if I put that I >3 per week.....I sound like a lush!

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Is anyone on here serious?? Posted: 9/9/2009 4:19:15 PM
I am definitely serious! I want to get off this site. I am sick of dating, but lately it seems to be getting more difficult for some reason. I am really put off when men don't even take the time to read my profile. Is is just me, or are others finding that people are just looking but not contacting like they used to??

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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first meeting etiquette Posted: 9/8/2009 8:34:27 PM
Don't you just hate it when this happens?! Its only common courtesy to confirm a date, but some people just don't have a clue. I am surprised that the two of you have not communicated during this time period. I would think if he was truly interested, there would have been a desire to be in touch. I would write him ASAP ( do you actually know when he gets online?), telling him unless you hear from him confirming, you will not be there. It might teach him some manners, or at least spare you from being stood up.

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Woodstock! Posted: 9/6/2009 1:10:00 PM
That week I was off camping with a bunch of my girlfriends...... had our own fun! Geeez, that was a good time!! As soon as we returned, my friends and I went to a mini Woodstock, that was being held in East Lansing (home of Michigan State Univ.)....it was the best we could do without being in the large scale madness. If there was a "peace sign" icon......it would be here.......

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Uh Oh, Religion Posted: 9/2/2009 8:21:18 AM
Google Christian dating sites. I wish more religious people would go there. It would make it a lot easier on everyone.

Sexy Vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Is it really that odd to not have a pet? Posted: 9/1/2009 6:47:20 AM
I am surprised that you would be judged by whether you have a pet or not. I have had several pets in the past, but presently am without one.....and don't intend to get another. Personally, I prefer to date a man without pets. That way you can make plans, be gone for as long as you want, or spur of the moment get aways....without the worry of what to do with the pet. You also don't have to worry about her pets and your pets getting along, if the relationship works out. When I have had pets, or the man I am seeing has them......I care very deepy for them and am concerned about their welfare. At this point in time, I just don't want to do that. I just want to focus on the relationship between him and me. If we were to end up getting married.....then perhaps we can pick out a pet together.

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Do women think about sex as much as men? Posted: 8/29/2009 6:20:41 PM
I don't just think about sex......I think about Great sex! I hate to be bored, so yes being creative and romantic is important. I won't discuss details......thats between my man and me. But I will elude to the fact that he is a wonderful, romantic, etc, etc lover. Well, thats in the past tense......I don't have anyone at the moment.

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Is it just me, or are testimonials a turn off ? Posted: 8/28/2009 7:54:00 PM
I read one man's profile who seemed to come across rather "rough around the edges". Not my type, but he had 2 testimonials from women who were saying how sweet he was, thoughtful, etc. So I thought I would give him a shot. Well, he came across even worse than his profile! He was crude, crass, inappropriate, was looking for sex and not a relationship......just an over all jerk! Without these testimonials, I would not have let this occur. I have given one testimonial,and the same man has given one to me. If people can be truthful, and not overly gushy, I think they are nice to have. More than two would make me wonder. There is also one woman(lots of big, blonde hair) on here that seems to make it her mission to do testimonials. She pops up on several men's profiles. (This might have been mentioned already....didn't read all of the posts.) A friend of mine has her as a testimonial.....he has no clue who she is! He thinks she makes his profile look good!

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Probably a man? Posted: 8/28/2009 12:51:55 PM
This is what is called gaining EXPERIENCE. Welcome to the "Red Flag" Academy! Where lessons are seldom fun, but stay with you, to help you avoid another such occurrence. Its hell gaining wisdom sometimes, isn't it?! Really can wrack havoc, not only on your brain.....but on your heart too. "Live and Learn".....now move on. It will get better!

sexy vixen 4u

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Introverted vs Extroverted women Posted: 8/26/2009 3:18:09 PM
I like men who are "innies" and "outties"! A nice balance....nothing over the top or overly quiet. Thats basically what I am. I have my moments that I am very outgoing and talkative.....and others when I am more shy and quiet. Makes it more interesitng, I think......a nice mixture!

