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budman_ct

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Msg: 21 (view)

at times... Posted: 8/7/2005 5:52:31 PM
You have to take the risk of the bad times to enjoy the good times.

budman_ct

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What is your current cell phone ringer, and why did you pick it ? Posted: 8/6/2005 7:49:07 AM
Dramaqueen, who is so pethetic? and why?

budman_ct

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Thank God for 411 on internet Posted: 8/6/2005 7:42:53 AM
now that her husband knows what she was doing let him deal with her lies, stay away from her. switchboard.com is another site you can search by name or by number.

budman_ct

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What is your current cell phone ringer, and why did you pick it ? Posted: 8/6/2005 7:16:42 AM
mine is a song I dowloaded, Gone by Montgomery Gentry

budman_ct

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if someone say this, whatever!! Posted: 8/5/2005 8:24:15 PM
Mom2, sounds like someone hurt you again, What happened to the guy who was interested in you ? and you said was willing to stick around until you were ready? I remember the other thread.........what happened?

budman_ct

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serious question everyone Posted: 8/5/2005 7:56:25 PM
search for the threads about cheating , read and learn.... then get rid of her.

budman_ct

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StepChild Posted: 8/5/2005 2:13:11 PM
My step father always introduced me by name, and when I became a step-father I introduced my step daughter as Danielle, thats all that needs to be said, unless someone asks for more information.

budman_ct

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Going crazy Posted: 8/3/2005 2:08:07 PM
you want him to change, but would you want him to change you? or except you for who you are? He is who he is, you can't change him, you can either except him or get rid of him and find someone else.

budman_ct

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Parent / child type of relationship Posted: 8/1/2005 3:31:37 PM
They consider their mate the third child. Instead of acting like their mother they should try acting like their wife instead. So very true Ritz.

budman_ct

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road trip Posted: 8/1/2005 3:07:55 PM
I haven't bee on a good road trip in a long time, save me a seat!

budman_ct

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Is This Wrong? Posted: 7/29/2005 8:48:22 PM
you are absolutly right Blastkist

budman_ct

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IF you got someone accidentally pregnant right NOW, what would your choice be? Posted: 7/29/2005 4:52:05 PM
First of all I think people need to remember that women don't get pregnent by themselfs...just a thought... If I accidently got a women I was dating for only a short time pregnent, I would want some say in weather or not the baby is aborted or brought into this world. If being a parent isn't what she wants to be, its my child also I would raise him/her the best I could.

budman_ct

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Is This Wrong? Posted: 7/29/2005 4:35:06 PM
I think carissma is right, most couples need both incomes to live comfortable. My Brother-in-law makes enough where my Sister shouldn't have to work, but she does anyway, it gets her out of the house for a while, and she likes it. After a back injury and surgery I stayed home and took care of the kids for a while, as much as I loved the time with my kids I could not stay home like that forever, I'd go crazy being home all the time.

budman_ct

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does how someone talks about their ex affect if you persue them on here? Posted: 7/29/2005 4:11:26 PM
There have been threads here on POF that ask question about "your ex" and "whats the worst you have ever been screwed over?" and most people have posted about their ex's, But I don't think that everyone who has posted is still hung up on their ex. I personally am glad to be away from mine ( enough said about her) but at the same time I hate being away from my kids.

budman_ct

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Single vs. Divorced Posted: 7/28/2005 7:58:08 PM
Very true, single would be better. Saying divorced only shows that your marriage didn't last....say's nothing about the person you really are.

budman_ct

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Changing divorce laws:Would you be for gender neutral laws? Posted: 7/27/2005 4:04:38 PM
I don't think anyone is a better parent just because they are male or female, and the Mother or the Father should not just automatically get the kids. I also feel that the child support system needs a complete overhaul also. First, child support can be set-up to be some what retro-active, and a parent can be a "dead beat" before they are told they will be paying child support. A parent can also have their pay analized right down to negative numbers when determining how much that parent will have to pay every week. I have a friend who was audited by demestic relations while he was working almost 60 hours a week trying to get caught up on bills from the marriage.Now if he works a 50 hour week he has about $35 to survive on. Tell me where that is right? The costs need to be devided better. But I am not for the couple both loosing everything,or one walking away with nothing and the other getting everything, except in the rare cases were one just walks away on their own free will, then they should loose. In no contest divorces all belongings should be itemized and devided equally, that should make alot of people think harder about weather or not their marrige is worth fixing or not. Obviously that wouldn't apply in the case of a abusive marrige. Some couples when they start out young start with nothing between them, and build a life together along with marital assets that they aquired through out the marrige, should one person get all of it and the other get nothing??.....I don't think so. The whole system of divorce, custody and child support needs to be completely reformed.

budman_ct

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Why do men lie about being interested? Posted: 7/25/2005 9:34:07 PM
well I have never done that but, not everyone is a "player" and maybe some are not sure if there is chemistry or not, and when they find out that there isn't any chemistry there, they don't take the time to say " sorry but...." even though they should.

budman_ct

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Have you lost faith? Posted: 7/25/2005 9:15:46 PM
Faith gets misplaced from time to time, but not lost.