sexy vixen 4u

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Deal-Breakers! How soon is too soon? Posted: 8/22/2009 3:42:58 PM
If you could hint at this in emails before the first date, you might get an idea of how she thinks....whether she would be receptive (pun intended) or not. If you do that, you will have saved each other alot of time. I have also had this asked of me on the first date. Luckily, we only met for drinks. As soon as I let him know I was not interested in any "back door love"......the date was over. I suppose he didn't appreciate the fact that I suggested that he should try taking it up the arse, and see how well he would like it. When I made the same suggestion to yet another, who also indicated he wanted the same, he very much wanted to experience it and would buy me the strap on! That kinda backfired (ha!) on me. Luckily, I have only been meeting men lately who only want to use the "in" and not the "out" orifice! Its tricky trying to find someone who you are compatable with on so many levels. Its not being "closed minded", not wanting to try this......everyone has their reasons. All you need to do is accept it....and move on.

sexy vixen 4u

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Flowers? Posted: 8/21/2009 7:31:55 AM
It doesn't have to be a bouquet. Just a single rose is so elegant! Its just an extra, thoughtful touch, that personally I think is charming! Who doesn't like alittle romance?!

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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POF really does work. Posted: 8/20/2009 5:51:09 PM
POF Does work!! It has worked for me many, many times! Thats why I am still here. I will keep fishing until I find one that is a keeper for the long term! Enjoy it, and be happy!

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Flowers? Posted: 8/20/2009 5:41:30 PM
Yes to flowers! Anytime, any date! It shows thoughtfulness. I have them to look at after my date has left.....and he stays on my mind.....even longer.

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Prayer as a way of finding a date? Posted: 8/20/2009 5:29:23 PM
Sure, works as well as wishing on a star and keeping your fingers crossed. I totally agree with Forumrum's post!

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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How long before you'd consider going away with someone on vacation Posted: 8/20/2009 5:25:19 PM
I try not to adhere to time frames. Go with the flow! With some men it might be several months before I would go away with them. Other men, it might be a matter of several weeks. It depends on our connection, trust, compatability, and being exclusive. If I agreed to go overnight.....we would be in the same bed! I wouldn't go away with someone I hadn't slept with. THAT would half the fun! and of course Romance! Being with someone you are crazy about makes Everything better!

sexy vixen 4u

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Would you write a bad testimonial for someone that played you? Posted: 8/19/2009 8:56:07 PM
Well, don't think it hasn't crossed my mind to do that! But no, never have, never will. He has to keep you as a favorite and you him....before you can do a testimonial. One of the first things I do is delete them off my favorites list, and delete me off his! I figure they just aren't worth my time at that point.

sexy vixen 4u

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Sincerity at the Beginning Posted: 8/18/2009 6:05:15 AM
This is how you gain experience....you take the good with the bad and learn from it. Sure you are going to get burned a few times, we all do, but you learn and know better next time what to look for. Just be wary of too many real personal questions about your life. She should not be trying to find out how much money you make, about your investments, or life insurance policies! If a woman asks you questions that make you uncomfortable, ask her why she wants to know? Just don't be too defensive. Try to be open and honest within your comfort zone. If you are too closed, you will lose out on some great opportunities. Get out there, Tiger!

sexy vixen 4u

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When do you tell your last name here? Posted: 8/18/2009 5:41:08 AM
I feel that if I trust him enough to go out with him, I trust him with my last name. I always know his name before meeting.....and if he asks, I tell him mine also. I always talk on the phone before agreeing to go on a date. You tell much more from a voice....and thats when I ask for his name and will only give mine over the phone. Several men have even given me there home phone, cell, work phone, place of work, email (home and work), before we have gone out, without me asking. I also make sure friends and family know who I am going out with and where he lives. As for having your phone listed(land line)......I don't use my first name. I use my middle initial and last name, with no address. So even if they do a search, it won't come up with my name. And you don't have to pay for an unlisted number!

sexy vixen 4u

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What is the love chemistry? Posted: 8/17/2009 12:04:33 PM
Don't have a clue. All I know is that my battery is low and in need of a recharge!!! And I don't mean a "jump start"! Need something somewhat more substantial than that!

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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How much of it is actually about the Profile? Posted: 8/16/2009 9:11:26 PM
Really......I have tried. I have read the profiles without pictures. I don't even require a picture to contact me. When they have contacted me, I have given them serious consideration. But at some point before more than an email or two, I have to have a picture......9 times out of 10......once I see the pic.....its ......Oh nooooooooo. Seriously, do they ever look like what you THINK they are going to look like? I have found it works best for me, if I don't get my hopes up. There just HAS to be something there, physically, to interest me. Whether its the twinkle in his eyes, a crooked grin, a strong jaw line, an interesting nose........something that makes me go......Hmmmmmm.

sexy vixen 4u

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Why doesnt he wanna meet me? Posted: 8/16/2009 6:43:10 PM
^^^^^^^ I don't think you are getting what this is about.

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Why doesnt he wanna meet me? Posted: 8/16/2009 5:23:08 PM
For whatever the reasons (excuses), he is not truly sincere. If he was, he would be eager to meet. I have learned this lesson first hand. Its baffling at first to wonder as to why.....but after awhile, it doesn't matter. Something isn't ringing true, and you KNOW it......THAT is troubling......RED FLAG! As charming and sincere as he "talks", its a game to him.....and you are being Played. Time to face facts......and move on......Now.

sexy vixen 4u

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tell tale signs in profiles Posted: 8/16/2009 5:13:33 PM
Men who pose shirtless. Its one thing if its natural.....you are at the beach, pool, out fishing, etc. But to be in you home, in front of the camera......all I can think is PUT YOUR SHIRT ON!! I won't contact someone who does that....it creeps me out that you are showing yourself like that. I know.....you can go topless and not get arrested, but save those big, strong, bare arms to show me in private, and not pose to the world!

sexy vixen 4u

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tell tale signs in profiles Posted: 8/15/2009 2:08:38 PM
^^^^^^Shows how much you know, 1(of what)kind (of a)man4u!! Also shows you have No sense of humor. Get over yourself. Anyone who actually READS my profile comes to a different conclusion. And everyone is right,(as you state in your profile)...your profile is waaaay toooo long = full of yourself. ......and you wonder why you don't get any responses??? Duh.

sexy vixen 4u

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Why we do the people we do! Posted: 8/14/2009 4:08:52 PM
I watched the Oprah show today also.....btw, it was a re-run. I saw it the first time too. They are trying to figure out what is the human mystery.....rather than trying to analyze it.....embrace it......and the person who turns you on!! I'm still trying to find him! Com' mer....let me sniff, listen, and rate your kisses! BTW....Brad Pitt had the highest rating, in the scientific findings, of having the most near perfect face amoung all the men tested! Surprise, surprise!

sexy vixen 4u

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Fustrated with online dating Posted: 8/13/2009 8:46:46 PM
Believe me Op.......you're not the only one feeling this way. Your experiences are the same as mine have been......especially lately. Not only that.....the jerks seem to be coming out of the woodwork! Where does it say that I am only looking for sex??? NOWHERE!! I have met more good guys, than bad on here. But it seems to go in waves.......right now, I feel like I am at the bottom.......I am due for a good wave.......anytime now...........any.....time.....now............now would be a good time!

sexy vixen 4u

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The General Lee... on a Date... Posted: 8/13/2009 6:16:38 PM
Classic cars always get my attention!! They just don't make them like that anymore. So heck yeah, I would love to go out on a date in one! Now, if HE is wearing Daisy Dukes.....I'll will have to pass!

sexy vixen 4u

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What emanate from you? Posted: 8/13/2009 6:05:01 PM
I have been told that I "make a statement" when met in person. Wasn't sure what that meant at first, so when yet another person told me that, I asked. Its basically my appearance. People remember me. Tall, redhair, outgoing personality, well rounded.....top and bottom....LOL! Also, my humor/wit......I can hold my own. On POF, I am told its always my hair color that catches the men's eye. When they read my profile, they say its not like the other women's. I am straight forward....."not a shrinking violet", as one man described my profile. Enough have liked it ......

sexy vixen 4u

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To guys and ladies, how do you feel about waiting for a while before sex ual involvement? Posted: 8/13/2009 5:40:03 PM
Waiting is good. That being said.....you shouldn't be giving out what is not being reciprocated! Stop it now. Why would he want to get serious when you are giving him satisfaction now?? He is getting the benefits without having to make any promises or commitment to a relationship. Wise up girl!!