budman_ct

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does how someone talks about their ex affect if you persue them on here? Posted: 7/25/2005 9:07:27 PM
isn't it normal to be upset about a relationship ending badly?? I think alot of people need a new and better love to get passed the old.... But trying to meet up with someone new and talking bitterly about the past is a turn off.

budman_ct

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How many times have you been in love? Posted: 7/25/2005 8:47:40 PM
Twice, a girlfriend in high school, and my ex-wife when we started dating. But not that crazy, all consuming love that others have talked about.....

budman_ct

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what do you look in a relationship? Posted: 7/25/2005 8:14:42 PM
I think everyone just about covered everything, but I have to agree with o0oTessieo0o the most. very well said.

budman_ct

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a thread for those who forgive cheaters Posted: 7/24/2005 7:30:34 PM
No, I will never forgive her, but I am going on with my life. Life doesnt' stop because of a failed relationship. I believe (and always will) if you forgive a cheater while in a relationship orr marrige they will do it again. Forgiving them after is up to you.

budman_ct

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I need advise Posted: 7/24/2005 7:10:11 PM
veryone is right, get rid of him. And meowmix made a great point, your daughter is watching what you are going through, and you don't want her thinking that being treated that way buy anyone( not just men) is ever exceptable. You are still young and very attractive you will find someone else. for your daughter sake...kick him to the curb!!!

budman_ct

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Do you think being happy with one partner for the rest of your life is possible? Posted: 7/22/2005 4:50:13 PM
yes, its absolutly possible for a couple to stay happy both emotionally and sexually. They have to keep working at it, they have to want it, they have to keep the romance alive, and some good cummunication would help. But what do I know , I am divorced.......lol

budman_ct

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CHEATING (INTERESTING STATS) Posted: 7/22/2005 4:32:26 PM
I say with pride that I have never cheated. That is something I would never do, but know after I have been cheated on I can say that I DEFFINETLY NEVER WOULD. The problem with those stats are that cheating and lying goes hand and hand. If someone is dishonest enough to cheat are they really going to admit it?...probably not.

budman_ct

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worst way in which you have been screwed over by a significant other Posted: 7/22/2005 4:20:30 PM
I agree it is good to get it off your chest, keeping it all inside will drive you crazy. and somebody asked...lol

budman_ct

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worst way in which you have been screwed over by a significant other Posted: 7/21/2005 7:14:30 PM
ya your right , they will, the problem is I won't be there to watch them grow up.

budman_ct

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worst way in which you have been screwed over by a significant other Posted: 7/21/2005 6:59:49 PM
My Ex and I were together for 12 years, married for 9. She cheated on me with 4 different guys (that I know of) the last 3 years we were together, not only did her family not get mad at her for her actions, but her Aunt introduced her to her current boyfriend (#4) Her Mother would watch my children while I was at work so she could go out with him. Her family also Lied for her in court to get a restraining order to keep me away from her. and of course SHE got the kids, and I got what I could fit in my car..... The judge that precided over all of this is also a friend of my ex mother in law.... The only phone in my ex's house is her cell,and if I call to talk to my kids she shuts her phone off.

budman_ct

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Are you capable of love? Posted: 7/20/2005 4:38:40 PM
Georgie, Sorry to hear about your Pup, You should do what I do in a situation like that. Go directly to the pound and get a new one! I lost a St.Bernard a couple of years ago and went right to the pound and got one they where about to put down, I took her off of death row....lol She's been great, and unlike my ex is willing to love unconditionally. As for love I can and will love again. I refuse to think I will be alone for the rest of my life.

budman_ct

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Do you sleep better alone, or with a special man/woman? Posted: 7/20/2005 4:16:35 PM
sleeping alone sucks......

budman_ct

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Why does it actually hurt when someone cheats? Posted: 7/20/2005 2:21:53 PM
Personally I think they do cheat with intentions of hurting, hurting the one that loves them the most, It is does kill a relationship instantly, It feels more like a knife to the heart then I slap in the face, it's mind blowing reality check to find out that your life is a lie, and to find out the one person who you respect the most has absolutly no respect for you, it's unbelievably insulting when you realize the the person you love had to make a decision... to cheat or not to cheat, and they chose to cheat. From what I have read many others on this site have also went through the same emotional chaos that I have, you feel betrayed , then heart break because the one you love could treat you that way, You ask yourself what you did wrong?, what could you have done better?, how could I have made things better so they would not have been unfaithful? The problem with asking yourself those questions is you are looking to blame yourself.Your not the one who destroyed the relationship, your not the one who cheated. And I don't agree with Time_gypsy on this, This is not pain we inflict on ourselfs, this is pain inflicted on us by someone else. Heart break is a human emotion, and we are only human. As for JUST GET OVER IT AND GO ON WITH LIFE, that takes time. Theres a women I chat with sometimes (on msn) who told me it takes at least a year to GET OVER IT, and she's right. But thats my opinion......

budman_ct

Joined: 5/30/2005

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Who walked from your marriage(s) Posted: 7/18/2005 5:37:30 PM
My ex didn't like it when I caught her with her boyfriend....figure that one out???? She cheated, she filed, she got everything including the kids. But I did p$ss her off REAL good, when I moved out I rented a house from her father right next door to her, she wasn't happy at all...lol After I had enough in redneck country I moved back to CT.