sexy vixen 4u

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thought things were going well... Posted: 8/12/2009 5:38:23 PM
I can sympathize with you Op....its cold, rude, thoughtless, inconsiderate, heartless.....and apparently the way of the internet dating scene.......at least with some men. Its just so easy to think if something isn't quite right....leave. No explaination. No effort to talk it out, or work it out. Just shut out cold, dead silence.....like it never existed. When this now happens to me, I admit I am bewiltered and hurt.....yet I rationalize it by thinking its better I found out now what type of person he was, rather than later.....and move on. However......if given the chance (at least in thought)......would like to pound the living shit out of them .............but I have more class than that.......lol.......so, all I can do is try again and hope I find the right one.

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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tell tale signs in profiles Posted: 8/12/2009 6:04:57 AM
Really great points so far! Then there are the profiles in regard to length. Some men will write the same sentence over, and over again just to fill up the space.....or use some other method of nonsense. That tells me he can't be bothered to take the time to be sincere.....just wants to get "busy". Of course there is the other extreme......his profile fills up my whole screen.....and beyond! He goes on and on......waaaaay toooo full of himself and very specific of all the "must haves" he is looking for in a woman. When I see those profiles.........Next! Whats always challenging is the profile written in one solid paragraph, with no punctuation or capitalization. Did these people actually graduate from high school...let alone have a supposed degree??? And last but not least......the one's that don't even write their own profiles. They either state that someone else is writing it for them(cause they can't type) or you find out when they can't constuct a sentence when they make contact. This is a murky pond that we are all swimming in Certainly keeps things interesting!!

sexy vixen 4u

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tell tale signs in profiles Posted: 8/11/2009 6:41:16 PM
Ha, Davidsauvignon! My profile says if YOU bleed green and white. And you really should! GO GREEN! lol

sexy vixen 4u

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tell tale signs in profiles Posted: 8/11/2009 5:06:56 PM
Can you read between the lines? What catches your attention and sends up a "red flag" when you read a profile? One of my biggest pet peeves is: "First of all, I must tell you that the wrong age appears on my profile.POF won't allow you to change your age on your profile! I am really 60 yrs old." POF allows you 2 weeks to change your birthdate after you have entered it. So this guy is showing (in the first sentence of his profile) that he, supposedly, doesn't know his own birthdate AND he is a liar. (I know.....he's just trying to get into a lower age bracket to help his chances.....again, lying.) What other "tell tale signs/red flags" have you come across in profiles?

sexy vixen 4u

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A little patient couldn't hurt... Posted: 8/2/2009 8:31:41 PM
Why would some women feel the need to leave? Yes, at first it is alittle much, but you come here to try to get attention.....deal with it! As for those cut/paste emails (I hate them!), if a man can't take the time to write me a sincere note.....it gets deleted....next!

sexy vixen 4u

Joined: 11/25/2007

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Are sideburns still in?? Posted: 7/29/2009 10:07:06 AM
I would say "No". At least the professional men I have dated don't have them, or if they do they are very short. I don't find long sideburns attractive. Many times they are a different color than the man's hair.....it looks strange....not stylish at this point in time. Do you think a mullet is in style? Nuf said........

sexy vixen 4u

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Women only seeking Christian men Posted: 7/29/2009 9:59:23 AM
I absolutely agree with you Op, 100%!! You don't have to be a Christian to be moral, kind, truthful, etc, etc. I am all those good things, yet I choose to be a realist. Some of the biggest hypocrites I know are good, church going, Christians.....no thank you!Therefore, in my profile I state if you are a church goer please pass me by!

sexy vixen 4u

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Latest 5 Posts are more important than profile descriptions? Posted: 7/18/2009 9:54:54 PM
Very few men, who have contacted me, do forum posts, but if they do, I read them. Why wouldn't I? They are expressing their opinions and I am interested in their view points. The posts they choose to reply to give additional insight......So says the woman (me) who just posted about whether women appreciate getting pictures of men's co*ks sent to them....LOL!! Really wish posts weren't attached to our profiles sometimes, yet if a man isn't openminded enough or hasn't a sense of humor......then I'm not interested anyway...... I don't feel that I am ever rude or mean in my posts.....its just not my nature. So read on!

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