budman_ct

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Being Excluded Posted: 7/17/2005 10:25:28 AM
Good plan!

budman_ct

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Being Excluded Posted: 7/17/2005 9:53:09 AM
I'm not sure what is worse, being excluded or going along as a "third wheel" as they say. its a strange feeling, especially when they start talking about things they do as couples.....I know how you feel.

budman_ct

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Never Cheated and Never Will? Claim it &Tell Us Why..? Posted: 7/17/2005 7:20:19 AM
I have never cheated and I will never cheat. I can say I never will because I know the pain that cheating causes, and I will never inflict that kind of pain on someone else. I would loose all self respect if I ever cheated. No joaquin, thats not crazy.

budman_ct

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What would you do? Posted: 7/16/2005 9:29:11 PM
If you email her how do you know it is her that is reading it and not him?

budman_ct

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What would you do? Posted: 7/16/2005 8:35:28 PM
if the guy gets violent stay out of it. I just had another thought, you don't really know if its her or him sending the emails...right? stay far from that guy.

budman_ct

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What's the big deal? Posted: 7/16/2005 8:29:49 PM
Try telling them you don't care what color their skin is, but you really can't stand men who are ignorant enough to ask stupid questions like "do you like white guys?"

budman_ct

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What would you do? Posted: 7/16/2005 8:22:44 PM
I have a question for you, What would you want her to do if the situation was reversed? would you want her to tell you the truth? and tell you what was really going on? I say he's scum and needs to be exposed, as long as you can keep yourself out of harms way in the process.

budman_ct

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Is it ever a good thing when friends become more than friends? Posted: 7/16/2005 8:13:14 PM
If you look around at some peoples profile you will find alot that are looking to find some one who can be their best friend and lover. If you find yourself sexually attracted to a close friend, you might have found what so many are looking for. the problem is if things don't work out it is very difficult to go back to being just friends again. I am sure some will say they are very close friends with their ex's, but I think most couples don't seem to be able to do that. Another question is does that friend feel the same way about you?, and if they don't is it going to cause a problem between the two of you if you tell them how you feel?

budman_ct

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Need some help from the women of pof Posted: 7/16/2005 9:26:26 AM
I know you asked for help from the women here but, What makes you think he is dating a women from POF??? Another thing I don't understand is the guy he was supposed to start working for gets his morning coffee at a hardee's restaraunt? are they open at that time of day? either way it sounds like he is gone, he left you, sorry but it might be time to move on.

budman_ct

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Getting to know Someone In The Forums-How So? Posted: 7/14/2005 8:08:36 PM
I agree, it is a good way to learn more about someone you think you might be interested in. It looks like alot of people tend to frequent certain areas of the forum, seeing where they post and what they have to say can tell you alot about that person.

budman_ct

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politics in the bedroom Posted: 7/14/2005 5:11:10 PM
Why would any couple let politics ruin a relationship??? If a couple cant find better things to talk about in bed they have issues...

budman_ct

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Top ten seemingly unbreakbale records Posted: 7/12/2005 8:15:09 PM
motocross and supercross are types of dirt bike racing (motorcycle) I find it hard to believe you have never heard of it, but if you haven't you should try watching it.

budman_ct

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Need some ideas for my latest plan..... Posted: 7/12/2005 8:11:16 PM
You said she won't be back for a while so you could, send her flowers to where she is at for now, Find a nice resteraunt in that area and arrange for her to have a nice dinner at your expence while she is there, maybe find a concert or show in that area for her to attend...... and Call her... let her know you are thinking about her.Let her know a relationship with you is a option for her.

budman_ct

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the friendship talk Posted: 7/12/2005 3:32:29 PM
because its fun to poke them, they make funny sounds. ROFLMAO!!!!

budman_ct

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Need some ideas for my latest plan..... Posted: 7/12/2005 3:27:11 PM
why don't you just be yourself, tell her you are interested, and see what she has to say? if she is interested in you she won't have any reason to go back to the ex. if she's not , move on.

budman_ct

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Soulmates? Posted: 7/12/2005 3:16:29 PM
I think we are better to find someone we are compatible with and grow with. After many years of being together and growing through all of lifes ups and downs it might be possible for two people to feel that their partner is their soul mate. My Grandparents where married young and stayed together until they my grandmother passed away (from cancer) at 63. My grandfather lasted only one month longer, his heart stopped while he was sleeping. many family members say "they where soul mates and he just couldn't live with out her" But I don't think they knew they where soul mates when they met, I think it came to be over all the years they spent together.

budman_ct

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Guys i need your help.... let us girls in on your huy stuff Posted: 7/12/2005 2:43:34 PM
after having sex on the first date I wouldn't be looking for a long term relationship. Not having sex on the first date even though she came over would mean she is interested, and not calling her would be a mistake.

budman_ct

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Which do you prefer?? Posted: 7/12/2005 2:36:04 PM
petite, cute and a good personality sounds good,,, I take one to go!

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